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Is this worth dumping your boyfriend over?! ft. our friend Miranda · Scotty and Abby UNFILTERED

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  Speaker 1: Tampa Bay's best music is Magic.
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  Speaker 2: Magic.
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  Speaker 1: Magic.
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  Speaker 2: 94.9. And welcome to a new episode of Scotty and
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  Speaker 2: Abby Unfiltered. And we have joining us today our special guest.
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  Speaker 2: Welcome in, Miranda.
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  Speaker 1: Yay.
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  Speaker 3: Miranda?
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  Speaker 2: Miranda's back. So, Abby, can we catch up with, like,
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  Speaker 2: the last time we had Miranda in, if somebody missed
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  Speaker 2: that gem of an episode?
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  Speaker 3: Miranda, last time you were in, you were just getting
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  Speaker 3: out of your relationship of two and a half years? Yes.
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  Speaker 3: Two and a half years, and then you had a
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  Speaker 3: romantic liaison. Yes. With a man that we affectionately called Superman.
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  Speaker 2: Yes.
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  Speaker 3: Do you want to give us a quick recap on
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  Speaker 3: who Superman is?
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  Speaker 1: Superman, we just met and then we, you know, we
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  Speaker 1: really hit it off, I feel like. But I don't
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  Speaker 1: know if he felt that way. And then I just,
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  Speaker 1: you know, texted him like 58 times, super casually. And
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  Speaker 1: then he goes to me, but then he un-goes to me.
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  Speaker 1: And honestly, quick Superman update, like he's not a main
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  Speaker 1: character anymore, but we still sometimes chat.
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  Speaker 2: Wow. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Like once a week.
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  Speaker 3: You be gabbing.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, like once a week I'll get a text and
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  Speaker 1: then I'll just respond because it's just funny. Like it's
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  Speaker 1: just funny. Like I know we're not going to like
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  Speaker 1: I would never actually date him or anything. It's just
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  Speaker 1: it's a great little.
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  Speaker 2: I was wondering about him because if you missed that episode, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: you hit him up 58 times before he ever even responded. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And so honestly, like as a dude, that'd be kind
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  Speaker 2: of scary. To wake up to.
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  Speaker 3: Really?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a little spooky.
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  Speaker 2: Just a wee bit.
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  Speaker 3: Miranda's our fun, sexy, single friend in her early 20s.
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  Speaker 3: And last time, I don't know if you, did you
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  Speaker 3: talk about your, what were we calling him?
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  Speaker 2: A little bit.
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  Speaker 3: What did we call him?
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  Speaker 1: Did we have a name for him? We had a
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  Speaker 1: name for him, but I don't remember. That means he's
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  Speaker 1: not that important.
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  Speaker 2: I'm sorry.
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  Speaker 3: You dated him for two months. So Miranda hasn't been
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  Speaker 3: on the podcast in two months because she has been
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  Speaker 3: She settled down. She put aside her 22-year-old ways to
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  Speaker 3: get into another relationship with a man that I can't
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  Speaker 3: remember what his nickname was.
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  Speaker 1: Should we come up with a new one?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: It was another superhero name.
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  Speaker 3: It was a superhero, but I cannot remember what the
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  Speaker 3: superhero was.
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  Speaker 2: I guess you just got to come up with a
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  Speaker 2: new one. Give us a quick recap who he is
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  Speaker 2: or who he was.
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  Speaker 1: Who he was. Rest in peace. Who he was.
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  Speaker 3: R.I.P.
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  Speaker 1: So we talked briefly in high school. He doesn't live...
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  Speaker 1: In the state of Florida. He lives in a different state.
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  Speaker 1: But we just reconnected because he's here a lot. And
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  Speaker 1: so we had a brief little relationship, but we recently just... Well,
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  Speaker 1: I called it off.
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: Obviously.
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  Speaker 3: So you were dating him for two months.
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  Speaker 1: Not even, but yeah.
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  Speaker 3: You flew out to see him in his state, which
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  Speaker 3: I feel like his name had something to do with
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  Speaker 3: his location.
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  Speaker 2: That's what I thought, too, because I was about to
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  Speaker 2: say the state, but I didn't know if we actually
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  Speaker 2: revealed that on the podcast.
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  Speaker 3: We call him like the.
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  Speaker 1: Cowboy? The cowboy.
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  Speaker 3: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: That's fine. We can call him a cowboy.
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  Speaker 3: We'll just call him cowboy.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: So you were dating cowboy for two months and your
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  Speaker 3: relationship came to an abrupt end. I think while I
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  Speaker 3: was sitting next to you.
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  Speaker 1: Wait, what?
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  Speaker 2: Yes.
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  Speaker 1: Well, kind of. Okay. So basically me and Abby went
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  Speaker 1: to the lightning game on Thursday. I basically had communicated
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  Speaker 1: that some things in our relationship weren't working.
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  Speaker 3: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: I had communicated that, which I think is valid. You
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  Speaker 1: should be able to communicate things that you need in
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  Speaker 1: a relationship. And I just felt like his response back,
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I showed Abby, it was a little bit rude.
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  Speaker 2: You don't have to read the exact message, but what
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  Speaker 2: was the thing that you were communicating? Because I think
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  Speaker 2: this is huge. Because I don't know the whole situation,
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  Speaker 2: but what I do know is, as a young man,
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  Speaker 2: I made so many dumb mistakes before. as I'm watching
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  Speaker 2: you go and experience with these guys. Yeah. I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: It took me years to learn. Yeah. I can only
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  Speaker 2: imagine how it was responsible. So what did you need
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  Speaker 2: from him?
