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Almost Famous OGs: Exes and Ohs with Estella Gardinier · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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Speaker 1: This is the almost famous podcast with her radio. All Right,
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Speaker 1: you ready for this? I am ready, Yes, almost famous,
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Speaker 1: the o G s. We're back, We're We're back in
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Speaker 1: the saddle. Now. We weren't gone. We just happened to
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Speaker 1: be in a couple of different locations where we did
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Speaker 1: some stuff and some things and we both had really fun,
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Speaker 1: really fun interviews. I know, I wish they could have
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Speaker 1: been together, but it was. I did have a great
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Speaker 1: time talking to Jesse, and I know you had fun
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Speaker 1: talking to Zach and playing some golf, and I just
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Speaker 1: couldn't make it. The kid's schedules, I think I can't remember,
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Speaker 1: but it was. I think it was a dance competition,
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Speaker 1: which is my life right now. Um, all good, no complaints,
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Speaker 1: but I wish I could fit it all in, you know,
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Speaker 1: you know it was. It was actually kind of a
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Speaker 1: weird circumstance that made the whole thing happen for me.
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Speaker 1: So originally we were supposed to go to l A
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Speaker 1: for the holidays Odyssey, Kanyon's family and the boys both
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Speaker 1: got sick, so we ended up pushing that trip to
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Speaker 1: the middle of January, which sunk up perfectly with you know,
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Speaker 1: going back and forth and actually being able to go
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Speaker 1: to Carmel for a couple of days because I was
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Speaker 1: already in l A. So it was actually a flight
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Speaker 1: and UM had a great conversation with Zach the current Bachelor,
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Speaker 1: who really really nice guy, and then UM also got
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Speaker 1: to hang out with Clayton, the previous Bachelor and get
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Speaker 1: to know him a little bit and uh, and then
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Speaker 1: some of the usual suspects were there too, which was
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Speaker 1: a lot of fun. And yeah, it was. It was
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Speaker 1: a really good week, really a really good week, you
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Speaker 1: know there and I and I actually really loved it
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Speaker 1: and I loved that area. I mean, I'm a big
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Speaker 1: fan of Monterey, so yeah, I'm jealous. Did you get
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Speaker 1: to meet Ashley and Jared's huty pie little boy? I
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Speaker 1: did not know, I think after I had already left
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Speaker 1: to go home, so got it. Yeah, we had to
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Speaker 1: get back, okay anymore, he's really cute though, Dawson is
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Speaker 1: so cute, doble. But yeah, so there was a really
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Speaker 1: fun time. We were there for the you know, the
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Speaker 1: Pebble Beach celebrity pro am thing and that was really
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Speaker 1: it's like a bucket list item. So I got to
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Speaker 1: watch Wells smack the ball around a little bit and
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Speaker 1: we had It's just a great time. So but I'm
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Speaker 1: really excited about today too because I had to reconnect
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Speaker 1: with someone from from my past. In fact, our guest
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Speaker 1: today is a Stella Gardener, Stella Rene Gardener, who was
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Speaker 1: the Final Ladies Standing on my season of The Bachelor,
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Speaker 1: Final Ladies Standing. That that's so funny because I remember,
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Speaker 1: I mean, Estella could attest to this. They you know,
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Speaker 1: back then as we as we referred too many times,
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Speaker 1: but it wasn't like if you had a personality and
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Speaker 1: you said things that didn't exactly fit the script. A
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Speaker 1: lot of that stuff was kind of left on the
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Speaker 1: cutting room floor. And I'll never forget it. Standing in
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Speaker 1: front of those ladies and you know, it's night one
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Speaker 1: and they're thirty ladies in the room and I've got,
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Speaker 1: you know, I don't remember, maybe fifteen roses or something,
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Speaker 1: and I remember literally saying to them, those of you
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Speaker 1: who go home tonight, you're welcome, because this is a mess.
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Speaker 1: Like whoever actually gets to stay. I feel really, you know,
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Speaker 1: I feel like I should almost like like this rose
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Speaker 1: should come with an apology. Um, But but it was
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Speaker 1: so much fun and the person if he had a
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Speaker 1: high Estella we're just talking about. I was just to say,
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Speaker 1: if there was a first impression rose back then, which
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Speaker 1: we really didn't have that like it wasn't like you know,
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Speaker 1: but Estella would have definitely gotten it because she came
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Speaker 1: out of a limo with such you know, obviously studyingly beautiful,
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Speaker 1: but comes out in the limit with just this great
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Speaker 1: energy and um, you know, it was so fun and
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Speaker 1: just like literally was almost like one of those people
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Speaker 1: that I would like be looking for because she was
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Speaker 1: so like like a calming presence on what was pretty
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Speaker 1: much a zoo of a night. You know, my mom
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Speaker 1: shows up randomly, and you know, all sorts of other
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Speaker 1: craziness ensues. But I remember, like there were times when
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Speaker 1: I look around the room and be like, oh, there's
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Speaker 1: a Stella, you know, and I start to walk towards her,
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Speaker 1: and all of a sudden I get grabbed by you know,
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Speaker 1: Sally and or someone. Okay, we're going this way. I'd
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Speaker 1: be like, I hope I was gonna go say Hi, No,
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Speaker 1: you already talked to her. You talked to her for
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Speaker 1: like five minutes. Pomp. You know that's good, Like we
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Speaker 1: get it. She's getting a rounds. We know that. Okay,
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Speaker 1: moving on, let's go, you know, and that was kind
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Speaker 1: of a crazy night, but it stuff coming on the show.
