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Meet Kirsty & Jess · Can We Actually Talk About this?

• 0:08
  SPEAKER_01: Hey everyone and welcome to Can we actually talk about this?
• 0:12
  SPEAKER_01: I'm buzzing.
• 0:14
  SPEAKER_01: This is our brand new podcast.
• 0:16
  SPEAKER_01: Are you ready for it?
• 0:17
  SPEAKER_00: I'm I think this is gonna be good because I love an opinion.
• 0:21
  SPEAKER_00: Very true.
• 0:22
  SPEAKER_00: Love an opinion.
• 0:23
  SPEAKER_00: So I think this is a great place for us to talk about the things that people won't let us talk about.
• 0:28
  SPEAKER_01: And give our opinions.
• 0:29
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, give our opinions.
• 0:31
  SPEAKER_00: And if you want to listen, great.
• 0:32
  SPEAKER_00: And if you don't, that's okay as well.
• 0:34
  SPEAKER_00: That is absolutely fine.
• 0:35
  SPEAKER_01: I think it's great.
• 0:36
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, it's gonna be good.
• 0:37
  SPEAKER_01: So in today's episode, we're gonna kind of be chatting about us and yeah, before we get into the juicy part, let's cover the basics because they don't know us.
• 0:48
  SPEAKER_00: Exactly.
• 0:49
  SPEAKER_00: I mean we are.
• 0:50
  SPEAKER_00: Some of them think they know us.
• 0:52
  SPEAKER_01: But do they actually know us?
• 0:55
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe not.
• 0:56
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe not.
• 0:56
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, right then.
• 0:57
  SPEAKER_00: So I've got some questions.
• 0:58
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, exciting.
• 0:59
  SPEAKER_00: We can both answer them.
• 1:01
  SPEAKER_00: Um feel free not to answer if you'd rather not, but Okay.
• 1:04
  SPEAKER_00: I mean I'm open.
• 1:06
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, great.
• 1:07
  SPEAKER_01: So, question number one, Juicy, how old are you?
• 1:10
  SPEAKER_01: Oh, do you know what?
• 1:12
  SPEAKER_01: Normally I'd say 34, and then I remember I'm actually 35.
• 1:16
  SPEAKER_01: I thought you were 34 this year.
• 1:17
  SPEAKER_01: No, I was 35.
• 1:18
  SPEAKER_01: Are you sure?
• 1:19
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I was born in 1991.
• 1:22
  SPEAKER_01: So I am 35.
• 1:25
  SPEAKER_01: Oh my god.
• 1:25
  SPEAKER_01: I always tell people you're like three years younger than me.
• 1:28
  SPEAKER_01: I'm always telling people I was 33 when I was 34.
• 1:31
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, that's an issue.
• 1:32
  SPEAKER_00: And how old are you, Jeff?
• 1:34
  SPEAKER_00: I'm um not quite 40 yet.
• 1:39
  SPEAKER_00: I'm 37.
• 1:40
  SPEAKER_01: Oh yeah, you've got ages.
• 1:42
  SPEAKER_00: So we've got a while.
• 1:43
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 1:43
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 1:44
  SPEAKER_00: I know I look younger.
• 1:45
  SPEAKER_00: You look so sorry.
• 1:47
  SPEAKER_00: I'm I'm so sorry I didn't say that to you.
• 1:49
  SPEAKER_01: You look much younger.
• 1:50
  SPEAKER_01: Thank you very much.
• 1:51
  SPEAKER_00: We discussed this the other day though.
• 1:52
  SPEAKER_00: What it is though, is that I've put on a bit of weight.
• 1:54
  SPEAKER_00: So now all the wrinkles are plumping out.
• 1:57
  SPEAKER_00: Youthful and chubby.
• 2:00
  SPEAKER_00: I'm here for it.
• 2:02
  SPEAKER_00: Here for it.
• 2:02
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, so now we know how old we are.
• 2:04
  SPEAKER_00: Yes.
• 2:05
  SPEAKER_00: Spritely, youngsters.
• 2:07
  SPEAKER_00: Um what does your life look like outside of work?
• 2:11
  SPEAKER_00: Because everyone sees you on social media for body blossom.
• 2:14
  SPEAKER_00: You know, we see you doing the workouts, we see you doing the dancing, the female empowerment.
• 2:19
  SPEAKER_00: But what does your life look like outside of that?
• 2:21
  SPEAKER_01: Um, this is interesting.
• 2:24
  SPEAKER_01: I think the thing is, I share a lot on social media, so I think a lot of people see my life outside of work too with the kids and stuff.
• 2:30
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 2:31
  SPEAKER_01: Um, but if you don't follow my personal one, then you wouldn't see it.
• 2:35
  SPEAKER_01: Um, so I have three kids.
• 2:37
  SPEAKER_01: Um, I have a husband.
• 2:39
  SPEAKER_00: Yes.
• 2:40
  SPEAKER_01: They they all keep me busy.
• 2:41
  SPEAKER_01: I have two dogs, loads of fish, and a parrot.
• 2:45
  unknown: Yeah.
• 2:46
  SPEAKER_01: So I mean, life is busy, but we love exploring.
• 2:51
  SPEAKER_01: So as much as I can get the kids outside, we are out there trying new things, doing whatever we can do.
• 2:59
  SPEAKER_01: I'm not one like I don't really watch TV.
• 3:02
  SPEAKER_01: I just love getting outside.
• 3:06
  SPEAKER_01: A DHD, everybody.
• 3:10
  SPEAKER_00: We can joke about it because you're diagnosed, uh.
• 3:12
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah, that's true.
• 3:15
  SPEAKER_01: No, your family is beautiful.
• 3:17
  SPEAKER_01: I love that.
• 3:17
  SPEAKER_01: We just enjoy like trying new things, yeah.
• 3:22
  SPEAKER_01: Um, and I think that's the the key thing for me, especially with the kids, is literally I want them to grow up feeling confident because I didn't.
• 3:31
  SPEAKER_01: I very much lacked confidence.
• 3:32
  SPEAKER_01: So for me, it's like if I can help them from a young age really build their confidence to go on adventures and try new things, then so that's literally what we do.
• 3:41
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, and on all your social media, you can just see their little faces like lighter have a great time.
• 3:46
  SPEAKER_00: Whether you're like the one you booted with Daisy on the kitchen or with the saucepan, and then at the end, Ella's like, I do it by myself.
• 3:56
  SPEAKER_00: It's like she wants the light lights.
• 3:57
  SPEAKER_00: I literally she does.
• 3:59
  SPEAKER_01: We had to record like five of them just so Ella could have a turn too.