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  Speaker 1: So the problem was that it was on Snapchat. Like
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  Speaker 1: we're so young. So, so the messages are gone. Unfortunately,
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  Speaker 1: I cannot read them. I basically was just like, okay,
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  Speaker 1: this was Thursday night. I was like, okay, I feel
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  Speaker 1: like we're not really communicating. Like, can you at least find, like,
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  Speaker 1: five minutes to talk to me? Like, I don't even
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  Speaker 1: know what you're doing. And I feel like whenever you
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  Speaker 1: say to a guy, like, I don't know what you're doing,
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  Speaker 1: it's not, like, in a controlling way. Like, I don't
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  Speaker 1: need to know, like, when you're going to the bathroom. Like,
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  Speaker 1: I'm just, like, I want to know what's going on. Like, that's, like,
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  Speaker 1: you converse. Like, me and my old boyfriend in college,
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  Speaker 1: even though we lived in the same college town, we'd
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  Speaker 1: always be like, okay, I'm going to go do this. Like,
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to go out with these people. Like, because
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  Speaker 1: that's just, like, how you converse. You know what I'm saying?
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  Speaker 1: Just to, like, I don't know. That's how I converse
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  Speaker 1: at least.
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  Speaker 2: That's what you need.
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  Speaker 1: That's what I need.
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  Speaker 3: You do love like a steady stream of conversation. I
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  Speaker 3: think we've learned that.
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  Speaker 1: I have a lot of words that I have to
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  Speaker 1: share with somebody. So I don't know. So I had
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  Speaker 1: said that and then he kind of blew up a little.
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  Speaker 3: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: He was also with his family. So I'm going to
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  Speaker 1: give him some grace there. He was with his family.
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  Speaker 1: So he was like, I'm getting yelled at for being
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  Speaker 1: on my phone too much by them. Not enough by you.
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  Speaker 1: I was like, why can't you just say that you'll
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  Speaker 1: make an effort to do better? I just don't need
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  Speaker 1: all these excuses. Because my thought process whenever boys act
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  Speaker 1: like it's so hard to communicate is like it just
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  Speaker 1: really takes like 10 seconds. That's just like always my perspective.
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  Speaker 1: Like I don't need all these excuses.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, like find the solution instead of the excuse. It
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  Speaker 2: took me a long time to learn that. But yeah,
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  Speaker 2: like I've seen so many good videos of, you know,
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  Speaker 2: people saying like, look at how long it takes. And
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  Speaker 2: it's like, Hey, I'm really busy right now. This is
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  Speaker 2: what I'm up to. I'm with my family, and I'm
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  Speaker 2: going to talk to you as soon as I can.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly.
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  Speaker 2: Five seconds.
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  Speaker 3: This is interesting, because this is the same fight you
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  Speaker 3: got in with Superman. Because you were upset that Superman
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  Speaker 3: wasn't texting you back fast enough.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, I just need a fast texter. I really do.
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  Speaker 2: It's going to be hard, Moran. I'm going to be
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  Speaker 2: honest with you.
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  Speaker 3: We could have you date ChatGPT.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, Chat's always there for you.
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  Speaker 1: Actually, last night, me and my roommate, we needed some
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  Speaker 1: advice on something. So we ended up talking to Chad GBT,
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  Speaker 1: but we did like the one where it talks back
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  Speaker 1: to you. And she was funny. She was cracking jokes.
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  Speaker 1: She was laughing with us. And then my roommate, I
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  Speaker 1: was talking to her for like 10 minutes. My roommate
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  Speaker 1: just got up and then she came back and she
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  Speaker 1: thought I was genuinely on the phone with one of
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  Speaker 1: my friends because I was just laughing so hard with Chad.
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  Speaker 2: So.
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  Speaker 3: Sometimes chat be hittin'. For real.
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  Speaker 1: No, she was amazing.
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  Speaker 2: That's because they know us, y'all. They listen to us.
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  Speaker 2: They know what we find funny.
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  Speaker 3: Because it's really them just using your own voice to
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  Speaker 3: talk back to you.
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  Speaker 2: Correct.
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  Speaker 3: Like, they pick up on the jokes or, like, the
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  Speaker 3: quips that you have.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: And then all of a sudden, it just uno-reverses you.
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  Speaker 2: So.
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  Speaker 1: should I just like talk to chat GBT when I
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  Speaker 1: want to talk to a guy?
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  Speaker 3: No, wait, this could be good because I think you,
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  Speaker 3: I think also just like when your lifestyle changes, like
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  Speaker 3: maybe in college it was easier for people to be
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  Speaker 3: in a constant stream of conversation. Whereas like if your
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  Speaker 3: man's is with his parents and they're really strict about
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  Speaker 3: their phone, he might not be able to respond for
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  Speaker 3: a couple hours. And that's, I would say that's arguably normal.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, yeah. I could say if you, well, I understand
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  Speaker 2: it's the new age. We could go ahead and get
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  Speaker 2: our needs met. It just, if we just think about
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  Speaker 2: it from the outside perspective, you're getting your needs met
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  Speaker 2: from a machine. I don't know how comfortable you want
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  Speaker 2: to get with that.
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  Speaker 3: It's like a conversation vibrator.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, you look at that.
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  Speaker 2: That actually, that's not the worst way to look at it.
