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Speaker 1: This is the kind of verse we skip over in
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our reading plans. It's not embroidered on pillows or etched
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onto kitchen wall art. It's the kind of verse that
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makes us uncomfortable, the kind we explain away, or worse,
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ignore entirely. But Jesus didn't stutter, and he wasn't joking.
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Wait what Jesus, the one who taught us to love
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our enemies, just told us to hate our families. This
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wasn't a metaphor. This was a line in the sand.
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At the height of his popularity, when the crowds were
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swelling and the miracles were stirring hope, Jesus turned around
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and said something that sounded more like a rebuke than
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a welcome. He didn't say follow me and I'll make
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your life better. He said follow me, and you'll lose
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everything unless you love me more than everything. He knew
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the crowd was excited, but excitement doesn't equal commitment. So
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he pressed through the emotion down to the foundation. And
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the foundation was this, I must be first. I must
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be everything, or I am nothing at all. In a
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world where loyalty is divided and comfort is king, Jesus
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confronts Us with a command so raw, so jarring, we
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almost can't believe he said it. Hate your family, hate
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your own life, take up your cross. But that's the
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cost of discipleship. Not a casual interest, not a part
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time belief, but a full consuming allegiance that dares to say,
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even if I lose everything, I will not lose you.
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By the end of this you won't just understand what
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Jesus meant by those shocking words. You'll understand why the
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cross doesn't just cost something, it costs everything. Before we
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go any further, if you've ever wrestled with this passage,
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or if you've ever had to choose between pleasing people
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the word alive. Now back to the words that still
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confront the church. He cannot be my disciple. Let's find
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out what Jesus really meant. The crowd was massive, hearts
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were swelling with hope. Some had seen the miracles, lepers heeled,
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demons cast out, bread multiplied. Others had only heard the rumors,
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but that was enough. They came with curiosity, they came
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with excitement, They came with expectations, and Jesus turned around
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and thinned the crowd with one sentence. Now large crowds
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were taveling with Jesus, and turning to them, he said
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Luke fourteen twenty five. He didn't say welcome, he didn't
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say I'm so glad you're here. He said something so
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soul cutting. It scattered the false followers before they ever
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reached the cross, because Jesus wasn't collecting fans. He was
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calling disciples, and disciples don't follow for miracles, they follow
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into death. Luke fourteen doesn't open with a parable or
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a healing. It opens with Jesus looking into the eyes
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of people who loved the idea of him, but not
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the cost of him. People who wanted his gifts but
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not his cross. And that's why he didn't flatter them.
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He sifted them. He always does. You can almost feel
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the tension in the air as he spoke. No one
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expected the first words out of his mouth to be
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about hating your family, bearing your cross, and giving up everything.
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It wasn't a seek a friendly message. It was a
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line drawn in fire. Because Jesus wasn't moved by numbers,
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he wasn't impressed by enthusiasm. He knew the crowd would
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shrink once the message got real, so he got real
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right away, and he still does because he's not looking
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for emotional crowds. He's searching for surrendered hearts, people who
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follow even when it cost them comfort, reputation, relationships, everything.
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The crowd wanted a king, Jesus offered them across and
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many turned back. So we have to ask, are we
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still following because of what he gives? Or have we
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surrendered to who he is no matter what it costs.
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Because in the end, Jesus wasn't pushing people away to
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be cruel. He was showing them the door to life.
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But that door is narrow, and it's only found when
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we're willing to leave everything else behind. He knew the
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crowd would follow him to a feast, but would they
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follow him to a hill called Golgotha? Would we The
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word still catches us off God hate If any one
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comes to me and does not hate his father, mother, wife, children.
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In English, that's emotional violence, but in the mouth of
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Jesus it was a holy comparison. The Greek word used
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here is missao. Missao. Yes, it can mean hatred, but
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in Semitic usage, especially in ancient Jewish contexts, it often
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carried a broader meaning to love less, to renounce as second,
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to prioritize something else above. Jesus isn't commanding resentment, his
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demanding allegiance. This wasn't the first time God spoke like this.
