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The Breakfast Club BEST OF - Relationships -David and Tamela Mann, Envy and Gia, Jess Hilarious and Rome + More · The Breakfast Club

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  Speaker 1: Good morning Usa yo yo yo yo yo yo yo
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  Speaker 1: yo yo yo yo yo yo yo yo yo yo
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  Speaker 1: yo yo yo yo yo yo yo yo yo yo
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  Speaker 1: yo yo yo Jess, hilarryo ass Semary. It's Tuesday, Yes,
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  Speaker 1: and today's show it's all about relationships, and it's in
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  Speaker 1: the studio relationships. No, not me and Charlamagne, but we're
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  Speaker 1: talking about some of our spouses, exes.
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  Speaker 2: And boyfriends and the girlfriends.
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  Speaker 3: That's right.
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  Speaker 1: Well, today my wife Gied will be joining us. Of course,
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  Speaker 1: we have a book, Real Life Real Love, and a
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  Speaker 1: new book coming out in the new year called Real
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  Speaker 1: Life Real Family. But we're gonna be talking everything relationship
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  Speaker 1: and also room stopped Through. That's Jess's baby daddy and
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  Speaker 1: we'll be talking to him about co parenting and relationships.
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  Speaker 4: So that's today's show, So don't go anywhere.
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  Speaker 3: It's the Breakfast Club.
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  Speaker 4: Good morning, wake up, wake up?
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  Speaker 2: Wait yo aspeak your time to get it off your chest? Yo? Yeah?
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  Speaker 2: Your mad or blessed? You want to hear from you
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  Speaker 2: on the breakfast glove.
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  Speaker 4: Hello is this it's Tony, Tony what get it off
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  Speaker 4: your chest?
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  Speaker 5: Man?
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  Speaker 6: A girl been cheating on me for last two years.
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  Speaker 7: It's sound out about it.
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  Speaker 2: That I'm damn, how'd you find out? Bro?
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  Speaker 6: Man?
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  Speaker 2: My dude from the joint called to let you know.
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  Speaker 3: Damn how he knowing?
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  Speaker 2: He in jail. He ain't coming with the dude.
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  Speaker 8: Damn.
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  Speaker 2: That's horrible. Damn. I'm sorry it is.
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  Speaker 8: And I've been being bad of the year for two
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  Speaker 8: years with the baby.
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  Speaker 3: She ain't in.
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  Speaker 2: Mind what you go do to her? You leaving or
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  Speaker 2: you stayed. To be honest with us, I'm leaving.
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  Speaker 9: Did you leave already or you find the gun?
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  Speaker 8: No, I'm in the process of just happened on Friday.
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  Speaker 2: I'm good to that three days at leaving. Did you
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  Speaker 2: tell her yet? You tell her you found out? Yeah? Yeah?
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  Speaker 2: Did she admit to it?
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  Speaker 8: No, That's what I'm saying that that that dude told
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  Speaker 8: me the truth. She lied like you usual.
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  Speaker 2: But the dude told me the truth truth.
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  Speaker 9: How you know he's not just trying to break up
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  Speaker 9: your happy home.
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  Speaker 8: He ain't got no reason to.
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  Speaker 9: They never do. I think you should with her before
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  Speaker 9: you get that new apartment you did.
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  Speaker 8: She lies, She said she wasn't cheap exactly.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, man, And then he said he talked me.
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  Speaker 8: Yeah, I've been messing with her since twenty twenty two, Like, wow.
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  Speaker 9: You gotta be more to the stories. Black women don't cheat.
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  Speaker 2: Man, cut it off. That's all women cheat. Yeah, black
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  Speaker 2: men don't. Alright, Tony, but that's all I want to man,
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  Speaker 2: y'all have a good day. Hello.
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  Speaker 4: Who's this?
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  Speaker 10: Hey?
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  Speaker 11: Good morning?
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  Speaker 6: It's done.
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  Speaker 2: It's up down where you talking from?
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  Speaker 6: Can't you tell him? Like way out south? River down, Georgia.
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  Speaker 2: River down, Georgia, good morning, down.
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  Speaker 6: Good morning.
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  Speaker 2: Get it off your chest?
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  Speaker 6: All right, Okay, I just have to start letting it
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  Speaker 6: roll because I've been so curious and so nice the election.
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  Speaker 2: Don't you've been drinking this morning?
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  Speaker 6: No, I ain't even drinking.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, sorry, gad, what.
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  Speaker 6: Are you talking about? Like some I'm talking sus No.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, because you're talking a little bit.
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  Speaker 6: I have to I don't slow. Nobody can understand what
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  Speaker 6: I'm saying. Just so I'm like, so so from the South.
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  Speaker 2: All right, and I'm like that said, good ahead, mama,
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  Speaker 2: gin I'm sorry for interrupting you.
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  Speaker 6: Oh no, you're a girl.
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  Speaker 2: I did that.
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  Speaker 6: I appreciate y'all, Ai and Charlane. I enjoy also much. Okay,
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  Speaker 6: So I'm like really sick a Trump and I'm like,
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  Speaker 6: I don't understand. While they had two people tried to
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  Speaker 6: take out the STUF and they both failed.
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  Speaker 2: We don't wish, We don't wish political violence on any
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  Speaker 2: elected official, man, nobody at all. Man, we don't do that.
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  Speaker 2: That's not what we do. She drunk, and it's like
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  Speaker 2: when somebody tell you something that you know you're drying
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  Speaker 2: you so real fast.
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  Speaker 6: Right right, you're right, I'm not drunk.
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  Speaker 3: Where you calling from?
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  Speaker 4: Georgia?
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  Speaker 3: I never heard of Georgia whatever somewhere.
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  Speaker 9: She did an incredible hawk this morning.
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  Speaker 10: I'm sorry, it's river Dalehdale in Atlanta, like near Okay
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  Speaker 10: in Atlanta?
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  Speaker 6: Well yeah, yeah, I'm twenty minutes from the Atlanta airport. Okay,
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  Speaker 6: you know, like Little Baby is all those songs. Yeah,
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  Speaker 6: I'm from Clay, I'm from play.
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  Speaker 2: Those Okay, Okay, all right, Well, nice to hear from
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  Speaker 2: you this morning. Thank you so much. Who's everybody who
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  Speaker 2: listen to us on ninety six one to beat out
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  Speaker 2: there in Atlanta? That's right?
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  Speaker 5: Work.
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  Speaker 6: So hey, I want to I want to book.
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  Speaker 2: You don't scrag me as the reading, but I'll I'll
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  Speaker 2: send you a book. I'll send you a copy of
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  Speaker 2: my new book, Getting Honest a die line. Why small
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  Speaker 2: talk sucks. I have a bunch of them in here
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  Speaker 2: right now.
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  Speaker 6: I appreciate any baby.
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  Speaker 11: When you sign it, I will sign it.
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  Speaker 2: What's your name again? Don?
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  Speaker 6: God, You're awesome. It's down.
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  Speaker 2: Right now.
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  Speaker 3: Hold on, drunk, all right?
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  Speaker 12: Hold on, sign drunk your weekend and dawning.
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  Speaker 2: Don't hang up.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, I'm signing for you because I need to know
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  Speaker 4: how I get that.
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  Speaker 2: That's right, hold on, Edie, gonna put you on, holding on.
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  Speaker 9: He literally is signing the book right now for you.
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  Speaker 5: Do.
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  Speaker 2: I'm literally signing it right now.
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  Speaker 9: Are you gonna remember you asked for this book?
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, all right, hold on right now, peace, drunk,
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  Speaker 2: ass down, I'm signing it right now, alright, Dor you
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  Speaker 2: have a good one, Oka safe, hold on, do not
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  Speaker 2: hang up.
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  Speaker 6: He look, thank god, I'm not hanging up, y'all. I'm
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  Speaker 6: praying for y'all.
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  Speaker 13: Y'all you praying for you.
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  Speaker 2: Jesus Christ. Already, make sure you get Don's address. Man,
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  Speaker 2: I got her book right here signed, still just need
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  Speaker 2: to be.
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  Speaker 1: Delivered, alright, Get it off your chest eight and drink
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  Speaker 1: five eight five one oh five on.
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  Speaker 2: The Breakfast Club good morning the Breakfast Club. You're time
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  Speaker 2: to get it off your chest. Whether you're man or blessed,
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  Speaker 2: we want to hear from you on the breakfast cloud.
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  Speaker 8: It's telling your want what's up?
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  Speaker 2: Get it off your chest?
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  Speaker 8: Brother, A right, good fun shot man of God.
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  Speaker 2: Thing are you doing?
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  Speaker 11: Brother?
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  Speaker 2: Yes? Great?
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  Speaker 8: Want to bank in like eight eight proscue? I had
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  Speaker 8: a lot of ump around my fast feet out here.
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  Speaker 8: You'll talk about colding out and all that.
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  Speaker 2: A lot yes up.
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  Speaker 8: Something you will still about this cross state man, because.
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  Speaker 14: That's what might I wasn't out wring the hell out
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  Speaker 14: went on one building you back with but he certain.
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  Speaker 2: I can't hear what you're saying, But you say I
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  Speaker 2: heard that. You say you was in the hospital for
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  Speaker 2: eight days because you had an infection around your prostate.
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  Speaker 14: Right, and I just want to bring a wellness to it.
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  Speaker 2: That's right, man. Listen, you know we we we make
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  Speaker 2: jokes and stuff because you know, whenever you think about
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  Speaker 2: something in your butt, it makes you giggle. But the
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  Speaker 2: reality of the situation is that's why we go get
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  Speaker 2: colding oscars and all of that stuff because of prostate
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  Speaker 2: can Yeah, absolutely, you know what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 8: You all I mean that ain't got nothing to do
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  Speaker 8: with you, But that got something to do with your
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  Speaker 8: main thing.
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  Speaker 2: What you mean capital?
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  Speaker 8: You know what your main thing here?
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  Speaker 2: Your penis Yes, they put the capital in.
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  Speaker 8: They got a thing bigger than the number ten pencils.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know. I don't know about that.
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  Speaker 3: Now put me on.
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  Speaker 2: Now you need to school me what you're talking abou
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  Speaker 2: I thought the prophet what they got to do? What
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  Speaker 2: you're talking about?
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  Speaker 14: Frustrated pretty much with one your bladder that won you
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  Speaker 14: your urine. So they put you to sleep and wake
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  Speaker 14: up with a big old thing coming at you and
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  Speaker 14: being out the capitol.
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  Speaker 2: Now hold on, now, when I got a pro stet exam, uh,
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  Speaker 2: the doctor put that glove on and put that finger
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  Speaker 2: in a butt to make sure my projet wasn't a
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  Speaker 2: large No, I.
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  Speaker 8: Had infection already, not knowing that I had it.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, got you, got you? Got you? Okay, okay, okay,
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  Speaker 2: all right, okay, But how you doing now? Broes? Uh?
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  Speaker 2: So how you doing now?
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  Speaker 14: I'm doing fine. I'm up and moving. It wasn't no back.
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  Speaker 2: You know.
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  Speaker 8: They kept me in the hospital so long to get
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  Speaker 8: the infection out.
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  Speaker 14: But other than that, you know, I'm moving to walk.
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  Speaker 14: I'm moving the walk regularly.
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  Speaker 2: And this is why you got to get prostat exams
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  Speaker 2: early and regular so you don't end up having an infection.
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  Speaker 2: That's right. You got to go make sure you.
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  Speaker 1: Check get yourself checked out.
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  Speaker 2: Go to the doctor.
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  Speaker 4: Don't be too cool, don't get scared.
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  Speaker 2: Go to the doctor. I ended up getting a project
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  Speaker 2: because I went for a vasectomy and the vaseectorm me
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  Speaker 2: turned into a prostate exam. Now that confused me, you
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  Speaker 2: know what I mean, because I thought that you know,
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  Speaker 2: he liked what he saw and he just wanted to
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  Speaker 2: turn me around and get a little free for you.
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  Speaker 2: You know what I mean. I mean I had to
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  Speaker 2: call a lot of people before I called it out.
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  Speaker 2: I had to buy to call a lot of people
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  Speaker 2: like Yo, this regular man. I just came here for
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  Speaker 2: a p second me for a constation. Man, I came
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  Speaker 2: for a briefing test. He telling me, turn around, I mean, hello,
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  Speaker 2: who's this? Yeah? Whatever? Brefast Club is, Nando, Nanda whatever,
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  Speaker 2: get it off your test.
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  Speaker 14: Yo, man.
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  Speaker 15: I just wanted to shout out my merch on Instagram
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  Speaker 15: if I could. It's Underdog fitted.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 15: I just wanted to shout it out. I make original
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  Speaker 15: underdog could have had to snap backs by the don righty.
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  Speaker 15: It's actually merged from my book that I'm writing, and
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  Speaker 15: I was trying to get some help from Charlet Magne.
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  Speaker 15: If you could help me, you know, uh, finish this book,
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  Speaker 15: trying to write and publish and everything.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, send me the manuscript, man, if you got a manuscript,
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  Speaker 2: are like a one sheet of what the book is about.
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  Speaker 1: We put your holes so you get all the emailing
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  Speaker 1: for Okay, I got you all right, brother, get it
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  Speaker 1: off your chest.
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  Speaker 2: Eight hundred five eight five one oh five one. If
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  Speaker 2: you need to vent, hit us up.
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  Speaker 6: Now.
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  Speaker 3: It's the Breakfast Club.
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  Speaker 2: Good morning, the Breakfast Club on everybody.
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  Speaker 1: It's j n V, Jess Hilarias Charlamagne, the guy we
• 9:25
  Speaker 1: are the Breakfast Club just is on maternity leave. So
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  Speaker 1: Laura Leosa is filling in. And we got some special
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  Speaker 1: guests in the building. We have Tamala and David Man.
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  Speaker 2: Welcome, what though, thank you, thank you, thank you for
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  Speaker 2: having good morning. Now, just to tell y'all wondering why
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  Speaker 2: I'm here, I walked in the door and she's sit down. Yes, ma'am,
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  Speaker 2: I'm in your house because man is here to promote
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  Speaker 2: her new album Live Brief Fight. But I mean, y'all
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  Speaker 2: been doing things together forever, like y'all even know life
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  Speaker 2: without each other?
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  Speaker 7: No, And I don't move to either.
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  Speaker 2: Look, we got married at twenty one, so we've been
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  Speaker 2: married thirty six years.
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  Speaker 3: That's a long time.
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  Speaker 7: I have no separations. I like to say that we
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  Speaker 7: worked through it.
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  Speaker 2: Did y'all know as soon as y'all saw each other
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  Speaker 2: like she did, because I kind of got no, No,
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  Speaker 2: we did not.
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  Speaker 3: But we were just friends.
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  Speaker 10: But it wasn't long after though, that I knew, but
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  Speaker 10: I wouldn't let him know that I that I felt
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  Speaker 10: like he was the one.
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  Speaker 7: I felt like he was the one, but I was like,
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  Speaker 7: I don't know, because you know, David had a little
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  Speaker 7: play in him. When did I realize it was? Probably
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  Speaker 7: it was really.
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  Speaker 10: Some months that because we started singing together early, so
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  Speaker 10: it was some months and David started protecting me, even
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  Speaker 10: like with the other guys because I was the only
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  Speaker 10: girl in the group of singing and he was always like,
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  Speaker 10: y'all don't harsh play singing.
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  Speaker 2: Group, Like, so y'all know me Kirk Franklin and another guy,
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  Speaker 2: Darrel Blair, so Kirk Franklin. I've been friends for like
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  Speaker 2: forty fifty.
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  Speaker 10: So it's just but I just felt like, if it
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  Speaker 10: works out, I said, I said, I really like this dude,
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  Speaker 10: but you know, I just see wait and see up.
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  Speaker 2: Watch his play waves.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah, yeah, and his place.
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  Speaker 3: She she actually busted me one time with my with
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  Speaker 3: a couple other girls that I was with, I.
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  Speaker 4: Was just looking. I just look you yourself.
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  Speaker 2: They threw me a surprise birthday party.
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  Speaker 3: Both girls.
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  Speaker 10: No, well we were no, they just we were all
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  Speaker 10: this friends and how you invite people to Okay, we're
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  Speaker 10: gonna do this and listen, we're meeting at this house.
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  Speaker 10: Were meeting at this house. But he brought somebody with him,
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  Speaker 10: so that we didn't know he was gonna bring somebody.
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  Speaker 10: But it was just people that we all knew.
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  Speaker 3: I was doing a little much for real.
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  Speaker 2: That's why I wouldn't hook up with her, because she
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  Speaker 2: was my friend and I knew once I started that
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  Speaker 2: that was it. She wouldn't going to know.
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  Speaker 3: I know that once I said I do, I am,
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  Speaker 3: I will all right, and here I am.
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  Speaker 1: So what do you tell young couples because you said something,
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  Speaker 1: you said, yeah, but you've been together that and never separation. Right,
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  Speaker 1: me and my wife we've been married twenty three years,
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  Speaker 1: been together thirty one, no separations, right. We worked through
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  Speaker 1: every day, good, bad, ugly, whatever. So what do you say,
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  Speaker 1: young couples.
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  Speaker 7: We took the voice off the table.
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  Speaker 10: And the thing is is to sometimes you gotta just
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  Speaker 10: separate in for instance, in the house, to just gather
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  Speaker 10: your thoughts versus like throwing venom, like at the heat
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  Speaker 10: of the moment.
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  Speaker 7: Sometimes you just have to back up, Okay, just take
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  Speaker 7: a minute.
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  Speaker 10: And digest what's happening versus so you won't say piercing
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  Speaker 10: I say piercing things. I've been saying that since the beginning,
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  Speaker 10: because you can say stuff when you're angry, and you
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  Speaker 10: can't take that words back because no matter if somebody
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  Speaker 10: say I'm sorry and I forgive you, but in the
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  Speaker 10: back of your.
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  Speaker 7: Head you still think.
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  Speaker 2: You never try to resolve issues in the middle of
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  Speaker 2: a battle. I mean, you just let it calm down
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  Speaker 2: a little period, just coumel it off a little bit.
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  Speaker 2: When you're trying to resolve stuff in the middle of war,
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  Speaker 2: it gets a little hard because you know early on,
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  Speaker 2: like she say, just I'm quick with quick bit in
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  Speaker 2: my mouth quickly return. So I would just say piercing stuff.
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  Speaker 2: And I just started to see how man, this is
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  Speaker 2: devastating this woman. It's crushing her. So you know, I
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  Speaker 2: just start building her up.
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  Speaker 1: What's the worst battle that you guys got into that?
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  Speaker 1: You remember that it was just nasty and you was
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  Speaker 1: going at her next she was going at your neck.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, So like we talk which one the knock at
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  Speaker 2: the door, the knock at the door, knock at the door.
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  Speaker 2: Imagine this. Imagine she's at work, you at the house,
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  Speaker 2: and the constable knock on the door and say, hey,
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  Speaker 2: here you go, hear the paper. You've been served, you've
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  Speaker 2: been served, say served with what what? Oh? You have
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  Speaker 2: a baby?
