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A New World Order is COMING - ft. Sayed Hassan Al-Sadr · After Maghrib 🌙

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  Smila Rahman, Raheem Salaam Alaikum and welcome back to
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  Now brothers and sisters, today we want to talk about anger, but
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  not just the emotion. What's beyond that feeling that
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  we have? And many of us, we get angry.
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  Maybe our spouse has something sharp on the tongue.
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  Maybe we were driving on the A4 O 6 and someone overtook us or
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  perhaps much Sabah forgot press record on numerous episodes.
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  Anyhow, we are joined by an amazing and fantastic guest
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  who's going to allow us to go there in depth with greater
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  detail to understand and navigate this conversation on
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  anger. And before we introduce our dear
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  respected say it, I need to turn and shake hands with Ahmed as
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  Salaam Ali. Alaikum Salaam Allah, how are
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  you saying al Hamdallah? Well, how are you?
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  I'm good. I'm good at Hamdallah.
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  I'm looking forward to today's discussion.
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  It's a topic and we're with a guest who we've been waiting for
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  a long time, Hamdallah, to have on the topic.
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  I know you mentioned anger, of course, on a personal level,
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  something we all feel, we all witness.
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  We may have resentment towards people, even people close to us
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  in our lives. We may have anger in moments or
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  outbursts of, of interaction. But also on a broader scale of
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  ancestors, on a theological level, what about the the anger
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  of our last Pantala, we call Allah al Montatem, for example,
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  you know, the one who retaliates or Avengers or inflicts
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  retaliation and so on. Like what does that mean?
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  How can you have a God who, who shows and displays these kind
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  of, I don't want to say emotions, but let's say
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  characteristics or attributes. And then more so for ancestors.
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  It goes without saying, the world we live in at the moment
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  has made us in some ways feel anger when we see the
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  oppression, the complete violation on, on human rights,
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  on human dignity. And as such we feel angry.
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  We feel angry at the world around us, the so-called leaders
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  we have in society today. And that leads us to this
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  conversation. Brans sisters.
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  So on that note, I'm very honoured.
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  We're both very honoured and grateful to welcome someone
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  who's done a lot for our community has so has meant a lot
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  to me on a personal level and I've learned from for probably
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  over a decade now. So Hassan asada Salaam alaikum
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  Seidna. Alaikum Salaam alaikum seiddah.
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  Alaikum, thank you so much for being here.
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  Thank you very much to Seid Ali and Haj Ahmed for this kind
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  invitation to be with the respected audience and after
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  Maharab and Inshallah we will have a fruitful discussion.
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  Charlotte. Charlotte, thank you for being
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  here and say before we start the conversation if I can just say
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  thank you for the many years that we have learnt from you and
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  and members of the community like yourself.
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  If I can mention brother for example, Sajjad back in the day
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  said Ali Khan Khali. These are names I grew up with
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  and I know so much. I may Allah bless you and
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  protect your. Life said.
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  I can't wait for the viewers to fall in love with what you have
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  to say. I know, I know without doubt
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  they're going to love it, Inshallah said.
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  I think a good place to start is probably on this note, as
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  discussed the the kind of the mood in the community, how
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  people are feeling, especially in the last few months.
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  Would you agree that perhaps there is a temperament in the
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  Community which was not perhaps there in in the years prior the
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  moment? Absolutely.
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  We are seeing more of the oppression and the injustice
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  that's taking place across the whole world.
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  And I think people have the right to be angry.
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  However, Hajj Ahmed, I'd like to remind myself and the audience
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  that despite what we're seeing, and I'm going to say it and I'm
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  going to very be quick in, in making a, a disclaimer, none of
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  this historically is new. The disclaimer is no
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  justification. Disclaimer is this is not so
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  that we become indifferent to what's happening, that we fall
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  silent. No, but framing is very
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  important. If you want to deal with anger
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  or mainly with the source of our anger globally, which is the
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  injustice, the crimes, the oppression, then framing is very
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  important on a personal level as well.
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  But the framing is different there and framing our lives.
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  Personally, I think you have to take a few steps back and
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  remember that you need to see the world in a different way
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  using a different lens. The lens that probably many
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  people across the world are using is the very self centric
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  lens. While the right the correct way
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  for us a community of believers has to be the God centre
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  cleanse. When you frame the existence of
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  our world with our last Panetta Allah the Creator at the centre,
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  you see everything in a very different way.
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  Again, disclaimer not this is not for us to try and become
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  basically occupied with our own lives, live in a bubble and say
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  this is all and alas Pantala is seeing all this, he will take
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  care of it. On the contrary, Inshallah will
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  the discussion will bring out the main messages from from our
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  faith. But I think framing is of utmost
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  importance. Allah is at the centre of our
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  lives and our lives need to revolve around Him and around
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  His will. And when we do that, we can deal
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  with the source of the injustice.
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  We can even deal with the anger in a far more productive way.
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  Beautiful. Say thank you for, I think
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  emphasising on the framing because it is important as
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  Muslims to understand that if we were to get angry, it's for the
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  sake of Allah, Subhanahu wata al and I.
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  And I think that's important as well to understand the different
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  lenses that I'm sure we'll speak about in today's episode.
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  And I think say, if I can ask a question just to understand,
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  because there is a huge difference between when we get
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  angry as human beings, it's a feeling, it's an emotion.
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  It's it's like an after effect of maybe someone has betrayed us
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  or maybe someone has hurt us amongst many different examples.
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  But when it comes to Allah's over gel, it's completely
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  different because what I want to understand is a last final what
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  Alice says he gets angry. For example, I can open up the
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  Quran and I come across verses where Allah, Azzawajal, he says,
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  for example, when it comes to the hypocrites men and the
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  hypocrite women, the mushrikeen, I am angry with them and I curse
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  them and for them as the punishment of hell.
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  And we see a level where a long mighty speaks about being angry.
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  But what is that divine anger? What is that above up?
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  This is the difference between US and when I.
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  Lost final This is an opportunity for us to be
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  reminded of the limitations of language.
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  Yeah. When it comes to describing the
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  Almighty Sopano attack, language has limitations.
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  So anger, when it's used to describe a human being, it's the
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  same word that Allah use it to describe himself.
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  It's very different for a human being.
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  It's literal. It's a literal change of inner
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  state. There's change.
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  Change is not applicable rationally to the essence of
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  Allah. Spanatal Allah does not change.
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  Therefore this change of state, yeah, from angry to not angry,
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  yeah, doesn't apply. So the use of the word anger or
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  angry with Allah spanatala is metaphorical, is not literal.
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  What probably it represents, our scholars say, and we have a
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  hadith from albeit Alim Salaam explaining this, it what it
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  really represents is the actions of Allah, Subhanahu to Allah of
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  punishment or withdrawing, the withdrawal of his mercy from
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  someone, a hypocrite, a criminal, someone who rejects
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  the truth. Yeah, this is another good
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  opportunity to remind ourselves. The definition of the
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  translation of a kafir is someone who rejects the truth,
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  not a non believer. No, kafir is someone who rejects
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  the truth. Yeah, so a criminal, someone who
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  rejects the truth, a hypocrite. Allah is angry with them, means
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  Allah will withdraw his mercy from them, said the action.
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  Allah will punish them, but the same word is used completely
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  different way, metaphorical and literal to human beings.