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  Speaker 3: But I mean, yeah, I guess humans just can't. Come
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  Speaker 3: up with things that are more convenient when humans aren't available.
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  Speaker 2: But I think what would be, oh, God, here we go.
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  Speaker 2: I just turned 30, Miranda, so I'm so much more
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  Speaker 2: wise now. Right. But I would really dive in and
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  Speaker 2: try to figure out, like, what am I trying to
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  Speaker 2: get from all this conversation? Is it that I can't
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  Speaker 2: sit in my own thoughts? Do I need that constant
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  Speaker 2: attention from somebody? Like, I don't know. That could be, maybe.
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  Speaker 3: There could be a deeper root here.
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  Speaker 2: There could be.
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  Speaker 1: I think that there might be.
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  Speaker 2: There might be. Well, here's the truth, though. How old
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  Speaker 2: are you again?
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  Speaker 1: 22.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, at 22, there's shit. There is. Like, oh,
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  Speaker 2: my God. The amount of, like I said, dumb things
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  Speaker 2: that I did or said or needed at 22. Like,
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  Speaker 2: you're supposed to. This is the time for you to
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  Speaker 2: discover those things. But if you're noticing that pattern, it
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  Speaker 2: would be a good time to be like, hmm. I
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  Speaker 2: always get a little anxious when they don't reply. I
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  Speaker 2: wonder where that comes from. Now, I'm not the one
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  Speaker 2: to give you the answer, but I got great therapists. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: I need to reach out to my therapist.
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  Speaker 3: Well, ChatGPT could be a good cup filler in the meantime. Like,
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  Speaker 3: if you really need to gab and you're feeling anxious, just, like,
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  Speaker 3: log on in. Use a couple water bottles to get
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  Speaker 3: some of those anxious thoughts out of the way.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly.
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  Speaker 2: It could be part of it, though. So he didn't
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  Speaker 2: respond great when you told him, hey.
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  Speaker 1: No, so that kind of, you know, it ticked me off.
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  Speaker 2: Well, here's the thing, too. It's like, and Abby and
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  Speaker 2: I say this all the time. It should not be
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  Speaker 2: that hard in the beginning.
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  Speaker 1: I agree.
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  Speaker 2: It really shouldn't. If you're facing a lot of issues
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  Speaker 2: in the very beginning, you're going up Everest on that thing.
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  Speaker 3: Because when I started seeing the conversation back and forth
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  Speaker 3: between you and Cowboy, I was like, this is just...
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  Speaker 3: You should just be having fun.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, two months in?
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  Speaker 3: It should just be like light and hee hee ha ha.
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  Speaker 3: You should be sitting at the lightning game with your mans.
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  Speaker 3: You should be out of boo boo.
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  Speaker 2: You should have been like sexting during the lightning game.
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  Speaker 3: You should be sexting during the lightning game. Bring back
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  Speaker 3: a sex.
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  Speaker 2: You shouldn't be fighting. Bring back sexting.
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  Speaker 1: So yeah, not a great response. And then I did,
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  Speaker 1: you know, go out after the lightning game. Good for you.
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  Speaker 2: You should.
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  Speaker 3: Was this the one on Thursday or Saturday? Thursday.
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  Speaker 1: That's awesome.
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  Speaker 2: Bring back going out on weeknights. Right?
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  Speaker 1: I mean, for you.
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  Speaker 3: Not me.
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  Speaker 2: I'm 30 now.
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  Speaker 3: Okay. I got to be home by 10.
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  Speaker 2: Yes.
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  Speaker 3: Love that for you, though.
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  Speaker 2: Yes.
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  Speaker 1: So then I was out, but he wasn't texting me
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  Speaker 1: at all. So I didn't tell him that I was
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  Speaker 1: going out because why should I? Like, you don't tell
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  Speaker 1: me anything you do.
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  Speaker 2: Uh-huh.
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  Speaker 1: True. So then I'm in trouble again, and I'm just
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  Speaker 1: over it. So then Friday was just... Done.
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  Speaker 2: You're like, how many times do we have to go
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  Speaker 2: back and forth before it's like, let's look at what
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  Speaker 2: this situation actually is.
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  Speaker 3: And it's a relationship of two months. You're still within
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  Speaker 3: that 90-day free trial period. Nothing is real within the
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  Speaker 3: first three months. Nothing counts.
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  Speaker 1: Nothing counts.
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  Speaker 3: It's like calories on vacation.
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  Speaker 2: Exactly.
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  Speaker 3: Like the first three months.
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  Speaker 1: And then. I just felt like he would always kind
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  Speaker 1: of make, like, not, like, get mad at me when
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  Speaker 1: I would go out, but always kind of, like, just
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  Speaker 1: in general, not even just this one time, just make
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  Speaker 1: comments about me going out all the time and staying
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  Speaker 1: out late. Just, like, passive-aggressive comments. And, like, I'm sorry. Like,
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  Speaker 1: I'm just not going to stop going out.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, well, I cannot speak for him, but I can
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  Speaker 2: also see where he's coming from because I've been in
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  Speaker 2: that position. What it is is it's an insecurity because
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  Speaker 2: I'm not with you. You're out and about. I don't
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  Speaker 2: know if there's other guys. I don't know what you're
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  Speaker 2: up to, what the motives are. Maybe you find somebody
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  Speaker 2: more attractive or there's something that sparks up. It's that
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  Speaker 2: little inward voice that's like, oh, my God, she's going
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  Speaker 2: to go find somebody, and it's not going to be me.
