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Breaking Up with Your Doctor: The Right Time and How to Do It · HAVE FAITH LET IT BEGIN®

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  So I'm sitting here at home recording with Dr.
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  Enelli and I sort of not sure where to go with this. So I'm just going to say it.
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  When is, when is it the right time to say to your doctor, Hey,
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  we've been together a very long time, but I think it's time that we part ways.
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  You've been with me since I was 18 years old.
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  And quite honestly, I think it's time that we just move in a different direction.
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  That is a very difficult conversation to have. And you know what?
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  I can't think of anybody else I wanna share this podcast and this topic with
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  than our very own Dr. Ionelli. Have faith, let it begin.
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  Talking to your doctor, letting them know how you feel starts right now.
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  It's Monday and you know what that means. Welcome to Have Faith. Let it begin.
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  Podcast of inspiration. It's a podcast of hope. It's a podcast of faith.
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  And it's a podcast of friendship.
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  Here is your host, Angel Santana, and special co-host, Dr. E.
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  We're a three-part time. That's it, man. Let's rock and roll. In three, two, one.
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  Have Faith, Let It Begin is on the air. We're with Dr. E. Dr.
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  E, let's get right into it. But first and foremost, how are you feeling?
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  Because we did put a prayer out.
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  We understand that you had a little fall and you reset your,
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  I don't even know how to say you reset your nose, dude, dude.
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  You're like, Hey, you know, Angel, I had a big fall in the house and I have
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  good news for you. My face broke my fall.
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  So the good news is that I'm fine.
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  I did break my nose and I did set it myself.
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  And my nose, as you can see, is straight as an arrow.
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  Maybe with a little bump on it but i think it looks
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  better you know i look tougher that's for
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  sure and and i thank you for
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  for your prayers and what an interesting subject
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  tonight so basically you're asking me to discuss how
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  to break up with your doctor yeah and i and the reason why i'm saying this is
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  because to be very honest i had to do this and yeah well i gotta tell you so
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  the so here's the secret everybody go into the doctor's office tell them that
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  you're breaking up with them and tell them it's you. It's not them. That's.
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  No, but I mean, you know, I'm just kidding aside. So let me ask you,
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  so let's talk about this. This is a very, very fascinating subject.
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  I agree. So if I might ask you a few questions before I can make my comments.
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  So you've been with this doctor since you were 18. Yep.
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  And is there now in your primary care doctor? Is that correct? Correct.
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  Okay. So let's talk about that for a second. So what was the reason that made
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  you think that maybe it was time for you to move on?
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  Well to be very honest because i don't you know i don't
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  sugarcoat here anything i and i'm not going to beat i'm not
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  going to dance around the the answer number one
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  age was a factor right and i don't want i'm not
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  discriminating the fact that he's older what i'm getting at is you know i'm
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  not getting any younger either and i felt that it was a good time to make the
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  change one because he's not getting any younger i'm not getting any older and
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  it's time to get a little younger but what the icing on the cake was,
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  I felt that there was an opportunity to find somebody that was more.
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  Innovative, more willing to, to, to try something new.
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  And, and, and just to be honest, you know, it was some of the medications that I was on that, and,
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  and to put it in the doctor's words is some doctors get complacent and they
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  write the same scripts and I didn't know it, but now with the change of medication
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  and a change of a primary care doctor,
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  I'm on a medication that should have been something, in my opinion,
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  I should have been on maybe five years ago, and I feel even better, even stronger.
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  I love it. So, okay, so let's break this down into categories.
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  You know, the way my mind works.
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  So the toughest relationship that you're going to have to bust out from is with
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  your primary care doctor, especially if you've been with them a long time.
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  So here's the conversation.
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  Angel, you said that beautifully. Number one is that you thought that you wanted
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  to fit with someone who is younger and perhaps more innovative and someone maybe
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  more up to date on some of the new medical techniques or some of the new modalities
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  and some of the new prescriptives.
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  And that's cool. When you're with a primary care physician in the old days.
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  That's a tough conversation because those old timers, the Charlie Strobers out there and the Dr.
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  Ues and the doctors that I love, the primary care doctors that have been gracing
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  the Middletown area forever,
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  they care so much about their patients that I have seen Charlie Strober get
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  in fistfights with people over his patients. And I'm not sure if I'm not
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  Going up to that guy and saying, I'm leaving you, Charlie, because,
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  you know, you're just not my guy anymore.
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  That's a tough conversation because of the fact that he gave his soul to every one of his patients.
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  I've gotten calls from him in the middle of the night yelling at me for something
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  he might have perceived as the wrong care for his patient, for his advocacy
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  or whatever. So that's a tough conversation.
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  But let's exclude that because the truth of the matter is those guys are dinosaurs.
