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- 0:00Hello and welcome to the Christian Reef podcast.
- 0:03This is the two-year anniversary of the show.
- 0:10Wow. That feels good to say that.
- 0:14Yeah I mean it's a two-year anniversary episode it's just
- 0:17me. So if you were here for a guest
- 0:20sorry to disappoint but yeah. No I just you know it's been a
- 0:24while since I did one of these episodes and I like to try, I
- 0:31guess to keep them for special occasions or if I've got a
- 0:34really clear kind of Topic in mind, if I say this, same Spiel
- 0:39every time. Discussion episode.
- 0:42Hopefully, one day I'll do more, you know, that, that would be
- 0:46excellent. But for now, let's just live in
- 0:50this moment. This is the two-year anniversary
- 0:54of the show. I'm recording this early ahead
- 0:57of time. It's not actually the day of at
- 1:00least, it isn't for me, it will be for you, but it won't be for
- 1:04me, and sorry. Sorry to break the illusion
- 1:09there. Sometimes you have to record
- 1:10these things ahead of time. I did actually want to do it on
- 1:13the day, but I actually find myself way too busy right now,
- 1:19to be able to commit to that. And that's kind of a good thing
- 1:24and kind of what I wanted to lead with at least in this
- 1:27episode just to start things off.
- 1:32Two years of doing the show. What's changed, what?
- 1:35What they learn? How are things, developing?
- 1:38Where are we at right now? Well, I can tell you.
- 1:41Now, there has been an influx of guests in.
- 1:45I would say the last year, but especially the last six months.
- 1:51And from what I've understood, a lot of that is down to the fact
- 1:55that people are beginning to see my show at least from a
- 1:59professional standpoint and I think they're kind of looking at
- 2:03that. Like okay maybe this is a show
- 2:06that I might benefit from going on or I might have a good
- 2:10conversation here or this person might be able to do a good
- 2:15interview for me, you know, whatever the motivations may be
- 2:19and sometimes people share them sometime.
- 2:21They don't, but I've been very lucky in the guests that I've
- 2:26had so far in the opportunities. I've had to just have a range of
- 2:30wonderful people on the show and, you know, it's still going
- 2:36and I think When there's a couple of points, I really want
- 2:40to touch on. In this episode.
- 2:43And I think one of the biggest is the fact that like When it
- 2:48comes to podcasting, you do need to be consistent, you do need to
- 2:52keep going. Keep going, my apologies, you
- 2:55can't give up. You know, you have to remember
- 2:58why you started, and I've had ups and downs and everything,
- 3:03both in my life, and with podcasting.
- 3:06And one of the things that kind of keeps me going, is this idea
- 3:11that, you know, every Chance to do.
- 3:16The podcast is another opportunity to learn something
- 3:19new to reach more people to interview, someone amazing or to
- 3:25explore a topic that I've not explored before, you know,
- 3:29there's various different motivations behind it.
- 3:32But increasingly the more and more?
- 3:35I do it. the more interesting, it becomes and the more
- 3:41motivated I become for doing it and I don't know, it's just it's
- 3:50my apologies. If I ramble, I'll try to kind of
- 3:53bring it back every now and again.
- 3:55And and that's something I really paid attention to doing
- 3:57and certainly in the last year, with my podcasts.
- 4:00But this episode, I don't know. There's a lot of ground to cover
- 4:03and I suppose I'm still a bit bewildered by the fact that
- 4:08we've reached two years in a. Because when I look back at the
- 4:12podcast and I look back to the very beginning, I wasn't really
- 4:16sure what to do with it. You know, I thought it was just
- 4:19going to be originally funnily enough.
- 4:22It just a discussion podcast. Well, I'll just tackle the topic
- 4:26each week or every two weeks or whatever the case may be.
- 4:31But then, you know, I had some people reach out that wanted to
- 4:34do to appear on the show and I was like, right well let's roll
- 4:39with this, let's do this and it's kind of just escalated from
- 4:44there. You know, sometimes I reach out
- 4:47to people. Sometimes people reach out to
- 4:50me, sometimes people recommend the show to others and then they
- 4:55get in touch with me or You know, there's lots of different
- 4:59ways that people come on the show.
- 5:00But the most important thing is that We're reaching people.
- 5:06We're getting two people wear. Reaching people around the world
- 5:13who are wanting to appear on the show and wanting to share their
- 5:16stories and, you know, just appear on the show, which, to me
- 5:22is very flattering, because I'm just a guy 29, as of recording a
- 5:29guy with Big Dreams, you know, I'm an aspiring actor and
- 5:33aspiring voice actor. Suppose in some ways, I'm an
- 5:36aspiring podcaster at least in the sense.
- 5:39I'd love to be able to make money from this and believe me
- 5:42I've tried to unsuccessfully. No, but I mean, I love doing
- 5:48this show, you know, I would do it even if I never make money
- 5:52from it because There's something about podcasting.
- 5:58That's different from everything else that I do in life.
- 6:04I think and I know increasing increasingly and certainly in
- 6:08the last six months, this has become more and more apparent.
- 6:11Is this kind of motivation to as I mentioned before meet new
- 6:15people and learn from them. I can't count how many episodes
- 6:20I've done more recently where I get off the meeting, sit down.
- 6:29And I just take five minutes to just kind of take it all in and
- 6:33realize how lucky I've been to have that opportunity to speak
- 6:37to that person to be in that moment and learn from that.
- 6:42And I think one of the most motivating aspects to that, in
- 6:46addition to, that is. So it's bad at speaking right
- 6:48now, today Sunday Funday kind of mindset alone It's the people
- 6:58have been reciprocating that my guests.
- 7:03More often than not will come off the show saying, like, thank
- 7:05you, that was a really good conversation.
- 7:09Excuse me as a really good conversation and I really got
- 7:13something from that or I was inspired by that.
- 7:15Or, you know, I really just enjoyed being here and doing
- 7:19this and it means the world to hear people coming off the show
- 7:25and feeling that way. And, you know, there's been
- 7:29times throughout the last two years and even more recently,
- 7:31where are, you know, I've been frustrated at the fact that, you
- 7:35know, the show hasn't kind of grown more than I'd like it to
- 7:39reach more people than I would have liked to have.
- 7:42Of butt. When I look at things, like the
- 7:46amount of guests, I've been able to have on the show in the fact
- 7:49that it's been a steady flow of guests and it's it keeps going
- 7:53and, you know, we reached two years now that is a form of
- 7:56success and that's to be something to be celebrated.
- 8:01And that's what this episode is. This is a celebration of getting
- 8:0522 years. Not giving up, not giving in to
- 8:10You know, those negative feelings of?
- 8:13Why isn't this where I want it to be?
- 8:15Why isn't this where I want it to be?
- 8:16What? There's a lot of things in my
- 8:17life that aren't where I'd like them to be, as I'm sure many
- 8:21people listening to this or watching this.
- 8:24If indeed I do have a video version hobo.
- 8:27Well, I am recording. Hopefully.
- 8:36People will continue to get something out of this podcasters
- 8:41as much as I do. And hopefully that will continue
- 8:46to go on the show will continue to go on.
- 8:50Because I really enjoy doing this podcast.
- 8:54Interviewing these people. I feel like in the last again,
- 8:59it really feels. Like maybe it's just 2022 tail
- 9:02end to 2021. I feel like I've kind of come
- 9:05more into my own as it pertains to podcasting because You know,
- 9:10when I first started this it was just, let's just do interviews.
- 9:13Let's just see what we can get out of this and try and figure
- 9:17it out as we go. And for a while, you know, I
- 9:19thought I had it kind of figured out, but it was always difficult
- 9:22to market the podcast. Like, when people ask me, you
- 9:25know, I still struggle to this day, sometimes to be able to say
- 9:28like, well what is it, what is this podcast?
- 9:31What is it trying to achieve? And I think I finally figured it
- 9:34out. I think this podcast is all
- 9:38about sharing life stories, sometimes the episodes will be a
- 9:42bit more straightforward. You know, you have a guest on
- 9:44and maybe you just cover their life in a very basic way, you
- 9:48know, say if they're a musician, you know, all this is the type
- 9:52of music they're doing. This is how they think about it.
- 9:54This is where they're from, this is how they got started, Etc.
- 9:57You going to have those episodes.
- 9:59But I always try to make my guests feel as comfortable as
- 10:03possible and try to get them to open up.
- 10:06And once they do that, I feel is where the best conversations are
- 10:11had when you can share a story and kind of delve into who that
- 10:17person is. You know, their deepest level
- 10:22because I feel like in life that's often the most
- 10:27interesting conversations you have with the person.
- 10:30It's when you get to the the real deep stuff not to say that
- 10:34every episode is super deep and but that's what I try to aim
- 10:37for. That's why I try to go for.
- 10:41Because I want to show people who that person is and what
- 10:44they're about, and not just kind of ask the basic questions and
- 10:47don't get me wrong like sometimes I will be asking these
- 10:50questions but that's what I'm aiming for, for example.
- 10:53And I've said this before, but I might as well reiterate.
- 10:56Now every show, every time I do an interview, I have a sheet of
- 11:02questions there with me and you know, they're all centered on my
- 11:07research around that person. What I could find.
