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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: F@!k Expectations · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: The first five Minute Friday of a new season of Hurdle.
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  Speaker 1: Hey everyone, Emily Abadi popping in here with this week's installment.
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  Speaker 1: If you are new to Hurdle, welcome. If you are
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  Speaker 1: only new to five Minute Friday, welcome.
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  Speaker 2: I am happy to have your ears for the time being.
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  Speaker 1: So we are all on the same page five Minute Friday,
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  Speaker 1: I offer up a story from my week, a little
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  Speaker 1: thought prompt to send you into the weekend new to
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  Speaker 1: five Minute Friday. I'm now going to be answering one
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  Speaker 1: listener question a week here, So if you've got something
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  Speaker 1: that's on your mind that you want to know, feel
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  Speaker 1: free to shoot me those over dm over at Hurdle
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  Speaker 1: Podcasts or at Emily a Body. And then I share
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  Speaker 1: my content picks of the week, my highlights of the week,
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  Speaker 1: things that I am digging that I think that you
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  Speaker 1: should check out, and links to everything that gets mentioned
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  Speaker 1: here always can be found in the show notes to
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  Speaker 1: this episode. So if you have been following along on
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  Speaker 1: social media, then you know that last week I ran
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  Speaker 1: a mile time trial and I went into it with
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  Speaker 1: a goal of running a sub six minute mile. To
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  Speaker 1: hear exactly about how all of that went. Feel free
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  Speaker 1: to click back over to your main feed wherever you
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  Speaker 1: are listening to your podcasts and listen to this week's
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  Speaker 1: episode of Hurdle Moment, in which I talk about running
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  Speaker 1: that five fifty six mile.
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  Speaker 2: It still it still doesn't feel real.
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  Speaker 1: But what I really want to talk about in reference
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  Speaker 1: to that day for five Minute Friday this week has
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  Speaker 1: nothing to do with the mile itself, but actually about
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  Speaker 1: how over the top loved and appreciated I felt leading
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  Speaker 1: up to it, and during it and after it on
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  Speaker 1: a week by week basis. Here with Hurdle, I am
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  Speaker 1: constantly giving as much as possible as I can to
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  Speaker 1: this community. It means the world to me, and that's
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  Speaker 1: just kind of who I am. It definitely definitely carries
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  Speaker 1: over to my real relationships with my friends and my
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  Speaker 1: family because giving and acts of service, so to speak,
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  Speaker 1: that is how I show the people that I care,
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  Speaker 1: that I care about them. And it's been an interesting
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  Speaker 1: year to be such a giver because so much time
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  Speaker 1: spent alone in this apartment, I kept feeling like my
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  Speaker 1: cup was empty, Like I was sitting here and I
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  Speaker 1: was wondering, when is this going to come back to me?
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  Speaker 1: When is someone gonna just like, come take care of me,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm not really a big woe is me human?
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  Speaker 1: And because I'm not a big woe is me human,
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  Speaker 1: I knew that I needed to take matters into my
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  Speaker 1: own hands to both stave off potential disappointment and also
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  Speaker 1: just take care of myself.
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  Speaker 2: With time.
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  Speaker 1: Over the past seven months or so, I've come to
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  Speaker 1: depend less on external sources for comfort and validation, which definitely, definitely,
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  Speaker 1: definitely has not been easy. I mean, there have definitely
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  Speaker 1: been tears involved. It has been hard, like physically hurting
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  Speaker 1: in my gut when you're looking for someone to comfort you,
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  Speaker 1: but you know that like you can find this on
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  Speaker 1: your own. And it's just been tough. But through the work,
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  Speaker 1: which has included like a lot of reading and a
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  Speaker 1: lot of journaling and a lot of listening to podcasts
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  Speaker 1: and a lot of having conversations with people that I
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  Speaker 1: really trust and can and fight in. Like, through all
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  Speaker 1: of this work, what I have come to find and
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  Speaker 1: gain is that I am living with less expectation now
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  Speaker 1: and really coming from a place of gratitude period. It's
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  Speaker 1: a shift that has really enabled me truly to fully
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  Speaker 1: fully appreciate in any sense when someone shows up for
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  Speaker 1: me at all, which I feel like can be seen
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  Speaker 1: as a little bit of a letdown. Maybe that voice
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  Speaker 1: inclination is very clear that I'm unsure of how to
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  Speaker 1: paint this picture. What I'm trying to say is that
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  Speaker 1: I feel as though it's been a good thing because
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  Speaker 1: I feel as though I am just so grateful for
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  Speaker 1: what it is that I do have in my life
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  Speaker 1: right now instead of focusing on the things that I
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  Speaker 1: am without. And so Friday was one of those days
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  Speaker 1: where I was just blown away by what I do
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  Speaker 1: have in my life. And it's even better because the
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  Speaker 1: mile for me was first and foremost about me showing
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  Speaker 1: up for myself, me prioritizing my goals, doing the things
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  Speaker 1: that I want to do, taking like a fair amount
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  Speaker 1: of opportunity cost to make it happen, and like the
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  Speaker 1: mile of course athletically was the culmination of a lot
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  Speaker 1: of effort and work, but also for me emotionally, it
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  Speaker 1: was the culmination of a lot of effort and personal work.
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  Speaker 1: And the mile for me was me being able to
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  Speaker 1: witness what happens when I take the time to invest
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  Speaker 1: and focus on myself.
