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Do I Feel Worthy of More Money (And Is That What’s Holding Me Back?) | Money Manifestation Chapter 7 · Rock My Finances

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  Speaker 4: Welcome back to the Money Manifesting series. We are in
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  Speaker 4: chapter seven right now, so you've missed a lot. You
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  Speaker 4: got to go check all the other ones out. Today
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  Speaker 4: is going to be really, really good women. Do I
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  Speaker 4: feel worthy of more money? And what is holding you back?
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  Speaker 4: This goes for women and men, actually, but women come
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  Speaker 4: to it with a different different train of thought because
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  Speaker 4: we are more emotional around our money.
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  Speaker 2: We have a relationship with it.
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  Speaker 4: So we're talking about the underneath everything when it comes
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  Speaker 4: to money and what that is worthiness.
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  Speaker 2: Do we feel worthy?
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  Speaker 4: Because this isn't just about numbers, and it's not just
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  Speaker 4: about strategy and education and learning about money and listening
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  Speaker 4: to CNBC and you know, CNN and.
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  Speaker 2: All that stuff.
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  Speaker 4: It's about how you feel about yourself when it comes
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  Speaker 4: to receiving, holding, growing and spending your money. Here's an example.
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  Speaker 4: I like to spend my money because I believe that
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  Speaker 4: money is all energy. So I believe that we all
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  Speaker 4: wake up the same amount of hours in a day.
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  Speaker 4: We choose where we spend our energy. So if you
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  Speaker 4: go to a job, you take your energy, your skills,
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  Speaker 4: and your attributes to that job. You trade time for
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  Speaker 4: your salary, You get your paycheck, and you say thank you,
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  Speaker 4: thank you. Here's my energy, and thank you for appreciating
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  Speaker 4: my energy. And here's money in the form of that.
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  Speaker 4: So now you have money that's energy. It goes into
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  Speaker 4: the bank. So now your bank is a bunch of energy,
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  Speaker 4: all this money that's growing in there.
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  Speaker 2: And I've said.
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  Speaker 4: Before that we all have a temperature around money. We
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  Speaker 4: can accept so much money growing in our bank account
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  Speaker 4: because we feel worthy of it. But once it starts
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  Speaker 4: tipping that scale and gets larger than what we're used to,
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  Speaker 4: our worthiness comes to attack it, and we either find
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  Speaker 4: an experience to spend it or have to spend it.
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  Speaker 4: A bill might come up, a car might have a
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  Speaker 4: flat tire, or whatever it might be, we would have
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  Speaker 4: to spend the money out of it, or we create
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  Speaker 4: an experience to spend the money ourselves. We're going to
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  Speaker 4: go to NAPA for the weekend and do wine day sting,
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  Speaker 4: or go for a vacation or whatever whatever it is.
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  Speaker 4: We want that energy in our bank accounts, something that
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  Speaker 4: we feel worthy of. I hope that makes sense. If not,
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  Speaker 4: it will, don't worry. So this is not about numbers.
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  Speaker 4: This is a it's not about strategy. It's about how
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  Speaker 4: we feel about ourselves when we're receiving the money, we
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  Speaker 4: say thank you for our paycheck. Do we thank you
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  Speaker 4: to our clients for paying us? However, you get paid
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  Speaker 4: your money your businesses. However, you get paid receiving it,
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  Speaker 4: holding it in our bank accounts and our investment accounts
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  Speaker 4: in our house if we have cash and growing it.
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  Speaker 4: So when we see our brokerage accounts growing, I had
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  Speaker 4: a year, a couple of years, we doubled our money.
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  Speaker 4: Everybody doubled their investment money.
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  Speaker 2: How was that? Was it great?
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  Speaker 4: And spending it? Do you resent having to spend your money?
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  Speaker 4: Do you try to hang on to it so tight
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  Speaker 4: you never wanted to leave, You never wanted to go anywhere?
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  Speaker 4: Is that a belief you have? Is that equal security?
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  Speaker 4: And when you go to spend it you have less security?
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  Speaker 4: So for a lot of women, this runs very, very
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  Speaker 4: very deep, not because you did anything wrong, but because
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  Speaker 4: what you were taught directly or indirectly growing up. So
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  Speaker 4: let's think about this for a minute. What did you
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  Speaker 4: see around money as a child? Was money talked about openly?
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  Speaker 4: Was it stressful? Was it quiet? Was it avoided? Did
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  Speaker 4: you see a adult paying the bills on a monthly basis?