- 11:10Came to mind, you know, I try to write as many questions as I can
- 11:14down on paper so that I have, you know, something prepared and
- 11:19you know I do have like a basic piece of paper that I never use
- 11:24but it's like a generic kind of podcast questions that I either
- 11:29had seen on other shows or sometimes they spring to mind or
- 11:33you know, whatever. And that's kind of that's like
- 11:36the backup to the backup because the questions I have in front of
- 11:39me are the back. cup, you know, I will use them just to kind of
- 11:43get this conversation started but then from there on I try not
- 11:48to use it if at all because what I mean to do is just have a
- 11:54conversation with that person and essentially just like create
- 11:59questions on the Fly, you know, create follow-up, questions, I
- 12:02sit and I try to be there in that moment with that person.
- 12:06Listen to their story and think. Okay, what would people want to
- 12:10hear what do I want to hear? What do I want to know?
- 12:13You know, I tried. That's why I try to aim for as
- 12:16also. Another reason why I don't edit
- 12:18this podcast. I like, I like it to feel
- 12:20natural like it to feel like a casual conversation that you're
- 12:25that you're listening to. It's also because I'm too lazy
- 12:27to edit even though, You edit the podcast is very little, you
- 12:33know, I do the podcast Clips obviously.
- 12:37I clip it up in the sense that, you know, edit anything out that
- 12:40needs to be edited out and then, you know, upload it everywhere
- 12:44and that's kind of it. And I tried to keep it simple as
- 12:46possible, but You know, I've had people ask me that full of why,
- 12:54don't you cut out the guns, and the ours and all that stuff?
- 12:57It work. I think it feels more natural.
- 13:00I like it. You know, it's like this is the
- 13:03conversation as it was because real conversations are like
- 13:06that, you're not thinking of things every 5 Seconds, you
- 13:10know, sometimes you do pause and consider a question.
- 13:15Obviously, it's different for me being the host because I have to
- 13:17kind of keep the conversation going and it's even more of a
- 13:21challenge with an episode like this where it's just me here in
- 13:26my room talking to you. Essentially, talking to myself.
- 13:32Kind of reminds me of when I started creating videos for
- 13:37YouTube back in 2019 and hello loud bike.
- 13:41That's ruining my podcast, I live right next to a main road.
- 13:44So it just ruins any kind of any kind of recordings that I'm
- 13:49doing that. Our one day, it won't be like
- 13:52this one day. I'll have a soundproof room and
- 13:54I'll do make as much noise as I want one day after find myself
- 14:01saying, One day, one day, I will have everything that I want and
- 14:06still it won't be enough. Don't, you know what?
- 14:10If you can if you can enjoy your own company and enjoy what
- 14:13you're doing? Then wow.
- 14:18I think that's a good start, isn't it?
- 14:20I don't know. I'm rambling at this point.
- 14:23I'm losing track of things. Let's bring it back to the
- 14:25basics of what this episode is. I'm very happy.
- 14:30That I've had so many guests on the show and that I'm continuing
- 14:35to have a steady flow of guests. I'm very grateful for that.
- 14:38Thank you to everybody that's appeared on the show throughout
- 14:41the last two years. It's been a pleasure, having all
- 14:44of you on the show, you're more than welcome back on the show.
- 14:48Some guests. I've had repeatedly as well on
- 14:51the show and I love that, too. I want to just keep this show
- 14:57going. I kind of want the show to grow
- 15:00with me and I feel like in many ways it has because I've grown
- 15:05with this show. When I first started I wasn't
- 15:08sure of myself. You know I was I was I was 2020.
- 15:14I'd just gotten off the back of her another podcast.
- 15:16I was doing very short-lived one but I was doing that with two
- 15:20other people so there was a little less pressure there but
- 15:25then there's loads of pressure once I started doing this and
- 15:30You know, I see, I made it even more difficult because I didn't
- 15:32really have like a set idea for what this show was, what the
- 15:37identity was that I figured out throughout.
- 15:41So doing this, this show as I mentioned before, it's just kind
- 15:44of in more in the last year or so that I really figured out
- 15:48what the show actually is, but it's always changing.
- 15:51And I'm always changing because That's just life, isn't it?
- 15:55You you change, as you get older, you learn things, you
- 15:58tweak things. I think this show has helped me
- 16:03to become a better conversation assist, it certainly made me a
- 16:07better listener. Which is such an important
- 16:11conversation on skill is the ability to listen and take on
- 16:15board what the other person is saying.
- 16:17And you know not just wait for your turn to speak but really
- 16:20just hear what they're saying and hear that the intent as
- 16:23well. Not just the words but the
- 16:25intent of what they're saying a lot of the reason why I'm able
- 16:28to come up with questions on the Fly.
- 16:33It's because I'm there in the moment with that person in my
- 16:37kit, taking on board, but this em but I'm sort of losing myself
- 16:41in what they're saying. I'm losing myself in
- 16:43conversations, it's no different to having a conversation in real
- 16:47life. For me.
- 16:48The only difference is that I am consciously aware of the fact
- 16:51that I am hosting a show and I do kind of need to go from topic
- 16:56to topic and have some sort of Adam flow I suppose because I'm
- 17:02thinking about you the listeners, I'm thinking, like,
- 17:05how does this sound to you? Does it sound like one big
- 17:08rambling mess or is it something that's follow herbal?
- 17:15If that's even a word, something you can follow easily and you
- 17:19know you can have on while you're doing your cleaning or
- 17:21going to work or at the gym or however you listen to the
- 17:25podcast. You know it's I want it to be
- 17:28something that's easy to follow and frustrating to listen to,
- 17:33but there's many goals with this show and That brings me to.
- 17:41I'll be the most important thing, which is the people
- 17:44listening to the show. Thank you so much for listening
- 17:48to this podcast for supporting me.
- 17:52For all the comments, you leave, that are supportive, that are
- 17:58constructive, that, you know, where you ask me questions, or
- 18:02where you, you know, you simply tell me that you enjoyed the
- 18:05show or, you know, they got you for a hard time or inspired you
- 18:09like that means the world to me. because it means the there's
- 18:15like a point to doing this other than my own.
- 18:19Kind of convictions or is that the right word?
- 18:22I don't know. Motivations is about a word.
- 18:25That's I think that's the right word for doing this show but
- 18:31Particularly when I've had those moments where I've been really
- 18:34downtrodden with how things of have been in a particular week,
- 18:38like maybe I release an episode and it doesn't get seen for ages
- 18:41and I'm just like, what's the point, you know.
- 18:44But then finally someone sees it and they leave a comment and it
- 18:48just Straightaway, just motivates me again.
- 18:52I'm like, yeah, that's why I do this for these people.
- 18:54These few people that are listening.
- 18:57I do it for them. As much as I do it for myself, I
- 19:00do it for them to, and yeah, that just keeps me going and
- 19:07that keeps me motivated. So, massive, shout out to
- 19:10everybody that listens to this show.
- 19:11Thank you so much and massive. Shout out to regular follower
- 19:19and listener of the show. She's part of my community.
- 19:22Shout out to Vilma. Thank you so much for for
- 19:28listening to the show. For so long and I see all of
- 19:31your comments. Of course, I try to reply to
- 19:33them all the time and head of this show which I wouldn't, I
- 19:40wouldn't have even done this show.
- 19:41Had it not been for Vilma. because, The last time, the last
- 19:48few times that I'd reached out and advertised on social media
- 19:51like, hey, I'm doing an anniversary show.
- 19:54I'm doing a special episode and, you know, I need people to send
- 19:58in their questions or something like that.
- 20:00And I never really got a response to that and I got big
- 20:03to be motivated by that. And in a recent live stream,
- 20:09Vilma was there and she's a Avid supporter of everything that I
- 20:12do. So, thank you so much Vilma. she
- 20:17kept pushing doing this show and I said, With the greatest of
- 20:22respect, like what's the point? I've tried this before?
- 20:25And it's not worked and I've tried it several times and it's
- 20:28like my mindset is always been like, if you don't have a big
- 20:32enough following a dedicated following with people
- 20:34interacting with you then you know, most people I mean that if
- 20:40you keep asking them nothing's happening, then they're just not
- 20:42interested, or perhaps, you know, there's a lot of things on
- 20:47social media. I'm not really referring to two
- 20:50people who listen to the show because to be fair, I don't know
- 20:53how many regular listeners there are.
- 20:55There's at least two, I know for definite.
- 20:59So that includes Vilma and I think there's another lady who
- 21:03follows the show I Name Escapes me right now, but she comments
- 21:08quite frequently on YouTube and then there's other a lot of
- 21:12other people in my community who sort of catch, no catch in here
- 21:16and there and I thank you so much for listening, I appreciate
- 21:19it. I know podcasts on everyone's
- 21:22cup of tea. They are very long form, you
- 21:25know, type of content. And I suppose most people prefer
- 21:30short form these days. So you know maybe podcast Thing
- 21:36is a dying art I don't know. Seems like everywhere I look
- 21:38there's all costs being created so I don't know.
- 21:41But Yeah, just a massive, thank you to everyone who's listening,
- 21:46but massive, thank you to Vilma for not only encouraging me to
- 21:51do this show but sending in all of these questions which are
- 21:57going to form the rest of this show.
- 22:00I just was overwhelmed because she she'd ask me.
