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Ben Sets Mercedes Up On A Date! · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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  Speaker 1: iHeart Podcasts bring you the ultimate Summer of love Tree.
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  Speaker 1: This is Famously Available. I'm your host, Ben Higgins, back
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  Speaker 1: with you on Famously Available in Today is an exciting
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  Speaker 1: day because we're all on the journey, listening and staying
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  Speaker 1: tuned for the journey of Boston Guy Boston Man, I
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  Speaker 1: think we called him at now. Hopefully we get to
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  Speaker 1: be on a new journey with Mercedes, because today we
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  Speaker 1: are setting Mercedes up on a date. Let's talk about
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  Speaker 1: it with the star herself, Mercedes Mercedes, You're in Los
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  Speaker 1: Angeles right now, getting ready to attend Iheart's jingle Ball.
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  Speaker 2: Correct. Have you ever been to jingle Ball?
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  Speaker 1: No?
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  Speaker 3: I haven't. I'm super excited.
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  Speaker 1: It is awesome. It is an incredible event. You're gonna
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  Speaker 1: have a blast. It is one of those moments. I
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  Speaker 1: don't know if you have many of these anymore. You
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  Speaker 1: do a lot of cool stuff, but it's one of
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  Speaker 1: those moments you're like, hey, this is really fun that
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  Speaker 1: this show that I was on allows me to do
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  Speaker 1: this kind of stuff. Yeah, in my life, while others
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  Speaker 1: are out there, like probably like friends of ours are
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  Speaker 1: out there in the audience paying for their ticket, sitting
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  Speaker 1: up in the nosebleeds.
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  Speaker 2: You're going to be like a rock star.
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  Speaker 3: I know. I'm so excited. I'm definitely feeling very blessed
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  Speaker 3: to be in the situation that I'm in. For sure.
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  Speaker 1: It's super fun and I'm pumped that you're there, and
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  Speaker 1: I'm pumped that you're there with iHeart. But we do
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  Speaker 1: have to talk about what's happening tonight, but before we
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  Speaker 1: dig into the nitty gritty the details of jingle Ball
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  Speaker 1: and you're not only going with friends, but there's other
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  Speaker 1: reasons why you're there. Our listeners are curious, did you
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  Speaker 1: ever hear from Boston Man again after our final kind
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  Speaker 1: of conclusion interview?
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  Speaker 3: Not a thing. He's in my like though, which is
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  Speaker 3: like really annoying, but no likely. Yeah, I'm like, get
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  Speaker 3: out if you're not talking to me, get out of.
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  Speaker 1: Here, right, I mean, it's just yeah, it's like that.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I feel like when I was single and
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  Speaker 1: trying to do my best at flirting, I would never
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  Speaker 1: claim I was great at it. That would have been
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  Speaker 1: a way to like, initially flirt would have been to
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  Speaker 1: just like go and like somebody's pictures, do it enough
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  Speaker 1: and then send him a comment and be like, hey.
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  Speaker 3: What's up. Well that's how it started, too, like because
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  Speaker 3: you know it started on Instagram, so it's just like, yeah,
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  Speaker 3: he's just still liking, which I don't know what signal
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  Speaker 3: he's trying to send doing that.
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  Speaker 2: But how do you feel about all this now?
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  Speaker 3: I'm honestly like very over it. I feel like I'm
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  Speaker 3: at peace with everything, but the there's definitely still mixed signals.
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  Speaker 3: And I also it was all so confusing and didn't
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  Speaker 3: make sense, and I definitely think like something happened like
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  Speaker 3: I went a little FBI me and my friend, and
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  Speaker 3: I think there was another girl m.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, which again disappointing. Yeah, but as we've talked about,
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  Speaker 1: totally fair.
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  Speaker 3: Right, Yeah, no, absolutely, it's just like if that was
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  Speaker 3: the situation, like just let me know, rather than being
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  Speaker 3: like making up other excuses, you.