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  Speaker 4: Did you see them stressed out paying the bills that
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  Speaker 4: you could have even saw fighting arguments over money, over
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  Speaker 4: spending too much.
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  Speaker 2: You could have seen.
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  Speaker 4: Abuse for sure, financial abuse, physical abuse, emotional abuse.
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  Speaker 2: You could have seen lies.
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  Speaker 4: Maybe one parent doesn't want the other parent to know
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  Speaker 4: what they're spending their money on, so then they're teaching
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  Speaker 4: you how to keep secrets and teaching you that it's
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  Speaker 4: not honest. Money brings out liars, basically, right, did you
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  Speaker 4: hear things like we can't afford that, money doesn't grow
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  Speaker 4: on trees, be careful, don't ask for too much. Did
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  Speaker 4: you get bought your affection by money? I had grew
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  Speaker 4: up in an alcoholic homb, which I've said many times
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  Speaker 4: and only a couple times. It wasn't a regular pattern,
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  Speaker 4: but I can count two times that my mom was
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  Speaker 4: so angry at my dad.
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  Speaker 2: She would take me out and go shopping.
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  Speaker 4: And I remember a sweater that I bought one time
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  Speaker 4: because my mom's frugal like me.
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  Speaker 2: I love that effort.
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  Speaker 4: I'm very frugal, and it was an extravagant letter as sweater.
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  Speaker 2: It was very extravagant. I would have never spent that
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  Speaker 2: money on it.
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  Speaker 4: And then another time I got a jacket that was
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  Speaker 4: very extravagant that we would have never spent that. She
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  Speaker 4: would have never spent that money on that time. Now,
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  Speaker 4: we used to shop at Mervyn's. You remember Mervin's back
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  Speaker 4: in the day Mervin's grants. I can't remember anyways. I
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  Speaker 4: was raised in California, so that's where we shopped. There
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  Speaker 4: was no Nordstrums, Macy's, Sachs, there was none of that.
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  Speaker 4: So I grew up frugal and knowing that, and so
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  Speaker 4: I knew that there was something going on with that
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  Speaker 4: money during that time, that she would be spending something
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  Speaker 4: so crazy. Right, So it's not about the money, it's
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  Speaker 4: about the feeling behind the money. And maybe it wasn't
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  Speaker 4: even about money. Maybe it's about being nice. Did you
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  Speaker 4: hear that? I mean, I was raised. I had a friend,
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  Speaker 4: best friend that was in the church, and it was
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  Speaker 4: a Baptist church.
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  Speaker 2: It was it was fun. I really enjoyed going there.
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  Speaker 4: We went to Mischionettes on Wednesdays, we went to youth
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  Speaker 4: group on Fridays, We went to church on Sundays and
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  Speaker 4: then we went for lunch and then we went back
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  Speaker 4: to church on Sunday nights. So it was I enjoyed it. It
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  Speaker 4: was fun, but it did teach girls to be quiet
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  Speaker 4: and nice. That was my lesson that I got out
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  Speaker 4: of church. And if not, Jesus was not going to
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  Speaker 4: love me, I wasn't going to be good enough. And
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  Speaker 4: I never did feel good enough going to church. I
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  Speaker 4: have to say, that's just an AHA that I just
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  Speaker 4: had and shared with you. There you go, Thanks for
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  Speaker 4: the therapy. Okay, don't be too much, don't be too loud,
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  Speaker 4: don't be too greedy, don't want to buy expensive things,
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  Speaker 4: don't try to outshine other people, don't be boisterous and ostentatious. Right,
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  Speaker 4: it could be so many different things like calm down, relax,
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  Speaker 4: you know that kind of thing. And what happens over
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  Speaker 4: time is those messages start to shape how you see yourself.
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  Speaker 4: And we've all done this. I'm I'm a parent as well,
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  Speaker 4: and I know that I've done this so so much,
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  Speaker 4: still doing it, thank god. My daughter speaks up to
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  Speaker 4: me now. But you don't know, don't We really don't know.
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  Speaker 4: We don't get a handbook right, and so we don't
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  Speaker 4: know what we're doing. And our parents didn't know either.