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  Speaker 2: So him getting mad about it, it's like, Yeah, it's
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  Speaker 2: not the best thing. I would hope somebody doesn't get
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  Speaker 2: mad at you going out and just living your life.
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  Speaker 2: Because that's what I said yesterday. You should be. You
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  Speaker 2: should be going out having a good old time.
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  Speaker 3: And you're fun and you're cool and you're social and
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  Speaker 3: you're confident. You need someone who matches that energy for you.
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  Speaker 3: And I was getting the vibe from Cowboy that he's
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  Speaker 3: just more of an introvert. And you need someone who
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  Speaker 3: can go out and not just like tolerate going out,
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  Speaker 3: but also someone who actively wants to be out with you.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, because that's the last thing. You don't want to
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  Speaker 2: change who you are.
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  Speaker 3: Never.
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  Speaker 2: In this dating process. But it happens, though. It happened
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  Speaker 2: to me. It happens before you know it. All of
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  Speaker 2: a sudden, you're like, holy crap. I don't see the
• 11:21
  Speaker 2: people I used to love to be around. I don't
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  Speaker 2: do the activities that I used to love to do.
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  Speaker 2: It happens. It creeps up on you. And honestly, I
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  Speaker 2: give you so much kudos for recognizing these things quick
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  Speaker 2: and having the hard conversations because I've done the opposite
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  Speaker 2: where it's like, I knew something's wrong. The alerts are
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  Speaker 2: going off and I stay. Yeah. Because it's hard. Conversations
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  Speaker 2: are hard. So like a lot of A lot of
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  Speaker 2: kudos to you for having those tough conversations.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you. And also, when I'm going out, I'm never
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  Speaker 1: going out to talk to a guy. Yeah. The guys
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  Speaker 1: probably fear me. I'm just doing weird things at the bar,
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  Speaker 1: going up to them, saying, there you are. It's all
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  Speaker 1: a joke to me. Honestly, everything I do is seriously
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  Speaker 1: a joke. But all these guys always... take it seriously
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  Speaker 1: that I have these, like, crazy bad intentions, but I don't.
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  Speaker 3: Like, I literally never do. You just have them so entranced.
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  Speaker 1: Like, all my antics are just hilarious to me. Like,
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  Speaker 1: I have to keep myself entertained.
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  Speaker 3: You are very fun to go out with.
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  Speaker 1: Because no one else is keeping me entertained, honestly. So
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  Speaker 1: someone's got to do it.
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  Speaker 3: And you've got to be the one to do it.
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  Speaker 1: Exactly.
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  Speaker 3: I need to tell him about the shot that you
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  Speaker 3: and your friends were taking. I didn't even realize this
• 12:29
  Speaker 3: concoction existed. So I meet Miranda out at American Social
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  Speaker 3: after the Rowdies game, and I'm like having, you know,
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  Speaker 3: I'm 29, so I'm having a glass of wine.
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  Speaker 2: She's so sophisticated.
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  Speaker 3: I'm so sophisticated.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, you wait. Miranda creeps up on you.
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  Speaker 3: I got hammered that night.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you did seem drunk, and I was like, she's
• 12:47
  Speaker 1: only drinking wine.
• 12:48
  Speaker 3: Because wine gets you. That's why I drink wine is
• 12:50
  Speaker 3: because it's delicious, and it gets you messed up after
• 12:54
  Speaker 3: like three glasses, and then makes you pass out.
• 12:57
  Speaker 1: It makes me so sleepy, though. I can't drink it
• 12:58
  Speaker 1: when I'm going out. It's like an at-home activity.
• 13:01
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it does make me a little sleepy, so I
• 13:02
  Speaker 3: do prefer tequila most of the time. But tequila sometimes
• 13:05
  Speaker 3: keeps me too sentient. And I think that night I
• 13:07
  Speaker 3: was like, I don't want to be here. Not like
• 13:09
  Speaker 3: I don't want to be here, like I wanted to
• 13:11
  Speaker 3: be out. But like, you know, sometimes when you're just like,
• 13:12
  Speaker 3: you know what?
• 13:13
  Speaker 2: Yeah, like I want to let loose. Like I want
• 13:14
  Speaker 2: to go, I want to turn all the way up.
• 13:15
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I kind of wanted to be out there. And
• 13:17
  Speaker 3: so I meet Miranda at American Social and she goes,
• 13:21
  Speaker 3: let's take shots. but it looks like cough syrup and
• 13:24
  Speaker 3: it sounds delicious. What is in it?
• 13:28
  Speaker 1: So it is rumple.
• 13:30
  Speaker 3: Obviously she loves a rumpleman shot.
• 13:33
  Speaker 1: I love a rumple. It's rumple Jaeger and fireball. Oh
• 13:37
  Speaker 1: my God.
• 13:38
  Speaker 3: I don't want any of those things separately.
• 13:40
  Speaker 1: There's another name for it. That's probably more appropriate. It's like, um,
• 13:44
  Speaker 1: Energizer shot or something that's probably more appropriate.
• 13:47
  Speaker 3: It sounds like the Long Island iced tea of shots
• 13:49
  Speaker 3: like just a bunch of someone She's like, let's just
• 13:51
  Speaker 3: try this.
• 13:51
  Speaker 1: I hate a Long Island iced tea. Oh I hate
• 13:56
  Speaker 1: a Long Island iced tea.
