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Glimmers, Therapy & Loose Chickens · You Know What I Mean?

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  Welcome to the You Know what I Mean podcast by Kate and
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  Bethany. To keep up with us on the daily
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  And subscribe. Now let's get to the show.
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  Oh, those get all in the teeth, Hi.
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  Hi oh we're recording as I'm cleaning out from cheddar.
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  Annie's cheddar squares out of my teeth.
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  You know what I kind of love when our episode starts with us
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  just talking. It's.
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  The most realistic like us doing like hey welcome to our podcast
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  will never happen I. Know well we have the intro
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  which that's there. Exactly.
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  Thank goodness we created that. Whose fabulous idea was that?
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  Definitely not mine. You are very like which is so
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  good. It is, yeah.
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  We balance each other out beautifully, Yeah.
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  I'm good, how are you? Can I redo my glimmers?
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  Yeah, Bethany's having glimmer remorse.
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  Oh my. God I loved your glimmers, even
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  the mouse one. It just came off a little weird.
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  I know your mic a little. Closer to you if you can.
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  There you go. I should probably put my seat
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  down. Oh my.
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  Gosh, wait. Is that too short so.
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  It's so good. I just want people to see the
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  visual of that you looked my height.
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  Yeah, I mean, we came back around to and I got no messages
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  like Bethany, you're such a hateful person, so that's good.
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  Literally, I don't think that you could.
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  Even if you said something hateful, I don't think you'd
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  ever give off the Bethany's a hateful person vibe.
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  OK, good. No, that would make me very sad.
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  I went. A little savage on my that one
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  question you asked me about things that make you
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  irrationally whatever I got, I got irrational just talking
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  about being irrational. Which I thought I, I, you know,
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  what I've realized and ever since that name game or word
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  game that you threw at me, I am terrible at things under
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  pressure. Like I even asking this question
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  where I'm like, Oh my God, I don't know what my answer is.
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  You go first. It's just like, I don't like
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  pressure things, you know? Yeah, it's so funny, 'cause
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  like, I'm sure like if it's something that really, really
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  matters, you could make a good call.
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  But yeah, that is like, definitely.
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  Even if it's like, where should we go out to lunch or something?
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  You're like, it's like, of course we're gonna go to a place
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  we've gone to 8000 times. Like why?
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  Don't we exit up? Yeah, I know, but the the.
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  Decision making is like. What?
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  OK, well, glimmers. OK, let's start with I'll give
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  my three 'cause I got I got quick ones, nothing too crazy.
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  Came up with a great recipe for an iced coffee.
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  You did share it with us. OK, so 'cause Carly messaged me,
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  Carly the trainer in Wisconsin, and she was saying I should try
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  coconut milk, but I had already started trying this.
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  So it's just almond milk unsweetened, and then a dash of
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  that Chobani hazelnut. Oh my God.
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  OK, so it is what you it is what you were gonna create.
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  Yes, you hadn't. You just hadn't done it yet
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  'cause you were using the 2% milk.
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  Yes, which I think you're right. I think it's fair life that
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  really messes you. Yeah, 'cause I'm great now 2. 2
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  Sweet. Potatoes.
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  Do you like sweet potatoes? Yes.
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  Do I love them? No.
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  OK, well so I'm going to tell you something.
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  You've probably heard it, but I saw someone share how to cook it
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  online on Instagram. Probably.
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  Is it the? Oven where you cut them in half.
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  Yes, at 400. OK, see I see different
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  temperatures so this is good to know you've tested this out.
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  So 400 and they're usually like medium size, not like giant, but
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  medium. Cut them in half, spray the top,
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  put a little salt on top and I usually check it because one
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  girl was like, I just wait until I smell them.
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  No, you can't do that 'cause they're they burn.
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  OK, Yeah. That didn't work for me, so.
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  It's smoking. I can smell them.
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  They must be done well. 'Cause you know, like the, the
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  caramelization stuff, it turns pretty quickly to char.
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  OK, so I don't know what the actually the timing is, 'cause
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  I'm actually do it where it's like an hour and then I'll do
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  like 15 more minutes an hour. Oh yeah, it's like I might.
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  Need to do my mine a little bit lower our oven I think cooks
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  very hot. Oh really, 'cause everything
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  that like people will be like you need to do it for this long.
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  If I do it for that long fried really, yes.
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  So maybe I should do like 375 or two time?
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  Or check maybe check like set it 30 minutes and check it.
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  But the the thing I found I don't I might I'm probably not
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  doing it like everyone else, but they turn out really good.
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  But once you get it to the certain time frame, like an hour
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  and 15 for me to an hour and 30, then the because when I flip it
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  over, they're not really like I've seen where it's like
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  caramelized. You like pick it up.
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  OK, Well, that doesn't really happen for me.
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  But what I have found is they do caramelize when you take them
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  out of the oven and you let them sit for like 10-15 minutes.
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  Then when you like pick it up, it's like caramel underneath
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  kind of. But I'm telling you, we've been
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  having this and it tastes, we put some cinnamon on it.
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  It tastes like apple pie, no? That's dramatic.
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  I think that's dramatic. But I love the encouragement.
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  It's not gonna replace my sweet treat if that's what you're
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  trying to do. OK, that will.
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  That yeah, that's what I was putting in there.
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  But. Yeah, someone else messaged me
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  and they said I love that you have a little ice cream sweet
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  treat almost every night because same.
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  And I'm like, you are my person. I love that Casey calls it Icy
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  or he did that. You want another icy?
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  And I was like, Oh my God, that's something.
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  And. You're like, how could I say no
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  to that? I know you cannot say no to
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  that, no. What's your third?
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  OK. Third is we have these milkweed
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  plants. I don't even know what that is.
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  OK, so I didn't either. It's for butterflies, so they
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  love milkweed. Oh, so the milkweed you're
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  planting is to attract the butterflies for the joys of
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  having the butterflies around? Well, so they they lay their
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  eggs. So the real thing that you see
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  is, and I saw one today, this was the big climber where a a
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  butterfly landed on it put its little like butt up on.
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  They put their their eggs underneath the leaves, but
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  they're so tiny. I see they're what?
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  OK, so that's very exciting. OK, so when we lost them, I got
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  three of them. So I was like, Oh my God, why
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  would I just get 1? So I got 3.
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  There was a Caterpillar that was like this big.
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  The one that you post in your stories.
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  Yes, that was. Huge.
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  OK, so he went off and 'cause they, they travel away from it
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  to find a spot for a cocoon, which is so sad that it's not on
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  the milkweed, 'cause that would even be more amazing.
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  Can you imagine? Like no, I'm just watching.
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  So that one's gone, but there's four tiny baby caterpillars on
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  the leaves, yes. So do they just hang there until
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  they're big enough to fly away? Well, so they love the
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  milkweeds. They eat them.
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  So it's kind of like the the butterfly lands there, deposits
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  their eggs and then these little caterpillars and then they grow
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  to where they're big enough. So they just chomp away at the
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  leaves and then they venture off somewhere and then become
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  butterflies. Gosh, my glimmers are not this
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  like, interesting. OK, well I really had to make
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  mine very glimmery because. Yeah, because last time you were
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  murder scenes and that was your glimmer.
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  What's yours? OK, my first one is celebrating
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  11 year old Roro. Yes.
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  So birthday was on Sunday. We had our second.
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  SO yeah, it was the day after we no, it was the day that you and
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  I recorded because we recorded a day late yesterday or last week.
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  We had our second therapy session.
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  Casey and I, I haven't updated anyone from because we didn't
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  have have any sessions. Yeah, I think I was made to do
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  that. Like I love therapy.
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  You know, some people I think like are like dread their
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  therapy sessions. I can't wait for our next one.
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  I've heard that that's a byproduct of it.
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  I think it would be different if, like, we were going there,
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  we hated each other, you know, and like you're sitting there
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  talking about like, like, it's just been like, I don't know, I
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  just feel like it's such a relief after it gives me 'cause
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  like for, I think it's more like I'm feeling very like heard and
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  listened to and, you know, we both just feel very supported
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  with each other on it. And I'm just like, I don't know
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  if Casey loves it as much as I do 'cause I think it's a little
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  bit harder for him to express his feelings, but I'm like, I
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  wanna do therapy every week. I wanna talk to her all the
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  time. I just, I just love it.
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  I feel validated and like, yeah, and I just feel like extra
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  connected after our sessions and stuff.
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  So yeah, I've been loving therapy.
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  Oh, that makes. Me so happy.
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  I mean, I cry, I've cried on both of them, but the first one
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  like I talked about was like, you know, just like laying it
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  all out there. But yes.
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  Or yesterday, last week's was very much like we were more
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  getting into like some specifics of things, but it felt very like
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  for both of us, it just felt very like, yes, that's exactly
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  how we're both feeling. And there's a cool moment too,
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  where I went through something and then the therapist had asked
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  Casey, like, what are you hearing Caitlin say?
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  And what he responded back like, again, very, very supportive.
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  But like to me, I'm like, that's not what I said.
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  And that was so like, so I was, you know, of course I just
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  listened to what he thought I said and I had said to him back
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  like some of that. But I'm like really, that's not
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  what I felt I was trying to get across.
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  So I think that was really helpful because I think that's
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  something we run into often is like how I say something or vice
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  versa, how a person says something versus how it's heard
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  can be two different things. So that we both are like holding
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  what we hear as like that's our truth.
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  But that's like, you know, so it was just really I was like, oh,
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  that's interesting that like that's what he heard.
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  There was nothing wrong with what he heard.
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  Yeah. But like the main topic that I
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  felt I was saying was not the thing that was heard in my like
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  it was, it was really interesting.
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  So I find it very like I, I'm sure some people could find that
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  like frustrating or something like that, but it wasn't at all.
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  So that was my second glimmer. Like, OK, let me ask real quick
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  because last time when you said you were feeling like you had to
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  get the right answer or you were saying your answers in a way
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  that was like because of. Yeah, yeah.
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  But did you feel the? Next time.
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  I did. And there was a couple of times
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  where I was like doing my ramble thing and then I would say I'm
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  like, I literally have forgotten your question now.
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  And she's like, she's just like, that's OK.
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  Like it was just very like, that's all right.
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  And then she like really nicely, like comes back to it.
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  She's like, I think you answered it.
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  Like is there anything else you wanted to add to that?
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  I'm like, no, I think I I covered some ground.
