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How to Speak with Divine Feminine Energy · Mindful Success Path

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  Have you ever spoken to someone or run across someone on YouTube or been in conversation with someone where you feel like their energy just draws you in and you're magnetized by it and you don't even know why?
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  Well, in this video, we're gonna be talking about divine feminine communication and how to communicate in a divine feminine way, because that's what a lot of these influencers and creators out here.
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  Are doing, and not only is it helping them in business, it can also help them with their relationships and their personal lives.
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  Hi, my name is Amanda.
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  Welcome to this channel where we talk about how to manifest what you want in life without all the extra stress, chaos, and drama that most people are accustomed to, if that's something that you're interested in.
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  Make sure to subscribe and hit the notification bell.
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  Lately, we've been talking a lot about feminine masculine energy dynamics.
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  We're gonna be doing a communication series, which is what we're starting today.
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  I've called out a couple of cults on this channel as well, so make sure to subscribe.
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  If you like this video, give it a like so we can get it in front of more of our sisters.
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  There are so many stories that have been coming in in the comment section in our email.
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  Um, and there's a lot of confusion out here, especially about these masculine feminine energy dynamics.
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  So make sure to give it a like,'cause we're able to get it in front of more women and some men who are interested in supporting women.
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  And as always, I always have extra resources for those of you who want to go deeper.
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  So in this case, the resource is going to be our, uh, masculine.
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  So in this case, our resource is going to be the feminine and masculine Energy Dynamics masterclass.
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  A few of you have already signed up for it and you're sending in great feedback about it.
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  You can find that below.
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  So I'm gonna be talking about specific communication skills in this series of videos coming out, but there is another portion of this, which is the actual energetics behind the skills, and that's what we cover more in that specific.
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  Masterclass.
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  So it's really great supplementary, uh, content for this particular video today.
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  Okay, let's get into it.
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  How to speak with divine feminine energy.
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  So the first thing we have to do is we have to understand.
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  What divine feminine energy is in communication.
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  So let's be clear about something.
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  Most people do not know how to communicate properly.
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  Before I was doing, uh, this business, I had another business where I taught people sales for like seven, eight years.
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  All I was doing was teaching people.
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  How to communicate.
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  And it's very interesting how a lot of the skills that were required in order to be good at sales and negotiation and actually making money are very similar to what is required in relationships.
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  When I was training people in sales, I would notice, okay, I could teach them everything there is to know about what to say, when to say it.
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  You know, if somebody says this, here's how you respond.
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  And I could be teaching two different people the exact same thing.
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  One would excel and one would bomb.
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  The reason was because the one who excelled was in the right energy when they were doing it, which is why that masculine and feminine dynamics masterclass is so important.
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  'cause like I said, we're gonna be going a lot into the skills in the next few videos.
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  Meanwhile, the one that would bomb, it's like they were reading off a script or they were too in their heads about it.
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  So one of the things that I don't want to happen is that you get way in your head about what I'm going to be describing in the following videos.
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  It's something that you wanna have fun with, experiment with, uh, and see what happens.
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  So with the divine feminine energy and communication, we have to contrast this, right?
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  So feminine energy in communication is nurturing, intuitive, receptive, it's magnetic, right?
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  That's what we're talking about specifically the femin.
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  It magnetizes.
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  Things to her.
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  I cannot tell you how many things, um, have just shown up in our lives, right?
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  Because either I'm having a conversation with someone or I'm making friends with someone, or they find me online, it just shows up.
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  I don't have to work.
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  That hard for it.
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  It's because I'm magnetizing and drawing people in.
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  Now you contrast that with Wounded feminine communication.
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  Wounded Feminine communication is very victimy wounded.
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  Feminine communication is very emotionally all over the place and going around in circles.
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  And then we also have masculine communication styles, which are a lot more, uh, straightforward and.
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  To the point and usually some sort of problem solving.
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  So how you say something matters just as much as what you are saying.
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  So definitely make sure to check out that masterclass below,'cause we'll go deeper into these different, uh, energetics that I just described in different areas of life.
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  So let's get into the feminine part of it and what you wanna do.
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  Number one is you wanna embody before you speak.
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  So.
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  Posture is important, breathing is important, and most importantly, groundedness and inner stillness is important.
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  One of the things that I have noticed with those of you who I've been coaching one-on-one is that there's a lot of like nervous energy.
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  And because there's a lot of nervous energy, one of the ways in which that shows up is overtalk.
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  Uh, meaning there is no space for the other person in this case, whether it's a client or a man.