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  OK. So I think one thing which I
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  find interesting is when we understand our last point to
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  others anger quote UN quote in the theological lens.
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  One thing I've slowly tried to come to terms with, especially
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  kind of understanding everything from early Islamic history.
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  And whether we look in the Quran, we look at for all, for
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  example, or we look in, for example, the, the, the life and
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  even after the, the passing of Salaam Muhammad, Salallahu
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  Alayhi Ali. And a lot of the actions which
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  took place is to understand that Allah's justice, his mercy.
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  And we can say the wrath that Allah shows can all be symbiotic
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  and they can be synchronized alongside one another.
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  It's not, as you said, a change of state.
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  I think it's difficult for us to kind of come to terms with that.
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  And we, as you said, and just to re emphasize as well for my own
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  understanding and benefit is we tend to see things in a very
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  human like lens, as you said. So I, I perceive things in a way
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  where in, in, in a way I'd see things myself.
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  It's hard for us to understand that Allah can be merciful
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  through his justice or his punishment, for example, and,
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  and, and be that simultaneously. How do we kind of see that in
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  the current state of play in, in world affairs today?
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  So for example, someone is angry at the oppression they see.
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  People are losing their lives, children are losing their lives,
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  for example, I'm angry at seeing this injustice.
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  I'm angry that for example, rightly so.
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  Yeah, I'm angry and rightly so. And I feel for example, why
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  hasn't the law what happened, for example, of the awaited
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  amount much lot to Allah Fajr Sharif?
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  Or for example, why hasn't Allah struck down the oppressors?
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  And so many endless questions one could ask themselves out
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  loud or even in their thoughts, you know, in the on their pillow
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  before they go to sleep and they're wondering, you're
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  scrolling on social media and they're seeing horrific images.
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  How do we kind of come to terms with these things internally
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  when we understand what happens around us in the world today and
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  the justification we can give or perhaps we can come to terms
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  with with Allah's will? Sometimes we come to terms with
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  it, bearing in mind several points #1 theologically this
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  life, Hayat Dunya, which could mean the lower life or could
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  mean the near life, is not worth much in relation to the
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  hereafter. Nothing.
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  In fact, when you compare it to the hereafter, to the real life,
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  theologically, from our point of view, from the God centric point
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  of view, from the God centric paradigm, this is nothing
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  compared to the afterlife. Once again, disclaimer, this is
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  not to undermine any form of injustice that's happening.
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  In fact, whatever we go through in this life will determine,
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  sorry, yeah. What happens in the afterlife?
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  However, it's important to remind oneself that this life
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  Allah Subhanahu Ta'ala has created, it, has designed it in
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  a way for injustice to take place.
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  A few centuries ago, the main sources of injustice and
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  oppression on a large scale were not the current forces were
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  different forces closer to home. They were the main sources of
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  injustice, right? Which in a way makes it slightly
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  easier for us to stand against oppression.
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  So that's the first point. One has to remind himself or
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  herself that this life is just a hunter.
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  It's just a a bridge is it's a journey that everyone has to go
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  through. And one of the beautiful, most
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  beautiful descriptions are the words of Sayda Shohada Ali
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  Asala, a man who's been through one of the most horrific
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  examples of injustice. He said himself in Namin Hawani
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  Duniya al Allah that this life is so pity in the eyes of Allah
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  Subhanahu Ta'ala that he allowed the head of Yahyab Nazaria,
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  Prophet John the Baptist, to be gifted to a prostitute Abari.
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  They killed him, beheaded him and gave his head as a gift to
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  someone who was at the lowest, the lowest levels of nearness to
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  Allah Subhanahu Ta'ala from not leading a godly life.
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  So Seydi Shuhada describes this life being such a, you know of,
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  of so of negligible value in the eyes of Allah Subhanahu Ta'ala.
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  And so it was in the for all the prophets in the imams.
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  Just the first thing we have to remind ourselves #2 Allah, Allah
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  is in charge and whatever happens, Allah, Allah is all
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  seeing. And there's a beautiful verse in
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  the Quran which when the events in Reza started, I had to remind
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  myself of it. It's a verse.
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  It's part of a verse in Surat Muhammad sallallahu, the chapter
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  named after the Holy Prophet. The verse states the alikewala
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  weyesha allahu lentasaraminhum walaq in liyeblu baava kumbi
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  baav. If Allah wanted he would have
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  defeated them. Describing the those who reject
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  the truth and they were fighting the prophet and the Muslims at
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  the time went through hardship after hardship to defend the
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  prophet and to defend the religion of Islam.
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  Allah tells them if Allah wanted to, Allah would have defeated
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  them. Well akin but Allah wants this
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  to continue or Allah allows it to continue.
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  Lia blue Baba kumba bath so he that he would test you versus
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  each other, you against them. If this form of injustice did
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  not exist, then you will not be tested.
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  And it's and this is the wisdom of this life.
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  So number one, this life is not worth much.
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  We will meet again with all these oppressors and the
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  oppressed, and we will live forever that innocent child,
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  innocent man and woman in Palestine, in Palestine and
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  Lebanon and Iran and Sudan, everywhere.
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  We will see them again. We will meet again and #2 Allah
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  allows us so that He would test us.
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  What would we do? And has, I think another
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  important point, how do we face this again, to remember that
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  this has happened before with a disclaimer.
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  We're not going to be silent. And the fourth point is that we
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  should listen to the people who are going through it.
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  And when you see when you listen to the to those brothers and
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  sisters in in, in, in, in Palestine and Lebanon, in Iran
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  and Yemen, when they're going through this and you hear them
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  saying that this is FISA Bill Allah, that we are ready to give
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  FISA Bill Allah, that we are enduring this for the sake of
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  Allah. Subhanahu to Allah should make
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  the listener who's not living there is not going through that
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  reminds them that the person who's going through that many of
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  them, Masha Allah, Masha'allah many of them, they do see the
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  truth and they are enduring this in a godly way, in a strong way.
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  They know that this suffering is temporary.
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  They know and we should be supporting them.
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  We should be with them, we should be defending them.
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  But when you when, when the one you're defending you're
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  defending is proclaiming that I am enduring this visa, Bililla,
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  and I'm not going to be silent. I will defend my land.
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  I will fight against oppression. When you hear it from that
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  person should make you feel more at peace.
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  Not less angry, but more at peace with where you are.
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  You're on the right side of history.
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  You're defending the right people.
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  And that your people are aware of the wisdom of what's
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  happening. Yeah.
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  Absent that's. Very you've given me so much
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  reminders. I I remember as well.
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  If I can just touch on my guys there a bit as well.
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  It's been over 2 years now. I remember at the very
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  beginning, I think it's very silly if I say it was confusing
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  to understand what was going on because we would question
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  ourselves, OK, there is so much horrific crimes and aggression
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  taking place, like where is God and all of this?
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  But I remember I had the conversation with a few friends
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  and we sort of realized that the test is not just for those, it's
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  for us that we get to understand what side are we on?
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  How do we use our voices? Are we able to distinguish
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  between right and wrong, the hack and battling.
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  So the test was for the vault, and it wasn't just for them.
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  So we asked the last one of Atala to alleviate all this
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  aggression that's happening against all the believers around
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  the world. But if I can just come back to
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  something, say it. You mentioned no silence, and
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  rightly so, a few times in the last few minutes.
