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Nyala O's Mapaseka Koetle, Motlatsi Mafatshe and Tsholofelo Matshaba in studio · Anele and the Club on 947

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  Speaker 1: Wake up with a bang.
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  Speaker 2: Hey, wake up! Anele and the club on 947.
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  Speaker 3: The blessings of marriage.
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  Speaker 4: The blessings of marriage.
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  Speaker 1: I gave him everything, but I guess.
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  Speaker 5: I wasn't enough.
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  Speaker 6: 15 years of marriage.
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  Speaker 2: Just like that.
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  Speaker 7: I will always choose you.
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  Speaker 2: I don't even know myself anymore.
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  Speaker 5: I gave myself up completely.
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  Speaker 2: I don't remember when was the last time my husband
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  Speaker 2: saw me. End my worth.
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  Speaker 6: I have had to keep myself calm ever since I
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  Speaker 6: heard that they're going to come onto the show.
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  Speaker 1: Yes.
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  Speaker 6: And every now and then I'm like, oh, is the
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  Speaker 6: interview tomorrow? The team's like, no, Anela, calm down.
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  Speaker 8: Relax.
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  Speaker 2: It's only happening next week. And next week is now.
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  Speaker 9: Oh, my God.
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  Speaker 6: The cast of Nyala O is in the building.
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  Speaker 2: And with that, her composure has left the building.
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  Speaker 6: Firstly, we just want to say thank you so much
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  Speaker 6: to Brighton Co. They're the ones that gave us the
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  Speaker 6: wedding dresses. We did a nice little welcome for you guys.
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  Speaker 2: See you guys. How was the welcome? It was epic.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my goodness. It was awesome. That was awesome. We
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  Speaker 2: got married again.
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  Speaker 10: You know, baby.
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  Speaker 2: Yes.
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  Speaker 6: Y'all better keep quiet. We're coming to you guys. And
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  Speaker 6: your scam of a marriage.
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  Speaker 3: I have to say, so you walked in one day
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  Speaker 3: and you said, there's this new show. There's this new show, right?
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  Speaker 3: Then it went from, I binge watched it to, I'm
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  Speaker 3: banking it because I can't watch everything in one go.
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  Speaker 1: You can't watch Dave. Everything must be together.
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  Speaker 3: We started raving about this until it got to the
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  Speaker 3: point where you said, Anneli said she wants to be
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  Speaker 3: part of the show.
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  Speaker 7: Yes.
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  Speaker 1: And she was trying to get into the show. I
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  Speaker 1: don't know.
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  Speaker 6: Then I was calling multi-choice. I was like, how far
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  Speaker 6: ahead do you guys shoot?
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  Speaker 2: Can I just walk in the background? Can I deliver scones?
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  Speaker 2: I will do anything.
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  Speaker 6: Can I sell a funeral policy because somebody's going to die?
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  Speaker 6: Somebody's going to die. Mutazi, we've got... I know I
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  Speaker 6: must call you your real name, but to me, you
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  Speaker 6: are Kia, girl.
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  Speaker 7: I can be Kia for now.
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  Speaker 2: Please, can you be Kia?
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  Speaker 6: And then we've got our resident money misspender.
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  Speaker 1: Yes.
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  Speaker 11: Hello.
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  Speaker 2: Hello, Tulu. Guys, welcome.
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  Speaker 6: Rami, Aman, I have to start with you because that
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  Speaker 6: is your character name.
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  Speaker 2: My guy, what's wrong with you?
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  Speaker 4: I mean, he's a lover of life, lover of ladies,
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  Speaker 4: two ladies, two women. And I mean, there's nothing wrong.
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  Speaker 4: I think he wants to expand his family. He's just
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  Speaker 4: scared to do it because he's scared of his wife,
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  Speaker 4: I think.
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  Speaker 2: However, he knows how she's going to react.
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  Speaker 1: So he's like, let's rock and roll.
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  Speaker 10: Wow.
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  Speaker 2: So bonapambili.
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  Speaker 6: Okay, but I want to go back to the time
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  Speaker 6: where you were dating pretty, right? Because laterally you were
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  Speaker 6: dating pretty. Firstly, she is a tall glass of water.
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  Speaker 6: I don't know how you guys started dating. She is
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  Speaker 6: so tall and Rami is short. Every time they're standing together,
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  Speaker 6: he has to stand on a hill. Maybe she had
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  Speaker 6: to scoop him up. I actually think that's the woman
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  Speaker 6: you're scared of.
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  Speaker 4: Look um he really loves pretty right um i love
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  Speaker 4: you pretty yeah i love you pretty but but but
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  Speaker 4: kia is just a special bomb she's like incredible she's
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  Speaker 4: fun she's organized you know she's a hard worker um
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  Speaker 4: and so he sees a bright future with her but
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  Speaker 4: he also wants to keep the past with with pretty.
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  Speaker 6: Can I tell you something about both of you guys
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  Speaker 6: as a couple that's on TV? Because you always want
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  Speaker 6: to ask yourself, when couples are that, like, magnetic on TV, like,
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  Speaker 6: what conversations did you have to build the chemistry? Because
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  Speaker 6: you have to portray a chemistry that we as the
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  Speaker 6: viewer feel like it's.
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  Speaker 2: A 15-year-old chemistry, right?
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  Speaker 6: So I want to ask you, like, What conversations did
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  Speaker 6: you two have to make sure that that chemistry is there?
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  Speaker 6: Because even when you guys are fighting, there is chemistry.
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  Speaker 6: That's why we root for you as viewers. Because the
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  Speaker 6: way you look at him and you're just angry. And
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  Speaker 6: you're like, don't talk to him.
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  Speaker 12: Yeah, I think it started the day we had a
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  Speaker 12: chemistry read together when we were auditioning. I remember I
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  Speaker 12: did a chemistry read with different guys. But when I
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  Speaker 12: did it with him, I think he got the note,
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  Speaker 12: the note you're talking about. We've been together for 15 years.
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  Speaker 12: He's not trying to charm me.
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  Speaker 7: We know each other.