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  Speaker 3: I'm like what I got a new Yeah. And so
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  Speaker 3: she comes home It's like, hey, how your date being?
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  Speaker 2: I'm good? This is how long y'all were married at
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  Speaker 2: this time?
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  Speaker 3: Married five years by this time, so before I got married,
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  Speaker 3: when them last come by?
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  Speaker 2: The last little here? Yeah?
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  Speaker 11: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: And so imagine her coming home and say, hey, how
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  Speaker 3: your day? Oh my day was good?
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  Speaker 2: What you do today?
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  Speaker 3: Oh? I got this another baby?
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  Speaker 2: That's how you said it. No, I didn't.
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  Speaker 1: Took you some time.
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  Speaker 7: Take them some time to get it out.
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  Speaker 2: Her because on the way home, Okay, I'm gonna tell
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  Speaker 2: her like this, so you know, you remember now I
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  Speaker 2: can't say it that way, so.
• 14:05
  Speaker 11: You know the time, and I can't.
• 14:07
  Speaker 8: I just tried to.
• 14:08
  Speaker 3: Finally had to come and say, dear, you know I
• 14:11
  Speaker 3: might have a child, uh.
• 14:13
  Speaker 2: That you know that I had.
• 14:15
  Speaker 7: And the thing is is he he had to. He
• 14:18
  Speaker 7: had to, he said, from a previous argument. That's what
• 14:21
  Speaker 7: he calls it. So but they, you know, two different lady.
• 14:25
  Speaker 3: Things that have happened my two daughters.
• 14:27
  Speaker 10: So it's like I told him, I said, Okay, now
• 14:29
  Speaker 10: I accepted the one because I was there when she
• 14:31
  Speaker 10: was born.
• 14:32
  Speaker 7: Because we was she was at the hospital, and I
• 14:34
  Speaker 7: went to the hospital when when she was born. The
• 14:36
  Speaker 7: whole twenty one hours, y'all sit there.
• 14:38
  Speaker 10: But as he came and said this to me about
• 14:40
  Speaker 10: the other young lady, which I knew about the other
• 14:42
  Speaker 10: young lady, and I knew that they had been intimate.
• 14:44
  Speaker 10: I knew they had a thing going, but for how
• 14:47
  Speaker 10: it was presented, it was rough for me to take.
• 14:49
  Speaker 1: You know.
• 14:50
  Speaker 7: I was like, I don't know.
• 14:51
  Speaker 10: Because the chick, God bless the we in a better
• 14:53
  Speaker 10: place now, but then she was rough to deal with
• 14:55
  Speaker 10: right hands on them. I ain't putting the Holy hands
• 14:58
  Speaker 10: on you. I just had We had words, but not
• 15:00
  Speaker 10: even to you know what. We talked about it, and
• 15:02
  Speaker 10: David really pulled me before.
• 15:05
  Speaker 2: We got that.
• 15:05
  Speaker 3: It got really bad because she was like, I can't
• 15:08
  Speaker 3: deal with this.
• 15:08
  Speaker 2: I'm out.
• 15:09
  Speaker 3: And I shared with her, like, look, it's me and
• 15:12
  Speaker 3: you against everything.
• 15:14
  Speaker 7: That's the breakdown he gave you.
• 15:16
  Speaker 2: It's me and you against everything else. Because I know
• 15:18
  Speaker 2: that this is a hard situation to swallow. I know
• 15:21
  Speaker 2: I put us in a bad situation. I tell my
• 15:23
  Speaker 2: kids now, I say, look, I put you in a
• 15:26
  Speaker 2: bad situation because now you got to go over to
• 15:28
  Speaker 2: your mom's house for Christmas. Okay, I'm going to have Thanksgiving.
• 15:31
  Speaker 2: I say, that's a hard place to put kids. And
• 15:34
  Speaker 2: I say, I take full responsibility. I mean, my two
• 15:37
  Speaker 2: old daughter's best thing ever happened.
• 15:39
  Speaker 3: You see them now. I went to get the blood tests.
• 15:42
  Speaker 3: You know how you going to do the test and
• 15:45
  Speaker 3: I was gonna go and do a test.
• 15:47
  Speaker 2: You know, the first ain't baby, probably ain't mine. That
• 15:49
  Speaker 2: baby ain't mine.
• 15:50
  Speaker 3: So by now she's five and I walk in the
• 15:53
  Speaker 3: place and I look.
• 15:54
  Speaker 2: Down at this little face. We ain't got to take
• 15:57
  Speaker 2: no blood. Our face is exactly like mine.
• 16:01
  Speaker 10: But to me, she looked like him and she looked
• 16:03
  Speaker 10: like her, so it's like she was a great mixture
• 16:05
  Speaker 10: of the two. But when David told me the resolve
• 16:08
  Speaker 10: for me dj Invas was that it's he did the
• 16:11
  Speaker 10: spark thing.
• 16:12
  Speaker 7: He said, it's us, and then it's them.
• 16:14
  Speaker 2: It's everybody.
• 16:15
  Speaker 10: I said, So you never have to worry about me
• 16:17
  Speaker 10: choosing you over them, because it's us first and then them.
• 16:21
  Speaker 7: So that gave me a reassurance, and.
• 16:25
  Speaker 3: I wouldn't have to.
• 16:25
  Speaker 10: Be fighting to have my plate because I knew that
• 16:28
  Speaker 10: I had the papers. But still, you don't want to
• 16:30
  Speaker 10: be warring with someone else over just stuff that's even
• 16:33
  Speaker 10: outside of your home.
• 16:34
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 16:35
  Speaker 4: We have more with Tamala and David Man when we
• 16:38
  Speaker 4: come back, so don't move.
• 16:39
  Speaker 2: It's to breakfast Club. Good morning, the breakfast Club. Everybody.
• 16:45
  Speaker 1: It's dj NV, Jesseelarraychelamine, the God. We are the Breakfast Club.
• 16:49
  Speaker 1: Long the roads are filling in for Jess and we're
• 16:51
  Speaker 1: still kicking in with David and Tamala Man.
• 16:54
  Speaker 2: Now, with all that was going on, how did you.
• 16:56
  Speaker 1: Block out the noise, right, because I'm sure you had
• 16:58
  Speaker 1: friends and girlfriends leave.
• 17:00
  Speaker 10: He's this that, but it written one. No one really
• 17:03
  Speaker 10: honestly did come to me like that. Because the thing
• 17:06
  Speaker 10: is is we were in a small community. A lot
• 17:08
  Speaker 10: of us we were yeah, we were church kids. We
• 17:10
  Speaker 10: was in church singing and all this kind of stuff.
• 17:12
  Speaker 10: So all of us didn't know each other and knew
• 17:15
  Speaker 10: that they had been what they did.
• 17:16
  Speaker 7: What is that, you know, doing what you did? You know,
• 17:19
  Speaker 7: being involved?
• 17:20
  Speaker 10: So yeah, so but if people they knew me as
• 17:24
  Speaker 10: a person and they knew her as a person, so
• 17:26
  Speaker 10: it's like she had her reputation, I had mine. And
• 17:29
  Speaker 10: it's like, no one really never stepped to me and
• 17:31
  Speaker 10: said anything crazy like that, but they was willing to
• 17:34
  Speaker 10: defend me.
• 17:35
  Speaker 2: Now. Mind you, when we wrote this book and I
• 17:38
  Speaker 2: put the chapter the Knock at the Door at it, girl,
• 17:41
  Speaker 2: he was cheating on you all the time.
• 17:43
  Speaker 3: It's like, due the math.
• 17:44
  Speaker 2: Read the book.
• 17:45
  Speaker 3: Just go read the book, you know, girl, I knew
• 17:48
  Speaker 3: he was cheating. It's like you just got to read
• 17:50
  Speaker 3: and just follow it.
• 17:51
  Speaker 7: But if I were living and.
• 17:53
  Speaker 10: We breathing and we fight all through all the things,
• 17:57
  Speaker 10: you know, thirty six years later, We're still building, we're
• 18:00
  Speaker 10: still living because we just believe that Heaven is our destiny.
• 18:03
  Speaker 7: You know, we're breathing every breath with purpose.
• 18:05
  Speaker 10: We believe that we have a call, we have a
• 18:07
  Speaker 10: purpose to do what we do, even to inspire people
• 18:11
  Speaker 10: that follow us in relationships. I mean, this is like
• 18:13
  Speaker 10: you said that everybody want us to do this together. Lord,
• 18:16
  Speaker 10: they do, and they expect to see us. It's like
• 18:18
  Speaker 10: when you see one, it's like, Okay, well yours man,
• 18:20
  Speaker 10: you out here by yourself.
• 18:21
  Speaker 7: No, he's here. It's like he just stepped the trust me.
• 18:24
  Speaker 3: I've been trying to lay in the cut while we've
• 18:25
  Speaker 3: been doing this promo tour and the same thank you.
• 18:28
  Speaker 7: We fighting together, we're doing this together.
• 18:30
  Speaker 2: I really can't. I mean, I don't see y'all a part.
• 18:32
  Speaker 2: Y'all are really tagged team back again. Every time here,
• 18:36
  Speaker 2: it was complete.
• 18:37
  Speaker 10: When y'all are together and if and that's that's I
• 18:40
  Speaker 10: love the completion of it because he completes me. And
• 18:43
  Speaker 10: my prayer is like, Lord, please give us more time,
• 18:45
  Speaker 10: give us more time together. And it's like it's like
• 18:48
  Speaker 10: I don't know if I can do life without without him?
• 18:50
  Speaker 2: Is that what got y'all to get into shape because
• 18:52
  Speaker 2: you said, you know, you wanted to live like you
• 18:54
  Speaker 2: wanted more times that with me, y'all said, you know what,
• 18:56
  Speaker 2: getting to this, I had whole diabetes scare and all
• 18:58
  Speaker 2: the stuff, and it's like, man, we got to do something.
• 19:01
  Speaker 2: I can't leave it here by itself. It's just too
• 19:03
  Speaker 2: much going on, just seeing the craziness, and I'm just like,
• 19:06
  Speaker 2: I can't leave it here byself. I got to get
• 19:08
  Speaker 2: myself together. And so that's what we're doing. We just
• 19:10
  Speaker 2: a work in progress, you know this, good man.
• 19:13
  Speaker 6: Thank you.
• 19:14
  Speaker 7: Working from the inside out.
• 19:15
  Speaker 10: I think the importance of it is like this record
• 19:18
  Speaker 10: and doing it is like mentally working, coming from a
• 19:21
  Speaker 10: mental space, coming from building a body, doing differently, making
• 19:25
  Speaker 10: better decisions for the body.
• 19:26
  Speaker 7: And that thing is like, so we can be here
• 19:28
  Speaker 7: longer together.
• 19:29
  Speaker 2: And I was telling you off air, thank you so
• 19:32
  Speaker 2: much for what you're doing in this mental health space.
• 19:35
  Speaker 2: It means a lot to me as a black man
• 19:36
  Speaker 2: and somebody who's expected to make the world feel good.
• 19:40
  Speaker 2: And I was like, I shared it. I was embarrassed
• 19:43
  Speaker 2: to come out with my story of depression and making
• 19:46
  Speaker 2: it and to hear stories like yours, and you're talking
• 19:50
  Speaker 2: and just putting it in the forefront. It makes people
• 19:52
  Speaker 2: like me say, good, I can share mine without being embarrassed,
• 19:56
  Speaker 2: because I was embarrassed.
• 19:57
  Speaker 3: Really, I mean, like, but why embarrassment though?
• 20:00
  Speaker 2: Every time to come out and perform, you, mister Brown,
• 20:07
  Speaker 2: you make the world laugh.
• 20:08
  Speaker 4: Like you said, I grew up.
• 20:09
  Speaker 2: I'm a family like okay, So people expect that, and
• 20:12
  Speaker 2: so they don't know in the background you dying literally
• 20:17
  Speaker 2: dying and drowning. And so when people like you come
• 20:20
  Speaker 2: out and you know, make it known. Hey, it's cool.
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: I have a therapist and I have Jesus sure, and.
• 20:26
  Speaker 10: So you know, I just all of your lives, what
• 20:29
  Speaker 10: y'all give. I think it's important that all of us
• 20:31
  Speaker 10: bring what we bring to the table. I feel like
• 20:33
  Speaker 10: this pie is big enough for all of us to
• 20:35
  Speaker 10: have a piece to share it. We can help somebody,
• 20:37
  Speaker 10: I mean, one of our messages how to get to somebody.
• 20:40
  Speaker 2: I mean, my god, I mean.
• 20:42
  Speaker 10: It's like, with the platforms that we have, we should
• 20:45
  Speaker 10: be able to help encourage somebody from any walk of life.
• 20:50
  Speaker 10: I just feel like we're sent here not just for us,
• 20:52
  Speaker 10: We're sent here to help all walks.
• 20:54
  Speaker 2: The message in this album.
• 20:56
  Speaker 10: This album is to live, breathing, and fight even though
• 20:58
  Speaker 10: you're facing the things you're facing. The songs talking about
• 21:01
  Speaker 10: carry on, even though that you've dealt with mental health
• 21:04
  Speaker 10: or different different things in your family, or whatever your
• 21:07
  Speaker 10: issues may be.
• 21:07
  Speaker 7: We have to carry on. We deserve to win.
• 21:10
  Speaker 10: After you've done and been through the miss and the
• 21:12
  Speaker 10: upbringers that we've came out of.
• 21:14
  Speaker 7: We deserve to win. You deserve to have some nice things.
• 21:17
  Speaker 7: You deserve to have a smile on your face to be.
• 21:19
  Speaker 3: You're gonna find somebody I've been watching.
• 21:24
  Speaker 2: Talking and she don't pray about it.
• 21:30
  Speaker 11: You don't know what.
• 21:33
  Speaker 2: You don't know. She was kind of like you early on.
• 21:36
  Speaker 3: She was a player to what she's been doing radio.
• 21:47
  Speaker 12: Watching, you know, start out player players.
• 21:51
  Speaker 3: You said, I didn't start out playing.
• 21:53
  Speaker 9: I didn't. I mean once you I wasn't a player.
• 21:56
  Speaker 2: I was.
• 21:57
  Speaker 9: I'm meeting people, you know.
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: And now she kicks the saying game to the same guys.
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: And they figured it out to the fact that two
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: gentlemen said you need to fix yourself.
• 22:07
  Speaker 2: You need to get there.
• 22:09
  Speaker 9: First of all.
• 22:10
  Speaker 2: Two men told us you need to heal town.
• 22:12
  Speaker 12: One of them on lasted till Sunday after homecoming because
• 22:15
  Speaker 12: you needed to hear no, because he don't get me
• 22:17
  Speaker 12: started a lot of it, a lot of it deflecting
• 22:20
  Speaker 12: and cap and the language.
• 22:22
  Speaker 2: Should be calling these guys things like eaters. Y'all know
• 22:24
  Speaker 2: about that my best eater.
• 22:29
  Speaker 11: Not that I don't say the phone in the phone
• 22:39
  Speaker 11: eat up best.
• 22:41
  Speaker 2: Eat That is not true.
• 22:42
  Speaker 7: I would, But I think we should come when.
• 22:48
  Speaker 10: But when you're looking at being found, I think we
• 22:52
  Speaker 10: have to make a list of what we're wanting in
• 22:56
  Speaker 10: a relationship, and then you become the list.
• 22:59
  Speaker 2: That's all.
• 23:00
  Speaker 7: Just know what you want and it's okay to have standards.
• 23:03
  Speaker 9: And but you said that you've realized later in life
• 23:06
  Speaker 9: about your value forget. But it takes time for.
• 23:09
  Speaker 12: You to get to a certain point where you feel like, okay,
• 23:11
  Speaker 12: now I'm ready to enter back into things. I just
• 23:14
  Speaker 12: feel like some men don't understand when you're taking that time.
• 23:16
  Speaker 12: And that doesn't mean that you're lonely or without, it's
• 23:19
  Speaker 12: just you know, you need that time. I stepped away
• 23:20
  Speaker 12: from something.
• 23:21
  Speaker 7: See that's y'all say, taking her time for that's the
• 23:25
  Speaker 7: healing process right there. So she is in the process
• 23:27
  Speaker 7: of being here. So y'all just have to it's her way.
• 23:35
  Speaker 12: Honestly, I got I'd be with the whole sorry for
• 23:46
  Speaker 12: them that I brought y'all into this, and I did
• 23:48
  Speaker 12: not know as long as you know.
• 23:51
  Speaker 7: Yeah, I know it, and I know these guys. Y'all
• 23:54
  Speaker 7: stop teasing her.
• 23:56
  Speaker 2: Try to Mom or somebody.
• 23:58
  Speaker 3: I'm just old.
• 23:59
  Speaker 7: I'm just I'm I'm the oldest in here. I'm fake.
• 24:01
  Speaker 12: I did take time before I started dating. I took
• 24:04
  Speaker 12: a lot of time because it was a long relationship
• 24:06
  Speaker 12: that I was in. And then I got and that
• 24:08
  Speaker 12: was like and now here come these two.
• 24:10
  Speaker 2: But I see God working on.
• 24:14
  Speaker 10: One of my first titles. I have hands around. But
• 24:24
  Speaker 10: I have a song on this called Power, talking about
• 24:26
  Speaker 10: the power of God.
• 24:27
  Speaker 7: You should listen to it. It's a good one. The
• 24:29
  Speaker 7: power is really just talking.
• 24:31
  Speaker 10: About how just how the Lord just maneuvers and how
• 24:35
  Speaker 10: his power just happens over things, and just how he
• 24:38
  Speaker 10: just holds us. I mean, it's just amazing how God
• 24:41
  Speaker 10: just really protects us when we don't know that we're
• 24:43
  Speaker 10: being protected. We think we out here doing it ourselves,
• 24:45
  Speaker 10: but the Lord is really shielding us. So it's just
• 24:48
  Speaker 10: it's just really a blessing to be able to bring
• 24:50
  Speaker 10: my hope is that it's good music and people can
• 24:53
  Speaker 10: be healed and have inspiration from it.
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: We have more with David and Timbla Man when we
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: come back, let's get into a joint off for our
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: deserve to win. It's the breakfast Club, Good morning wanting everybody.
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: We are the breakfast Club. We're still kicking it with
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: David and Tamala Man Charlemanne.
• 25:08
  Speaker 2: I was gonna ask about Lord, I trust you right
• 25:09
  Speaker 2: because you know to what you're speaking about now. You
• 25:11
  Speaker 2: say when the sun's not shining down on me, when
• 25:13
  Speaker 2: the chaos is overwhelming, my peace for my life is
• 25:15
  Speaker 2: spending out of control. When I lose my grip and
• 25:17
  Speaker 2: I start to let go, Lord, I trust you. How
• 25:19
  Speaker 2: hard is it to put your trust in God when
• 25:22
  Speaker 2: things aren't going well, when you don't see no.
• 25:24
  Speaker 8: Light of it?