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  Speaker 4: So this is not about blame or judgment it's just
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  Speaker 4: about noticing so we can change it. We might not
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  Speaker 4: even realize it, but they do become beliefs, beliefs about
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  Speaker 4: what's safe, what's allowed, and what you deserve. So if
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  Speaker 4: we don't feel nice enough, like I just had that
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  Speaker 4: aha about church, I never felt good enough to be
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  Speaker 4: in that church. So that is the beginning of not
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  Speaker 4: feeling good enough, right, and then being very different that
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  Speaker 4: My parents were always out partying and drinking, and you
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  Speaker 4: know a lot of my other parents' friends didn't, our
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  Speaker 4: friend's parents didn't, and so I felt like an outcast
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  Speaker 4: or less than or not good, not as good. Well,
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  Speaker 4: I turned that into money, right, my relationship with money.
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  Speaker 4: I'm not good enough. I'm not worthy enough to have millions.
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  Speaker 1: You know.
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  Speaker 4: All of that all boils down to that, So beliefs
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  Speaker 4: about what's safe, what's allowed, and what you deserve. So
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  Speaker 4: now fast forward to today. You're smart, you're capable.
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  Speaker 2: You're hardworking. You had a great job, you love.
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  Speaker 4: Your boss, you work your boat off, you might have
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  Speaker 4: a degree, you might have been a business owner forever.
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  Speaker 4: Were worked and worked and worked like my parents' business
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  Speaker 4: was seven days a week, three hundred and sixty five
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  Speaker 4: days a year. I worked my whole life every day.
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  Speaker 4: There was no vacations, there was none of that. If
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  Speaker 4: we did, we had to stay close enough to where
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  Speaker 4: my dad could come back to work. So that was
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  Speaker 4: just the way I grew up.
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  Speaker 2: And that's okay.
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  Speaker 4: But when it comes to money, something feels off. You
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  Speaker 4: hesitate a little bit, You second guess yourself, You undervalue yourself.
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  Speaker 4: A lot of women undervalue ourselves. We never ask for
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  Speaker 4: a raise or promotion, like we go above and beyond,
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  Speaker 4: like it's so funny.
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  Speaker 2: So we just had COVID right several.
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  Speaker 4: Years ago, and everybody was so worried about women being
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  Speaker 4: at home and not being on the clock or in
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  Speaker 4: the office. And I am telling you, women get way
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  Speaker 4: more stuff done for their company when they're at home
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  Speaker 4: because they can get everything done they don't have to
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  Speaker 4: have stress. So women put in way more hours over
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  Speaker 4: COVID than they ever did before. And I know I'm
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  Speaker 4: general for sure, and I'm sixty two, so it could
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  Speaker 4: be the women that I know. I don't know, but
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  Speaker 4: there's no need to worry about working.
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  Speaker 2: We all.
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  Speaker 4: I feel like a majority of us work way more
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  Speaker 4: than what we're being paid for. And I know I'm
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  Speaker 4: in the financial industry, and so we do because things
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  Speaker 4: need to happen no matter what. So I feel like
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  Speaker 4: we do undervalue ourselves for sure. You feel you might
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  Speaker 4: even feel uncomfortable receiving more. Like a lot of us
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  Speaker 4: start with compliments. What do you say when someone compliments you?
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  Speaker 4: I mean, I've had the bad habit of oh that
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  Speaker 4: old thing, or I tell them my bottom on sale
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  Speaker 4: because I'm a frugal, frugal fanny. I love being frugal
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  Speaker 4: and I'm proud of that, and so oh yeah, I
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  Speaker 4: think this is such a great deal, or you know,
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  Speaker 4: I just did it the other day. Someone give me
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  Speaker 4: a compliment and I said something, oh my green jacket
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  Speaker 4: for Saint Patrick's Day, and I had a little staying
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  Speaker 4: here I think. I don't know when I put on
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  Speaker 4: my makeup where I did something and I showed him that,
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  Speaker 4: and she's like, you didn't have to show me that.
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  Speaker 4: I'm like, you're right, what the hell I show that to you?
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  Speaker 4: For like, it's so funny, like why do we do that?
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  Speaker 4: And sometimes it doesn't even make sense, and it's on
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  Speaker 4: the surface we don't even realize it's happening, but it's
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  Speaker 4: actually beneath, and a lot of things are happening underneath
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  Speaker 4: the surface, right, So that big old iceberg, we only
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  Speaker 4: see the little top of it, but there's so much underneath.
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  Speaker 4: And that's what I want you to do, is I
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  Speaker 4: want you to look at what's underneath, not feeling worthy.
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  Speaker 4: You're part because the part of you operating from those
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  Speaker 4: earlier beliefs are underneath, right, and your brain is trying
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  Speaker 4: to keep you in what feels familiar, which means the
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  Speaker 4: temperature of your money, your savings account, your brokerage accounts,
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  Speaker 4: your four one ks. It wants you to grow a
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  Speaker 4: certain amount for it to feel comfortable the income coming
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  Speaker 4: in monthly. It wants you to have a certain amount
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  Speaker 4: that's been used to and that it can be acceptable.