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  Speaker 1: Know, I agree with that. I do think there is
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  Speaker 1: a level, Mercedes, where you are an understanding human. That's
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  Speaker 1: why I'm so excited for you to find somebody that
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  Speaker 1: appreciates you. The word that comes to mind is like
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  Speaker 1: a cool girl, but I feel like that diminishes actually
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  Speaker 1: who you are a little bit, Like you're better than
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  Speaker 1: just a cool girl. You could have handled it if
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  Speaker 1: he would have openly communicated with you, I don't. I
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  Speaker 1: think people get nervous that the person can't handle it. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: and so you can. You wanted to open communication. You
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  Speaker 1: gave him every ability to openly communicate. But I think
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  Speaker 1: that's a great quality that you have, is you could
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  Speaker 1: have handled it and like understood and maybe even gone
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  Speaker 1: back at him a little bit and then be like, hey,
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  Speaker 1: you led me on or whatever. But at least you
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  Speaker 1: could have the conversation without it like absolutely blowing up.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, no, for sure, but that's in the past. On
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  Speaker 3: to better things, right.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, speaking of better things, we got so many better things.
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  Speaker 1: You are at jingle Ball and you are going on
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  Speaker 1: a date tonight.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know how to feel. I'm excited. It's like
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  Speaker 3: a full on blind date. Like I asked for his
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  Speaker 3: Instagram and they told me no, and I'm like, it's a.
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  Speaker 1: Oh because I have his instagram right here. I'm looking
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  Speaker 1: at it to stop. Okay, you may give you a
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  Speaker 1: few hints. Yeah, he is. He is very handsome, like
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  Speaker 1: very handsome, and he is in good shape, like physically fit.
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  Speaker 1: You can tell that man does the.
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  Speaker 3: Gym, works out.
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  Speaker 1: It takes care of himself, takes care of himself that
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  Speaker 1: I will tell you what do you want to know
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  Speaker 1: what his bio and his Instagram says. I don't think
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  Speaker 1: you can search that right, No, okay. It says between
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  Speaker 1: living the dream.
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  Speaker 2: And chasing it?
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  Speaker 3: Okay, is that it?
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  Speaker 2: That's all? Well? He's also.
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  Speaker 3: No, that's good. That's cute.
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  Speaker 2: He also sits.
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  Speaker 1: In the C suite, which means he is the COO
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  Speaker 1: of a very respected company.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, well good. It sounds like he has all together
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  Speaker 3: a little bit.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, athletic.
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  Speaker 3: What's his hair color? Dark?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's dark. It's dark. It's like a dark brown.
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  Speaker 1: And I will say there is not an obnoxious amount
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  Speaker 1: of shirtless picks on his Instagram, which is a good sign.
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  Speaker 1: There's a few, but it's like they're respectable, like hey,
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  Speaker 1: we're at the beach kind of thing. But like there's
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  Speaker 1: no like mere selfies and his without his shirt on,
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  Speaker 1: which I think is a good sign.
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  Speaker 3: It's a very good sign. Green flag, green flag.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. How do you feel about tattoos?
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  Speaker 3: I like tattoos?
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  Speaker 2: Good, all right, that's fair, Mercedes. He nervous, Yeah, a
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  Speaker 2: little bit.
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  Speaker 3: I mean it's like a blind date. But I don't know.
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  Speaker 3: At the end of the day, Like, I'm just really
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  Speaker 3: excited and I love that, Like I have all my
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  Speaker 3: friends here too with me.
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  Speaker 1: I want to talk about that tonight at jingle Ball
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  Speaker 1: with you. You have Katie and Zach. Katie is a
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  Speaker 1: great friend to you. Justin Glaze, Grant Ellis, Jonathan Johnson,
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  Speaker 1: Joe and Serena, Jess, Drad and Gabby l Nicky are
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  Speaker 1: going to be there as well. With you, Gabby and
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  Speaker 1: Jess and Katie and you. You've done trips together, You're
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  Speaker 1: great friends. It's gonna be a blast. But I do think,
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  Speaker 1: you know, in some of the dates we've set up
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  Speaker 1: already on this show with other people, uh, there has
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  Speaker 1: been this kind of balance between when you're there with friends,
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  Speaker 1: how do you give them attention and enjoy the moment
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  Speaker 1: with them while also giving your date attention and you know,
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  Speaker 1: seeing if there's anything there.