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  Speaker 2: So the fact.
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  Speaker 1: That that good feeling was coupled with like what felt
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  Speaker 1: as though things kind of falling into place with how
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  Speaker 1: they should be in my relationships, and watching people show
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  Speaker 1: up for me because they knew how important this was
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  Speaker 1: for me, and for me not to expect that to
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  Speaker 1: happen but instead be so just overwhelmed in the best
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  Speaker 1: way possible by feeling so loved it.
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  Speaker 2: It's hard to put into words.
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  Speaker 1: The event for me that day triggered more meaningful conversations
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  Speaker 1: with some people in my life, some of which I've
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  Speaker 1: been talking to regularly in twenty twenty, some who I
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  Speaker 1: have not.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, I'm literally.
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  Speaker 1: Saying that this day prompted more positive interactions for me
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  Speaker 1: than like my birthday in June, and I was thinking
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  Speaker 1: a lot about this. I went after the mile with
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  Speaker 1: two girlfriends of mine to like this cute cafe on
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  Speaker 1: Clinton Street in the Lower East Side, and we are
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  Speaker 1: sitting there and I was sipping coffee, and I was
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  Speaker 1: talking all about this and getting really emotional, because when
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  Speaker 1: you get to a place where you stop expecting people
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  Speaker 1: to show up for you, and then people show up
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  Speaker 1: for you, it's it's awesome.
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  Speaker 2: It's so awesome.
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  Speaker 1: And I just felt so unbelievably and awesomely connected to
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  Speaker 1: myself and my goals, but also to the people that
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  Speaker 1: I care about. In a year that has just been
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  Speaker 1: so full of change and shifts, people coming and going
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  Speaker 1: like Friday felt like a genuine gift.
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  Speaker 2: And it made my cup feel really full.
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  Speaker 1: I prompt for you this week, when was the last
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  Speaker 1: time you made it a point to show up for
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  Speaker 1: someone you care about? Again, when was the last time
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  Speaker 1: you made a point to show up for someone you
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  Speaker 1: care about? Before I share the question of the week
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  Speaker 1: and the highlights of the week, I do want to
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  Speaker 1: choose one sneaker for your runs, what would it be?
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  Speaker 1: This one actually came in from a few different people,
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  Speaker 1: so thank you for this one. You know, that's a
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  Speaker 1: hard question to answer, As you know, I've got a
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  Speaker 1: ton of sneakers. If I had to choose one that
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  Speaker 1: I would lean into for like both every day running
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  Speaker 1: tempo running track workouts, I'd probably have to go Nike
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  Speaker 1: more this year, and especially I really like the thirty
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  Speaker 2: And I would say the only.
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  Speaker 1: Time I might change this answer is in my long
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  Speaker 1: run when I'm looking for just a little bit more
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  Speaker 1: cushion throughout the whole shoe. So for the long run,
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  Speaker 1: I would go either Nike Vomero or New Balance ten
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  Speaker 1: and doorphin pro this year. Highlights of the week and
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  Speaker 1: again a links to all of this goodness in the
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  Speaker 1: show notes. First off, check out Pizza to the polls
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  Speaker 1: is a thing I wish I was the person that
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  Speaker 1: made this up. There's literally a website that you can
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  Speaker 1: go to and send a pizza to individuals waiting in
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  Speaker 2: It's brilliant.
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  Speaker 1: Next listen Born or Made by my good friend Michael Cherannell.
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  Speaker 1: I'm chatting with Chernell this week on his podcast called
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  Speaker 1: Born or Made, and we're talking all about the nitty gritty,
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  Speaker 1: really digging in to my upbringing and really digging in
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  Speaker 1: to my personal weight loss journey. I get a lot
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  Speaker 1: of messages about this on the regular, asking me about particulars,
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  Speaker 1: and we dive into a lot of those particulars in
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  Speaker 1: this episode. I think it's a really great and valuable conversation,
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  Speaker 1: and I hope that you guys like it as well.
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  Speaker 1: He's also had a lot of really awesome, awesome guests
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  Speaker 1: on the pod. I would suggest, outside of this week's episode,
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  Speaker 1: listen to my good friend Nick Dio.
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  Speaker 2: You will love it.
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  Speaker 1: Next up by Make America Green Again baseball hat from
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  Speaker 2: This is also great.
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  Speaker 1: and water, and keeping our wild places wild by snagging
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  Speaker 1: yourself one of these great hats last but not leased
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  Speaker 1: this week. I do want to shout out that this
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  Speaker 1: month for the Hurdle book Club, we're reading Untamed by
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  Speaker 1: Glennon Doyle and book club is next week on October
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  Speaker 1: twentieth at eight pm. So if you want to get
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  Speaker 1: in the discussion, please click into the show notes join
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  Speaker 1: using that link. It's going to be a really nice
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  Speaker 1: time and I can guarantee you that I will be
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  Speaker 1: showing up with a nice glass of wine. Hope everyone
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  Speaker 1: has some good plans on deck for their weekend. Thanks
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  Speaker 1: as always for being a part of my community, for
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  Speaker 1: being a hurdler, and if you like what you're listening to,
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  Speaker 1: don't forget to head on into the iTunes store to
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  Speaker 1: rate and review the show at Hurdle Podcast at Emily
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  Speaker 1: a Body, Another Hurdle Conquered.
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  Speaker 2: Catch you guys next time, ye