• 25:26
  Speaker 10: Could be hard to me. That's why I have a
• 25:27
  Speaker 10: real good cry. I get in my car a lot
• 25:30
  Speaker 10: because my car to me is like I can get
• 25:31
  Speaker 10: away from everything and I don't have to hear anything.
• 25:34
  Speaker 9: It's like that.
• 25:34
  Speaker 7: But in my closet it's like a pride closet.
• 25:36
  Speaker 10: And in my car because God is like, I don't
• 25:38
  Speaker 10: understand what's happening right now, this last year and half
• 25:41
  Speaker 10: half of things and things coming to me like I
• 25:44
  Speaker 10: can't believe that I'm in this situation.
• 25:46
  Speaker 7: I can't believe that I'm having a fight just to
• 25:48
  Speaker 7: prove who I am.
• 25:50
  Speaker 10: And I thought I was doing that, but it's like, okay, Lord,
• 25:53
  Speaker 10: I trust you. I trust that you're gonna handle it.
• 25:55
  Speaker 10: And then that's when the song came for me working
• 25:57
  Speaker 10: for me, that the Lord just gave me a stamp
• 26:00
  Speaker 10: of approval.
• 26:00
  Speaker 7: You may not see me at.
• 26:01
  Speaker 10: Work, but I'm working in your behalf that he's working
• 26:04
  Speaker 10: for me, bless you. So it's just I just take
• 26:07
  Speaker 10: comfort in knowing that he is my gud and he
• 26:10
  Speaker 10: is my help. He's my present help in the time
• 26:12
  Speaker 10: of storm, that even when I don't see and nobody
• 26:14
  Speaker 10: else is around, he's there and I can go to
• 26:17
  Speaker 10: him and I ain't got to worry about him my
• 26:18
  Speaker 10: business being in the street.
• 26:19
  Speaker 2: That's why testimony is so important though, right because I
• 26:22
  Speaker 2: like to hear other people's stories and what they've been
• 26:24
  Speaker 2: through and.
• 26:25
  Speaker 10: What that overcoming of it overcoming, the overcoming sure was overcoming.
• 26:29
  Speaker 10: And that's the thing is and the Lord has allowed
• 26:32
  Speaker 10: me to finish the work, even to the extent of
• 26:35
  Speaker 10: even with my body, I reached the goal of like
• 26:38
  Speaker 10: even the weight loss that I was trying to do so,
• 26:40
  Speaker 10: but to even spiritually become a writer like I wrote
• 26:44
  Speaker 10: on it, Like I gave direction on every song on
• 26:47
  Speaker 10: this album. So it's like things that I'm proving to
• 26:50
  Speaker 10: myself and showing like Lord, you know, I wrote the
• 26:53
  Speaker 10: plan down and I'm following through with the plan.
• 26:56
  Speaker 2: Working for me. That was your eleventh number one, right, Yes,
• 26:58
  Speaker 2: you've watched the record of all time.
• 27:01
  Speaker 3: Wow, Kirk, we're tired. We're tired for number one.
• 27:07
  Speaker 10: But I mean, you don't see this stuff coming. You owe,
• 27:09
  Speaker 10: people don't like the music and enjoy it.
• 27:12
  Speaker 7: But it's like when it happened, I don't even look
• 27:15
  Speaker 7: at the charge y'all they have. They tell me.
• 27:18
  Speaker 9: Working for me, you lean into the country music.
• 27:20
  Speaker 12: Yeah, so I know, and I know Kirk Franklin is
• 27:23
  Speaker 12: known for dibbling, dabling different beats and sounds and stuff
• 27:25
  Speaker 12: like that. Have you thought about, like what you know
• 27:28
  Speaker 12: it would be like for you to do other stars,
• 27:30
  Speaker 12: of bringing other stars like the R and B or
• 27:31
  Speaker 12: like anything secular but making it gospel kind of how
• 27:33
  Speaker 12: he does a bit well.
• 27:34
  Speaker 7: I kind of have some balanced this close to maybe
• 27:38
  Speaker 7: R and B. I've had a little.
• 27:43
  Speaker 10: If we did do a love project Us against the World,
• 27:47
  Speaker 10: that I did, like I have a song that Kyle
• 27:49
  Speaker 10: feels I sing a song, does Carl feel like it's
• 27:51
  Speaker 10: really a straight R and B song.
• 27:53
  Speaker 7: We didn't push it, but I think it would have
• 27:55
  Speaker 7: really did well.
• 27:56
  Speaker 10: But I just still want people to think that I
• 27:58
  Speaker 10: was trying to do R and B music, that I
• 28:00
  Speaker 10: still want to stay in my genre because I feel.
• 28:02
  Speaker 7: Like we all have a part to play.
• 28:04
  Speaker 3: And really she was afraid of what.
• 28:08
  Speaker 2: I did.
• 28:08
  Speaker 11: I was I was.
• 28:09
  Speaker 10: I was very fearful and it wasn't like I was
• 28:12
  Speaker 10: fighting them, but I was dragging my feet. It's like,
• 28:15
  Speaker 10: I feel like if I can hear whatever, I could
• 28:18
  Speaker 10: sing whatever. You know, like when you say the country music,
• 28:21
  Speaker 10: it's like, I'm country, y'all. Y'all hear in my just
• 28:23
  Speaker 10: how I talk. But I know about the chickens and
• 28:26
  Speaker 10: the hogs. You know, I was raised actually in the country,
• 28:29
  Speaker 10: so it's like those things to me. What it's like,
• 28:32
  Speaker 10: I've been stretched and a lot of times we only
• 28:35
  Speaker 10: listen to people's single that they have at but we
• 28:37
  Speaker 10: really don't go listen to the body of even with the.
• 28:42
  Speaker 2: Love project we did, she was afraid, like, of what
• 28:45
  Speaker 2: people were gonna think. I'm in the studio, I got
• 28:47
  Speaker 2: my chest hairs and I got much sunshape. I'm doing
• 28:50
  Speaker 2: my best R.
• 28:51
  Speaker 7: And B what I mean, let the lights damn.
• 28:56
  Speaker 16: I was.
• 28:59
  Speaker 2: And she was like, just have I said, that is
• 29:01
  Speaker 2: not how you sing. But then I realized she was
• 29:04
  Speaker 2: afraid of what the church crad was gonna, you know,
• 29:07
  Speaker 2: think of her.
• 29:08
  Speaker 10: But once I thought about it, it's like I'm singing
• 29:10
  Speaker 10: to the love of my life. I'm singing to him.
• 29:12
  Speaker 10: I'm not singing for y'all, per se. I mean, thank
• 29:16
  Speaker 10: God for everybody, but I was singing to him, and
• 29:18
  Speaker 10: the song is you make me feel like I'm on
• 29:21
  Speaker 10: top of.
• 29:21
  Speaker 7: The world, and when it's the truth, he does.
• 29:24
  Speaker 10: So it's like when you hear this song, it's like
• 29:26
  Speaker 10: it just brings it all to life of like me
• 29:29
  Speaker 10: talking straight to him or him, you know, feeling like
• 29:32
  Speaker 10: when he touched me.
• 29:33
  Speaker 7: It's just it's just he.
• 29:34
  Speaker 10: Still he's still give me goose bumps. So it's like
• 29:37
  Speaker 10: they don't do that because you don't do that.
• 29:40
  Speaker 4: Don't do that right now?
• 29:43
  Speaker 2: Y'all married? Why can't you married people have that?
• 29:45
  Speaker 10: It's true, but it's just a society that we live in.
• 29:48
  Speaker 10: It's like our people. We can be judgmental. We could
• 29:51
  Speaker 10: be the most loving, but we also can be the
• 29:53
  Speaker 10: most judgmental when it comes to Christian people.
• 29:55
  Speaker 2: I don't understand that about Christianity. I'm not gonna do
• 29:59
  Speaker 2: the for a thing they teach.
• 30:02
  Speaker 3: And I love being on this side, but I don't.
• 30:04
  Speaker 2: Know why we're like that.
• 30:05
  Speaker 10: I have, but it's it just it does have to
• 30:08
  Speaker 10: be a separation, though, y'all it has. It's just I
• 30:11
  Speaker 10: wouldn't come and look for you to do certain things,
• 30:15
  Speaker 10: just like you probably wouldn't expect for me to do
• 30:17
  Speaker 10: certain things. And it's not judgmental, you just it's just
• 30:20
  Speaker 10: like what you represented you, just like with your parents.
• 30:23
  Speaker 10: Just like sometimes even some like our kids like to
• 30:25
  Speaker 10: talk about six. They don't want us to talk about six.
• 30:30
  Speaker 10: So it's like, but it's just like people that we're doing.
• 30:33
  Speaker 10: People don't want to hear certain things from certain people.
• 30:36
  Speaker 10: So it's not I don't think all of it is
• 30:38
  Speaker 10: I would say judging. It's just what would Jesus do.
• 30:42
  Speaker 7: Could you see him just pull back on one was
• 30:52
  Speaker 7: to bring a message.
• 30:57
  Speaker 2: His father created.
• 31:00
  Speaker 7: It was not for him smoking. No, the bush was
• 31:02
  Speaker 7: being burnt to show as a sacrifice.
• 31:07
  Speaker 9: Sacrifice in the bush that I'm talking about.
• 31:09
  Speaker 7: Not they cookn't green.
• 31:10
  Speaker 2: God creates everything for a purpose. God created marijuana.
• 31:13
  Speaker 7: He did, but it wasn't for us to be like
• 31:17
  Speaker 7: joy get high.
• 31:18
  Speaker 2: Healing.
• 31:20
  Speaker 7: It's healing. It's for healing.
• 31:22
  Speaker 2: I don't think Jesus got high.
• 31:24
  Speaker 13: I don't.
• 31:24
  Speaker 2: I'm gonna push you. Why do you think all the
• 31:26
  Speaker 2: people thought he was walking on water. He turned the
• 31:31
  Speaker 2: water into wine, so that's the alcohol. And then he
• 31:34
  Speaker 2: turned the fish, the fish and the bread. He moved
• 31:36
  Speaker 2: the ply of everybody. That's the monkey. Man, know, man,
• 31:42
  Speaker 2: that is the monkey.
• 31:44
  Speaker 3: See why you always on here?
• 31:45
  Speaker 11: Come on, come on la getting this? So this is
• 31:47
  Speaker 11: I'm with you.
• 31:48
  Speaker 2: This is your time.
• 31:49
  Speaker 12: And what I'm doing, I'm allowing him to jump off
• 31:51
  Speaker 12: the cliff on his own. Gonna watch him.
• 31:53
  Speaker 2: Jesus know my heart, he working on.
• 31:57
  Speaker 9: Don't try to bring God on in here. Do you
• 32:01
  Speaker 9: see it?
• 32:01
  Speaker 11: Double?
• 32:01
  Speaker 9: You were just smoking with God?
• 32:04
  Speaker 2: All right?
• 32:05
  Speaker 11: I told you.
• 32:10
  Speaker 7: He's working for them tonight.
• 32:13
  Speaker 1: Man, We appreciate you.
• 32:14
  Speaker 2: You know, we have to definitely needs it. We all
• 32:17
  Speaker 2: need it.
• 32:17
  Speaker 7: Father God, we thank you for this day. We thank
• 32:19
  Speaker 7: you for this opportunity to be before your people.
• 32:21
  Speaker 10: Where should just bless us, Lord God, bring inspiration understanding
• 32:25
  Speaker 10: to all of us. God in every area that we need,
• 32:27
  Speaker 10: and touch those that are having problems for us in
• 32:30
  Speaker 10: their minds. Lord God, to just bring and lift every
• 32:32
  Speaker 10: weight off of us.
• 32:33
  Speaker 9: On God, we just give you.
• 32:35
  Speaker 10: Glory for this opportunity. Thank you for the Breakfast Club.
• 32:37
  Speaker 10: Thank you for what they bring for our people. And
• 32:39
  Speaker 10: we give you glory for everything that you're doing. Jesus name, Amen, Amen.
• 32:44
  Speaker 2: Man, always a pleasure man.
• 32:45
  Speaker 3: Thank you, Thank you.
• 32:47
  Speaker 4: The album out right now, Live breathing and fight and remember.
• 32:51
  Speaker 7: Live and keep breathing, keep fighting.
• 32:52
  Speaker 2: God did not smoke the burner. He did not.
• 32:55
  Speaker 3: It was That's not it.
• 32:57
  Speaker 7: It was for sacrifice. Come on, get out of that.
• 32:59
  Speaker 3: It's the Breakfast.
• 33:03
  Speaker 2: Morning, the Breakfast Club.
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: E j Envy Angela Yee Charlamagne the God. We are
• 33:11
  Speaker 1: to Breakfast Club. We got a special guest in the building.
• 33:14
  Speaker 3: Never met her before.
• 33:16
  Speaker 4: She's an actress, she's an author, she's a mom.
• 33:19
  Speaker 1: Ladies and gentlemen, it's a wife, my wife, Yes, Gia, hello, welcome?
• 33:24
  Speaker 3: Yeah, what that's this one name? She's like Madonna Beyonce.
• 33:28
  Speaker 2: Okay, okay, okay, okay, okay. How nervous are you, sir?
• 33:31
  Speaker 3: Seriously?
• 33:31
  Speaker 13: He's been acting real weird.
• 33:36
  Speaker 17: You guys have a book out, Real Life, Real Love Life,
• 33:40
  Speaker 17: Lessons on Joy, pain and the Magic that holds us together.
• 33:42
  Speaker 17: And I've been dying to ask you this question, Gia
• 33:45
  Speaker 17: in person, how do you feel about charlamagna and be
• 33:49
  Speaker 17: flirting with each other every day?
• 33:52
  Speaker 13: Kind of turns me on. I didn't expect that answer.
• 34:00
  Speaker 18: No, I'm nervous, people, Okay, explain No, I mean, I mean,
• 34:09
  Speaker 18: I think it's a little strange, but I'm amused by it,
• 34:14
  Speaker 18: amused by it.
• 34:15
  Speaker 13: Does anything goes too far?
• 34:16
  Speaker 7: Ever?
• 34:17
  Speaker 3: No, it's all in good fun and all it is.
• 34:19
  Speaker 19: I don't mind it.
• 34:20
  Speaker 4: So you didn't mind that when he gave me ass.
• 34:22
  Speaker 2: First of all, context please, everybody ever watched the show
• 34:28
  Speaker 2: every day? Context?
• 34:29
  Speaker 14: Please?
• 34:30
  Speaker 2: Okaya?
• 34:31
  Speaker 19: Can you guys sound by that?
• 34:33
  Speaker 3: He gave me a mold of his ass's and it
• 34:36
  Speaker 3: was in my ass. It was a molde of a ass.
• 34:38
  Speaker 2: Yes, I thought it was.
• 34:39
  Speaker 1: A mold of your actual No.
• 34:40
  Speaker 17: No, and then what about when they touch each other
• 34:45
  Speaker 17: and that's never.
• 34:46
  Speaker 18: Happened to You've never seen them, that hasn't happened.
• 34:49
  Speaker 19: No, you want to tell me something I need to know.
• 34:51
  Speaker 13: No, they like rub up brush against each other. If
• 34:53
  Speaker 13: they're walking at.
• 34:54
  Speaker 3: The door, they starting rubb against each other. We don't
• 34:56
  Speaker 3: ever do it.
• 34:58
  Speaker 13: They're going the revolving door together and have in one.
• 35:02
  Speaker 19: Explain that.
• 35:03
  Speaker 11: Now I need to answer.
• 35:04
  Speaker 2: It was stupid. I don't even know how to happen.
• 35:06
  Speaker 2: It was really stupid. It was really very intentional. It
• 35:11
  Speaker 2: wasn't well.
• 35:14
  Speaker 1: And then what makes his way walking around was so
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: stupid and was giggle because it was so stupid.
• 35:20
  Speaker 2: Had to giggle all the way through it.
• 35:22
  Speaker 20: You guys, just added insulted, sitting there in the one
• 35:25
  Speaker 20: slot giggling together.
• 35:30
  Speaker 2: Oh man, anyway, back to the matter at hand, real life,
• 35:35
  Speaker 2: real love. What is that magic that holds y'all together?
• 35:38
  Speaker 20: You think, you know, whenever I find that people come
• 35:43
  Speaker 20: to our house or are around us, I think they're
• 35:46
  Speaker 20: kind of surprised at.
• 35:47
  Speaker 13: How much fun we have together.
• 35:49
  Speaker 20: I find him to be very charming, charismatic, and one
• 35:54
  Speaker 20: of the things that I love most about him is
• 35:56
  Speaker 20: his boyish nature. So we really have a lot of
• 35:58
  Speaker 20: fun together and we always since we first met. The
• 36:02
  Speaker 20: first week we spent together, I thought to myssage, it's
• 36:04
  Speaker 20: a lot of fun and he's he's like a friend,
• 36:07
  Speaker 20: you know, And that's part of the magic.
• 36:10
  Speaker 2: You knew that this was the person who was gonna
• 36:11
  Speaker 2: send the rest of your life.
• 36:12
  Speaker 19: After about two weeks of knowing him.
• 36:14
  Speaker 13: Yes, he knew before you even spent a day together.
• 36:18
  Speaker 19: I explain before before we even spent a day together.
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: Well, when I first when I first seen you, I
• 36:24
  Speaker 1: mean I wrote in the book that I thought you
• 36:26
  Speaker 1: were beautiful and amazing. And the first time I saw
• 36:27
  Speaker 1: you were actually running track and for people that don't know,
• 36:30
  Speaker 1: you know track, she's playing tracks like that. You know,
• 36:38
  Speaker 1: he had, you know, big double d's, And I would
• 36:40
  Speaker 1: stop basically stalker outside and just watch her run.
• 36:43
  Speaker 3: Track and watch a breast bottle like that word don't
• 36:46
  Speaker 3: say stalk, but.
• 36:47
  Speaker 7: That's actually what he was.
• 36:49
  Speaker 19: It was actually stalking. And I would see him.
• 36:53
  Speaker 20: I would see him sitting with his friends in this
• 36:56
  Speaker 20: bright blue con edison vand because that's what his parents
• 37:00
  Speaker 20: bought him to trans to transfer his DJ equipment from
• 37:03
  Speaker 20: sweet sixteen.
• 37:03
  Speaker 19: To sweet sixteen time, and I would see it parked
• 37:09
  Speaker 19: behind the fence.
• 37:10
  Speaker 13: I'm thinking myself, like, Yo, why is this van.
• 37:13
  Speaker 19: There every day at practice?
• 37:18
  Speaker 2: Yo? Yeah?
• 37:22
  Speaker 19: It was bright blue. He wasn't low, he was not low.
• 37:27
  Speaker 16: He was just sitting in the And then one day, actually, babe,
• 37:31
  Speaker 16: do you remember one day he emerged from the van
• 37:33
  Speaker 16: and approached me and kicked it And I was like, oh,
• 37:36
  Speaker 16: so you're that weird though.