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In Genesis, God says he loved Jacob but hated Heesare
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Malachi one to Romans nine thirteen. Was that bitterness, No,
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it was covenantal preference, election priority in the redemptive plan.
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In Matthew ten thirty seven, Jesus uses the same principle
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with different words. Whoever loves father or mother more than
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me is not worthy of me. Same message, softer language,
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but Luke's version forces us to feel the weight. Jesus
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knew what he was doing. He said it in the
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most jarring way possible, not to provoke disrespect, but to
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shock us out of sentimentality. Because discipleship doesn't just reorder
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our behaviors, it reorders our loves. He's not saying feel hatred.
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He's saying, choose me first, even when it tears your
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heart in half. In a culture where family ties were sacred,
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where honoring parents wasn't just tradition, but torah, Jesus steps
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in and says, even that loyalty bows to me. This
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is about spiritual gravity. Every relationship orbits arounds us. Thing
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Jesus is saying, let it orbit around me. Even your
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deepest bonds must yield to a deeper call. So when
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he says hate, he's not contradicting the command to honor
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your father and mother. He's revealing that ultimate honor belongs
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to one. And that's what makes this verse so powerful
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and so misunderstood. Jesus isn't calling us to cruelty. He's
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calling us to clarity, to know that no love, even
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the purest human love, can come before him, because when
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he's not first, he's not Lord. And if he's not Lord,
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we're not really following. It was, by all accounts, the
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most offensive sermon Jesus ever preached, not because he attacked sinners,
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but because he exposed devotion. He stood before a crowd
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of hopeful followers, not critics, not pharisees, but people who
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wanted to be near him, and he told them they
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weren't ready. If any one comes to me and does
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not hate his father and mother, wife and children, brothers
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and sisters, yes, even his own life, he cannot be
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my disciple. No parable, no healing, no gentle invitation, ad
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just a knife to the heart of cultural security. Jesus
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didn't just challenge family loyalty. He placed himself above it,
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and to a first century Jew that was either blasphemy
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or the voice of God. But he doesn't stop there.
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Whoever does not bear his own cross and come after
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me cannot be my disciple. This was before Calvary, before
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crucifixion became a Christian symbol. In that moment, the word
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cross didn't mean redemption. It meant shame, torture, a criminal's death.
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March Jesus was telling the crowd, if you're not willing
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to be publicly humiliated, misunderstood, disowned and destroyed for me,
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don't pretend your following. He wasn't thinning the crowd, he
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was purifying it. Why because the kingdom doesn't need fans,
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it needs martyrs. This is the offense of Luke fourteine
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that Jesus Christ, the Prince of Peace, demands such radical
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allegiance that no earthly tie, no personal identity, no natural
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love can rival it. Even good things become idols when
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they take his place. The offense wasn't just emotional, It
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was theological. Jesus is forcing the question is your deepest
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loyalty to me? Or to comfort, to family, to self preservation?
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In a world where faith is often tailored to fit convenience,
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Jesus stands as the immovable standard. He doesn't say come
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when you're ready. He says, come and die, and only
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in that death is real life found. He didn't preach
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this to be cruel. He preached it because nothing short
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of total surrender can handle the weight of the cross
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he offers. So yes, it was offensive, but only to
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what must be crucified in us, and in that crucifixion
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we find the kingdom. It wasn't a metaphor, it wasn't
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a parable, It wasn't poetry. When Jesus said, whoever does
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not carry his own cross and come after me cannot
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be my disciple. The crowd didn't nod in spiritual agreement.
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They shuddered. They'd seen it, a man bent under the
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weight of timber, dragging his own death through the streets.