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  What do you mean by that? For someone that's listening,
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  why are you emphasizing on that? If you're a godly person, if
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  you're, if you're, if your aim in life is to align your will
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  with God's will, which is the aim should be the aim of every
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  believer. Now I know very likely amongst
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  the people listening to this podcast, people who may not
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  share this view about the world, yet they are on this on the
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  right side of history. They are with the people of
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  Palestine, Lebanon and Iran, Yemen and Sudan, and they are
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  defending the oppressed. And we are honoured to have
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  people who not necessarily share the same view of the world, but
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  they can see the truth and they defend the truth and we are with
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  them. They're not on our side.
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  We're on the same side, the side of the oppressed and the soul of
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  the truth, Insha'allah. However, what's going now should
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  not dilute our commitment to our faith that we see this and we
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  see life at home, challenges with a spouse and raising
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  children. All face a billah, all within
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  this got centre of paradigm. Yeah, our journey is to get
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  proximity to our last pantad Yahyuh al Insano in Nakakadihan
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  Illa Rabbikadihan Famulaki. O human being, O man, you shall
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  strive to your Lord Rabbika, to your Lord, a thorough striving,
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  and you shall meet him. So we are heading towards
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  meeting Rabbi Alameen. Yeah.
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  And we want to gain proximity. And the way we do that is to
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  align our will with his will all the time.
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  Small decisions about what to watch, what to listen to, what
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  to say, how to deal with anger with a spouse, a mother, how to
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  deal with oppression. And one of these examples of
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  lining our will with His will is not to be silent when there is
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  such oppression, injustice and crimes happening.
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  However, everyone's circumstances are different.
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  The listeners, they live in different parts of the world and
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  they have different personal circumstances.
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  Hence, as followers of prophets, as followers of the inheritors
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  of the prophets, the imams, Salaam Salaam, we should be very
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  wise. One of the traits of believers
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  is that they are wise. They understand their
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  environment. They talk about in leadership,
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  they talk about understanding the environment.
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  This is one of the main traits of a believer is to understand
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  the environment and global environment and the smaller
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  micro environment. So what to do, what to say, how
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  to say it. You should be very wise.
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  You should consult, you should ask for advice, you should check
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  even the terminology, even the the words you use.
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  You have to be very careful, very careful.
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  And I refer people to the Holy Quran, to the Sunnah of the
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  Prophet Salahu Ali, the traditions of albeit Alim
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  Salaam, and to the lives of our Alema, the legacy of our
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  scholars and our leaders. Read their lives, study them,
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  and you will have countless examples of wisdom, of what to
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  say and when to say it. So Salah, you asked me what to
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  say. Depends where you are.
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  You have to do something. You have to do something the
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  minimum. And again, I'm not asking people
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  to do the minimum, but I'm giving example examples to the
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  audience that let's say you are living in a place where you
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  can't say anything publicly, you can't declare anything.
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  Then if you are and there are people who live in such
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  circumstances and if you are such a person, then the least
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  you could do is within your own micro environment within your
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  household. Make sure you talk to your
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  spouse and to your children about this.
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  I hope you're not living in a in a place currently where it
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  doesn't allow you to talk to your children.
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  That's true. And if such place exists, then
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  then you can do something even less than that.
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  Certainly in Iraq. When I lived in Iraq in the 80s
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  and the 90s, you, in order to protect your family, parents had
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  to even restrict what they talk to their children about.
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  Yeah. So we've been through this, but
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  inshallah not at the moment. What can you do if even if you
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  can't do that, you can do duha? Honestly just say the duha and
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  and if you can do it in a jamaat at home or on your own, read it
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  in a in a in a voice that you can hear yourself and pray for
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  the oppressed pray, pray upon the valimin, the oppressed pray.
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  Just ask Allah, Subhanahu to Allah to destroy them.
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  Say it, say it. And I'm not here.
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  I'm not obviously, I hope I'm not saying that the value of
• 26:40
  Doha is, is is the lowest stuff for Allah.
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  It's it's, it's the weapon of the believer.
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  Yeah, should be the bare minimum, but it's it's the bare
• 26:47
  minimum you can do individually, individually.
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  But you. Constantly have to do it.
• 26:51
  You have to do Doha. Doha or Amin, right?
• 26:54
  But even the Doha itself has value.
• 26:58
  It's the weapon of the believer and it reminds you that you have
• 27:01
  to do something. But a shallow you can do more.
• 27:05
  Talk to your children, talk to your spouse, talk to people
• 27:08
  around you. If you can do more.
• 27:10
  Be very careful with your choice of words.
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  Be very careful. And what some people can say in
• 27:19
  one part of the world, it certainly means something
• 27:23
  different in a different part. So you don't have to copy and
• 27:26
  paste. Use the same terminology and the
• 27:29
  same description. Be wise.
• 27:33
  Be wise if I can. Just add as well.
• 27:35
  So then I'm sorry, I know we had like a slightly different trade
• 27:40
  of thought in terms of the topic.
• 27:41
  And I do want to get to a couple of the points about individual
• 27:43
  anger, but I'm so hooked and engrossed on this particular
• 27:48
  discussion and these talking points because I feel I
• 27:51
  personally connect to these these points.
• 27:52
  And I think you've mentioned some real gems there, especially
• 27:55
  in terms of the Hikma you have in terms of assessing your
• 27:58
  environment and knowing what to say and when to say, speaking to
• 28:04
  your own communities, your own families.
• 28:06
  The our point, I think as well beyond that, as we can continue
• 28:11
  continually show activism through in some cases action,
• 28:15
  but also in other cases in action.
• 28:17
  So for example, choosing where you buy your coffee, choosing
• 28:21
  what cars you buy, what devices you buy, things like that.
• 28:25
  Because we live in a day and age now where everything is so
• 28:27
  intertwined. You know, a lot of a lot of
• 28:30
  these brands are kind of, you know, working towards sources
• 28:33
  which are destructive for the Omar.
• 28:35
  And I think we have to be very conscious of that as well.
• 28:39
  Can I slightly go off topics Eid, particularly in terms of
• 28:43
  the notion before we? Go.
• 28:44
  Can I just say, yeah, of course, that to help people deal with
• 28:48
  this anger about the global events we talked about
• 28:53
  theologically, they have to see, you know, frame it.
• 28:57
  Allah is in charge. This has happened before.
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  Study the lives of the prophets, the imams, the scholars.
• 29:03
  Be very wise of what you say, but also be reminded that the
• 29:10
  side of the truth, Jabhat al Haq, the side of the oppressed
• 29:16
  to help people deal with anger. I'm adding another point.
• 29:20
  Had you before we move on inshallah and this and this
• 29:24
  Shallah, beneficial discussion. The side of the truth is far
• 29:28
  stronger nowadays than when it was 50 or 100 years ago.
• 29:33
  Let people be assured of this 100%.
• 29:36
  So you're feeling angry because of what you're seeing.
• 29:38
  What's happened to the people of Reza Philistine Lebanon, of
• 29:43
  course, but be reminded that there are so many people who are
• 29:50
  seeing this. The global awareness is far
• 29:55
  higher than what it was before People.
• 30:00
  People's previous assumption that the current world order is
• 30:05
  a good world order is disappearing, which which
• 30:11
  strengthens the side of the truth.