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  Speaker 12: So the conversation we had when we went for the
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  Speaker 12: chemistry read, we were like, we have to get this.
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  Speaker 2: We have to.
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  Speaker 7: And we're friends as well.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, it was an inside job. Yeah. And look, we've
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  Speaker 2: never worked before.
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  Speaker 1: And we've been in the industry for quite some time.
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  Speaker 1: So we're like, ah, let's rock.
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  Speaker 4: This would be a great opportunity to just do something
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  Speaker 4: I think we can vibe.
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  Speaker 1: And we just locked.
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  Speaker 10: It worked.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it did.
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  Speaker 6: When do you find out who's on the cast? Because,
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  Speaker 6: I mean, if I was doing a chemistry read or
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  Speaker 6: a table setting and then I was told that Tulu
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  Speaker 6: was going to be on.
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  Speaker 2: The cast, I would melt into a puddle. Girl, you
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  Speaker 2: are a legend. Tulu.
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  Speaker 5: Thank you.
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  Speaker 1: Guys, she blushes.
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  Speaker 5: I feel like I'm just a baby for Pastor Gil.
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  Speaker 10: Do you know, my earliest memory of Tulu was, maybe
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  Speaker 10: this was 20 years ago, there were televised auditions, I
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  Speaker 10: think it was for The Lion King.
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  Speaker 13: Yes.
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  Speaker 2: That's where I remember you from.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 10: And I think it's the range, first of all, in
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  Speaker 10: terms of the characters that you've played. And you wonder how, woman,
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  Speaker 10: where do you dig all of.
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  Speaker 1: This out of?
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  Speaker 2: I also don't know.
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  Speaker 6: But surely you have a process where you leave the
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  Speaker 6: last roll behind to step into the new one.
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  Speaker 2: No, absolutely.
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  Speaker 5: I think that's where training also comes in handy, where
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  Speaker 5: you take out those tools from your suitcase that you've
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  Speaker 5: been packing from school, from varsity, and then throughout your career.
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  Speaker 2: Because we learn every day.
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  Speaker 5: From the last show that I was on, I also
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  Speaker 5: packed some new tools that I'm now using for Mapula
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  Speaker 5: at Nyala'u. So it's a never-ending process of learning how
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  Speaker 5: to do things.
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  Speaker 2: And now and then, well, especially for this show, for
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  Speaker 2: me … I've.
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  Speaker 5: Had to go back and actually do some reading on acting.
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  Speaker 10: Oh, wow.
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  Speaker 5: Because the show is dependent so much on subconscious messages.
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  Speaker 5: So much less on the script. The script is there
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  Speaker 5: and it's hot, thank God.
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  Speaker 2: It's hot.
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  Speaker 5: But the underlying messages and the underlying tones and how
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  Speaker 5: the creative producer also explained how the show actually is
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  Speaker 5: we are dealing with the moulds in our walls, in
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  Speaker 5: our houses.
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  Speaker 6: That slowly. That was going to be my next point.
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  Speaker 6: I'm so glad because the show, it moves quickly. Like
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  Speaker 6: the things that are happening.
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  Speaker 2: Nothing lingers too long.
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  Speaker 6: But itself, the pace is quite slow. It's like a
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  Speaker 6: slow erosion, right?
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  Speaker 2: Am I reading it right?
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  Speaker 9: Yes, you are.
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  Speaker 2: As with mold, it starts small.
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  Speaker 5: And by the end of three months, it has now
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  Speaker 5: made a pattern that you hadn't been noticing it, but
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  Speaker 5: it's there now.
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  Speaker 2: And that's where Ernest is. What? Who's this person now?
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to bring you guys up to speed. Ernest
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  Speaker 2: is her husband. She calls him Daddy. Daddy. She's got
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  Speaker 2: Daddy in debt.
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  Speaker 10: She doesn't want to sell her two designer coats or
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  Speaker 10: her shoes.
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  Speaker 1: Yesterday, she had a cry.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, because she had to sell those braces. Girl, you broke.
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  Speaker 2: She's running a rap scam, right?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 6: And she's getting money somewhere dodgy. It's like some tender
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  Speaker 6: details that are going dodgy. And her husband is just
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  Speaker 6: trying to stop her from overspending. But what I love
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  Speaker 6: about Mapula and Zaid is that we always think that
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  Speaker 6: when people say we're going through marital problems, immediately we
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  Speaker 6: think it's infidelity.
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  Speaker 13: Right.
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  Speaker 5: True.
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  Speaker 6: But I've seen more marriages break down because of finances
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  Speaker 6: more than infidelity.
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  Speaker 2: So actually, you guys are the most dangerous ones.
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  Speaker 6: Mm-hmm.
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  Speaker 2: Really?
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  Speaker 6: I think you guys are the most dangerous. Because there's
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  Speaker 6: no romance, guys, when we can't afford each other.
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  Speaker 2: There's no romance. I love you.
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  Speaker 6: I can't love you.
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  Speaker 2: I can't see you. We're in the dark.
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  Speaker 5: She also doesn't feel so hot anymore because now she
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  Speaker 5: has to ask for money. That independence has been stripped away.
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  Speaker 5: So she feels less of a human being now because
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  Speaker 5: she doesn't have her own. She has to ask for
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  Speaker 5: each and every cent.
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  Speaker 6: Because also, when you guys introduced us to you, you
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  Speaker 6: acted like you had submitted to him.
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  Speaker 2: But that was a fake submission. Because if you feel lesser.
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  Speaker 6: Than having to ask for your husband for money, it
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  Speaker 6: means you haven't fully submitted.
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  Speaker 9: That's... Yes, I think money is Mapula's crutch.
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 5: And it's not a crutch because of what's happening in
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  Speaker 5: her marriage, but it's things that she comes up with
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  Speaker 5: from her own life before she even met him.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: So it's our life as siblings.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And that she's caring with. Yeah. The dark side of it.
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  Speaker 10: But how has she surprised you? Because on paper, she's
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  Speaker 10: not supposed to be likable, except she is.
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  Speaker 2: Except she is, right? How does she surprise?
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  Speaker 5: I think as Tula, I can't imagine as well doing that.