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  So nice. Yeah, but there was like certain
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  things we were talking about and like everything she she actually
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  like started getting into like talking about like our wounded.
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  Everyone has like a wounded child like something that left
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  is very much them. And how she pinpointed mine in
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  Casey's was so accurate of like how we feel we need to like
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  receive or hear. And I was just like, this is so
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  amazing. That's fascinating.
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  Yeah, yeah, it was so good. Yeah.
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  Oh my. Gosh.
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  OK, cool. So she was like, do you think
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  you guys are feeling sorry? It was like 2 1/2 weeks between
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  sessions and she's like, do you think you guys are feeling good
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  with like this two week time frame and stuff?
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  And I'm like, OK. She's like, yeah, I think that's
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  good. I'm like, I would love to talk
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  to you every day, but I'm like 2 weeks is fine.
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  So I think I was also able to bring a little bit more of like
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  my personality to it where the first time I did not do any of
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  that, like Jokey, I was just, you know, he just felt very
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  serious the first time. So actually like, you know me, I
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  love to get a good laugh from someone.
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  Yes. So yeah, she was kind of
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  giggling at me and I'm like, yes, I'm.
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  Like you got her. OK, my third glimmer is did.
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  You say 2. Celebrating row, row and then
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  therapy and then I just went down a whole thing with therapy.
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  And then the third one is we're in our part of the season where
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  the birds are now chirping super early.
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  So it kind of like is what wakes me up in the morning is I hear
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  the birds going before my alarm even goes off.
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  Oh my God, I love that. Some people might hate that, but
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  I'm like, that means I know like, my alarm's gonna be going
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  off soon anyways, so just feels like a more natural way to wake
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  up. Like the olden times.
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  Yes, I'm totally, Yeah, I'm totally living in the olden
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  times. You're basically a Pilgrim. 100%
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  yes. I churned my own butter today
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  too. Yeah, those are my gamers.
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  We totally killed it with the glamorous this week.
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  Thank goodness I've been thinking about the entire week.
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  I was like, what was I doing of? Course you were.
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  One of my client slash friends texted me and she's like, yeah,
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  my husband said that she would have.
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  He would have let the mouse drowned in the pool.
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  I'm like, no, I'm like, that doesn't surprise me, but Nope,
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  not on my watch. Yeah, no.
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  When I save that little little mouse from the pool and then I
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  had it in the backyard and I was like, did you?
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  Just die then. No, no, no, I put it it like it
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  like scurried, but I could tell Bobby was like very close to
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  wanting to like give it to whatever and like.
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  Pick it up and give it to the chickens.
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  Yeah, like with the. Savage.
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  Yeah, well, he was throwing him into the Bush.
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  Yeah. What are those bugs that you
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  guys get? Like, they're really big.
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  And he was finding them in the pool and stuff like big
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  crickets. Those were like monster
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  crickets. We don't have.
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  We get some big crickets in the summer, but those things were
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  like a tiny dinosaur. And Bobby was like loved finding
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  them and throwing them into the chickens, which I mean, I guess
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  I kind of get it. It's like really probably super
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  good for them. But I think he has like this
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  little bit of like a murderous side to him we didn't know
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  about. I hope you can hear me say this.
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  If not, he'll listen to. It I think he's OK with it
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  'cause there's no protesting from the other room, but yeah,
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  he still loves getting it. And now, OK, chickens you can
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  train at least for like trains, food or whatever 'cause every
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  time they hear him go over to the pool.
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  They know. They get so excited that he
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  tries to give it to Diane, our little Gray one, and because to
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  make her feel a little special, so he does that specifically.
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  So cute. Cute, you're a little chicken
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  colony. I just love it so much.
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  And recently this little farm store open near near us.
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  Oh my gosh, it's so cool. It's like where?
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  Is it like like watch some? Glitter of ice cream.
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  Oh my gosh. There's like a little.
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  A great spot for it. Yeah, so like eggs and she's
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  from her farm, so like meat and bread and stuff.
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  Oh my gosh, I got a Oh yeah, I can't.
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  So this is one of my well, I don't know what this would be a
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  characteristic or personality trait or it's not that big of a
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  deal. But if I go to somewhere where
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  they had just opened a farm stand and her mom, Mary Helen,
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  was there. Mary Helen, what are you gonna
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  do? Not buy something from Mary
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  Helen. And when she told me, 'cause I
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  pulled out, I didn't know she was the mom of the owner,
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  Bernadette. I'm really working on trying to
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  remember names, by the way. I know.
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  OK, so Mary Helen. So I'm opening the the little
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  cooler and I'm like oh is this a apple pie 'cause I've been
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  craving it but so that. You're gonna eat AP7.
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  Throw it away. Well, gosh.
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  Savage. It's gonna bother you.
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  But so I was like, yeah, is this apple pie?
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  She was like, oh, yeah, my husband made it.
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  And I'm like, oh. What's her husband's name?
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  I forgot the name, I don't even know, she told me.
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  But I was like, oh, sold. Like how much is it probably?
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  Like Bernadette and Jeremiah, I mean, it has to be.
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  You know how I remembered Mary Helen, you know, like the what
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  is it? Is it mnemonic or like where you
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  remember something by OK, Mary Helen and I thought Jesus's mom,
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  right, Mary? Yeah.
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  Helen close to hell. So are you serious?
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  That's how you remember it. And I remember it.
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  Yeah, whoa, I know. I that is not at all where my
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  mind would go to. Yeah, how would you remember
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  that name? When you said Mary, Helen,
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  Mary's an easy one for me because it was my Grammy's name.
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  But Helen, I immediately think of Helen knows the owner from
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  Bridesmaids, Kristen Wiig, where it's Helen, the rich girl and
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  everything. You know, she's blah, blah,
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  blah, and she's talking. She's like, oh, I'm not Helen.
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  That's immediate where my brain goes to.
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  OK, I love that. Oh, that's so fun to know.
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  Like how you would remember it and how I think.
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  Jesus's mom and close to hell totally.
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  Remembered it? Yeah.
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  How are you? Remembering Bernadette like
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  burned. She's getting burned.
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  I know. Like.
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  What? I imagine her body being burned
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  and then a debt, No? She's got a huge debt.
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  Oh my God. That would be smart.
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  Not the burning part, but have you seen Big Bang Theory?
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  I I've never watched it, but I know exactly what you're
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  talking. About.
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  But what I just. I would say.
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  Yes. And then that's like something
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  that you would do. I've never seen it, but I know
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  what it is. But I was going to say like,
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  yes, I've watched it. Oh, it sounded like you said
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  yes. I've never watched it.
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  Yeah. OK, OK.
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  Well, there's some really funny characters on it, but one of the
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  guys girlfriends is Bernadette. OK, I remember.
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  Well, that's also a very, like, unique name.
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  I feel like that's easier to remember than if it's like her
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  name's Kelly or Jan or something.
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  It's like what? I don't know.
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  Like I remember the farmer guy's name.
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  His name is Zach, I think. Zach Morris from Saba the Bell.
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  Did you ever watch Saba the Bell?
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  Yes, but that would not be where my brain would go to for I was
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  more of like a Boy Meets World kid.
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  Oh, yeah. Oh, did you watch the What was
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  it like on Friday nights? What did you watch the lineup of
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  TV show? Oh, was that Boy Meets World on
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  Friday night? No, no, no, never mind.
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  That's a different. It was on a different show or
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  different whatever. Also, you are like six years
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  ahead of me so. That's why I'm a little curious
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  to. Say not that far but like there
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  will be certain things like you and staff are closer in age.
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  Steph turns 40 this year and there will be certain like.
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  Songs and stuff that she'll talk about that she's like, Oh yeah,
• 20:07
  this is like when we were in college and I'm like, like, no,
• 20:12
  that was more like when I was in like, early high school.
• 20:15
  So like, it's it's really funny to like, talk about certain
• 20:18
  things. Or if like AJ says something
• 20:20
  which is closer to like Bobby's age.
• 20:22
  Oh yeah. I'll be like Casey's like I was
• 20:25
  in middle school or like elementary school and a just
• 20:28
  graduating high school. But yes, someone, a guy came
• 20:33
  over looking at cutting down a tree in our backyard or like a
• 20:37
  limb, and he was brought up. Oh, yeah.
• 20:40
  I was born in 2004. And I'm like, oh, my God.
• 20:42
  That's when I graduated high school.
• 20:44
  Yeah. Whoa, so he's what, 21?
• 20:47
  Yeah, 22 or something? Yeah.
• 20:49
  Whoa, that's crazy. I.
• 20:51
  Know. Kind of crazy that's.
• 20:55
  Not. Casey.
• 20:56
  Who was that? We have a water filtration,
• 21:05
  don't mind that. Casey.
• 21:07
  'S right here. Are you?
• 21:08
  Scared. Me she goes hi Casey, that is so
• 21:17
  fun in. The distance, he basically went
• 21:19
  down right away. Yeah.
• 21:23
  Did you guys do anything for what?
• 21:25
  Wait, why don't you ask? Did you guys do anything for
• 21:27
  Mother's Day? Yes, he's a very good daughter.
• 21:31
  Obviously. Well, I, I took my mom.
• 21:36
  There's this place we should take you and Casey sometime.
• 21:39
  It's like 25 minutes away. But it's a cute little downtown
• 21:44
  area called Winter Garden. So it's kind of like Park Ave.
• 21:46
  but not as bougie, but it's really cute.
• 21:49
  It feels like old old. Town.
• 21:50
  Is that where her and your dad used to go?
• 21:53
  Yeah. Didn't they do that every Sunday
• 21:56
  or something? Yes.
• 21:57
  Yep. Wow, Gold Star.
• 21:59
  I listen to only. Talk you remember.
• 22:02
  Things you remember. I tried, yeah.
• 22:03
  I, I don't actually, I don't really try to.
• 22:05
  I just do, yeah. It's usually my brain works,
• 22:07
  yeah. Wow.
• 22:09
  Yeah. So she hasn't been back since.
• 22:11
  And so she had talked before about she brought it up and I
• 22:16
  was like, Oh, well, I go with you.
• 22:18
  And she was like, oh, that'd be so nice.
• 22:19
  And so I thought, I thought the farmers market was there on
• 22:22
  Sunday. It's not, it's on Saturday.
• 22:24
  But it was nice. We brought our dog.
• 22:27
  So I brought Johnny, excuse me, I just burped.