• 4:03
  SPEAKER_01: I just think social media is becoming such a big thing these days.
• 4:06
  SPEAKER_01: So I was like, Oh, if I can teach the kids from a young age, because as we have found out, if you like you're running your own business, you also have to be doing social media and all of that jazz.
• 4:17
  SPEAKER_01: So it's like if I can teach them from a young age, then I'm gonna do that.
• 4:20
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I think it is good for them, especially because they see it in a positive light, yeah, 100%.
• 4:25
  SPEAKER_00: Because everyone will tell them it's a negative, yeah.
• 4:27
  SPEAKER_00: So no, I think.
• 4:28
  SPEAKER_00: That's what my husband's like.
• 4:29
  SPEAKER_00: He's like, Why are you getting them on the internet?
• 4:31
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, and I'm like, you just question is Craig, why are you buying another fish?
• 4:37
  SPEAKER_00: Do you know what I mean?
• 4:38
  SPEAKER_00: That's what we need to question.
• 4:39
  SPEAKER_01: Why another kayak?
• 4:40
  SPEAKER_01: Why a canoe?
• 4:41
  SPEAKER_01: Why do we need two?
• 4:42
  SPEAKER_00: Why a quad bike with an engine that doesn't work?
• 4:44
  SPEAKER_01: Exactly.
• 4:46
  SPEAKER_01: Jenny, we don't need to be questioning my parenting skills because I'm trying to actually teach my kids to learn the great thing of social media because it can be leveraged in the right way.
• 4:59
  SPEAKER_00: There's no point in hiding them from it because it's what it is now.
• 5:03
  SPEAKER_00: They get like even in school, uh Evan, my little boy, came home the other day and he was like, Oh, we were looking at something on the internet today about footballers, and they were watching videos on Instagram about footballers, so like even teachers are using it as a tool.
• 5:15
  SPEAKER_00: So that's why I'm not gonna be able to do it.
• 5:16
  SPEAKER_01: And I don't let my good way.
• 5:18
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I don't let my kids scroll on YouTube on Facebook, like they don't they don't actually sit and go on it.
• 5:24
  SPEAKER_01: But what I'm teaching them is to be in front of the camera and grow their confidence in that, yeah, and that's what they can use later on in everyday life too.
• 5:32
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I love that.
• 5:33
  SPEAKER_01: Anyway, tell us about you and your wild life, Jess.
• 5:38
  SPEAKER_00: Wild is a strong word.
• 5:42
  SPEAKER_00: So I am do I call myself a single mum or am I a co-parent?
• 5:46
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know, because I am single and I am a mum, but I've got a co-parent.
• 5:50
  SPEAKER_00: Right.
• 5:51
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know because I'm not like doing it 100% on my own.
• 5:53
  SPEAKER_00: Do you know what I mean?
• 5:54
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I hear you.
• 5:55
  SPEAKER_00: Although when it's my time, I am on my own.
• 5:57
  SPEAKER_00: You are a single mum, so I am a single mum.
• 5:59
  SPEAKER_00: I'm a single mum.
• 5:59
  SPEAKER_00: I'm a single mum, but I do have a co-parent.
• 6:02
  SPEAKER_00: And obviously, because I didn't create the child on my own.
• 6:06
  SPEAKER_00: I'm not, but he's also in the life, yeah.
• 6:09
  SPEAKER_00: So he has my son 50% of the time, and I have my son 50% of the time.
• 6:14
  SPEAKER_00: Um, yeah, very much single.
• 6:17
  SPEAKER_00: I'm ready to mingle.
• 6:19
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know if I am.
• 6:20
  SPEAKER_00: I quite like being on my own now.
• 6:22
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 6:23
  SPEAKER_00: I've got to that point where I'm just like, do you know what?
• 6:26
  SPEAKER_00: It's hard taking someone else into consideration and like having to change things for someone else.
• 6:30
  SPEAKER_00: Like me and Evan have got it down to a T now.
• 6:33
  SPEAKER_00: We're like a little team.
• 6:34
  SPEAKER_00: Do you know what I mean?
• 6:35
  SPEAKER_00: I love it.
• 6:35
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and it's taken me a while to figure that out.
• 6:38
  SPEAKER_00: Like I was separated three years ago, recently divorced, and it's taken up until now, it's taken me the full three years to like find my own rhythm.
• 6:49
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 6:49
  SPEAKER_00: Like being on your own, yeah, flipping between.
• 6:52
  SPEAKER_00: I need like two different lives.
• 6:53
  SPEAKER_00: It's my life with Evan and then my life without Evan.
• 6:56
  SPEAKER_00: And yeah, that's a bit crazy.
• 6:59
  SPEAKER_00: Um but yeah, I was a teacher for almost 17 years in secondary and primary schools.
• 7:06
  SPEAKER_01: So that was your teaching side always comes out, we can tell.
• 7:10
  SPEAKER_01: You'll see everything.
• 7:11
  SPEAKER_00: I got called miss so many times in class last night.
• 7:14
  SPEAKER_01: Can you see, like, can you can everyone just take note?
• 7:17
  SPEAKER_01: If you're not actually watching the video of us, Jess has her notebook with the notes at the ready for this podcast.
• 7:23
  SPEAKER_00: I just have I like to have things planned so I know what I'm doing and where I'm going and that I can measure our progress.
• 7:29
  SPEAKER_00: Literally, I sometimes I wonder how we're friends because we're so opposite, are we?
• 7:33
  SPEAKER_00: But I think that's what works.
• 7:34
  SPEAKER_00: But also in my life, this isn't my life.
• 7:36
  SPEAKER_00: Like, if you come to my flat, I don't know where anything is.
• 7:40
  SPEAKER_00: Like, it's just literally like what I do, it's like organized chaos.
• 7:43
  SPEAKER_00: But I'm late for most things.
• 7:46
  SPEAKER_00: I forget a lot of stuff, I have to write it down or keep note of it.
• 7:50
  SPEAKER_00: Um, distracted very easily by things, or I hyperfixate on things.
• 7:54
  SPEAKER_00: But if something is planned and written down, I know it's gonna go well.
• 7:58
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, so like that's my copy mechanism, I think.
• 8:01
  SPEAKER_00: Also very brainwashed from the education system, yeah.
• 8:04
  SPEAKER_00: So that's where where that comes from.
• 8:06
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but yeah, left teaching two years ago and then jumped on board with you.
• 8:10
  SPEAKER_00: Woo! And now what a journey body blossom.
• 8:13
  SPEAKER_00: What a ride! What is my life like outside of work?
• 8:15
  SPEAKER_00: I don't have one because work is my life.
• 8:17
  SPEAKER_00: But I love that that like my hobby has become my job, yeah.