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Speaker 1: You're welcome, How are you? Thanks very kind. I'm a
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Speaker 1: good and I didn't know it's going to be a video,
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Speaker 1: but hey, well you look beautiful. You look beautiful. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: thank you. And honestly it's only pushed out to social
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Speaker 1: so it's it's you know, oh no, I'm I just
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Speaker 1: do little stories up all the time anyway, so I'm
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Speaker 1: sure it comes with the job. So okay, I have
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Speaker 1: to get the elephant out of the room, right out
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Speaker 1: the gate. Have you guys talked in you know, I
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Speaker 1: guess any twenty years almost right? How long is it?
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Speaker 1: I would love to know if you guys have talked.
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Speaker 1: I'll answer that questions I already say yes we have,
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Speaker 1: of course, but I'll let us all answer that. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: we have, we've talked many, we've gotten we've we've talked,
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Speaker 1: we've gotten together and uh, you know, it was such
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Speaker 1: a crazy time in our life and we had just
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Speaker 1: such a really beautiful connection and it was like such
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Speaker 1: a crazy experience. And you know, with all of that,
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Speaker 1: that world can be a little crazy. Sometimes, and I
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Speaker 1: think there were some challenges after the show was done.
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Speaker 1: And then you know, of course, um Bob married someone
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Speaker 1: else and oh yeah that that happened. Oh yeah, that happened.
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Speaker 1: Uh yeah, but he was you know, he was so wonderful.
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Speaker 1: You reached down and he just was like, hey, I
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Speaker 1: just wanna just a lot of integrity that I want
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Speaker 1: to apologize to you for anything I did that ma'am
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Speaker 1: hurt you. And that was really I thought, and pretty empy.
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Speaker 1: It's very sweet of you to say that I loved
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Speaker 1: I loved our experience together, and let's talk about something else.
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Speaker 1: I also really loved your mom. I loved your mom,
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Speaker 1: and I know she just passed and I'm so sorry.
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Speaker 1: And she was such a lovely word. It's so interesting
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Speaker 1: when we talk about the show, and I always I mean,
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Speaker 1: you know, I when I tell stories about oh then
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Speaker 1: we did this and we did that. I always love
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Speaker 1: to talk about Estella's mom because she was so fantastic,
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Speaker 1: like such an incredible person. And I remember sitting in
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Speaker 1: a Stella's beautiful apartment and you know, and and she
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Speaker 1: and her mom were having like some conversations where they
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Speaker 1: were signing, and I was like sitting there kind of going, Okay,
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Speaker 1: I'm not I'm not understanding exactly what's going on there,
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Speaker 1: but you know, it was so passionate between them, and
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Speaker 1: the connection was such that it was like beautiful. It
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Speaker 1: was almost like you know, I mean, I really do
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Speaker 1: mean this. It was like listening to someone speak in
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Speaker 1: another language and thinking, oh my god, that's such a
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Speaker 1: beautiful language and that you know. But I was watching
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Speaker 1: the two of them talk and I was like, I wish,
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Speaker 1: I wish I would have learned sign language, and I
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Speaker 1: wish I knew this because it looks beautiful the way
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Speaker 1: that they're communicating with one another. And it was just
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Speaker 1: a nice we were we were actually behind the scenes
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Speaker 1: and my mom, do not say this, do not say that.
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Speaker 1: It was such a handy drift. And all the producers
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Speaker 1: were like, you guys have to stop signing there, like
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Speaker 1: this is not good TV guys because they're signing. I'm like,
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Speaker 1: it was pretty funny, but yeah, you I know, your
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Speaker 1: mom just passed away, and I'm so sorry, and and
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Speaker 1: I mean, she was just so lovely. She was just
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Speaker 1: the very most important person in my life. And I
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Speaker 1: appreciate you saying that she loved being on the show,
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Speaker 1: and she loved meeting at you and loved meeting Oprah.
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Speaker 1: Uh it was just such a great time for her.
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Speaker 1: And uh, yeah, I really appreciate you, um, you know,
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Speaker 1: sharing that because she really just was such a special
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Speaker 1: human and um, it's very hard to see her go.
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Speaker 1: And um, but Bob, and the same thing as with
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Speaker 1: your father. Your father was an incredible man. And I
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Speaker 1: was so heartbroken when you when you had to share
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Speaker 1: that he had passed. And so yeah, you know, your
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Speaker 1: family was everything. And I remember enough to share something
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Speaker 1: when we were on our the hometown date. It was
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Speaker 1: so sweet because it was just my mom and I. Um,
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Speaker 1: it was always just my mom and and we did
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Speaker 1: everything together. And Bob and Norah both they looked at
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Speaker 1: me and they said, we would be so happy to
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Speaker 1: have you part of our family. For you to bring
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Speaker 1: your mom, and we would love to be with you
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Speaker 1: and your mom and you guys will be part of
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Speaker 1: our family. Yeah. I can't believe I've never been out
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Speaker 1: a call with two of my ex girlfriends at the
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Speaker 1: same time. This is crazy. Yes, you have so how
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Speaker 1: is life we I know that you recently got married.
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Speaker 1: How is married life treating you? Oh I love it.
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Speaker 1: I love it so much, and you know it took
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Speaker 1: me obviously a lot longer than anyone else, but it
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Speaker 1: was worth it. That's okay. Yes, you know I I
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Speaker 1: always um knew that from me, like I want to
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Speaker 1: I want to be married once, not that it. You know,
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Speaker 1: some people are married a couple of times, so that's
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Speaker 1: but some people in this call that's me more than twice. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: you know, for me, I wanted to get married a
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Speaker 1: bunch and then uh is my dream of a little
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Speaker 1: black like you mean, I want to do that? And
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Speaker 1: then for me, you know, I always you know, but
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Speaker 1: enough about me? Yes, so you well, I think guys,
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Speaker 1: do you need to go through a marriage or two
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Speaker 1: before they before you get somewhere the hero? But now
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Speaker 1: he um, I you know, wait, he's just amazing. I
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Speaker 1: just love being married to him. He's my best friend,
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Speaker 1: we're business partners, we do everything, I mean where you
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Speaker 1: just do life together and he's just an extraordinary man
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Speaker 1: and he um just he just loves me so incredibly. Well,
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Speaker 1: it's amazing and I just love him so much. So
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Speaker 1: it's really really lovely. Your posts are beautiful. I feel
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Speaker 1: like you're like like the two of you together. Like,
10:49
Speaker 1: I'm really bad at posting things, so like I never
10:52
Speaker 1: think that anything is being conveyed through my messaging other
10:55
Speaker 1: than the fact that I really must love my kids. Uh.