• 37:39
  Speaker 2: Both kids.
• 37:40
  Speaker 4: Yeah, she was fifteen, I was sixteen. We went to
• 37:42
  Speaker 4: the same high school.
• 37:43
  Speaker 17: So m but you say that you knew that she
• 37:46
  Speaker 17: was going to be your wife, like right away? You
• 37:47
  Speaker 17: think it was before y'all even spoke when he was
• 37:50
  Speaker 17: stalking her.
• 37:51
  Speaker 1: Actually know when we actually spoke, and you know, I
• 37:53
  Speaker 1: found out how you know, beautiful she was inside and outside,
• 37:57
  Speaker 1: and how smart she was and caring and she was
• 38:00
  Speaker 1: just that she was the one. She was the most
• 38:02
  Speaker 1: beautiful thing I've ever seen in my life and the
• 38:04
  Speaker 1: most precious thing. So I was like, this is going
• 38:06
  Speaker 1: to be my wife.
• 38:07
  Speaker 2: I want people to get the book, but I do want,
• 38:09
  Speaker 2: you know, to explain how do you keep reinventing the
• 38:13
  Speaker 2: relationship when you start that young. Now interview is fifty something,
• 38:17
  Speaker 2: you know what I mean, you're much much younger. But
• 38:19
  Speaker 2: how do you keep how do you keep reinventing?
• 38:22
  Speaker 19: And I think that that's part of the magic.
• 38:25
  Speaker 3: We don't have to try.
• 38:26
  Speaker 19: We don't intentionally.
• 38:28
  Speaker 20: We do a lot of things intentionally and deliberately, but
• 38:31
  Speaker 20: we don't intentionally reimagine the relationship and act on that.
• 38:36
  Speaker 19: The only thing that I would say that we're good
• 38:39
  Speaker 19: about is keeping it sexy and making.
• 38:41
  Speaker 20: Sure that that part of our relationship doesn't get to
• 38:44
  Speaker 20: monotonous and doesn't get stale.
• 38:46
  Speaker 19: So we have a lot of fun in that space.
• 38:49
  Speaker 7: But we don't have to think, like, God.
• 38:51
  Speaker 20: How am I going to stop being bored of you?
• 38:53
  Speaker 20: Or how am I going to get to a point
• 38:55
  Speaker 20: where you don't annoy me anymore? He legitimately does not
• 38:57
  Speaker 20: annoy me. I look forward to his phone calls every day,
• 39:01
  Speaker 20: and we probably speak on the phone about maybe eight
• 39:04
  Speaker 20: or nine ten times a day because he's away a lot,
• 39:07
  Speaker 20: you know. So he calls me on his way through
• 39:08
  Speaker 20: the breakfast club he calls me in his way home
• 39:10
  Speaker 20: from the breakfast clubs.
• 39:11
  Speaker 19: He calls me.
• 39:11
  Speaker 20: If something happens, he calls me incessantly. It's and I'm
• 39:15
  Speaker 20: never like you again, I'm like him again.
• 39:17
  Speaker 16: You know.
• 39:18
  Speaker 20: It's just that feeling that I've always had that no
• 39:21
  Speaker 20: matter what ups or downs we were going through, that
• 39:24
  Speaker 20: never left me.
• 39:25
  Speaker 13: Now, he told us this story about the cowboy outfit.
• 39:28
  Speaker 19: He told you about that.
• 39:29
  Speaker 12: Wait wait wait, the cowboy outfit in college with the
• 39:33
  Speaker 12: asses chats that No, they.
• 39:36
  Speaker 13: Were, Yeah, you tell us about it.
• 39:38
  Speaker 19: Oh wait, rare Sean, did you actually tell him about that,
• 39:40
  Speaker 19: like on error in private?
• 39:43
  Speaker 9: He did, because it was in private.
• 39:44
  Speaker 19: This is a whole double cross.
• 39:47
  Speaker 13: Jessip as a cowboy and his he had, remember, okay, and.
• 39:52
  Speaker 2: I remember that after he told his story, he goes.
• 39:56
  Speaker 20: Like what he did when we were in college. Yeah,
• 40:00
  Speaker 20: we went through a stage where we were doing like
• 40:02
  Speaker 20: a lot of role play. Yeah, and one night I
• 40:06
  Speaker 20: dared him to be a cowboy.
• 40:07
  Speaker 9: So we went and got the cowboy.
• 40:10
  Speaker 19: He had like the big brown hat, and then he
• 40:12
  Speaker 19: had like the.
• 40:13
  Speaker 20: Little holsters and everything and big do you remember I
• 40:16
  Speaker 20: took pictures?
• 40:17
  Speaker 13: Where are those are they? In the book?
• 40:20
  Speaker 19: About maybe three years after he made me physically burn
• 40:24
  Speaker 19: them on the grill.
• 40:25
  Speaker 2: Wow.
• 40:26
  Speaker 19: He put them on the grill and told me how
• 40:28
  Speaker 19: to light it? Yeah, they don't exist.
• 40:29
  Speaker 13: Don't you wish you still had that?
• 40:31
  Speaker 2: Would y'all talk about lay in the book? You said
• 40:32
  Speaker 2: he likes to put on the rock Nation paper plane
• 40:34
  Speaker 2: hat and he goes, what's my name?
• 40:36
  Speaker 3: And I want you to say jig.
• 40:37
  Speaker 19: I didn't contribute to that chapter.
• 40:39
  Speaker 3: Okay, that wasn't my work.
• 40:41
  Speaker 2: No, I didn't.
• 40:42
  Speaker 13: Wait, they really so he wasn't lying they were assless chaps.
• 40:45
  Speaker 19: Yeah, yeah, he had a whole.
• 40:46
  Speaker 7: It was a whole thing.
• 40:47
  Speaker 13: I just pulled the U yu gia. He did not
• 40:49
  Speaker 13: tell us that.
• 40:50
  Speaker 16: Damn to get my book and you will learn a
• 40:53
  Speaker 16: slew of tactics what you want out of life.
• 41:00
  Speaker 3: It was a holster, by the way, there were holsters.
• 41:02
  Speaker 13: It was a whole. It was some other dress up things,
• 41:04
  Speaker 13: you go, right.
• 41:06
  Speaker 20: It was more so me dressing up and he was
• 41:09
  Speaker 20: just like the recipient of that. That That was the
• 41:10
  Speaker 20: one little and that's why it was a dare because
• 41:13
  Speaker 20: it was kind of supposed to be a joke.
• 41:14
  Speaker 19: But he never really dressed up.
• 41:17
  Speaker 2: He was a doctor.
• 41:18
  Speaker 13: That was one.
• 41:19
  Speaker 2: Did you really burn the pictures?
• 41:20
  Speaker 19: I really did in front of him?
• 41:22
  Speaker 13: Wow, you didn't have.
• 41:26
  Speaker 9: Negatives?
• 41:27
  Speaker 19: Was going to share that they never goes left in
• 41:30
  Speaker 19: our relationships.
• 41:31
  Speaker 20: I had that I will ruin the entire reputation, I'll
• 41:35
  Speaker 20: never be able to work again, and I.
• 41:37
  Speaker 13: Question them over to a new audience.
• 41:41
  Speaker 4: We got more with my wife's Gia Casey. When we
• 41:43
  Speaker 4: come back. We're talking out new book that's out right now,
• 41:46
  Speaker 4: Real Life, Real Love.
• 41:47
  Speaker 3: So don't go anywhere.
• 41:48
  Speaker 4: It's the Breakfast Club. Good morning, Everybody's.
• 41:50
  Speaker 1: DJ Envy, Angelaee, Charlamagne the guy. We are the Breakfast Club.
• 41:55
  Speaker 1: We got a special guest still in the building, my wife,
• 41:57
  Speaker 1: Gia Casey. We're talking about our new book, Real Life,
• 42:00
  Speaker 1: Real Love, Life lessons on Joy, Pain and the Magic
• 42:03
  Speaker 1: that holds us together. You could pick it up today,
• 42:06
  Speaker 1: or you can get it on Audible or Kindle or
• 42:07
  Speaker 1: wherever you get your books.
• 42:09
  Speaker 13: Ye, how is it a both of you writing his
• 42:11
  Speaker 13: book together?
• 42:12
  Speaker 19: Some of it was fun, It was nice to be
• 42:13
  Speaker 19: creative and get your thoughts down on paper. It was work,
• 42:18
  Speaker 19: but a lot of it was difficult. I'm a very
• 42:21
  Speaker 19: open person.
• 42:23
  Speaker 20: Rashean, I think had a difficult time because he had
• 42:26
  Speaker 20: to relive a lot of the negative things that transpired.
• 42:30
  Speaker 2: In our relationship.
• 42:32
  Speaker 20: And he can tend to be surface in some respects
• 42:37
  Speaker 20: where you ask him a question, he gives you an answer.
• 42:39
  Speaker 20: I'm a lot more of an in depth person, you know.
• 42:41
  Speaker 20: I think critically about things. And when we would go
• 42:44
  Speaker 20: over these chapters that he's assigned to write, I would
• 42:48
  Speaker 20: ask him questions like Okay, you can't just answer it
• 42:51
  Speaker 20: with a yes or a no or a simple blanket,
• 42:53
  Speaker 20: like one question would mean ten more questions to really
• 42:56
  Speaker 20: get to the meet. And you know, I had to
• 42:58
  Speaker 20: keep reiterating, we're writing the books so that people have
• 43:01
  Speaker 20: something tangible, a reference point for them to make changes
• 43:05
  Speaker 20: in their lives if necessary, or to recognize that the
• 43:08
  Speaker 20: person that you're with needs to make changes in their lives.
• 43:11
  Speaker 3: And it was a journey.
• 43:14
  Speaker 19: It was a journey, but I think it was difficult.
• 43:16
  Speaker 1: Nothing, it was difficult. I had to relive a lot
• 43:17
  Speaker 1: of the f boy ish I put you through. And
• 43:20
  Speaker 1: you don't you forget about a lot of it because
• 43:22
  Speaker 1: you don't have to relive it. But then when you start, no,
• 43:24
  Speaker 1: you forget about it, forget I forget nothing.
• 43:27
  Speaker 2: But I think not the point though, right, because it's
• 43:30
  Speaker 2: like we don't realize how much we do hurt our
• 43:34
  Speaker 2: women when we do that true though, yeah, I think so.
• 43:37
  Speaker 2: I don't think we realize how deep.
• 43:38
  Speaker 19: That that sounds like an okie do to me.
• 43:40
  Speaker 2: No, I don't think we Until you actually sit down
• 43:42
  Speaker 2: and have those you know, uncomfortable conversations, you don't realize how.
• 43:46
  Speaker 20: Much you if your wife cheated on you and told
• 43:50
  Speaker 20: you that she would have no idea how much that
• 43:54
  Speaker 20: instood to hurt you.
• 43:55
  Speaker 2: Would that makes sense too, Probably not, But I mean,
• 43:58
  Speaker 2: men don't make sense. You believe that.
• 44:02
  Speaker 19: You believe that you're born inherently with like a deficit.
• 44:04
  Speaker 2: Not a deficit. But I just don't. I don't think we.
• 44:06
  Speaker 2: I don't think we're thinking about it, you know what
• 44:08
  Speaker 2: I mean? Like we that's the sad part.
• 44:10
  Speaker 13: It's selfish and that's what keeps That's what keeps.
• 44:12
  Speaker 2: You from doing it in the future, you know what
• 44:14
  Speaker 2: I mean, because you do not want to hurt the
• 44:16
  Speaker 2: woman that you love. And it's so crazy because I
• 44:18
  Speaker 2: saw that with my pops, Like I saw the pain
• 44:20
  Speaker 2: that that caused my mom with his infidelity, So in
• 44:23
  Speaker 2: my mind I was like, damn, I'm about to make
• 44:25
  Speaker 2: the same mistake. So I think it is difficult when
• 44:27
  Speaker 2: you got to relive it because you don't want to
• 44:28
  Speaker 2: talk about it, because you don't want to trigger you.
• 44:31
  Speaker 19: You know some people I don't get triggered, though.
• 44:35
  Speaker 2: That scared me just now.
• 44:44
  Speaker 20: No, Once I got to a point, and it was
• 44:46
  Speaker 20: a process, Once I got to a point where I
• 44:49
  Speaker 20: accepted that it was my job to move on, because
• 44:54
  Speaker 20: I decided to forgive him, and because because he had
• 44:59
  Speaker 20: done all of the work and then some to regain
• 45:04
  Speaker 20: my trust to earn grace from me, I got to
• 45:08
  Speaker 20: a point where I no longer wanted to punish and
• 45:11
  Speaker 20: I didn't have that inherent need to see him suffer.
• 45:15
  Speaker 20: Because when you hurt, and you say it all the time,
• 45:17
  Speaker 20: hurt people hurt people. When you're hurt, you want not
• 45:21
  Speaker 20: just people, you want the person that hurt you to hurt.
• 45:24
  Speaker 20: And anytime that I felt any type of way, I
• 45:27
  Speaker 20: made sure that he felt some type of way. So
• 45:30
  Speaker 20: once I learned how to forgive, and that was a process,
• 45:32
  Speaker 20: because I wasn't necessarily a forgiving person.
• 45:35
  Speaker 19: Before everything was very black and white to me, not
• 45:37
  Speaker 19: very much gray.
• 45:38
  Speaker 20: But once I learned and I understood that that's what
• 45:43
  Speaker 20: was expected from me of God, I had to commit
• 45:46
  Speaker 20: to that and do my best to live up to
• 45:49
  Speaker 20: what forgiveness meant. And that's what set me free, because
• 45:53
  Speaker 20: when you forgive, you don't forgive to ease the burden
• 45:55
  Speaker 20: from the other person. You forgive to ease the burden
• 45:58
  Speaker 20: from you.
• 45:59
  Speaker 17: Measure the work you guys did together, like you had
• 46:02
  Speaker 17: to work on forgiveness and when you said, Okay, I'm gonna,
• 46:06
  Speaker 17: you know, have to move on from this. But what
• 46:09
  Speaker 17: was the work that he did that let you know, Okay,
• 46:11
  Speaker 17: he's serious, and you know I can finally just say
• 46:16
  Speaker 17: I'm not getting triggered anymore.
• 46:17
  Speaker 13: I'm going to let this go.
• 46:19
  Speaker 20: One of the first things was I realized that he
• 46:23
  Speaker 20: understood the impact of what had happened.
• 46:26
  Speaker 19: What he did, He understood it.
• 46:29
  Speaker 20: He didn't just accept it and was accountable for it,
• 46:32
  Speaker 20: but he actually understood. He would do things that a
• 46:37
  Speaker 20: lot of men wouldn't do. He would sit there through
• 46:39
  Speaker 20: those eight hour conversations locked in a room. He answered
• 46:43
  Speaker 20: every question that I had, and I had a lot
• 46:46
  Speaker 20: of questions, and he answered them all truthfully. And you know,
• 46:51
  Speaker 20: when you ask somebody a question and you can tell
• 46:53
  Speaker 20: by their answer, because I mean, the answers weren't pretty,
• 46:57
  Speaker 20: they weren't things that I would have wanted to hear.
• 47:00
  Speaker 20: He went through all of the sufferation, as I call it,
• 47:03
  Speaker 20: and he did it until because a lot of guys,
• 47:07
  Speaker 20: when they mess up, and I mean a lot of them,
• 47:09
  Speaker 20: have told me. I have friends and that have gone
• 47:12
  Speaker 20: through it.
• 47:12
  Speaker 7: It's like, listen, I did it.
• 47:14
  Speaker 19: I apologize. I said I was never going to do
• 47:16
  Speaker 19: it again.
• 47:17
  Speaker 20: I mean that ish right, But it's like every day
• 47:20
  Speaker 20: I'm being punished, I'm being punished, I'm being reminded.
• 47:23
  Speaker 19: It's like, let it go, I apologize, Like, what more
• 47:25
  Speaker 19: do you want from me?
• 47:25
  Speaker 2: Blood?
• 47:26
  Speaker 20: He never took that approach with me. It was the
• 47:30
  Speaker 20: until until you are good, until you are healed. If
• 47:34
  Speaker 20: I have to be a punching bag, I will be that.
• 47:36
  Speaker 20: If I have to be a doormat, I will be that.
• 47:38
  Speaker 20: I will do anything that it makes to survive this
• 47:42
  Speaker 20: because I cannot be without you. And he proved it
• 47:46
  Speaker 20: every single day. It was as though and he was
• 47:48
  Speaker 20: like this before, but it was even more so during
• 47:51
  Speaker 20: this time. It was as though he communicated to me
• 47:53
  Speaker 20: that the only thing that he wanted was to make
• 47:56
  Speaker 20: me happy. And that's pretty much how he lives his life.
• 47:59
  Speaker 19: He lives his life every day waking up thinking like.
• 48:02
  Speaker 20: Damn, how can I make his life easier today? How
• 48:04
  Speaker 20: can I make Ge a happier today? But to answer
• 48:06
  Speaker 20: your question, it was the until. It was the indefinite,
• 48:09
  Speaker 20: and it was the willingness to do any and everything
• 48:12
  Speaker 20: to earn what he lost back.
• 48:14
  Speaker 17: And was there ever a question in your mind? I
• 48:16
  Speaker 17: know there was a point when you thought, no matter
• 48:19
  Speaker 17: what I do, she's never gonna take me back. There
• 48:21
  Speaker 17: ever a time when you were.
• 48:22
  Speaker 2: Like, cry, I'm gonna come over there and hug you
• 48:23
  Speaker 2: and let you know you better hold them. I'm hung
• 48:27
  Speaker 2: from the back. If you cried in front of your wife.
• 48:33
  Speaker 19: Catch that little feel.
• 48:36
  Speaker 1: At that point, I, you know, I didn't know what
• 48:38
  Speaker 1: was gonna happen, but I was like, I have to
• 48:40
  Speaker 1: be honest to at least get my friend back, you know.
• 48:44
  Speaker 1: And at that point, I I, you know, I didn't
• 48:46
  Speaker 1: know what Ge was gonna do. I thought it was
• 48:47
  Speaker 1: a rap. But I was like, I still wanted my friend.
• 48:49
  Speaker 1: I still wanted somebody I can talk to, you know,
• 48:51
  Speaker 1: I still wanted a relationship with her that we can
• 48:53
  Speaker 1: bounce like this. She's all I knew since I was sixteen.
• 48:55
  Speaker 1: So I still wanted my friend back answers Jamaica. That
• 48:58
  Speaker 1: could have been forever beef.
• 49:00
  Speaker 13: Yeah, but you know, it's interesting that you didn't kick
• 49:02
  Speaker 13: him out of the house.
• 49:03
  Speaker 17: You were still polite to him, you still wanted to
• 49:05
  Speaker 17: maintain a co parenting friendship.
• 49:09
  Speaker 9: I feel like that.
• 49:09
  Speaker 17: Here's more when you're like, we're not having sex and
• 49:13
  Speaker 17: might end up with somebody else one day, but you
• 49:17
  Speaker 17: know we're cool, that hurts more, I think sometimes and
• 49:19
  Speaker 17: just completely like being nasty to somebody and cutting them off.