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  Speaker 2: How do you plan on doing that?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, honestly, I was talking to Jess about that because
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  Speaker 3: I'm like, I'm going to see you guys having fun
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  Speaker 3: and be like I want to be with them, but
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  Speaker 3: then also like I'm on a blind date, so I
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  Speaker 3: have to like figure out how to do it. I
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  Speaker 3: don't know. I hope he's like just because Zach's gonna
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  Speaker 3: be there too, So like I hope like we can
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  Speaker 3: be like in a group setting too and like all
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  Speaker 3: hang out and see how he like just jumps in
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  Speaker 3: with my friend group and how everything works. But obviously
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  Speaker 3: I'm going to like have like make sure he feels
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  Speaker 3: like welcome and seen. So I don't know, I'm just
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  Speaker 3: gonna have to like figure it out in the moment.
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  Speaker 1: I think, yeah, it is a balance, though, I think
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  Speaker 1: there's nothing more attractive than a human. I remember this
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  Speaker 1: when I met my wife on some of our first
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  Speaker 1: initial hangouts with groups of people. One her desire to
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  Speaker 1: introduce me to people like that was a big deal,
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  Speaker 1: Like I could tell she was excited to introduce me
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  Speaker 1: to people. But also when she hung out with my friends,
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  Speaker 1: her ability to kind of be her own solo human
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  Speaker 1: and mingle without meaning to stand beside her and like
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  Speaker 1: coach her up or you know, it was cool to
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  Speaker 1: look off and look in the crowd and be like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: there is Jess talking to one of my friends and
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  Speaker 1: they're having a blast.
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  Speaker 2: Like that's a big deal to me.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, And I also think like that, Yeah, I would
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  Speaker 3: agree when that when someone can like go up, not
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  Speaker 3: do their own thing, but be able to like hold
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  Speaker 3: themselves and not have to have you like right there
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  Speaker 3: all the time, I think that's very attractive.
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  Speaker 1: For sure, it's super is it's going to be a
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  Speaker 1: super fun evening. I have high hopes just that the
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  Speaker 1: date's fun. I think this is a good guy. He's
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  Speaker 1: obviously handsome. He I will say, he is very excited
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  Speaker 1: for tonight. Is yes, we have here at the show.
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  Speaker 1: He is very excited, and he hopes that you know,
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  Speaker 1: this could be a fun evening and maybe more dates
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  Speaker 1: to come, but we'll have to see how tonight goes first. Now,
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  Speaker 1: you do have a big friend group. There is there
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  Speaker 1: anybody specific that you really hope he wins over? Or
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  Speaker 1: is there is there anybody in this friend group that
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  Speaker 1: we just mentioned that you feel like will be a
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  Speaker 1: tough win for him.
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  Speaker 3: No, not really, not a tough win. I feel like everyone.
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  Speaker 3: I feel like maybe Jess, if I had to choose one.
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  Speaker 2: She is like Puerto Rican and she's a little sassy, yes.
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  Speaker 3: And she yes, she's yeah, she's sassy, but she also
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  Speaker 3: like I don't know, like she's all always like telling
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  Speaker 3: me like you're not good or you're not good enough.
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  Speaker 3: They're not good enough, you know what I'm saying. Like
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  Speaker 3: these things, I'm like way up here. So I feel
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  Speaker 3: like if I had to choose one person, it would
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  Speaker 3: be Jess would be like the hard win. But even
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  Speaker 3: she's just going to be like, have a great time
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  Speaker 3: and talk to anyone, so it'll be fun.