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Speaker 1: But every time you guys post anything, it's like, oh
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Speaker 1: my god, they're so someone love. This is so awesome.
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Speaker 1: And then you started a new business. Can you mentioned
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Speaker 1: you guys are business partners in that too. You've got
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Speaker 1: so much going on. Yeah, yeah, so we UM. We
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Speaker 1: started UM last April. We've we've only been open almost
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Speaker 1: a year. And I just I've been teaching for a
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Speaker 1: long time. So I've been a health and wellness coach
11:21
Speaker 1: for a very long time. And I was teaching lagree,
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Speaker 1: which is what I what my studio is. It's a workout.
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Speaker 1: It's like a pilates and strength training workout, and I've
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Speaker 1: been teaching that for fifteen years. Yeah, and I love
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Speaker 1: the workout. I've always loved the workout and UM and
11:36
Speaker 1: so I started learning about infrared and the health benefits
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Speaker 1: of infrared and obviously for brain health, it is one
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Speaker 1: of them. And my mom, I don't know a trust
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Speaker 1: if you knew that my mom passed away, she at alzheimer,
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Speaker 1: So she's so brain health UM is a focus of
11:52
Speaker 1: mine and has been on the Certified Brain Health Coach,
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Speaker 1: and my husband's mom also has it, so UM, I
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Speaker 1: just knew the benfits of it. I wanted to bring
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Speaker 1: it into the workout. I wanted us to have a
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Speaker 1: place that wasn't just a workout because I've been working
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Speaker 1: out for so long. I wanted something that was also
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Speaker 1: focused on recovery and healing your body. So it's been
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Speaker 1: really cool. I mean, no one's done it, So this
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Speaker 1: is where the you know, I put the studio together
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Speaker 1: with my husband and I wasn't sure how people were gonna,
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Speaker 1: you know, really take it. I mean a lot of
12:21
Speaker 1: people surprisingly don't know about infrared and the health benefits
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Speaker 1: of it, and so I just was I wasn't quite
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Speaker 1: sure how people would respond, but I knew it's something
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Speaker 1: that I wanted to do and it's just been a
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Speaker 1: huge blessing and people love it. They love the workouts.
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Speaker 1: We have infrared saunas, which Trista, I think you guys,
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Speaker 1: I think Ryan, we have one. Yeah, I was. I
12:42
Speaker 1: was actually just going to ask you tell me more
12:44
Speaker 1: because we have one in our house. Because of friend's diagnosis,
12:49
Speaker 1: with lyme disease. And are you doing like you're saying
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Speaker 1: infrared but doing the workouts? Are you working out while
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Speaker 1: you're in the sauna or how do you or is
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Speaker 1: it something that you have people get in afterwards? Yeah,
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Speaker 1: So we actually have good infrared. We have one spectrum
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Speaker 1: of infrared over the workout the machine, and we have
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Speaker 1: red light also over the machine. And then and then
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Speaker 1: we have we have separate sauna room. So after they
13:18
Speaker 1: do the workout, sometimes before because it actually helps give
13:21
Speaker 1: your energy for your workout, they will go in a
13:23
Speaker 1: sauna and do a do a sauna that is so cool?
13:28
Speaker 1: Do you does it? Um? Because obviously ours is in
13:31
Speaker 1: a like a sauna I feel like is an enclosed space.
13:35
Speaker 1: So since you have it above and in front of
13:38
Speaker 1: or wherever, does it not dissipate and or is it
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Speaker 1: still effective it's still infect just the range of where
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Speaker 1: it is. It's not as kind of training as the
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Speaker 1: saunas are. The sauna as I call them like little
13:52
Speaker 1: healing machines. I mean they're going to punish a lot
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Speaker 1: deeper the ones above the machine and how we have
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Speaker 1: it for the workout, it's gonna heat your core temperature
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Speaker 1: up a lot quick, or you're gonna burn more calories
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Speaker 1: than you would a normal degree workout. It HAPs with recovery,
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Speaker 1: it helps with muscles um sleep. People feel like they're
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Speaker 1: sleeping better since they started doing the workout. It's more surface, right,
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Speaker 1: It's not as kind of trading as the saunas are.
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Speaker 1: Where can people go to find more information on your studios?
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Speaker 1: Agree l A g R E read r E d
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Speaker 1: so lagree is the workout read obviously and for red
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Speaker 1: so lagree red dot com. And then we're on Instagram
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Speaker 1: and Facebook, and and I saw your post. I saw
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Speaker 1: the post you had with all of the instructors at
14:38
Speaker 1: your studio and everything. That was really you've got a
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Speaker 1: lot of people on board. That's a cool crew. I
14:43
Speaker 1: mean people or something like that. There's a ton of people. Oh,
14:47
Speaker 1: I love my instructors, you guys. I have just the
14:50
Speaker 1: most beautiful team. They're just they always step up. Everyone
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Speaker 1: cares about the clients. And and then we're in Carl's
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Speaker 1: Bad and the community. We're like by the beach, so
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Speaker 1: I think, let me buy the beach. I think people
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Speaker 1: are really friendly, Yeah, they're happy, Yeah, awesome community. And
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Speaker 1: my husband and I always talk like we just feel
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Speaker 1: so grateful. Just it's been a blessing. And I think
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Speaker 1: when you're intention and in business and in life is
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Speaker 1: just how can we be of service? How can we
15:24
Speaker 1: when you have that intention? Like the world just gives
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Speaker 1: you that right back? You know, absolutely? I love that.