- 22:04Hey, what's your email? I'll send through some questions
- 22:09and I thought that would just be like a few and you know, I maybe
- 22:11answer them and Try my very best to expand it or maybe save them
- 22:16for another time and when I do have like a bigger audience and
- 22:20maybe I can get more interaction.
- 22:21What I was not expecting was an email with 17 questions, all of
- 22:28which are very ones that get you thinking.
- 22:32And I don't even know if I'm going to get through all of them
- 22:34today, but I will, I would certainly do my best to go
- 22:38through all of these and give meaningful answers.
- 22:42But I just wanted to say a Thank you Velma for listening to this
- 22:46show, for all your support with the show.
- 22:49I really, really appreciate it. And thank you so much for all
- 22:53these questions. So, here we go.
- 22:57Number one, in the two years. You have been doing the podcast.
- 23:01What do you think you've gained from it?
- 23:02Okay, well, I think I've touched on this a little bit so far, but
- 23:06Mostly I think. I've gained more confidence in
- 23:13making conversations. I can be quite shy sometimes in
- 23:16real life. Yeah, I have to be comfortable
- 23:20and sometimes my social anxiety just hits me out of nowhere.
- 23:23Most of the time, I'm fine. You see me in public.
- 23:26I'm pretty easygoing, but occasionally, I can get bit,
- 23:29like, you know, kg or uncomfortable, and I try my best
- 23:33to fight it, but, you know, anxiety, it's suck sometimes,
- 23:38but this, this podcast is really With that because it's meant
- 23:42that I've kind of eased back on it now and I try to listen more
- 23:46than I speak. You know, I prefer to listen to
- 23:50people and I think that that does come from the show other
- 23:55than that, Gosh. And I think it's made me more
- 23:59outgoing and willing to take risks because there's been quite
- 24:04a few times when I've reached out to people on this show to
- 24:08appear on the show, another been unsuccessful in many cases have
- 24:11been rejected. I've had people do all sorts of
- 24:14things. Like I've had so many no-shows
- 24:16on this show for no reason people.
- 24:19Just decide they don't want to be on the show and it's like
- 24:21okay that's that I guess and it happens all the time and That's
- 24:27a podcast the listening when I know exactly what I mean.
- 24:30I don't know how many exactly, but I know it's in the double
- 24:33digits but it's just part of podcasting.
- 24:36That's just what it is. But I digress.
- 24:41What was my point with that? I mean, you just, you just kind
- 24:46of have to like, Keep going, I suppose, and have confidence in
- 24:52yourself to be. Willing to reach out to people
- 24:57and full, pardon my language flat on your ass.
- 25:00You know, sometimes people are not going to take you,
- 25:02seriously, there's been people who I knew even from childhood
- 25:07or I knew from real life and they've since become successful.
- 25:11And, you know, I reached out to them about appearing on the show
- 25:14and it seemed like it was going to happen and then they, I don't
- 25:17know, they just On interested anymore, but they didn't tell me
- 25:23that, you know, I just have to learn that by seeing that
- 25:25they're just essentially ignoring me or I don't know.
- 25:29There's been people of blocked me on social media because they
- 25:32didn't want to be on the show, which perplex me because I mean
- 25:37I try to be as professional as possible.
- 25:38Like literally if I book a show with you about, if it's got to
- 25:41the point where you're going to appear on the show, then you
- 25:46know all I'm going to send you as an email reminder of the day
- 25:48and be like Hey. You ready to go, but there's
- 25:52been a lot of instances as I say where I'm trying to negotiate
- 25:56like getting someone on the show and then they just, you know,
- 26:00change their mind, I guess. But never bothered to tell me
- 26:02and it sucks. And sometimes I wonder if it's a
- 26:06product of, you know, people becoming famous and then, you
- 26:12know, it gets to their goes to their heads, it could just be
- 26:17genuine genuinely, forgetting, And I'm hey, this isn't me like
- 26:21having a go at people, you know, I mean I don't know.
- 26:24That's the thing in these instances.
- 26:26I don't know I'm assuming but I don't know that that's the case
- 26:29because they've not said anything to me.
- 26:31But, you know, you see people's social media.
- 26:37What they're doing on social media and then you see how
- 26:40they're even interacting with you or not interacting with you
- 26:43and you kind of put two and two together in those instances and
- 26:47yeah, it kind of brings me to the point about how people say
- 26:52sometimes like why haven't you reached out to celebrities?
- 26:54I have and I've mostly just had like a negative experience with
- 26:59that. Unfortunately.
- 27:02Because people aren't really interested unless you're
- 27:06somebody that's not true for everyone.
- 27:09Everyone that's been on this show regardless of who they are.
- 27:13And there's been quite a few instances where people have
- 27:16appeared on the show and they have like a big online following
- 27:19or they're really successful in their own, right?
- 27:22And I'm scratching my head, why they want to appear on my show
- 27:25like mine which has very few listeners followers.
- 27:31Not much reach, you know, I mean, I can offer you a good
- 27:35interview. I can I can certainly give you a
- 27:37good show and I'll do my very best to make sure it's the best
- 27:41that it can be. But I can't guarantee that you
- 27:44being on this show will help you get anywhere.
- 27:48But at the same time you know it's not why I do this show.
- 27:52I don't do the show to get like loads of hits or to get loads of
- 27:55followers or anything like that. I do the show because I've
- 27:58always wanted to do a podcast. cast, and I like interviewing
- 28:05people and I like learning from them and I love this process
- 28:11when I started, you know, of course.
- 28:12Yeah, I was doing this as like, one of many things to try and
- 28:17Suppose Advance my chances of getting somewhere with my goals
- 28:22in life. And you know everything I do is
- 28:26to further my chances of becoming an actor becoming a
- 28:30voice actor, becoming a successful podcast that may be
- 28:33getting into TV, maybe getting to travel the world.
- 28:35I've got a lot of different goals in life and things like
- 28:40doing the podcast or tick talk or whatever help me to reach
- 28:45people. But nothing is guaranteed and
- 28:50that's okay. Because I love to do this.
- 28:54So, I think, yeah, enjoyment confidence to reach out to
- 29:01people, even if I almost think they might say no, or they might
- 29:06ignore me. It's okay, try just try.
- 29:09What did what do you have to lose?
- 29:11Nothing. And that whole thing of being
- 29:15bold and just reaching out to people, I've tried to transition
- 29:18that into everything else that I do.
- 29:20So I always try, you know, I'll apply for acting gigs.
- 29:24Even if I don't have the experience or You know,
- 29:27whatever. Or I don't know, I just try
- 29:30things even if I know I'm going to suck at them because just why
- 29:33not like what do I really have to lose?
- 29:37You know. So I think those are the main
- 29:39things that I think I've gained from doing this show.
- 29:44Yeah, let's move on to question 2.
- 29:46What makes a successful interview in your opinion?
- 29:50Gosh. I think that honestly depends on
- 29:55what type of interview you're trying to do because I've seen
- 29:59lots of different interview Styles.
- 30:02I've been on a lot of different peoples shows and experience
- 30:05different types of interviews. Obviously.
- 30:07I've I mean, it's not, I wouldn't really call it research
- 30:10but, you know, you see Clips online of like chat shows and
- 30:13all these things. And I do pay attention to
- 30:15various different peoples types of interviews and I try to apply
- 30:18anything that I learned to my own kind of interviewing skills.
- 30:23if you like, but I think in general a successful interview
- 30:27involves really giving your guests enough time to speak and
- 30:34to think Don't try not to ask leading questions or to like,
- 30:42give them the answers so to speak.
- 30:43But try to have like open questions or if you are going to
- 30:47lead them with something, just give them like an example, but
- 30:51then put really push on like well, what's your opinion?
- 30:53What do you think? What do you, how do you feel
- 30:56about this? Like I try very hard to try and
- 30:59get people to say how they feel rather than you know I never
- 31:02asked what yes or no questions really rarely ever.
- 31:06Unless it's just a lot of time if I'm going to ask okay, yes or
- 31:09no question, it's because I have other questions lined up and
- 31:12it's just a quickly to understand like okay, if I ask
- 31:14them this this will mean that I asked them this, this and this,
- 31:18if not, then maybe move on, or maybe ask them something
- 31:22different, you know. But yeah, I think I think those
- 31:27are the main things that make for a successful interview that
- 31:30and then if I said it before but just sitting and really
- 31:33listening to what your guest has to say.
- 31:37And this is just a life skill in general, is is being able to
- 31:42Kind of sit. And hear what the guest is
- 31:46saying or the hear what the person is saying.
- 31:48And I'm not talking about the words, you know, I mentioned
- 31:52earlier like the intent of what they mean, what their heart is
- 31:55trying to tell you and not every guest is going to open up to you
- 31:59in that way, but for the ones that do you have to try and
- 32:03connect with them on that level and I think that is a real key
- 32:07aspect of a successful interview.
- 32:09But again, that's just my Approach, there's many different
- 32:12approaches and it really Hands on your goals.
- 32:15My goals are to make my guests feel comfortable.
- 32:23Try to get my guests to share as many stories.