• 13:57
  Speaker 3: Who likes a Long Island iced tea? Honestly, that's my
• 13:59
  Speaker 3: drink choice.
• 14:00
  Speaker 1: Like who invented it?
• 14:02
  Speaker 3: Long Island?
• 14:02
  Speaker 2: Yeah, they love iced tea.
• 14:03
  Speaker 1: What is it? It's twisted tea I know and then
• 14:06
  Speaker 1: tequila and.
• 14:07
  Speaker 2: It's like every liquor in one.
• 14:08
  Speaker 3: No, I think it's like five different shots of liquor.
• 14:10
  Speaker 3: Like there's no iced tea in it.
• 14:11
  Speaker 1: I swore Twisted Tea was in it. No.
• 14:13
  Speaker 2: That's what you probably did in college. Y'all just wanted
• 14:15
  Speaker 2: to have more alcohol in it and added a Twisted Tea.
• 14:17
  Speaker 2: That's crazy.
• 14:18
  Speaker 3: I think it's an Arnold Palmer.
• 14:20
  Speaker 2: Arnold Palmer. Arnold Palmer.
• 14:22
  Speaker 1: But those shots are honestly better than Rumpelstiltskin. Because the
• 14:25
  Speaker 1: fireball really compliments it. And then you can't really taste
• 14:28
  Speaker 1: the Jager.
• 14:29
  Speaker 3: You're getting the notes of cinnamon that really compliment the
• 14:31
  Speaker 3: mint aftertaste.
• 14:32
  Speaker 1: I love a fireball. Like, I truly do love fireball.
• 14:36
  Speaker 1: I can drink it, like, easy.
• 14:37
  Speaker 3: That's crazy.
• 14:38
  Speaker 2: That is crazy. Because it took me... I remember college
• 14:41
  Speaker 2: ruined that for me. Yeah. And then I was... I
• 14:43
  Speaker 2: don't know. Probably within the last six months was I
• 14:46
  Speaker 2: able to do another fireball shot.
• 14:48
  Speaker 3: The last time I had fireball, I was your age.
• 14:50
  Speaker 3: And I was dating a guy. And he would order
• 14:52
  Speaker 3: fireball because it was the cheapest shot on the menu.
• 14:54
  Speaker 3: And every time... I felt like such an a-hole because
• 14:56
  Speaker 3: I had, like, this quote-unquote big girl job, and he
• 14:58
  Speaker 3: was still in school, and I was like, I'm going
• 15:00
  Speaker 3: to need you to get me a shot of vodka.
• 15:02
  Speaker 1: Like, I'm not.
• 15:02
  Speaker 2: We're not doing fireball.
• 15:04
  Speaker 3: Like, what do I look like, 18?
• 15:06
  Speaker 2: But you enjoy it. That's good on you, though. You
• 15:09
  Speaker 2: know what? I will say, like, the one time we
• 15:11
  Speaker 2: went out and watched the UF game, and I saw, like, Miranda,
• 15:13
  Speaker 2: you are the shot queen. It's impressive.
• 15:15
  Speaker 3: Thank you.
• 15:16
  Speaker 2: Because you do it like it's nothing. I do it
• 15:18
  Speaker 2: and I'm like a little baby about it.
• 15:19
  Speaker 1: And I feel like I'm still very composed afterwards.
• 15:22
  Speaker 3: Yeah, no, you're not a sloppy drunk. You know when
• 15:25
  Speaker 3: to turn it off because I remember I was out
• 15:26
  Speaker 3: with you at Lower Deck and you were like, you
• 15:28
  Speaker 3: know what? I got to go. And that's an underrated
• 15:30
  Speaker 3: skill that most people don't have.
• 15:32
  Speaker 1: That's strength and resilience.
• 15:34
  Speaker 2: Look at her. Growing up before our very own eyes.
• 15:36
  Speaker 1: Yes. No, I think I'm really good when I'm drunk.
• 15:41
  Speaker 2: That's good.
• 15:41
  Speaker 1: I'm not like a sad drunk. I'm not sloppy. I'm
• 15:44
  Speaker 1: not mean.
• 15:45
  Speaker 3: No.
• 15:46
  Speaker 2: Yeah. That's impressive because there are some that are like
• 15:48
  Speaker 2: fighters and criers.
• 15:49
  Speaker 1: I might arguably be nicer when I'm drunk. I'm like,
• 15:53
  Speaker 1: I've made a lot of amends with people at the bar.
• 15:56
  Speaker 2: That's beautiful. Like, are you somebody who gets like emotional
• 15:59
  Speaker 2: with your friends?
• 16:00
  Speaker 1: Yes, I do get emotional. I love you guys.
• 16:02
  Speaker 2: You're always there for me. I just need to let
• 16:04
  Speaker 2: you know. Actually, that's a really good quality to have.
• 16:06
  Speaker 1: Thank you.
• 16:07
  Speaker 2: I don't have that one. Now I get anxious. It
• 16:09
  Speaker 2: hasn't always been like that. But if I drink a
• 16:11
  Speaker 2: little too much, I get very anxious and inside my
• 16:13
  Speaker 2: head of like, Oh, God, I'm saying something wrong. I'm
• 16:15
  Speaker 2: doing something wrong. I'm going to start a problem. And
• 16:17
  Speaker 2: I'm like, time to go home. This isn't fun. Do
• 16:19
  Speaker 2: you get anxiety? Oh, my God, yeah.
• 16:22
  Speaker 1: I don't get anxiety.