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Speaker 1: Now let's talk about how you guys met, because I
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Speaker 1: think it's pretty cool. Uh you know, I've always it's
15:38
Speaker 1: kind of interesting after being on the show like The
15:41
Speaker 1: Bachelor and the Bachelorette. Um, it's kind of funny because
15:44
Speaker 1: people will always be like, you know, oh well you
15:46
Speaker 1: probably you know you've already done something crazy, so you
15:49
Speaker 1: would never do online dating? And I was like, you know,
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Speaker 1: I wouldn't personally I didn't have to, I guess, but
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Speaker 1: I would have. I mean, I just kept marrying everybody
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Speaker 1: I met, but getting kidding an um, but I should work,
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Speaker 1: you know, keep trying this three times. But for me,
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Speaker 1: I was the only person you get married, That's right.
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Speaker 1: I I let you let you avoid that pain. I
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Speaker 1: let you both ought of that out of that pain.
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Speaker 1: Um Sella, do you remember? So I was telling Trista
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Speaker 1: before you came on that I I was like, you know,
16:24
Speaker 1: the show was so different back then, obviously, and so
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Speaker 1: a lot more formulaic. We all know that to be true. Now,
16:29
Speaker 1: it's like sometimes just craziness ensues and they let it happen.
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Speaker 1: But I remember back then. I remember having like fifteen
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Speaker 1: flowers and thirty ladies, and I remember giving a speech
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Speaker 1: that I thought was awesome and I'm like, oh, this
16:42
Speaker 1: is definitely gonna make it. And I basically ended it
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Speaker 1: with for those of you who do not get a
16:47
Speaker 1: roast tonight, you're welcome because this is crazy or something.
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Speaker 1: And I remember, you remember everyone laughed and I was like, oh,
16:54
Speaker 1: that was so good. You know, they never used it
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Speaker 1: the good night. I'm like, oh no that. Do you
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Speaker 1: remember the other blooper where um where I had a
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Speaker 1: rose and I was nervous, right, So I was like,
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Speaker 1: you know, I'm holding my my rose and I'm like okay,
17:10
Speaker 1: you know, and they they're like, you know, giving me
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Speaker 1: the signal from behind, and so I'm like waiting and waiting,
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Speaker 1: and then they give me another and I'm like Debbie
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Speaker 1: and it was I don't know what name I said,
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Speaker 1: but the top of the rose flew off. Do you
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Speaker 1: remember that? And I don't know what to do because
17:26
Speaker 1: it's just like literally one of my first like five roses,
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Speaker 1: and I'm like, oh, and so I just sort of
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Speaker 1: held it there, you know, with my stem in my hand,
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Speaker 1: and she comes walking up because she doesn't know what
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Speaker 1: to do either, and they haven't stopped us. And I'm like, Debbie,
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Speaker 1: will you accept this stem? And she's like like it
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Speaker 1: goes back, and they're like, okay, this is when this
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Speaker 1: is when I really realized the reality TV wasn't super reality.
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Speaker 1: And they're like, we're going to start that over Get
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Speaker 1: Fresh Rose, you know, the whole bit. But that was
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Speaker 1: pretty funny. I'm glad. So going back to how you met,
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Speaker 1: tell us this story of how you were open to
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Speaker 1: the Bachelor obviously, and that probably aligned with how you
18:07
Speaker 1: were open to how you met your husband's would tell
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Speaker 1: us the well, I was open to the Bachelor, but
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Speaker 1: I wasn't open to match dot Com. You weren't, no.
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Speaker 1: I Well, so you know when I when I did
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Speaker 1: The Bachelor, I was so young and back I was seven,
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Speaker 1: and I think when you're twenty seven, we'll at least
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Speaker 1: at that. For me, I didn't really like think about like, oh,
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Speaker 1: the consequences are, what could happen or getting heard or
18:31
Speaker 1: any of that kind of because you're still young and
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Speaker 1: you know, you don't really think about those things. And
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Speaker 1: so I was way more open to The Bachelor, and
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Speaker 1: and actually it was I ended up doing I know,
18:41
Speaker 1: the Bachelor, like they usually take about six months and
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Speaker 1: how when they they interviewed the girls, and it's such
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Speaker 1: a really long process, and for me, it happened within
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Speaker 1: a couple of weeks. So they had already picked all
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Speaker 1: the girls, they had already had everyone picked out, and
18:57
Speaker 1: just so happened that one of my girlfriends had submitted
18:59
Speaker 1: my short but little short application they had online and
19:03
Speaker 1: they had forgotten to take Bob down. They forgot to
19:05
Speaker 1: take the whole application down, and it mind just happened
19:08
Speaker 1: to get through. And so they're like, well, she's a
19:11
Speaker 1: mortgage broker, she's dark hair, um, she lives in l A.
19:18
Speaker 1: Let's just meet her. And so it actually it happened
19:22
Speaker 1: so quick. They called me the very next day and
19:24
Speaker 1: then everything they sent me to the psychologists, which I'm
19:28
Speaker 1: so surprised I was even on this show because I
19:31
Speaker 1: totally failed that test and I have no idea how
19:33
Speaker 1: I was able to go when they show you fail
19:35
Speaker 1: that test? How can you fail that test? Do you
19:38
Speaker 1: know who they have on the show, like, not you,
19:41
Speaker 1: but the other people? How can you fail that test?