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  Speaker 5: stealing from innocent people who actually need the money more
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  Speaker 5: than she does.
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  Speaker 2: She's got a good job. She's a lawyer. She's got
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  Speaker 2: a good house.
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  Speaker 5: She's got a good husband who takes care of her,
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  Speaker 5: the entire family. He is a provider in all the
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  Speaker 5: imaginable ways a provider is supposed to be.
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  Speaker 2: She supports.
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  Speaker 5: To not want for anything but she's become greedy you
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  Speaker 5: know her problem has now escalated into other things And
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  Speaker 5: every time I read a new story about her, I'm flabbergasted.
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  Speaker 6: Babe, why does your husband wear orange suits the whole time?
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  Speaker 7: You hate orange.
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  Speaker 2: Babe, your office is orange.
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  Speaker 7: I saw your tweets.
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  Speaker 2: You know, some things we have no control over.
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  Speaker 7: She hates orange. You hate my cushions?
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  Speaker 1: Yes.
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  Speaker 2: I hate your main bedroom.
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  Speaker 6: Why?
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  Speaker 7: Because it's purple?
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  Speaker 9: Yes.
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  Speaker 2: I'm just like, this is why you guys are fighting.
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  Speaker 6: The colors are stimulating you guys.
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  Speaker 3: I have to ask her. I mean, to complete the phrase,
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  Speaker 3: I'm not a bad husband. I'm just a lover.
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  Speaker 1: Just a lover.
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  Speaker 10: Of life.
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  Speaker 1: Of life or of woman? Of two women.
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  Speaker 6: So do you think it's better that you're not cheating
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  Speaker 6: on your wife with lots of women, but you just
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  Speaker 6: stuck to one woman for 15 years?
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  Speaker 4: I think it's better that way. Because, I mean, to him,
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  Speaker 4: he's not cheating. He's taking care of the kids. He's
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  Speaker 4: providing for two families.
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  Speaker 1: Easy, baby.
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  Speaker 5: All right, baby.
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  Speaker 7: They went straight into character there.
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  Speaker 1: But I mean, we've got two kids already.
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  Speaker 6: It's too early.
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  Speaker 7: To translate, don't drive me insane.
• 11:18
  Speaker 1: Don't drive me mad.
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  Speaker 2: Also, he's a liar because this man kept two kids hidden.
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  Speaker 2: He understated.
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  Speaker 1: He understood that Kia was going to lose her mind.
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  Speaker 7: And you know what just makes me angry?
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  Speaker 1: Okay.
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  Speaker 7: He denied his own hand. I showed him his hand.
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  Speaker 2: On the phone? On the phone.
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  Speaker 7: I'm like, this is the watch I bought you.
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  Speaker 3: No, baby.
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  Speaker 6: You see?
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  Speaker 2: You see, baby?
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  Speaker 4: There's AI.
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  Speaker 6: Why me?
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  Speaker 8: AI.
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  Speaker 1: There's AI. You can just turn anything into someone.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah.
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  Speaker 12: But what I've noticed is that a lot of women
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  Speaker 12: were very rooting for Gaya, right?
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  Speaker 2: Yes, we were.
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  Speaker 12: And then later on, because she decided to stay, women
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  Speaker 12: are mad. And I realized that They see themselves in gaya.
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  Speaker 12: Nobody wants to see themselves. And I understand why they
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  Speaker 12: hate the fact that she's still gay.
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  Speaker 7: We know a lot of gayas. It's not easy to
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  Speaker 7: just leave.
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  Speaker 12: Especially when you have plans. You know, like she had
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  Speaker 12: a plan with the book. The book is written his rib-ish.
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  Speaker 6: But also, I think the thing with a lot of women...
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  Speaker 6: And this may be shallow, but shallow is true, guys.
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  Speaker 6: We can't run from the truth. Is that sometimes you're like...
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  Speaker 6: If I leave this man and I've built so much
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  Speaker 6: with him... Somebody's just going to come in here, slip
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  Speaker 6: in and.
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  Speaker 2: Get a ready-made life.
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  Speaker 7: And take over my cushions.
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  Speaker 6: Do you know what.
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  Speaker 2: I'm saying?
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  Speaker 6: But I think the question we have to ask, and
• 12:49
  Speaker 6: I mean, please feel free to send us a voice
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  Speaker 6: on 084-0000947 because that is what the show does. It
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  Speaker 6: makes us ask questions about relationships, about.
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  Speaker 2: Life as a whole.
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  Speaker 6: Is it better to have a man who has one
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  Speaker 6: other woman where they have, like, all this connection and
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  Speaker 6: this emotion and these memories and kids and the family
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  Speaker 6: knows the other woman or that he's just, like, randomly
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  Speaker 6: hooking up with randoms at.
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  Speaker 2: Saint on a Sunday?
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  Speaker 1: Well, it's better to have two men, I say.
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  Speaker 2: Oof.
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  Speaker 13: Yes.
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  Speaker 6: Oof. Yes.
• 13:18
  Speaker 2: Let's get into that.
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  Speaker 6: Yes, yes, yes.
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  Speaker 2: Because Rami would lose his mind. Easy, easy, easy. Any
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  Speaker 2: of these women got another man. Oh, my word.
• 13:27
  Speaker 6: And then Tim Bigelow always teases me because I don't know.
• 13:28
  Speaker 2: How to say Nyala Owe. It's Nyala O. Nyala O.
• 13:32
  Speaker 2: Is it Nyala O or Nyala O? Nyala O.
• 13:35
  Speaker 6: Nyala O.
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  Speaker 5: Because people tease me, they're like, oh, I'm a little ashamed.
• 13:38
  Speaker 5: It's because in your dialect, you don't say the O
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  Speaker 5: like that. It's just like in English, you don't say
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  Speaker 5: like O, O, like Tolo.
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  Speaker 2: It's Tolo.
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  Speaker 6: Because I get it, there's.
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  Speaker 2: A fuller phrase which we can't say on the radio.
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  Speaker 10: But it means, once you get married, it's equivalent to
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  Speaker 10: being in the loo, mama.