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The cross meant one thing public humiliation, agony, and execution,
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no survivor, no comeback, no half way version. And Jesus said,
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that's the road I'm calling you to. Long before his
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hands were pierced, long before Rome nailed him to a tree,
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Jesus told his followers what true allegion would require death,
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not theoretical, not poetic, personal. The cross wasn't just his calling,
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It's ours. This wasn't about being a good person. This
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wasn't about quiet devotion or Sunday only religion. This was
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and still is a call to die, to pride, to comfort,
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and to reputation, to self rule. Every day you rise
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to follow Jesus is a day you choose the altar
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over applause, the nails, over the nods of culture. You
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choose to carry something the world will never applaud, your
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own surrender. This is what Jesus meant. Not just carry
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the cross, but your cross, your battles, your obedience, your sacrifice,
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your willingness to say not my will but yours. Because
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in God's kingdom. Crucifixion precedes resurrection, and there is no
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crown without a cross. So ask yourself, what still live
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in you that needs to die? What comfort have you
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mistaken for calling? What identity have you preserved instead of
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placing on the altar? Because Jesus didn't come to make
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us safe, He came to make us holy, and holiness
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doesn't grow in comfort zones. It grows in gardens of surrender,
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where sweat becomes blood and the answer is still yes, Father.
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just further. It's one of Satan's subtlest strategies. Take something
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good and make it ultimate. And nowhere does that tactic
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strike morequietly, more deeply than in our relationships, especially family.
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If anyone comes to me and does not hate his
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father and mother, Jesus wasn't slandering love he was exposing idolatry,
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because sometimes the most dangerous idols wear familiar faces. A
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parent whose opinion outranks God's voice, a spouse whose comfort
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matters more than Christ's call, a child whose happiness becomes
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your highest mission, even above holiness. It doesn't start as rebellion.
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It starts as protection, affection, justification, rapt in love. But
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love that leads us away from God, even slowly, isn't
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love anymore. It's control. We exalt their needs and fears
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above God's direction. We delay obedience for the sake of peace.
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We silence conviction so we won't offend, And we tell
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ourselves God never ask me to choose, but he already has,
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not because he's cruel, but because he's worthy. And because
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you cannot walk in resurrection power while dragging dead loyalties
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behind you. Jesus said, I did not come to bring
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peace but a sword, A sword that severs allegiance to anything,
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even family, that demands first place in your heart. And
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here's the hardest truth. If Christ isn't above your relationships,
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he's beneath them. And the one who died for you
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will not share his throne. So ask yourself has the
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voice of someone you love replaced the whisper of the spirit,
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as loyalty to people outweighed surrender to Christ. This isn't
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about abandonment. It's about alignment. It's about being so anchored
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in Jesus that no one, not even those you love most,
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can pull you off course, because in the end, the
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people you love most will only find life if you
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stay faithful to the giver of it. Let the idols fall,
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even the beautiful ones, because only one love saves. He
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didn't whisper it. He declared it. Do not think I
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have come to bring peace to the earth. I have
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not come to bring peace but a sword Matthew ten
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thirty four. This from the one the angels called the
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Prince of peace. This from the Savior, born into the
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world with a song of peace on earth, goodwill to men.
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So why the sword? Because Jesus knew something we often forget.
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Truth doesn't unify everyone, and it exposes, it confronts, and yes,
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it divides. He wasn't talking about violence. He was talking
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about allegiance and the moment your allegiance to Jesus comes
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into conflict with someone else's desires, preferences, or beliefs. The
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sword is drawn, Jesus said, plainly, I have come to
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set a man and against his father, a daughter against
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her mother, not because he delights in division, but because
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loyalty to truth will always cost something. In a world
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that demands compromise in the name of peace, Christ demands
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clarity in the name of holiness, and that clarity cuts.
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It cuts through cultural expectations, it cuts through generational traditions.
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It even cuts through the expectations of the people you
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love most. Because the moment you say Jesus comes first,
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you may lose someone who expected to come first. Whoever
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loves father or mother more than me is not worthy
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of me. Jesus said. It sounds cruel, but it's the
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kindest clarity God could give, because when eternity is on
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the line, Jesus will never be content with second place.
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The Gospel isn't a family value, It's a dividing line.
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And here's the tension. Sometimes following Jesus will cost you
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the relationship you hope to protect, but not following him
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will cost you your soul. So don't be shocked when
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you're Yes to Christ is met with resistance. Don't be
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surprised when truth offends those you thought would cheer you on.
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This sword was never hidden, it was always promised, But
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so was the reward. Whoever finds his life will lose it,
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and whoever loses his life for my sake will find it.
