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Go The F To College Oh Hell Yes Adam Manbach Is Back · Arroe Collins Like It's Live

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Speaker 1: they moved me to ten thirty, but heck, I'll go now.
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Speaker 1: I've been waiting a freaking month to talk to this
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Speaker 1: man for ten. But that's cool, all right, So take
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Speaker 1: you got fifteen minutes, so you're out as ten twenty. Adam,
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Speaker 1: I feel like that I've cheated on you because I
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Speaker 1: went and listened to Ted dance AND's story of this
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Speaker 1: My God in Heaven. You have got yourself a classic
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Speaker 1: here that I mean, I sat there, I was so entertained.
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Speaker 1: I've done nothing but talk about this story and then
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Speaker 1: to the book and and everything. Everything you've put here
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Speaker 1: is exactly what people need to hear and laugh about
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Speaker 1: as well as relate with.
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Speaker 2: Oh thank you so much. Yeah, Ted is amazing. I
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Speaker 2: was so happy when he came on to do the audiobook.
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Speaker 2: I grew up in Boston, so he you know, Sam
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Speaker 2: Malone was like my hero growing up, which in retrospect
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Speaker 2: is a little bit problematic. But you know, Cheers was everything.
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Speaker 2: Like they gave us quizzes on Cheers every Friday in school.
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Speaker 2: You know, we had to we had to know what
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Speaker 2: happened the night before.
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Speaker 1: Well, I love the idea that you're taking on this
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Speaker 1: subject because we're I'm not gonna lie to you. There's
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Speaker 1: a lot of young adults that are starting school and
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Speaker 1: two months later they're out of school, and and and
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Speaker 1: it's like and it's one of those So when I
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Speaker 1: see a title like this and I see what your
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Speaker 1: story is about, by god, this this girl is a
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Speaker 1: lucky person because you're looking at me because she's got
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Speaker 1: somebody behind her saying go go, go go.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, you know it's funny, man.
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Speaker 2: I mean, first of all, time passes so fast, like
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Speaker 2: my daughter, I have three daughters, like a farmer in
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Speaker 2: a joke, and this is the same one my oldest
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Speaker 2: who I wrote Go the F to Sleep about fifteen
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Speaker 2: years ago. And now suddenly she's out the door. And
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Speaker 2: the same way that that book was sort of the
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Speaker 2: secret interior monolout of every parent, and it kind of
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Speaker 2: gave language to something people felt, but.
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Speaker 3: We're a little bit afraid to say. You know, it's
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Speaker 3: like everything that you thought.
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Speaker 2: When you were in that room, trapped trying to get
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Speaker 2: out of there, contemplating the weird paradox that you love
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Speaker 2: this person more than anybody else in the world, and
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Speaker 2: also you would do anything to get out of that bedroom.
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Speaker 2: You know, it gets a little more complicated as the.
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Speaker 3: Kids get older.
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Speaker 2: And the same way that that book was like cathartic
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Speaker 2: and gave people permission and made them feel less alone
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Speaker 2: and made them feel like, you know, you can laugh
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Speaker 2: together instead of crying alone at parenthood, hopefully this does
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Speaker 2: something a little similar, but it's more complicated now and
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Speaker 2: this is no longer the secret interior monologue all the
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Speaker 2: stuff you want to say but can't. This is kind
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Speaker 2: of like the stuff you want to say and probably
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Speaker 2: should as your kid.
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Speaker 3: Is preparing to leave. For me, it's been you know.
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Speaker 2: It's hard man, Like I've I've come to terms, i
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Speaker 2: think with the fact that my beloved daughter will no
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Speaker 2: longer be living under my roof, but every day it
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Speaker 2: hits me in a new kind of way. Yep, And
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Speaker 2: you know, I try to get some So this looks
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Speaker 2: a little different. It's a little more emotional, it's a
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Speaker 2: little there's more. There's actual advice in it that I
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Speaker 2: think is actually good advice. You know, you want your kids.
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Speaker 2: The paradoxes of parenting get more complicated as the kids
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Speaker 2: get older. So now it's like you want your kid
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Speaker 2: to be adventurous but also safe, safe, but not too comfortable.
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Speaker 3: You want them to be out there exploring.
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Speaker 2: You want them to know that they can always come home,
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Speaker 2: but also you want them to know that turning their
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Speaker 2: room into a gym.