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  Speaker 1: The blessings of marriage.
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  Speaker 4: The blessings of marriage.
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  Speaker 7: I can't.
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  Speaker 12: Years of marriage just like that i will always choose
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  Speaker 12: you liar.
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  Speaker 1: I don't even.
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  Speaker 5: Know myself anymore i gave myself up completely i don't.
• 14:30
  Speaker 6: Remember when was the last time my husband saw.
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  Speaker 2: Me and my worthless.
• 14:37
  Speaker 6: It is the latest sensation out of the DSTV community.
• 14:41
  Speaker 2: Nyala U. It plays on Monday.
• 14:44
  Speaker 6: To Wednesday at 7 o'clock on Mzantzi Magic. It is
• 14:47
  Speaker 6: shot so well. The color is so good. The grading
• 14:49
  Speaker 6: is so good. Whoever the DOP is with the angles
• 14:52
  Speaker 6: that they do for you guys. Just the shots themselves
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  Speaker 6: are telling the scenes. And today we've got the cast
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  Speaker 6: in studio.
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  Speaker 3: I've got a question. I've got a question. All of
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  Speaker 3: your characters, each of you can answer this individually. All
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  Speaker 3: of your characters, firstly, have lots of struggles with the
• 15:13
  Speaker 3: people around them, right? And then also internal struggles. So
• 15:17
  Speaker 3: if you were your character's best friend, what advice would
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  Speaker 3: you give them and would they listen?
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  Speaker 1: Rami?
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  Speaker 2: Rami, I would tell Rami to touch his temper. Be
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  Speaker 2: honest about it.
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  Speaker 4: Be honest about it and don't cheat. Just tell her
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  Speaker 4: the truth and marry both of them and take care
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  Speaker 4: of your families.
• 15:40
  Speaker 6: But you have financial problems that I feel are coming
• 15:42
  Speaker 6: to the front soon and soon and very soon.
• 15:45
  Speaker 4: Not really.
• 15:49
  Speaker 6: Because she asked for a baby and you said, no,
• 15:54
  Speaker 6: there's no money.
• 15:55
  Speaker 1: But it's just excuses.
• 15:57
  Speaker 10: Oh.
• 15:58
  Speaker 4: You know, I mean, it's, yeah, I think he doesn't
• 16:01
  Speaker 4: want another baby. But he wants a family. He wants
• 16:04
  Speaker 4: to have two families and take care of. So that
• 16:08
  Speaker 4: when Kia is giving him grief, he's.
• 16:12
  Speaker 2: Able to rest. Go to the hood.
• 16:13
  Speaker 4: You understand, the hood is nice when there's problems in
• 16:17
  Speaker 4: the pubs.
• 16:17
  Speaker 2: Rami is like a farm club.
• 16:19
  Speaker 7: Yeah. I agree.
• 16:22
  Speaker 6: I think it was the first bit of anger I
• 16:24
  Speaker 6: felt towards you as a viewer watching you that like,
• 16:27
  Speaker 6: how do you deny your wife another child but you've
• 16:30
  Speaker 6: got two children with your mistress?
• 16:32
  Speaker 4: Look, I think Rami is very controlling. Subliminally so. He's
• 16:38
  Speaker 4: got this, he's a, yeah, I think, yeah, he's controlling.
• 16:45
  Speaker 1: What's the word? What's that word? We always use it
• 16:48
  Speaker 1: on set.
• 16:49
  Speaker 2: Manipulative. He's very manipulative.
• 16:52
  Speaker 9: Okay.
• 16:53
  Speaker 1: And he love bombs, you know.
• 16:56
  Speaker 10: Yes.
• 16:56
  Speaker 4: And so I think he's got issues, probably got issues
• 16:59
  Speaker 4: from his mom and dad.
• 17:01
  Speaker 1: I love bombs.
• 17:02
  Speaker 4: And we see it through the way he treats Kia
• 17:05
  Speaker 4: and Pretty.
• 17:07
  Speaker 1: So he wouldn't listen. That's the advice you'd give him,
• 17:09
  Speaker 1: but he wouldn't listen.
• 17:10
  Speaker 2: He wouldn't listen because he's afraid of Gia.
• 17:12
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 17:13
  Speaker 2: Afraid of her or afraid of losing her?
• 17:15
  Speaker 1: Afraid of losing her.
• 17:16
  Speaker 2: Oh, okay.
• 17:17
  Speaker 9: And you?
• 17:18
  Speaker 12: I think I would tell Gia to leave. My sister
• 17:24
  Speaker 12: is not working out. Or fully forgive him. Because I
• 17:27
  Speaker 12: feel like she's torturing herself by policing him and checking
• 17:31
  Speaker 12: his phone and all of that.
• 17:32
  Speaker 7: It's either you leave or stay and forgive him fully.
• 17:35
  Speaker 6: But you can't fully forgive him when you don't know
• 17:36
  Speaker 6: the full story. Because he also releases the nonsense every episode.
• 17:40
  Speaker 2: Learning something new.
• 17:41
  Speaker 7: Something new, yeah.
• 17:41
  Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying?
• 17:42
  Speaker 6: Why is he not being honest when he does go
• 17:44
  Speaker 6: to Timbisa to see the other family?
• 17:45
  Speaker 7: To see the other family, yeah.
• 17:46
  Speaker 6: He acts like he's going to his mom, but he's
• 17:47
  Speaker 6: going to his mistress. He also must be honest.
• 17:49
  Speaker 7: She must go. And I don't think she would listen.
• 17:51
  Speaker 1: She wouldn't listen, eh?
• 17:52
  Speaker 7: She wouldn't listen.
• 17:53
  Speaker 2: She's just like... Will she fully forgive him?
• 17:56
  Speaker 7: I don't think so.
• 17:56
  Speaker 2: No, she won't.
• 17:57
  Speaker 6: Because 15... Guys, you know what it's like to find out, eh?
• 18:00
  Speaker 2: Yeah. You keep on playing it in your head.
• 18:02
  Speaker 6: It's like, oh, so and when you said you were
• 18:03
  Speaker 6: going to four ways, actually.