- 32:27As possible. And to just make them feel
- 32:31comfortable so that you know they feel more inclined to open
- 32:35up in the they have a good time and yeah there's no agenda with
- 32:39my show. I'm not trying to catch anybody
- 32:41out. I'm not trying to get juicy
- 32:43gossip or dish endure or anything like that.
- 32:49Some people have asked me, not, why don't you ask controversial
- 32:51questions? Because I'm not looking for
- 32:52controversy, I'm looking to share stories and create
- 32:56something positive, something that maybe people will walk away
- 33:00and feel inspired after having, you know, listen to the show.
- 33:05Anyway, I hope that answers your question.
- 33:08Number three. What would you like to ideally
- 33:13achieve still as far as the podcast is concerned?
- 33:17Well, as a lot of things I'd like to achieve, I think
- 33:23probably the biggest is to get sponsor sponsors at this point.
- 33:28It's not really about making money.
- 33:29It's more about kind of like solidifying that the podcast is
- 33:34worthy of getting Sponsors. That's kind of more aware of my
- 33:37head. My mindset, is that at this
- 33:39point, but, you know, of course, I would love to be able to make
- 33:42a living from this. I mean, gosh, imagine being able
- 33:45to do this podcast for a living that would be amazing other
- 33:50goals. You know, I want to just keep
- 33:52the show going, you know, get to get 200 episodes.
- 33:56Get to 500 to 1000, you know, whatever gets 25 years.
- 34:00These are all like goals. I'd like to achieve with it.
- 34:05I would love to be able to build, you know, Ultimate
- 34:09Fantasy build, my own Studio podcast studio and just have
- 34:13like a hub that people could travel to.
- 34:17And I think that then I would be able to mix it up.
- 34:19So I could create a space that I'm comfortable being intimate,
- 34:23that my guests are comfortable being in and would travel to.
- 34:27But also, you know, offering the option of hey, we can still do a
- 34:30zoom call or whatever I like keeping my show varied.
- 34:36And I like being able to have people from around the world,
- 34:39you know, and I would love to have a physical show and, you
- 34:45know, improve the quality of all this have like, state-of-the-art
- 34:50cameras, good lighting, the best microphones money can buy, you
- 34:53know, all that jazz. There's a lot of things I still
- 34:58want to achieve with the podcast, but, you know, just
- 35:01keep it going really is in is in my head, just keep trying.
- 35:07Number four. What is one piece of advice or
- 35:09story or experience that has stayed with you?
- 35:13After interviewing? So many guests with diverse
- 35:15backgrounds and unique life stories.
- 35:17Oh my gosh. As hard as so many.
- 35:26This is a bit of a cop-out answer because I honestly can't
- 35:30remember off the top of my head, but I think one thing which is
- 35:37kind of a lesson that I keep learning, I'm reminded of is
- 35:44through. Listening to all of my guests,
- 35:49particularly the ones who've been through like real
- 35:51hardships. In life, really difficult things
- 35:54in life. An example actually comes to
- 35:56mind. Actually, when I had a pretty
- 35:59recent guest on the show, Tessa Greenspan, she spoke about how
- 36:03you know, her Supermarket business went bankrupt and she
- 36:08you know, she'd been betrayed and people had stolen her money
- 36:11and she just had to work from scratch.
- 36:14And just build it all up again, and she's got to the point where
- 36:17she made tens of millions of dollars and travels the world
- 36:20and does all this, but it came through hard work, grit and
- 36:22determination. And I think the most amazing
- 36:26aspect of that, that inspired me was her attitude, her positive
- 36:30attitude, like how she got through that.
- 36:32She was really refreshingly honest about that.
- 36:34You know, she said that cause there's low moments and you know
- 36:37you get sad and you feel like you want to pack it in but you
- 36:40just keep trying you keep going. And that's the same thing I say
- 36:45to all my, you know, my listeners on, on the show and on
- 36:50my Tick Tock Live's, and what not just that, it's have to keep
- 36:53going especially on those dark days.
- 36:56Just remember that, you know, you'll go to bed, you wake up
- 36:59the next day and the sun will still be shining and you'll be
- 37:03alive and it's another opportunity.
- 37:06And life is a series of good and bad moments and bad moments
- 37:11don't always last and Yeah, it's just the journey, isn't it?
- 37:16Just keep going. Keep trying.
- 37:19That's my key. Takeaway.
- 37:23Whenever I have a guest on the show, and they inspire me and
- 37:26everyone, inspires me that comes from the show in different ways,
- 37:30but that's the key take away every single time.
- 37:33And sometimes I'll be sitting there and, you know, there's
- 37:35been times when I've had a terrible week or a terrible day
- 37:38and I have that person on my show and suddenly, you know, I
- 37:43don't feel so low anymore and I'm reminded of like, hey, I'm
- 37:46very lucky to be able to do this.
- 37:49And I love doing this and I want to keep doing this and thank you
- 37:52for the opportunity to do this. Thank you for listening because
- 37:56without you guys said it before. But without you guys, there will
- 38:00be no show and that would be a real demotivator that having no
- 38:04one listening. But there's, there's a few
- 38:06people listening and you guys, you motivate me to keep going
- 38:10and keep delivering, and hopefully, As we keep going each
- 38:15and every show is better than the last and you're enjoying it
- 38:19and staying on this journey here with me, let's get going, right.
- 38:25Cost is so many questions. So grateful, this is amazing.
- 38:29What is the biggest life lesson? You've learned so far?
- 38:32Gosh, yeah, mmm. So for those, for those who've
- 38:35never RK. Yeah.
- 38:38What's the biggest life lesson and what's the best piece of
- 38:40advice you've ever received? This is funny.
- 38:43He shows that I've been on my other shows, they've asked me
- 38:47these questions and I always pop because these are the questions
- 38:51that I ask my guests and I think they're really difficult because
- 38:55they ask you to isolate specific advice and lessons in that
- 39:03moment. And there's so much you learn
- 39:04and you know it, my main goal is to just find stuff that
- 39:07resonates with that person you know, even in that moment or in
- 39:11life in general. But with me, gosh best advice
- 39:19would be off the top of my head. My dad once said to me, you are
- 39:25your own best friend. and so what I meant by that is, you
- 39:29know, you know, yourself better than anyone else, you're with
- 39:33yourself from birth to death, You are your own best friend,
- 39:37you know, yourself better than anyone and you know, you are
- 39:41always there for yourself, you can trust yourself, you can
- 39:44always trust yourself. Hopefully, you know, And that's
- 39:48always kind of stuck with me. There's been other advice you
- 39:52know people give you advice all the time.
- 39:54Variety is the spice of life. That's a big one, you know, just
- 40:01being yourself. Stuff like that.
- 40:06Life lessons. I mean there isn't a single one
- 40:10just like with the advice and I think it changes in the moment,
- 40:13you know what becomes sometimes you'll learn things, but they
- 40:18won't become a parent or relevant until later on.
- 40:23And so I often feel like we never really learning with
- 40:26rediscovering in a sense, because we're learning, but you
- 40:31know what I mean? Like, we're rediscovering stuff,
- 40:33especially we probably heard, every quote, there is, you know,
- 40:36you've heard every cliche quote, but sometimes you see it and it
- 40:41resonates with you and that moment because you're going
- 40:43through something on life. And it's like, right?
- 40:44Yeah, of course. This this lesson.
- 40:47Yeah, I've seen this before, but it makes sense.
- 40:49Now, like, of course, this is how it is.
- 40:52Biggest life lesson. I'm Sheriff.
- 40:57You why? I think.
- 41:06When it comes to regrets. and I've had a few, but I do kind of
- 41:13believe everything happens for a reason how I try to live my life
- 41:16now. Is to have as few regrets as
- 41:21possible. I try to take advantage of every
- 41:24single opportunity I can get And try not to be afraid to take
- 41:32risks and to take chances and just try to think about like
- 41:36what might be said of. Like our this might happen.
- 41:39This might happen this by up and you know, like like - bad stuff
- 41:42think about what could happen. Think about the positives, think
- 41:45about the possibilities, essentially, being optimistic.
- 41:51There's other things, like I mentioned a little bit before,
- 41:55but, you know, being yourself. Is one of the most important
- 41:59things in life because it drives your life.
- 42:05You are who you are, and no one should be able to tell you how
- 42:10to live your own life. You know, you know, what's best
- 42:13for you, don't get me wrong. It's always good to hear what
- 42:18other people around you have to say.
- 42:20Like, you know, not everyone is out to get you.
- 42:21Some people are really trying to help you but things have to
- 42:25resonate for you. You have to make your own
- 42:27understanding and things and, you know, Live your life for
- 42:33you. Be true to yourself.
- 42:37And another one, which is one of more recently started to take on
- 42:44board is to trust your gut. Trust your instincts, I look at
- 42:50it like a bit of a cheat sheet, you know, it's like a cheat code
- 42:53in a video game infinite lives. I don't know, I just trust my
- 43:00gut and my instincts and it never does.
- 43:02Never never says me wrong. I always how I feel about
- 43:07something is always how it is. Maybe I'm crazy for thinking
- 43:12that way, but I don't know to me, that makes much more sense
- 43:16than listening to my brain, which always just seems to say
- 43:19who I'm afraid. Like what's going to happen?
- 43:21What's gonna happen? And it's like, well, we got
- 43:23through X Y and Z will get through this, you know, and
- 43:27that's another final thing. Yeah.