19:44
Speaker 1: I think the people who fail to have on the
19:46
Speaker 1: show's good. No, I'm joking though, but it was. It
19:53
Speaker 1: didn't happen so quickly. And I remember my mom giving
19:56
Speaker 1: me advice about it, because you know, I think if
19:59
Speaker 1: I would have had a lot more time to think
20:00
Speaker 1: about it, I wouldn't have done this show. If I
20:02
Speaker 1: would have had that six months to be able to
20:04
Speaker 1: bell out, yeah, I would have freaked myself out probably.
20:07
Speaker 1: But my mom, she said, honey, I called my mom.
20:10
Speaker 1: She was the only person I called. She said, honey, Um,
20:14
Speaker 1: just go on, just be yourself and just you know,
20:17
Speaker 1: let it, let the cards fall where they may. And
20:20
Speaker 1: that's what I did. And um, And so the show
20:23
Speaker 1: The Bachelor was way more open to UM. But then
20:27
Speaker 1: dating online I was not open to. I did not
20:31
Speaker 1: want to do it. That's why I hired a coach, um.
20:34
Speaker 1: And she said, oh yeah, oh yeah, I hired in
20:38
Speaker 1: a very expensive dating coach. She was worth every funny
20:45
Speaker 1: And did she tell you to go on match? Yeah,
20:48
Speaker 1: well that was part of it. She's like, at the
20:50
Speaker 1: end of this, you're gonna go on match and I'm
20:52
Speaker 1: gonna I'm gonna help you with the whole. But first
20:54
Speaker 1: she works on like whatever is blocking your heart from
20:58
Speaker 1: wanting to have a long because obviously, you know, I
21:01
Speaker 1: had done all the work that I thought I could
21:04
Speaker 1: do on myself to you know, relate, to to bring
21:07
Speaker 1: someone into my life. As far as internally, I always
21:10
Speaker 1: worked on myself, like how can I be a better
21:12
Speaker 1: version of myself? But she really was amazing. I mean
21:15
Speaker 1: she discovered like that my heart was still blocked and
21:18
Speaker 1: from you know, obviously we all get hurt, and you
21:21
Speaker 1: know I had lost from who was it blocked from. Sorry,
21:24
Speaker 1: I think correcting this tacting my friend Trista. Thanks buddy,
21:38
Speaker 1: I'm just kidding. I mean, I love that he reached
21:41
Speaker 1: out to you and you know said I'm sorry if
21:43
Speaker 1: I ever hurt you, Like I love that, Bob. I
21:46
Speaker 1: just you know, I'm his friend. I gotta give him
21:48
Speaker 1: some you know, I love it. That takes a lot
21:51
Speaker 1: of courage, It takes it's a lot of integrity, and
21:55
Speaker 1: I think, you know because at the end of the day,
21:57
Speaker 1: like this is life. You know, you go through life.
22:01
Speaker 1: You you meet people, you fall love, and then you
22:04
Speaker 1: fall out of love or you know, whatever it may be.
22:06
Speaker 1: And Bob and I were meant to do that period
22:09
Speaker 1: of time together, but we weren't meant to be life partners,
22:13
Speaker 1: you know. And I think, you know, I think when
22:15
Speaker 1: you can come around and if you've done something that
22:18
Speaker 1: you're not fully um, that you're not aligned with, and
22:21
Speaker 1: you can say I'm sorry for that, I think that
22:23
Speaker 1: that just goes a long way. I think to be
22:25
Speaker 1: able to look somebody and I and just say, you
22:27
Speaker 1: know what, I'm sorry, I'm sorry I hurt you, and
22:30
Speaker 1: a lot of people have a hard time doing that,
22:32
Speaker 1: and it just cleans everything up. It just agree, it's
22:36
Speaker 1: what I want my kids to be. Helps that you're
22:38
Speaker 1: such a forgiving person to for you know what I mean.
22:40
Speaker 1: Like also, Estella was open to that type of a
22:43
Speaker 1: conversation as opposed to you know, something might not be
22:46
Speaker 1: so you know, that's very kind of you too. But
22:49
Speaker 1: so you you get this coach, and the coach teaches
22:52
Speaker 1: you how to open up and be ready and then
22:54
Speaker 1: you can together your profile or what's next. So then
22:58
Speaker 1: she like wants to know you have to write a
23:00
Speaker 1: profile for your match dot Com. And it was so
23:03
Speaker 1: funny because she said, look, if you do this program
23:06
Speaker 1: exactly the way I tell you to do it, and
23:08
Speaker 1: exactly the way I tell you to do it, everything
23:10
Speaker 1: I tell you to do, you do. I promise you
23:12
Speaker 1: you'll meet your partner that it's like an amazing partner
23:15
Speaker 1: for life. And so when I got to the match
23:17
Speaker 1: dot Com, I'm like and then she's like, then the profile.
23:23
Speaker 1: You have to write this profile and it's long, and
23:26
Speaker 1: it's this story, and it's like this whole because she
23:29
Speaker 1: actually works with like very she's worked with all these
23:31
Speaker 1: different like you know, profile writers, and I mean it's
23:34
Speaker 1: a pretty extensive program. And they say to do it
23:37
Speaker 1: a certain way, like write it as a story so
23:39
Speaker 1: that men are very visual and they need to they
23:42
Speaker 1: see themselves in your life, So write a story and
23:44
Speaker 1: how they can fit in your life. And it's so
23:47
Speaker 1: long and very vulnerable. And I am living in San Diego.
23:51
Speaker 1: I know everybody in San Diego because I grew up
23:53
Speaker 1: here and I think business here and I'm like, oh,
23:57
Speaker 1: please don't make me do this. This is so whole.