• 8:21
  SPEAKER_00: And it's a lifestyle, isn't it?
• 8:23
  SPEAKER_01: But wait, right, you have told me that you've been binging gum Gilmore girls, gilmore girls.
• 8:28
  SPEAKER_01: Gilmore girls, Gilmore girls.
• 8:29
  SPEAKER_00: I've never watched it, she kills me for this.
• 8:32
  SPEAKER_00: It's just one of those ones you can it's like Grey's Anatomy.
• 8:35
  SPEAKER_00: Did this with Grey's Anatomy about two years ago, completed all I think there's 21 seasons of Grey's Anatomy, did it in a summer.
• 8:42
  SPEAKER_00: Because I probably only watch 25% of it.
• 8:45
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, it's just on in the background as I'm like, and then I'm like faffing around the house or like on my phone or whatever, and it's just on.
• 8:54
  SPEAKER_00: And before I know it, four episodes have gone past, and I probably know one line that's happened, and I'm like, oh man, did they kiss?
• 9:01
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know.
• 9:02
  SPEAKER_00: So they have to just remind you a little bit.
• 9:03
  SPEAKER_00: I love that.
• 9:04
  SPEAKER_00: But yeah, um, yeah, I'm just quite like low maintenance, get on with stuff.
• 9:10
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, anyone who says a low maintenance probably isn't low maintenance, but I do think I am quite easily pleased.
• 9:16
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, exactly.
• 9:16
  SPEAKER_00: Isn't that what I mean?
• 9:17
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 9:18
  SPEAKER_00: Um I agree.
• 9:19
  SPEAKER_00: So yeah, that's me in a big nutshell.
• 9:22
  SPEAKER_00: I love it.
• 9:22
  SPEAKER_00: I'm not as inspirational.
• 9:24
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, yes, you are, don't you?
• 9:27
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, my child should be on social media.
• 9:32
  SPEAKER_00: But he's brilliant.
• 9:34
  SPEAKER_00: He's just he is brilliant.
• 9:36
  SPEAKER_00: I couldn't love him more if I tried.
• 9:38
  SPEAKER_00: He's just the perfect mix of like sass, an old man in a young person's body.
• 9:45
  SPEAKER_00: Like he's just, I don't know, a comedy genius with a bit of the tism mixed in.
• 9:49
  SPEAKER_00: I love it.
• 9:50
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, he's perfect.
• 9:52
  SPEAKER_00: Um yeah, okay, so next question.
• 9:56
  SPEAKER_00: What's one thing that people would be surprised to learn about you?
• 10:00
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, interesting.
• 10:02
  SPEAKER_01: Um, probably that um so how I show affection to like a lot of people is hugging, like women, like I love hugging.
• 10:18
  SPEAKER_01: But in my relationship, I'm not a massively like touchy person.
• 10:22
  SPEAKER_01: Really?
• 10:22
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 10:23
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I don't like hugging and kissing all the time.
• 10:26
  SPEAKER_01: I feel like we could delve deeper into this.
• 10:28
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, it's your therapy.
• 10:30
  SPEAKER_01: And why do you think that's a good thing?
• 10:31
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, like we hug and like well, obviously we kiss and stuff as well, but it's not like I I don't like, and even with my kids, I like hugging and then stepping away.
• 10:41
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 10:42
  SPEAKER_01: I don't like to hug and hold.
• 10:43
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I know.
• 10:44
  SPEAKER_01: And then stay in that and and lay next to each other and cuddle.
• 10:49
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, see, I'm needy.
• 10:50
  SPEAKER_01: I'm like, I'm just I'm like, kids, this is nice.
• 10:55
  SPEAKER_01: Now mommy needs to get on with her own stuff, and you go and you go do you, and I'm gonna go and do me.
• 10:59
  SPEAKER_00: I suppose you've got three of them though, so that is like three times the amount of time.
• 11:03
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, and then my husband comes home from work and is like, right, and your dogs are very and my dogs, do you know what I mean?
• 11:09
  SPEAKER_01: I think it's like I'm just not a very, yeah, what's the word?
• 11:14
  SPEAKER_01: Like touchy-feely, yeah, it's not that's not your love language.
• 11:19
  SPEAKER_00: No, not me.
• 11:20
  SPEAKER_00: What is your love language?
• 11:21
  SPEAKER_00: Do you think?
• 11:22
  SPEAKER_00: I think it's acts of service.
• 11:24
  SPEAKER_00: Right, but I think people have two love languages.
• 11:27
  SPEAKER_00: I think we've got one is the way that we show love, and one is the way that we feel loved.
• 11:31
  SPEAKER_00: What's the way you show love?
• 11:32
  SPEAKER_00: Acts of service, feel loved.
• 11:35
  SPEAKER_00: Acts of service.
• 11:37
  SPEAKER_01: Okay, it means so much more to me if when someone thinks about me and a like you know, like you bring me a Pepsi Max.
• 11:45
  SPEAKER_00: I do.
• 11:45
  SPEAKER_00: That for me is like but is that an act of service or am I an enabler for your addiction?
• 11:52
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know.
• 11:53
  SPEAKER_00: It's an act of service.
• 11:54
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, we'll say it's it's done with love and a cheese twist, yeah, cheese.
• 11:58
  SPEAKER_01: And chocolate brownies every now and again.
• 12:00
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, we've cut down.
• 12:01
  SPEAKER_01: I like it when people think about what I've actually liked.
• 12:04
  SPEAKER_01: Like my friend yesterday went to the bakery and bought me a caramel donut because she knows every time I walk up the shopping centre, I look at the bakery to see if they've got a caramel donut, and they don't normally have them because it's the end of the day.
• 12:16
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, that's it.
• 12:17
  SPEAKER_01: And she bought me one because they had one, and for me, that is like that's everything.
• 12:21
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 12:22
  SPEAKER_01: Do you see what I mean?
• 12:23
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I know it you like.
• 12:24
  SPEAKER_01: I love it when people like think about it like that.
• 12:27
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, that's my vibe.
• 12:28
  SPEAKER_00: That's cute, nice.
• 12:30
  SPEAKER_00: What about you?
• 12:31
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I wasn't gonna go as deep.
• 12:34
  SPEAKER_00: Oh.
• 12:35
  SPEAKER_00: I was gonna have to.
• 12:36
  SPEAKER_00: I was gluten-free for two years of my life and then discovered that I didn't have an intolerance to gluten, I was just chronically stressed.
• 12:44
  SPEAKER_00: Oh well, I mean, that's fairly deep that you were stressed.
• 12:48
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, it's to do with my job though, because I was teaching at the time, and I used to go to school.