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  Speaker 1: We're going to set up some wing women for you,
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  Speaker 1: and it's not people in your immediate friend group. We're
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  Speaker 1: going to be talking to them here very soon, and
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  Speaker 1: they're going to be there spying, giving me all the
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  Speaker 1: insights tonight on how things are going. But also their
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  Speaker 1: really only job is to accurately depict who you are,
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  Speaker 1: which is somebody great, And so they're going to make
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  Speaker 1: sure that everybody there knows you're great. Hopefully not to
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  Speaker 1: an annoying extent, but if that's even a thing. Are
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  Speaker 1: you when you go on a first date? You this
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  Speaker 1: is your second first date in a few months. I
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  Speaker 1: mean goodness, we've really picked up steam here. Do you
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  Speaker 1: plead pre planning questions? Do you think through what kind
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  Speaker 1: of things you want to ask him? Or are you
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  Speaker 1: just going in and winging it?
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  Speaker 3: I just go in and wing it. But honestly, I
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  Speaker 3: feel like I should have some questions, especially if you like,
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  Speaker 3: I don't know, because I feel like this is like
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  Speaker 3: a different situation too, But I don't know. Usually I
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  Speaker 3: just go in and wing it and just like feel
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  Speaker 3: the vibe and like I kind of just like follow
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  Speaker 3: their lead, like on where they want, like depth wise,
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  Speaker 3: you know, like what they want to talk about, just
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  Speaker 3: kind of follow their lead.
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  Speaker 1: So is there anything specific that you'll be paying extra
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  Speaker 1: attention to. I mean, I gave you a lot of info.
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to give you a little more info towards
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  Speaker 1: the end of this show, okay about him, But is
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  Speaker 1: there anything that really is going to stand out to
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  Speaker 1: you right away?
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  Speaker 3: No, not really. I think the biggest especially in this
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  Speaker 3: situation and like going into like with my friends, I
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  Speaker 3: think it's one thing that I'm going to really look
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  Speaker 3: at is like how we interacts and how he just
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  Speaker 3: like jumps in. I feel like that like says a lot.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, here's some more information on him. Okay, he's thirty
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  Speaker 1: years old, Okay, he lives in Los Angeles. How does
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  Speaker 1: that feel so far?
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  Speaker 3: Age? Great? La? I mean that's fine, I'm here all
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  Speaker 3: the time.
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  Speaker 1: Like you, he's been on reality television before the Bachelor,
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  Speaker 1: not saying what show? No? Oh, okay, if he was
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  Speaker 1: on the Bachelor, would that be a problem.
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  Speaker 3: No, No, it wouldn't. I want you. You can't tell
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  Speaker 3: me what show? No, because then I'll look him up.
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  Speaker 3: Dang it.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not going to tell you what show.
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  Speaker 1: It did feel I mean, if I'm honest, Mercedes, it
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  Speaker 1: felt like your initial reaction was this is a problem.
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  Speaker 3: It's not a problem because I'm very open, but like,
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  Speaker 3: if you sat me down and asked, like my perfect whatever,
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  Speaker 3: like being on reality TV, probably wouldn't. But that's also
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  Speaker 3: like kind of shallow of me because I've also been
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  Speaker 3: on reality TV. So like, it doesn't actually matter. I don't,
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  Speaker 3: I don't care.
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  Speaker 2: I'm glad we just talked through that together. That was good.
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  Speaker 1: He's a mortgage broker okay, and co owns a music
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  Speaker 1: distribution label.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, So maybe he visits Nashville too. He's in music.
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  Speaker 2: I bet he's heard of Nashville.
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  Speaker 3: At least he's definitely heard of it for sure.
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  Speaker 1: He's passionate about music and makes his own plus DJs
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  Speaker 1: for fun.
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  Speaker 2: On the side.
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  Speaker 3: I think that's great.
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  Speaker 2: And it's a side hustle for him. This is not
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  Speaker 2: He's not.
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  Speaker 3: Like, so he's a mortgage broker, is that what we said?
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  Speaker 1: A mortgage broker and co owns a music distribution label.