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  Speaker 4: It wants you to be in that familiar place, even
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  Speaker 4: though it is a limitation. So we have to blow
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  Speaker 4: that out of the water. So the question isn't just
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  Speaker 4: how do I make more money? The question is do
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  Speaker 4: I feel safe and worthy of receiving more money?
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  Speaker 1: Dun?
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  Speaker 2: Dun, dun? Yep?
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  Speaker 4: Do I feel safe and worthy of receiving more money?
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  Speaker 4: Because the answer is no, even a little bit, if
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  Speaker 4: your behavior will reflect that. So you might hold yourself back,
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  Speaker 4: stay smaller than you are, avoid for asking for more, avoid,
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  Speaker 4: or even feel uncomfortable when things start expanding. I know
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  Speaker 4: I did. Started making more money and it was weird.
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  Speaker 4: It was weird. I was making six figures and then
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  Speaker 4: I went up to like over two hundred thousand, and
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  Speaker 4: then I went a little bit higher, and I'm like,
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  Speaker 4: oh my gosh. That's when it started feeling really weird
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  Speaker 4: because it was now all my bills are paid, all
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  Speaker 4: my savings accounts are saved, and I'm putting all my
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  Speaker 4: money away. And then it was even more on top
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  Speaker 4: of that. So for me, it was excess money. And
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  Speaker 4: when it was excess money, it was like, wow, Okay,
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  Speaker 4: something's happening here. And that's when I started to get
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  Speaker 4: my own coach and get my stuff together so that
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  Speaker 4: I could get rid of my life. Limiting beliefs. This
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  Speaker 4: is not because you can't do it. It's because it
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  Speaker 4: doesn't fully feel like you yet. You can absolutely step
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  Speaker 4: into that person that's going to accept all that money,
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  Speaker 4: and that's what we're here for.
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  Speaker 2: We want to do that. This is really important.
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  Speaker 4: Worthiness is not something that you prove, it's something that
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  Speaker 4: you allow okay, and it doesn't happen overnight. You build
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  Speaker 4: it the same way we've been talking about this entire series,
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  Speaker 4: step by step, through our thoughts, through our emotions, through
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  Speaker 4: our identity. So this is where you bring in all
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  Speaker 4: your tools again. So when you notice that hesitation, that
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  Speaker 4: doubt creeping in the feeling of I don't know if
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  Speaker 4: I can do this, any hesitation whatsoever, don't just push
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  Speaker 4: through it. I want you to pause. I want you
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  Speaker 4: to do the diamond reset. We want to stop breathe,
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  Speaker 4: feel that hesitation. Then we shift it one level up,
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  Speaker 4: the emotional square, the emotion old scale. Sorry, we need
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  Speaker 4: to know what's going on so that we can clear
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  Speaker 4: that old pattern, that old belief. And when you begin
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  Speaker 4: to shift your thinking gently, not forcing it. You're not
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  Speaker 4: going to pretend you're confident or a badass. You want
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  Speaker 4: to build it slowly, and it could be fast, it
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  Speaker 4: could be overnight, but I want you to just feel it.
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  Speaker 4: Wouldn't it be nice if right, that's what we start
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  Speaker 4: doing it. Wouldn't it be nice if then I'm starting
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  Speaker 4: to feel and then I'm becoming someone who and it
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  Speaker 4: is nice that I am all right? So the first
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  Speaker 4: one wouldn't it be nice if I trusted myself with
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  Speaker 4: more money. Wouldn't it be nice if I felt really
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  Speaker 4: good when I got an extra big bonus. Wouldn't it
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  Speaker 4: be nice if I knew exactly what to do with
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  Speaker 4: all my money when I doubled my income. I'm starting
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  Speaker 4: to feel more capable. I'm starting to feel more confident.
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  Speaker 4: I'm starting to feel like I deserve more money. I'm
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  Speaker 4: starting to feel worthy of more mone money. I am
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  Speaker 4: becoming someone who handles money very well. I am becoming
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  Speaker 4: someone who loves money. I am becoming someone who knows
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  Speaker 4: about money. I am becoming someone who feels really good
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  Speaker 4: about having lots of money. I am becoming someone who
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  Speaker 4: likes money in the excess. It is nice that I
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  Speaker 4: am growing into a confident woman. It is nice that
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  Speaker 4: I'm growing into a woman of wealth. It is nice
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  Speaker 4: that I am feeling worthy of more money. It is
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  Speaker 4: nice that I am badass. It is nice that I
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  Speaker 4: am feeling wonderful every day. All these little things right.