• 49:23
  Speaker 20: Yes, Well, when I found out divorce was imminent, it
• 49:27
  Speaker 20: was never a question. I was raised by a very
• 49:31
  Speaker 20: strong mother who taught me that if a man ever
• 49:36
  Speaker 20: disrespects you to that degree, then you walk. So it
• 49:40
  Speaker 20: didn't matter how much I loved or Sean and how
• 49:43
  Speaker 20: much I would have missed him, and it.
• 49:44
  Speaker 19: Didn't matter if I cried every night.
• 49:46
  Speaker 20: It did not matter one iota how I felt. The
• 49:50
  Speaker 20: only thing that was important to me was that I
• 49:53
  Speaker 20: operated with my head and not my heart, and that
• 49:56
  Speaker 20: I did what I always said that I was going
• 49:59
  Speaker 20: to do. I found out when it was confirmed for me,
• 50:02
  Speaker 20: And you can read the book and see the entire
• 50:05
  Speaker 20: no we want you to go get there, the entire story.
• 50:08
  Speaker 20: But when he confirmed it, we were in a parking lot,
• 50:11
  Speaker 20: and when I drove away from that parking lot, it
• 50:14
  Speaker 20: was a few days before Christmas, and his mother was
• 50:16
  Speaker 20: at the house helping me decorate because we were hosting
• 50:18
  Speaker 20: that year. But I walked into the house and I
• 50:21
  Speaker 20: told her, I said, Christmas is canceled. And she said, oh,
• 50:26
  Speaker 20: and Christmas is canceled. And I said, well, I just
• 50:29
  Speaker 20: found out that Rashaan cheated on me and we're getting
• 50:32
  Speaker 20: a divorce, so there's not gonna be any Christmas this year,
• 50:35
  Speaker 20: at least I'm not hosting.
• 50:36
  Speaker 2: You know, it's wild that people actually canceled Christmas. I
• 50:38
  Speaker 2: thought that was just a figure of speach. No, no,
• 50:41
  Speaker 2: this happened. We canceled Christmas, canceled Christmas. Yeah, Christmas.
• 50:46
  Speaker 19: Well, in the sense of us hosting.
• 50:48
  Speaker 20: I wasn't going to cancel it for our children, but
• 50:50
  Speaker 20: you know, we didn't have to decorate for thirty people
• 50:52
  Speaker 20: to come over.
• 50:53
  Speaker 19: And my lovely mother in law, Hi, Mama.
• 50:58
  Speaker 20: She defended her beautiful son with everything that she could
• 51:02
  Speaker 20: because lying pretty.
• 51:04
  Speaker 19: Much, And when she said something to that effect, I.
• 51:07
  Speaker 20: Said, but for the fact that he just told me
• 51:10
  Speaker 20: that it was true, and he came home maybe twenty
• 51:14
  Speaker 20: or thirty minutes later, and it was a whole thing right.
• 51:19
  Speaker 20: But I was adamant that we were getting a divorce.
• 51:23
  Speaker 20: I contacted an attorney, paid an attorney.
• 51:26
  Speaker 19: It was decided.
• 51:30
  Speaker 20: But thankfully, there were a whole host of things that
• 51:34
  Speaker 20: happened that that convinced me that God had other plans.
• 51:40
  Speaker 1: I will on movie got More with Gia Casey. We're
• 51:43
  Speaker 1: talking out a new book, Real Life, Real Love. Let's
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• 51:58
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  Speaker 1: Life lessons on Joy, Pain and the Magic that holds
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• 52:09
  Speaker 17: Yee, And they let me ask you because you know,
• 52:11
  Speaker 17: for women, we always are like and like you said,
• 52:13
  Speaker 17: Tyresee was having a conversation how a man can't cheat
• 52:15
  Speaker 17: on you but still love you. Yeah, but why like,
• 52:20
  Speaker 17: you know, that's something that for women we always want
• 52:22
  Speaker 17: to know. And I'm sure you had so many conversations.
• 52:25
  Speaker 19: Well, I still don't like his answer.
• 52:27
  Speaker 1: I don't necessarily agree with what Tyre said. I really
• 52:30
  Speaker 1: feel that until you know the definition of what love
• 52:33
  Speaker 1: really means. I think a lot of times people just
• 52:35
  Speaker 1: say I love you, and it's oh, I love you.
• 52:37
  Speaker 1: But until you understand the definition of what love means,
• 52:40
  Speaker 1: then you realize I don't if I love somebody like
• 52:42
  Speaker 1: I say.
• 52:43
  Speaker 2: You don't want to hurt them.
• 52:44
  Speaker 1: You don't want to cheat on them, you don't want
• 52:45
  Speaker 1: to disrespect them, you don't want to have them looking
• 52:47
  Speaker 1: crazy because you love that person. And I don't think
• 52:50
  Speaker 1: I knew the definition of love. But when I figured
• 52:52
  Speaker 1: that definition out of what love is and what Gia
• 52:54
  Speaker 1: meant to me, you know, you realize I don't want
• 52:56
  Speaker 1: to hurt her. I don't want to see her cry,
• 52:58
  Speaker 1: I don't want to see her feel a way. I
• 52:59
  Speaker 1: don't want to disrespec I don't want to be controlling.
• 53:01
  Speaker 1: I don't want to be any of those things. And
• 53:03
  Speaker 1: when you realize what that definition is, your outlook of
• 53:06
  Speaker 1: life changes.
• 53:06
  Speaker 2: I agree with it, and I'll add on because I've
• 53:08
  Speaker 2: explored this in therapy. When you say you can cheat
• 53:12
  Speaker 2: and still love a person, you might, but you don't
• 53:15
  Speaker 2: really love yourself. Yeah, I think a lot of times
• 53:17
  Speaker 2: and not a lot of times. All the time men
• 53:19
  Speaker 2: cheat for ego.
• 53:20
  Speaker 3: Oh yeah, like that's it.
• 53:21
  Speaker 2: It's wounded ego. It's something that we're lacking. It has
• 53:23
  Speaker 2: nothing to do with all wives, nothing to do with
• 53:25
  Speaker 2: our girlfriends. It's something that we feel like we're lacking
• 53:28
  Speaker 2: for whatever reason, and that's what we go and do.
• 53:31
  Speaker 2: It's literally just to feed all ego. Nothing, no, nothing,
• 53:33
  Speaker 2: Like do you.
• 53:34
  Speaker 17: Think women cheat for the same reason as men or
• 53:35
  Speaker 17: you think it's different, Like when women cheat, you think
• 53:38
  Speaker 17: they cheat for different reasons.
• 53:40
  Speaker 19: I think women also cheat for ego.
• 53:43
  Speaker 20: Who doesn't like to have the attention of the opposite sets,
• 53:48
  Speaker 20: you know, especially when you are at a deficit and
• 53:51
  Speaker 20: you do have holes and you need those holes filled
• 53:54
  Speaker 20: and most people have slight holes. You know, not that
• 53:58
  Speaker 20: you're out there thirsty for the attention of the opposite sex,
• 54:01
  Speaker 20: but even if it's of the same sex, when someone
• 54:03
  Speaker 20: pays you a compliment, like it's nice to be wanted,
• 54:07
  Speaker 20: is essentially what I'm saying.
• 54:08
  Speaker 19: So for women. Yeah, I mean I think that if
• 54:12
  Speaker 19: you're with someone and you cheat, I think a big
• 54:15
  Speaker 19: part of it is ego.
• 54:16
  Speaker 20: But then you know, you'll have people that say that
• 54:18
  Speaker 20: they cheat because the person at home isn't doing what
• 54:21
  Speaker 20: they're supposed to do. You know.
• 54:23
  Speaker 19: And we have a son, Logan.
• 54:24
  Speaker 20: He's eighteen, so he's starting to date seriously and whatnot now.
• 54:28
  Speaker 20: And I had a conversation with him the other day
• 54:30
  Speaker 20: and I said, listen, if you commit to a girl
• 54:33
  Speaker 20: and you.
• 54:34
  Speaker 19: Make her your girlfriend, one thing I do not want
• 54:36
  Speaker 19: you to do is cheat.
• 54:38
  Speaker 20: Do not come to me and tell me that you
• 54:40
  Speaker 20: guys broke up because you cheated on her, because I've
• 54:42
  Speaker 20: raised you better than that. If you decide that you
• 54:45
  Speaker 20: want something else or she's not satisfying whatever needs you have,
• 54:50
  Speaker 20: break up with.
• 54:50
  Speaker 13: Her and move on to the next.
• 54:52
  Speaker 19: And if within a week you feel the same way
• 54:54
  Speaker 19: about that girl, break up with her and move on
• 54:56
  Speaker 19: to the next.
• 54:57
  Speaker 20: Do not cheat, because you're sacrificing your own INDI integrity
• 55:00
  Speaker 20: when you do that, and that's pretty much a sign
• 55:03
  Speaker 20: of really not loving yourself. When you love yourself, you
• 55:07
  Speaker 20: want to be self actualized, you want to be your
• 55:09
  Speaker 20: best self. You want to reach your highest potential, You
• 55:12
  Speaker 20: want to be a kind, a good person, and you
• 55:14
  Speaker 20: owe that to yourself. You don't necessarily owe it to
• 55:16
  Speaker 20: the other person. You owe it to yourself to do
• 55:18
  Speaker 20: those things. And that's what I'm trying to instill in
• 55:21
  Speaker 20: him as my oldest male child.
• 55:23
  Speaker 2: You know, one of the biggest things I think that
• 55:25
  Speaker 2: came out and this was all the work that he
• 55:27
  Speaker 2: did do on himself and he was suicidal at a point.
• 55:30
  Speaker 2: That's we know that, right. Yes, I don't think that
• 55:34
  Speaker 2: was all because of what was going on with you.
• 55:35
  Speaker 2: I think it was, like I said, it was other
• 55:37
  Speaker 2: things that he was dealing with inside of him that
• 55:39
  Speaker 2: probably got him to that point.
• 55:40
  Speaker 20: Yes, we would have to ask him, because we've never
• 55:44
  Speaker 20: had a conversation of it being about anything besides the
• 55:49
  Speaker 20: threat of losing our relationship.
• 55:52
  Speaker 3: I would say this.
• 55:53
  Speaker 1: I would say, you know, I used to look at
• 55:54
  Speaker 1: people who committed suicide as soft and suck like that
• 55:58
  Speaker 1: that's what society made you think. Until I got into
• 56:00
  Speaker 1: that predicament where I felt like my life, well everybody's
• 56:04
  Speaker 1: life around me, would be better if I wasn't here,
• 56:07
  Speaker 1: and I couldn't shake it, and the majority of it
• 56:10
  Speaker 1: was losing my wife, losing my family, losing the thing
• 56:13
  Speaker 1: that I knew and that I loved, and I really
• 56:16
  Speaker 1: feel like I didn't want to be there. And I
• 56:19
  Speaker 1: guess it was everything else that we said, like the
• 56:21
  Speaker 1: insecurities that made me do it, the insecurities around me,
• 56:24
  Speaker 1: and I just didn't know.
• 56:25
  Speaker 2: Who I was as a person. That's powerful.
• 56:29
  Speaker 1: But I will say during all of that, in all
• 56:32
  Speaker 1: those conversations and all those late night talks and with praying,
• 56:36
  Speaker 1: you feel like you realize who you are as a person.
• 56:39
  Speaker 1: And once you figure that out, you figure out who
• 56:41
  Speaker 1: you want to be, who you want to who you
• 56:43
  Speaker 1: want to live like, and you don't care about anything else.
• 56:45
  Speaker 1: You know, at one time I used to care what
• 56:47
  Speaker 1: people thought. Now I don't care. As long as my
• 56:49
  Speaker 1: wife and my family's happy. Everything else is just white
• 56:52
  Speaker 1: noise behind it.
• 56:53
  Speaker 17: To think about how much stronger you guys are as
• 56:55
  Speaker 17: individuals and your marriage is so much stronger after everything
• 56:58
  Speaker 17: you've been through.
• 56:58
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, oh yeah, if he said something powerful to
• 57:01
  Speaker 2: because this business, this business will have you living a lot.
• 57:04
  Speaker 2: Because we're characters, right, So we create these characters that
• 57:08
  Speaker 2: kind of protect the rashan and protect the lenard and
• 57:11
  Speaker 2: we're we go home and we one way, but then
• 57:12
  Speaker 2: we're out in the street being another way. But you
• 57:14
  Speaker 2: can't do both. Eventually, that negative is going to catch up.
• 57:18
  Speaker 2: So that's that's why I think he was going through,
• 57:21
  Speaker 2: like not only just the threat of losing you, but
• 57:23
  Speaker 2: just like, who am I?
• 57:24
  Speaker 19: What's that hard for you? Having this dual personality?
• 57:28
  Speaker 1: Almost absolutely, because I mean, like, nothing's better now than
• 57:32
  Speaker 1: to not care what people think? You know, I would
• 57:33
  Speaker 1: have to freedom freedom, I would have to think about
• 57:36
  Speaker 1: what I was saying on the radio and how would
• 57:37
  Speaker 1: affect me, how people would look at me. I would
• 57:39
  Speaker 1: have to think about this or think about that instead
• 57:41
  Speaker 1: of just being free and say, hey, it is what
• 57:43
  Speaker 1: it is.
• 57:43
  Speaker 2: Take it how you like it. If you like me,
• 57:44
  Speaker 2: you like me.
• 57:45
  Speaker 3: If you love me, you love me.
• 57:46
  Speaker 1: If you hate me, you hate me. And once I
• 57:47
  Speaker 1: got to that place, life became a whole lot better.
• 57:52
  Speaker 17: See a lot of gems in this fuck you guys.
• 57:54
  Speaker 17: I was thoroughly entertaining. Like I said, I look stressed.
• 58:00
  Speaker 17: Whatever's all morning, before you guys conversation.
• 58:03
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• 58:04
  Speaker 2: Go get it, man, Make sure you pick it up.
• 58:06
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• 58:09
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• 58:31
  Speaker 2: And I think that y'all gonna help with a lot
• 58:32
  Speaker 2: of couples. And it's clear that y'all too are meant
• 58:34
  Speaker 2: to be with each other, you know what I'm saying.
• 58:36
  Speaker 20: One of my favorite chapters is called The New Deal,
• 58:39
  Speaker 20: and it's pretty much about reparations that the offender has
• 58:43
  Speaker 20: to make after offending their partner. And it's those things
• 58:48
  Speaker 20: that will help to let to signal to your partner
• 58:51
  Speaker 20: that you just may be worthy of forgiveness and being
• 58:55
  Speaker 20: extended grace.
• 58:56
  Speaker 2: So one of those reparations, the first thing people will
• 58:58
  Speaker 2: say is that, oh, that's why he does the twelve
• 58:59
  Speaker 2: Day Christmas.
• 59:00
  Speaker 19: You know that's right. A lot of people do.
• 59:05
  Speaker 20: But you know, it's funny, and that's the funny thing.
• 59:08
  Speaker 20: We've always done twelve days of Christmas. We just never
• 59:12
  Speaker 20: made it public. And it's not the type of thing
• 59:15
  Speaker 20: that at first I ever wanted to make public because.
• 59:19
  Speaker 3: It is grand.
• 59:21
  Speaker 19: But I decided to start.
• 59:23
  Speaker 20: Posting it because it's not about the material items that
• 59:28
  Speaker 20: he gives me for Christmas.
• 59:30
  Speaker 19: It's about the intention behind it.
• 59:33
  Speaker 9: It's about the thought.
• 59:34
  Speaker 20: You know, he starts shopping almost a year in advance
• 59:37
  Speaker 20: for that, and every gift comes with something special, a
• 59:41
  Speaker 20: little note, a little treasure hunt to find the gift,
• 59:44
  Speaker 20: a prayer, a poem, something that is giving of his heart,
• 59:49
  Speaker 20: not giving up his pocket.
• 59:51
  Speaker 2: And that's why when you you know, you read the
• 59:52
  Speaker 2: book and you hear y'all talk, that's why you understand
• 59:55
  Speaker 2: why he got so upset at these and Maryland. Correct,
• 59:57
  Speaker 2: you know what I'm saying, because y'all relationship is so
• 59:59
  Speaker 2: much deeper.
• 1:00:00
  Speaker 19: Of course, you know, because with their comment it almost
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 19: to me.
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 20: Suggests as though there's nothing else worthy about him that
• 1:00:11
  Speaker 20: would signal me to stay aside from what he has
• 1:00:15
  Speaker 20: to offer financially. And it's a joke, right, but we
• 1:00:19
  Speaker 20: all know that all jokes are rooted in some truth,
• 1:00:23
  Speaker 20: and that's what I think their truth was. Looking at
• 1:00:27
  Speaker 20: it from an outsider, I wasn't some Jackie com Lately
• 1:00:30
  Speaker 20: and met somebody with money and was like, oh, come up.
• 1:00:34
  Speaker 19: We ground it out from day one.
• 1:00:37
  Speaker 20: I was always there and supporting him and loving him.
• 1:00:41
  Speaker 20: And if he failed and wound up being a secretary
• 1:00:46
  Speaker 20: or anything followed another path, I would still be there.
• 1:00:51
  Speaker 9: You did that take it?
• 1:00:56
  Speaker 19: It took a beat to get that.
• 1:01:01
  Speaker 2: I can't believe what are you talking. I'm just suggesting
• 1:01:05
  Speaker 2: other career options that you couldn't take it.
• 1:01:07
  Speaker 1: So I can't believe he's with me, with my wife,
• 1:01:09
  Speaker 1: and it's like, you're disrespectful real life.
• 1:01:11
  Speaker 7: Really, thank you for having you guys.
• 1:01:13
  Speaker 2: That's right.
• 1:01:13
  Speaker 9: Pick it up today and it's.
• 1:01:16
  Speaker 3: The Breakfast Club.
• 1:01:16
  Speaker 4: Good Morning.
• 1:01:17
  Speaker 2: No, you got to tell this guest I love you
• 1:01:18
  Speaker 2: before you sign off.
• 1:01:20
  Speaker 1: Yes, in case you thank you for joining us. I
• 1:01:22
  Speaker 1: love you, I love you, I love you way Moore, Charlotte.
• 1:01:26
  Speaker 1: It's the Breakfast Club, Good Morning.
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  Speaker 13: That's Devil.
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  Speaker 2: Breakfast Club. Well Donkey Today goes to a thirty eight
• 1:01:45
  Speaker 2: year old woman named Briyaka Riaka Benjamin Okay I'm also
• 1:01:50
  Speaker 2: at that age I simply don't understand what certain people
• 1:01:52
  Speaker 2: be on. So I treat it like I'm at a safari. Right, Well,
• 1:01:55
  Speaker 2: I'm on a safari. I'm just riding in a jeep,
• 1:01:57
  Speaker 2: cruising through the jungle. Keep all my limbs in the
• 1:01:59
  Speaker 2: car watching the action. Okay. And one thing I like
• 1:02:02
  Speaker 2: to watch is when people got beef with others and
• 1:02:05
  Speaker 2: they say, when I see my it's on site now.