• 12:52
  SPEAKER_00: Uh at this point, I was like a size 10, I was like small, and flat turmy, and by the end of the day, I'd look nine months pregnant, and I was convinced it was because I was eating like sandwiches from the canteen at lunchtime, a biscuit as I walked through the like staff room, whatever, drinking probably four million cups of coffee a day, and that's what I lived on.
• 13:10
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and then my doctor was like, try and cut out gluten.
• 13:13
  SPEAKER_00: So I tried to cut out gluten, did it for two years and nothing.
• 13:17
  SPEAKER_00: That's mad, isn't it?
• 13:19
  SPEAKER_00: And then I changed jobs and it stopped.
• 13:21
  SPEAKER_01: And he was like, Oh, maybe it wasn't the gluten.
• 13:24
  SPEAKER_01: Wow, that's so interesting, though, isn't it?
• 13:26
  SPEAKER_01: That your body was holding on to stress, yeah, and showing it and that's it.
• 13:32
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I also thought I was allergic to chocolate once when I went on a cruise.
• 13:36
  SPEAKER_00: That's awful.
• 13:37
  SPEAKER_00: That's like the worst thing that could ever happen.
• 13:39
  SPEAKER_00: My family were like, What?
• 13:40
  SPEAKER_00: You're on a cruise, it's all inclusive, and you're not gonna eat any chocolate.
• 13:43
  SPEAKER_00: And I was I was probably like 15 at the time, and I was adamant.
• 13:45
  SPEAKER_00: I was like, No, I'm definitely allergic to it, and I don't know where it came from.
• 13:48
  SPEAKER_00: So I think I've probably got some sort of medical anxiety at some point.
• 13:53
  SPEAKER_00: So if at any point I tell you I'm allergic to something, I'm probably not, but you ride it out.
• 13:58
  SPEAKER_00: Just let me ride it out.
• 13:59
  SPEAKER_01: It's like I'll come to the conclusion of something that's really funny along this subject.
• 14:03
  SPEAKER_01: Go on.
• 14:03
  SPEAKER_01: So obviously, I've had a nut allergy for a real one then.
• 14:07
  SPEAKER_01: A real one, like we're talking real, like this has been shown, proven, just so you know, Jess.
• 14:12
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, I haven't made this up.
• 14:13
  SPEAKER_00: That's fine.
• 14:14
  SPEAKER_00: I don't make mine up, I question them but run with them.
• 14:17
  SPEAKER_00: Do you know what I mean?
• 14:18
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, it's like it could be, so I'm like, it is literally so anyway.
• 14:28
  SPEAKER_01: I haven't had um one of like the auto injectures um EpiPens for like I don't know, probably about 15 years now.
• 14:37
  SPEAKER_01: I know, but listen, and I I am getting in one because the doctors messaged me yesterday and was like, we think yours might be out of date.
• 14:46
  SPEAKER_01: 15 years out of date?
• 14:48
  SPEAKER_01: Can you contact us to get a new one?
• 14:51
  SPEAKER_00: Sorry, could we just give a minute for the NHS?
• 14:55
  SPEAKER_01: 15 years.
• 14:57
  SPEAKER_01: Isn't that insane?
• 14:59
  SPEAKER_01: And they've had the first time ever messaged me to say we think it might be out of date.
• 15:04
  SPEAKER_01: Can you check it and contact us so we can sort a new one?
• 15:09
  SPEAKER_01: Saving lives.
• 15:10
  SPEAKER_01: I thought that was really funny.
• 15:12
  SPEAKER_01: I mean I told Craig, I was like, How funny is this after all this time?
• 15:17
  SPEAKER_01: They're like, oh, we better check in.
• 15:19
  SPEAKER_01: 15 years later, with your severe not attribute.
• 15:22
  SPEAKER_00: Well, at least you're not dead.
• 15:24
  SPEAKER_01: Is that I mean you've not no girls careful.
• 15:26
  SPEAKER_01: You do not too careful, but you are good.
• 15:30
  SPEAKER_00: You are good with that.
• 15:31
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 15:31
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 15:32
  SPEAKER_00: Otherwise I wouldn't be here today.
• 15:34
  SPEAKER_01: Just be me.
• 15:36
  SPEAKER_00: Oh.
• 15:37
  SPEAKER_00: A seagull or a pigeon.
• 15:38
  SPEAKER_00: Um okay carrying on.
• 15:40
  SPEAKER_00: Right then.
• 15:41
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, different topic.
• 15:42
  SPEAKER_00: What's the weirdest thing you've Googled recently?
• 15:46
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, I love this.
• 15:47
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 15:49
  SPEAKER_00: I don't actually know, so I'm gonna get my phone.
• 15:51
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, get your phone.
• 15:52
  SPEAKER_01: What have what have I been googling?
• 15:53
  SPEAKER_00: Because do you know at different points in my life I Google different things, obviously.
• 15:58
  SPEAKER_00: Exactly.
• 15:58
  SPEAKER_00: And if you'd asked me this when I was running a session at the studio that we call Body Confidential, which is all about like confidence in sex and you know, enjoying yourself, basically.
• 16:09
  SPEAKER_00: I was googling things like what comes out of you when you squirt and squirting myths and uh truths and phallic phallic objects.
• 16:18
  SPEAKER_01: Like I the thing is, I don't really Google anymore.
• 16:21
  SPEAKER_01: I chat GPT every day.
• 16:23
  SPEAKER_00: I Google everything.
• 16:24
  SPEAKER_01: Do you?
• 16:25
  SPEAKER_01: I actually don't really use Google.
• 16:27
  SPEAKER_01: How do I you have to look at your search history?
• 16:31
  SPEAKER_01: I would look at mine, mine's on my phone, but ChatGPT, oh, I use it for everything.
• 16:36
  SPEAKER_00: So I've got Who Won Dancing with the Stars America 2025?
• 16:41
  SPEAKER_00: Because I wanted to know if did you ever watch um probably not because you don't watch Telly Secret Lives of the Mormon Wives?
• 16:48
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 16:48
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, so Whitney from there.
• 16:51
  SPEAKER_00: She knows she's done amazing.
• 16:52
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, but do you know she didn't win it?
• 16:53
  SPEAKER_00: No, she didn't.
• 16:54
  SPEAKER_00: She gave six, yeah.
• 16:56
  SPEAKER_00: So I was like, who's six times better than him?
• 16:58
  SPEAKER_00: Didn't know who they were.
• 16:59
  SPEAKER_00: So anyway, googled that.
• 17:01
  SPEAKER_00: Um what to do when your six-year-old child says no and refuses to follow instructions.
• 17:06
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, I love that.