• 22:30
  Oops. And she brought her dog Harper.
• 22:34
  And they were so cute. They like, don't care about each
• 22:36
  other. And oh, I love that.
• 22:39
  So was it just you and your mom and the dogs or it was Bobby
• 22:41
  there? OK, Did Bobby?
• 22:44
  My mom prefers when it's one-on-one.
• 22:46
  It feels more special when it's like 1 on.
• 22:48
  One yeah, I get that. Did Bobby do anything with his
• 22:51
  mom? No, they're in Georgia.
• 22:53
  Oh, OK. Mm hmm.
• 22:55
  At their other house. Yeah.
• 22:57
  Nice they're. Thinking of selling and it'd be
• 23:00
  really nice if they just gave it to us.
• 23:02
  That would be great. They should do that, no?
• 23:04
  It's not gonna happen. Which I mean, I don't think at
• 23:09
  this point if my parents had two houses, they would just give us
• 23:12
  a house either. They'd probably be like, we
• 23:14
  should probably. I don't know.
• 23:16
  Well, can I tell you something? Yes, tell me everything.
• 23:19
  OK, well, so let me preface as I always do before I talk about
• 23:24
  someone, I really like my mother and father-in-law, but it's just
• 23:28
  so interesting to me. It's kind of like you with like
• 23:30
  communication and therapy and how you realize, Oh my gosh,
• 23:33
  like we're hearing different things.
• 23:35
  And sometimes still I have to remind myself, like Bobby's
• 23:39
  parents don't communicate like me.
• 23:40
  It's OK. This is just how it is.
• 23:43
  But like 6 months ago or something, 'cause we had this
• 23:47
  idea of oh, what if we bought their house when they sold it
• 23:50
  and like and we couldn't really do it, but I was like, that'd be
• 23:56
  so cool. We could like do it up
• 23:57
  differently. It's just so different from
• 23:59
  Orlando. Yes, so cool.
• 24:04
  So he brought it up to his mom in a in a phone call.
• 24:07
  He was like, Oh yeah, like if you, if y'all start thinking
• 24:11
  about selling it, let me know. I might be interested in buying
• 24:13
  it. And she kind of brushed over it.
• 24:15
  She was like, Oh no, no, no, like said that and then start
• 24:20
  talking about something else. And I was, when he told me this,
• 24:22
  I, I, I have no idea. Like to me it feels very
• 24:27
  flippant and like you're not listening or hearing what he's
• 24:30
  saying. So it kind of to me, my first
• 24:33
  instinct, which is very reactionary, is like, she
• 24:35
  doesn't care or she's not like she's not meaning to be like
• 24:38
  that. But so recently, this past
• 24:40
  weekend or last week, she told him, Oh yeah, we're we're not
• 24:47
  selling it yet, but we are having a realtor come over to
• 24:50
  tell us how much it is. No, no talk about when Bobby
• 24:55
  mentioned that. And of course Bobby doesn't
• 24:57
  bring it up either. No, I'm like, what is going on?
• 25:01
  Like if it was me and my parents, I'd be like, excuse me,
• 25:05
  like do. You hello.
• 25:07
  I should get first dibs. Yeah, like that is where my, the
• 25:12
  myself where, you know, I'm a big talker, like behind the
• 25:15
  scenes. And then, yeah, I wish I could
• 25:17
  be like that. Like hi.
• 25:19
  Like remember when we talked about this, Like whatever.
• 25:23
  None of that. I bet you they probably are like
• 25:25
  if they are slightly more passive people, they're probably
• 25:28
  like, you know, we kind of know the location.
• 25:30
  Like we know that we're potentially gonna get like
• 25:32
  multiple bids on it. They're probably like, I don't
• 25:35
  want to do that with like my child and like not give it to
• 25:38
  them because they get they get outbidded or something.
• 25:41
  But they should just say that like honestly, we we want to
• 25:43
  like keep it without it being a family thing.
• 25:47
  You know, we don't even want to like take money from you guys or
• 25:50
  something like that's fine. You can just give it to us.
• 25:52
  Just saying. Which I know.
• 25:55
  I know that's not realistic either 'cause I know that like
• 25:56
  older people also need to think like having money if they're
• 26:00
  ever gonna need to do more of like a retirement place of like
• 26:02
  care, whatever. So like I get not being able to
• 26:05
  be like here, let me give you a house that's probably worth a
• 26:08
  decent amount of money, especially with the location.
• 26:11
  But like. I'm thinking I would like to buy
• 26:14
  it and Bobby's not the type I am this type.
• 26:17
  I would be like, can you just give it to me for free?
• 26:20
  That's how I would. Yeah, that's that's the thing
• 26:24
  that's so interesting and fascinating is like when some
• 26:27
  people they just won't talk about something I that makes me
• 26:32
  feel crazy inside. Crazy.
• 26:35
  I will say that's very much more Casey's family than mine as
• 26:38
  well. But it's gotten better over the
• 26:40
  years for sure. Like, I think it just was never
• 26:43
  like, especially for his dad, natural thing like that's not.
• 26:46
  He grew up with 12 brothers and sisters, very farm family.
• 26:49
  Like they did not talk about feelings like, yeah, even though
• 26:54
  I've heard like he never like really heard from his parents
• 26:57
  like I love you or anything like that.
• 26:58
  Like you just assumed they love you.
• 27:01
  So it was like even a while until like Casey's dad would say
• 27:05
  it like out loud to us. Yeah.
• 27:08
  And my parents have always been like, we over communicate.
• 27:12
  We love you so much. We're like hugging.
• 27:14
  And like I, it's actually funny, 'cause like, I'm out of the four
• 27:18
  of us, my sister, my parents, the least touchy feely.
• 27:23
  You are. Very much so.
• 27:26
  Yep. Yeah.
• 27:27
  It's really interesting 'cause like I, I'm very like warm and
• 27:30
  like, I feel very deeply, but I'm not like, like even at this
• 27:36
  age, like my sister would walk and like hold my dad's hand and
• 27:39
  like, that's not me, I. Wish I could were.
• 27:43
  More like that, like even like I immediately go to like hug my
• 27:46
  parents and stuff, but my sister's immediately going for
• 27:48
  like a kiss like on the chase or something like that.
• 27:51
  So it's really funny how I'm like the least touchy feely,
• 27:56
  which is still like a huge contrast for other people
• 27:59
  because I'm when I started like dating Casey and going into like
• 28:02
  his side of the family, I was like hugging everyone and like
• 28:07
  very like trying to get to know people where everyone's like,
• 28:10
  what is this energy? So it is so interesting how
• 28:14
  different like dynamics can be And you're like, this just feels
• 28:18
  weird. I'd rather people be over
• 28:21
  communicating and I'm like, whoa, word.
• 28:23
  Vomit. I would totally prefer word
• 28:26
  vomit. I know 'cause then it feels like
• 28:28
  what did I do wrong if. And then you can talk it
• 28:31
  through. Yeah, 'cause I don't mind the
• 28:32
  discomfort of that. Like even sometimes I wish, and
• 28:36
  I probably wouldn't wish this if she was like this.
• 28:38
  Sometimes I wish my mother-in-law would just be like
• 28:41
  in my face about certain things instead of like not saying
• 28:45
  things because then that I can deal with that.
• 28:47
  I can like confront and like work through.
• 28:50
  Like when we were on the couch, Bobby and I, the other night and
• 28:54
  I forget what it was, I was joking with him about something
• 28:58
  and he mentioned he was like, Oh well, I don't, I don't like to
• 29:02
  argue or something. We were not arguing.
• 29:05
  It was like we were like laughing.
• 29:06
  It's almost like he just tickled me or something.
• 29:08
  I don't know. But but it wasn't like it was
• 29:14
  like a fun little moment. And I'm like, whoa, OK, wait a
• 29:17
  second, 'cause he said that before where they, how they, he
• 29:21
  came up with his parents very different than us, where we had
• 29:25
  family meetings and like they didn't talk much about anything.
• 29:29
  It was just things were expected.
• 29:31
  And so I was like, wait, wait, wait.
• 29:33
  Like you think this is like arguing?
• 29:35
  Like, you know this isn't arguing, right?
• 29:37
  And he was like, no, yeah. I keep thinking this is fucking
• 29:40
  Casey. That was Casey.
• 29:42
  That was just Casey. OK, OK, so I was about to say
• 29:47
  they look exactly like from the back.
• 29:49
  OK. But oops.
• 29:51
  Oh, I ran out but so. 6 coffee for the day.
• 29:59
  You just went from like Oh my gosh.
• 30:01
  Hey hi Casey. Oh well, no, I just ran out.
• 30:07
  It's the excitement of seeing you.
• 30:09
  I know, oh, Speaking of like communication and talking about
• 30:14
  like family members and something like that.
• 30:16
  I am actually bringing an FAQ that's very dog related since
• 30:21
  we're such a dog training podcast to ask you something
• 30:24
  I've been asked multiple times recent and it must be because
• 30:28
  the summer months around here is a lot of people are doing like
• 30:32
  up north trips people are you know, going out of town and
• 30:34
  stuff. So I've been getting a lot of my
• 30:36
  owners I work with asking the question, like post training,
• 30:42
  how to give direction to people that are like watching your dog
• 30:46
  that's like a family member or a friend, not like a border or you
• 30:50
  know, if they're not able to have us board them or something
• 30:54
  like that. Do you get that question a lot
• 30:56
  from your owners? I do from some virtual clients.
• 31:00
  I get it, which I think I've added it now to an FAQ on my
• 31:04
  Canine graduate handbook. I get it asked all of the time.
• 31:08
  So I. Really do.
• 31:10
  Interesting. Well, maybe it's because you
• 31:11
  live in Florida and people stay in Florida.
• 31:15
  OK, Yeah. They like that's where people
• 31:17
  vacation. But I thought it could be
• 31:19
  helpful for us to give a couple of pointers.
• 31:22
  And I'm so sorry my family is being so loud right now.
• 31:26
  Do you hear it in the background?
• 31:27
  Your whole family's there. No meaning my family is and my
• 31:30
  dogs and my husband. Oh, because the water people
• 31:34
  just left. So Bertie and Rhody were both
• 31:37
  just next to me and Casey's row, row baby, let's go aside.
• 31:40
  And then like I'm like, hello, I'm.
• 31:43
  Recording. It last year.