• 1:02:08
  Speaker 3: A lot of folks be lying. Okay, a lot of
• 1:02:10
  Speaker 3: folks be telling the truth.
• 1:02:11
  Speaker 2: Though. See on site means it don't matter where you
• 1:02:13
  Speaker 2: at church, the doctor's office with your grandmother, a funeral
• 1:02:16
  Speaker 2: for your aunt. No, I said this on site and
• 1:02:19
  Speaker 2: on site means no matter this site it's on now.
• 1:02:22
  Speaker 2: Just because I like to watch something doesn't mean I
• 1:02:25
  Speaker 2: agree with it. I was born in nineteen hundred and
• 1:02:27
  Speaker 2: seventy eight. Your uncle Shaulah got rules, and one of
• 1:02:29
  Speaker 2: those rules is that kids should always be protected. You
• 1:02:32
  Speaker 2: don't do nothing around kids. You put the kids in
• 1:02:34
  Speaker 2: harm's way, and you shouldn't put the kids in harm's
• 1:02:37
  Speaker 2: way in any way, shape or form. Okay. You hear
• 1:02:39
  Speaker 2: those tragic stories and people getting shot and killed while
• 1:02:42
  Speaker 2: they with their kids. People get shot and kid shot
• 1:02:45
  Speaker 2: and killed while holding their babies in their arm. That's
• 1:02:48
  Speaker 2: disgusting to me. Okay, you see someone with their child,
• 1:02:50
  Speaker 2: you say, you know what, I'll catch them later, which
• 1:02:54
  Speaker 2: also really don't make no sense, especially if you're dumb
• 1:02:56
  Speaker 2: ass plans to kill a person because you care about
• 1:02:58
  Speaker 2: kids enough not to want to harm the adult when
• 1:03:01
  Speaker 2: they around the child, but you are still willing to
• 1:03:03
  Speaker 2: take the adult off the earth and leave the child
• 1:03:05
  Speaker 2: without a parent. Dumb, stupid ass logic that makes no sense.
• 1:03:09
  Speaker 2: But if people made sense, then I wouldn't be able
• 1:03:11
  Speaker 2: to do donkey today every day for the last fourteen
• 1:03:13
  Speaker 2: years now. Briaka Benjamin, thirty eight years old walked into
• 1:03:17
  Speaker 2: the Holy grounds of Walmart, Okay, the cultural institution that
• 1:03:22
  Speaker 2: is Wiley's World, and she saw one of her ops. Oh,
• 1:03:26
  Speaker 2: she saw one of her ops and she must have
• 1:03:28
  Speaker 2: vowed that it was on site with this person because
• 1:03:30
  Speaker 2: Briaka had her six month old baby with her. I repeat,
• 1:03:34
  Speaker 2: Briaka had her six month old baby with her when
• 1:03:38
  Speaker 2: she saw her op and this happened. Let's go to
• 1:03:40
  Speaker 2: News fifteen for the report police.
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  Speaker 5: A shocking story out of Unice a mother's behind bars
• 1:03:46
  Speaker 5: were simple battery and cruelty to juveniles. Priorities you'll see
• 1:03:49
  Speaker 5: Eunice Police were called to Walmart in response to a
• 1:03:52
  Speaker 5: fight near the front doors. Surveillance footage shows Brianka Benjamin,
• 1:03:56
  Speaker 5: who is thirty eight years old, holding her six month
• 1:03:58
  Speaker 5: old infant during an r argument before allegedly throwing her
• 1:04:02
  Speaker 5: baby in a trash can.
• 1:04:04
  Speaker 2: We'll repeat that she allegedly threw her baby in the
• 1:04:06
  Speaker 2: trash can before she got into a fight. As of
• 1:04:09
  Speaker 2: this morning, police say the infant safe and has been
• 1:04:12
  Speaker 2: entrusted to other family members. You couldn't pass the baby
• 1:04:16
  Speaker 2: to nobody. You couldn't leave the baby in the stroller.
• 1:04:19
  Speaker 2: The trash can is the best place you could find
• 1:04:22
  Speaker 2: to put your baby because you wanted to fight. Brianca
• 1:04:24
  Speaker 2: Benjamin saw her op. She had her six month old
• 1:04:27
  Speaker 2: baby with her and threw the baby in the trash
• 1:04:29
  Speaker 2: can to go square up. I don't know if her
• 1:04:32
  Speaker 2: op was the baby or the woman she was fighting
• 1:04:34
  Speaker 2: in the store. Okay, you couldn't even put the baby
• 1:04:36
  Speaker 2: in the recycle bin. Just just throw the baby in
• 1:04:38
  Speaker 2: the trash I've heard some wild reasons why folks threw
• 1:04:41
  Speaker 2: babies in the trash. Brenda threw her baby in the trash,
• 1:04:43
  Speaker 2: But Brenda Bailly had a brain. The girl could always
• 1:04:46
  Speaker 2: spell her name. Plus she was young and didn't want
• 1:04:48
  Speaker 2: the baby. Lusha's lying through Jamal and the trash for
• 1:04:50
  Speaker 2: being gay. But Jamal wasn't a baby, Okay, he was
• 1:04:53
  Speaker 2: big and gay. Right. There's no reason to put your
• 1:04:56
  Speaker 2: child in a trash can unless you're dressing them up
• 1:04:59
  Speaker 2: as oscar to ground for Halloween. This is why I
• 1:05:01
  Speaker 2: be telling folks to go to therapy. This is why
• 1:05:03
  Speaker 2: I'm such a mental health advocate, because we have to
• 1:05:05
  Speaker 2: get our minds right. There is no part of the
• 1:05:07
  Speaker 2: human brain that's your say. That's your say to you,
• 1:05:10
  Speaker 2: I see my op. I'm gonna throw my baby in
• 1:05:12
  Speaker 2: the trash so i can go fight. That baby in
• 1:05:15
  Speaker 2: your arm should be all the reason you need to
• 1:05:17
  Speaker 2: avoid the trouble. But what you did with that baby
• 1:05:21
  Speaker 2: in that moment, Brianca, is a reflection of you. It
• 1:05:24
  Speaker 2: is exactly how you see yourself. You had no problem
• 1:05:27
  Speaker 2: throwing your baby in the trash because you see yourself
• 1:05:30
  Speaker 2: and your life is trash. You don't love yourself. And
• 1:05:33
  Speaker 2: if you don't love yourself, it's impossible to love anyone
• 1:05:36
  Speaker 2: or anything else, I guess, including your child. Please get
• 1:05:40
  Speaker 2: Brianca Benjamin the biggest he hull.
• 1:05:47
  Speaker 3: No, no, that's crazy.
• 1:05:50
  Speaker 2: No, I see the stupid look in your eye. No
• 1:05:53
  Speaker 2: you won't play a game. No I wouldn't play game.
• 1:05:56
  Speaker 2: No did you can't? Her name is Brianca Benjamin. Okay, Brianca,
• 1:06:02
  Speaker 2: that's not like you should be on Street Fighter. Okay,
• 1:06:05
  Speaker 2: you know we're not playing the game. Did she win down?
• 1:06:08
  Speaker 14: And you know what?
• 1:06:08
  Speaker 2: Her name?
• 1:06:09
  Speaker 7: Prianca?
• 1:06:10
  Speaker 2: Trumk got a daughter named Preanca.
• 1:06:14
  Speaker 7: Prianca pre Uncle cut it off, man cut it somebody something.
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  Speaker 2: Preanca sounded like a baby Trump would have with a
• 1:06:24
  Speaker 2: black mistress. But did she did she win to fight?
• 1:06:27
  Speaker 2: I don't know if she wanted not. That's that you're missing.
• 1:06:29
  Speaker 2: It don't matter if you want. She threw the baby
• 1:06:30
  Speaker 2: in the trash?
• 1:06:31
  Speaker 13: Do you think she gotta I think she was trying
• 1:06:33
  Speaker 13: to kill birds in one stone.
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  Speaker 3: She didn't want to.
• 1:06:35
  Speaker 7: She wanted to fight the girl. God damn, what if
• 1:06:38
  Speaker 7: somebody would have came up and empty the trays.
• 1:06:40
  Speaker 2: Right exactly what he was doing, Joe, exactly? What if
• 1:06:44
  Speaker 2: she got her dumb ass knocked out? And then somebody
• 1:06:46
  Speaker 2: threw the trash out. Then what man?
• 1:06:49
  Speaker 1: But race was she?
• 1:06:50
  Speaker 2: I'm not playing with you. Let me alone or race
• 1:06:53
  Speaker 2: you thinks she is? Just I don't know. I don't
• 1:06:57
  Speaker 2: I haven't seen the picture. I ain't seen the pictures.
• 1:07:01
  Speaker 2: I don't know what she looked like. Okay, you want
• 1:07:02
  Speaker 2: me to google?
• 1:07:03
  Speaker 7: All right, type it up. You know you be up
• 1:07:05
  Speaker 7: over there typing and looking up everything else.
• 1:07:07
  Speaker 2: I'm a googler right now. Let me see that name?
• 1:07:09
  Speaker 2: Sound white to me? Damn envy, God damn?
• 1:07:18
  Speaker 11: What is she?
• 1:07:19
  Speaker 2: God damn. I'll just I'll just I'll just do this right,
• 1:07:22
  Speaker 2: I'm gonna just take I'm gonna just tell y'all. She
• 1:07:26
  Speaker 2: got a mouthful of gold teeth. I mean, I mean bullets,
• 1:07:29
  Speaker 2: I mean loaded, she got all the slugs. But she
• 1:07:35
  Speaker 2: from Florida. It doesn't matter. Okay, God damn Lord, have
• 1:07:41
  Speaker 2: mercy on ours. Okay, christ all right, man, well thank
• 1:07:47
  Speaker 2: you for that. Don't don't she's not black? All right? Well,
• 1:07:51
  Speaker 2: she's not black, She's white.
• 1:07:53
  Speaker 11: You know what she is.
• 1:07:53
  Speaker 2: I'm not saying that word.
• 1:07:55
  Speaker 3: No, I vowed to not say that word.
• 1:07:57
  Speaker 4: You've had a couple of times and you still say
• 1:07:58
  Speaker 4: that after right, people need the douts.
• 1:08:01
  Speaker 2: Let uncle ruck and set at work.
• 1:08:05
  Speaker 3: That's right, Okay, alright, I hate yild the breakfast Club.
• 1:08:15
  Speaker 2: I want to have everybody.
• 1:08:16
  Speaker 4: It's the d J M V Jess, Larry and the guy.
• 1:08:20
  Speaker 4: We are the breakfast Club.
• 1:08:21
  Speaker 2: We got a special guest in the belt because today
• 1:08:23
  Speaker 2: it's National co Parenting Day, so we had to bring
• 1:08:27
  Speaker 2: in a man who I feel like him and just
• 1:08:29
  Speaker 2: have one of the best co parenting relationships I've ever seen.
• 1:08:33
  Speaker 1: Rome is here, Room is here already call you, wow,
• 1:08:37
  Speaker 1: what happened? Just saying I want to know who gave
• 1:08:40
  Speaker 1: Room some liquor this morning?
• 1:08:42
  Speaker 2: And I was like, I didn't give it to him.
• 1:08:43
  Speaker 3: I just told them where the ball was. Help yourself,
• 1:08:46
  Speaker 3: help yourself, that's fine, And you said it was.
• 1:08:48
  Speaker 7: You said it was apple juice. That's I was about
• 1:08:51
  Speaker 7: to take a step.
• 1:08:51
  Speaker 1: And I was like, I was not you n one
• 1:08:53
  Speaker 1: apple juice. I just ain't thank you. Was gonna pick
• 1:08:55
  Speaker 1: the cup up you and just have the.
• 1:08:57
  Speaker 2: Best co parenting situation I've ever And how did y'all
• 1:09:00
  Speaker 2: get to this point?
• 1:09:01
  Speaker 3: And she thinks she's my mother first and foremost. But
• 1:09:04
  Speaker 3: it took time.
• 1:09:06
  Speaker 1: I felt like when you take the feelings out of it,
• 1:09:09
  Speaker 1: and you realize that the child is the most important
• 1:09:12
  Speaker 1: part of the relationship because it's still a readship. Whether
• 1:09:14
  Speaker 1: you're intimate or not. You can do magical things, magical things.
• 1:09:20
  Speaker 1: And I think that me being a dad that I
• 1:09:22
  Speaker 1: was and that I am still today, I wanted that.
• 1:09:25
  Speaker 1: I felt like if we wasn't gonna be together, it
• 1:09:27
  Speaker 1: was no need for us to beef. We've created over time.
• 1:09:31
  Speaker 1: Whereas now she's my best friend, She's my safe space.
• 1:09:34
  Speaker 1: I feel like, you know, I convent to her because
• 1:09:36
  Speaker 1: sometimes all the time I need it. But I feel
• 1:09:39
  Speaker 1: like when I was pouring into these other women, they
• 1:09:42
  Speaker 1: would use it against me.
• 1:09:43
  Speaker 2: Mm hmmm.
• 1:09:44
  Speaker 1: Whereas though now now that she's pregnant, I don't really
• 1:09:48
  Speaker 1: call her and say certain things because I know she's
• 1:09:50
  Speaker 1: gonna do certain things mentally now. So Jess is always
• 1:09:53
  Speaker 1: with my safe space though, so it's like she's always
• 1:09:55
  Speaker 1: been a person that I go to a call give
• 1:09:58
  Speaker 1: me advice, some advice I don't take, but just to hear,
• 1:10:01
  Speaker 1: but just to hear.
• 1:10:02
  Speaker 3: How give it to you, just to know that she
• 1:10:03
  Speaker 3: care because I don't really have nobody.
• 1:10:06
  Speaker 2: How did y'all, how did y'all meet how did you
• 1:10:07
  Speaker 2: meet Jess? And how did y'all start dating? Back then?
• 1:10:10
  Speaker 2: What did you see it? When it was like, oh,
• 1:10:11
  Speaker 2: this is this is somebody I want to know that.
• 1:10:13
  Speaker 1: It's crazy because we grew up on a smile. He's
• 1:10:14
  Speaker 1: starting to smile back because my mom, my mom was alive.
• 1:10:19
  Speaker 3: My mom died when I was tenth. My mom was alive.
• 1:10:21
  Speaker 3: We went to the same church. My mom died. My
• 1:10:23
  Speaker 3: father like really took me away from everybody.
• 1:10:26
  Speaker 1: So now it was like fast forward with like seventeen
• 1:10:30
  Speaker 1: Facebook and she came across my timeline and I was like, okay,
• 1:10:35
  Speaker 1: so I did a dot dot dot and I put
• 1:10:38
  Speaker 1: a basketball emoji.
• 1:10:40
  Speaker 2: You thought she was a way just shut up you
• 1:10:45
  Speaker 2: play with you?
• 1:10:46
  Speaker 3: She bid on it too, Okay.
• 1:10:48
  Speaker 1: I think I was like, I'm just coming to get
• 1:10:49
  Speaker 1: my ball, coming to get with mine something like that,
• 1:10:52
  Speaker 1: and you want a basketball room.
• 1:10:53
  Speaker 2: I need to know.
• 1:10:54
  Speaker 3: I've seen it somewhereball.
• 1:10:56
  Speaker 1: No, I seen somebody do that, Like, I don't know
• 1:10:58
  Speaker 1: what I seen it basketball.
• 1:11:02
  Speaker 2: Year twelve years ago.
• 1:11:05
  Speaker 1: So I'm like, I don't know I did it because
• 1:11:07
  Speaker 1: I thought it was it was corny, but I thought it.
• 1:11:09
  Speaker 3: Was you know, but it worked, It got attention. What
• 1:11:11
  Speaker 3: do you think just when you saw the basketball?
• 1:11:13
  Speaker 13: I just I said, what is this?
• 1:11:14
  Speaker 2: Okay?
• 1:11:15
  Speaker 7: I just typed that back and like he said, it
• 1:11:17
  Speaker 7: was my ball.
• 1:11:18
  Speaker 10: It's my ball and I'm coming to get I'm coming
• 1:11:21
  Speaker 10: to get it or something like I'm coming to get
• 1:11:23
  Speaker 10: was mine.
• 1:11:23
  Speaker 13: And I was like, okay, what I knew what I
• 1:11:26
  Speaker 13: was giving, what it was about it.
• 1:11:28
  Speaker 4: But it worked.
• 1:11:29
  Speaker 2: It worked.
• 1:11:30
  Speaker 1: So you started talking, where was your first date? What
• 1:11:32
  Speaker 1: was your first when you started first talking, what was
• 1:11:34
  Speaker 1: your honest? Man, Jasica did a lot. I'm gonna say
• 1:11:38
  Speaker 1: this before a lot of these young guys became Jody,
• 1:11:42
  Speaker 1: I was Jody.
• 1:11:45
  Speaker 3: And our first date, big date. I'm gonna say it
• 1:11:51
  Speaker 3: with six flags.
• 1:11:52
  Speaker 2: Okay, okay, all righting it big.
• 1:11:55
  Speaker 1: But before that we did a lot of other things.
• 1:11:57
  Speaker 1: But after that, it was we did a lot. She
• 1:12:00
  Speaker 1: introduced me to a lot. Actually we both was the
• 1:12:03
  Speaker 1: same age, but she helped make me become God, you're
• 1:12:06
  Speaker 1: becoming a man coming to man and then yeah, then boom.
• 1:12:10
  Speaker 1: I just always says that you are you were overprotective,
• 1:12:14
  Speaker 1: make sure she was good. But she always said, you
• 1:12:16
  Speaker 1: can't fight. Oh my god, No, she never seen me fight.
• 1:12:19
  Speaker 1: I never had we fought.
• 1:12:21
  Speaker 7: I got that from.
• 1:12:24
  Speaker 1: Of course, I'm not going to fight her. Bro Oh,
• 1:12:26
  Speaker 1: it's crazy because I just got a picture from the window.
• 1:12:30
  Speaker 1: You bust the minds How one window would I fist?
• 1:12:35
  Speaker 2: What happened?
• 1:12:36
  Speaker 1: You can't be her then if she could break a
• 1:12:37
  Speaker 1: window from a fish out when you're trying to fight,
• 1:12:39
  Speaker 1: what happened?
• 1:12:40
  Speaker 2: To take a sip thinking about that?
• 1:12:47
  Speaker 1: All right, my step like, Jessica, pull up, mind you
• 1:12:49
  Speaker 1: hate together? Jaska pulls up. I had a girl in
• 1:12:53
  Speaker 1: the house. So my brother like, come to the top
• 1:12:56
  Speaker 1: of the steps.
• 1:12:56
  Speaker 3: Like just at the door. I'm like, all right here,
• 1:12:58
  Speaker 3: I come, think it. Don't even wait for me to come.