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Speaker 1: No, No, I could not do it, dude. You walk
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Speaker 1: into Ginny's room right now, and it's still exactly the
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Speaker 1: way that she left it, with all the handwriting she
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Speaker 1: put on the wall, and and and all the bands
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Speaker 1: of the early part of the nineteen nineties, and the
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Speaker 1: paintings that she did on there with her pain. I mean,
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Speaker 1: I can't do it because my mom and dad erased
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Speaker 1: my bedroom, which was a kiss capital of the world. Man,
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Speaker 1: Jean Simmons, as far as I'm concerned, he was living
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Speaker 1: in that room with me, and and so I mean
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Speaker 1: when you said that, I started laughing, and he's gonna
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Speaker 1: regret that. I know he's gonna want that bedroom to
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Speaker 1: come back.
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Speaker 2: Yeah I might, But you know my thing also, I
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Speaker 2: have two more kids at home, so they're already like
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Speaker 2: fighting over the spoils. They're already like and it's funny
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Speaker 2: because my daughter who's moving out her her sister is
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Speaker 2: actually gonna take over that bedroom.
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Speaker 3: I actually have a gym that I go to outside
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Speaker 3: of my house.
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Speaker 2: And my older kid is like, don't don't you want
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Speaker 2: to leave that poster up?
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Speaker 3: Don't you?
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Speaker 2: And and her her little sister. It's like, no, I
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Speaker 2: don't take it with you. She's like, here's your suitcase.
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Speaker 2: But you know, it's like, you know, you have the
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Speaker 2: desire at least I do to give all of this
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Speaker 2: like last minute desperate parenting advice. You're like, this kid's
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Speaker 2: going out into the world. How can they go to
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Speaker 2: college without knowing how to change a tire? Why did
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Speaker 2: I never teach them that? And then you're like, wait
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Speaker 2: a second, I don't know how to change a tire,
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Speaker 2: And you know my life.
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Speaker 1: Turned out Okay, that's almost like, you just gave me
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Speaker 1: a memory of my daughter when she goes, How did
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Speaker 1: you know I snuck out of the house because I
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Speaker 1: did it. I did the same exact game. You're not
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Speaker 1: doing anything different than what I did. And you you know,
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Speaker 1: it's like, you know, no, I'm not wanting you to
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Speaker 1: get in trouble. I'm just letting you know. I can
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Speaker 1: see you. Don't there's nothing you're gonna do that I
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Speaker 1: can't see you.
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Speaker 3: Right, No, that's right. And you know it's funny.
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Speaker 2: I have I almost wish that my kid would sneak
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Speaker 2: out of the house because now we had that impulse,
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Speaker 2: because we wanted to just be together.
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Speaker 3: We wanted to see our friends.
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Speaker 2: We wanted to like run around in a dark town
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Speaker 2: and like be idiots.
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Speaker 3: Now they just you know, they just text each other.
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Speaker 2: They're just on a group chat and they don't actually
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Speaker 2: feel a need to be physically present with each other.
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Speaker 3: I'm like, hey, it's midnight, why don't you sneak out
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Speaker 3: of the house. Why don't you meet your friends? Bad
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Speaker 3: by the old playground. My daughter is like, what are
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Speaker 3: you talking about? Right right right? I'm like, never mind,
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Speaker 3: never mind, carry on.
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Speaker 1: Wow, are you say this way. I may be asking
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Speaker 1: too far in the future of a question, but I
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Speaker 1: mean now that she's gone to college, now, I mean,
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Speaker 1: now it's the other chapters in life. Because I mean
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Speaker 1: I sit across from my daughter now with my twenty
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Speaker 1: two year old granddaughter, and you just sit there and
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Speaker 1: you're just watching it. I don't want to say a
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Speaker 1: damn thing. All I'm doing is going You know, this
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Speaker 1: story started with us, and look at this story growing.
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Speaker 1: So I can't wait to hear even more books from you, dude.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, you know.
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Speaker 2: I never intended to write godef to college. It's just
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Speaker 2: kind of like where life took me. So I'm keeping
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Speaker 2: an open mind.
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Speaker 3: It is. It feels almost inevitable.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, it goes. It goes so perfect with your book,
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Speaker 1: because I mean, we don't need Truman with Jim Carrey
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Speaker 1: to tell the story of the American life or anybody's life.