• 31:45
  OK, good. OK, let's give a couple of
• 31:48
  pointers on that because at least for me, it's something I
• 31:51
  get asked very frequently and I will give my quick blanketed
• 31:56
  response. I typically give, again, it can
• 31:58
  be dog dependent. Like if you have a really
• 32:00
  challenging dog, I'd probably give different direction.
• 32:03
  But I don't know if this is the right answer, but my answer is
• 32:06
  typically like give them the bare minimum basics to focus on.
• 32:12
  Like especially if it's like grandma and grandpa who's like
• 32:16
  gonna spoil them doing their best.
• 32:19
  I just tell owners like they're taking care of your dog for free
• 32:22
  most likely, like let them do it how they're going to do it as
• 32:26
  long as there's no danger involved and tighten things back
• 32:29
  up when you get home and like same.
• 32:32
  This is exactly what I say because I find most owners are
• 32:34
  so nervous that it's going to be like a yes, you're going to
• 32:36
  backslide yes. And it's like it's just the same
• 32:40
  exact thing, as if owners aren't keeping up with things at home
• 32:43
  and they bring their dog back for boarding.
• 32:45
  They're like, I'm so like, I'm embarrassed on how they're going
• 32:47
  to be. They shape up the second they
• 32:49
  get here. They never forget the training.
• 32:51
  So it's just a matter of like who's implementing what and how
• 32:55
  pushy of a dog you have. But there will be even some dogs
• 32:59
  that I'm like honestly don't even have them put the E collar
• 33:01
  on. Like unless it's like you know,
• 33:04
  they're going to be able to like pop them out for a potty break
• 33:07
  and there's not a fence or something and you feel like
• 33:09
  they're going to be cool with that.
• 33:10
  Sure, have them use it and do the tone or something.
• 33:13
  But most often I'm like, if you're bringing them to someone
• 33:16
  else's house, you know, maybe bring their crate, set them up
• 33:20
  so they have that. Otherwise, they're gonna,
• 33:23
  they're gonna be fine, like. Yeah.
• 33:27
  Go ahead. The thing that I, I've, I have
• 33:29
  been asked in the past is about 'cause I don't love ideally
• 33:33
  people don't take their dogs to like boarding facilities or
• 33:36
  whatever or doggy daycare. Sometimes people have to do what
• 33:40
  they have to do. Like there's only so many
• 33:41
  options. So I've had where if someone
• 33:44
  took their dog who might be a little reactive on the walk,
• 33:48
  took their dog to a boarding place for a long weekend, got
• 33:51
  their dog back, their dog was a little pushy.
• 33:53
  And it's like, to me, that's not the end of the world.
• 33:56
  It's just. Do a.
• 33:57
  Little reset. Feedback on where the brains at
• 34:01
  in that moment. Yes, but I think the biggest
• 34:03
  thing with stuff like that is the owner worries it's gonna
• 34:07
  mess everything up and I. Appreciate those owners 'cause
• 34:10
  they're usually the ones that are trying so hard.
• 34:12
  Yeah. And yeah, and I think it's the
• 34:14
  same thing as if like you're going to the vet or you're
• 34:16
  taking your dog to the groomer is bring them on things that you
• 34:20
  need to set yourself up for success.
• 34:22
  I know some people feel like the like E collar at the vet,
• 34:25
  especially if they have a vet who's very forward about that.
• 34:28
  I've even had owners with a couple of dogs that like they're
• 34:31
  like, I just don't even want the conversation with the vet.
• 34:34
  And their dog is a dog that like genuinely will do totally fine
• 34:37
  if they don't have their E collar on them.
• 34:38
  I'm like, then don't put their E collar on.
• 34:41
  Yeah, like it's fine. Yeah, you, you don't have to
• 34:44
  have that conversation. But the other side, if it's a
• 34:47
  dog who literally, you know, giving them a tap for something
• 34:51
  is what means the vet can get their stuff done, then ignore
• 34:57
  what they have to say and just be like well let me show you how
• 35:00
  my dog can handle the situation. Yeah, but I, I was talking to a,
• 35:05
  a virtual owner the other day and this might be relatable to
• 35:09
  other people where they, she was so frazzled about something that
• 35:14
  happened with her dog where they took him to like a new brewery
• 35:19
  or something or someone's home. And it was a new setting.
• 35:25
  The dog just had knee surgery or something like a few weeks ago
• 35:28
  or a month ago. So he's on bed rest.
• 35:30
  It must have been like further away 'cause he could walk around
• 35:33
  and stuff. But they had also struggled in
• 35:36
  the past with some separation anxiety in the kennel.
• 35:38
  And then things were getting much better than the surgery.
• 35:42
  Can't get as much exercise. Then they took him to this new
• 35:45
  place and they're like, OK, we're going to put him in the
• 35:48
  kennel and like go outside, get in the hot tub or whatever they
• 35:51
  did. And the dog freaked out, chewed
• 35:53
  through the cloth, kennel broke out.
• 35:56
  And the owner was trying to work through things in that moment in
• 36:00
  that place where she was like having the dog go back in the
• 36:02
  kennel. Like things we would do where
• 36:05
  it's like you kind of hold the dog accountable or you don't
• 36:07
  want them to just be freaked out by the kennel and never go in
• 36:10
  again. But the thing one I told her,
• 36:15
  when stuff like that happens, when it feels so frazzled and
• 36:17
  overwhelming. So big in that moment.
• 36:19
  Yes, take a break. You can reset tomorrow at home
• 36:23
  when it's your own environment. Like I think a lot of owners
• 36:27
  especially like you said, the really hard working owners that
• 36:30
  want to do it right, they put so much pressure on themselves to
• 36:33
  feel like they probably think that's how we are where
• 36:35
  everything is always so tight and buttoned up.
• 36:39
  It's not at all. So I think just remember that
• 36:42
  the next time something, a bad walk or a bad outing or whatever
• 36:46
  it is not the end of the world. It's not gonna set everything
• 36:48
  back. It's just a moment.
• 36:49
  The only things that we do that's probably slightly
• 36:52
  different, that makes it seem like things are always buttoned
• 36:54
  up is we're looking at what, how can we go into a situation and
• 36:59
  make it as easy as possible for ourselves.
• 37:01
  Like, and what I mean by that too is like earlier down in the
• 37:05
  kennel room was about to have a boarding dog picked up and I had
• 37:09
  to call a client and Mandy was down there and my boarding
• 37:13
  client text me. She's like, so sorry, running 5
• 37:15
  minutes behind like no problem. I was like, hey Mandy, all the
• 37:18
  dogs were on place and they're kind of at the point where they
• 37:20
  can hang out on place without tie backs.
• 37:23
  I'm like put them all on tie backs just so when you go to
• 37:25
  step out, I'm sure someone's going to pop off, but like they
• 37:29
  can't get far. And it's just like that's I'm
• 37:33
  putting a leash on a dog so that it's like it's easier for us
• 37:36
  when we come back in and they stepped off.
• 37:38
  Like it's OK if they step off, it's OK that they make mistakes.
• 37:41
  Like it's how we set the situation up to hopefully make
• 37:46
  it as easy for us, the humans, so we can give the dog a super
• 37:49
  clear direction. Yeah.
• 37:51
  Well, I think what you mentioned, it just points where
• 37:53
  our expectation is probably different than an owner's where
• 37:56
  we know that's probably gonna happen.
• 37:57
  It's not the end of the world. So we set it up so that if the
• 38:01
  dog pops off, it's no big deal. So I think, yeah, I think
• 38:04
  expectations because I remember thinking back to like when I was
• 38:08
  a new trainer and I know I I would get really self-conscious
• 38:12
  about things because I thought other trainers were doing it so
• 38:15
  much better than me. Like I'm sure owners think that
• 38:18
  like whether have like a messy moment, it's like, oh, Kate
• 38:22
  would probably do this differently or Bethany would do
• 38:25
  this differently. It's kind of like with the
• 38:27
  boarding dogs I have right now. I've never done a little mini
• 38:30
  reset. You inspired me to do this so
• 38:33
  for. All three of them.
• 38:35
  Yeah, it's fun. It's, well, it's nice just
• 38:37
  'cause it's really just like tightening things up.
• 38:40
  Easy. Yes.
• 38:42
  It's so easy, but it's so it's beneficial for everyone.
• 38:45
  Yeah, easy for us because we know the dogs are already
• 38:48
  trained. It's tightening up the things
• 38:50
  that like we know they know and just doesn't feel as high
• 38:55
  pressure as like brand new dog. Yeah, so I can already tell
• 39:00
  'cause I've been on walks with Basil's owner, Julie, who I I
• 39:05
  love going on walks with her. And I know, OK, this is if she
• 39:08
  listens, 'cause I hate when owners, I never want an owner to
• 39:12
  think that I'm like watching them or like, oh, Basil's not in
• 39:15
  heels. I really could care less.
• 39:17
  That is like something I know as.
• 39:17
  Long as you're happy and not complaining or asking me things
• 39:21
  and not implement it, those are my 2.
• 39:23
  Like if you're happy with how things are going, awesome, then
• 39:26
  I don't care how you're doing stuff.
• 39:28
  But if you're not, if you're still struggling and asking me
• 39:32
  for things and then not implementing those, that's when
• 39:34
  I'm kind of like, OK, like not my circuits, not my monkeys.
• 39:38
  Yes. So Julie never asked me anything
• 39:41
  really, which is great. So I'm like, oh great, this is
• 39:43
  I, I don't mind whatever. I mean, he's doing great or
• 39:46
  good. But she struggles a little bit
• 39:49
  with her dog Basil and her daughter's dog Oakley, who is
• 39:52
  basically a cat dog. He is.
• 39:56
  He's very cat like in his mannerisms and like.
• 40:01
  That's how I kind of thought the dog that you were boarding when
• 40:04
  we were there toast. She gives me cat dog vibes.
• 40:08
  Oh, OK. She gives the vibe of like, I
• 40:11
  don't, I'm not impressed by much kind of a thing.
• 40:13
  Like let me like curl up and like bask in the sun and I don't
• 40:18
  need to move much. Oh, so maybe this is not the
• 40:21
  right description because. Maybe it's just different cats,
• 40:24
  like different, OK. Oakley's like a really friendly,
• 40:27
  lovey cat, but like he just feels different than other dogs
• 40:31
  where I don't remember this about him when I trained him for
• 40:34
  the board and train. But he has these little like
• 40:37
  squinty eyes and then like he'll come over and just like lay his
• 40:41
  head and like it's not pushy. It's more like I don't even know
• 40:45
  how to. Describe it, but it's still
• 40:46
  docile. That's not.
