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- Lucas: So we've talked a lot about Nero's mother Agrippina, his wife Poppaea, even Britannicus. But there's one figure who often gets overlooked — Octavia, his first wife. Daughter of Claudius, stepdaughter of Agrippina, and arguably the most tragic casualty of Nero's early reign. Luna: I don't think we've ever really focused on her. What happened? Lucas: Octavia was Claudius's daughter by his third wife Messalina. She was born around 39 or 40 AD, and when Claudius married Agrippina in 49, the deal included Nero marrying Octavia. They wed in 53, when he was 16 and she was about 13. It was a political match from the start, and by most accounts, Nero disliked her intensely. Luna: Was it because she was connected to Agrippina? Lucas: That's part of it. Octavia was the living link to Claudius, and Agrippina used that connection to bolster her own influence. But after Nero came to power, he quickly fell for Poppaea Sabina — a beautiful, ambitious noblewoman who'd already been married to the future emperor Otho. Poppaea wanted to be empress, and she pushed Nero to set Octavia aside. Lucas: The problem was that divorcing Octavia wasn't just a personal matter — it was a political act. Octavia was popular with the people and with the Praetorian Guard. Nero needed a pretext. So in 62, after the death of his advisor Burrus, he first tried to accuse Octavia of infertility. When that didn't stick, he escalated. Luna: He accused her of adultery, didn't he? Lucas: Exactly. Tacitus gives us the most detailed account. Nero first had Octavia banished to Campania under house arrest, but that wasn't enough for Poppaea. So he needed a confession. He turned to a man named Anicetus — the same guy who had helped him kill Agrippina. Anicetus was the prefect of the fleet at Misenum, and Nero promised him a reward if he confessed to having an affair with Octavia. Lucas: Anicetus agreed. He publicly admitted to seducing Octavia — a ridiculous charge, since Octavia was known for her virtue. But Nero used it to divorce her and banish her to the island of Pandateria — a grim, rocky place where many imperial exiles were sent. That was in June of 62. Luna: And the people of Rome rioted, didn't they? Lucas: They did. Tacitus describes massive public demonstrations. Crowds marched through the streets, toppling statues of Poppaea and carrying statues of Octavia on their shoulders, showering them with flowers. They chanted for Octavia's return. Nero was genuinely shaken — he even considered recalling her for a moment. Luna: But Poppaea wouldn't allow that. Lucas: No. Poppaea reportedly begged Nero not to relent, and she convinced him that the riots were a sign of disloyalty. So Nero ordered Octavia's execution. She was only about 22 years old. The historian Cassius Dio says her veins were opened, and she bled to death in a scalding bath — a standard Roman suicide method, but forced. Her head was then cut off and sent to Poppaea as proof. Lucas: It's a brutal story, but it's also revealing about how Nero governed after Burrus died. Without Seneca and Burrus to restrain him, Nero's marriage to Poppaea marked a shift toward more autocratic rule. Octavia's death was the first time Nero directly killed a member of his own family — besides Britannicus and Agrippina — and it showed that no one was safe, not even a popular, innocent woman. Luna: And yet Octavia was remembered as a martyr, right? There were rumors that Nero regretted it later. Lucas: Suetonius says that Nero was haunted by nightmares after Octavia's death. And in the later years of his reign, when things went badly, popular memory of Octavia resurfaced. She became a symbol of the good old days under Claudius, before Nero's excesses. In a way, her story is a lens through which we can see the unraveling of Nero's early promise. Luna: It's amazing how much of this hinges on personal relationships — Agrippina, Poppaea, Octavia — all these women shaping imperial politics. Lucas: Absolutely. And that's what makes Octavia's story so important. She wasn't a player — she was a pawn. But her death marks a turning point. After 62, Nero's reign becomes darker, more paranoid. The Pisonian conspiracy is just three years away. Luna: I'm glad we finally gave her an episode. She deserves to be remembered. Lucas: She does. And you know, it's because of listeners like you that we can dig into these lesser-known figures. It takes time to research and produce these deep dives, and honestly, the show is funded entirely by a small group of listeners who chip in monthly through buy me a coffee dot com slash fexingo. No ads, no corporate backing — just people who care about history. It makes a real difference. Luna: Yeah, it's a small community but it keeps the podcast independent. And it lets us cover stories like Octavia's that often get skipped. Lucas: Exactly. So if you've been enjoying the show, consider joining them. It helps us keep going. Anyway, back to Octavia — her story also ties into the broader pattern of how Roman emperors treated their wives. Compared to later emperors like Domitian, who executed his wife's lover, Nero's actions were extreme, but not unprecedented. Luna: So what happened to Poppaea in the end? Lucas: That's a story for another episode, but suffice to say, she didn't escape tragedy either. But for now, I think we've given Octavia her due.