• 17:07
  SPEAKER_00: Parenting advice.
• 17:08
  SPEAKER_00: Um, England national football team.
• 17:11
  SPEAKER_00: Again for said child.
• 17:12
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 17:12
  SPEAKER_00: Wheel bearing noise.
• 17:15
  SPEAKER_00: My car's breaking.
• 17:16
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, large storage boxes with lids.
• 17:19
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, yeah.
• 17:20
  SPEAKER_00: Um studio.
• 17:22
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 17:24
  SPEAKER_01: Back, neck, and shoulder massage, Eastbourne.
• 17:26
  SPEAKER_01: Oh, mine recently has been um how to retrain my dog to stop pooing inside.
• 17:33
  SPEAKER_01: Oh, yeah, yeah.
• 17:35
  SPEAKER_01: So we've uh we're back through retraining a two-year-old dog, so that's fun.
• 17:40
  SPEAKER_01: Um, yeah, mine's not quite as exciting as yours.
• 17:43
  SPEAKER_00: Mine's a bit around business.
• 17:46
  SPEAKER_00: Mine's exciting.
• 17:47
  SPEAKER_00: Mine is more this is how mundane my life is.
• 17:51
  SPEAKER_00: I can't train my child like a dog.
• 17:55
  SPEAKER_00: Um, my car's broken, definitely need a massage.
• 17:59
  SPEAKER_00: And I sometimes I go down rabbit holes of other people's lives.
• 18:04
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 18:04
  SPEAKER_00: Like celebrities.
• 18:05
  SPEAKER_00: Like, well, how did they get to where they are?
• 18:06
  SPEAKER_00: What's that?
• 18:07
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I do find that interesting.
• 18:09
  SPEAKER_00: And that all came from me teaching a class of Chicago in the studio, and then I was looking at Chicago routines, and then she came up from a Chicago routine, and then I watched her on Dancing with the Stars, and I was like, oh, she also lost a lot of weight.
• 18:20
  SPEAKER_00: Like, what happened between it was about a three-hour change.
• 18:24
  SPEAKER_00: Now you know her whole life story.
• 18:26
  SPEAKER_00: Moving on, please.
• 18:27
  SPEAKER_00: Sorry, okay.
• 18:28
  SPEAKER_00: So what swiftly.
• 18:30
  SPEAKER_00: What's something that everyone else likes that you hate?
• 18:35
  SPEAKER_01: Oh something that everyone else likes watching TV.
• 18:41
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, that is for you, isn't it?
• 18:42
  SPEAKER_01: I just like people love it, and I just can't seem to get into it.
• 18:47
  SPEAKER_01: It has to be something really good.
• 18:48
  SPEAKER_01: I'm not gonna sit here and say, like, I don't ever watch TV, I do, but it has to really pull me in.
• 18:53
  SPEAKER_01: But I'm also inspired by anything I watch.
• 18:56
  SPEAKER_01: You could put anything on the TV, and if if I have to sit and watch it, I'll find a reason.
• 18:59
  SPEAKER_01: If you watch Gilmore Girls, We'd own a hotel right now.
• 19:02
  SPEAKER_01: There we go.
• 19:02
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, you know, like I'm like, oh, like there'll be some way that I can turn it into something business-y.
• 19:07
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 19:08
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, great.
• 19:08
  SPEAKER_01: What about you?
• 19:10
  SPEAKER_00: Um controversial, playing with my child.
• 19:15
  SPEAKER_00: I was wondering what you were gonna say then.
• 19:17
  SPEAKER_00: Literally! Playing with my people are like, oh, we had such a lovely time that we played all these games.
• 19:23
  SPEAKER_00: I hate thinking of things to play with my child, but I'm like that's why I have multiple children.
• 19:29
  SPEAKER_00: So they play with each other.
• 19:30
  SPEAKER_00: Literally, yeah.
• 19:31
  SPEAKER_01: I just honestly, that's one of the reasons I have multiple kids and they can literally just play together.
• 19:37
  SPEAKER_00: I'm not I'm not willing to do it again just for that.
• 19:40
  SPEAKER_00: No, I'd rather like send him away to a camp or something.
• 19:45
  SPEAKER_00: Get a child minder, get a child minder, just put him in some sort of group or club, do you know what I mean?
• 19:49
  SPEAKER_00: But yeah, I just I see all these people and these mums who are like, especially through the summer holidays, who were like, Yeah, we did all these amazing things, and like I spent such good quality time, and I'm like, okay, great, but I can't number one, I can't think of the games.
• 20:04
  SPEAKER_01: I end up just being like you do do quite a lot though, you are quite good.
• 20:07
  SPEAKER_01: Kitsch.
• 20:08
  SPEAKER_01: That's why I take my kids out to do stuff.
• 20:10
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, to play with them is my like, well, let's something find something that I actually enjoy too.
• 20:15
  SPEAKER_01: Because I can't sit and play shops or something like that.
• 20:18
  SPEAKER_01: Let's create like let's go and canoeing that either will actually enjoy while they enjoy it.
• 20:23
  SPEAKER_00: See what I mean?
• 20:24
  SPEAKER_00: The panic in me canoeing would not help.
• 20:27
  SPEAKER_00: No, I'd be like, right, wear four life jackets, yeah.
• 20:30
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe just watch from the side and I'll canoe.
• 20:33
  SPEAKER_00: That's how it would go.
• 20:34
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 20:35
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 20:35
  SPEAKER_00: That's just I just I can't.
• 20:38
  SPEAKER_00: I hear you.
• 20:39
  SPEAKER_00: I can't do the mundane playing.
• 20:41
  SPEAKER_00: No, not for me.
• 20:42
  SPEAKER_00: But I think like a lot of mums really enjoy it, or say that they really enjoy it.
• 20:47
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm like, I'm gonna be the one to say I don't.
• 20:50
  SPEAKER_00: A not enjoyed it.
• 20:52
  SPEAKER_00: It's a new from me.
• 20:53
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I can't play Uno with him.
• 20:55
  SPEAKER_00: One game.
• 20:56
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, Uno.
• 20:57
  SPEAKER_01: I love a bit of Uno.
• 20:58
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, that'll do.
• 20:58
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, but I just can't do I can't, I can't, I don't even know what games to say because I can't.
• 21:04
  SPEAKER_01: We play mums and dads.
• 21:05
  SPEAKER_00: I'm I'm living that life.
• 21:07
  SPEAKER_00: I'm living the night.
• 21:08
  SPEAKER_00: I do not want to play what my life is.
• 21:11
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you.
• 21:12
  SPEAKER_00: You know, I'm like, should we have a kitchen disco and I'll just tidy up as I'm dancing?