24:00
Speaker 1: Plus you know, just it was so vulnerable and exposing,
24:04
Speaker 1: and I just went against my ego. I went against
24:07
Speaker 1: like wanting to look good and not let anybody like
24:10
Speaker 1: know any of my personal said and I just did
24:13
Speaker 1: it and it was funny. I had so I have
24:15
Speaker 1: girlfriends that have gone on Match, and she's like, I
24:18
Speaker 1: just don't get a lot of hits. When when I
24:19
Speaker 1: put my profile and I told about my profile, she
24:21
Speaker 1: was like, no, don't do that. That's awful. It's so embarrassing.
24:25
Speaker 1: And I literally had hundreds of people reaching out to
24:29
Speaker 1: me when I put the profile up, and they were like,
24:31
Speaker 1: best profile ever read? My husband really, oh yeah, And
24:35
Speaker 1: my husband was like, that was hands down the best
24:37
Speaker 1: profile I've ever read. He's like, I felt like I
24:39
Speaker 1: had so much to talk to you about because you've
24:42
Speaker 1: just given all this information and and so it was
24:45
Speaker 1: really cute. So what she I did it exactly the
24:48
Speaker 1: way she said it, and it worked and we actually
24:51
Speaker 1: we actually met and started dating pretty quickly, so I
24:54
Speaker 1: wasn't I didn't have to be on Match very long.
24:56
Speaker 1: So that was a good theory. Good the first time
25:00
Speaker 1: you guys got together, were you just like, Okay, this
25:02
Speaker 1: this guy is exactly who I'm looking for. Yeah, I
25:05
Speaker 1: mean pretty much. I didn't Actually he's so funny. He'll
25:09
Speaker 1: tell you I put him through the ringer. I didn't
25:12
Speaker 1: like go on actual date we had, He'll say I had.
25:15
Speaker 1: We had like five phone calls, five face time dates,
25:18
Speaker 1: and then I finally went on like a one physical
25:20
Speaker 1: date with him and we went on a hike. He
25:21
Speaker 1: wanted to go to dinner. I'm like, let's you want
25:23
Speaker 1: to hike? But but yeah, when I when I met him,
25:29
Speaker 1: and well, I remember we did our first face time
25:31
Speaker 1: and he was so charming and we both very much.
25:35
Speaker 1: We were we like to grow and learn, and we're
25:38
Speaker 1: both spiritual and God it's a big part of our lives.
25:41
Speaker 1: And so we talked a lot about that on our
25:44
Speaker 1: our first face time and I knew, okay, this guy
25:46
Speaker 1: is something special. And we went on a hike and
25:50
Speaker 1: he reached over and he grabbed my hand and then
25:52
Speaker 1: I felt the butterflies. Sorry, that's awesome. I'm so happy
25:57
Speaker 1: for you. M h Okay, I want to know do
26:10
Speaker 1: you still watch the show? And has your husband watched
26:13
Speaker 1: your season? Okay, so it's really funny. So my husband
26:20
Speaker 1: his his daughter, my stepdaughter, who's adorable and sweet. Um
26:23
Speaker 1: he has two kids, so um, he has a daughter
26:26
Speaker 1: and a son, and so my husband was like, oh,
26:29
Speaker 1: you're on the Bachelor, and then like two years was
26:33
Speaker 1: this early on? Was this okay? Got it? Well? He
26:38
Speaker 1: he learned because he googled me and he's like, oh,
26:41
Speaker 1: of course, of course, I'm like okay. And then his
26:47
Speaker 1: daughter was like, my dad is a super fan. He
26:50
Speaker 1: loves the Bachelor. Oh that she totally called him out.
26:56
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, it's like, yeah, what is that? How
27:05
Speaker 1: old was she when you guys met? So she's twenty four,
27:09
Speaker 1: so she was one twenty two? Just got it? Yeah,
27:14
Speaker 1: so she knew and had she watched your season? Um? No, no,
27:19
Speaker 1: and I won't. Let's just watch your season. I'm like
27:25
Speaker 1: absolutely not, No, no, did he did? He watched it
27:30
Speaker 1: since he's a super faned he watched it back in
27:32
Speaker 1: the day and just doesn't remember or skipped that one
27:35
Speaker 1: or god, okay, he saw it. But his daughter was like,
27:40
Speaker 1: yes you did, how funny? Or if you watched my
27:46
Speaker 1: wedding because you guys were at my wedding, Yeah, yes,
27:55
Speaker 1: thank you. You watch your weddings. Like, do you guys
27:58
Speaker 1: ever sit down in your anniversary and throw that on
28:01
Speaker 1: because it's so beautiful? I mean it was like, you're
28:04
Speaker 1: the sweetest. Um no, I We've watched uh a little bit,
28:10
Speaker 1: you know, clips here and there, but definitely it's not
28:14
Speaker 1: like a tradition or anything. Maybe we should maybe at
28:18
Speaker 1: twenty years, which is December, we'll do that. We'll start
28:22
Speaker 1: doing that December. I love it. It's crazy crazy, I
28:30
Speaker 1: mean really that is. I cannot believe the show has
28:33
Speaker 1: been on for so long, right, yeah, right, crazy? Yeah.
28:37
Speaker 1: Did you watch it before you were on Bob season? Oh? Yeah,
28:41
Speaker 1: oh yeah, and I actually knew. I like obviously watched
28:45
Speaker 1: Bob and you and Um I had gone through a
28:48
Speaker 1: breakup and my girlfriends were They're like, oh my god,
28:51
Speaker 1: Bob's the Bachelor. Oh actually, I kind of remember that
28:55
Speaker 1: that you actually liked Bob and wanted to be on
28:58
Speaker 1: his show if he was. Yes, that true. I had
29:01
Speaker 1: a huge crush on him and I was. I was
29:04
Speaker 1: dating my boyfriend at the time, and we would watch
29:07
Speaker 1: The Bachelor and I'm like, oh, he's so funny, like
29:15
Speaker 1: doing letting him Go. We had honestly, like I remember,
29:20
Speaker 1: you know, like I mean I always say this, but
29:23
Speaker 1: it was it was really interesting for me because I
29:26
Speaker 1: really knew after that first night like I was like, Wow,
29:29
Speaker 1: these Stella and Kelly Joe actually stuck out to me
29:32
Speaker 1: more than anybody else. And it's almost like you feel
29:35
Speaker 1: bad saying that because it's like, you know, you're you're
29:39
Speaker 1: trying to remain with an open heart and everything, and
29:42
Speaker 1: I really was, but I remember it would always just
29:44
Speaker 1: come back to and I would like, literally, like I
29:46
Speaker 1: said before, I remember we went on a water date.