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  Most of you.
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  Want a man.
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  It's the exact same thing.
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  You have to give them space to speak, which means that you have to stay quiet a lot of the time.
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  And when we have a lot of this nervous energy, it's difficult for us to do that.
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  So that's one of the things that we have to work on, and you can do that.
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  By doing grounding practices.
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  Now with my one-on-one clients, there's a specific meditation and grounding practice that I teach them that I learned from our teachers here in Mexico.
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  But really quick versions of you can do, you can do deep breathing into the belly before responding.
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  Uh, you can relax the shoulders.
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  Soften facial expressions.
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  I've had to do this.
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  Like if I'm very stressed out and I'm filming, you could see it on my face, right?
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  So I've had to, you know, light candles, uh, drink some water, make sure I'm in the right energy, and then I'm able to soften.
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  It's actually really interesting if I go back to like old YouTube videos of my other business, make money or honey that I don't do anymore, I could see how stressed out I am.
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  In those videos now, my husband looked up those videos and he's like, you're so cute.
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  Like he couldn't tell.
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  But I can tell how stressed out I am in comparison to the videos that I have here, or in comparison to when I do cameo appearances on my husband's.
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  YouTube channel for his business.
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  I'm way more relaxed and a part of it is because I get in the right energy and I do the grounding practices, and I've learned a lot of the communication skills that I'm gonna be teaching you guys in this series of videos because ultimately, at the end of the day, the thing that translates the most is your presence.
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  And we're gonna be talking more about how to make sure you are present and these things just take practice.
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  Okay?
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  Um.
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  You're not gonna be great at it off the bat.
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  It does take practice.
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  So the next thing to keep in mind is tone, pace, and rhythm, right?
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  You wanna be warm and friendly and open when you speak rather than sharp.
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  And what I have found is a lot of people, for a lot of women, because they have a fear of being seen, which is ultimately what a lot of this comes down to at the end of the day.
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  Um, and they haven't worked through that fear of being seen when they communicate, rather than being warm, open, and friendly and allowing people to see them and allowing people to be magnetized to them, they'll do really sharp communication.
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  So one of the ways in which this shows up, uh, you see it online a lot actually.
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  In terms of the sharp communication, you'll see this a lot online with a lot of women in this space who will be like, I need a man who makes six figures, right?
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  This is what I bring to the table.
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  I, if you can't bring six figures, then I don't want anything to do with you.
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  That is very sharp, combative, masculine communication where if a woman says something along the lines of, you know what, it just feels really good to me and I feel very taken care of.
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  When a man is the provider, totally different scenario right now in this case, you know, I'm teaching it to you in terms of what to say, so, uh, maybe it's not as warm as it could be, right?
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  But you guys catch my drift.
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  The other thing that you wanna do is you wanna learn how to slow down.
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  You wanna pause intentionally to draw people.
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  When I was teaching sales, I would oftentimes tell people, Hey, uh, when you're in a sales conversation or a negotiation or you're actually building a relationship, you need to stop talking and you need to let the other person talk, and you need to allow room for pauses and for the other person to think because in a sales conversation or a negotiation or somewhere where you are.
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  Persuading, uh, the person who speaks the most is the one who's going to quote, unquote lose.
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  Right now.
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  There is no winning or losing, uh, in this situation.
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  There's just no other way of saying it because the person who speaks the least, uh, has the least to prove and actually has the most amount of power and authority.
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  In that conversation, it's very similar in, uh, in feminine communication, right?
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  It's very similar in so far as you have to allow the pauses.
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  A lot of women, as I mentioned, have a lot of nervous energy.
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  So they over talk and they over explain and they repeat themselves over and over and over again.
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  Uh, or the other thing that happens is they, they talk a lot without saying anything at all.
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  And that's one of the things that we have to learn to, um.
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  You know, wrangle that in, right?
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  Because most of it is just nervous energy because we feel uncomfortable.
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  The same thing happens in sales, and the same thing happens in dating where there's like a pause and you're like, oh my God.
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  Immediately the thoughts start coming in of like, what do they think about me?
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  Do they like me?
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  Do I need to do this?
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  Do I need to prove myself?
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  Do I need to jump over this hoop?
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  Do I need to do that?
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  And it's just this nervous energy that needs to.
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  Uh, express itself.
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  So we have to intentionally slow down.
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  And then the other thing that you wanna do is you wanna keep emotional depth in your words.
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  So this is the divine feminine part.