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  Speaker 4: But we're building it slowly. And here's what starts to happen.
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  Speaker 4: You begin to see yourself differently, and when your identity shifts,
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  Speaker 4: your behavior follows. Yes, I promise you speak up more.
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  Speaker 4: You might talk at parties more. You actually might go
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  Speaker 4: to parties more. When you make clear decisions, they feel
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  Speaker 4: better and they're easier, quicker, they're more decisive, and they
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  Speaker 4: feel really good. You stop shrinking yourself and that's where
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  Speaker 4: the diamond life three c's come in because when you
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  Speaker 4: start to see yourself clearly, that's clarity. When you trust
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  Speaker 4: yourself more, that's control, and when you trust your decisions,
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  Speaker 4: that's confidence. So if you've ever felt something is holding
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  Speaker 4: you back with money, I want you to consider this.
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  Speaker 4: It may not be your ability, it may not be
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  Speaker 4: your knowledge, it may be the version of you that
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  Speaker 4: you've been taught to be. And now just because it
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  Speaker 4: isn't familiar doesn't mean you cannot become someone new. It's
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  Speaker 4: about allowing yourself to become who you already are, without
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  Speaker 4: the limits and you that you've learned along the way.
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  Speaker 4: So we just want to release the limits. And this
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  Speaker 4: is where everything begins to change. Are you ready for
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  Speaker 4: a short exercise? All right, here we go, keep this calm,
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  Speaker 4: simple and not overwhelming. Just a quick exercise that you
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  Speaker 4: can do. Bring out your money journal and you can
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  Speaker 4: do it. Right now.
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  Speaker 2: You can do it later. It's not complicated. Just awareness.
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  Speaker 4: Take a piece of paper, open your notes, write this
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  Speaker 4: at the top. What do I believe about myself when
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  Speaker 4: it comes to money? What do I believe about myself
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  Speaker 4: when it comes to money? You might write, I'm not
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  Speaker 4: good with money. I always feel behind. You might write,
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  Speaker 4: I have to work really hard for money. I don't
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  Speaker 4: know if I can handle more money. I don't know
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  Speaker 4: how to make more money. Money scares me. I'm not
• 17:33
  Speaker 4: good with money. I always lose money, I never have
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  Speaker 4: enough money. All of those things right, Notice what comes up?
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  Speaker 4: Then you want to ask yourself the second question along
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  Speaker 4: each sentence that comes up. I want you to spend
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  Speaker 4: a little bit of time with this. This is groundbreaking.
• 17:49
  Speaker 4: This is what I do in my coaching. Want to
• 17:51
  Speaker 4: ask yourself, where did I learn this? Who did I
• 17:55
  Speaker 4: learn this from? So then we're going to go back
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  Speaker 4: to the first statement on your pay I'm not good
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  Speaker 4: with money. Where did I learn this? Well, my dad
• 18:04
  Speaker 4: always yelled at my mom about the bills. I learned
• 18:08
  Speaker 4: it from my mom. You might be great with money,
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  Speaker 4: but you're taking on that persona Since your mom's not
• 18:13
  Speaker 4: good with money, you're not good with money. Where did
• 18:16
  Speaker 4: I learn this? I could have learned it because I
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  Speaker 4: charged up credit cards in college and then I paid
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  Speaker 4: off my debt and moved on, So that you might
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  Speaker 4: have had that stigma in your head from here on
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  Speaker 4: out that you're not good with money. You might be
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  Speaker 4: a spender. A lot of people are emotional spenders. They
• 18:31
  Speaker 4: want to find some type of joy in their life,
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  Speaker 4: and so they'll go spend money, and that brings them
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  Speaker 4: a very.
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  Speaker 2: Short lived joy.
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  Speaker 4: Just like eaters over eaters right or bad eaters, I
• 18:42
  Speaker 4: should say right. Anything that makes us feel good, the
• 18:45
  Speaker 4: only reason why we want it, no matter what it is,
• 18:48
  Speaker 4: is to make us feel better. That's it money, food, sex, gambling, travel,
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  Speaker 4: a partner. We just think we're going to feel better
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  Speaker 4: when we have it, so that's why we want it.
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  Speaker 4: So we want to know where we learned this. Was
• 19:03
  Speaker 4: it something you heard growing up, was it something you
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  Speaker 4: actually experienced, was it something you picked up from watching others?