• 30:14
  One of our main messages to the people of the world is that we
• 30:18
  should lead a a godly life. We should lead a life in
• 30:25
  accordance to the divine guidance and we all should be
• 30:30
  working together on these common values and common aims and the
• 30:34
  best way to achieve them is through the way of Allah Subhana
• 30:38
  Ta'ala right? Some people in this world were
• 30:42
  tricked to believe that the current world order will be
• 30:47
  sufficient to solve the problems of wars, poverty, diseases, the
• 30:54
  the huge gap between the rich and the poor.
• 30:57
  Look where we are. It's you know, we are into the
• 31:01
  21st century. The first quarter has gone and
• 31:04
  the malaria targets the, the, the dreams and the hopes.
• 31:11
  Where? Where are we?
• 31:12
  So the failure of the current model, which is the alternative
• 31:18
  Model 1 of many alternative models, is a sign that the side
• 31:24
  of the truth is stronger. What you what some people were
• 31:30
  tricked to believe a few decades ago is that you don't have to
• 31:34
  follow the godly model. Follow this model.
• 31:36
  You'll be fine, you know, with their so-called freedom and
• 31:40
  liberation and a particular economic model of capitalism and
• 31:44
  so on. We.
• 31:45
  We will. Solve it right.
• 31:48
  Look where we are. So had you just to finish that.
• 31:52
  There is a lot of hope, not just metaphysical hope, not just hope
• 31:57
  and and and and and and. In Divine Mercy, that shall
• 32:02
  come. It is here already.
• 32:04
  It's tangible. Yeah.
• 32:05
  Exactly as we are. Very interesting.
• 32:07
  Yeah. So be reminded that you're
• 32:09
  stronger as believers and as those who fight for justice.
• 32:14
  You are stronger. Yes, we're unable to stop the
• 32:19
  criminals from committing their crimes, but awareness, which
• 32:25
  should lead to collaboration, is higher, I said.
• 32:28
  I said. I think that leads me onto this
• 32:31
  exact talking point. But on that point, I think it's
• 32:35
  interesting because you look at the state of affairs 100 years
• 32:38
  ago when you had the British Empire at the peak of its
• 32:40
  powers, you know, colonialism and the British Empire control
• 32:44
  1/3 of the world, you know, economically and kind of in
• 32:47
  terms of land mass as well. If you look at, for example,
• 32:49
  even within the Shiite themselves, the shrine of Man
• 32:53
  Hussein was attacked 100 years ago.
• 32:55
  Jonathan Bucky was demolished and razed to the ground 100
• 32:58
  years ago and things and of course it goes without saying
• 33:01
  you had the the Great War and then the rise of fascism in
• 33:04
  Europe and so many other things. Native Americans, what the
• 33:07
  persecution continued into the phase of the early 20th century.
• 33:12
  The list goes on and on. And today's day and age we see
• 33:15
  oppression in a slightly different way.
• 33:18
  So although we won't see perhaps the millions killed in wars in
• 33:21
  the same numbers with the the lesser attention then compared
• 33:26
  to what it would get now and and lesser numbers.
• 33:28
  However, we see oppression on different levels now, for
• 33:31
  example, very internalized the oppression we have from these
• 33:33
  devices. For example, the oppression on
• 33:35
  the soul. When we say the lump to enough
• 33:37
  sea, it also, I would imagine, means what I'm doing to myself.
• 33:42
  You know, the neglect I have for myself, my own growth, my the
• 33:46
  stimulation of my own spirituality and these kind of
• 33:48
  things. Well, as Shia, I believe we are
• 33:51
  born and raised in an emotional and in the sentimental
• 33:56
  community. Our God like model and the God
• 33:59
  like communities or godly communities we are are raised in
• 34:03
  allows us to connect on an emotional level to the
• 34:06
  representatives of Allah Allah. So for example, we look at all
• 34:10
  Salaam Muhammad sallallallahu alaihi Imam Hossein Imam has a
• 34:17
  all of these figures we then connect to we, we try our best
• 34:23
  to understand the pain they went through as individuals and then
• 34:27
  we connect that with something to come.
• 34:30
  When we say Yalitharat Al Hussain, we talk about Mahmoud
• 34:33
  Mehdi's like the the global order to come.
• 34:36
  We try and draw a picture between what has happened and
• 34:39
  what is to come. I'm seeing a lot now, more in
• 34:42
  the last few weeks and months. I saw today a YouTube comment,
• 34:46
  Subhanallah, which says the events of recent history or in
• 34:49
  the last few months have led me to explore Shiism because this
• 34:53
  seems like a godly religion, Subhanallah, word for word.
• 34:57
  I saw on a, on a friend's YouTube video actually.
• 34:59
  And it it, it raises the question, how do we connect?
• 35:03
  And this I know, I forgive me said, because I know we didn't
• 35:06
  prepare you for this question, but how do we connect what we
• 35:10
  have internalized? So for example, the Azhar that
• 35:15
  we have and the commemoration we have for Imam Hussein with the
• 35:19
  message of Imam and Mehdi and what we are told to prepare for.
• 35:23
  And then propagating this, these values to the people around us
• 35:27
  who may be on the side of justice in a human way, but not
• 35:31
  inside of God theologically or in terms of submission to Allah.
• 35:35
  So for example, people who are social, socially inclined
• 35:39
  towards social justice or whatever.
• 35:42
  Sorry, I know it's a very loaded question, but I'm I'm curious to
• 35:44
  know your thoughts on this. The divinely chosen people,
• 35:52
  prophets, imams, their legacy is for people at all times.
• 36:03
  It's to inspire, motivate people at every generation and with
• 36:12
  every generation we are moving closer and closer to the
• 36:17
  promised day. Eliom El Mohout, the day on
• 36:25
  which a loss of panel to Allah will fulfil his promise that
• 36:28
  this earth will be filled with justice just like it was filled
• 36:33
  with injustice. So this is a a promise, a pledge
• 36:37
  from a loss of panel to that will happen no matter what
• 36:40
  people think. We are prohibited from making
• 36:48
  any timing and saying the vahor is near or the exactly.
• 36:53
  We don't speculate, Acento, but what we are sure about is that
• 37:00
  we are coming closer and closer and therefore we have to be
• 37:11
  aware of the this treasure that has been there for every
• 37:14
  generation. But more importantly, with the
• 37:17
  generations, as they approach the promised day, it becomes
• 37:21
  even more relevant to us and to them because this is the only
• 37:28
  way through which humanity can reach this state of perfection.
• 37:35
  This is a good opportunity to remind our audience, who may not
• 37:38
  share, like you said, our theological paradigm, to remind
• 37:47
  them that the aim of the creation, according to Islam,
• 37:53
  according to the school of adebate, is to reach perfection
• 37:56
  on an individual level, on a community level and on a global
• 38:00
  level. This is the aim of the creation.
• 38:03
  Insulted the Ariat alas hana ta'ala mentions how to bilam
• 38:07
  shershit online regime O mahalaktul jinn well inse ilali
• 38:12
  abuddin, this is to answer your question.
• 38:14
  Hajj alas says in this verse that I've only created Jin and
• 38:23
  mankind for only one reason is to worship me.
