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Ep. 20 | Incorporating Music in the Home · The Family Teams Podcast

• 0:06
  Hey guys, welcome to the 5-Minute Fatherhood Podcast. I'm your co-host, Jeff Beth Key, along with my friend and mentor, Jeremy Pryor. Join us Monday through Friday as we chat about quick tips, skills, and ways to help equip you on your journey as a father to build your multi-generational family team on mission. Stay tuned.
• 0:27
  What's up, guys? Jeff and Jeremy here. Welcome back to the 5-Minute Fatherhood Podcast. We have a fun topic for you today, but hopefully actually one that makes you think a little bit and maybe if you don't do this, you can maybe start doing a little bit more because it is fun but also has a lot of other immense benefits. And that is five ways to incorporate music in the home. So Jeremy, I'd love to hear you go first.
• 0:47
  All right, guys. So yeah, this is a big deal. You need to think about what kind of atmosphere you want to create in your house. And I think music requires some intentionality to encourage you guys as dads to really dive into this. One of the things we do is we have a post-Shabbat dance playlist. So what happens is imagine we have this epic meal every Friday night. It's really fun. We have candles. We have a lot of usually guests over, sometimes mostly grandparents,
• 1:17
  And, you know, cleaning up from this is kind of a nightmare if it just falls on one or two people. So instead of that, we have a special playlist, we crank up the music, and we're really in a celebrative, festive mood. And so we crank up the dance music and we all just sort of run around like cleaning up takes about...
• 1:34
  two or three dance songs to completely crush a meal that had all dishes, lots and lots of plates, the whole settings for like 16 to 20 people. We knock it out in a couple of really good dance songs, and we have tons of fun. And so that just brings a lot of energy, and we really want Friday nights at our house to be celebrative. So music is absolutely key and awesome part of that. So that's one of the favorite ways that I think we incorporate music in our house.
• 1:59
  Totally. And I love that one too. And we're very similar where I think whenever we feel like we have a bigger cleanup or something like that, we'll, or we just want to, it's, and make it celebratory and fun that we turn on the music. And I feel like if we just want to, it's almost like, um, it's like you can't, music is so part of our culture and humanity and history, et cetera. You're almost like kind of preloading, like things you want to get done into with the music. You know what I mean? Like, Oh, I want celebration and fastness. Let's do a fast fun song, stuff like that. So what, what, what I would say though,
• 2:25
  that is really big in our household is kind of like bedtime songs in like a soft, gentle way. We are big on usually Kinsley wants to sing a couple songs in bed, and we sing a couple to Cannon as well before we put him down. And I think there's just something about, again, that liturgical rhythm of daily or nightly truth. So basically what I'm trying to say is I think use music...
• 2:45
  or songs to kind of inject truth in a very memorized way into your kids. I think memorizing songs, it's easier to recall later in life. It's easier to be triggered by something when you walk by something or hear something. And so I think definitely using it to inject truth and thinking of fun, easy songs you like that do that is really fun in our family.
• 3:07
  Yeah. I want to piggyback off of that because one of the things I created early on was a travel playlist because I wanted my kids to really remember all of these sort of different places we went. We went to a lot of national parks the first five or 10 years. Our kids were really young. And so, you know, we created that on the road again, like, you know.
• 3:27
  Yes. So Penny Rodgers is different road songs, about 12 songs. So every single time we took off for our road trip, we would crank up this travel playlist. And I always have this sort of wistful idea that one of my kids is going to be maybe with a sibling. They'll be like 50 or 60 years old, and one of these songs will play at some restaurant. They'll look over at each other and go...
• 3:50
  Yeah, that was, you know, they both had the same memory at the same moment. It's one of the biggest memory triggers that just works. Yeah, so having different playlists for maybe different events, particularly if they repeat. So if you have like a special trip you go on every year, or it could be obviously holiday playlists or whatever, but definitely like curate some kind of playlist like that so that your kids will have that shared memory from one another and that it just becomes sort of a deep part of what it meant to be and grow up in your family.
• 4:20
  Yeah, exactly. And then another one I would say actually, oh man, right when I was about to start talking, I totally forgot. What was it again? Oh yeah. I think another, another one that's big to us is, uh, utilizing the car. I think car, especially with toddlers can sometimes be difficult times, uh, right. Or just like, don't yell at each other. Don't hit each other, get in the car, sees blah, blah. And I think we've seen for us that music is really helpful to incorporate either like a game of the car, like, you know,
• 4:45
  It's time to get in and do this or whatever, or the longevity of a ride. And we kind of mix up whether it's audio books of like kids stories and music. So I'm kind of batching this in together, but it's kind of the injecting of truth again, or like taking, I think it's taking advantage of your margins and taking advantage of things in the car. Just like filling the space in a healthy, truthful, beautiful, and amazing way. And that's, and we kind of, we rarely let the kids pick.
• 5:10
  A lot of stuff like in the house that we listen to and the car is kind of almost a little bit of like a special time where because of that, then they are really obedient and good in cars because we'll usually let them say, hey, what do you want to listen to? And you kind of pick on this on going there and then, you know, your brother can pick on the way going back, stuff like that. So it's a little bit more of like a treat for them to pick if that makes sense.
• 5:28
  Yeah, that's good. And the last one I'll say, guys, is that this is kind of maybe 20% of you will be able to relate to, but hopefully the rest of you can figure out how it might apply. But to geek out again on my favorite author, J.R.R. Tolkien, we have our Tolkien night where we read on Monday nights some part of Lord of the Rings. And I like to start that off by playing this epic song called The Song of Durin. So if any of you guys ever watched The Hobbit movie, there's this
• 5:53
  Probably my favorite part in the whole Hobbit movie is when the dwarves, you know, get around the fire and sing that song about where they're wistfully thinking about their homeland that they're trying to go back to, which is an incredible song. But there's actually a poem to me that's even more reminiscent of Tolkien and his sort of idea of deep loss and longing. That's really, he's able to hit that chord like no one else. And there's a song called The Song of Durin, which Gimli writes,
• 6:21
  uh, sings in the minds of Moria and the, in the first, uh, book of the Lord of the Rings, fellowship of the ring. And, um, there's a, there's a version on it. If you're a Tolkien geek run to YouTube right now, check it out. Song of Doran. It's got a base note in it. That'll blow your mind. So our subwoofer just shakes the entire house.
• 6:37
  as we enter into the realm of Lord of the Rings every week with that song. And that kind of thing where you just sort of enter into or think about a song as sort of like a portal into a place. And if you could create that, that's really what I wanted to create with that song. And I think you can do that with whatever kind of theme nights or fun things that are unique to your family. Is there a song? Is there a playlist? Is there some portal you can open up into that world that music can allow you to do that? And I think...
• 7:06
  If you can figure that out and you can really bring your kids in through that portal, it's going to be awesome.
• 7:12
  Totally. And guys, I think, I mean, and that's clear with, and this is a kind of a cousin of normal music. And I think that's like soundtrack or story music, like you just said. And whether it's, you know, even Pirates of the Caribbean, it's like, you know, like any, any, the more than almost even normal music, film, music, soundtrack, story music is so captivating and so matches perfectly the emotion that wants to be brought out. And I think that's a great, like use those to your advantage, whether it's an adventure as a family, whether it's a fun thing,
• 7:41
  soundtracks and more like fun narrative film stories and their music are really powerful and really fun. Like you said, to enter in, enter into a type of place with a certain type of feeling. So we love you guys. Let us know on social media, especially on this one, kind of what your favorite music is, how you guys utilize it as a family. And we can't wait to hear.
• 7:59
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