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#HURDLEMOMENT: F*#k Failure! · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: What's going on? You are listening to another hurdle moment
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  Speaker 1: from Hurdle, a podcast that talks to everyone from top
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  Speaker 1: CEOs to entrepreneurs and athletes about how they got through
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  Speaker 1: tough times, hurdles and sorts by leaning into wellness. My
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  Speaker 1: name's Emily A Badi, and today I am recapping my
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  Speaker 1: experience of racing the Brooklyn Mile over the weekend, coming
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  Speaker 1: just short of my six minute time goal, and applying
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  Speaker 1: it to a bigger picture of what we often classify
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  Speaker 1: as failures. I'm a firm believer that the only people
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  Speaker 1: who truly fail are those that don't try it all.
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  Speaker 1: And in today's hurdle moment, I dig into the idea
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  Speaker 1: that failure happens each and every single.
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  Speaker 2: Time to teach us something great.
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  Speaker 1: If you relate to what I'm putting down today, do
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  Speaker 1: me a solid, post a screencrap of this episode, Quote
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  Speaker 1: what you love and tag a friend. Share the love,
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  Speaker 1: and make sure to listen all the way through till
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  Speaker 1: the end, because I've got a favor to ask you
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  Speaker 1: that's going to make us both better. You know the
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  Speaker 1: drill at Hurdle podcast at Emily A Body hit me
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  Speaker 1: with an email over at Emily at hurdle dot Us.
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  Speaker 1: I also put out a call to action the other day.
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  Speaker 1: I've been getting a lot of inquiries from you guys
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  Speaker 1: about fall marathon training.
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  Speaker 2: As you know, I'm a certified runt coach. So if
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  Speaker 2: you're looking for some.
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  Speaker 1: Tips, some strategies, some help coming into a fall marathon
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  Speaker 1: and you want to get in touch, hit me up
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  Speaker 1: at that email address.
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  Speaker 2: I am more than happy to give you a helping hand.
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  Speaker 1: It's my favorite time of the year and with that,
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  Speaker 1: let's get to hurdling. Sunday was pretty tough for me,
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  Speaker 1: not just because I ran a mile in six minutes
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  Speaker 1: and seven seconds and that's hard, but because.
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  Speaker 2: It was emotionally exhausting.
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  Speaker 1: The thing about the goals that we often set for
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  Speaker 1: ourselves is that there's something that takes time for us
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  Speaker 1: to work up to. I'd been training for the better
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  Speaker 1: part of almost three months for this past Sunday. There
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  Speaker 1: were early mornings at the track in the Lower East
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  Speaker 1: Side that took me almost an hour to get to
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  Speaker 1: by bus and then city bike and then walking. There
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  Speaker 1: were early nights that I skipped wine and dinners and
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  Speaker 1: catching up with friends just because I wanted to be
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  Speaker 1: in my bed early enough to get up the next
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  Speaker 1: day and go work out. So as I crossed the
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  Speaker 1: finish line, seeing that six minute, seven second time above me.
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  Speaker 2: I felt pretty defeated.
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  Speaker 1: I was angry and frustrated, and it was hard because
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  Speaker 1: there was nothing I could do about it. I felt
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  Speaker 1: as though I had let myself down. I walked away
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  Speaker 1: from the finish line directly to one of my good
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  Speaker 1: friends and I looked at him and I almost wanted
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  Speaker 1: to completely just break down in tears. He looked back
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  Speaker 1: at me, asked me if I needed water, and then
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  Speaker 1: as we were walking into a CBS, he said, I
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  Speaker 1: know you're upset right now, and you deserve that, but
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  Speaker 1: you know that this is still a win.
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  Speaker 2: And he was right, and I did.
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  Speaker 1: I did.
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  Speaker 2: This isn't the first time in my life that I
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  Speaker 2: have quote unquote failed, but.
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  Speaker 1: It's the first time in a long time where I
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  Speaker 1: was reminded of how valuable failing can be. Plenty of times,
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  Speaker 1: every single day, something goes wrong. Maybe you've invested your
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  Speaker 1: time in someone who doesn't offer you the same courtesy,
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  Speaker 1: or you've hit a speed bump at the office on
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  Speaker 1: a project that goes south, or a friend ditches you
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  Speaker 1: for a show or workout class that you were really
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  Speaker 1: looking forward to. Failures, you know, they come in all
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  Speaker 1: different shapes and sizes and magnitudes and instances and you
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  Speaker 1: name it. The most valuable lesson that failure has taught
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  Speaker 1: me is that giving up is never an option. For
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  Speaker 1: every failure that happens, there's an alternative course of action.
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  Speaker 1: Let me say that one more time. For every failure
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  Speaker 1: that happens, there is an alternative course of action. If
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  Speaker 1: you were to give up on a goal just because
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  Speaker 1: of a little bitty speed bump, then maybe you need
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  Speaker 1: to think about how important that goal was to you
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  Speaker 1: in the first place. When we fail, we are presented
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  Speaker 1: with an opportunity to learn and then pivot. So what
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  Speaker 1: if we fall just shy of our goals? Right when
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  Speaker 1: that happens, we then have the chance to get back
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  Speaker 1: up and do something different. This is your opportunity to
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  Speaker 1: be courageous, and how great is that to stand tall,
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  Speaker 1: to home in on exactly where things may have gone wrong,
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  Speaker 1: and then refocus your energy on the things you can
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  Speaker 1: control for the next time. Just because you accept a
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  Speaker 1: failure does not mean you can't keep trying. For me,
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  Speaker 1: that means slightly signing up for another race. It also
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  Speaker 1: means continuing to get comfortable with the uncomfortable. It means
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  Speaker 1: being gracious and kind to myself in the wake of
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  Speaker 1: things not going as planned, and that can feel super difficult.
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  Speaker 1: It also means being proud of the steps and sacrifices
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  Speaker 1: those early mornings, those early nights, the opportunity costs, the
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  Speaker 1: things that have gotten me to the point where I
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  Speaker 1: have the opportunity to fail in the first place. So
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  Speaker 1: do me this favor. Write down your big goal, give
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  Speaker 1: it an actionable deadline, Anticipate the hurdles that may stand
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  Speaker 1: in your way, and think actively about what you have
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  Speaker 1: control over that can help you conquer what's in your path.
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  Speaker 1: It's gonna take some time, that's okay. Then do me
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  Speaker 1: a solid and share it with me, whether that's on
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  Speaker 1: Instagram or over email or whatever you feel comfortable with. Together,
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  Speaker 1: let's hold each other accountable for these big goals. Let's
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  Speaker 1: hold each other accountable for what comes next. For me,
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  Speaker 1: I'm still pushing for that sub six minute mile, but
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  Speaker 1: I've got a few other things on my radar that
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  Speaker 1: I promise I'll let you in on soon. Man. I
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  Speaker 1: feel like things are about to get spicy, let's get
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  Speaker 1: after it. Hurdler's another hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next times.
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  Speaker 2: Ass