• 18:04
  Speaker 2: Do you know what I'm saying? And it's just like
• 18:06
  Speaker 2: it's so poison.
• 18:07
  Speaker 7: Yes, it is.
• 18:08
  Speaker 12: And I think also she's... I've realized that she's also
• 18:10
  Speaker 12: making me tired, as my dad said.
• 18:12
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 18:13
  Speaker 7: I don't know if I'm making sense.
• 18:14
  Speaker 8: I'm tired.
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: Because she's forever.
• 18:16
  Speaker 7: In your feels. I'm struggling to get out of it.
• 18:19
  Speaker 7: I'm so emotional.
• 18:20
  Speaker 12: Sometimes I don't get out of it immediately because she's
• 18:23
  Speaker 12: really going through the most. Even like a simple scene
• 18:25
  Speaker 12: of just her sitting by herself. I can't help it,
• 18:28
  Speaker 12: but feel sorry for her. And then the tears just come.
• 18:30
  Speaker 12: So I'm exhausted because I feel like, yeah, she's really.
• 18:34
  Speaker 7: Going through the most. I don't want to lie. I
• 18:35
  Speaker 7: need a hug.
• 18:37
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: Well, you can understand if you find out. 15 years.
• 18:40
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 18:40
  Speaker 7: 15 years.
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: 15 years, yeah. That's a lifetime.
• 18:44
  Speaker 7: Yeah.
• 18:44
  Speaker 6: And can you imagine you're acting some woman right now
• 18:48
  Speaker 6: at this moment. Yes.
• 18:49
  Speaker 2: They're going through it.
• 18:50
  Speaker 10: You guys are such poor investigators. You can't lie to
• 18:53
  Speaker 10: me for a month.
• 18:54
  Speaker 2: 15 years.
• 18:54
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 18:56
  Speaker 2: I would have to be in a coma.
• 18:57
  Speaker 1: I am catching that man.
• 19:00
  Speaker 10: Because one thing I'm going to do is I'm going
• 19:02
  Speaker 10: to look at the pattern and be like, because my
• 19:03
  Speaker 10: thing with Kia was like, girl, are you slow?
• 19:06
  Speaker 2: Look at the material.
• 19:07
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: It just wasn't adding up. Do you know what I mean?
• 19:10
  Speaker 12: Yeah. And I think she really trusted him. That's why
• 19:13
  Speaker 12: she thought this is not real. That's why it took
• 19:15
  Speaker 12: her a few days for her to even confront him
• 19:18
  Speaker 12: about it because she couldn't believe.
• 19:20
  Speaker 9: Yeah.
• 19:22
  Speaker 5: I would tell Mapula to go to therapy.
• 19:27
  Speaker 10: Oh.
• 19:27
  Speaker 9: Yeah.
• 19:28
  Speaker 2: That's what she needs.
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: Deal with your shopping addiction.
• 19:31
  Speaker 7: Yes.
• 19:32
  Speaker 6: Because clearly your shopping is trying to guide something else. Yes.
• 19:36
  Speaker 2: Avoid.
• 19:37
  Speaker 11: Avoid. Yeah.
• 19:38
  Speaker 6: Are we ever going to find out what happened in
• 19:40
  Speaker 6: her past?
• 19:40
  Speaker 2: Yes. Okay. Oh, that's coming.
• 19:42
  Speaker 3: Yes.
• 19:43
  Speaker 2: Oh, I don't think I'm ready.
• 19:45
  Speaker 10: Did we get a clue from her conversation with her
• 19:47
  Speaker 10: dad last night? because it took an interesting direction don't tell.
• 19:50
  Speaker 6: Me I didn't watch last night I won't tell you
• 19:52
  Speaker 6: but I got a sense last night that We're finally
• 19:56
  Speaker 6: going to see why she is the way she is. Yes.
• 19:59
  Speaker 5: And even her husband, Ernest, yes, he went straight to
• 20:03
  Speaker 5: the internet to try and see what is this with
• 20:07
  Speaker 5: the spending.
• 20:08
  Speaker 3: Okay.
• 20:08
  Speaker 6: Yes.
• 20:09
  Speaker 2: And he also suggested therapy. But you don't have daddy issues.
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: We're going to find out. I think we'll find out.
• 20:16
  Speaker 5: Yes and no.
• 20:17
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Yes and no. You know wives that call their
• 20:20
  Speaker 2: husbands daddy. Hey.
• 20:21
  Speaker 11: Yeah.
• 20:21
  Speaker 7: No.
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: It's weird for me.
• 20:24
  Speaker 5: I don't know if I should say it's a daddy
• 20:25
  Speaker 5: issue because the issue was not because of daddy necessarily.
• 20:30
  Speaker 2: I mean the father. Okay.
• 20:31
  Speaker 9: Yeah.
• 20:33
  Speaker 7: I think she has mommy issues.
• 20:36
  Speaker 12: Yeah which is which the story will unfold about our mother.
• 20:39
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah because where.
• 20:40
  Speaker 13: Is she where is she yeah and the moms on
• 20:43
  Speaker 13: this show are good eh so I want to see
• 20:44
  Speaker 13: a mother right I mean Stingy Lena Tangala and Elizabeth
• 20:48
  Speaker 13: Zirunye I'm like yes she's amazing Amazing.
• 20:52
  Speaker 2: And you know what it is?
• 20:53
  Speaker 6: They seldom in the same scene but you can feel that.
• 20:56
  Speaker 2: You can feel the way they control everything.
• 20:58
  Speaker 6: There's a push and pull but I think it's going
• 21:00
  Speaker 6: to get to a point where they go head on
• 21:02
  Speaker 6: and then hip hopers will dance.
• 21:03
  Speaker 12: But also lastly, I think what I've learned is that
• 21:06
  Speaker 12: mother-in-law is not your mom at the end of the day.
• 21:09
  Speaker 2: Oh, never.
• 21:10
  Speaker 7: She might love you and like you but she's not
• 21:12
  Speaker 7: your mother.
• 21:12
  Speaker 2: She loves her son.
• 21:13
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 21:14
  Speaker 2: And she's going to do everything to protect her son.