29:49
Speaker 1: Do you remember that a Stella went to a water park?
29:54
Speaker 1: And I felt really bad because the whole time I
29:58
Speaker 1: was just hanging out with a Stella. I'm like, you know,
30:02
Speaker 1: we'd be walking away from like, you know, the Truro
30:04
Speaker 1: stand together, you know, hey, let's get it a yeah,
30:06
Speaker 1: And you know I felt bad, like, oh, that's why
30:09
Speaker 1: I'm supposed to be how a to date with you
30:10
Speaker 1: know these other four ladies as well. I gotta you
30:12
Speaker 1: know my situation right here, But it was I think
30:16
Speaker 1: that's really hard to do. That's really hard to do, though,
30:19
Speaker 1: Like if you're feeling somebody, then spend time with them.
30:21
Speaker 1: I feel like, if any if there's any advice to
30:24
Speaker 1: give to the people on the show, especially the leads,
30:27
Speaker 1: if you are wanting to spend time with someone then
30:30
Speaker 1: spend time with them. It's your share, right. Well, now
30:33
Speaker 1: it's so like we said, now it's so different. Now
30:35
Speaker 1: you can do that now. I think they you know,
30:36
Speaker 1: they'll be on a group date and they're like, I'm
30:38
Speaker 1: just gonna take this lady over here and talk to
30:40
Speaker 1: her for an hour and everyone's like okay, you know
30:43
Speaker 1: where back then it was like, you know, it does
30:46
Speaker 1: cause drama. It does cause drama. So um Like, especially nowadays,
30:51
Speaker 1: it causes drama because of course, I'm sure there's a
30:54
Speaker 1: little mix of the producers backs, you know, behind the
30:57
Speaker 1: scenes going oh, how do you feel about being with
31:00
Speaker 1: a stilla that entire time? You know? Oh yeah, yeah,
31:08
Speaker 1: for sure. Do you watch the show now? Is Stella? Yeah?
31:11
Speaker 1: My my husband and I will watch it, um not
31:15
Speaker 1: as regularly, but like this season we're not we're not
31:18
Speaker 1: watching it as much, but we'll watch it. When we
31:20
Speaker 1: first started dating, I thought I never I actually stopped
31:23
Speaker 1: watching it for a long time, and then when we
31:25
Speaker 1: got together we started watching it. And it's fun. It's
31:28
Speaker 1: like really fun to watch with him. And my husband's
31:30
Speaker 1: like a total romantic. That's why he loves to watch.
31:33
Speaker 1: He's just an absolute romantic. And um and he and
31:38
Speaker 1: it's cute and I love him and I love watching
31:40
Speaker 1: it with him, and I have my own commentary. And
31:43
Speaker 1: I was gonna ask you had any actually right here?
31:47
Speaker 1: You know insight? Yeah. Mine's mostly like oh stop, yes, right, well,
32:04
Speaker 1: at least we know we got we gottah. You know,
32:06
Speaker 1: you you found somebody with the same you know, aligned
32:09
Speaker 1: to the same way. You're both romantics and spiritual and
32:13
Speaker 1: you know, into the whole thing. And man, if you
32:14
Speaker 1: can watch The Bachelor together, I think that really that
32:17
Speaker 1: goes next level. My my wife and I we uh
32:20
Speaker 1: we watch Real Housewives together and I act like I
32:23
Speaker 1: don't like it, and I'd be like I can't believe
32:25
Speaker 1: you're watching this. And then I'll be like what did
32:28
Speaker 1: Davinda just say? And she's like, how do you know
32:29
Speaker 1: their names? I'm like, oh, I can't get him to
32:34
Speaker 1: watch Real Housewives with me. He's like, I will not.
32:36
Speaker 1: He's like, that's the only one I will not watch them.
32:39
Speaker 1: Like it's tough. It's tough because I find myself getting
32:43
Speaker 1: roped in. I'm like, oh god, I am into this thing,
32:46
Speaker 1: damn it. But it's so good, so good, so bad
32:52
Speaker 1: that it's so good. Well, it has been amazing talking
32:57
Speaker 1: to you with Sella. I'm so glad that you have
33:00
Speaker 1: and find some time for us. I'm really sorry about
33:02
Speaker 1: your mom. I'm really happy for your your marriage and
33:07
Speaker 1: your business. And thank you for sharing all those tips.
33:10
Speaker 1: Um and yeah, thanks for coming. It was great too.
33:15
Speaker 1: I am so glad I got to see you again
33:18
Speaker 1: and chat with you, and thank you so much for
33:20
Speaker 1: having me on and and I just appreciate you guys,
33:24
Speaker 1: and I appreciate you chatting me up and make sure
33:29
Speaker 1: you reached out if you want any information about but girl,
33:32
Speaker 1: get in your sauna four days a week. I am
33:36
Speaker 1: going to do that. You should. They're amazing chicken, so
33:41
Speaker 1: I could use and I can use all the help
33:43
Speaker 1: I can get you to have kids. It's it's a
33:48
Speaker 1: first of all, it's a really good idea. I advise
33:50
Speaker 1: it to chasing them around. I could use a little
33:54
Speaker 1: sauna action for sure. But so great to connect with
33:57
Speaker 1: you again. We love you and uh you know, think
34:00
Speaker 1: about you, and so happy for you and your business
34:02
Speaker 1: and your husband. Please tell him we all say hello
34:04
Speaker 1: and so happy to thank you you guys, have an
34:08
Speaker 1: awesome day and maybe we'll chat soon. Thanks, isn't that nice.