• 16:24
  Speaker 2: I didn't always. Like, I feel like it happened in
• 16:26
  Speaker 2: my last, like, four years of life. All of a sudden,
• 16:29
  Speaker 2: I wake up and I'm like, oh, Scott, you did
• 16:32
  Speaker 2: something wrong. And I have to, like, piece it together.
• 16:33
  Speaker 2: I'm like, what the heck did I do? So for
• 16:35
  Speaker 2: a while, like, I gave up drinking altogether because, like,
• 16:38
  Speaker 2: you know what? We're just not going to deal with
• 16:40
  Speaker 2: that anymore. But now it's a lot healthier. Now I'm like, okay,
• 16:42
  Speaker 2: a couple glasses of wine. We're good. Anxiety.
• 16:45
  Speaker 1: I know. I'm like, maybe I should have anxiety sometimes,
• 16:48
  Speaker 1: but I'm like, I'm the entertainment at the bar.
• 16:50
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Well, we've talked about that before, though.
• 16:52
  Speaker 1: Good times.
• 16:52
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 16:53
  Speaker 2: Like, you should allow yourself, because Abby and I talked
• 16:55
  Speaker 2: about this a couple episodes ago, to, like, let loose.
• 16:58
  Speaker 2: You know, the things that you're doing, like, it sounds
• 17:00
  Speaker 2: like it's not even that bad. It sounds like it's
• 17:02
  Speaker 2: just a good time, as you're supposed to be having
• 17:04
  Speaker 2: a good time. However that looks. Yeah. Sometimes it's at
• 17:06
  Speaker 2: the bar. And just realizing that when you wake up,
• 17:09
  Speaker 2: you're like... I'm young.
• 17:10
  Speaker 1: I'm fun.
• 17:11
  Speaker 2: I'm supposed to be having a good time.
• 17:12
  Speaker 3: Having fun is underrated. Like I feel like I learned,
• 17:16
  Speaker 3: I don't know if it's the pandemic that just put
• 17:18
  Speaker 3: a speed bump in my fun plans. Like I feel
• 17:20
  Speaker 3: like I'm mourning my early twenties, whereas in my late twenties,
• 17:24
  Speaker 3: now early thirties, I'm like, you know what? I want
• 17:27
  Speaker 3: to have as much fun as physically possible. I'm so
• 17:30
  Speaker 3: sick of being lame. I just want to go out
• 17:31
  Speaker 3: and do crazy things. And I'm sure I'll regret it.
• 17:34
  Speaker 3: Like it's sort of like your freshman year of college.
• 17:35
  Speaker 3: Like you go crazy and you're like, okay, I've got
• 17:37
  Speaker 3: to be a real adult now. And maybe that'll be
• 17:39
  Speaker 3: my 30s. I wake up and I go, you know what?
• 17:41
  Speaker 3: I'm glad I had that fun, but time to go
• 17:43
  Speaker 3: back to paying taxes.
• 17:44
  Speaker 2: Yeah, time to go to bed by 9. Yeah.
• 17:47
  Speaker 3: No, maybe 10.
• 17:48
  Speaker 2: Okay, 10. Let's not go crazy.
• 17:49
  Speaker 1: Well, during the week, I'm like a grandma.
• 17:52
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 17:52
  Speaker 2: Well, you got an adult job. Yeah. You're running things
• 17:55
  Speaker 2: in this business.
• 17:56
  Speaker 3: I don't know how people show up to work hungover.
• 17:58
  Speaker 3: It makes zero sense to me, like how people do
• 18:00
  Speaker 3: like a Tuesday night bev.
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 18:03
  Speaker 2: What did I do? On Sunday night, we were watching
• 18:05
  Speaker 2: a movie, had a couple glasses of wine, and I
• 18:07
  Speaker 2: was like, oh, Lord have mercy, it's going to hurt
• 18:08
  Speaker 2: on Monday. And I was surprised it didn't. But to
• 18:11
  Speaker 2: wake up, I guess if, I don't know, what time
• 18:12
  Speaker 2: do you have to get up, Miranda, like to come here?
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: Well, I usually work out in the morning, so I
• 18:16
  Speaker 1: get up at like 5.45, 5.50.
• 18:19
  Speaker 2: You are so impressive. You're going out on Thursdays working
• 18:21
  Speaker 2: out in the morning?
• 18:22
  Speaker 3: You're not a Grammy. You're just a respectable adult getting
• 18:25
  Speaker 3: your shit done.
• 18:26
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you have the good balance of all of it.
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: Thanks, guys.
• 18:28
  Speaker 2: Okay, so we got rid of Cowboy. We got rid
• 18:30
  Speaker 2: of Superman. We got rid of Superman.
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: Well, Superman, he's in the picture, but, like, just as, like, entertaining.
• 18:36
  Speaker 3: Can you please read that text that he sent you
• 18:38
  Speaker 3: the other day?
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: Oh, yeah.
• 18:39
  Speaker 3: I think this is the funniest shit.
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: Let me find it.
• 18:42
  Speaker 3: He sent her a random text.
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: On a Tuesday at 10 a.m.
• 18:46
  Speaker 3: Requesting her presence.
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: Requesting my beautiful presence.
• 18:49
  Speaker 3: Naturally. But it's how he said it that I'm like, oh,
• 18:51
  Speaker 3: his sense of humor is actually hysterical.
• 18:53
  Speaker 1: Like, yeah, like, maybe we are meant to be together.
• 18:56
  Speaker 3: Loki, I would like for you to give Superman another chance.