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  They don't exist anymore.
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  The new primary care physician is very stressed and very overworked and has too many patients.
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  And I doubt they would even miss you at all.
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  Even though I always tell you guys on this podcast, do the right thing,
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  have the conversation, be honest, be ethical, and explain to them,
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  honestly, that you're leaving not because of them.
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  They didn't do anything wrong, but you wanted, you know, basically a new,
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  new, a new view, you know, for a different view, a different perspective.
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  And you could even not even say you're leaving them. You could just say, Hey, listen, Dr.
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  Smith, you know, we've been together since I've been 18 years old.
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  You know, I don't feel that great. I'm getting into, I'm pushing,
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  not only pushing middle age, I pushed middle age and now I'm 47 this week.
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  And it's time for me to really get serious about my health.
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  I have two young kids. I want to see them have kids.
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  I want to get a couple of views. I'm going to get some second opinions.
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  If the doctor is worth their salt, they're going to support you.
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  And they're going to say, I think that's a great idea.
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  I have a couple of ideas. If you want me to give you some names,
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  otherwise I support you.
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  Let me know what you want to do. And we'll exchange the records if you wish
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  to, you know, transfer your care.
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  That's the conversation to have. Now, that's the tough one.
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  Now, let's get to the easy ones. The easy ones are your peripheral providers.
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  So your cardiologist, your GIs, your endocrinologist, you know,
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  your rheumatologist, your orthopedic surgeon.
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  Your plastic surgeon, Angel has his own plastic surgeon, only kidding,
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  you know, so these are, these are the easy ones.
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  So these are your tertiary care or specialty physicians.
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  You know, that's just not even a conversation. You just find who you want to
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  go to and just get a record release and move over. So it's really the primary care physician.
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  That's the biggest. But again, please be honest. Please be straightforward.
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  Ask for another opinion. Test the waters.
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  You know, judge their temperament. See if they're taking it personally.
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  See if they're supportive.
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  If they're as good as if you've trusted them since you've been 18 years old,
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  which is 30 years, almost 30 years.
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  Guess what? They should really care about you and they should want the best for you.
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  Angel, how was my advice? I think it's good. And I think also to add to that,
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  and I want to point out, if you're new to this podcast, we've had a lot of new viewers recently, Dr.
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  Ianelli and I both have a second job in addition to our professions, and that's Dr.
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  E's platform. It's called Citizens Reunited to Overcome Cancer.
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  It's called The Crock Podcast.
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  And I'm going to allude to a episode that you did, Know Your Doctor.
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  And I think this is a great segue. I'm going to put the link in the description
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  for those that are listening to today's episode that would really like to get
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  more in depth. You really touch big on that episode.
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  I think it's also being comfortable.
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  You have to feel comfortable with your doctor.
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  And if you start to feel just a little uncomfortable, that could also be an
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  idea that maybe it's time to move on. Wouldn't you agree?
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  100% angel. Why don't you lead us in prayer?
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  Let's do that. So, you know, on behalf of every physician that has lost a patient
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  and all the physicians that gained new ones, we are honoring you and you will
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  always be our hero. You will always be an inspiration.
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  And we know that at one point in our lives, you have done everything to your
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  best of your ability to keep us at good health.
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  Heavenly Father, on this Lent, 40 days and 40 nights,
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  we are asking you to praise the Holy Spirit on every doctor to put your healing
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  hands upon them and to thank them,
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  even if it's a whisper in the ear or maybe a little breeze to the ear,
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  letting them know we've got your back.
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  We leave you all on one major prayer.
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  Clinton, he's another co-host here on the Kroc Podcast. I just got an update today.
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  He's doing better. He had the second heart transplant, as you all know,
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  and it looks like everything is still on the up and up.
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  It's a young, it's a younger heart and he's got a younger attitude now.
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  So Clinton behave yourself.
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  And the two prayers that came in rose fourth, what do you call it? Stage four cancer.
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  We are praying that God takes her home. And that was something that they wanted
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  us to pray for literally that way.
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  And finally, we pray for Rob who's struggling.
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  Struggling with making decisions and choices we pray for you as well each and
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  every one of you know this god loves you god believes in you god trusts you
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  god wants to be part of your life he created you in his image so he didn't make
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  that mistake he made you for a purpose,
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  on behalf of dr e and myself and back of the on behalf of the croc podcast and half faith let it begin.
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  We thank you. We adore you and never forget.
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  Have faith, let it begin, baby. Thank you for listening to Have Faith,
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  That's right, Ariel. We're done with another show. And it's always great to
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  have this show with you, my love.
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  do you think that you can do that for me huh yeah
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  right? Isn't that right, Ariel?
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  Yeah. And we...
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  Music.