• 21:16
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 21:16
  Speaker 4: And as a mother, you always really take care of
• 21:18
  Speaker 4: your children no matter how Older they are and wherever
• 21:22
  Speaker 4: they go.
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: Especially sons.
• 21:24
  Speaker 2: It is what it is.
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: Especially sons.
• 21:25
  Speaker 3: Especially sons. The mum will always take the son's side,
• 21:29
  Speaker 3: even if he's wrong.
• 21:30
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 21:31
  Speaker 2: I see it in myself sometimes. Exactly.
• 21:35
  Speaker 6: I agree. Like, I try to be strict with Allah,
• 21:37
  Speaker 6: but he's just so charming.
• 21:39
  Speaker 7: Yeah, exactly.
• 21:41
  Speaker 6: Mummy. Yeah, that's me.
• 21:44
  Speaker 2: Yes, the voice note. Hi, Tulu. I missed you on
• 21:49
  Speaker 2: my screens, babe.
• 21:51
  Speaker 7: I will, but now Mrs. Ramrams needs to decide whether
• 21:55
  Speaker 7: she's coming or going. You are mad if he's going,
• 21:58
  Speaker 7: you are mad if he's staying. Which one do you want?
• 22:02
  Speaker 11: Yeah.
• 22:02
  Speaker 2: Okay, yeah.
• 22:04
  Speaker 7: Both.
• 22:05
  Speaker 2: Do you know what?
• 22:06
  Speaker 6: Because when I was watching you, when you went to
• 22:07
  Speaker 6: go get him at his mom's house, when he was
• 22:09
  Speaker 6: sitting on those couches from Bradlow's.
• 22:11
  Speaker 1: Oh, yeah.
• 22:14
  Speaker 13: I was like, I know those countries.
• 22:20
  Speaker 6: I was like, the fear, you're angry at him now
• 22:23
  Speaker 6: because you found out he's been cheating for 15 years.
• 22:25
  Speaker 6: But the fear with him not sleeping at home is like,
• 22:27
  Speaker 6: where is this sleeping? Because you know the mom's going
• 22:30
  Speaker 6: to cover for him. So you were actually just going
• 22:31
  Speaker 6: to the mom's house to see that he's there.
• 22:33
  Speaker 2: And then when you were there, you actually realized, you
• 22:35
  Speaker 2: know what?
• 22:35
  Speaker 6: Come back home because I need to police you from home.
• 22:38
  Speaker 6: Because I lived with you for 15 years and I
• 22:40
  Speaker 6: didn't know you were getting up to nonsense.
• 22:42
  Speaker 2: Who matters? Us women, guys.
• 22:43
  Speaker 7: Yeah, we go through a lot.
• 22:44
  Speaker 2: We honestly go through a lot.
• 22:46
  Speaker 6: There is a clip that has been going around on
• 22:47
  Speaker 6: social media and it's gotten people, you know, divided in the,
• 22:52
  Speaker 6: you know, the validity of this claim that this man
• 22:54
  Speaker 6: is making. And to me, it was like, oh, like, okay,
• 22:56
  Speaker 6: it's interesting. And then I believed him because he was
• 22:58
  Speaker 6: so convincing. And then people were like, no, he's lying.
• 23:01
  Speaker 2: So I want us to discuss it as the cast.
• 23:03
  Speaker 2: I'm counting myself. As the cast of Nyala O. Here,
• 23:08
  Speaker 2: have a listen.
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: Umako Oti.
• 23:10
  Speaker 5: Right.
• 23:11
  Speaker 8: The word Umako Oti is not Xhosa. It's not Zulu,
• 23:15
  Speaker 8: it's not Soto, it's not Tshwana, it's not Shangan, it's
• 23:19
  Speaker 8: not Venda. It's Africans.
• 23:22
  Speaker 2: Mark on steer.
• 23:24
  Speaker 8: Now the whole conception of Ukukoti Zanomakoti comes from the
• 23:30
  Speaker 8: etymology mark on steer. You are now arguing an African's
• 23:37
  Speaker 8: innovation strategy. in an African culture that did not exist anymore.
• 23:42
  Speaker 8: Ask me what Umakoti is, Ngesikos.
• 23:46
  Speaker 1: Mfaz.
• 23:47
  Speaker 2: What is it?
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: Gumolo Kazana.
• 23:51
  Speaker 2: She is the ambassador, chief ambassador.
• 23:55
  Speaker 8: Chief spokesperson, CEO of this household. Before you can enter
• 24:08
  Speaker 8: this home, respect this woman.
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: That is culture.
• 24:13
  Speaker 2: We are going to weigh in on that.
• 24:14
  Speaker 6: We're going to take a quick break. I'm going to
• 24:15
  Speaker 6: let the cause of Nyala kind of like, you know,
• 24:17
  Speaker 6: simmer and percolate in that. When we come back, is
• 24:20
  Speaker 6: he telling the truth?
• 24:21
  Speaker 2: Because he's convincing. He's spot on. He is.
• 24:24
  Speaker 9: Oh, okay.
• 24:25
  Speaker 2: I think he is. Okay, we won't discuss it. You know,
• 24:34
  Speaker 2: when that song plays, we are just.
• 24:35
  Speaker 7: So happy here.
• 24:38
  Speaker 6: It reminds us of the best times of our lives
• 24:41
  Speaker 6: because that's what weddings are, right? Weddings represent families coming together.
• 24:47
  Speaker 6: Weddings represent expansion. And families back then, with what I
• 24:51
  Speaker 6: believe marriage is, was to strengthen. Strengthen ties, strengthen economic power.
• 24:56
  Speaker 6: You know, strengthen longevity, strengthen legacy. Where do we lose it, Tulu? Because,
• 25:03
  Speaker 6: you know, like they say, people who are unhappy in
• 25:06
  Speaker 6: marriages are louder than those who are happy in marriages.
• 25:08
  Speaker 2: Where do we lose it? Marrying for the wrong reasons.
• 25:13
  Speaker 2: Marrying wrong people. And when you.
• 25:16
  Speaker 5: Do marry the wrong person, it wasn't.