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  Speaker 4: And the most important part ask yourself, is this actually
• 19:15
  Speaker 4: true now or is this something that I've been carrying?
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  Speaker 4: Because most of the time it's something that you've been carrying,
• 19:22
  Speaker 4: not something that you choose today. As an adult, badass woman.
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  Speaker 4: And if you didn't consciously choose it, you can start
• 19:29
  Speaker 4: to shift it and release it and let it go.
• 19:32
  Speaker 4: You don't have to fix it all at once, but
• 19:34
  Speaker 4: just seeing it is the first step to change. So
• 19:37
  Speaker 4: here's one of my mantras that we grew up with,
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  Speaker 4: working hard, we make money. Like we worked seven days
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  Speaker 4: a week throughnut sixty five days a year. That's just
• 19:45
  Speaker 4: what our business was. So working hard made money, and
• 19:47
  Speaker 4: we did. We had a good life growing up. I
• 19:50
  Speaker 4: had a waterbed, I had a TV in a room
• 19:52
  Speaker 4: in my room. I had a phone in my room.
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  Speaker 4: You know I did. Okay, I got a car when
• 19:56
  Speaker 4: I was sixteen, and then I bought my own car.
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  Speaker 2: So working hard made money make money.
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  Speaker 4: Well, I busted that out the year that I took
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  Speaker 4: some time off and relaxed and didn't go in Fridays
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  Speaker 4: and Mondays, and I doubled my income. So I blasted
• 20:12
  Speaker 4: that belief out. That's not true. Working hard does not
• 20:16
  Speaker 4: create more money. It just doesn't. It's your mindset around
• 20:21
  Speaker 4: worthiness of attracting. The more money receiving, the more money allowing,
• 20:25
  Speaker 4: the more money. So I had to change that belief.
• 20:28
  Speaker 4: I had another belief I'm not worthy of money. If
• 20:31
  Speaker 4: you know my story, I suffered a tragedy when I
• 20:32
  Speaker 4: was twenty nine, and of course I made some mistakes
• 20:36
  Speaker 4: with all of that, and so I felt like I
• 20:39
  Speaker 4: was worthy of joy and love and money. I had
• 20:42
  Speaker 4: a beautiful coach, Mayvo at the time, and she helped
• 20:46
  Speaker 4: me clear that belief. And I'm like, oh yeah, I
• 20:50
  Speaker 4: forgive myself move on, and I'm absolutely worthy of all
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  Speaker 4: the money, wealth, and joy this universe can give me
• 20:58
  Speaker 4: and I can receive. Once I cleared, that doubled my
• 21:01
  Speaker 4: income that year. So yes, we can do this quickly,
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  Speaker 4: easily and simply. But you don't have to do it alone.
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  Speaker 4: You can definitely reach out. There's lots of great money
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  Speaker 4: coaches out there. Of course, I know one that's really
• 21:14
  Speaker 4: good that can help you. You want to have your
• 21:17
  Speaker 4: financial plan done, you don't have to go into that
• 21:20
  Speaker 4: by yourself. Like I don't go in my garage by
• 21:23
  Speaker 4: myself because I have so many memories, so many losses,
• 21:27
  Speaker 4: so much in there, so many mementos and all that.
• 21:31
  Speaker 2: I just don't like to do it by myself because
• 21:33
  Speaker 2: it could be very emotional.
• 21:34
  Speaker 4: So I always grab a friend before I go through
• 21:36
  Speaker 4: my garage and go out through stuff. Same thing with
• 21:39
  Speaker 4: your finances. It's emotional. It's really emotional. You might have
• 21:43
  Speaker 4: a divorce or two, like my first husband, I'm a widow.
• 21:46
  Speaker 4: You know, there's some things in our finances and some
• 21:49
  Speaker 4: mistakes that we might have made or we felt that
• 21:51
  Speaker 4: we might have made. And so you don't have to
• 21:53
  Speaker 4: go into it by yourself, no judgment, no blame. It's
• 21:58
  Speaker 4: just data collecting so we can sh field beliefs and
• 22:01
  Speaker 4: step into the badass woman that I know you are.
• 22:03
  Speaker 4: Thank you so much for listening to this series, Keep watching,
• 22:06
  Speaker 4: keep listening to it. I want you all to be
• 22:09
  Speaker 4: able to money manifest whatever your dreams are, and walk
• 22:12
  Speaker 4: away saying I rock my finances.
• 22:16
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