• 21:17
  SPEAKER_00: You can dance around.
• 21:18
  SPEAKER_00: That's it, but it is about finding those kind of things, though, isn't it?
• 21:21
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, that you can so that's that's my thing.
• 21:24
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 21:25
  SPEAKER_00: Like trying to be the Instagram mum.
• 21:27
  SPEAKER_00: Um, okay.
• 21:28
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, this is a really good one, actually.
• 21:31
  SPEAKER_00: Have you always been confident in your body?
• 21:34
  SPEAKER_01: Oh, this is good.
• 21:35
  SPEAKER_01: No, absolutely not.
• 21:36
  SPEAKER_01: Took me to have a child to become confident in my body.
• 21:39
  SPEAKER_00: Which is meant to be ironic, really.
• 21:42
  SPEAKER_01: Because normally exhibit A, when you have a child, the confidence in your body goes.
• 21:46
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 21:47
  SPEAKER_01: I think I felt like I lost myself after having Mickey, my first child.
• 21:53
  SPEAKER_01: That I then felt this like sudden I need to find myself again, and in finding like who I I am and what I I actually enjoy.
• 22:02
  SPEAKER_01: But I then realized that I needed to learn to love myself in order to do that.
• 22:09
  SPEAKER_01: And that's when I started to learn to love my body.
• 22:12
  SPEAKER_00: That's hard, isn't it?
• 22:13
  SPEAKER_00: What about you?
• 22:15
  SPEAKER_00: Um definitely not, but I don't think I was aware of my body probably until the age of about 17, 18.
• 22:23
  SPEAKER_00: Like I never thought I'm the thin girl, I'm the fat girl.
• 22:27
  SPEAKER_00: Like I was bullied for the size of my nose.
• 22:31
  SPEAKER_00: Someone, this boy, and I'll I'll never forget him.
• 22:33
  SPEAKER_00: Shall I call him out on the podcast?
• 22:35
  SPEAKER_00: Yes.
• 22:35
  SPEAKER_00: Danny Watkins.
• 22:36
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, you have been um there's a few Danny Watkins in South Wales, so I think we're okay.
• 22:43
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 22:44
  SPEAKER_00: Um, yeah, he used to call me Concord.
• 22:46
  SPEAKER_00: I don't think he actually knew my real name.
• 22:48
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, he used to call me Concord at school.
• 22:50
  SPEAKER_00: You got right, Concord?
• 22:51
  SPEAKER_00: As he walked past me, maybe he fancied me.
• 22:53
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know.
• 22:53
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, I was always bullied for my chin as well, walking home and stuff like that.
• 22:57
  SPEAKER_01: Bum chin.
• 23:00
  SPEAKER_01: Literally all the time.
• 23:02
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, honestly, every time I would go into honestly, like walking home from school was savage.
• 23:08
  SPEAKER_01: I used to hate the thought of finishing school to walk home, and the the crap I got for it was insane.
• 23:15
  SPEAKER_00: People would show bumps.
• 23:16
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, literally, literally they would.
• 23:20
  SPEAKER_01: Isn't that bad?
• 23:21
  SPEAKER_01: That's horrible.
• 23:22
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, but great.
• 23:23
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, literally.
• 23:25
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 23:26
  SPEAKER_00: Oh god.
• 23:28
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, so I think our ch our maybe our faces were more, I don't know.
• 23:31
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 23:32
  SPEAKER_00: Is it because we're wearing school uniforms?
• 23:33
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know.
• 23:34
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know.
• 23:34
  SPEAKER_00: But yeah, I wasn't really aware of it probably until I was like 17.
• 23:38
  SPEAKER_00: And then I went to uni, and the only reason I really became aware of it at uni was because everyone would share clothes at uni, like when you lived in like shared houses and stuff.
• 23:48
  SPEAKER_00: And I lived with two very thin girls and one girl that was the same size as me.
• 23:52
  SPEAKER_00: And then it was like, oh, I can't wear what she's wearing because I'm not that size.
• 23:55
  SPEAKER_00: Like that's when it first came into my brain.
• 23:57
  SPEAKER_00: And then after I had Evan, I was a size 22.
• 24:02
  SPEAKER_00: Like I ballooned massively, and I think that's was my lowest point of confidence in my body.
• 24:08
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 24:08
  SPEAKER_00: But I think it's changed because it's more for me when I was younger, the confidence was about what other people thought of my body.
• 24:16
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 24:16
  SPEAKER_00: And now my confidence in my body is it's still going and it's still working.
• 24:20
  SPEAKER_00: Like and I can do all these things, and that's what I'm grateful for, and that's why I feel confident within my body, rather than oh yeah, I look like how I should look or what someone else thinks I should look like.
• 24:32
  SPEAKER_00: Do you know?
• 24:33
  SPEAKER_00: Absolutely.
• 24:34
  SPEAKER_00: I think it's different, isn't it?
• 24:35
  SPEAKER_01: I think mine definitely like I found it really hard when I started working in the gym, and it was all about like you have to look a certain way.
• 24:42
  SPEAKER_01: And I would like to go to eat a chocolate bar, and everyone would be like, I can't believe you're eating a chocolate bar and you're a personal trainer.
• 24:48
  SPEAKER_01: I used to get that all the time.
• 24:49
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, you're having a takeaway and you're a personal trainer.
• 24:52
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, because I'm human.
• 24:54
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, exactly.
• 24:54
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, that was like that was in the peak of people.
• 24:59
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 25:00
  SPEAKER_01: It was kind of like before body confidence became a thing on social media.
• 25:04
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 25:04
  SPEAKER_01: You know, and that I think that massively started changing things.
• 25:08
  SPEAKER_01: Um, but yeah, before then it was massive.
• 25:12
  SPEAKER_01: On people would literally comment all the time because I became a qualified PT at anything I ate.
• 25:20
  SPEAKER_00: That's ridiculous, isn't it?
• 25:22
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 25:22
  SPEAKER_00: How you have to change what you like in your lifestyle to fit the expectations of the channel.
• 25:27
  SPEAKER_01: That's it, because you were supposed to look a certain way as a personal trainer.
• 25:30
  SPEAKER_00: I hate society.
• 25:31
  SPEAKER_00: Mental.
• 25:31
  SPEAKER_00: Gross.
• 25:32
  SPEAKER_00: Um, okay then.
• 25:33
  SPEAKER_00: So what's something that you wish you cared less about when you were younger?
• 25:39
  SPEAKER_01: What people think.
• 25:40
  SPEAKER_01: I think 100%.
• 25:42
  SPEAKER_01: I think I being bullied at school made me so cautious and aware of what other people were thinking about me.