• 25:18
  Speaker 2: Apparent the day you realized.
• 25:21
  Speaker 13: You knew.
• 25:22
  Speaker 5: But we always want to see less of the red
• 25:26
  Speaker 5: flag as red.
• 25:27
  Speaker 2: We want to see it as pink or as purple.
• 25:30
  Speaker 2: It's going to change. Yeah, it's going to change. Yes.
• 25:36
  Speaker 12: I think for me, because I'm a return soldier, I
• 25:38
  Speaker 12: was married before. I think For me, I'll talk about
• 25:43
  Speaker 12: my own experience. Thinking that you are marrying a person
• 25:47
  Speaker 12: and forgetting that you're marrying into a family. That was my...
• 25:51
  Speaker 12: I didn't understand it because also I was very young.
• 25:53
  Speaker 8: I was 22.
• 25:53
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 25:54
  Speaker 2: So I didn't.
• 25:55
  Speaker 12: Know that you're actually marrying into a family. You're not
• 25:58
  Speaker 12: just marrying your husband.
• 26:00
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 26:00
  Speaker 12: So understanding that, that you are marrying the entire family.
• 26:03
  Speaker 12: Like you said, marriages these days, we think that they
• 26:06
  Speaker 12: are broken because of cheating and stuff. There's so many things.
• 26:09
  Speaker 12: And especially... Money and family.
• 26:11
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 26:12
  Speaker 7: So I think we're losing that.
• 26:14
  Speaker 12: And that's one lesson I learned from my own divorce
• 26:17
  Speaker 12: that I was not.
• 26:18
  Speaker 7: Marrying just my husband. I was marrying into a family.
• 26:21
  Speaker 12: And I should have taken my time to check if
• 26:23
  Speaker 12: I really want to get married into that family or not.
• 26:26
  Speaker 10: Yeah.
• 26:27
  Speaker 6: And the only person to protect you from that family
• 26:30
  Speaker 6: is the one.
• 26:30
  Speaker 2: That you're marrying.
• 26:31
  Speaker 6: But if he is one of them, the chances of
• 26:33
  Speaker 6: him taking your side are very slim.
• 26:35
  Speaker 2: Yeah. You know, I think.
• 26:39
  Speaker 4: I mean, the concept of getting married is actually about,
• 26:43
  Speaker 4: you have to accept the fact that you are learning
• 26:46
  Speaker 4: this person every day. I mean, you never know yourself
• 26:50
  Speaker 4: in general. I mean, you always develop, you always grow.
• 26:53
  Speaker 4: So getting married, you also have to accept the fact
• 26:57
  Speaker 4: that I have to learn this person all the time,
• 27:00
  Speaker 4: forgive him all the time, try to love them all
• 27:03
  Speaker 4: because it's not always rosy, right?
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: But you still need to choose them every day.
• 27:10
  Speaker 4: With their wrongs, with their rights. And, and, and, and
• 27:13
  Speaker 4: that's what I think we've lost. We've lost about the
• 27:17
  Speaker 4: institution of marriage. So we, we get married for, for
• 27:20
  Speaker 4: the house, the cars, the money, the status, the titles,
• 27:25
  Speaker 4: the titles. And then we forget about the, the, the,
• 27:27
  Speaker 4: the cause like the, the, You know, the gravity of marriage.
• 27:32
  Speaker 2: Every day. I think if there are conversations had with.
• 27:35
  Speaker 5: Our own families before we get into relationships even, to
• 27:40
  Speaker 5: make us aware of what we need to look forward
• 27:43
  Speaker 5: to or be aware of once you decide that you
• 27:47
  Speaker 5: want to get married. Those conversations that are not had
• 27:50
  Speaker 5: and we find them in marriage and they box us.
• 27:57
  Speaker 3: That's very deep but I want to say because the
• 28:00
  Speaker 3: conversation now has also been the other person the person
• 28:03
  Speaker 3: you're marrying I think not enough time is spent to
• 28:07
  Speaker 3: the point You've got to choose that person every day.
• 28:10
  Speaker 3: But I think not enough people spend the time to
• 28:12
  Speaker 3: make sure they know themselves first.
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: Because we always say you've got to choose someone every day.
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: You've got to love them every day.
• 28:20
  Speaker 3: But I think you've got to look at yourself every
• 28:23
  Speaker 3: day first and look how you love yourself and what
• 28:25
  Speaker 3: you are.
• 28:26
  Speaker 5: Franky, you keep this up.
• 28:34
  Speaker 10: Alexandra might lecture as their ward counsellor.
• 28:38
  Speaker 2: Keeps us out is going to do the vote of
• 28:41
  Speaker 2: things that we're doing. Okay, let's wrap it up with
• 28:42
  Speaker 2: that clip that I played for you guys.
• 28:44
  Speaker 6: Rami, what do you think?
• 28:45
  Speaker 2: Look, it is what it is. If you want the truth,
• 28:47
  Speaker 2: I think women.
• 28:48
  Speaker 11: Are The best, like they are magical.
• 29:03
  Speaker 4: They are the CEO of everything, right? And it's not
• 29:07
  Speaker 4: really about being a slave or.
• 29:09
  Speaker 6: No, no, no.
• 29:10
  Speaker 2: It's somebody who was able to nurture.
• 29:12
  Speaker 1: And take care.
• 29:14
  Speaker 4: And that is what makonstier means.
• 29:16
  Speaker 1: It's like, take care of us.
• 29:18
  Speaker 2: Netch us.
• 29:19
  Speaker 6: Right?
• 29:19
  Speaker 1: And so don't take it in another way. But it's
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: very correct.
• 29:22
  Speaker 6: Right?
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: Because.
• 29:23
  Speaker 2: She's ours.
• 29:24
  Speaker 4: And we sing.
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: These songs and we don't understand them. And when we
• 29:31
  Speaker 1: talk about them, then we get into our feels.
• 29:34
  Speaker 2: But it's back to.
• 29:35
  Speaker 6: What Tulu was saying about the conversations that we don't have,
• 29:38
  Speaker 6: you know, with our parents around makonstier.