• 19:00
  Speaker 3: But I also know that you have other romantic liaisons
• 19:02
  Speaker 3: lingering in the background.
• 19:03
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Okay.
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: So, okay. Tuesday, October 13th at 10.13 a.m. He said, Jim,
• 19:12
  Speaker 1: remember the dog?
• 19:13
  Speaker 2: Oh, yes. Jim.
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: Jim speaks fluent English and is psychic now. And he said,
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: you and I are going to get dinner and drinks
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: and then see a movie together after work. Super. Superman,
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: I'm blushing. Then he thought about it again and he
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: said that you're going to sleep over platonically and we're
• 19:28
  Speaker 1: going to kiss as friends.
• 19:30
  Speaker 3: We're going to kiss as friends is so funny to me.
• 19:33
  Speaker 2: I'm flattered.
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: I don't really like that.
• 19:34
  Speaker 3: Right?
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: Like, that sounds nice.
• 19:36
  Speaker 2: That sounds really nice.
• 19:38
  Speaker 3: I wish you would get back together with Superman.
• 19:39
  Speaker 2: Get back together.
• 19:40
  Speaker 1: Yeah, get back together.
• 19:42
  Speaker 3: Get back together with him. He's a couple years older.
• 19:44
  Speaker 3: He's a little bit more stable than these young bucks.
• 19:47
  Speaker 3: And he's funny, clearly.
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: I know.
• 19:50
  Speaker 2: I know he's very thoughtful it sounds like but he
• 19:53
  Speaker 2: okay wasn't he the one that called things off.
• 19:56
  Speaker 3: Yeah but it's because she texted him 58 times.
• 19:58
  Speaker 1: No he never called it off guys we're still super
• 20:01
  Speaker 1: on oh so have you gone on the date Just
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: say yes.
• 20:05
  Speaker 3: To dinner and drinks. Have them take you to Real Tacos,
• 20:07
  Speaker 3: that New Mexican place.
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: I've been dying to go there.
• 20:10
  Speaker 3: It is confirmed very good.
• 20:11
  Speaker 2: Hello, Alexia.
• 20:12
  Speaker 3: They have one in Atlanta. It's a good place in Atlanta.
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: I want to go. I want to go. But I
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: might be going there with New Prospect.
• 20:17
  Speaker 2: Girl, go both places.
• 20:19
  Speaker 3: Do you want to give a different nickname? Because I'm
• 20:20
  Speaker 3: not going to give.
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: The nickname that we have for him. No, we can't
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: say that. Let's think.
• 20:25
  Speaker 2: Well, what's one quality about this person?
• 20:28
  Speaker 3: You know this person.
• 20:28
  Speaker 2: I do?
• 20:29
  Speaker 3: You do know this person.
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: Hang on.
• 20:31
  Speaker 3: Mics aside.
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: How do I know if this is him?
• 20:35
  Speaker 2: Nice.
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: Nice, Scotty says. Yeah, that's our new boyfriend.
• 20:42
  Speaker 2: Oh, my gosh.
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: What should we give him?
• 20:45
  Speaker 3: I'm going to let you take the wheel because I'm
• 20:46
  Speaker 3: going to say something and it's going to end up
• 20:47
  Speaker 3: being obvious.
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: I know. I can't think of anything that's not obvious.
• 20:51
  Speaker 3: Obvious to people in Tampa.
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: People listening in.
• 20:53
  Speaker 3: Atlanta are going to be like, who?
• 20:54
  Speaker 2: Yeah, we got so many good Atlanta listeners.
• 20:55
  Speaker 3: What about, I don't know. I need you to say
• 21:00
  Speaker 3: something because otherwise I'm going to do this.
• 21:01
  Speaker 2: What's a quality you find cute about him? His mustache.
• 21:05
  Speaker 3: Oh. We were just talking about.
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: We were just talking about how he should cut the mustache.
• 21:09
  Speaker 2: Oh, there you go.
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: I like it then.
• 21:11
  Speaker 3: I read a study once on Facebook years ago that
• 21:13
  Speaker 3: said that they compared different things that have, that are
• 21:17
  Speaker 3: very germy, like toilet seats, phones, and facial hair, and
• 21:20
  Speaker 3: they found that facial hair has the most fecal matter
• 21:23
  Speaker 3: out of all things.
• 21:23
  Speaker 2: That's disgusting. So that's all.
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: When I. Wait, I don't understand how that happens.
• 21:28
  Speaker 3: Because men are disgusting.
• 21:30
  Speaker 2: That's true. That's true. Most of us are.
• 21:32
  Speaker 3: So I'm like, you got to bathe that thing.
• 21:34
  Speaker 2: Yeah, he should be washing that thing.
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 21:37
  Speaker 2: Yikes.
• 21:37
  Speaker 3: You want to call him Mr. Mustache?
• 21:39
  Speaker 2: Mr. Mustache.
• 21:39
  Speaker 3: Mr.
• 21:39
  Speaker 2: Mustache. There you go. We got to pause it here
• 21:43
  Speaker 2: because I want to make sure that we get another update.
• 21:46
  Speaker 2: I think one, Mr. Mustache sounds great, but it's like
• 21:49
  Speaker 2: Abby said, like go on these dates. Why limit yourself
• 21:52
  Speaker 2: to one?
• 21:52
  Speaker 3: No, literally go out with Mr.
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: Mustache.