• 25:50
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 25:50
  SPEAKER_01: So then it was like I then grew up constantly being worried about what other people think.
• 25:58
  SPEAKER_00: God.
• 25:59
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 26:00
  SPEAKER_01: And now I don't give a shit.
• 26:01
  SPEAKER_00: There's people that called her bum chin.
• 26:03
  SPEAKER_00: Look at her now.
• 26:05
  SPEAKER_00: Look, look at that bum chin.
• 26:07
  SPEAKER_00: Look at it.
• 26:09
  SPEAKER_00: Enjoy every moment.
• 26:10
  SPEAKER_00: Enjoy.
• 26:10
  SPEAKER_00: Enjoy.
• 26:12
  SPEAKER_00: Cover up that chin.
• 26:13
  SPEAKER_00: We're putting it on early fans, okay?
• 26:16
  SPEAKER_01: I honestly do not care what people think about me now, and it's the best thing ever.
• 26:21
  SPEAKER_01: But my god, have I worked to get to this point.
• 26:23
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 26:24
  SPEAKER_01: You know, like I've done so much work on myself to get to this point.
• 26:27
  SPEAKER_01: But I do not give a shit what anyone else thinks.
• 26:30
  SPEAKER_01: I'm gonna be me.
• 26:31
  SPEAKER_01: Love it.
• 26:32
  SPEAKER_01: And I'm gonna enjoy every moment of it, and I'm gonna teach my kids to do exactly the same, no matter what anyone says about them.
• 26:37
  SPEAKER_01: Yes, bum chin.
• 26:39
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 26:40
  SPEAKER_01: Okay, Concord.
• 26:43
  SPEAKER_00: It's quite joking, actually.
• 26:45
  SPEAKER_00: Sorry I shouldn't do that.
• 26:45
  SPEAKER_00: It's terrible.
• 26:46
  SPEAKER_00: Right.
• 26:47
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I don't know what mine is.
• 26:51
  SPEAKER_00: I feel like I've blocked out a lot of my childhood.
• 26:54
  SPEAKER_00: No, you just like when I think back to my childhood, there's like core memories, but all mine are linked to like photographs or stories people tell me.
• 27:00
  SPEAKER_00: Right.
• 27:00
  SPEAKER_00: So I think I just kind of like some past trauma then.
• 27:03
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, probably.
• 27:04
  SPEAKER_01: Is that like something you're blocking out, maybe?
• 27:08
  SPEAKER_01: Who knows?
• 27:08
  SPEAKER_01: I don't know.
• 27:09
  SPEAKER_01: But there's nothing that kind of like ups up.
• 27:12
  SPEAKER_00: No, because I was never like I don't know.
• 27:17
  SPEAKER_00: I know I don't think as a child I was like a people pleaser.
• 27:21
  SPEAKER_00: I didn't like conform to fit in.
• 27:23
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 27:23
  SPEAKER_00: I didn't really check, like I went through everything, like goth phase, surfer phase, chabby phase, like because you're experimenting, but I never did it because I thought, oh, someone else is doing it.
• 27:35
  SPEAKER_00: It'd be like, oh, what was that singer's name?
• 27:39
  SPEAKER_00: Stacey something.
• 27:41
  SPEAKER_00: There's gotta be more to life.
• 27:43
  SPEAKER_00: Do you remember that song?
• 27:44
  SPEAKER_00: No.
• 27:45
  SPEAKER_00: Anyway, I just remember like watching her and being like, oh my god, she's got a little mole then.
• 27:50
  SPEAKER_00: I really want one.
• 27:51
  SPEAKER_00: It was never because my friends were doing something.
• 27:54
  SPEAKER_00: Do you know what I mean?
• 27:55
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 27:55
  SPEAKER_00: And like the baggy jeans thing, I mean, Rihanna Pondereplay came out, and I was like, Yeah, she looks sick in that.
• 28:00
  SPEAKER_00: I wanna wear that.
• 28:01
  SPEAKER_00: I didn't look like Rihanna, obviously.
• 28:04
  SPEAKER_00: But I wore them, but my friends weren't wearing them.
• 28:07
  SPEAKER_00: Like I don't know, I never was that child that tried to like conform to fit in, other than I would say with my behaviours, but I think that was more to please adults than it was other people.
• 28:19
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 28:19
  SPEAKER_00: Um I think for me, when I say younger, it's probably like my teens, early 20s, and that was I wish I'd cared less about like having the 2.4 children, white picket fence, married, buy a house, doing the whole thing in a certain order by a certain age.
• 28:39
  SPEAKER_00: Because I think as much as I don't regret anything I've done, obviously it wasn't the right path for me because I've ended up where I am now on a totally different path instead.
• 28:49
  SPEAKER_00: Like, so it's not that I regret it, I regret feeling like I had to do those things.
• 28:53
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 28:54
  SPEAKER_00: And then maybe going into them at a time where I wasn't ready or with the wrong people.
• 28:59
  SPEAKER_00: Do you know what I mean?
• 29:00
  SPEAKER_00: Like that's the bit that I regret is listening to other people when they said, Well, you can't get married until you've done this, or you can't buy a house until you've done this, and me being like, Okay, yeah, well, that's what I need to do then.
• 29:11
  SPEAKER_01: And like society tells us that we should be doing it in a certain way, yeah.
• 29:15
  SPEAKER_00: Following like the social construct of it.
• 29:17
  SPEAKER_00: So I think for me, that's was more my choices and my actions rather than like my behaviours, if that makes sense.
• 29:23
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, so yeah, for sure.
• 29:25
  SPEAKER_00: That's nice.
• 29:26
  SPEAKER_00: Um, okay, so thinking about growth then, what is one thing that you're still insecure about that might surprise people?
• 29:34
  SPEAKER_01: Oh, good one.
• 29:35
  SPEAKER_01: Um I think I'm still insecure.
• 29:42
  SPEAKER_01: Probably, I mean, I'm getting some work done on my teeth at the moment because they like every now and again, I'm like, I look, and you know, when you like got a little bit of like darkness on the teeth, and I'm like, oh, I don't really okay, that makes me feel a bit insecure for sure.
• 29:56
  SPEAKER_01: So your teeth.
• 29:57
  SPEAKER_01: My teeth, yeah.
• 29:59
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, you want to get that full smile in a jar or whatever it's called, don't you?
• 30:04
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, I'd love to.
• 30:05
  SPEAKER_00: What's it called?
• 30:06
  SPEAKER_00: Smile in a day.
• 30:07
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, smile in a jar.
• 30:08
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, teeth in a day.
• 30:09
  SPEAKER_01: It's not even anything teeth in a day.