- 43:29Remember that whatever hardships or difficulties that you're
- 43:32going through right now? In life, you'll get through it
- 43:35because you've been through arguably much worse.
- 43:39Or if you haven't, you know, and you're going through something
- 43:41terrible, and you've never dealt with it before, you will get
- 43:43through it and you'll be stronger for it.
- 43:46It's the strength of the human Spirit.
- 43:48We can, we can do anything. Hang in there and keep going.
- 43:54Why should somebody listen to the Christian wreath podcast?
- 44:03I think to be inspired to be motivated to be reminded why
- 44:11life is worth living? Maybe that's a bit over the top
- 44:14but I don't know. Like I said before all these
- 44:17guests that have had on the show are really truly amazing people
- 44:22and I'm honored to be able to talk to all of them have them on
- 44:25the show and you know, for them to share their stories and
- 44:29experiences, you know, they're not always positive, sometimes
- 44:32they're very - you know, like powerful traumatic experiences
- 44:36and it's not easy for them to share it but they Brave and they
- 44:39do so. And Think I'm so proud that we
- 44:44were able to Showcase that and then show people listening or
- 44:50watching that, you know, you're not alone in this in this life
- 44:55that we're living, you know. Other people have achieved
- 45:01amazing feats or, you know, got through difficult times and
- 45:05they're just like, you, and no different to you.
- 45:09Sure their lives might be different different
- 45:10circumstances, whatever, but they're just like you.
- 45:15And there's no reason that you can't.
- 45:19And again it's as I said before, what why I keep doing the show
- 45:23because I'm just inspired by these people and I want to keep
- 45:28talking to them and I want to keep bringing those
- 45:30conversations to you. And I've, you know, I've spoken
- 45:33in frustration on livestreams before about one of the main
- 45:37reasons problem, if not the main reason, I want more people to
- 45:41listen, is because I want more people to hear and see these
- 45:45conversations and be inspired by them.
- 45:48Who knows what? Fantastic things they could do
- 45:51in their lives as a result of hearing, whatever advice someone
- 45:55on my show shared you know, like that's the way I like to think
- 45:59about it. Anyway, do you think that any
- 46:03topic and any guests could make for?
- 46:05Interesting conversational, great question. yeah, I mean You
- 46:11know, it's funny as well. I remember one guy came on my
- 46:13show and just before he came on the show he said or, you know,
- 46:18I'm a bit worried like maybe I won't be as interesting as the
- 46:20rest of your guests and I just stopped in and said, like
- 46:23listen, Every person is interesting.
- 46:27Everyone has something to say. You know, conversations our
- 46:31conversations as long as we're both there in it and we want to
- 46:34be there and we're both interested in hearing what each
- 46:37other has to say. It'll be a great conversation
- 46:41and that's the way I look at it, you know?
- 46:44And also everyone's interested different.
- 46:48There's been topics people I've had on the show where I'm not as
- 46:52interested as a would be talking about other things, but I'm
- 46:55still there for on there to learn, you know, in an instance
- 46:58where I As much interest or, I don't know as much as I sit
- 47:02there. And I know my role and I
- 47:04listened, you know, whereas it's if it's something like, I don't
- 47:07know, wrestling, I'll be more inclined to hop in there, and
- 47:10share my thoughts and opinions on that thing because I know
- 47:13more about that. But that doesn't change the fact
- 47:15that I want to hear what my guest has to say and I tried to
- 47:18make that the focal point. But yeah, I do think that any
- 47:23Topic in any guess can make for interesting conversation to be
- 47:27honest, every single show. where I have a guest on, it's a
- 47:31challenge and every time I do a topic or discussion-based
- 47:35episode eats, It's a challenge. It's always a challenge.
- 47:41It always will be challenging and I love that about life.
- 47:44I love anything. That's a challenge, you know?
- 47:47Just forces you to be better. And, you know, sometimes you
- 47:51fall over and you make mistakes but then you get back up and you
- 47:54keep going you know what a three qualities, a good podcast, there
- 48:00should have in your opinion. Okay.
- 48:04I'll be going to repeat some stuff but yeah, being a Good
- 48:08listener. I think being patient because
- 48:16it's a marathon not a race. If you haven't got the views
- 48:20that you wanted in five episodes, 20 episodes with
- 48:23squeaky chair, 50 episodes, you know, it might not come straight
- 48:26away. I mean crikey, I've been doing
- 48:28this show now for two years and I'm still trying to get
- 48:32somewhere with it, you know? And I've had some people tell me
- 48:37our takes at least three years and then you break out some
- 48:40people say like, oh you can do a show for like 5-10 years and
- 48:43you'll never get anywhere. You know, I hear all sorts of
- 48:45things. So I think patients is very
- 48:51important you know just keep going and consistency.
- 48:59Keep keep releasing stick to a schedule.
- 49:02You know, I'm going to add a few more.
- 49:03Sorry, I know it's three qualities but I'll add to this.
- 49:05I think having a clear structure for what you want to do, a clear
- 49:09plan for what you want to do for your show and sticking to that
- 49:13schedule are two really important aspects to this.
- 49:16So if you are doing a show and you want to do it like once a
- 49:19week, Stick to that release an episode, once a week, if you
- 49:25promise to your guests, so your listeners that you're going to
- 49:28release every Wednesday, then do that and stick to that, and
- 49:32don't falter and don't miss a week.
- 49:35Because at the bottom is, when you miss episodes as well, like
- 49:37you get the motivated, I've had times I've had times where I've
- 49:40made missed weeks, and Sometimes it happens because of had no
- 49:45shows. Other times it happens because
- 49:47it just didn't have any guests but you know what I should have
- 49:48done in those instances. I should have, you know, done a
- 49:52discussion episode. I have a bank of topics that are
- 49:56raring to go, but I've not, you know, done them.
- 49:59And luckily I've been so lucky as to have been busy with this
- 50:03constant, overflow of guests, but there might be times when
- 50:06that doesn't happen and, you know, you're forced to be
- 50:11creative with your show and look how Elsewhere or maybe even, you
- 50:15know, reach out to more people. And yeah, I mean podcast.
- 50:21Does a lot of work. If you want to do a podcast, you
- 50:24have to accept that there's going to be a lot of work
- 50:27involved and you might not get the results you want, but it's
- 50:32all part of it. Anything you want to do in life,
- 50:34you got to put the work in and podcast is no.
- 50:37Different is sponsorship. Essential for the success of a
- 50:43podcast. I don't know because I've never
- 50:47been sponsored but I think It depends on two things.
- 50:54I think it depends. Firstly on what you define as
- 50:58success for a podcast and secondly, a despite I suppose it
- 51:02depends on the individual goals of that podcast.
- 51:08If you look at a show like Joe Rogan's podcast or the Diary of
- 51:12CEO was wrestling podcasts, that I'm into like eighty three
- 51:17weeks, very pissed off, something to wrestle with you
- 51:20know, I mean, some shows up to just kind of go for Having their
- 51:27own sponsor shitting their own products, whatever their own
- 51:30brand, or sometimes they'll have several spots sponsors.
- 51:36As I said earlier, in this show. I mean, I think that having a
- 51:39sponsor is kind of like a mark of Your show being somewhat work
- 51:46principle but at the same time, like I don't think you have to
- 51:49have it necessarily to be successful.
- 51:52I mean, I guess there's probably podcasts out there that for
- 51:56instance, make money, just through listens, you know,
- 52:01through like anchor or through YouTube or whatever.
- 52:06I think, I think the sponsorship should be something that will
- 52:10podcasters aim for. But at the same time as I said
- 52:14before, there's different goals, sometimes people do podcasts
- 52:19with no thought about making money or anything from it.
- 52:22They just want to kind of, you know, talk about like history
- 52:26and capture something. Or they do it just for fun or
- 52:29they do it to kind of as a kind of I don't know, a way of hello.
- 52:35Housemate a way of like tracking something you know, Carla could
- 52:40diary I suppose and all Your diary so to speak.
- 52:45And that's a different purpose. Yeah, I really don't know.
- 52:52I really don't know if I never got a sponsor.
- 52:58But I still say, I reached like 50 people every single show, or
- 53:02I had like 20 dedicated listings every single time I would regard
- 53:05that success. I mean, I already think that on
- 53:09a small scale. The podcast is successful
- 53:11because there's a handful of people listening and watching.
- 53:15And you keep listening and watching, and that is a success
- 53:18in of itself. So I really think that how you
- 53:22look at things is integral in that particular question.
- 53:26But yeah, I mean For some people, it's a passion for
- 53:34others, its work for others, it's both for me.
- 53:39I would love to be able to make money from this.
- 53:41I would love to be able to get sponsors from this but hello
- 53:44Slammy door, you know, it wouldn't be the end of the
- 53:49world. If I didn't either, there's the
- 53:54third one. You can hear all the doors
- 53:58slamming in this house. You can never not hear them.
- 54:02Alright, let's move on in today's society where everyone
- 54:06is so busy and always on the go, do you think that the duration
- 54:11of a podcast episode could act as a deterrent, interesting?
- 54:15And thus might someone not choose to listen to a specific
- 54:20episode thinking? That is too long.
- 54:22Okay? Wow.
- 54:26I kind of covered part of this earlier.