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Matthew ten thirty nine. Cling to Christ, let him be
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your peace even in the storm of division, because in
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the end, he's not just worth family tension. He's worth everything.
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Jesus didn't stop with family. He turned the sword inward.
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If any one comes to me and does not hate
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even his own life, he cannot be my disciple. Luke
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fourteen twenty six. This is where the crowd goes quiet,
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because it's one thing to lose others, it's another to
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lose yourself. Jesus doesn't just ask for our loyalty to
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outweigh our love for family. He asks for it to
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outweigh our love for self preservation. And that confronts everything
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in us, your ambitions, your plans, your reputation and your comfort,
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your preferences, your version of success, even that must bow.
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We live in a world that says find yourself, and
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Jesus says deny yourself. The culture says be true to
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your desires, Jesus says, take up your cross. There's no
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room for ego on the road to Calvary, no space
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for entitlement at the foot of the cross. And yet
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that's exactly what discipleship requires. To lay down not just
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what you have, but who you are, to stop protecting
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the parts of you that don't want to change, to
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crucify not just sin, but even self will. This is
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the surrender that strips away your image, your security, your
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carefully crafted identity, and says Jesus, you alone define me.
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Some people will gladly give up comfort, money, or status,
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but not themselves. They'll serve, but only as long as
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it doesn't touch their ambitions. They'll follow, but only as
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long as they don't have to change direction. But Jesus
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didn't say modify your life for me. He said lose it.
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And that's where resurrection begins, because the moment you release
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your grip on the version of life you built, you
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make room for the life he died to give you.
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It's painful, it's costly, but it's not punishment. It's the
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path to freedom. When you die to yourself, you don't
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become less alive. You become fully alive in him. So
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if the spirit is stirring something in you to day,
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a part of you that's been fighting surrender, holding on
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to the last word, clinging to the throne of your
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own heart. Let go. Don't just follow Jesus when it's easy,
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follow him when it costs everything, because on the other
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side of that cross is the only kind of life
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that never ends. Jesus wasn't looking for impulsive followers, he
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was sifting for surrendered ones. In Luke fourteen twenty eight
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to thirty three, he doesn't close his call with a
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song or an altar invitation. He gives two parables, one
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about a man building a tower and another about a
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king going to war, and in both the message is
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the same. Count the cost. Why, because Jesus doesn't want
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your emotions, he wants your everything. Suppose one of you
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wants to build a tower, he says, won't you first
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sit down and estimate the cost to see if you
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have enough money to complete it? Luke fourteen twenty eight.
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This isn't about brick and mortar, It's about your soul.
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The man lays the found but runs out of material.
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The structure never finishes, and what does Jesus say happens,
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everyone who sees it will ridicule him. The point is clear.
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Starting is easy, Finishing takes sacrifice. Then Jesus gives the
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second parable. A king with ten thousand troops realizes he's
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up against an army of twenty thousand, and again he counts,
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he calculates, he humbles himself, and if he sees he
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can't win, he seeks peace while he still can. In
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both parables, Jesus shatters the idea that discipleship is based
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on impulse, that you can say yes to him in
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a moment of passion without living that yes every single
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day after, because salvation is free, but discipleship that will
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cost you everything. You can't build a life on Jesus
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half way. You can't fight the enemy while still negotiating
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with the flesh. You can't be a follower who never
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fully followed. Jesus isn't looking for casual admirers. He's calling
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for calculated abandon so he ends it bluntly in Luke
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fourteen thirty three. In the same way, those of you
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who do not give up everything you have cannot be
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my disciples. No exceptions, no loopholes, no fine print. This
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isn't a guilt trip. It's grace that tells the truth.
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Because if you don't count the cost at the beginning,
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you'll collapse in the middle. If you don't lay everything
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down now, you'll hold something back later. So what about you?
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What tower are you trying to build in his name
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without counting what it takes to finish? What battle are
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you in but still hoping to win it on your
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own strength? The way of the cross is narrow, but
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it's not confusing. Jesus made it painfully clear because he
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loves us enough not to let us follow on false terms.