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Speaker 1: I mean, we got books, so like here's that are saying, Yep,
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Speaker 1: he knows it. I know exactly where this guy was
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Speaker 1: and is and where he's gonna go.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I appreciate that. I mean, it's a funny thing.
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Speaker 3: It never really occurred.
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Speaker 2: To me until I sat down and wrote the book
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Speaker 2: that everybody who had a two year old a three
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Speaker 2: year old when I did obviously has an eighteen year
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Speaker 2: old now as well. So there's a kind of funny
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Speaker 2: and sweet way in which we're all still in lockstep
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Speaker 2: and going through this together. And hopefully the people who
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Speaker 2: relied on go the F to sleep to get them
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Speaker 2: through some tough nights, you know, we'll get this book
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Speaker 2: and see themselves in it or want to give it
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Speaker 2: to their kids to express something that they maybe can't
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Speaker 2: quite find the language for.
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Speaker 3: So I tried to, you know, I sort of tried.
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Speaker 2: To like be all over the place with this book.
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Speaker 2: There's actual advice that I think is valuable. Like there's
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Speaker 2: a page on this book that says, no pills, no powders.
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Speaker 1: Yeah not blackout.
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Speaker 2: Yes yes, yeah, yeah, yeah, no pills, no powders, do
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Speaker 2: not black out.
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Speaker 3: These things are not good for your health. And if
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Speaker 3: anybody tells you different, tell that ahole to go f themselves.
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Speaker 3: That's important advice.
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Speaker 2: But you know, it's also I think for me equally
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Speaker 2: important to give some of the advice or you know,
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Speaker 2: delve into some of the things that are a little
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Speaker 2: a little more personal in this book, Like there's another page,
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Speaker 2: the one that I sort of tear up when I
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Speaker 2: think about is the rhyme is like parenting is a
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Speaker 2: lot like life. You mostly improvise it. So for all
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Speaker 2: the bests that I did wrong, I'm sorry and I'm
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Speaker 2: glad you survived. You know, I feel like as our
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Speaker 2: kids age, for me, it's important to let them know
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Speaker 2: that we are human, we are fallible, We've made mistakes.
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Speaker 2: They can also make mistakes, and as long as we
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Speaker 2: keep an open line of communication about it, we can
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Speaker 2: get through anything.
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Speaker 3: That goes wrong, you know, feeling like at this one moment,
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Speaker 3: I was like, oh, man, my daughter's going to college.
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Speaker 3: I never talked to my parents once I went to college.
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Speaker 2: And then I stopped and I was like, I never
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Speaker 2: really talked to my parents before I went to college.
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Speaker 3: You know, like, like I.
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Speaker 2: Get more information from my kid in a weekend than
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Speaker 2: I've given my parents two days.
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Speaker 1: So true in life, so true.
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Speaker 2: You know, I think a lot of us have these
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Speaker 2: very lovely relationships with our kids where we really do
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Speaker 2: know them and see them, and they in turn get
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Speaker 2: to know and see us, and it's beautiful and hopefully,
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Speaker 2: you know that can continue even when they are moving
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Speaker 2: out and across the country.
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Speaker 1: In my kid's case, please do not move. There is
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Speaker 1: more fun with Adam mahndback coming up next. The name
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Speaker 1: of the book, go the F to College, And you've
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Speaker 1: got to hear Ted Danson when he does it on audible.
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Speaker 1: Yeah we're back. Who're the Adam Manbuck? This really is
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Speaker 1: the perfect book for graduates of high school. And I
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Speaker 1: realized we're talking about the F word, and and I
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Speaker 1: know that what Ted Danson did. I don't care. I'm
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Speaker 1: from Montana. We cuss out there on the fields with
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Speaker 1: the cattle and the sheep, you knows. And maybe that's
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Speaker 1: my connection to this book. And I'm going you bought
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Speaker 1: you go, boy, that's exactly what we need to be doing.