• 40:49
  A cat. Oh.
• 40:52
  I mean, not my cat. It's not my cat.
• 40:55
  My cat, I mean. Like how his body moves.
• 40:59
  OK. Kind of fleeing and like bounce.
• 41:03
  Oh my gosh, he's got 9 lines. Yeah.
• 41:07
  OK, I'm not describing this right, but.
• 41:09
  Kind of like a lizard. I saw the lizard killed today.
• 41:14
  What? Is up with you in.
• 41:17
  It's just there's so many animals around me now that I'm
• 41:21
  very. Very true, yeah.
• 41:25
  So that was terrible. But anyway, so OK with Oakley
• 41:28
  and Basil so. Circle back.
• 41:33
  So when I she was like, I struggle a little bit with
• 41:35
  walking both of them and I was like OK, no problem.
• 41:38
  So I take them out together and it's just really holding them
• 41:41
  accountable with the E collar, which doesn't mean, I mean it
• 41:45
  was 16 for one of them. It's like they're very
• 41:47
  sensitive, but it's more tightening the collar a little.
• 41:50
  If anyone's listening who you feel like things are not going
• 41:54
  how you'd like on a walk, make sure it's not loosey goosey.
• 41:57
  Yes, I'm just like, like with love, everyone get it together,
• 42:02
  tighten. It.
• 42:03
  Up. Why do we have them on like they
• 42:04
  are chains? Like what is going on?
• 42:08
  It's not a necklace. Tighten it up.
• 42:10
  You don't have contact. You don't have an E collar.
• 42:13
  So that's number one. But yeah, it's just, it was
• 42:17
  actually really fun 'cause I, I haven't recorded myself with the
• 42:21
  phone for stories in like a trainery way.
• 42:24
  Yeah. That's interesting to get back
• 42:27
  into that. Oh yeah.
• 42:30
  When were you going with this? Did I not finish the story?
• 42:33
  No, is what are. The chickens free ranging back
• 42:36
  there and who it is. What is going on?
• 42:42
  2 chickens are out, two of her. Chickens are out.
• 42:48
  No two of them to the. Right.
• 42:51
  I just see a chicken. It's a one of the black ones,
• 42:53
  right? Two of them.
• 42:54
  The both of them are the black ones.
• 42:56
  Yeah. Oh, they're just happy as can be
• 42:59
  walking around back there. Oh, I hope you can get them.
• 43:04
  Wait, someone's in our backyard cutting down a tree.
• 43:08
  What is going on? Are they supposed to be update
• 43:13
  us? Update us.
• 43:15
  Well, so no, they're not trimming our trees.
• 43:19
  They're trimming some trees from the yard behind us.
• 43:24
  But so all the chickens are all freaked out and then I'm I'm
• 43:27
  sure they'd be fine. Hi Beanie.
• 43:31
  But Oh my God I'm out of breath wrangling chickens.
• 43:35
  How many? How many got out?
• 43:36
  Just the 2. Just the two.
• 43:38
  But then the other four were like packed together behind one
• 43:42
  of the garden beds. They just looked so freaked out.
• 43:45
  So I'm like, I don't know what if, like, they escape.
• 43:48
  It'd be. So yeah, I would sue, that's for
• 43:50
  sure. I don't know how you do that,
• 43:52
  but yeah, I don't know. Especially since aren't you not
• 43:57
  even supposed to have chickens? OK.
• 43:59
  That's close enough to legal What what You're allowed to have
• 44:03
  4. Oh, OK, perfect.
• 44:06
  Yeah, that sounds good. The ones that are all the same
• 44:09
  colors come in pairs, and so they're basically one.
• 44:12
  Basically, yeah. Yeah, it's basically ones.
• 44:14
  You just have to go put them all in the coop or are they still in
• 44:16
  their little free range area? No I had to put them in the coop
• 44:20
  cuz they're literally right behind the coop doing banana
• 44:23
  trees or whatever. Hi Beanie.
• 44:25
  Beanie. So cute.
• 44:30
  Oh. My gosh, the drama.
• 44:32
  I'm so glad you saw them. Bobby would have been in there,
• 44:34
  would have been here like the. Fact that I also noticed it so
• 44:37
  the spot that I could see it, so you see where your camera is,
• 44:40
  the spot that would I guess it would be technically to your
• 44:45
  back, right? My right.
• 44:49
  Right where the pool is, where those pillows are, right there.
• 44:51
  That's where I saw it walk by. The fact that I saw that tiny,
• 44:54
  just this one little, hey, that's the thing that who was
• 44:59
  it, Sarah, that wrote in the comments.
• 45:00
  So it's like, Kate, it's probably 'cause you're a Pisces
• 45:02
  that you notice these small things like the little
• 45:04
  Caterpillar. Oh my gosh, I love that.
• 45:07
  Oh yeah, Caterpillar. Oh, So what was the chicken's
• 45:10
  head? I'm like, what is that?
• 45:12
  A chicken? But it was, you know, chickens
• 45:14
  have very distinct head motions. I'm like, that had to have been
• 45:18
  a chicken. Well, they were over here and
• 45:20
  I'm I was a little nervous too 'cause I just planted some
• 45:22
  pepper plants and I'm like, Oh my God, what if they destroy it?
• 45:26
  And so this is where my mind goes.
• 45:27
  Yeah. Oh, now Bobby's out there
• 45:29
  monitoring. Oh yeah, they can't.
• 45:34
  So they speak Spanish and Bobby, I'm like, they didn't.
• 45:39
  Understand anything you guys were saying.
• 45:41
  No. And I was like, can you tell
• 45:42
  them to stop? Like, 'cause he kept sawing away
• 45:44
  at the tree and I'm trying to get these chickens who are like
• 45:48
  And so then I'm like, he's like, how do you say stop in Spanish?
• 45:52
  And I was like, I don't stop. How do you say stop?
• 45:54
  Caliente, that's hot. No, that's yeah, that's spicy.
• 45:58
  Right, that's 7. No, yeah.
• 46:01
  Oh my gosh. Now I don't know, I pretty sure
• 46:04
  she's in. She's in Spanish.
• 46:05
  Oh wait, 2 right now she's. I learned to say stop in
• 46:09
  Spanish. Let me.
• 46:13
  Now I'm now. Are you looking it up?
• 46:15
  Yeah, OK. Stop in Spanish.
• 46:19
  El stope I don't like genuinely. I feel like some of the C what?
• 46:26
  I'm pretty sure no, no, that's oh C is yes, oh para.
• 46:31
  Stop. In Spanish.
• 46:33
  It's just. Para.
• 46:35
  Para. Para.
• 46:36
  You should just go out there yelling para.
• 46:38
  All I did was stop. I don't know, like stop me
• 46:42
  anyway, like OK. Crisis averted.
• 46:48
  There was this whole podcast and then you'd been like, the all
• 46:52
  the chicken serves us. Oh, Bobby's going back out.
• 46:54
  Bobby's going back out. OK?
• 47:00
  I think we've covered some good ground.
• 47:02
  You're not gonna be able to focus now that your chickens
• 47:04
  potentially are in danger. They're all locked away now, so
• 47:07
  they're OK. Good.
• 47:08
  Let's pull a card or two from the.
• 47:10
  Stack Oh, by the way, with these cards, Bobby and I.
• 47:16
  Oh, another glimmer that you really got us into for your
• 47:21
  influence. Since you redid our back porch,
• 47:27
  we've been having breakfast out there every morning.
• 47:30
  Cute and such good weather for it, I'm sure.
• 47:33
  Well, it's mosquito time which is the worst.
• 47:37
  We have some fans. Mosquito that early.
• 47:40
  Yeah. It's already like that warm.
• 47:42
  Yeah. Oh, it's warm.
• 47:43
  It's. Hot the mosquitoes get through
• 47:45
  your whatever those are called the screens.
• 47:50
  Yeah, there's a couple holes and we've been leaving the door
• 47:53
  open. So that's.
• 47:54
  Our call. OK, well that'll that'll do it.
• 47:57
  But they are just relentless. Oh my gosh, they're like Charlie
• 48:01
  when it comes to food. Yes.
• 48:04
  Relentless. Yeah.
• 48:07
  But so we've been asking, or I've been asking him questions
• 48:11
  from these cards. Some of them are a little like
• 48:14
  whoa, like a little a little deep.
• 48:16
  OK, can I say pass if I don't like it?
• 48:20
  Yeah, yeah, yeah. Oh.
• 48:24
  What are the odds? Look at this deck.
• 48:26
  How many cards? Oh my gosh.
• 48:28
  OK. What feels unreachable to you?
• 48:31
  Didn't we pass that? Yes.
• 48:34
  And I literally went like this and picked a card.
• 48:36
  What are the odds of that? Why did Maybe it wants us to
• 48:39
  focus on what we feel is unreachable and do it?
• 48:42
  Well, I was gonna say last time, Well.
• 48:44
  Oh, like a thing. OK, Yeah, OK, let me.
• 48:47
  No. What were you gonna say last
• 48:48
  time? Well, when I was thinking like,
• 48:50
  what's unreached? The only thing, oh this is sad,
• 48:52
  but I'm not sad right now so it's fine, is my dad.
• 48:55
  Like being able to talk to him totally.
• 48:57
  Yeah, but I liked how we were. I loved your answer.
• 49:00
  I love hearing about your goals and stuff.
• 49:04
  Oh, what's a moment when a stranger made you feel loved?
• 49:10
  Loved. Yeah.
• 49:11
  Do you like strange? Would you let a stranger make
• 49:14
  you feel loved? Honestly, that's not for me.
• 49:17
  If my feeling is for you, like you liked that question.
• 49:19
  I'm a little like, I have an answer.
• 49:22
  I, I guess like I don't think loved because like a stranger
• 49:25
  can't love me, but feel like warmth and like, you know,
• 49:31
  compassion. I like that.
• 49:33
  I mean, the most recent thing that immediately came to my head
• 49:35
  and it's like not even anything crazy is not long ago someone
• 49:39
  paid for us to do a coffee drive through and I just always think
• 49:42
  that's super nice. That's so nice, yeah.
• 49:45
  So I would say that's a really nice stranger thing to do.