• 38:29
  Now the definition of worship, according to one of our most
• 38:32
  prominent scholars, say the Muhammad al Sadr, known as the
• 38:35
  second southern martyr. He writes in his Encyclopedia of
• 38:39
  Mahdi Ajilah Farajah. He writes the definition of Ebad
• 38:46
  is to align your will with God's will in every for every thought
• 38:54
  and every action, every word you say before you say it, you try
• 38:59
  and align it with God's will. Everything that you believe in,
• 39:04
  you try and align it with the truth, which is what Allah's
• 39:07
  will is. Everything you do, you align it.
• 39:11
  And if you continue to do that and, and since Allah's will is
• 39:17
  the perfect world, then everything you start doing
• 39:19
  becomes right. So you start ascending towards
• 39:23
  perfection day by day, moment by moment, on an individual level,
• 39:30
  the aim of the creation, the aim of having a divinely chosen
• 39:34
  message. Islam is to guide people towards
• 39:38
  perfection, individual level and a global level.
• 39:45
  And the main mission of the awaited Saviour, the 12th Imam,
• 39:50
  Imam Mahdi Ajah Allah Farajah, which all Muslims believe in, is
• 39:55
  that He will lead humanity towards this final stage, final
• 39:59
  phase of perfection. Helping him should be those.
• 40:05
  This what say Muhammad Hassan describes as a pyramid of
• 40:10
  people. The higher up you go in the
• 40:15
  level of sincerity to the godly model, in this, in the level of
• 40:19
  class, in the level of being faithful to the message, the
• 40:24
  higher you go, the less people will be there.
• 40:26
  But you're all part of the same pyramid.
• 40:31
  He's at the top with the best of people just below him and below
• 40:35
  them and below them and so on. So yes, we may describe it as
• 40:41
  Jeb hat Al Haq, the side of the truth or the front of the truth.
• 40:45
  But we're talking about a pyramid of people of varying
• 40:48
  degrees of awareness and commitment and sincerity to the
• 40:52
  godly model could be right at the bottom.
• 40:55
  I don't want to say bottom because I am kind of undermining
• 40:59
  people's commitment to justice, but compared to the higher
• 41:03
  level, it becomes kind of very basic.
• 41:06
  There's also. Wider in terms of volume of
• 41:08
  people, it's wider. In terms of volume of people,
• 41:11
  but to remind the audience that liberating a land is not enough,
• 41:17
  Yeah, of course it's more. Than that, yeah, yeah.
• 41:21
  We have many parts of the world that are not occupied, not under
• 41:25
  illegal occupation. We have many parts of the world
• 41:28
  that are that have a some sort of political freedom.
• 41:35
  And look what's happening to these.
• 41:36
  I know, I know the focus is now Philistine and Lebanon and
• 41:39
  Yemen, rightly so, and Iran, of course, and Sudan and and
• 41:47
  Abala's sisters in Somalia and so on.
• 41:50
  But look at the state of the people across the whole world.
• 41:54
  Liberating a land is not enough. Giving people some kind of a
• 42:03
  system simply to vote could bring you people with the
• 42:07
  audacity of the current president of the United States
• 42:11
  of America, you know, perfectly legal path to power.
• 42:21
  But we know that it's such a porous system that allows
• 42:24
  interest groups and, and, and money to dominate and, and, and,
• 42:31
  and, and divert people's attention and, and distract
• 42:37
  people. What are we trying to say?
• 42:41
  We're trying to say that philistine has reignited this
• 42:48
  thirst for justice, but liberating a land on its own is
• 42:54
  not the answer. You can liberate a land and
• 42:58
  install a system so unfair to the people that you could even
• 43:04
  make the problem of poverty and discrimination worse.
• 43:10
  Yeah, and you could liberate a land and make an empire and
• 43:18
  become the largest terrorist organization in the world.
• 43:23
  Yeah, quite. Literally, yeah.
• 43:26
  So having modernity, and I don't know if civilization is the
• 43:31
  right word, Liberalism, yeah, yeah, for sure.
• 43:34
  But having modernity and megacities and power and
• 43:38
  science, you could be the source of the injustice.
• 43:42
  So what we're calling for is to re evaluate the whole paradigm.
• 43:51
  Yeah, we will work together on basic rights.
• 43:56
  We will work together on fighting basic forms of
• 44:00
  injustices. But ultimately we want to end
• 44:04
  all wars. We want to help all the people
• 44:08
  of the world. We want to stop diseases and
• 44:15
  help scientists to discover treatments, not only for
• 44:22
  illnesses that make more money for certain companies, but for
• 44:26
  everyone. And in the current system, this
• 44:30
  is very restricted, very restricted.
• 44:35
  So it is a reminder. You asked me, Haj Ahmed, about
• 44:39
  the legacy of El Bait Salaam Allah Ali and how to propagate
• 44:44
  this for the future of the Imam Salaam Allah Ali.
• 44:47
  We should be reminding our community and the wider world
• 44:52
  that's the best way to fight this and to build a better
• 44:58
  world. World is this way, the divinely
• 45:02
  chosen path. We have tried so many
• 45:08
  alternative models, including the current model which we
• 45:12
  thought 100 years ago for our ancestors thought that this is
• 45:16
  going to fix it. Have a system, draw borders
• 45:19
  between states, have nation based states, which was probably
• 45:29
  very, very likely not probably the wrong model to have in many
• 45:32
  parts of the world. Have a United Nation or a League
• 45:39
  of Nations before, have a Security Council, have certain,
• 45:42
  you know, international courts and and so on.
• 45:46
  We thought we will end wars, we thought we will solve problems,
• 45:50
  but it hasn't happened and it's the problems are getting worse.
• 45:53
  Therefore, we need a new world order and we whether this is
• 45:59
  happening in the near future insha'allah or Masa Mahala in
• 46:04
  the distant future, we believe firmly that the only model that
• 46:08
  will work is a model that's divinely chosen by Allah,
• 46:15
  Subhana Taala, under the leadership of a divinely chosen
• 46:19
  person who is that weighted Imam to make this a perfect place to
• 46:23
  live in so Allah. Allah hastens reappearance.
• 46:28
  It's a beautiful reminder to say it.
• 46:29
  And it is Speaking of all these different systems.
• 46:32
  And it just goes to prove that the only system that ultimately
• 46:35
  will work is the one chosen by Allah, Spano wata Allah.
• 46:38
  And we ask for that day to be there in Shala and we can win in
• 46:41
  our lifetimes. And, you know, just speaking
• 46:44
  about, you know, the legacy of the albeit Ali Musalam and
• 46:47
  things like that. You know, for us as Shia
• 46:49
  Muslims, this is something I think we take for granted
• 46:53
  because we have the best leaders out there who give us the best
• 46:56
  of examples of how to manage different situations, different
• 47:00
  environments. What lens do we see, for
• 47:03
  example, this injustice from? And I think we should do more
• 47:06
  about this and we should if we now, how can I say Ahmed?
• 47:11
  If I say as an example, me and Ahmed are discussing something
• 47:14
  and we're confused. If we look at it from this lens,
• 47:17
  what would Alib Nabi Talib do? What would Imam Al Hussein do?
• 47:21
  And that starts and that instance, I think it will change
• 47:24
  a lot of things and allow us to have their values and to live
• 47:27
  like them and be like them. You know, we always say we live
• 47:30
  like Ali and we die like Hussein.