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Stop and count, not to see what you're losing, but
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to see if you've truly surrendered. Jesus didn't end his
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sermon with comfort. He ended it with a warning. Salt
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is good, he said, But if salt has lost its flavor,
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how can it be made salty again? It is fit
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neither for the soil nor for the manure pile. It
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is thrown out Luke fourteen thirty four to thirty five.
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Thrown out. Let that settle because Jesus had just finished
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talking about radical surrender, hating family, carrying your cross, giving
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up everything, and now he's not shifting tone, he's pressing deeper.
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He's saying, if you're going to follow me, you can't
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be flavorless. Salt in the ancient world was more than seasoning.
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It was a preservative. It kept things from decaying. It purified,
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It was valuable, essential symbolic of covenant and purity. But
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that lost its saltiness. It had no purpose, no power,
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no place. Jesus isn't just giving a chemistry lesson. He's
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drawing a line between those who follow him with full
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hearted devotion and those who say yes with their mouth
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but never surrender their life. A half disciple is like
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flavorless salt. They might still show up to church, still
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wear the name, still blend in among the crowd, but
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when the heat rises, there's nothing left, no fire, no preservation,
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no distinction. They've lost their flavor. This is the danger
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of casual Christianity, of saying Lord Lord but never laying
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down control, of treating Jesus as a weak end teacher,
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not a risen king. Jesus doesn't need more cultural followers.
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He's calling for holy ones. He's not impressed by attendants.
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He's searching for allegiance. And when we lose our distinctiveness.
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When we stop living like those set apart by the gospel.
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We're not just ineffective. According to Jesus, we're unusable. That's
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not condemnation. That's clarity. Because discipleship isn't half way. It's
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all or nothing, cross or comfort, surrender or self flavor
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or firewood. Jesus ends with one final phrase, he who
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has ears to hear, let him hear why because most won't.
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They'll read this and still think the cost is optional.
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They'll hear the words and still follow half way. But
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you don't have to. You can be salt that still burns.
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You can be the disciple that doesn't walk away. You
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can carry the cross that leads to life. The question
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is will you or will you sit in the crowd
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and slowly lose your flavor. You can't follow Jesus half way.
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That's the unspoken message many churches never preach. He doesn't
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ask to be first among many. He asks to be
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everything Luke fourteen, and doesn't let us hide behind safe
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faith or sentimental religion. It confronts us, It exposes us,
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because Jesus didn't just come to be included in our lives.
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He came to redefine them entirely. If any one comes
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to me and does not hate his father, mother, wife, children,
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even his own life, he cannot be my disciple. Those
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aren't metaphors. The measurements, not measurements of affection, but of allegiance,
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the kind that says, if I lose my family's approval,
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I'll still follow you. If it cost me comfort, I'll
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still carry the cross. If the sword of truth divides
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my circle, I will still stand with you. Jesus, This
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is the cost of the kingdom, and Jesus never hid
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it because he knew only those willing to lose everything
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for him would ever truly find him. So what stands
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in the way for you? Family? Expectation, what dream, what
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need to please or be accepted? This is the moment
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where you count the cost. This is where you let
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go of lesser loves so you can love him fully.
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Let's pray, Father in Heaven. We come to you with
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trembling hearts because we've loved you, but not always. Above all,
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we've followed you, but sometimes from a distance. We've sung
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your name but stayed quiet when our families or friends
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didn't understand. Forgive us, Lord, for half hearted surrender for
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divided loyalties, for keeping one hand on the plow and
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the other clutching the past to night. We release every
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lesser love, not to dishonor but to obey, not to hate,
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but to choose you, even when it hurts. Jesus, you
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carried a cross for us, Now teach us to carry ours.
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You left heaven for us. Now give us the strength
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to walk away from anything that competes with you. Let
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our lives burn with single hearted devotion. Let the world
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see disciples, not fans, not lukewarm, not half way, but
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holy yours. No more excuses, no more emotional loopholes. You
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are not a part of our lives. You are our life,
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and we surrender not just our sins, but our preferences,
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