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Speaker 1: We needed to, you know, because here's the thing. Because
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Speaker 1: my daughter was to drop out in the tenth grade
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Speaker 1: then and went on to graduate from UCLA, got her
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Speaker 1: degree when she came back to the Carolinas I mean
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Speaker 1: a master's degree. So it's like, when you can relate
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Speaker 1: with your child like you're relating here, I guarantee you
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Speaker 1: it's going to be such a much bigger picture on
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Speaker 1: the opposite end, because you stood beside them the entire way.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that's right, And I think it's important
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Speaker 2: to let kids know not only that you see them,
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Speaker 2: but that you love them, not for what they accomplished,
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Speaker 2: but for who they are. And in the college process,
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Speaker 2: it's easy to lose sight of that because everybody is
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Speaker 2: so focused on getting to the finish line, getting into
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Speaker 2: the dream school. You know, so like it was important
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Speaker 2: to me, for example, to get a Stanza in this
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Speaker 2: book to.
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Speaker 3: The effect of, like, you know, the school you go
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Speaker 3: to doesn't define you.
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Speaker 2: You're much more than what you achieve and upward down
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Speaker 2: succeed or fail, you're more love than you definite believe.
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Speaker 1: Like we got to.
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Speaker 3: You know.
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Speaker 2: It's it's very easy to praise people for their accomplishments,
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Speaker 2: and everybody likes to hear that, but you know, for me,
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Speaker 2: it's also important that we remember It's very obvious, but like,
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Speaker 2: remind yourself, remind your kids that you love them for
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Speaker 2: who they are, not for what they do. You know,
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Speaker 2: and listen, man, I've been I've been on hundreds of
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Speaker 2: campuses in this country. I've been a guest lecturer everywhere
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Speaker 2: from community colleges to Harvard, and it's very clear to
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Speaker 2: me that like, there are brilliant people at every school
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Speaker 2: and complete idiots at every school, and you know, you
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Speaker 2: end up where.
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Speaker 3: You end up, and it's gonna be fine.
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Speaker 2: Like at the end of the day, it's all gonna
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Speaker 2: be fine.
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Speaker 1: Your attitude, I love it. I love it so much.
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Speaker 1: In fact, I was going to ask you, is there
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Speaker 1: any possible way that, through your writing and your transparent
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Speaker 1: see in honesty, that you can write a book about
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Speaker 1: our guy, Drake May, Because I mean, that guy grew
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Speaker 1: up there in Charlotte and you guys have him now,
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Speaker 1: and I feel like a father that you stole our
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Speaker 1: child being up there on that gam I mean, I mean,
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Speaker 1: I just want to see you if you're taking care
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Speaker 1: of our kid who was once a high school star
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Speaker 1: down here. Dude.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, hey, I'll do what I can. You know, I
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Speaker 3: try to be a father to you know, every athlete
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Speaker 3: in the growth. That has not.
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Speaker 2: Resulted in me getting a single free ticket anywhere, but
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Speaker 2: I will continue. It's funny like watching my kids. I've
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Speaker 2: gotten my kids to be Celtics fans, which is a
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Speaker 2: great accomplishment for me. I live in California, I live
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Speaker 2: in the Bay Area. They don't care about the Warriors.
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Speaker 2: You know, they they are riding high on the twenty
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Speaker 2: twenty three championship we won. They're invested, and you know,
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Speaker 2: it's a funny and beautiful thing. But it's not lost
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Speaker 2: to me that the year my two younger kids, I've
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Speaker 2: seven and a nine year old, in addition to my
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Speaker 2: eighteen year old, I have three daughters like a farmer
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Speaker 2: and a joke. The year I got them into basketball
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Speaker 2: was the year the Celtics won the championship. And so
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Speaker 2: I was like, I was like, which was great, but
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Speaker 2: also I was like, oh no, this is this is
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Speaker 2: the bar.
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Speaker 3: The bar has been set in possibly high.
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Speaker 2: They're gonna be disappointed for the rest of their lives
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Speaker 2: because they think that you just start following a team
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Speaker 2: and then you ride them all the way to the championship.
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Speaker 2: And you know, I grew up in Boston under the
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Speaker 2: curse of the Bambino, like I know, heartbreak, and I'm like,
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Speaker 2: my kids.
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Speaker 3: Are never gonna have that underdog feeling.
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Speaker 2: They're always gonna be chasing that dragon, like, oh man,
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Speaker 2: the minute we started watching Tatum and Jamn Brown led
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Speaker 2: the Celtics to a championship. You know, my daughter's like
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Speaker 2: still asked me every day you told me you were
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Speaker 2: gonna buy me a porzingis Jersey.