• 49:48
  Yeah, that's nice. Yeah.
• 49:51
  Yeah. So one time when we were up in
• 49:54
  Georgia, it's Decatur visiting family, but we love going to
• 49:58
  this little YMCA. And so we were upstairs working
• 50:02
  out and this cute little old lady came over and she was like,
• 50:06
  I've been watching you 2 and you 2 are so cute together.
• 50:09
  I. Was like about you and Bobby.
• 50:11
  Yeah, no one's ever said that to me.
• 50:13
  I was like. That's really nice.
• 50:15
  OK, I like that. Or she said something like you 2
• 50:19
  you could tell how much you 2 love each other or something.
• 50:22
  That's cute. Yeah, I love that.
• 50:25
  OK, that's amazing. OK, let's see.
• 50:33
  Oh, OK, I'll ask you this why 'cause I I will this sorry I'm
• 50:38
  thinking in my head out did. You get that card with Bobby?
• 50:41
  Yes. Oh, OK.
• 50:43
  I guess the odds are not that rare.
• 50:45
  How do you think your life should be judged?
• 50:49
  I don't think it should be love that like by who?
• 50:54
  I think the only one that should be judging it is myself.
• 50:59
  Any greater power that I feel drawn to?
• 51:02
  Yeah. But otherwise, yeah, I don't
• 51:05
  think it should be judged. Oh, that's such a good answer.
• 51:08
  It's a very strong answer. Well, good, it's my answer and
• 51:12
  I'm sticking to it. Like I answered it when I was
• 51:17
  talking about it with Bobby. I was thinking if someone did
• 51:20
  judge, whoa, if they were being, like, a little judgy about my
• 51:26
  life or something, you know, like that, I would be like,
• 51:29
  well, what? They should judge it as is.
• 51:31
  We're very happy. Sometimes I think we don't have
• 51:33
  kids. Like, someone might be like, oh,
• 51:35
  well, they're missing out on kids, but I'm like, they should
• 51:39
  judge us or judge it as we're very happy.
• 51:45
  That's basically it. I said something about the
• 51:46
  garden, too. But yeah, I love that one more.
• 51:51
  Yeah. One more.
• 51:56
  OK, this I don't understand what is going on.
• 51:59
  I I feel like I asked Bobby this morning.
• 52:01
  I. Thought the when you're doing
• 52:04
  the whole shuffling, it sounds like a fart in the in the
• 52:08
  microphone, yeah. I thought I'd get one another.
• 52:16
  What is going on? Do you and Bobby just sit out
• 52:19
  there and do all of them? In the.
• 52:21
  Is there a woman in a dress out there?
• 52:24
  No, I was behind you. What is?
• 52:26
  Is that Bobby or is that a woman?
• 52:28
  Oh, it's Bobby. He's wearing a tank top that's a
• 52:30
  little large it. Looks OK.
• 52:33
  That's his arms. It looked like there was a belt
• 52:36
  underneath. I was like, what?
• 52:38
  Why would there be a woman in a dress in our backyard?
• 52:41
  What is the day? That would just be odd.
• 52:45
  Like what are the? What is the reasoning for that?
• 52:51
  Oh. OK, what was the soundtrack to
• 52:54
  your teenage years? I swear on my life, that's the
• 52:57
  fourth card that I've pulled that I no.
• 53:02
  Matter what they say, words can bring me down.
• 53:10
  That's yours. How sad is that?
• 53:13
  That's your soundtrack. That's the song you'd pick.
• 53:15
  That's my high school. Well, it's between that and
• 53:19
  like, Oh my gosh, this is the song that brings me back to like
• 53:23
  my childhood, which is not or not even childhood, but like my
• 53:26
  high school years is only because of experiences.
• 53:30
  We used to, my mom used to have this Lexus that it was like kind
• 53:36
  of like a sports car but was like a long sedan.
• 53:38
  And in the back it had like you could put 8 CDs in it.
• 53:42
  It was like, you know where cars used to have CDs.
• 53:45
  Well the trunk had these like loud speakers in it.
• 53:49
  We would open it up and put on low, low, low, low apple bottom
• 53:55
  jeans, jeans with the hair and like Just Dance in our driveway.
• 54:02
  Me and my friends and my mom would be out there dancing and
• 54:05
  dropping it low with us. So I would I would have to go
• 54:08
  with that. I love that.
• 54:10
  Yeah. So I did one that was a little
• 54:12
  bit sad and depressing and then one that was truly probably how
• 54:16
  most of the time was, was Apple bottom jeans.
• 54:19
  I mean is it just called low I think.
• 54:21
  It's with the fur. I don't know.
• 54:23
  I think it's low. I don't know it could be get low
• 54:26
  where. It's like balls to the wall or
• 54:28
  like, oh balls or sweaty. To the wall, to the wall, to the
• 54:33
  sweat, drips, balls, all these crawl, ski, ski, ski,
• 54:39
  motherfucker, ski ski. God damn.
• 54:44
  OK, what's yours? Well, well, lyrics.
• 54:49
  This just made me think of like, Speaking of lyrics, we never
• 54:52
  said anything about lyrics, but in my head, Speaking of lyrics,
• 54:56
  I was listening. The song came on by JoJo Get.
• 55:00
  It out right now it's. The end of you, if you listen to
• 55:07
  those lyrics, JoJo was teaching us how guys were going to treat
• 55:13
  us in a very way. Ahead of it.
• 55:16
  Well, she just like she made like a lot of songs, I'm sure
• 55:19
  made it seem like he's going to do you wrong and he's going to
• 55:22
  like, you know, like all the like negative stuff or whatever.
• 55:27
  Totally. I was just thinking, Oh my gosh,
• 55:28
  I was singing that. I don't even know if I
• 55:30
  understood the lyrics. I was just oh.
• 55:33
  There's so many songs that I did not understand the lyrics that I
• 55:36
  would just sing out loud that now I'm like, OK, see you like
• 55:41
  from your like not even childhood, but like, what did it
• 55:44
  say? I don't even remember the
• 55:44
  question. What was the soundtrack to your
• 55:47
  teenage years? OK, teenage years, yeah.
• 55:48
  So the ones that I said were. Well, so for me, like Britney
• 55:52
  Spears was really popular and stuff like that.
• 55:54
  Like Toxic, I Can't Sing that. But yeah, that was so big.
• 55:58
  But I was listening. To I'm toxic.
• 56:02
  I don't know all the words though.
• 56:06
  But yeah. So-called basically just call me
• 56:09
  Brit. One time I remember like we were
• 56:13
  in high school, there was, we went to this bar downtown and I
• 56:17
  was wearing schools. It was bad.
• 56:20
  We shouldn't have done that. We were, I was.
• 56:22
  Talking straight edge. Oh my God, I was not.
• 56:25
  I just went where everyone wanted to go.
• 56:27
  I didn't even think about it, really.
• 56:30
  So we went to this one place and I remember I was wearing and I
• 56:33
  was always taller than my friends, so I don't even know
• 56:34
  what I was thinking. I was trying to attract an older
• 56:37
  male I think, so I had these. Well you ended up getting your
• 56:45
  older male there lady, so I'm not much older than you, but
• 56:48
  he's older. Whatever he says when I say a
• 56:49
  song. And he was like, Oh, yeah, I was
• 56:51
  in high school when you were in or.
• 56:53
  No, I was you. Know what?
• 56:54
  Five years older than. You 8th grade or something?
• 56:57
  Yeah, five years. OK, but I was wearing these
• 57:01
  stiletto black boots, stilettos stiletto.
• 57:05
  They were the most uncomfortable shoes I've ever worn in my
• 57:08
  entire life. Oh, I believe it.
• 57:11
  But I was like in such a vibe, like I was in my my friend Julia
• 57:15
  was driving and it was four of us and she had like a really
• 57:18
  cute cool Volvo car that was like red and speedy you guys
• 57:22
  had. Really cool cars as.
• 57:24
  Oh, I didn't, so that's go ahead.
• 57:26
  Put the oh I did a cabriolet. Cabriolet, Are you kidding?
• 57:31
  Time no one appreciated it like we should have.
• 57:34
  I got. An injury from getting wait,
• 57:37
  you're I can't hear you. You're not on the mic.
• 57:39
  I got an injury on my leg from chicken wrangling I think.
• 57:42
  Are you serious? Not an injury.
• 57:45
  So this might be one of our most random podcasts or just the most
• 57:50
  like. I think I'm breathing and I
• 57:54
  apologize. No, me too.
• 57:57
  OK, Yeah. I'm singing, I'm like all over
• 58:00
  the place. I've got can I random men in the
• 58:03
  back of my we've got the what? The only man that's supposed to
• 58:06
  be here? And then I've got water men
• 58:08
  behind me and you're like, hi, Casey, not Casey.
• 58:12
  And then random rogue tree trimmers like what is going on?
• 58:15
  Literally like, what are you doing?
• 58:19
  Can I tell you one more weird music 'cause I love music, I
• 58:22
  have a lot of music memories. Same so.
• 58:25
  My friend Carly, she had, it was like, you know, the car.
• 58:30
  It was an eclipse. Oh yeah, so cool.
• 58:34
  Back then those were so cool. But now if you see one on the
• 58:36
  road, you're like they're. Cringe.
• 58:38
  Hitting it's like why did we Mitsubishi Eclipse?
• 58:42
  It was so cool you. Had one, you were pretty cool.
• 58:46
  Oh my gosh. OK, so my friend Carly had one
• 58:48
  and it was red and it was so cool.
• 58:50
  Oh no, Cougar, What's that? I don't know what that is, a
• 58:55
  Ford. Maybe, but it was kind of, it
• 58:59
  was very zippy and it was called Cougar was the type of car red
• 59:04
  And I remember it felt so cool when we were like driving or I
• 59:07
  wasn't. Driving.
• 59:08
  I mean, it's called a cougar, so of course it's just like the
• 59:10
  coolest thing ever, but. It was so fast, so dangerous,
• 59:15
  but so, but she put, I remember this so vividly, where she put
• 59:19
  on the song, you know, Limp Bizkit.
• 59:22
  Yes. You know the song rolling.
• 59:25
  Rolling with? No, that's not Limp Bizkit.
• 59:27
  Is that what I'm thinking of? Rolling with my homies.
• 59:29
  Yeah, that's so. Different rolling, rolling,
• 59:31
  rolling, rolling. We see the sun.