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  Specifically the divine feminine part specifically, is the fact that she communicates and expresses her feelings.
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  Um, and again, that's the difference between, uh, warm communication and that sharp communication that we often see online from very masculine.
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  Women.
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  So what you wanna do is you wanna start choosing language that's open and inviting and inspiring.
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  That's the key word here, especially when you're talking to masculine men or just men, period.
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  They want to be inspired and they want to feel good rather than being commanding or transactional.
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  So here, and what you wanna do is you wanna learn how to replace like, defensive or overly direct phrases with collaborative and affirming phase, uh, phrases.
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  I know this is difficult.
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  I'm an Aries, I'm blunt, right?
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  It's like literally I have a thought in my head and it comes outta my mouth, right?
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  So I've had to learn how to have a little bit of a filter, uh, sometimes, or at least learn, um.
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  In which situation it's appropriate to have a filter and in which situation, uh, I can be that blunt.
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  Now I am very funny.
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  You can ask my husband when that comes out, or you can ask a lot of the people who are my friends.
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  I am funny af uh, when I have that no filter thing, but I've had to learn like, when is it appropriate and when is it, when it's not.
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  So, uh, it's a little bit.
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  Uh, of a dance anyway.
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  Here are some ways that you can swap it.
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  So instead of saying, you need to do this, why haven't you done this?
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  You know, you need to do this right now.
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  You can, um, kind of change that and be like, uh, let's say it's like taking out the garbage.
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  That happens all the time, right?
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  They're like, well, he hasn't taken out the garbage.
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  You need to take out the garbage.
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  Why is it still there?
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  You could be like, you know what I would love and would make me feel really good if you just help me take out the garbage.
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  Totally different, right?
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  Or you could say something like, I appreciate you so much and I appreciate how much you do for us.
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  I appreciate, you know, how you take care of us.
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  Would you do me a favor and just, uh, take out the garbage?
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  That would really make me feel good.
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  You see the difference, right?
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  Most people, most women don't do that because most people have not been taught how to communicate properly, period.
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  And they've definitely not been taught how to communicate in relationships.
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  Or instead of telling somebody that's wrong, you can say, I see it differently.
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  Can I share why?
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  Or let's take it a step further, and this is from my sales days, but it also helps.
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  In, uh, relationships, unless you're married to another person who knows sales, then they know what you're doing, right?
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  Right.
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  However, uh, what you can do right, is you can actually agree with the other person, even if you don't agree with them at all.
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  Not in a disingenuous way, but in a way where you try your best to put yourself in their position and see it from their point of view.
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  Because when you're able to learn how to do that, the the com, the combativeness and the defensiveness immediately goes from a 10 to a zero and someone is more willing, uh, to hear you speak.
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  So let's say for example, somebody says the sky is green.
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  Obviously the sky is not green, but you could look at it and be like.
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  Yeah, you know what?
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  I agree.
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  I could totally see why you would think that.
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  And then you go to the next part of the conversation because if you just get combative with them and you fight, you're like, are you crazy?
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  This guy is blue.
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  They're not.
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  They're, they've shut off.
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  They're not listening to you at all.
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  There's going to be no resolution, no communication, or it's gonna turn into a fight.
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  And what you wanna do is you wanna learn how to persuade and influence not fight.
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  And that's, that's the difference here.
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  And that applies in business, that applies in leadership.
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  That applies in personal relationships.
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  Um, the other thing you wanna keep in mind is that listening.
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  Very important is your greatest tool as a feminine woman.
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  So when you are communicating with a man, specifically, what's most important to men is that they feel respected.
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  Now, there are a gazillion ways in which women disrespect men without us even knowing that we're doing it, because to us it would not seem.
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  Uh, disrespectful, but to them it is, and I'm gonna do another video on that.
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  But what you need to know right now is that men's deepest desire and how they feel love is to feel respected for their opinions, to feel respected for how they lead, to feel respected, for how they take care of you.
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  That's what they want, and one of the ways in which you can communicate that respect is to make sure that you are.
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  Listening.
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  And again, this takes practice and we all need to work on it.
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  Okay, ladies, so if you're like, damn it, I've been there, I understand you're gonna have to do it over and over and over again before it just becomes part of who you are.
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  And you're gonna have to catch yourself, uh, in a lot of these situations.
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  So number one is you wanna listen to him fully before responding.
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  Let him finish.
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  And I know it's hard.
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  Because a lot of times, especially when we have a lot of mothering energy, um, we wanna take care of everybody, right?
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  That's what we wanna do.