- 54:32I know this is kind of asking a few things, but I mean, firstly,
- 54:37I think you have to look at what type of content.
- 54:39This is some people love to read some people hate to read, you
- 54:45know, some people love to listen to podcasts, some people hate to
- 54:48or are interested. I know that there's many people
- 54:53that, you know, check out my content, they're selling
- 54:56Tick-Tock that's never more than like 30 seconds long generally,
- 55:00but they probably would never check out my podcast.
- 55:04Maybe vice versa. Maybe there's people that check
- 55:06out my podcast, that would never look at the short form content.
- 55:11To me, it's just different types of content, you know, I enjoy
- 55:14making both but as far as people listening or watching I mean, I
- 55:20think everything kind of has its audience, you know, I know
- 55:26numbers-wise podcasts are still huge.
- 55:29There's still millions of people that listen to podcasts.
- 55:34I think there always will be a market for it, to be honest.
- 55:39So that's that's one aspect to. I think it's just like a catered
- 55:43to a specific audience. Damn, that door is loud.
- 55:48I'm gonna have a word of my house mail today.
- 55:50Stop ruining my 2-year podcast but to I'm looking at what, how
- 55:57would you, how would, how would he know how many know as far as
- 56:04the the the other part of this question?
- 56:06I mean, maybe the duration could make a difference.
- 56:12I I definitely have been paying much more attention to how long
- 56:15the episodes are. Because, you know, I used to
- 56:18never pay attention to that, you know, it's sometimes they'd be
- 56:20like 2 hours long. And I'll be like, yeah, that's
- 56:22great. Or, you know, I want to do three
- 56:24hours but it is a real slog to get through, something like
- 56:27that. And one thing, one of the pieces
- 56:30of feedback, I actually got from people was that, you know, they
- 56:32wouldn't listen to the podcast in one sitting because it was
- 56:35too long. They listened to it in like
- 56:37several sittings and I Know if necessarily that affects
- 56:41numbers. But I certainly think that it
- 56:42might put people off, maybe. But then you have to ask
- 56:46yourself, like, who is listening to the podcast?
- 56:50Where are they listening? How are they listening?
- 56:52You know, you've got a long drive, it's not a problem Bobby,
- 56:56the longer, the better, you know.
- 57:00I try to aim for anywhere between an hour to an hour and a
- 57:03half. 45 minutes is like my absolute minimum if it's not, if
- 57:08it's shorter than that, I don't think it's long enough, but
- 57:10that's just my personal opinion. But yeah, I do think that you're
- 57:16going. They've got a, you got a call it
- 57:18somewhere but then again, it depends.
- 57:21You know, there's podcasts that I listened to the 3-4 hours long
- 57:25but there's a reason for that, you know, those people don't
- 57:28release content anywhere else. When they do people clamoring to
- 57:32listen to that. But then they do like Clips
- 57:34online that are like sometimes podcast length in of themselves
- 57:39like 40 minute Clips or whatever and they get more listens and
- 57:43follows those accounts, then the actual podcast does.
- 57:48So, yeah, it's interesting to me, actually my I thought that
- 57:52my Clips would take off. I thought that You know, that
- 57:55that would be like huge for me, but it's never really gotten me
- 57:58anywhere. It's gotten, I've had a few
- 58:02Clips to have had hundreds of thousands of views, luckily, but
- 58:06most of them struggled to get any views.
- 58:12The ones that are on my main accounts online get a bit more
- 58:15but I think a lot of its just passing kind of like interest
- 58:19and occasionally people will you know make comments and stuff
- 58:22like that but I don't think that those people are Necessarily
- 58:26invested in listening to a full podcast, I think they're more
- 58:28kind of like oh that's a cool clip or all that relates to me
- 58:32or whatever because it I mean it's fine that you see it, you
- 58:35see often see like podcast Clips in your timeline on various
- 58:38different platforms, don't you? And, you know, sometimes they
- 58:41can be really inspiring or sometimes, you know?
- 58:43The they might be interested. I mean, I suppose Maybe, I'm an
- 58:49exception, exception to the rule, I don't know.
- 58:51But for me sometimes if I see clips that good enough that
- 58:55really are inspiring me or make me want to listen to the full
- 58:59episode. But for instance I remember
- 59:01that's how I discovered the Diary of a CEO podcast.
- 59:04I'm not like a regular listener but I remember seeing a few
- 59:08clips of the episode with Jimmy Carr.
- 59:10And you know I'm a big fan of Jimmy cause work anyway but I
- 59:15think the interesting thing was that there were a few Clips,
- 59:20they would no longer than maybe a minute long and they were
- 59:23really inspiring and Jimmy Carr was talking in a way that was
- 59:29kind of out of character for his General Persona.
- 59:32He was being very real with himself, very bare-bones.
- 59:36Honest in on this show and I thought, well, that's
- 59:38interesting. And then I saw another clip.
- 59:41And then another, I think I saw three in total.
- 59:43And then by that point, I was sold and I had to go check out
- 59:45the episode and that's always my hope.
- 59:47When I release clips is like all maybe, you know, if I release
- 59:51these, maybe someone will see these clips be like Love the
- 59:54clips and be like, I have to go check this.
- 59:56Castel those particular episode, but it's a gamble every time.
- 1:00:03I tried to pick out the most interesting Clips, but yeah,
- 1:00:07it's all subjective. You know, I'm sure I'm doing it
- 1:00:10all on my own and I have no idea if those are the most
- 1:00:13interesting ones. I mean those, there are some
- 1:00:16that I always do like, you know, biggest life lesson, best advice
- 1:00:19I suppose. That's just part of my show in
- 1:00:21its brand, but a lot of the other Clips, you know, they're
- 1:00:24just what I think might be interesting to people listening
- 1:00:28and that's a gamble each and every time Anyway, oh gosh,
- 1:00:33we've got a few more questions left.
- 1:00:36Who are three people. You would love to ideally
- 1:00:39interviewing the future and why? Oh, gosh, I don't know.
- 1:00:43There's loads of people. I'd love to interview.
- 1:00:47So I might have to skip this question because I love having
- 1:00:51like anyone on the show as long as they're willing to have a
- 1:00:54conversation and not just try and plug themselves as long as
- 1:00:59they were invested and want to have a good conversation and
- 1:01:02want to create good content. But also, you know, kind of go
- 1:01:06with the point of the show which is to share your stories to
- 1:01:10share who you are and what you're about and, you know, to
- 1:01:13have a conversation about that and I should also add as well.
- 1:01:15It's not just people's life stories or whatever.
- 1:01:18If you've got this accounts for anyone, Thing, if you've got
- 1:01:21like a particular topic that you want to talk about bring that
- 1:01:26and we can and we can go through that because I always sit down
- 1:01:29and do lots of research heading into a show.
- 1:01:32So if it's on a specific topic that you want to talk about with
- 1:01:36me, we can make that happen, you know, so that's another element
- 1:01:40to it. But anyway, so I'm going to skip
- 1:01:42that one. So I hope you understand.
- 1:01:45Is there anything you would hesitate to ask, or never, ask a
- 1:01:48guess and why? This is a great question. so,
- 1:01:53every time I do a show, Without fail before, I'm about to
- 1:01:58record. I will ask the guest.
- 1:02:00Is there anything off limits or anything you're uncomfortable?
- 1:02:03Talking about. Now, I've already done my
- 1:02:06research on my guests. Sometimes they're more
- 1:02:10forthcoming and they give me lots of information about
- 1:02:12themselves, sometimes very personal stuff but that happens
- 1:02:15to be part of their brand like they open and they share these
- 1:02:18things but you know some of them maybe they shared it in
- 1:02:22confidence to kind of build up, an idea of who they are but
- 1:02:25maybe they don't want to talk about that stuff and other
- 1:02:28people are surprised sometimes with things they don't want to
- 1:02:30talk about, whenever I ask them that question.
- 1:02:35And it kind of goes back to what I said before about not having
- 1:02:37an agenda and not making people feel uncomfortable.
- 1:02:39I want people to feel comfortable and I want them to
- 1:02:43know that, you know, if there's particular things they don't
- 1:02:45wish to discussed either, because they're triggering or
- 1:02:48traumatic or whatever the case may be, they don't have to and
- 1:02:52we just won't go there. So I suppose the answer to the
- 1:02:57question is yes. But like I said those are the
- 1:03:01reasons. You know, it's to make my I feel
- 1:03:04comfortable and safe and you know realized that there's no
- 1:03:07agenda here and just trying to have a good time.
- 1:03:10I want them to have a good time so that's something I do.
- 1:03:15Few more questions left crikey. This is how long's this been go.
- 1:03:18Wow, we've already reached an hour.
- 1:03:19There you go. Thank you so much.
- 1:03:21Vilma, you've made this show how different would the show be.
- 1:03:26If you could interview your guests in person in a studio
- 1:03:30instead of online, what do you think this would add to the
- 1:03:32show? Well, great question, these are
- 1:03:34fantastic questions. I think the vibe might be a
- 1:03:40little bit different because it's always a bit different when
- 1:03:43you're in person because you can kind of feel the other person's
- 1:03:49Vibe, their energy, whatever. So there's that aspect to it, I
- 1:03:53feel like in some instances, maybe it just be the same in
- 1:03:58some, maybe some of the more shy, introverted guests, might
- 1:04:04not feel as comfortable if they have to.