34:18
Speaker 1: I love that she's so sweet. I mean, seriously, I
34:22
Speaker 1: know she was, you know, forgive me for giving you,
34:25
Speaker 1: but I have to do that. I'm kind of you
34:27
Speaker 1: have to, yeah, but um, I love that you guys
34:33
Speaker 1: can just you know, very any hurt feelings. It seems
34:37
Speaker 1: like she did that a very long time ago, went
34:40
Speaker 1: after he called her, especially so I was always the
34:44
Speaker 1: big thing about a style, and I was I mean,
34:46
Speaker 1: we didn't get a chance to get into it. But
34:48
Speaker 1: you know, back in those days, it was tough because
34:51
Speaker 1: I remember we finished filming in uh July July, and
34:57
Speaker 1: then we had to do that whole for aid for
35:01
Speaker 1: for the next five months. You did five months. We
35:04
Speaker 1: did five months. Yeah, because yeah, they extended my season
35:11
Speaker 1: um that year, so that so that it was only
35:13
Speaker 1: like a week off before your wedding, and so they
35:17
Speaker 1: pushed to my wedding. Oh I'm sorry. It was not
35:20
Speaker 1: your fault. They wanted it for sweeps week. They told me.
35:24
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, that's cool. I didn't even know what
35:26
Speaker 1: that was. I'm like, god, I love sweeps. But it
35:28
Speaker 1: was they you know, it was one of those things.
35:30
Speaker 1: And so it was just a really long time to
35:32
Speaker 1: be on that kind of you know, the thing, and
35:36
Speaker 1: then and then life just gets in the way, and unfortunately,
35:39
Speaker 1: you know, it was just one of those things where
35:40
Speaker 1: you don't know each other that well to begin with,
35:43
Speaker 1: then have that kind of distance for that kind of
35:45
Speaker 1: a period of time. But I remember, you know, my
35:47
Speaker 1: big thing with her was I was just gonna be
35:49
Speaker 1: really honest and and she was very she was very
35:52
Speaker 1: open to that, which was really nice because I could say,
35:55
Speaker 1: you know, look, I just feel this, this and this,
35:57
Speaker 1: and it wasn't like I was, you know, in the
35:59
Speaker 1: ink fish and over it. It It was kind of like
36:02
Speaker 1: you know, and so it makes you be more open,
36:04
Speaker 1: and you know, and she's she's just she's so sweet.
36:08
Speaker 1: I'm so happy for her, you know, I'm just I mean,
36:11
Speaker 1: with the passing of her mom and then all of
36:13
Speaker 1: a sudden to find this joy almost like you know,
36:15
Speaker 1: in tandem with that moment, and and just you know,
36:18
Speaker 1: to be in such a good spot for herself personally.
36:21
Speaker 1: I think it's so awesome. Yeah, yeah, no, I I
36:25
Speaker 1: think that she's such a sweetheart, even though I've only
36:28
Speaker 1: met her, you know, a handful of times, but you
36:31
Speaker 1: can tell, just like everybody else, oh yeah, you can
36:34
Speaker 1: completely tell what kind of um person she is at
36:37
Speaker 1: the heart, no doubt. Anyway, that was that was great.
36:42
Speaker 1: I know you probably were like, oh gosh, are we
36:46
Speaker 1: are we gonna be okay? No, you know, I was
36:49
Speaker 1: actually really happy to do it because I mean, we
36:51
Speaker 1: had Kelly joel Onto and you know, I mean, I
36:54
Speaker 1: know you know this about me, but I don't know
36:56
Speaker 1: that a lot of our listeners do. But it was
36:57
Speaker 1: really important for me at first. All it's hard for
36:59
Speaker 1: me to be bachelor when I was the bachelor because
37:02
Speaker 1: I didn't want to. I mean, you and I had
37:04
Speaker 1: the same feeling. We didn't want to hurt people that
37:06
Speaker 1: might have feelings if if we weren't reciprocating it. And
37:09
Speaker 1: and that was the toughest part of the job for me,
37:11
Speaker 1: was sending someone home. But then afterwards too, when you know,
37:14
Speaker 1: you go through this relationship cycle, and like I've said
37:16
Speaker 1: a million times, you and Ryan I really navigated it
37:19
Speaker 1: so much more brilliantly than most. Obviously the numbers show
37:23
Speaker 1: you know that the two of you are the original
37:25
Speaker 1: couple that made it through, and now there's always been
37:27
Speaker 1: a handful of them since, But it was that was
37:30
Speaker 1: a tough road to hoe too, and it was just
37:32
Speaker 1: I hated it. I hated the whole breakup aspect of it.
37:35
Speaker 1: And then it's in the public eye and you know,
37:38
Speaker 1: but you know, I was always like, I have nothing
37:41
Speaker 1: negative to say, because there's literally nothing negative to say
37:44
Speaker 1: about us all that, you know, And so they would
37:46
Speaker 1: come after me like, you know, why did you guys
37:47
Speaker 1: break up? What's going on? Like you know, it's it
37:50
Speaker 1: must be me, because it's certainly not it's me. And
37:55
Speaker 1: you know, in the years past, we've found that it
37:57
Speaker 1: was it was truly me every time read much fuse
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Speaker 1: until I found, of course, my beautiful intolerant kingdom who
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Speaker 1: puts up with the gosh. All right, I love you,
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Speaker 1: Bob Guinny, and thanks for tuning in people, thank you
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Speaker 1: for listening to everybody.