• 47:32
  What do we really mean it? And just on traits, for example,
• 47:35
  when I come to and if I can take the conversation more into real,
• 47:39
  real day-to-day life, say, and I mean, all of this is real, of
• 47:41
  course on an. Individual base, personal
• 47:43
  individual, family base, family base and I come.
• 47:46
  Across stories as a Muslim and Fandelai grew up hearing and
• 47:50
  listening and reading history and and there are moments, for
• 47:53
  example, where we see the Anil Bates were engaged engaged with
• 47:57
  anger. And if for example, we can look
• 47:59
  at the battlefield with the Imam Ali Ali Hiss Salaam where the
• 48:03
  enemy spat in his face and he insulted him back and he said I
• 48:08
  can't strike him now because I am angry with him is no longer
• 48:10
  for the sake of Allah. And there's different moments
• 48:12
  where anger is not just restricted to a negative, there
• 48:17
  is positive in it. If we understand a bit further
• 48:21
  and what I want to know say it is that sometimes we face
• 48:25
  situations, it'd be at home, in the workplace, even in the
• 48:30
  mosque. I've seen people have fights and
• 48:32
  get angry and the Husseinian in the middle of the Husseinian.
• 48:35
  There's things that go wrong. As believers, as Manian, as
• 48:39
  those who we say we are, Shia, as those who we take on us all,
• 48:43
  Allah sallallahu alaihi, wasallam, as our ultimate guide.
• 48:46
  How should our clock go hand in hand when we're faced with
• 48:50
  anchor? What should we do?
• 48:52
  I sent him saying. No, we have to start at home.
• 48:55
  I think we're all on the same journey here as brothers and
• 49:01
  sisters. We should start at home and we
• 49:06
  should immerse ourselves in the truth.
• 49:12
  We we are handled it less surrounded by opportunities no
• 49:15
  matter where we live because of technology and communication and
• 49:21
  the availability of information in different forms.
• 49:24
  Audio, visual. We can control our micro
• 49:29
  environment to immerse ourselves in a in constant reminders.
• 49:36
  We have that choice. We have that option which did
• 49:39
  not exist 20 years ago. You're restricted to, you know,
• 49:45
  printed sources of information. You're restricted to one
• 49:51
  language. You're restricted to distances
• 49:57
  right now. You can literally immerse
• 49:59
  yourself on the truth. Immerse yourself in in these
• 50:03
  reminders. And if you do that constantly
• 50:08
  and if you take the obligatory steps towards a loss of Hannah
• 50:12
  Ta'ala and also the recommended 1, the Mustahab.
• 50:15
  But, and this is a reminder for myself, immerse yourself.
• 50:24
  Do all the Wajibat work on the Mustahabad.
• 50:31
  Prepare for the tests before they come so that you are not
• 50:39
  caught in the middle of it. Off guard, not prepared.
• 50:46
  If we want to control our anger, then we should be preparing
• 50:50
  ourselves. We know that situations will
• 50:54
  happen before, you know, they happen outside.
• 51:00
  They do happen quite frequently within the same within the
• 51:03
  household. OK, yeah, so let's be ready.
• 51:08
  A believer should have constant reflections upon the previous
• 51:18
  hour, the previous half day, the previous day.
• 51:21
  Imam Musalkhadam, our 7th Imam says alayhi Salaam lesa minna
• 51:27
  mele muharseb nefse, he's not amongst us.
• 51:31
  He doesn't call himself a Muslim, a follower of Al Bait,
• 51:35
  the one who does not do this. Mahasaber self accountability
• 51:41
  every single day and night. And we see that it's the good
• 51:46
  nature of people to reflect upon every encounter they have.
• 51:52
  If it's goodness, they are grateful to Allah, Allah.
• 51:55
  If they did, if they did well and they ask Allah, Allah for
• 51:59
  more sustenance, more risk of that.
• 52:00
  And if they didn't do as well, then you know, they make that
• 52:04
  pledge to inshallah not to do it again.
• 52:08
  How do we do it? Say, isn't it?
• 52:11
  We immerse ourselves in reminders.
• 52:13
  The same device can be a source of distraction with ads and
• 52:19
  feeds and shorts. But if you if you know how the
• 52:23
  matrix work, you can delete and unfollow to allow the matrix to
• 52:28
  continue to bring to you reminders.
• 52:32
  All you have to do is actively delete and report and
• 52:39
  unsubscribe and subscribe to the other ones.
• 52:41
  And then they, yeah, they, they, they talk about this echo
• 52:46
  chambers. Fine.
• 52:47
  I want those echo chambers from a religious point of view.
• 52:50
  I want to read the whole political spectrum.
• 52:52
  I want to know what's happening in terms of world events.
• 52:54
  But religiously, I want to be in an echo chamber.
• 52:58
  I want every single feed and every single AD and every single
• 53:04
  whatever pops on my screen to be something to remind me of the
• 53:07
  truth. And I can do that.
• 53:11
  And if I do that, then on daily basis I will be reminded about
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  the legacy of the prophets, the imams.
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  And one of the main features, traits of their legacy is that
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  they, although they could not change everything around them,
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  even the Prophet of Islam, Sallallahu Alaihi, we know he
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  could not change everything around him.
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  And he, he was the best leader, the most influential human
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  being. There are certain things around
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  him that he could not change. Yet he was sallallahu alaihi at
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  peace. He was composed.
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  He, he continued to lead his personal life and his, his the
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  whole umm and the whole of humanity.
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  So we immerse ourself in the, in the truth.
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  So we are reminded constantly we are reminded of stories of, you
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  know, I, I keep referring to scholars because those scholars,
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  you know, we're, we're living in the same century as them, right?
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  They, some of them have departed.
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  Exactly. So one of the stories I, I, I
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  always remember about controlling your anger and maybe
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  not even have, have no anger whatsoever.
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  It's a story about shades in Humbuckle Sadr.
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  During his time there were quite a few, a few people who did not
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  understand what he was doing. So in Najaf there were people of
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  certain influence who propagated the wrong message about them.
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  And in the 70s, when the Baath Party was in charge, they forced
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  many students out of Najaf, out of the house to spear out.
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  So one of those people who was given the notice to leave Najaf
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  and depart, he was someone who spoke I'll about the said but
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  out of respect to the position of the said, he came to bid him
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  farewell. Now when he visited there are
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  there are other people in the room.
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  So say Humbakar Sadr greeted him and then he walked down with him
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  to the door and as he was leaving say the Sadr cried and
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  the people around him could not believe what they said.
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  Now you know what this person has been saying about you for
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  years. Now he's leaving.
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  OK, Fear Manila, they said after the man left, he looked at him
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  and said this man had a role to play in this society.
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  He was teaching Islam. Yes, he had the wrong view about
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  me, but he was serving a loss of Hana to Al that was the bigger.
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  Picture so I'm not. Even angry I I cry that the
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  Ummah has lost a teacher like him in the houses.
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  So, so isn't it we? We remind ourselves, we practice
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  at home. The more we hear about those
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  stories, we will stop getting angry from the spouse, the
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  mother, the father. So we're not even controlling
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  anger. We, we're not even angry.
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  We're not. Getting angry, Yeah.