- 1:04:08In this, you know, this studio of mine as opposed to buy in
- 1:04:11their own home. So I think that could change the
- 1:04:14types of conversations you have with people in terms of certain
- 1:04:17people, not feeling as comfortable.
- 1:04:20But in general what I think would add do I think was I had
- 1:04:24to the show, would decide to the show.
- 1:04:26I certainly do think it would again just like the sponsorship
- 1:04:30point, I think it would add reputa, booty, reputa, bility.
- 1:04:34It will make the show more reputable.
- 1:04:36I think. By having a fixed location to
- 1:04:40work from. I think it would help with
- 1:04:46finding more guests. Certainly, I think it might help
- 1:04:50with finding, quote unquote, more high-profile guests, but I
- 1:04:56think that that would be more to do with.
- 1:04:57But if I would sign a contract, let's say with like an agency or
- 1:05:02podcasting what order they call them, remember the name network
- 1:05:07is the one that that would be more as a product of that as
- 1:05:10opposed to actually just having a physical location.
- 1:05:13But you know every Big Show that you can think of has their own
- 1:05:16Studio, they just do No everyone.
- 1:05:19You know the rest in ones I listened to add actually just
- 1:05:22zoom calls but that's just by Design, you know.
- 1:05:27It's not the be-all end-all for me, it's a dream of mine but you
- 1:05:33know, it wouldn't be the be-all end-all for me, you know.
- 1:05:35I just want to keep the show going and keep growing keep
- 1:05:38persevering with it. But Yeah, I think it would add
- 1:05:44something to the show. I think it would add.
- 1:05:46As I say credibility and Just a new element, I think.
- 1:05:53But again, as I said before, because I have people from
- 1:05:55around the world, you know, you can't expect everyone to hop on
- 1:05:58a plane and come see, you know, I think the shirt a lot of the
- 1:06:00show would still be zoom and stuff like that, but certainly
- 1:06:05it, if I had like UK guests, and some based in the u.k. right now
- 1:06:12that would be interesting, maybe for them, you know, maybe that
- 1:06:16maybe some people would prefer to be in person, who knows?
- 1:06:21Is there a question you wish you could ask could have asked the
- 1:06:23guests but didn't nothing immediately comes to mind.
- 1:06:30I think there's been times when We got so caught up in, you
- 1:06:35know? The conversation that we were
- 1:06:38having that we didn't have time to ask the rest of the questions
- 1:06:40but to be honest, those are the best shows.
- 1:06:43When you just kind of throw the script out the window.
- 1:06:45And a lot of the time that is the case because that's my aim,
- 1:06:49I want to have conversations like that, I don't want to, you
- 1:06:53know, Just stick to a script. I hate that idea but sure but I
- 1:07:03don't think there's ever been anyone.
- 1:07:04Like any specific question one like oh my God that's completely
- 1:07:08ruined it. Why didn't I think of that?
- 1:07:09So as I say like if there was like a specific question, I had
- 1:07:16to ask them. I would just make that sure
- 1:07:18that's one of the first questions I ask them, you know.
- 1:07:21But yeah, I suppose I've been lucky on that front.
- 1:07:24Would you ever like to do a similar style interview show on
- 1:07:27TV the live audience or live on the radio?
- 1:07:33I could see life on the radio working.
- 1:07:36I've had a few comments over the past year or so saying that
- 1:07:39people have heard my voice and thought it would be good for
- 1:07:42radio and I was very flattered to hear that.
- 1:07:46And I would love to do radio. That would be amazing.
- 1:07:51I probably have to change a few things as far as the setup is
- 1:07:54concerned. But you know I could make it
- 1:07:56work somehow but we've TV the live audience.
- 1:08:03I think it really depends because again, the nature of it
- 1:08:06changes, you know, like I hate all these talk shows in America
- 1:08:10for example because they were all.
- 1:08:13It's just about, it's a big old farce.
- 1:08:16It's a big old, just like it's centered, It's Entertainment.
- 1:08:19It's not, they're not really there to do, like a really good
- 1:08:22interview. You know, they're just kind of
- 1:08:24mucking around. There's a few exceptions to that
- 1:08:27rule, but a lot of the time, it's just, you know, mucking
- 1:08:31around like the only person I can really think of that.
- 1:08:33Really does it. Well, do I really?
- 1:08:35Adore is Graham Norton. I think he does an excellent job
- 1:08:40because his show is kind of a mixture of all of the above.
- 1:08:43He'll ask some serious questions, he'll advertise their
- 1:08:46stuff, he'll ask him fun stuff, you'll get good stories out of
- 1:08:49them which is brilliant. That's what you want.
- 1:08:52You want to see those Stars, talking about relatable things
- 1:08:55or sharing crazy stories or showing that they're human and
- 1:08:58he gets that out of them. I mean, part of even just the
- 1:09:02physical self. Of that show is brilliant
- 1:09:04because they're on a sofa with like no armrest or anything
- 1:09:09where they kind of have to sit upright like that.
- 1:09:12So they're kind of already uncomfortable but he makes them
- 1:09:15comfortable and he gets them all involved, you know, and he
- 1:09:21doesn't like he makes it silly, but he makes sure that they feel
- 1:09:25comfortable, he makes sure that They understand that it's just
- 1:09:30fun and it's he's not mocking them, he's not trying to you
- 1:09:33know make them look ridiculous. He's just having fun and they're
- 1:09:36having fun and you know like people love to appear on the
- 1:09:38show apparently in the industry in the acting Industries and TV
- 1:09:41Industries. Like apparently they always seek
- 1:09:45to be on his show and I can see why you know, he's a fat, he's
- 1:09:49fantastic at what he does. If I could do something like
- 1:09:52that then sure. But I mean he's the master You
- 1:09:57know, demeaning and I'm a long-form guy as well like you
- 1:10:03know someone like Graham Norton is very witty and quick and
- 1:10:07that's not really me. I can sometimes do that but I'm
- 1:10:11more like, sit down, do your research compared and do like a
- 1:10:15long-form thing I think that's that's why I might be better for
- 1:10:18something like radio but you know I'm open to it.
- 1:10:21We've TV it really depends what the format would be.
- 1:10:27I'm open to it but I think it would be very different in terms
- 1:10:31of vibe from what we're doing here on the show and if I would
- 1:10:34do something like that, chances are I would keep doing the
- 1:10:37podcast separately and it just be its own thing.
- 1:10:40And then, the TV show would just be like, a highly condensed
- 1:10:45version. I don't know.
- 1:10:47I'd have to see what they were, you know?
- 1:10:49Proposing. But radio really does sound very
- 1:10:52appealing. They will be interesting to see
- 1:10:56what. Yeah, I've also thought that not
- 1:10:58just talk radio but also I love music as you guys know I'm a
- 1:11:02musician. And, you know, one of the things
- 1:11:05I've noticed that's been happening a lot, over the past
- 1:11:07two years, is when I do these Tick-Tock lives, random bands
- 1:11:11will get in touch with me and be like, hey what about this song?
- 1:11:15Would you check out this song and I'll check it?
- 1:11:17And it's always awesome and you can shine a spotlight on them
- 1:11:21and be like, hey this is a good band you can check out and
- 1:11:24sometimes I'll have, you know, people with bands on the show or
- 1:11:27members of bands to promote them and stuff.
- 1:11:29But I always listen to their music ahead of time.
- 1:11:32You know to prepare and also just because I like music and
- 1:11:36I've discovered some good bands for you that as well.
- 1:11:38So be cool to actually do like a sort of Music show that was a
- 1:11:44combination of talk radio and music.
- 1:11:48That would be almost the ultimate dream I think.
- 1:11:53But yeah. Yeah.
- 1:11:57Final question. Well, what can someone gain from
- 1:12:01listening to podcasts and why have podcasts become so popular
- 1:12:05in recent years? Gosh, well, I like to think of
- 1:12:08myself as somewhat of a podcasting historian of sorts
- 1:12:12because I've been fascinated with podcasts ever since I
- 1:12:15heard, Some of the very first ones made by Ricky Gervais and
- 1:12:21his team that I think that show. Was the show that made me want
- 1:12:27to do a podcast and that was back in the 2000s, way before I
- 1:12:31ever could have envisioned doing something like that is only
- 1:12:35really at you need that. I started actually toying with
- 1:12:37the idea, but that was the initial Inspiration Point if you
- 1:12:44like and I believe that podcasts have been dumb way before that
- 1:12:52too. But after that show then it
- 1:12:56became a huge then it became this like massive mainstream
- 1:13:00thing and suddenly everyone was doing them.
- 1:13:05I think this is okay I'll try and answer the yeah, the second
- 1:13:08part of this first thing, go back to the first part.
- 1:13:11So I think the reason why podcasts have become so popular
- 1:13:16is a combination of things. I think one it's a really easy
- 1:13:19thing to like set up, you know, you don't need much to set up a
- 1:13:23podcast, but at the same time it is a lot of hard work.