• 21:54
  Speaker 3: Go out with Superman. And then don't wife any of
• 21:57
  Speaker 3: them up. Just be a young, free woman.
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't want to date anyone. Like, seriously.
• 22:02
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, just go have fun.
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: Because none of them.
• 22:05
  Speaker 2: Young and fun.
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: None of them just... It's not working.
• 22:07
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: It's not working right now.
• 22:10
  Speaker 3: And it shouldn't, you know?
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: It's true.
• 22:12
  Speaker 3: This is the age for you to just... You know
• 22:15
  Speaker 3: what I mean?
• 22:16
  Speaker 2: Do you have any of your friends married yet, Miranda?
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: No.
• 22:20
  Speaker 2: Good. Okay.
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: But I'm like... Actually, only one of my friends is
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: in a long-term relationship. Oh, two of my close friends
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: are in long-term relationships.
• 22:28
  Speaker 2: I just ask because sometimes you get to that age
• 22:29
  Speaker 2: where it's like everyone graduates and it feels like a rush.
• 22:31
  Speaker 2: All of a sudden, Instagram's like, engagement, engagement, marriage, marriage.
• 22:34
  Speaker 2: And you're like, am I doing something wrong?
• 22:36
  Speaker 3: No, I feel like that doesn't happen until late 20s.
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: No, there definitely are some people like from my grade
• 22:42
  Speaker 1: getting engaged, but none of like my close friends yet.
• 22:45
  Speaker 3: Okay. Yeah.
• 22:46
  Speaker 2: As long as you don't feel that rush.
• 22:47
  Speaker 3: Like once you get out of college, people obviously start
• 22:49
  Speaker 3: getting married, but I feel like it's not, it doesn't
• 22:51
  Speaker 3: feel like everybody's getting married until like 28, 29.
• 22:53
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 22:55
  Speaker 2: And then it's all of a sudden, literally every invitation
• 22:58
  Speaker 2: comes through and then you have to decide what ones
• 23:00
  Speaker 2: do you want to spend money on? Right. And then
• 23:02
  Speaker 2: you see who your real fans are who don't invite
• 23:04
  Speaker 2: you to their weddings. That's what I'm experiencing right now, Miranda.
• 23:07
  Speaker 3: And then you also realize how many people are literally
• 23:09
  Speaker 3: just settling. They're just picking people.
• 23:12
  Speaker 2: Oh my God.
• 23:12
  Speaker 3: And that's scary. They're just picking people.
• 23:14
  Speaker 2: Oh, I know. You know what's cool? Ah, see, we're
• 23:16
  Speaker 2: going to have to stop. But it's like, yeah, I
• 23:18
  Speaker 2: see friends that literally were like, you know, together right
• 23:20
  Speaker 2: after college. They seemed like the happiest of couples. I
• 23:23
  Speaker 2: just saw on Instagram like, Everybody just hashtag divorce. And
• 23:26
  Speaker 2: I'm like, what the heck? I'm like, y'all, that was
• 23:30
  Speaker 2: like two years of marriage.
• 23:31
  Speaker 3: Do not get married or make a serious commitment until
• 23:34
  Speaker 3: your frontal lobe is developed.
• 23:36
  Speaker 2: 24, 25.
• 23:36
  Speaker 3: I'm serious. I'm serious. It's going to flip.
• 23:41
  Speaker 2: Breakups pretty cheap. Divorce. Very expensive. Miranda, we need more
• 23:45
  Speaker 2: updates from you. We need to have you in more
• 23:47
  Speaker 2: because I'm so curious on how these situations go and
• 23:49
  Speaker 2: your life is just so fun to listen to.
• 23:51
  Speaker 3: I know, you're so much more fun than us.
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: No, don't say that.
• 23:54
  Speaker 3: I was just telling Jenna, I was like, I'm too
• 23:56
  Speaker 3: old to have crazy romantic liaisons because I'll just be
• 23:58
  Speaker 3: in the middle of it and be like, what am
• 23:59
  Speaker 3: I doing? Get out of my house.
• 24:03
  Speaker 2: Yeah. We'll come back again next week. We want more
• 24:05
  Speaker 2: updates from you and go on those dates. I do
• 24:07
  Speaker 2: also want to give a huge thank you to all
• 24:09
  Speaker 2: the comments that came in. Speaking of age and now
• 24:12
  Speaker 2: we're just talking about being 30. I saw this comment
• 24:14
  Speaker 2: that came through. From K.S. Croggins, who said, Y'all are
• 24:18
  Speaker 2: going to love your 30s. See, something to look forward to, Miranda.
• 24:22
  Speaker 2: It was the most freeing decade of my life, and
• 24:24
  Speaker 2: my 40s have been even better. Both of you have
• 24:27
  Speaker 2: your crap together more than you think.
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: Thank you.
• 24:31
  Speaker 2: Anytime you hear these episodes, pop up on the comments
• 24:33
  Speaker 2: on Spotify or on the YouTube, which are up there
• 24:35
  Speaker 2: right now. You can actually see this entire episode up
• 24:37
  Speaker 2: there with Miranda. If y'all ever heard her voice, you're like,
• 24:40
  Speaker 2: I wonder what she looks like.
• 24:41
  Speaker 3: Miranda.
• 24:41
  Speaker 2: She's amazing.
• 24:42
  Speaker 3: She's upping up our DE & I score.
• 24:45
  Speaker 2: Thank you, Miranda.
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: Of course.
• 24:47
  Speaker 2: See you fam tomorrow.
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: Bye bye.