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Speaker 3: Where's my porzingis Jersey? And I'm like, yo, it's unavailable
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Speaker 3: on the internet. I don't know what to tell you.
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Speaker 1: Please tell me that you're working with somebody to turn
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Speaker 1: this into a short, because do you not feel it
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Speaker 1: that this could be one of these award winning year
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Speaker 1: in shorts. I mean, because it's so it's so authentically
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Speaker 1: real that I don't think there's anybody that can't relate
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Speaker 1: with this. I mean because it is so unbelievably in
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Speaker 1: touch with where we are.
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Speaker 3: Oh, thank you, I appreciate that. Yeah, yeah we are.
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Speaker 3: We are gonna.
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Speaker 2: Probably put it out as, like, I don't know, some
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Speaker 2: kind of short, animated piece, so that we get that
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Speaker 2: dimension as well. And you know, I mean hearing Ted
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Speaker 2: Danson read it and getting to interview, get it, get it,
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Speaker 2: get into getting to direct him over zoom. It's interesting
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Speaker 2: how the words take on a whole different residence when
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Speaker 2: somebody of that caliber. I mean, I've been so lucky,
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Speaker 2: right like Sam Jackson. You know, Sam Jackson read the
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Speaker 2: first one, probably his best work since pulp fiction, and
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Speaker 2: then we had Brian Cranston. With the second one, we
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Speaker 2: had had Larry David. So hearing my words in the
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Speaker 2: mouths of these iconic actors is so gratifying, and you know,
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Speaker 2: it's like the words feel truer, they take on a
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Speaker 2: new level of power when I hear these guys do
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Speaker 2: these pieces.
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Speaker 3: You know, growing up in Boston.
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Speaker 2: Of course, like Ted Danson is especially even more so
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Speaker 2: an I kind.
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Speaker 3: Of me than you know, maybe for other people. He's
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Speaker 3: like one of.
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Speaker 2: Those actors I can close my eyes and hear his
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Speaker 2: voice in my head anytime, because you know, like I
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Speaker 2: grew up with Sam alone. So yeah, turning it into
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Speaker 2: some kind of short would be fun. You know, it's
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Speaker 2: interesting over the years, people have pitched me all manner
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Speaker 2: of movie adaptations and TV shows based on Go the
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Speaker 2: f To Sleep and the sequels.
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Speaker 3: And it's hard to calibrate.
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Speaker 2: It's hard to get right because you know, at the
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Speaker 2: end of the day, this is a four hundred word
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Speaker 2: fake children's book. Many of those words repeated more than once,
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Speaker 2: and it's like they do something for people. They've given
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Speaker 2: people some kind of catharsis let people, you know, feel
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Speaker 2: better about the community of parents that they exist and
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Speaker 2: feel a sense of togetherness.
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Speaker 3: But it's not always easy to figure out.
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Speaker 2: How to like get that onto the screen, and maybe
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Speaker 2: not everything needs to be on.
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Speaker 3: The screen, so you know, we'll see.
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Speaker 1: Wow twenty minutes with you. It is not enough, dude,
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Speaker 1: If you ever come through the Carolinas, we gotta have
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Speaker 1: a face to face. I mean, I can show you
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Speaker 1: where Drake really does live and how people are still
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Speaker 1: affected by him. Your storytelling is amazing. You got to
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Speaker 1: come back to the show anytime in the future. The
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Speaker 1: door is always going to be open for you.
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Speaker 3: Oh hey, careful what you wish for. I might I
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Speaker 3: might take you up on that you might have You
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Speaker 3: might have a month from that you can be like,
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Speaker 3: how do we get rid of this guy? Stop rambling
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Speaker 3: on and on?
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Speaker 1: Will you be brilliant today? Okay, Adam? And it was
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Speaker 1: so well worth the thirty days I had to wait
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Speaker 1: for you, and probably even longer because of the first book.
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Speaker 1: But I thought, I he'll never talk to me, He'll
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Speaker 1: never spend a moment with me, And I'm just so glad.
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Speaker 1: You're so blessed dude.
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Speaker 2: Oh, thanks so much, and I appreciate you having me
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Speaker 2: and I literally will be back anytime you walk.
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Speaker 1: Excellent. Thank you so much. You enjoy Okay, all right,
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Speaker 1: you too,