• 30:12
  SPEAKER_01: I would love to because I've always grown up having problems with my teeth as well.
• 30:16
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 30:16
  SPEAKER_01: Um, and I'm lucky because they're straight and they're they're nice, but like you know, you get a bit of discoloration, and I'm like, oh no.
• 30:24
  SPEAKER_01: And obviously, growing up having work done, it was always silver fillings, so now I'm like having the silver fillings redone to white fillings, like vagin from all of them.
• 30:34
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, just so that it's like I don't open my mouth, and my kids are like, What's that in your mouth?
• 30:39
  SPEAKER_01: I'm like, oh silver filling, because I ate sweets when I was younger, don't eat them.
• 30:42
  SPEAKER_00: But do what you need, but have one because it's Friday.
• 30:46
  SPEAKER_00: Gosh.
• 30:48
  SPEAKER_00: I love that.
• 30:50
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 30:51
  SPEAKER_00: Um for me, a bit deeper.
• 30:55
  SPEAKER_00: I think mine is like constantly feeling like I'm not good enough at what I'm doing.
• 30:59
  SPEAKER_00: Do you know what I mean?
• 31:00
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 31:00
  SPEAKER_00: Even though I know I am.
• 31:03
  SPEAKER_00: Not I know I am.
• 31:05
  SPEAKER_00: People say that I am, I still doubt myself.
• 31:07
  SPEAKER_00: It's like, I and I think again.
• 31:10
  SPEAKER_00: This is turning a bit of a therapy session.
• 31:12
  SPEAKER_00: Um it is, isn't it?
• 31:13
  SPEAKER_00: It's coming from that thing of being told, like, well, you can't do that until you've got a degree in it.
• 31:17
  SPEAKER_00: You can't do that until you've got this in it.
• 31:19
  SPEAKER_00: Like, you should have all these qualifications, yeah, to do it.
• 31:22
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm like, well, I've got a degree, I've got a teaching qualification, like I've got an exercise qualification.
• 31:28
  SPEAKER_00: What more do I need to be doing what I'm doing?
• 31:30
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 31:30
  SPEAKER_00: I'm a woman.
• 31:32
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I've been on stage for God knows how many years, like 12, 13 years.
• 31:37
  SPEAKER_01: What more do I need to give me the exactly the confirmation to come in within rather than from a piece of paper?
• 31:44
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, but then I still doubt myself.
• 31:47
  SPEAKER_01: I think we're actually good enough to be doing that.
• 31:49
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I think that's and I think people don't realise how much that happens.
• 31:53
  SPEAKER_01: I 100% still doubt myself on things that I do, but I also know how to retalk to myself to be like, okay, come on.
• 32:00
  SPEAKER_01: Like you're doing it.
• 32:02
  SPEAKER_00: I think that's my issue.
• 32:03
  SPEAKER_00: That's well, not my issue.
• 32:04
  SPEAKER_00: I think that's the next thing for me to work on for myself.
• 32:07
  SPEAKER_00: 100% is like just more self-belief and we can delve into that too.
• 32:11
  SPEAKER_00: We can delve into it on a podcast as well, so everyone can learn.
• 32:13
  SPEAKER_00: Oh god, come to therapy with me.
• 32:16
  SPEAKER_00: It will be great.
• 32:19
  SPEAKER_00: It will be fine.
• 32:21
  SPEAKER_00: Um, cool.
• 32:23
  SPEAKER_00: Anything else you want to share?
• 32:25
  SPEAKER_01: I don't think so.
• 32:26
  SPEAKER_01: I think this is good for our first episode, isn't it?
• 32:28
  SPEAKER_01: I think so.
• 32:29
  SPEAKER_01: I think people have got to know us more than they thought they might.
• 32:32
  SPEAKER_01: And I've definitely shared more than I thought I'd share.
• 32:34
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, it's got to be a lot of fun.
• 32:35
  SPEAKER_00: That's what it's about, isn't it?
• 32:36
  SPEAKER_00: I think so.
• 32:37
  SPEAKER_00: And I think it's about like, you know, these conversations are normal.
• 32:41
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, exactly.
• 32:42
  SPEAKER_00: Come and have the conversations with us.
• 32:43
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I mean, listen in, think, yeah, I do that.
• 32:46
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I feel like that as well.
• 32:48
  SPEAKER_01: Exactly.
• 32:48
  SPEAKER_01: And also on the website, there will be um a place where you can send in questions as well.
• 32:55
  SPEAKER_01: So people can send in questions, anything they want us to talk about.
• 32:59
  SPEAKER_01: Like, we are very open people, we're happy to talk about anything.
• 33:02
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 33:02
  SPEAKER_01: Um, so we want it to be about our audience as well, about you guys.
• 33:06
  SPEAKER_00: And yeah, questions, also stories.
• 33:08
  SPEAKER_00: Because I don't know about you, but whenever I'm in a conversation with somebody, and this is probably some sort of like undiagnosed, but there's definitely a problem situation.
• 33:15
  SPEAKER_00: Um, if someone goes, Oh, I went to like this place and this happened to me, I'll be like, Oh my god, yes, I went to that place and that happened to me as well.
• 33:22
  SPEAKER_00: But I'm gonna beat your story because I'm gonna tell you this part of it too.
• 33:25
  SPEAKER_00: And it's like, I do it to relate to people.
• 33:27
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, if you want to do that, I never noticed that.
• 33:30
  SPEAKER_00: I want to share your stories.
• 33:31
  SPEAKER_00: Someone someone said to me once, I think he was my friend's mum, she was like, if someone's been to Tenerife, Jess, you've been to Elevener Reef.
• 33:42
  SPEAKER_00: That is brilliant.
• 33:43
  SPEAKER_00: Not that I'm drawing you out, I don't try and outdo anybody, I'm not better than anybody else.
• 33:47
  SPEAKER_00: I've got a short story to tell you, and it's got an extra bit of information that makes it different to your story.
• 33:52
  SPEAKER_00: So that is amazing.
• 33:54
  SPEAKER_00: So if you want to share your Elevener Reef stories, send them all in.
• 33:59
  SPEAKER_01: I love that.
• 34:00
  SPEAKER_01: Right.
• 34:01
  SPEAKER_01: Well, thank you so much for joining us, everyone, for our first ever episode of Can we really talk about this?
• 34:09
  SPEAKER_00: Wait, can we actually talk about this?
• 34:14
  SPEAKER_01: I really hope everyone turned down the volume for that.
• 34:17
  SPEAKER_01: I love you, Diddy.
• 34:19
  SPEAKER_01: Right, can we actually talk about this?
• 34:24
  SPEAKER_00: She's got me right here in the end.