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#301 Three Minute Therapy #4 - Chill Out · Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

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  Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families podcast.
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  Speaker 2: It's the podcast for the time poor parent who just
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  Speaker 2: wants answers.
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  Speaker 1: Now it's the school Holidays Doctor Justin Coilson here with Kylie,
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  Speaker 1: my wife, mum to our six kids and podcast podcast
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  Speaker 1: host co host Extraordinary. I'll get it out eventually. Hey, honey,
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  Speaker 1: I had an insights as I was thinking about what
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  Speaker 1: we could put it into our podcast feed for today. I'll,
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  Speaker 1: by the way, for those of you who are new
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  Speaker 1: to the podcast, normally we talk for somewhere around ten
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  Speaker 1: or fifteen minutes about making families happier during the school holidays.
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  Speaker 1: We're spending time with our family, trying to get some
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  Speaker 1: quality time in and so we're keeping this short and
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  Speaker 1: sweet and hoping that it helps to make your family
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  Speaker 1: thrive and be happier during the holidays as well. And
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  Speaker 1: I had this idea. I think that it's useful to
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  Speaker 1: remind everybody to just lighten up in the parenting game
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  Speaker 1: every now and again. Do you know what I mean, Like,
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  Speaker 1: just be totally chill. If the kids say, hey, can
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  Speaker 1: I do this, be like sure, Just just say yes. More,
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  Speaker 1: be more relaxed about things, don't worry about it. Like
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  Speaker 1: the other day, one of the kids asked for a
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  Speaker 1: limp ball. I've got a stash of limp balls. I
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  Speaker 1: have them for work purposes.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, I don't think this particular box has been used
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  Speaker 2: for work at all.
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  Speaker 1: Don't tell the tax man. I might have claimed that
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  Speaker 1: box of lint chocolates as a grocery item for work
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  Speaker 1: for my presentations, but it didn't quite make it to
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  Speaker 1: the presentation. That was only one box. I swear it
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  Speaker 1: was only the one box of lint chocolates. But we
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  Speaker 1: had some limp balls and one of the kids said, Hey,
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  Speaker 1: can I have a chocolate please, Dad, and so badly
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  Speaker 1: I want to say no, they're mine, and then I thought,
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  Speaker 1: oh gosh, just lighten up, so I said, sure, go
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  Speaker 1: for your life. Have two? Oh did you now? And
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  Speaker 1: Annie she had breakfast? Yeah, yeah, yeah, it was like
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  Speaker 1: mid morning. But Annie looked at me and she was
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  Speaker 1: like really, I'm like, yeah, go for your life. And
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  Speaker 1: she was just like it made her day just to
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  Speaker 1: lighten up and say sure thing, kiddo, enjoy.
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  Speaker 2: A couple of months ago, we watched a movie called Yesterday,
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  Speaker 2: Yes Day, and the kids just loved it. The kids
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  Speaker 2: in the movie made up a rule that had to
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  Speaker 2: say yes to whatever they did. And what was really
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  Speaker 2: cool about the movie, it was actually a very fun movie,
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  Speaker 2: was that the kids weren't you know, they weren't going
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  Speaker 2: We're going on this massive expensive holiday, or you know,
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  Speaker 2: we've got to spend all of this money. It all
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  Speaker 2: came down to just spending time with mom and dad
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  Speaker 2: and having a ball, and they did some pretty crazy things.
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  Speaker 2: Obviously it's Hollywood, but it was just it was so
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  Speaker 2: much fun watching the kids kind of just be able
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  Speaker 2: to do things that they wouldn't normally do, and the
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  Speaker 2: parents loved it.
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  Speaker 1: They actually loved it. I kind of feel like this
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  Speaker 1: is a great message for the school holidays. So our
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  Speaker 1: challenge for you today is watch Yesterday. It was lots
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  Speaker 1: of fun. Okay, what's the movie? Yes, but maybe practice
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  Speaker 1: saying yes, lighten up, be a little bit more chill
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  Speaker 1: with the kids and see what happens.
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  Speaker 2: I think we're having dessert for dinner tonight.
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  Speaker 1: Dessert for dinner? Can we have dinner for dessert? I
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  Speaker 1: feel like I need something sustaining. We'll talk about that. Yes, yes, okay, yes,
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  Speaker 1: that's fine, and then I'll go and have some dinner
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  Speaker 1: as well. The Happy Families podcast is produced by Justin
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  Speaker 1: Rowland from Bridge Media, with Craig Bruce acting as our
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  Speaker 1: executive producer. If you'd like more info about making your
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  Speaker 1: family so much happier, not that it's not happy already,
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  Speaker 1: but even happier than it is now, you can get
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  Speaker 1: all the info you need at happy families dot com
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  Speaker 1: dot a