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  Speaker 1: Music is very It's something he's very passionate about. And
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  Speaker 1: so tonight, I'm only telling you this to help you
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  Speaker 1: is obviously tonight is all about the music at jingle
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  Speaker 1: Ball and the celebrit of the seasons, and so this
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  Speaker 1: could be a great evening for the two of you
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  Speaker 1: because you're just listening to the thing he loves.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, no, for sure. And also I think green Flag
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  Speaker 3: like no matter what it is, if you It's so
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  Speaker 3: crazy because I actually was just talking about this with
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  Speaker 3: some of my guy friends because they're like, what's something
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  Speaker 3: that you want in a man? And I was like,
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  Speaker 3: I want him to be passionate about something outside of
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  Speaker 3: his job. So like he has his job, but then
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  Speaker 3: you have something that like you're super passionate about in love.
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  Speaker 1: So j my wife and I were just talking about
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  Speaker 1: this at lunch like an hour ago, on how our
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  Speaker 1: marriage operates, and we not I mean, we love each
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  Speaker 1: other so much. She's the coolest, but we run like
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  Speaker 1: two separate lanes sometimes, right, she has her own deal.
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  Speaker 1: I have mine. I try to stay as familiar with
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  Speaker 1: her deal as she does mine. But there's days where
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  Speaker 1: she's at work and I have no clue, you know,
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  Speaker 1: the thing she's doing. But it's awesome that we get
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  Speaker 1: to come together and talk about it.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, end of the day.
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  Speaker 1: It helps us, I think, stay very healthy as a couple.
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  Speaker 1: We also can stay very curious about each other because
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  Speaker 1: things are always changing and it's nice to have somebody
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  Speaker 1: like that you that you know something that she's passionate
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  Speaker 1: about that I can get behind. Now, my final question
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  Speaker 1: for you is if you had a goal for the
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  Speaker 1: end of the night, what would that goal be?
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  Speaker 2: And let's let's say this date goes well, that.
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  Speaker 1: It's going, let's say well, but there's still like some
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  Speaker 1: questions on how well. What would be like an outcome
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  Speaker 1: that you would at the end of the night with
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  Speaker 1: all your girls like giggle, scream and shout and be
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  Speaker 1: excited about.
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  Speaker 3: I think just like looking back at the night and
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  Speaker 3: being like, oh my gosh, that was so fun. I
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  Speaker 3: think like that's my number one priority is just like
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  Speaker 3: having fun getting to know him tonight. And then obviously like,
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  Speaker 3: best case scenario is we like vibe and then maybe there's.
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  Speaker 2: Another date, another date. That's great.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, Mercedes, I'm pumped for you. Have a blast at
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  Speaker 1: jingle Ball. It's an incredible event, an incredible evening. It
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  Speaker 1: is full of just like the coolest moments of you know,
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  Speaker 1: artists and getting to meet people, have fun with your friends,
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  Speaker 1: have a great time on the date itself. I do
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  Speaker 1: have one challenge for you, Okay. My challenge is very easy.
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  Speaker 1: My challenge is to introduce him to the group of
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  Speaker 1: bachelor people right away to make sure he assimilates and
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  Speaker 1: he's familiar with people. Even though it is your first date,
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  Speaker 1: you are probably I'm assuming, the only other person he
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  Speaker 1: would even know, and so you're like his sidekick as well.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I definitely want to make sure he feels like
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  Speaker 3: welcome and like safe and can talk to anyone. So
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  Speaker 3: definitely we'll be doing that.
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  Speaker 1: I have a blast. This has been famously available with Mercedes.
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  Speaker 1: We're gonna follow this date now throughout the week. We're
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  Speaker 1: going to get interviews from friends of Mercedes, maybe even
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  Speaker 1: the person she's going on the date with. Uh, and
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  Speaker 1: then we're gonna be talking to Mercedes herself, so stay
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  Speaker 1: tuned to famously available. We're getting started this holiday season
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  Speaker 1: with some cheer I believe.
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  Speaker 2: I can't wait to catch up with you, Mercedes. Have
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  Speaker 2: a blast night all right by