• 1:13:01
  Speaker 2: He let her, He let her in.
• 1:13:02
  Speaker 1: Oh boy, I walked right past him and his friends.
• 1:13:05
  Speaker 2: With the girl.
• 1:13:07
  Speaker 3: That's a good end step.
• 1:13:10
  Speaker 1: But what did I see when I walked down the steps? Jerne,
• 1:13:12
  Speaker 1: you didn't see so and then she tries to fassage
• 1:13:14
  Speaker 1: this story. Ashton, I had a portable rocking bashing that
• 1:13:19
  Speaker 1: where I could put it in the trunk, send it
• 1:13:20
  Speaker 1: to her, bring it back. Ashton was in a portable
• 1:13:23
  Speaker 1: rocking drunk. Me and the girl was on the on
• 1:13:25
  Speaker 1: the bed. I had on basketball short, she had on
• 1:13:28
  Speaker 1: her uniform pants. She gonna say, she's been saying she
• 1:13:31
  Speaker 1: was the middle CEO correction she's a correctional officer. So
• 1:13:39
  Speaker 1: like she's sitting, she's facing me, but her legs is
• 1:13:41
  Speaker 1: like you know how that goes just to come down
• 1:13:43
  Speaker 1: and says she keeps she gonna say, oh, we was naked.
• 1:13:45
  Speaker 3: We was not naked. It had been happening. I don't
• 1:13:49
  Speaker 3: get naked.
• 1:13:49
  Speaker 1: And when she topped it up, Oh my gosh, she's
• 1:13:54
  Speaker 1: never gonna tells anyway she's banging the girl.
• 1:13:56
  Speaker 2: You beat up the girl.
• 1:13:57
  Speaker 3: She didn't beat up your bang. And I picked up
• 1:14:00
  Speaker 3: and walked up the stairs and through outside.
• 1:14:02
  Speaker 7: You could never lift me.
• 1:14:03
  Speaker 3: No, you never see what I'm saying.
• 1:14:05
  Speaker 1: She never wants to She never wants to admit the truth.
• 1:14:08
  Speaker 1: So on the field, couldn't fight.
• 1:14:09
  Speaker 3: No, I ain't no fight or not.
• 1:14:12
  Speaker 10: But she the one time and then she got there,
• 1:14:15
  Speaker 10: she put on her uniform and went and left, went upstairs.
• 1:14:19
  Speaker 3: I promised you, I.
• 1:14:20
  Speaker 9: Wish it was the cat fighting that that.
• 1:14:23
  Speaker 7: No, my son was not in no portable nothing.
• 1:14:26
  Speaker 10: He was on the floor on a blanket and the
• 1:14:28
  Speaker 10: cat was looking at him like he wanted to eat him.
• 1:14:31
  Speaker 2: Yes, it was.
• 1:14:35
  Speaker 3: Under the carpet.
• 1:14:36
  Speaker 1: So I will never lay my I wouldn't even lay
• 1:14:38
  Speaker 1: on the flooring about this. Eleven tell you she was
• 1:14:43
  Speaker 1: drunk out of her mind, and I'm trying to figure
• 1:14:44
  Speaker 1: out who was just getting off the work. You didn't,
• 1:14:49
  Speaker 1: damn you did not just get off where he was
• 1:14:51
  Speaker 1: fired at that time. So I got fired right after that.
• 1:14:54
  Speaker 1: I was working at McDonald's. That's when I was stealing.
• 1:14:58
  Speaker 1: This is much love.
• 1:15:00
  Speaker 10: And if I was drinking, okay, I was drinking on
• 1:15:02
  Speaker 10: the job, but I was at work. So and then
• 1:15:04
  Speaker 10: I came to get my son.
• 1:15:05
  Speaker 1: And yeah, it did not come get your son because
• 1:15:07
  Speaker 1: it was my weekend. So I again until Monday from
• 1:15:10
  Speaker 1: day kid, why would you come me?
• 1:15:11
  Speaker 2: Now?
• 1:15:11
  Speaker 1: He was coming to be nosy.
• 1:15:13
  Speaker 3: I didn't have to come to me. You was looking
• 1:15:15
  Speaker 3: for a passinger with her?
• 1:15:16
  Speaker 2: If you.
• 1:15:18
  Speaker 1: She because go home.
• 1:15:23
  Speaker 3: Eleven years years old, man, that's my how did you
• 1:15:27
  Speaker 3: break the wind hand?
• 1:15:29
  Speaker 2: You walked out?
• 1:15:30
  Speaker 3: No, I threw ass out, not that she was not
• 1:15:35
  Speaker 3: that strong.
• 1:15:36
  Speaker 2: You did not.
• 1:15:36
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I had you and it was steps.
• 1:15:41
  Speaker 2: Right there.
• 1:15:42
  Speaker 9: Could never ever eaten right now, could not do that
• 1:15:44
  Speaker 9: at the window.
• 1:15:45
  Speaker 3: I was just really really because he wouldn't.
• 1:15:48
  Speaker 7: Give me my son. Won't give me my son.
• 1:15:50
  Speaker 4: You called the police and call the police, Call the police.
• 1:15:53
  Speaker 2: Never called the police.
• 1:15:55
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I didn't call the police.
• 1:15:57
  Speaker 14: Jack pause.
• 1:16:00
  Speaker 3: I said, every everybody here is well, I'm from the jail.
• 1:16:04
  Speaker 2: Is right there, right around the corner. You can walk.
• 1:16:06
  Speaker 3: It's the commotion they walked. I don't know how they came.
• 1:16:10
  Speaker 10: He called the police on me and then going, and
• 1:16:12
  Speaker 10: then when the police came, I was I just sat
• 1:16:15
  Speaker 10: in my car.
• 1:16:16
  Speaker 9: I was mad.
• 1:16:16
  Speaker 10: I was like, no, I can't move here to get
• 1:16:17
  Speaker 10: my son. And Nicole did tell me your come on
• 1:16:19
  Speaker 10: this pull off. He's not giving you the baby. He'd
• 1:16:21
  Speaker 10: not giveing you the baby. I was like, all right, cool,
• 1:16:23
  Speaker 10: but I was mad, so I didn't pull off. Police
• 1:16:25
  Speaker 10: paddy wagon pulled up and got out, and you was like,
• 1:16:29
  Speaker 10: she right there.
• 1:16:30
  Speaker 6: She.
• 1:16:35
  Speaker 11: Was I trying to get you.
• 1:16:36
  Speaker 1: How did I try to get you locked up? When
• 1:16:37
  Speaker 1: I'm the same one call trying to bail you out
• 1:16:40
  Speaker 1: with no money. I don't know why you ever thought
• 1:16:42
  Speaker 1: you could buil somebody out with mine. I ain't sleep
• 1:16:44
  Speaker 1: that night out. You have a bit you ever went
• 1:16:48
  Speaker 1: through a woman phone of course, could you eat after that?
• 1:16:52
  Speaker 3: Yes, you could?
• 1:16:53
  Speaker 1: Well I couldn't. I'm comparing that to you when she
• 1:16:55
  Speaker 1: went to jail. I couldn't eat, I couldn't sleep, you know,
• 1:16:58
  Speaker 1: and sick. I didn't want the police.
• 1:17:03
  Speaker 2: We got more with Rome.
• 1:17:05
  Speaker 1: If you don't know who Rome is, of course, that's
• 1:17:07
  Speaker 1: just hilarious baby daddy. And today is National co Parenting
• 1:17:12
  Speaker 1: Day and we're having a conversation with Rome.
• 1:17:13
  Speaker 2: So don't go anywhere. It's to breakfast TLUB.
• 1:17:15
  Speaker 4: Good morning morning everybody.
• 1:17:16
  Speaker 1: It's the j Envy Jess Hilarious Charlamage, the guy we
• 1:17:20
  Speaker 1: are the Breakfast Club is still kicking it with Rome.
• 1:17:22
  Speaker 2: That is Justic's baby daddy.
• 1:17:24
  Speaker 1: Today is National co Parenting Day, and they are excellent
• 1:17:28
  Speaker 1: co parents and we're having a great conversation Charlamage.
• 1:17:30
  Speaker 2: So now when you hear this story and you say
• 1:17:33
  Speaker 2: to yourself, why they there on National co parent Day?
• 1:17:36
  Speaker 2: Because they are like the best of friends. Now they
• 1:17:38
  Speaker 2: call each other. Jess calls you her brother. How do
• 1:17:40
  Speaker 2: you feel about that?
• 1:17:42
  Speaker 1: How did y'all get there?
• 1:17:43
  Speaker 2: Do you look at her like your sister? You said, Mama,
• 1:17:46
  Speaker 2: I was gonna say what she said?
• 1:17:47
  Speaker 4: Created that like my mother?
• 1:17:49
  Speaker 3: Like when we are the town.
• 1:17:51
  Speaker 1: Now I'm gonna disclose too much, but thank you. No,
• 1:17:55
  Speaker 1: I just know control like you know how I am though,
• 1:17:58
  Speaker 1: like me and alone. I think part of that controlling
• 1:18:01
  Speaker 1: part is like cares and sometimes especially when I'm under
• 1:18:05
  Speaker 1: the influence, I've done dumbash so as.
• 1:18:10
  Speaker 2: Big as you know that you I don't know, just
• 1:18:13
  Speaker 2: assist in the back.
• 1:18:15
  Speaker 3: Everybody like you know, everybody knows.
• 1:18:17
  Speaker 1: But I hold myself accountable to that mind you Now,
• 1:18:19
  Speaker 1: I ain't gonna say you I learned for one of six,
• 1:18:20
  Speaker 1: so I don did a dumbash over and over again.
• 1:18:23
  Speaker 3: But I think in that aspect, that's.
• 1:18:25
  Speaker 1: When the mother of the mother with the v coming,
• 1:18:28
  Speaker 1: but the brother calling me brother and sister, we're like,
• 1:18:31
  Speaker 1: honestly without the child likes there, it's just seem like
• 1:18:35
  Speaker 1: Amazon cameras off, like you can't fake this, will make
• 1:18:38
  Speaker 1: this up?
• 1:18:38
  Speaker 10: Oh yeah, Rome started that room, started calling me sis first,
• 1:18:42
  Speaker 10: and then I started calling him bro. I you know,
• 1:18:45
  Speaker 10: I'm like, yeah, we do have like a sibling dynamic
• 1:18:47
  Speaker 10: in some way. You know, he's still confides in my mom.
• 1:18:51
  Speaker 10: He like my mom is our mother. Like it's not
• 1:18:55
  Speaker 10: it ain't nothing crazy, it's nothing intimate like, seriously, I
• 1:18:58
  Speaker 10: always say this.
• 1:18:58
  Speaker 7: People be like, yeah right, I can literally walk past and.
• 1:19:03
  Speaker 2: I don't do this.
• 1:19:03
  Speaker 7: But what I'm saying, I can walk past this man
• 1:19:05
  Speaker 7: NIGGD and he does. They be like, girl, what like
• 1:19:07
  Speaker 7: put that out? I'm talking about seriously, like how do y'all.
• 1:19:10
  Speaker 1: Know each other's spouses or each other's boyfriend and girlfriend?
• 1:19:13
  Speaker 1: Like how do you deal with his girl? And how
• 1:19:15
  Speaker 1: do you deal with.
• 1:19:19
  Speaker 2: Five?
• 1:19:20
  Speaker 1: I never told you, always tried. It's cool, though it's cool,
• 1:19:27
  Speaker 1: but this is and now this is the friction part.
• 1:19:30
  Speaker 2: Now we got over that.
• 1:19:30
  Speaker 1: But just the the friction part was I mo, my bendess,
• 1:19:32
  Speaker 1: don't getting her. But the friction part was her getting
• 1:19:36
  Speaker 1: into minds. But she's still a woman. I'm still a man.
• 1:19:40
  Speaker 3: So women tend to do that.
• 1:19:41
  Speaker 1: And this is not no shame of women. I don't
• 1:19:43
  Speaker 1: mean no disrespect by saying it, but I think women
• 1:19:46
  Speaker 1: tend to do that, especially a woman that care about you.
• 1:19:49
  Speaker 1: She said, sometimes you make bad decisions and she's there
• 1:19:52
  Speaker 1: as your sister to make sure you're good, regardless if
• 1:19:54
  Speaker 1: it's life relationship or whatever. Correct she said that with
• 1:19:58
  Speaker 1: me personally, I never really like I talked to her
• 1:20:01
  Speaker 1: about certain things, but I never really liked my family
• 1:20:03
  Speaker 1: to get into no intimate situation. Yeah, because guess what,
• 1:20:07
  Speaker 1: y'all feel a way about this person. However, y'all want
• 1:20:10
  Speaker 1: whether it's negative or good. If I'm gonna deal with
• 1:20:12
  Speaker 1: this person, I'm gonna deal with them like the female
• 1:20:14
  Speaker 1: can smash it out me yesterday.
• 1:20:17
  Speaker 2: Mm hmmm.
• 1:20:18
  Speaker 1: I might get over them. But it's like that's why
• 1:20:22
  Speaker 1: I always That's how I was always able to distinguish
• 1:20:25
  Speaker 1: the two. Like when Jessica with hef men, when she
• 1:20:27
  Speaker 1: come to me like, I don't know, like I ain't
• 1:20:29
  Speaker 1: never pillow talking or sneak dish or nothing like I
• 1:20:32
  Speaker 1: don't really care for like it ain't nothing to have
• 1:20:34
  Speaker 1: that I don't if you put it in that sense.
• 1:20:36
  Speaker 1: But when she comes to me with a man, I
• 1:20:38
  Speaker 1: tell her ain't right. But both of y'all got to
• 1:20:40
  Speaker 1: care though, because you gonna want to know who around
• 1:20:42
  Speaker 1: your son. I never did though, Yeah, I never so
• 1:20:45
  Speaker 1: in the beginning stage, Yeah, don't have this summer.
• 1:20:47
  Speaker 3: But I grew out of that. So now it's I
• 1:20:50
  Speaker 3: trust my child mom enough to.
• 1:20:51
  Speaker 1: She won't bring no fast around my child, So I
• 1:20:54
  Speaker 1: don't say, oh, don't have this that's never been a problem.
• 1:20:57
  Speaker 1: It has been a problem was because envy me except
• 1:21:01
  Speaker 1: for my last dog.
• 1:21:04
  Speaker 3: Yeah, my dogs who dog? My dog, Chris, Chris, Chris
• 1:21:09
  Speaker 3: my dog. I ain't gonna hold he.
• 1:21:10
  Speaker 1: I think he's the I think like honestly, me and
• 1:21:13
  Speaker 1: jess Man like, I think it's been times where a
• 1:21:15
  Speaker 1: woman didn't like me and her situation.
• 1:21:18
  Speaker 10: But guess what, bye, yeah more so on and yeah
• 1:21:22
  Speaker 10: it'll be more so on his end because it's much
• 1:21:24
  Speaker 10: more of them. But the thing is, yeah, the thing
• 1:21:29
  Speaker 10: is like I don't like when because I even tell
• 1:21:33
  Speaker 10: him what he's doing wrong too, Like, yo, don't cheer
• 1:21:35
  Speaker 10: her like that.
• 1:21:36
  Speaker 7: This is how how how you going to introduce me
• 1:21:38
  Speaker 7: to it?
• 1:21:39
  Speaker 2: Now?
• 1:21:39
  Speaker 10: Now I done got to know where you know, and
• 1:21:42
  Speaker 10: whether she had a kid or not. Most of the
• 1:21:43
  Speaker 10: time it's the ones that have the kids. But it's like, yo,
• 1:21:46
  Speaker 10: you gotta do right or just be single, Like, don't
• 1:21:50
  Speaker 10: keep hurting women in the process of trying to find
• 1:21:54
  Speaker 10: what you're looking for. I mean, I know that's all
• 1:21:55
  Speaker 10: a part of dating, but when you have kids, it's different,
• 1:21:58
  Speaker 10: you know, And then here.
• 1:22:00
  Speaker 7: Be like, oh that's why I don't like you to
• 1:22:02
  Speaker 7: be getting into it.
• 1:22:03
  Speaker 10: You know, and then I don't like he he attracts
• 1:22:05
  Speaker 10: a lot of toxic women to like abusive relationships where
• 1:22:09
  Speaker 10: women will put their hands on them. I'm like, what, yeah,
• 1:22:11
  Speaker 10: all right, you know, but he don't. He's like, no,
• 1:22:15
  Speaker 10: but I might be with them. All what she just
• 1:22:18
  Speaker 10: black your eye? What are you talking about? You know
• 1:22:19
  Speaker 10: what I'm saying, like, no, we're not doing it.
• 1:22:21
  Speaker 3: But Claire, I never had a black guy.
• 1:22:23
  Speaker 10: Okay, well she busts your nose whatever. Women have put
• 1:22:27
  Speaker 10: their hands on you, and that's.
• 1:22:30
  Speaker 1: Why, and that's why she's my dog. Like I think
• 1:22:32
  Speaker 1: she's the only one really honestly, the one to get
• 1:22:35
  Speaker 1: the under my skin, Like it's a certain wordplace she
• 1:22:38
  Speaker 1: used and I don't care what tone she used it in,
• 1:22:41
  Speaker 1: but to say that, it's like I was really never
• 1:22:44
  Speaker 1: told how to love. When I moved my dad, my
• 1:22:47
  Speaker 1: dad move my dad and my step mom, which is
• 1:22:49
  Speaker 1: my mom. Now me and my mom have a great relationship.
• 1:22:51
  Speaker 1: That's my step mom and my dad was married, but
• 1:22:55
  Speaker 1: my dad was cheating, like saying, like my dad, my
• 1:23:00
  Speaker 1: dad showing me that, right, I'm thinking cool, So like
• 1:23:05
  Speaker 1: when even when I started dealing with women and stuff
• 1:23:08
  Speaker 1: like that, multiple women and all that. My dad was like, yeah, absolutely,
• 1:23:13
  Speaker 1: and I'm thinking it's cool because that's that's what That's
• 1:23:16
  Speaker 1: what I'm saying. I'm being taught like and every man
• 1:23:18
  Speaker 1: in my life that I looked at as a role
• 1:23:21
  Speaker 1: model to me was the same way.
• 1:23:23
  Speaker 3: So it's like what you expect.
• 1:23:26
  Speaker 1: But the good thing is now it's like I'm old
• 1:23:28
  Speaker 1: enough now in mind you I ain't perfect. Now I'm
• 1:23:31
  Speaker 1: seeing it. I'm trying to, you know, change it. But
• 1:23:34
  Speaker 1: I've never was taught to love properly. So and I
• 1:23:37
  Speaker 1: never my trust issues up from my dad because I'm
• 1:23:40
  Speaker 1: seeing what he's doing, but I'm saying when it's done
• 1:23:42
  Speaker 1: to him, his reactions like, damn, you were just doing this,
• 1:23:46
  Speaker 1: how you're gonna get mad? Right, So it's like every
• 1:23:50
  Speaker 1: relationship I've went into, I had an exploration date me,
• 1:23:53
  Speaker 1: I put an xtray on myself. I say, she's gonna
• 1:23:55
  Speaker 1: get she gonna get get what I'm getting.