- 1:13:28But you know if you're just setting up a podcast right now,
- 1:13:32Bare Bones All you need is a mic really probably even just do it
- 1:13:37with just the bike initially, you know, that's how I started
- 1:13:42and then you go from there and you slowly get better equipment
- 1:13:44over time and you most importantly work on your content
- 1:13:48and make it better. That's at least in the podcast
- 1:13:50inside. As far as the listener viewer
- 1:13:53side. I think the It's really
- 1:13:58interesting. I think it's the same reason
- 1:14:00that audiobooks are successful as well as because not everybody
- 1:14:07is into like reading or watching videos as being like their main
- 1:14:12source of entertainment like some people for some people.
- 1:14:15It's auditory. It's, you know, hearing and I
- 1:14:19always remember that with the podcast as much as we have clips
- 1:14:22and we have a video version, most people Listen to this show,
- 1:14:27listen to the audio version. And to be honest, I've scarcely
- 1:14:30actually sat down and listened to how the show sort of sounds
- 1:14:36when it's just all auditory. I have.
- 1:14:39And it sounds normal. I mean, I hate the sound of my
- 1:14:42own voice but it sounds possible at least in the sense that like,
- 1:14:47I'm okay with it. You know, I should also explain
- 1:14:49like every time I put the show out, I'm proud of it because my
- 1:14:54guest I'm not proud of it because of me.
- 1:14:56Empowered because of the guests, I had, which means I'm have.
- 1:14:59I especially scrutinize episodes like this, which just me
- 1:15:03talking. I mean, I've been talking now
- 1:15:05for an hour and 17 minutes, that's just like, yeah, yeah.
- 1:15:15The point is, I think it's just a specific type of thing that is
- 1:15:22is appealing. It's an auditory thing.
- 1:15:25That's appealing. You know, I mean, I've listened
- 1:15:27to a lot of audiobooks over the years and that's creates a
- 1:15:30picture in your head, you know, and I think that there's
- 1:15:33something kind of comforting about listening to a podcast.
- 1:15:38Over the years, I would listen to podcasts particularly in
- 1:15:43moments where I wasn't very happy and it kind of felt like
- 1:15:46you know I had friends in the room with me and that's kind of
- 1:15:50what I've tried to recreate with this show.
- 1:15:53And why it's so laid-back, why it is just kind of bare bones
- 1:15:57and no cuts. No, it's not trying to be
- 1:15:59perfect. I'm not trying to be perfect.
- 1:16:01I don't want the show to sound perfect.
- 1:16:03I want it to sound imperfect because I want to recapture that
- 1:16:08magic that I heard all those years ago when I was listening
- 1:16:11to podcasts for the first time, you know, that kind of Imagining
- 1:16:17yourself, you know, sitting there in the room with you, the
- 1:16:21two people having the conversation, you're just
- 1:16:23listening and you're not, you're not contributing, you're just
- 1:16:25listening, I like that. I can think of so many times in
- 1:16:28my life where I've been sitting and listening to some people
- 1:16:31have a conversation and it's really interesting conversation
- 1:16:34and I'm just absorbing it. And that's what I'm trying to
- 1:16:38recreate with this. Yeah, but I hope that kind of
- 1:16:41answers may be why podcast to become popular, and I think it's
- 1:16:47just a different Medium as well. There's always going to be new
- 1:16:50mediums that come and go seems that podcast.
- 1:16:54You're a bit of a staple that have remained.
- 1:17:01Gosh, maybe maybe because there's a small money and
- 1:17:04podcasts. Maybe that's what it is.
- 1:17:06I mean, you see that the deal that Joe Rogan caught for?
- 1:17:08I think it was like 100 million. And then I've seen other
- 1:17:12podcasts, like in the UK are they Happy Hour podcast and they
- 1:17:16went from doing like a YouTube podcast where they were just
- 1:17:19talking YouTube drama to having, you know, major film stars and
- 1:17:25actors, and all sorts of musicians, on their show.
- 1:17:28So they've props to them. Once you got that money or
- 1:17:35sponsors or whatever, you know, sky's the limit as far as what
- 1:17:37you can do with the show but maybe maybe it's just that is a
- 1:17:42different type of medium that allows a lot more.
- 1:17:44There's a lot more possibilities I think with podcasts because
- 1:17:47going back to the point about interviews.
- 1:17:50You know, a lot of the time if you have like an actor appear on
- 1:17:54like a chat show, you know what to expect, you're going to get,
- 1:17:57like, maybe 10, 15 minutes of that, guest, you know, and
- 1:18:01because there's going, To be other guests on the show and you
- 1:18:03get a bit of fun from them. Maybe they're ask a few
- 1:18:05questions. They might ask one controversial
- 1:18:07question about exposed. The thing you're looking for is
- 1:18:10is anything controversial going to happen?
- 1:18:11Are they going to walk off on, you know, are they going to be
- 1:18:14annoyed by a question? Are they going to be really fun?
- 1:18:16You know, maybe that's the appeal of those shows, but as
- 1:18:19far as saying, like an actor or a musician, appearing on a
- 1:18:22podcast, I mean that's an hour, maybe two hours of uninterrupted
- 1:18:28conversation, where anything can happen, you know?
- 1:18:31And we've seen it time and time again, where people have been
- 1:18:35doing the show and it was long and an hour and a half, but like
- 1:18:39a few Clips have been taken from that and they've gone viral, you
- 1:18:42know? So so I think it's just an
- 1:18:45interesting medium that has a lot of possibilities to maybe
- 1:18:50it's that. But yeah, I don't know.
- 1:18:52And the other part, the question, what can someone
- 1:18:53gained from this new podcast? Well, A lot really.
- 1:18:58I mean, I suppose it depends on what topics you're interested in
- 1:19:02but you know If there's anything you're interested in, guess what
- 1:19:06is going to be a podcast on that topic?
- 1:19:09And I've seen a lot of interesting topics over the
- 1:19:12years that people have dedicated entire podcasts to.
- 1:19:16And I've really got some longevity out of, in some cases
- 1:19:20and it's amazing, you know, really is and I suppose tying up
- 1:19:25this episode with a bow, I mean, it's one of the reasons why I'm
- 1:19:29so enamored with podcasting, especially with my show like
- 1:19:34originally, I was just going to do a wrestling podcast and I got
- 1:19:38bad news about that, by the way, I'll save that for the end, what
- 1:19:42we are in the end in a minute. Wait, be patient.
- 1:19:48I decided instead of doing just a wrestling only podcast, I
- 1:19:52wanted to do a show where I got to talk about anything.
- 1:19:57I wanted to be able to talk about any topic, I didn't want
- 1:20:00there to be rules or restrictions and there still are
- 1:20:05a few. There's some certain topics I
- 1:20:07won't touch just because I don't want to but you know And also a
- 1:20:14big part of it, as I mentioned before, is me trying to build a
- 1:20:17story as far as I can. This is what the show is.
- 1:20:20So now that I know that it's life stories and particular
- 1:20:23topics at length in depth and stuff like that.
- 1:20:26Now, I know what to look for saying guests and also what,
- 1:20:33how, to structure my show excetera but yeah, I mean I
- 1:20:46think. With this podcast.
- 1:20:54Moving forward. I'll just keep doing what I've
- 1:20:58always done and just keep trying to learn and keep moving forward
- 1:21:03and Go. As I've been going for the past
- 1:21:09two years because I feel like the learning the lessons have
- 1:21:12come naturally. You know, it's it's they've
- 1:21:17occurred through the process of doing and that's my favorite way
- 1:21:20to learn is to just do and learn that way.
- 1:21:24Learn by living, and that's what I've done with this show and I
- 1:21:28like the fact that it's an open platform and open format that
- 1:21:33makes for a A lot of possibilities and yeah, just
- 1:21:42quick news before I tie things up for good, for this episode,
- 1:21:45The two-year anniversary of the Christian re podcast I am now as
- 1:21:51of recording this right now. Appearing, weekly on a wrestling
- 1:21:54podcast which is has also been a side dream of mine to finally be
- 1:21:59involved with the wrestling podcast.
- 1:22:01Now, I am having to catch up and all of WWE and Ew every week
- 1:22:08which and there's a lot of TV's cutout catch up with, but I'm
- 1:22:11now appearing on the against the mat podcast can find it on
- 1:22:15Spotify and not sure where else but you can find it online
- 1:22:19search against the mat podcast and I appear on it.
- 1:22:22Every single Monday, August, that's when I record it.
- 1:22:27And yeah, I have some controversial opinions,
- 1:22:31sometimes about wrestling. So if you like wrestling, then
- 1:22:35go check it out. Anyway.
- 1:22:39Bring it back to this episode 2 years wrapping a bow on this
- 1:22:43two-year anniversary podcast. Well, firstly once again,
- 1:22:48massive thank-you and shout out to Bill Maher for all these
- 1:22:52wonderful questions and for supporting the show and just
- 1:22:55being brilliant. Thank you so much means the
- 1:22:58world to me. Thank you to everyone that's
- 1:23:00ever listen to an episode of the podcast.
- 1:23:02Thank you to all the guests that have appeared on the show.
- 1:23:07Thank you, Deborah. One that supported me just in
- 1:23:09general and yeah, keep listening keep watching the podcast.
- 1:23:18The Best Is Yet To Come. Thanks for listening guys.
- 1:23:22Be safe. Be well and I'll see you in the
- 1:23:25next one.