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  So, for example, your man comes to you and he has some sort of an issue that he's just trying to talk out.
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  Our instinct is like, let me go help him.
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  Right?
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  So, but the, the thing is that even though our instinct is to go help, they see that as disrespect.
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  When you interrupt it, they see it as, you don't really value my opinion or what I have to say because you just interrupted me.
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  And this is just one of the differences between men and women.
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  I tell people all the time, you can fight it or you can accept it and learn how to play the game.
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  I used to say the exact same thing in sales and marketing.
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  I will tell you the exact same thing in relationships.
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  Accept it and learn how to play the game.
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  Rather than trying to change it because this is the way humans operate.
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  Uh, the next thing that you wanna keep in mind, also difficult, right, is that you want to learn that when a man is correcting you and he, it's not because he's trying to criticize you.
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  It's because the way that he, one of the ways in which he expresses love.
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  And protection and provision is to improve things.
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  So what do men always do?
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  They're always solving problems.
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  So if they could find a more efficient way to do something, they're gonna tell you how to do it.
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  And part of our job is to not take that as criticism, which is a very difficult thing to do, especially if you grew up like I did in an environment where there was a lot of criticism, particularly from the women in the household.
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  Because when women tell you what to do, uh, they are criticizing you and they're trying to cut deep.
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  Because they think that's what's gonna get something done.
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  But when a man is doing it, he's not trying to criticize you.
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  He's actually just trying to improve the situation so he could do a better job of protecting and providing, that's how they see it.
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  And again, difference between how a woman communicates and takes information in and how a man communicates and takes information.
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  And then finally, what you're gonna wanna learn how to do is that if there's something really important that you need to talk about, to schedule a time to actually do it, rather than ambushing him when his, when he's busy, especially with a really driven men there that are very purpose focused, which most men are focused on a purpose, right?
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  So let's just say most men, period, uh, have some sort of a purpose.
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  Sometimes it's a business, sometimes it's a a mission.
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  Sometimes it's just taking care of you, and that's the purpose.
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  What you wanna do is if they're in the middle of something, you don't wanna interrupt them.
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  'cause again, they see the interruption as you disrespecting them.
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  Even if you don't mean to, even if that's not what you're trying to do, that's how their brain is going to take it, because that is how they're wired.
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  So instead, you can just schedule a time to talk about very important things.
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  Now, here are some of the ways that you can practice a lot of these things, uh, because they do require practice.
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  Okay.
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  They do.
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  Uh, none.
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  None of us are born knowing how to do this, and most of us were not taught how to do any of this by the women in our lives.
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  And culture and society definitely didn't teach you how to do it.
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  So one is you could do daily mirror practice where you can role play situations.
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  When I was teaching sales, I had salespeople, I had teams, I had owners of businesses, I'd have'em go role play in mirrors.
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  Same exact thing in this situation.
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  The reason why you wanna role play and practice in a mirror, or maybe with someone that you trust or a coach like me or something like that.
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  Is because you get the peanut butter outta your mouth.
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  And then when a real life situation happens, you're not thinking about what to do.
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  You already know what to do because you've already practiced it.
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  Uh, the other thing that you wanna do is you're gonna wanna record and listen to yourself so you can notice like your tone and your pacing.
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  Now in my case, that's pretty easy'cause I record YouTube videos all the time, right?
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  But for you.
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  Um, you know, you're probably not recording YouTube videos unless you want to, but you might need to pay attention to your tone and your voice.
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  This is the one where I've spoken to a lot of you and I've started coaching a lot of you one-on-one.
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  This is the one where a lot of you, um, need to practice because a lot of you have so much energy going on in your heads and so much going on up there that it's constant talking.
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  So I really recommend.
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  This one for you guys so you can notice what is going on.
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  And then the other thing you can do is when you are in conversations, just practice having three second pauses before responding.
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  That's it.
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  That's all you gotta do to start practicing this stuff.
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  And again, if you wanna go a lot deeper into the energy dynamics between masculine and feminine in different areas of your life, including business and including romantic relationships, then make sure to check out the masculine and feminine dynamics masterclass, where I go a lot deeper into this.
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  You can find the links to everything, below.
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  Okay guys, so which of these shifts do you wanna start practicing today?
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  Let me know in the comments.
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  Once again, if you liked this video, give it a thumbs up'cause it helps us get it in front of more women and make sure to subscribe and hit the notification bell and I'll catch you guys on the next one.
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  Thank you for giving me your time today and stay radiant.