• 1:23:56
  Speaker 2: I'm gone.
• 1:23:57
  Speaker 1: So I never really gave a woman the up commitment,
• 1:24:02
  Speaker 1: not even commitment, but I've never give the woman a
• 1:24:04
  Speaker 1: chance to.
• 1:24:04
  Speaker 3: Really love me.
• 1:24:05
  Speaker 2: But even with the kids, like even having kids, No,
• 1:24:07
  Speaker 2: I haven't.
• 1:24:08
  Speaker 1: And this is like I said, no distract to my
• 1:24:10
  Speaker 1: children moms. A lot of my my children came out
• 1:24:13
  Speaker 1: of vulnerability, explain and explaining that. So I will meet
• 1:24:18
  Speaker 1: a woman who I may feel like she's what I need,
• 1:24:21
  Speaker 1: another safe place, or whatever the case may be, but
• 1:24:23
  Speaker 1: I'm already vulnerable from a previous relationship. I have a child,
• 1:24:27
  Speaker 1: knowing I don't want to be with this woman, but
• 1:24:29
  Speaker 1: I feel like I'm forced to be with it because
• 1:24:31
  Speaker 1: it's a child.
• 1:24:32
  Speaker 3: M And I've done that.
• 1:24:35
  Speaker 2: You know multiple times times you needed a therapist, not
• 1:24:38
  Speaker 2: another baby, Mama.
• 1:24:39
  Speaker 3: I need correct they.
• 1:24:41
  Speaker 1: At the time of need at the time and vulnerability.
• 1:24:44
  Speaker 1: You know women, You know when women can, they be
• 1:24:47
  Speaker 1: masked up. But like I never really knew how to
• 1:24:49
  Speaker 1: be alone. Like I feel like I got to have
• 1:24:52
  Speaker 1: somebody laying next to me because even before my mom died,
• 1:24:55
  Speaker 1: my mom always sleep neked.
• 1:24:57
  Speaker 3: This is a back then thing. How old were you,
• 1:25:00
  Speaker 3: I was telling? But I was a mommy's boy.
• 1:25:01
  Speaker 2: Did you ever did you ever really properly so grieving? No?
• 1:25:07
  Speaker 3: I never really agrieved.
• 1:25:08
  Speaker 1: All I did was I thought it was gonna help
• 1:25:09
  Speaker 1: me by going to school for social work, because that's
• 1:25:12
  Speaker 1: what she was.
• 1:25:13
  Speaker 3: But I never really probably a grieved, and that's a
• 1:25:15
  Speaker 3: that's a process.
• 1:25:16
  Speaker 2: Now.
• 1:25:16
  Speaker 3: I do want to get, you know, back in the gym.
• 1:25:18
  Speaker 1: I do want to get a therapist, but don't want
• 1:25:19
  Speaker 1: everything else around me to be in text so that
• 1:25:22
  Speaker 1: I could fully commit, because if I ain't fully committed,
• 1:25:25
  Speaker 1: it ain't gonna work.
• 1:25:26
  Speaker 4: All right, We got more with Rome.
• 1:25:28
  Speaker 1: If you don't know who Rome is, of course, that's
• 1:25:30
  Speaker 1: just hilarious is baby daddy. And today is National co
• 1:25:34
  Speaker 1: Parenting Day, and we're having a conversation with Rome. So
• 1:25:36
  Speaker 1: don't go anywhere as to Breakfast Club.
• 1:25:38
  Speaker 2: Good morning, the Breakfast Club.
• 1:25:42
  Speaker 9: Wanting everybody.
• 1:25:43
  Speaker 1: It's dj NV just hilarious, Charlamage, the guy we are
• 1:25:47
  Speaker 1: the breakfast Club is still kitchen with Rome.
• 1:25:49
  Speaker 2: That is Justic's baby daddy.
• 1:25:51
  Speaker 1: Today is National co Parenting Day, and they are excellent
• 1:25:55
  Speaker 1: co parentings and we're having a great conversation, Charlamagne.
• 1:25:57
  Speaker 2: How did y'all that's the most thing, most I won't
• 1:26:00
  Speaker 2: say most important, one of the most important things. How
• 1:26:02
  Speaker 2: did y'all realize we don't have feelings for each other?
• 1:26:04
  Speaker 1: No?
• 1:26:05
  Speaker 2: More like? How did that just go away? Like y'all
• 1:26:07
  Speaker 2: have y'all love each other, but not in that way.
• 1:26:10
  Speaker 3: I got my answer, you want to go first, you
• 1:26:12
  Speaker 3: can go first.
• 1:26:13
  Speaker 13: Because I'm still thinking.
• 1:26:13
  Speaker 1: When I stopped caring about who she dealt with, when
• 1:26:17
  Speaker 1: I wouldn't even like I wouldn't even care, Like, how.
• 1:26:21
  Speaker 3: Did that take three years? Or like my action was
• 1:26:24
  Speaker 3: like three still?
• 1:26:26
  Speaker 1: Really yeah, it was like three years, but at that
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  Speaker 1: but honestly that three years, like I had caught a
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  Speaker 1: big check.
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  Speaker 3: So it's like, you know, I was almost half a
• 1:26:35
  Speaker 3: million dollars, So it was like the pain that I had.
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  Speaker 3: Whatever the case, I would I would pay. I would
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  Speaker 3: like just bout block it out.
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  Speaker 2: But other than that, like you ain't trying to stunt
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  Speaker 2: on her a little bit?
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  Speaker 3: No, I never, no, I never, no, I never. I'm
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  Speaker 3: waiting for that.
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  Speaker 1: I never intentionally stunned on her. I never did that.
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  Speaker 2: Never.
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  Speaker 1: I did everything she possibly could ask me to dig.
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  Speaker 1: She said on a uh one of these souls something
• 1:27:02
  Speaker 1: about a B G. E bill, And I'm address that.
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  Speaker 1: I never one ded.
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  Speaker 3: I'm addressed that now with the bill. So I'm explaining
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  Speaker 3: her lights got cut off.
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  Speaker 2: I got a five hundred thousand dollars checking listen, No.
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  Speaker 1: It wasn't right then and there. It's over time, mind
• 1:27:19
  Speaker 1: you because like mind a lot of my place.
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  Speaker 2: She helped me.
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  Speaker 3: She helped me get a lot on the back man.
• 1:27:24
  Speaker 3: But in a time like I helped her. Whatever the case,
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  Speaker 3: I didn't know she was moving with a man.
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  Speaker 7: I didn't move with the man.
• 1:27:30
  Speaker 3: Well she moved man in with her. Yeah all right, okay,
• 1:27:33
  Speaker 3: after he had you and the.
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  Speaker 9: Doctor too, now.
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  Speaker 1: Before in her business. So I don't know that he's
• 1:27:39
  Speaker 1: not there. So boom, here's his So his's his. Here's
• 1:27:42
  Speaker 1: my logic, and I'm gonna say what I'm gonna say
• 1:27:45
  Speaker 1: to her after I explain it. My logic was, all right,
• 1:27:48
  Speaker 1: man is in the house. Boom, eg cut off. So
• 1:27:52
  Speaker 1: she like wrong, I'm like, well, I take my son
• 1:27:54
  Speaker 1: with me. But that wasn't me talking.
• 1:27:56
  Speaker 2: That was the.
• 1:27:57
  Speaker 3: Girlfriend I had talking.
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  Speaker 13: Oh, you ain't tell me that.
• 1:28:00
  Speaker 1: I never told you that because as a woman, you
• 1:28:01
  Speaker 1: ain't trying to hear that, and I as well as
• 1:28:03
  Speaker 1: a man, and you be and me, I don't want
• 1:28:05
  Speaker 1: to hear that.
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  Speaker 3: So I didn't want to tell you that because I
• 1:28:08
  Speaker 3: have felt less of a man.
• 1:28:10
  Speaker 1: So yeah, but now I understand that if somebody else
• 1:28:14
  Speaker 1: is smacking the cheeks, listen. So the girlfriend was living
• 1:28:17
  Speaker 1: in the house. So the girlfriend was like, don't talk
• 1:28:19
  Speaker 1: about no house ahead. So the girlfriend was like, I
• 1:28:25
  Speaker 1: took a certain amount of money out the bank.
• 1:28:26
  Speaker 2: I did.
• 1:28:27
  Speaker 1: She was with me, She like, why are you giving
• 1:28:30
  Speaker 1: it to Jessica. I'm like, cause she needed and she like,
• 1:28:34
  Speaker 1: I never said them here. I never said the reason.
• 1:28:37
  Speaker 1: I never said the reason. Yeah, yeah, I never said
• 1:28:40
  Speaker 1: the reason though. She was like, what ex thatly do
• 1:28:43
  Speaker 1: she needs? Because I know you ain't giving her. No,
• 1:28:45
  Speaker 1: she don't need a bag or nothing like that. I'm like, no,
• 1:28:47
  Speaker 1: it's something else. She like, well, don't she got to
• 1:28:50
  Speaker 1: living with her? And mind you, I'm drinking at the time,
• 1:28:53
  Speaker 1: you're thinking the same thing.
• 1:28:54
  Speaker 7: I'm like, you wasn't even thinking that till she said it.
• 1:28:57
  Speaker 1: I wasn't thinking that. But I'm drinking and I'm like, no,
• 1:28:59
  Speaker 1: what You're right?
• 1:29:01
  Speaker 2: Why you ain't that? Just though crazy.
• 1:29:04
  Speaker 1: Because I was a young emotional boy boy.
• 1:29:06
  Speaker 13: It just ran into a bunch of money and with that, hurt,
• 1:29:12
  Speaker 13: hurt young.
• 1:29:12
  Speaker 1: Man got a lot of money. Everybody me over, I
• 1:29:14
  Speaker 1: got some money. I'm doing make myself happy, and that's.
• 1:29:18
  Speaker 9: How we broke everybody except me.
• 1:29:24
  Speaker 1: That was what I was like, and granted, right, now
• 1:29:27
  Speaker 1: on today, I'm gonna say I truly, sincerely apologized for
• 1:29:32
  Speaker 1: not taking care of you the way I should have.
• 1:29:36
  Speaker 1: And I'm gonna take my glasses because for a long
• 1:29:39
  Speaker 1: time that hurt me. And it's like I never ever, ever,
• 1:29:45
  Speaker 1: especially I never ever, ever ever meant to do that
• 1:29:48
  Speaker 1: to you. And it's like, now that's why I even
• 1:29:50
  Speaker 1: I work so hard today and just try to even
• 1:29:54
  Speaker 1: just give you something, But in due time that's you
• 1:29:58
  Speaker 1: come back. I ain't, you know I didn't. I made
• 1:30:00
  Speaker 1: that back when broke again, made it back when broke again.
• 1:30:02
  Speaker 1: But my biggest downfall, the comments denominated, was alcohol and women.
• 1:30:06
  Speaker 1: Them two problems never allowed me to really reach my
• 1:30:09
  Speaker 1: full potential, even when I seen a couple of years ago.
• 1:30:12
  Speaker 1: You've seen it twenty nineteen when I was single. When
• 1:30:15
  Speaker 1: I went moved back by myself, I ran flourished. But
• 1:30:20
  Speaker 1: if women holding me back. I'm sorry that I didn't
• 1:30:24
  Speaker 1: do what I was supposed to do. And a lot
• 1:30:26
  Speaker 1: of money I was in your job, the one you dunk.
• 1:30:28
  Speaker 1: I felt that that was my duty. But because I
• 1:30:30
  Speaker 1: had certain people in my in my ear that I
• 1:30:32
  Speaker 1: thought had their best interest in me. But when the
• 1:30:34
  Speaker 1: bag ran out, they left. Yeah, I'm sorry. I'm not
• 1:30:38
  Speaker 1: a sorry person.
• 1:30:39
  Speaker 7: I apologize, Okay, I appreciate that, But listen, I was not.
• 1:30:45
  Speaker 7: I was talking to you.
• 1:30:46
  Speaker 10: And he moved in months after. You think he was
• 1:30:49
  Speaker 10: gonna move into a dark house? You ain't got you
• 1:30:51
  Speaker 10: got one. See how I was living. No, And when
• 1:30:54
  Speaker 10: you said, I asked you, like, yo, can you just
• 1:30:56
  Speaker 10: get my my lights on? I'll pay you back, That's
• 1:30:59
  Speaker 10: when I was scamming in on all that shit. That
• 1:31:00
  Speaker 10: got slow too, So I'm like, all right, you was like, no,
• 1:31:03
  Speaker 10: I take my son. Nobody taking my kid, not even
• 1:31:05
  Speaker 10: as far Like, as long as Asha was instead of
• 1:31:08
  Speaker 10: the dark, we was good, you know.
• 1:31:10
  Speaker 13: What I'm saying.
• 1:31:10
  Speaker 9: Like I still had candles, we was playing, We was
• 1:31:12
  Speaker 9: doing all that.
• 1:31:13
  Speaker 10: We would stay outside that turned until it went until
• 1:31:16
  Speaker 10: it got dark, and then we were going the house.
• 1:31:18
  Speaker 7: And he ain't never asked me why the lights ain't
• 1:31:21
  Speaker 7: coming on.
• 1:31:21
  Speaker 9: It don't matter.
• 1:31:22
  Speaker 10: So as long as he was good, I was good.
• 1:31:23
  Speaker 10: I just wanted to be able, you know what I'm saying,
• 1:31:26
  Speaker 10: and just be like.
• 1:31:27
  Speaker 3: Yo, get life should have and you should have. Well
• 1:31:30
  Speaker 3: guess what that made you? A demon? And when I
• 1:31:32
  Speaker 3: say demon, I said in the best way.
• 1:31:34
  Speaker 2: That turned you up.
• 1:31:35
  Speaker 1: And I got to teach my kids, especially my oldest boy,
• 1:31:38
  Speaker 1: might leve me you old bro, like, I don't want
• 1:31:39
  Speaker 1: you to go through something bad and learn a lesson.
• 1:31:42
  Speaker 1: I don't think everybody should have to go through something
• 1:31:43
  Speaker 1: bad and not a lesson. But in your case, I
• 1:31:47
  Speaker 1: feel like, yeah, that put that battery in your back.
• 1:31:51
  Speaker 1: And know when that battery came in your back, you
• 1:31:53
  Speaker 1: ain't it ain't treat me no way. It took still
• 1:31:56
  Speaker 1: a minute for us to create that bond, but.
• 1:32:00
  Speaker 2: Y'all have it now, and I think y'all most give
• 1:32:01
  Speaker 2: each other some great because y'all yeah, and.
• 1:32:05
  Speaker 1: I always was a hurt young man, so right, but
• 1:32:07
  Speaker 1: I love this story. It showed the foundation and how
• 1:32:10
  Speaker 1: you now and how you'll treat each other now. You know,
• 1:32:13
  Speaker 1: I don't know you, but the way she talks about
• 1:32:15
  Speaker 1: you on the radio, and and like you said, she
• 1:32:17
  Speaker 1: is a mother, She protects you, she holds you down.
• 1:32:19
  Speaker 2: I just love to see it. Yeah. No, sometimes I'll
• 1:32:22
  Speaker 2: be telling U stuff, talking about room like that. He
• 1:32:23
  Speaker 2: always did, like why you be talking about But I
• 1:32:27
  Speaker 2: get it.
• 1:32:28
  Speaker 3: She don't mean no harm. But she don't, like I said,
• 1:32:30
  Speaker 3: man like I wish a lot of other people take
• 1:32:33
  Speaker 3: from us. And that's why she got to be on TV.
• 1:32:36
  Speaker 2: That's why y'are writing a book.
• 1:32:38
  Speaker 3: Book Coming Everything, Book, Coming Everything, Coming.
• 1:32:42
  Speaker 2: Think the most important thing, because I don't want you
• 1:32:44
  Speaker 2: to save a lot of this, but what's the most
• 1:32:45
  Speaker 2: important thing. It takes the cold parents. Y'all just leave
• 1:32:49
  Speaker 2: leaving on that because the National co Parenting Day.
• 1:32:51
  Speaker 10: After I started up communication, like a lot of people
• 1:32:55
  Speaker 10: be scared to hurt each other feelings, and a lot
• 1:32:58
  Speaker 10: of people be afraid to have uncomfortable conversations, whether it's
• 1:33:01
  Speaker 10: about kids, unhashed differences whatever. Like one day, me and
• 1:33:07
  Speaker 10: Rome just literally met up and just we just talked
• 1:33:10
  Speaker 10: about everything that you know, he felt like I did
• 1:33:13
  Speaker 10: him wrong in certain situations, and then he felt like
• 1:33:15
  Speaker 10: like I will always try because he says, I'm controlling
• 1:33:18
  Speaker 10: a lot, and I do take that. You know what
• 1:33:20
  Speaker 10: I'm saying, Yeah, I own that idea, like I was
• 1:33:23
  Speaker 10: trying to control how he parents sometimes, like how he.
• 1:33:26
  Speaker 9: Would raise Ash and all of that type of stuff.
• 1:33:29
  Speaker 10: We just put everything on the table and just just
• 1:33:32
  Speaker 10: was like, all right, you're moving forward because it's really
• 1:33:34
  Speaker 10: about Ash.
• 1:33:35
  Speaker 7: And that's really like when we after.
• 1:33:39
  Speaker 13: That, it was like no looking back, It's like, all right, whatever, cool.
• 1:33:42
  Speaker 2: I'm sure it's a discussion that will continue on not
• 1:33:44
  Speaker 2: even just the monkst you know, just in Rome, but
• 1:33:46
  Speaker 2: it's a month anybody out there. You're dealing with corpor
• 1:33:48
  Speaker 2: aking issue. But I think Rome, you know, Rome is
• 1:33:50
  Speaker 2: talking to a lot of different issues that a lot
• 1:33:52
  Speaker 2: of us men go through, you know what I mean.
• 1:33:54
  Speaker 2: So I'm happy that you was vulnerable this morning, That's right,
• 1:33:57
  Speaker 2: you know what I mean. And their book is coming
• 1:34:00
  Speaker 2: soon be a black privilege publisher. Simon Shoes.
• 1:34:03
  Speaker 3: All right, well it's wrong.
• 1:34:05
  Speaker 2: Yes, it's the Breakfast Club the Morning Yeah, I can
• 1:34:07
  Speaker 2: well go dangerous Morning Shore the Breakfast Club, Charlamagne Tha God. Here,
• 1:34:09
  Speaker 2: I just want to tell all of y'all happy New
• 1:34:11
  Speaker 2: Year man, and made this new year all your dreams
• 1:34:14
  Speaker 2: turned into reality and made all your efforts turn into
• 1:34:17
  Speaker 2: great achievements. Man. Salute, see y'all in the week.
• 1:34:20
  Speaker 4: Breakfast Club bitches, you don't finish for y'all.
• 1:34:22
  Speaker 2: Done,