• 59:36
  She would put that soundtrack on and I felt like I was in another
• 59:39
  dimension. You're just like I am.
• 59:40
  We are so cool. Coolest.
• 59:45
  She drives so fast and have that blaring.
• 59:47
  I was like, oh God, we've made it.
• 59:49
  This is the coolest. We've made it.
• 59:53
  Oh my God. She has so many memories in
• 59:56
  other friends cars. No, he's asking questions.
• 1:00:00
  Come ask a question. Did her car have one of those
• 1:00:03
  moon roofs that you put in yourself or sunroof?
• 1:00:06
  A moon roof that she put in sunroof.
• 1:00:09
  What's a moon roof? Oh, sunroof, same thing.
• 1:00:13
  I don't. She might, she might have had
• 1:00:14
  one, but it was already installed.
• 1:00:17
  I've never heard of one that you put in yourself.
• 1:00:19
  Yeah. People thought it was cool.
• 1:00:21
  Bobby. You see, like those little Chevy
• 1:00:23
  cars that somebody would put in like a sunroof themselves.
• 1:00:26
  They'd have to like pop it up and then bring it back down.
• 1:00:29
  Did you ever see those? No, no, never in my lifetime.
• 1:00:33
  Was that a Wisconsin thing? It.
• 1:00:35
  Could have been you'd also have like big subwoofers in the back
• 1:00:38
  and they'd be thinking they're so cool.
• 1:00:41
  OK, I'm pretty sure I lost my hearing when I rode in at least
• 1:00:44
  one car where guys had crazy bounce.
• 1:00:47
  Not bounce. What is it, Bass?
• 1:00:49
  Bass. Like just vibrating the entire
• 1:00:52
  car. One moment, have bad hearing?
• 1:00:55
  Now you're listening to Limp Bizkit.
• 1:00:58
  I swear I. Do you hear my number?
• 1:01:02
  Limp Bizkit? OK, Lip.
• 1:01:06
  Bizkit. Limp Bizkit.
• 1:01:08
  With AZ. Another song that I feel like is
• 1:01:10
  so high school years and then we sang it at this last trainer and
• 1:01:14
  you is do you if you want to be my lover God.
• 1:01:21
  Give friends making the game is. Forever friendship never ends.
• 1:01:27
  You want to be my lover. You have got to give.
• 1:01:31
  Amazing, but that's it's the way it is.
• 1:01:36
  So here's a story from A-Z. You want to get with me?
• 1:01:38
  You got to listen. I'm in the place you like,
• 1:01:41
  sitting in place You got I always.
• 1:01:43
  Lose nothing? Yeah, I don't know it either.
• 1:01:46
  So everybody down and want it all around.
• 1:01:48
  So everybody down and want it all around.
• 1:01:50
  If you want. Oh my God, no that.
• 1:01:54
  Is one of my favorite things when I'm singing a song, Yeah.
• 1:01:57
  When I hit those little side notes, you know when they'll
• 1:02:00
  like say something and then it's like.
• 1:02:03
  Obviously I know those are the key parts of the song, like the
• 1:02:08
  key parts. Did you ever listen to Ace of
• 1:02:10
  Bass? No, I don't even know what that
• 1:02:12
  is. Oh, I'm aging myself now.
• 1:02:14
  Is someone else gonna know this? Step of bass.
• 1:02:18
  Ace of bass. Oh no, singing something.
• 1:02:22
  The sign. Oh, shoot.
• 1:02:25
  Maybe I know the song, but that band doesn't sound familiar.
• 1:02:30
  Oh my gosh I usually hear these their songs in Publix.
• 1:02:34
  Publix is on it with like throwbacks.
• 1:02:36
  Really. Yeah, they have like such good.
• 1:02:38
  I don't know if it's like a 90s station, but no rap.
• 1:02:41
  It's like very. Did you?
• 1:02:42
  Guys have, and maybe this is also Wisconsin thing just
• 1:02:44
  because like we needed things to do in the winter, but did you
• 1:02:47
  guys have like a place where you went like rollerblading inside
• 1:02:51
  or like roller skating inside? Oh, we had all night Friday
• 1:02:56
  skates. OK.
• 1:02:57
  Did you do that? Our place was called High Roller
• 1:03:00
  and you would go and it was like they would have specific nights
• 1:03:06
  too. But like it was definitely like
• 1:03:07
  my age, like in middle school was really when we went and you
• 1:03:12
  could go and like you'd have like songs that come on, you'd
• 1:03:16
  hold someone's hand and skate around.
• 1:03:18
  You could like go up to this DJ and buy someone a flower and get
• 1:03:23
  it delivered to the person. The amount of times me and my
• 1:03:27
  friends would go buy our own flowers.
• 1:03:29
  Oh my God I just got chills. Like and act like it came from
• 1:03:33
  someone can. I tell you that I did that.
• 1:03:36
  I'm saying I did that. I did that too.
• 1:03:39
  Yeah, OK, no shame. Literally.
• 1:03:42
  And the song that would always come on that you would, like,
• 1:03:44
  hold hands and skate around is you put my picture away.
• 1:03:52
  How's it go? Case, dude.
• 1:03:54
  Yeah. Sheryl Crow and Kid Rock.
• 1:03:57
  Oh, OK. Help me, help me.
• 1:04:01
  Oh my gosh, why am I drawing blank?
• 1:04:05
  Put your picture. I know, sing it.
• 1:04:16
  Something like that. And then I would have a flower
• 1:04:18
  delivered from whatever guy I had a crush on.
• 1:04:22
  But it but it was really me that wrote it to myself.
• 1:04:25
  Wait, wait a second. You put a real person's name on
• 1:04:28
  it? A. 100% did wait.
• 1:04:30
  Did you hear that with other people and like, tell them like
• 1:04:33
  Sean gave me the flower? I sure did.
• 1:04:36
  Did it ever get back to Sean? Probably no shame in my Sean
• 1:04:40
  game. I would just put secret admirer.
• 1:04:46
  That was probably a better move. That was probably a better move.
• 1:04:50
  There's probably a reason I never picked up Sean.
• 1:04:52
  You're probably like, oh, Stage 5.
• 1:04:55
  Yeah, it's like, whoa, like who's the secret admirer?
• 1:05:00
  I don't know. I told you how someone one time
• 1:05:05
  created a page about me. It was like AI love Bethany
• 1:05:08
  page. Are you?
• 1:05:09
  You lived for that. You loved it, didn't you?
• 1:05:11
  Well, I swear. When I worked at a Planet
• 1:05:15
  Fitness, OK, and it was like, yes, you did picture was a
• 1:05:19
  gorilla. So it like took a weird turn
• 1:05:22
  where at first it was like. Please, you know this story.
• 1:05:27
  I'll have to. I'll have to refresh him on it.
• 1:05:29
  But there's all such nice things about me.
• 1:05:31
  It's like they had been watching me and they like.
• 1:05:33
  EW. Oh, that's Bethany.
• 1:05:35
  That's not all nice things. That's called stalker.
• 1:05:37
  I know looking back I could see it could turn into a Lifetime
• 1:05:40
  movie real quick, but back then I was like, Oh my God, yeah.
• 1:05:44
  But then the, well, then they put the pictures of gorilla.
• 1:05:47
  I don't like that. I don't like that.
• 1:05:50
  Oh my. Gosh, I knew OK where back then
• 1:05:52
  I would have gotten it done. But that's why is they thought
• 1:05:57
  you were hairy. No, like everything was so nice.
• 1:06:01
  I think that's just the picture they chose of like maybe it was
• 1:06:05
  them 'cause it was like a page dedicated to me, like saying all
• 1:06:09
  these nice things and I was like 20 and I'm like.
• 1:06:11
  Yeah. Oh my gosh, this is that's
• 1:06:13
  scary. I think that maybe you were
• 1:06:15
  like, we're a teenager. You're a 20 year old.
• 1:06:19
  Yeah. OK, well, I'm glad you.
• 1:06:22
  Wouldn't last note throw us out I guess or whatever, but unless
• 1:06:26
  you have more to say, obviously anyone with kids.
• 1:06:35
  OK, well, no, I'm not gonna give parenting advice, but because I
• 1:06:39
  don't know what that's like. But a child's confidence is
• 1:06:44
  everything. Yes, I totally agree with that.
• 1:06:48
  That's what well, I saw this thing.
• 1:06:50
  Well, contacts contacts is Gary Vaynerchuk, you know, OK, so I
• 1:06:58
  saw this video where someone came up to him and was like, my
• 1:07:01
  daughter is 13. Like how do I protect her from
• 1:07:04
  like social media and all like the negativity or just even
• 1:07:07
  like, you know, self esteem stuff or whatever.
• 1:07:11
  And he, I forget how he said it, but he was like, you need to
• 1:07:16
  like make sure your daughter knows her worth at this age.
• 1:07:21
  Like really like, I don't know, boost her up was how he said it.
• 1:07:24
  But I think that's all the decisions I made in my 20s.
• 1:07:28
  Let's say like with guys, they were all made from a space of I
• 1:07:33
  am so insecure about myself even though I had a great like family
• 1:07:36
  and stuff but I didn't have that of like feeling confident in
• 1:07:41
  myself. In different ways you probably
• 1:07:43
  did, but not in that way. Maybe in friendships I was like
• 1:07:47
  pretty social, more social than I think I am now.
• 1:07:50
  But yeah, but just like in like romance kind of stuff.
• 1:07:55
  No confidence. Totally.
• 1:07:57
  But you're still looking at Casey in high school.
• 1:08:01
  Yeah, I, yes. And I think that's another thing
• 1:08:04
  like we've talked about this so many times is we are literally
• 1:08:07
  not even close to the same people we were then.
• 1:08:10
  And we've gone through so many phases in our relationship.
• 1:08:13
  We're in the best spot, I would say.
• 1:08:14
  I mean, obviously I've had but the last couple of years, even
• 1:08:18
  though they've been hard years, I would say it's like the most
• 1:08:20
  grounded in our relationship. We've been if we were still Kate
• 1:08:23
  and Casey back when we met in high school, I I'd honestly
• 1:08:25
  don't think we'd be together. And we both have said that.
• 1:08:28
  Yeah, I definitely think we probably would have like either
• 1:08:30
  not gotten. We probably still would have
• 1:08:32
  gotten married because we got married young.