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  Because we know that our leaders didn't even get angry with
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  people who wronged them. Now, whatever the problem is
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  between the husband and the wife or me and my parents, it's not
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  going to be Insha'allah, Insha'allah to the same, you
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  know, accusation that that man had against Mohammed Baker
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  Salah. That's true.
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  Yet he cried that he was forced out of said if.
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  Sorry to interrupt you, but on that particular point, my
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  question and probably my final question on this topic is in
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  those moments of anger, I think in the heat of the moment, you
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  can you can really regret doing something if you reflect on it.
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  I may have mentioned this to you.
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  I don't know if I've mentioned Tuesday the podcast or not.
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  I had an incident a few months ago.
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  I have it was a road raging incident.
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  My I'll I'll be very honest, like I'm generally quite a calm
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  guy. I don't get angry quite often.
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  Hopefully say Ali would agree. I had a moment a few a few weeks
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  ago. I was driving and it was a 2
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  lane Rd. a car tried to enter my lane to overtake a bus.
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  So I was confused. I was like why would you do the
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  horning And I was like shouting in my wheel.
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  I was caused nearly caused an accident.
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  And anyway it turned out I knew the driver.
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  So when I drove past him, not only I knew him, he was a
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  friend. Not only he's a friend, he's a
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  scholar in the community and someone who I have a close
• 58:24
  relationship with. So it caused a lot of
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  embarrassment for me and I think for him as well.
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  Long story short, I reflected, I saw his apology and after
• 58:35
  seeking that apology from him, we discussed it and Al
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  Hamdallah, like we sorted it out and it helped.
• 58:42
  I think me for my development. And you know, I speak to him
• 58:46
  somewhat regularly until now, but I think in the heat of the
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  moment, you you go through these fine tuning teething instances
• 58:56
  for that purpose of growth. How about in the long run?
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  So for example, if I have, as you've mentioned, spousal
• 59:03
  issues, parental and child based issues with friends, with
• 59:07
  colleagues, with bosses or employees, but matters of
• 59:12
  absolute resentment. So for example, I'm angry that
• 59:15
  you had, for example, opportunities I couldn't get.
• 59:21
  I'm angry that you've denied me of liberties that I deserved.
• 59:25
  I'm angry that you neglected me. Or, you know, things which are
• 59:30
  not occasional or based on an instance, but rather things
• 59:34
  which are, you know, a series of varied issues over the course of
• 59:38
  years when someone has built up frustration and resentment and
• 59:42
  anger. And to be really honest, I think
• 59:44
  when you get to that level for for a lot of people, it becomes
• 59:47
  apathy and you lose all interest.
• 59:51
  So for example, you lose your romance, you lose interest in
• 59:55
  your spouse with parents and children, you may lose the
• 59:59
  desire for a meaningful connection.
• 1:00:02
  And that's something I myself have seen kind of in community
• 1:00:06
  affairs and also. We've heard about in terms of
• 1:00:09
  people getting in touch with the podcast and sharing their
• 1:00:12
  stories a lot on on the kind of personal messages.
• 1:00:16
  I think a last message or question for me rather is for
• 1:00:19
  people who struggle with deep rooted.
• 1:00:21
  Maybe they're not bad people, but they feel wronged by someone
• 1:00:26
  over the course of years, of course, in a similar way to of
• 1:00:29
  course, Shahida Sada. But maybe as you said, not on a
• 1:00:33
  on a as grave an issue, but how do we deal with kind of dealing
• 1:00:37
  with issues? The ultimate solution is to have
• 1:00:40
  a Lhasa Hana Taala present in your life in your interaction
• 1:00:48
  with that person, no matter who that person is, parent, spouse,
• 1:00:53
  a colleague, which brings you back to the first thing I
• 1:00:57
  mentioned when we started God centric lens.
• 1:01:03
  That is the ultimate solution. The ultimate solution is to see
• 1:01:06
  that even me and my spouse, our relationship Allah Subhanahu
• 1:01:14
  Ta'ala is there. We are bombarded by messages to
• 1:01:23
  distract us from this into a self centric model of I exist,
• 1:01:26
  my life revolves around me. Hence I've suffered so much with
• 1:01:31
  that person. I can't take it anymore.
• 1:01:35
  And I'm very pleased that the audience is sharing their
• 1:01:39
  problems and issues with with after Maghreb so that we can
• 1:01:45
  address them. The ultimate solution is to have
• 1:01:48
  Allah present to have you know how to make you know.
• 1:01:51
  We know to have Vikar to have Ebad the you have to do the
• 1:01:57
  wajibat, you have to do as much as you can of the mustahabat.
• 1:02:01
  You have to have constant visual and auditory reminders about
• 1:02:07
  these stories and so on so that Allah is always there.
• 1:02:10
  When Allah is always there, then you see the world in a very
• 1:02:14
  different way. Allah.
• 1:02:18
  I know people always think that I can end this between me and my
• 1:02:23
  colleague at work because I could find another job or I can
• 1:02:27
  transfer to a different department.
• 1:02:29
  And unfortunately, some people are even thinking of that option
• 1:02:35
  within their family life, saying I'm married to this person,
• 1:02:41
  there's a way out. I would like to remind people
• 1:02:45
  that you can't solve the problem by running away from it because
• 1:02:54
  that person could be someone that you cannot detach from.
• 1:02:57
  Example your mother, your father.
• 1:03:02
  If you could end your relationship with your spouse,
• 1:03:04
  Las Amahallah would divorce because you're struggling, then
• 1:03:08
  how are you going to end a relationship with your mother or
• 1:03:10
  with your sibling? Possible.
• 1:03:15
  So. And we know that if you avoid
• 1:03:18
  them, then this will and Islamically it will have Yeah,
• 1:03:24
  exactly. There were consequences.
• 1:03:29
  So back to the solution. Solution is Allah has to be
• 1:03:32
  there all the time. If Allah is there all the time,
• 1:03:35
  that means Allah is with me. He has designed my life so that
• 1:03:39
  I meet this person at work. This person is my mother, this
• 1:03:44
  person is my son, this person is my sibling.
• 1:03:48
  Therefore, he will empower me with the ability to endure this.
• 1:03:55
  That's a theological viewing. Also, you have to develop
• 1:03:59
  skills. So to the audience, you have to
• 1:04:01
  do, you have to understand there are different personality types.
• 1:04:06
  You have to develop the skills to deal with people.
• 1:04:10
  You have to have these skills that you develop.
• 1:04:12
  You have to learn. Yeah.
• 1:04:15
  You read about them, you attend classes, you attend training.
• 1:04:21
  These things help. It helps you if you know that
• 1:04:24
  certain people in certain scenarios behave differently.
• 1:04:30
  It helps you to understand that certain people, you can't talk
• 1:04:34
  over them. You have to say something and
• 1:04:36
  then you stop to allow them to process and then speak back to
• 1:04:39
  you. You have to understand that
• 1:04:42
  people perceive love and emotion in a different way.
• 1:04:48
  There's more than one way of expressing respect and love to
• 1:04:53
  your sibling, your parents, and your spouse.
• 1:04:57
  These skills are important. You can find them across the the
• 1:05:04
  legacy of the prophets and debate and the scholars.
• 1:05:08
  But you can also find them systematically written in books
• 1:05:11
  and in in in courses to do with emotional intelligence, to do
• 1:05:17
  with with self development and so on.