• 29:40
  Speaker 2: And what it actually is.
• 29:41
  Speaker 6: Because most of us grew up in households where... the
• 29:45
  Speaker 6: joy was loud, but then the tension was very quiet,
• 29:48
  Speaker 6: but you could feel there was tension. And I think
• 29:50
  Speaker 6: that's where we even come from where we give our
• 29:52
  Speaker 6: partner silent treatment when you're unhappy because you never saw
• 29:55
  Speaker 6: your parents actually talk things out. You just saw that
• 29:58
  Speaker 6: they weren't speaking for three weeks and then the next
• 30:00
  Speaker 6: thing you were fine.
• 30:00
  Speaker 2: True story.
• 30:01
  Speaker 6: You know what I'm saying? And then you think, okay,
• 30:05
  Speaker 6: so that's how relationships work. We're angry at each other.
• 30:07
  Speaker 2: We're quiet. No one talks to each other. And then
• 30:09
  Speaker 2: visitors come and then we have to get along.
• 30:11
  Speaker 6: And then from then on, because the visitors were here,
• 30:13
  Speaker 6: we go back to being fine until the next wrong
• 30:15
  Speaker 6: thing that happens.
• 30:17
  Speaker 2: I'm just the girl.
• 30:18
  Speaker 12: If I get married again, I will do it differently.
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  Speaker 12: But also, I don't have a reference because my dad
• 30:23
  Speaker 12: left when I was seven.
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  Speaker 7: So I don't even know... what a mother and father
• 30:27
  Speaker 7: should do.
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  Speaker 2: I don't have a reference. Yes.
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  Speaker 7: And when you love somebody, if you want to make
• 30:36
  Speaker 7: the tea, you make the tea.
• 30:38
  Speaker 2: You know what I mean?
• 30:39
  Speaker 7: It comes naturally when you really love.
• 30:41
  Speaker 12: The person and you love their family.
• 30:42
  Speaker 6: Yeah, and also, you must also extend to who you are. Like,
• 30:48
  Speaker 6: for instance, me, I love cooking and I love that thing.
• 30:52
  Speaker 6: So when they were like, oh, you're cooking for 100 people,
• 30:54
  Speaker 6: I said, game on.
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  Speaker 13: Yes.
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to show y'all.
• 30:57
  Speaker 6: And, you know, but also families must also realize that
• 31:01
  Speaker 6: not every Makoti is skilled like that. Find something else
• 31:04
  Speaker 6: that she's good at. Will she be good at keeping
• 31:06
  Speaker 6: the family together on checking? Because I'm not good at
• 31:09
  Speaker 6: that part, in checking in on all the family members, right?
• 31:12
  Speaker 2: But when I'm there, oh, you've got me.
• 31:15
  Speaker 6: So they can't live on and expect the entire thing.
• 31:18
  Speaker 6: The family must also realize, oh, Makoti, where did you go?
• 31:21
  Speaker 6: But yeah, when she excels here, she excels at there.
• 31:24
  Speaker 2: She's a squeezer. She's a squeezer.
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: With us.
• 31:32
  Speaker 2: Rona, the.
• 31:35
  Speaker 5: African families, African people, if I could say that.
• 31:40
  Speaker 2: Individualism. I think we need to learn that.
• 31:44
  Speaker 5: And that'll come in handy with understanding that Anale can cook,
• 31:48
  Speaker 5: but she won't clean. Mapaseka likes to serve. She will
• 31:52
  Speaker 5: buy and serve, but she won't cook. And that's okay.
• 31:55
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 31:55
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 31:56
  Speaker 6: I think I was liking that regard because my rakati,
• 31:59
  Speaker 6: my husband's sister, she knew me very well. So already
• 32:03
  Speaker 6: she had hired three ladies who were going to clean.
• 32:05
  Speaker 2: Got you.
• 32:05
  Speaker 6: Because they know that Anale is going to cook, we're
• 32:07
  Speaker 6: going to eat well, but what she's not going to do.
• 32:10
  Speaker 2: And I think that's the.
• 32:12
  Speaker 6: Longevity of marriage is when families realize that, guys, we're
• 32:16
  Speaker 6: in this together and no one was brought here.
• 32:19
  Speaker 2: To be perfect.
• 32:20
  Speaker 6: Right? But what I love about the show Nyala O
• 32:22
  Speaker 6: is that every couple who watches it by yourself, with
• 32:26
  Speaker 6: your person, some of you are watching it alone because
• 32:28
  Speaker 6: you don't want to answer questions. Yeah.
• 32:31
  Speaker 10: You don't want your wife to say, one month?
• 32:36
  Speaker 2: One month? Yes.
• 32:40
  Speaker 6: But even if it's difficult conversations, thank you guys.
• 32:43
  Speaker 2: As a cast, as a show, as a script, as
• 32:45
  Speaker 2: a dialogue, as a channel. Thank you for.
• 32:48
  Speaker 6: forcing us to have those difficult conversations because we weren't
• 32:51
  Speaker 6: given the opportunity to have them when we were growing up.
• 32:53
  Speaker 2: So like you say, I don't know, my dad left
• 32:55
  Speaker 2: me when I was seven.
• 32:56
  Speaker 6: Now you can confront those demons and you can realize
• 32:59
  Speaker 6: that they affect you a lot more than you allow
• 33:01
  Speaker 6: yourself to think.
• 33:02
  Speaker 2: So yeah, well done guys. That is what art is
• 33:04
  Speaker 2: supposed to do.
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  Speaker 5: Yay!
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  Speaker 11: Yay!
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  Speaker 9: Yay!
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  Speaker 3: Yay!
• 33:08
  Speaker 2: Yay!
• 33:08
  Speaker 10: Yay!
• 33:08
  Speaker 4: Yay!
• 33:09
  Speaker 6: Yay! Yay!
• 33:17
  Speaker 7: Say goodbye now. Back to making your morning.
• 33:19
  Speaker 11: Back.
• 33:20
  Speaker 3: On L.A.
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  Speaker 2: And the club. I love this show.
• 33:22
  Speaker 3: On 947.