• 1:08:33
  We probably would be divorced. I don't, I know that sounds like
• 1:08:37
  a bracelet to say, but like different phases of our
• 1:08:40
  relationship. I'm like, yeah, good thing we
• 1:08:42
  didn't stick there long. Like that would not have worked
• 1:08:44
  for us. But yeah, I just don't like, oh,
• 1:08:49
  go ahead. No, I just don't.
• 1:08:53
  I'll go first. Give you a second.
• 1:08:55
  Yeah. No, but like, I will, you know,
• 1:08:57
  people will be like this high school sweethearts and stuff.
• 1:08:59
  And like, yeah, we, we are. And we've been together for that
• 1:09:02
  long, but it's definitely not like the people that knew us
• 1:09:07
  back when we first started dating is like we have
• 1:09:10
  similarities, of course, from when we were younger, but just
• 1:09:13
  it's so different. I'm just glad that we grew well
• 1:09:16
  as individuals together because I feel like we're both very
• 1:09:20
  different people. That's another thing that's been
• 1:09:22
  coming up in therapy, so. Oh my gosh, I love that.
• 1:09:26
  Yeah. I was talking to my dental
• 1:09:27
  hygienist yesterday and she was saying because her and her
• 1:09:30
  husband have been together almost as long or longer than me
• 1:09:33
  and Bobby. And she was like, isn't it so
• 1:09:35
  cool? Like you just get to grow
• 1:09:38
  together and go through different phases together.
• 1:09:40
  And I was like, yeah, as long as you're like on the same page.
• 1:09:43
  Like I can't believe, like Bobby recently was like, I don't know
• 1:09:46
  who you are because he said it in a nice way.
• 1:09:49
  Because I've been outside more and in the garden, which that's
• 1:09:52
  not really my MO. I'd rather usually be inside
• 1:09:54
  watching TV. And I was like, I know.
• 1:09:58
  And but yeah, changing together and having things in common and
• 1:10:02
  cool. That your your dental hygienist
• 1:10:05
  said that because I feel like a lot of like at least people that
• 1:10:09
  I've had like kind of weird interactions with it like
• 1:10:13
  something like that. It's like, Oh well, yeah, you
• 1:10:15
  know, after you've been together for so long, it's.
• 1:10:17
  Like I. Hate that?
• 1:10:19
  A negative spin on it. Yes, I love that your dental
• 1:10:22
  hygienist was like a really positive spin on it because I
• 1:10:27
  feel like, you know, the length of time that, you know, we've
• 1:10:30
  been together, both of us with our, you know, husbands is such
• 1:10:35
  a cool thing because and also like, I feel like we all do work
• 1:10:41
  to like and honestly, like we do work on ourselves and stuff.
• 1:10:44
  I I it's not that I don't feel like being in a relationship is
• 1:10:47
  that hard. OK.
• 1:10:48
  Do you ever hear people when they say like?
• 1:10:50
  They're just so hard. I don't, I think it's the
• 1:10:53
  easiest part of my life now. We've had our phases.
• 1:10:57
  Like I'm not sugar like we've definitely had our like because
• 1:10:59
  we were also children when we started dating.
• 1:11:03
  So like we've had like we've had to have our mess ups and our
• 1:11:08
  weird growth spurts almost together, if that makes sense.
• 1:11:12
  So like when we were younger, we had no business being in a
• 1:11:14
  serious relationship like so. But now I'm like, I think
• 1:11:19
  marriage is the easiest part of my life and like the best part
• 1:11:23
  of my life. Maybe.
• 1:11:25
  I wonder if that's because, like, whatever, like if Bobby
• 1:11:28
  and I have an argument or we like, have to work through
• 1:11:31
  something, it can be uncomfortable.
• 1:11:32
  But I'm so invested in it and I love him so much.
• 1:11:35
  That like I'm gonna see it through regardless of if it.
• 1:11:39
  Doesn't feel like work like other things in life feel like.
• 1:11:42
  Work like vacuuming feels like work.
• 1:11:44
  Oh. My gosh, by the way, 'cause I've
• 1:11:45
  been vacuuming the back porch. More laughing.
• 1:11:47
  At me. It hurts my my back so much
• 1:11:50
  sometimes. Oh my gosh.
• 1:11:52
  Anyway, another saying I. Work.
• 1:11:56
  He wants me to pick weeds with him, I said.
• 1:11:58
  Picking. Weeds.
• 1:11:58
  That's work. I'm, I don't, I'm not invested
• 1:12:01
  in that kind of work. But sometimes it's very
• 1:12:04
  satisfying. It's almost like the blackheads
• 1:12:06
  of the garden. I OK, that makes me a little bit
• 1:12:11
  more wanting to do it 'cause I love popping blackheads.
• 1:12:14
  Well, so when you pull it and you get the whole root.
• 1:12:17
  Very satisfying. My lower back hates it though.
• 1:12:20
  The same. Yeah, that's probably.
• 1:12:22
  Like the size of our yard. I don't want to do it trying to
• 1:12:26
  get me to do it. I'd rather hire someone to do
• 1:12:29
  it. Yeah, that's just better use of
• 1:12:32
  your time. That's what I one other saying I
• 1:12:34
  don't like is it's always something.
• 1:12:41
  What I mean facts. There is always something.
• 1:12:47
  I don't like it because it's true.
• 1:12:49
  Yeah, when certain people say so and I'm like.
• 1:12:52
  Like I'm like, cry me a river. Yeah, life in general, that's
• 1:12:59
  pretty good. I don't know.
• 1:13:00
  I don't. I don't whatever.
• 1:13:02
  And that's two people who have dealt with really hard things in
• 1:13:06
  their life saying that. Yeah, yes.
• 1:13:08
  So I think that's very good perspective.
• 1:13:11
  Yeah. I literally, I tried to cut this
• 1:13:15
  a while ago now I can't stop talking.
• 1:13:17
  There was something on shrinking that we were watching last night
• 1:13:20
  that Derek, the one that I'm like reminds me so much of Casey
• 1:13:24
  said, no, this isn't going to land because I don't even
• 1:13:27
  remember what he said. But his perspective of how he
• 1:13:30
  said something when it was like something really rough and like
• 1:13:34
  scary to be going through how and it was happening to him.
• 1:13:39
  It was just such a realistic but also positive way to spin on it,
• 1:13:43
  but not like positive in a way where it's like you just have to
• 1:13:46
  be like everything's going to be OK because sometimes
• 1:13:48
  everything's not OK. But how he warded it.
• 1:13:51
  I was just like, yes, that's how I want to live my life is like I
• 1:13:55
  I want to live it in like the I have these opportunities now.
• 1:13:59
  We're here now and we all know we could say like, life is
• 1:14:04
  short. We might not have tomorrow.
• 1:14:06
  We all know that. So like, I'd have to like go
• 1:14:10
  back to it. But I like looked over at Casey.
• 1:14:12
  I'm like, I love how he said that.
• 1:14:14
  We're we watching it? Yeah, we're in Season 3 now, so.
• 1:14:19
  OK, yeah, we're in season 1. Enjoy it again.
• 1:14:22
  Now you're going to look at it from a different perspective
• 1:14:24
  because I pointed out some of my favorite parts.
• 1:14:27
  Oh yeah, no. And I love rewatching stuff like
• 1:14:29
  Brian is one of my favorite characters.
• 1:14:31
  Love Brian. Love Brian his.
• 1:14:34
  Mannerisms, the way he says things.
• 1:14:37
  I actually feel like I'm the most like Brian.
• 1:14:41
  So Casey's very much Derek. Liz gets more and more savage
• 1:14:45
  with the seasons, so sometimes I'm like Liz.
• 1:14:48
  Like I really like her, but I'm also like, I really feel like
• 1:14:51
  I'm a combo of Brian Gabby. And then I will say I have a
• 1:14:59
  little Liz in me. Yeah, a little.
• 1:15:01
  OK. Yeah.
• 1:15:02
  It doesn't make me want to give rocks away or something very
• 1:15:04
  specific. That's like if you get a rock.
• 1:15:07
  That is the Liz in you. That is not the Liz in me.
• 1:15:10
  You're very, I would say you're very Derek with a dash of Liz
• 1:15:14
  and I would say you also have some Brian in you.
• 1:15:20
  OK, Yeah, I. Like that, I like when Brian's
• 1:15:22
  is like you're not as like cutthroat as Brian, right?
• 1:15:26
  I'm a little bit more cutthroat like Brian, but he'll do stuff
• 1:15:30
  like the people pleasing where he's like to their OK.
• 1:15:35
  It's the example of when they end up having the baby.
• 1:15:38
  Yeah. And in the hospital room with
• 1:15:41
  the birth mother, he's like, OK, Yep.
• 1:15:44
  Like, you've got this, What you're doing so well and then
• 1:15:48
  goes and steps out. You need to get here right now.
• 1:15:50
  Like, this is not OK. We're not OK.
• 1:15:52
  That's kind of like you or you're like, yeah, like my mom
• 1:15:55
  is doing this. And it's like, hi, mommy.
• 1:15:57
  Yeah. OK.
• 1:16:01
  We are now rambling and I'm loving every second of it, but
• 1:16:06
  you gotta keep on keeping on, you know?
• 1:16:07
  OK, well this was a while I'm. Gonna try to say all the sayings
• 1:16:10
  that you don't like it's just what what's the one you just
• 1:16:14
  said you don't really like it's. Always something.
• 1:16:16
  It's always something and I gotta go do something 'cause
• 1:16:18
  I've always got something going. Moist.
• 1:16:24
  I just figure you don't like that word.
• 1:16:25
  Probably. Don't ever say moist to me
• 1:16:28
  again, OK? Have a great rest of your day.
• 1:16:32
  I hope the chickens stay in their coop and everyone's safe
• 1:16:34
  and sound. I'm gonna go eat some lunch and
• 1:16:36
  then Oh my. Gosh.
• 1:16:39
  He's warming up fish, OK. Do that again.
• 1:16:44
  That makes me laugh. They did it too.
• 1:16:48
  No, it's like when someone really is about to throw up.
• 1:16:50
  It's. Like I I literally can't make
• 1:16:51
  myself fake it again right now because now I'm smelling the
• 1:16:53
  fish. I I love fish, but I don't like
• 1:16:55
  reheated fish. Can you imagine if you threw up
• 1:16:58
  on this podcast? Don't do that.
• 1:17:01
  I can't imagine. OK, bye, bye.