• 1:05:19
  So be prepared for the test before it comes.
• 1:05:27
  Have a last part always there. Zoom out, look at the ultimate
• 1:05:33
  end. And the ultimate end is what
• 1:05:35
  Sutarad describes that the believers shall The believers
• 1:05:41
  shall enter heaven as extended families.
• 1:05:46
  So dealing with a a difficult colleague at work is is a minor
• 1:05:49
  problem compared to the challenge of having a a problem
• 1:05:54
  within the family of the extended family.
• 1:05:56
  The Quran describes the believers entering heaven as
• 1:05:59
  extended families, not just couples.
• 1:06:03
  So Tara Chapter 13 Auld Bulamsha regime.
• 1:06:09
  Jannatto Adnan yet khuluna Oman Salaham in abah ehim Ezwaji him
• 1:06:15
  with oriyati, the gardens of Eden, the final abode.
• 1:06:22
  They shall enter, enter them, and with them the righteous
• 1:06:26
  amongst their ancestors, their spouses and their offspring.
• 1:06:36
  So no matter what the problem is between you and your, any of
• 1:06:40
  these people around you, it should not affect the final
• 1:06:46
  destination. We want to get there together.
• 1:06:49
  We will get there together with Sabar.
• 1:06:52
  And Sabar is not a negative thing.
• 1:06:53
  Sabar is endurance. You have to endure it.
• 1:06:57
  It's difficult the first time, second time, third time, then
• 1:07:02
  you develop this meleke, this ability to not even get angry
• 1:07:08
  with the child, the spouse, the mother, so that you are at peace
• 1:07:14
  and show Allah. Show Allah.
• 1:07:16
  Amazing. Amazing.
• 1:07:17
  Saying that, these are like life acts.
• 1:07:19
  Yeah, honestly, what? Did I tell you everyone's going
• 1:07:22
  to implement? In our lives and and it's if I
• 1:07:26
  can just mention maybe in the last few words from me is that
• 1:07:29
  as you're saying, all of the same.
• 1:07:30
  I'm thinking about times I've been angry and things like that.
• 1:07:33
  And it's it's always, it comes back to our last span of last.
• 1:07:37
  Like I sometimes I've had moments where I've reached, you
• 1:07:41
  know, of our patience and. Maybe.
• 1:07:44
  Someone's bothered me or whatever is and I just simple
• 1:07:47
  few words suffer a lot and just that as the far it calms you
• 1:07:51
  down or for example, you know to the levels had a lot my daughter
• 1:07:56
  hyphen the other day she knows me too well.
• 1:07:59
  Something happened. We were, was it?
• 1:08:02
  Yeah, it was, I think it was Tesco.
• 1:08:04
  It was one of the supermarkets. I was getting the trolley, you
• 1:08:09
  know, for, to get the shopping, something very normal day-to-day
• 1:08:12
  life with you every week. And I was going to the trolley
• 1:08:14
  and someone just ran to the trolley and like screwed me,
• 1:08:17
  literally screwed me. And then I was so angry.
• 1:08:22
  And then after like 5-6 what did the L?
• 1:08:25
  UASA, she was she. Was she?
• 1:08:27
  She said what I was about to say.
• 1:08:29
  Well. I was a very one of one of the
• 1:08:38
  ways to deal with anger is to be so humble with your spouse and
• 1:08:42
  with your children is to ask them to remind you and I've
• 1:08:48
  recently I've done this with my children.
• 1:08:51
  I said, Baba, if you see me doing something wrong, tell me,
• 1:08:56
  yeah. That's beautiful.
• 1:08:58
  It's like it's a collective family.
• 1:08:59
  This. Humility that we're on this
• 1:09:01
  together. I'm not your father telling you
• 1:09:02
  I'm I'm a follower like yourself.
• 1:09:04
  I follow the prophet of Islam, Salah.
• 1:09:06
  I follow a little bait like you. I'm older than you but we're on
• 1:09:10
  the same journey. If you see me getting angry for
• 1:09:14
  the wrong reasons or about to say the wrong thing, remind me,
• 1:09:18
  tell me, advise me. Inshallah.
• 1:09:19
  This is a son of humility that we can all implement to help us
• 1:09:26
  to endure this together in Charlotte.
• 1:09:27
  Thank you. So much, I think these are all
• 1:09:30
  gems, I said. I decided.
• 1:09:32
  And I think we're, while we live in we're, we're so we're so
• 1:09:35
  thirsty and impatient. You know, we're thirsty for, for
• 1:09:40
  satisfaction and we're, we're always trying to, to what's the
• 1:09:44
  word I'm looking for? Satiate our desire for
• 1:09:47
  entertainment and for for quick kind of stimulation
• 1:09:51
  gratification. Gratification.
• 1:09:53
  And therefore, as a result, we lose patience faster and we we
• 1:09:58
  tend to kind of fall into these things.
• 1:10:00
  And it could be applied to anything.
• 1:10:02
  And of course, in today's episode, we've covered
• 1:10:04
  everything from anger that we feel on a global level.
• 1:10:07
  We talked about Alaspon to Allah's, his, his, his
• 1:10:12
  attributes and kind of how we understand things from a
• 1:10:16
  theological level and then also obviously on an internalised
• 1:10:19
  level as well. So I think there's a lot of
• 1:10:21
  lessons for us to bear in mind, Inshallah.
• 1:10:24
  Say, any last words from you, any recommendations, for
• 1:10:26
  example, for reading or research or where perhaps people can, are
• 1:10:30
  people able to get in touch with you?
• 1:10:32
  Would you welcome that as well, Sharla?
• 1:10:34
  Khadmet Kamchallah Through this podcast we can interact with the
• 1:10:37
  audience and hear their feedback and which their experiences and
• 1:10:43
  their feedback is is a big learning for us.
• 1:10:47
  The final word I say is that we should all inshallah adhere to
• 1:10:51
  the path of Allah. Allah the prophet has left us 2
• 1:10:54
  weighty things Al Quran al bait alim Salam.
• 1:10:59
  It is doable to have those reminders on daily basis.
• 1:11:04
  Allah Muhammad, al mahiya Muhammad Ali Muhammad.
• 1:11:07
  Grant me the life of Muhammad al Muhammad Omammaty, my end, my
• 1:11:14
  departure from this world to be like the Prophet and his holy
• 1:11:18
  household. Accessing these reminders is the
• 1:11:23
  only way to saturate our micro environment, to immerse ourself
• 1:11:28
  in the truth so that we can endure this difficult journey
• 1:11:32
  towards. Inshallah the final above to
• 1:11:35
  towards perfection towards Allah Spanatar.
• 1:11:37
  So it's not to. Say that shook my love, unless
• 1:11:39
  you protect you and always give you the top fear alike the fear.
• 1:11:42
  Come Jenny, and show us all to. Benefit from your germs and
• 1:11:45
  words of wisdom and shot Allah and brothers and sisters.
• 1:11:47
  For those of you at home, if you know someone who's angry, share
• 1:11:50
  this episode with them so inshallah they can calm.
• 1:11:55
  The you're angry. As I said before, before you
• 1:11:57
  punch me in the face, I have a YouTube link.
• 1:12:00
  Yeah, and we'll. See you again next week.
• 1:12:04
  Same time was Salaam Alaikum.