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Transforming Trauma: Corry Matthews' Path from Firefighting to Neuro-Linguistic Healing for Veterans · Your Thoughts Your Reality

• 0:03
  Speaker 1: Welcome to your Thoughts, your Reality with Michael Cole, the podcast that shines a compassionate light on the journey of veterans battling through life's challenges.
• 0:11
  Speaker 1: Michael is a dual elite certified neuro encoding specialist in coaching and keynote training presentations dedicated to guiding military veterans as they navigate the intricate pathways of post-deployment life.
• 0:47
  Speaker 2: Join him as we delve into the profound realm of neuro encoding science, empowering these Hello, hello, hello everybody Society Forging a New Path Forward, hello, hello, hello everybody.
• 0:52
  Speaker 2: So today we have my special guest, corey Matthews.
• 0:53
  Speaker 2: Corey is the owner and founder of Wellformed Solutions, certified neuro-encoding specialist, neuro-linguistic practitioner with 20 years of service in the combat fire protection team in Alaska, a veteran as well, and super happy to have Corey on.
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  Speaker 2: Corey, tell us just a little bit more about yourself.
• 1:12
  Speaker 3: Oh man.
• 1:12
  Speaker 3: Well, thank you for the great intro.
• 1:14
  Speaker 3: Thank you for everything that you're putting on here for veterans and everybody else.
• 1:17
  Speaker 3: I really appreciate that too as well, brother.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, so a little bit about myself.
• 1:21
  Speaker 3: I was born and raised in Seattle, washington, raised in Auburn, washington, moved up to Alaska.
• 1:26
  Speaker 3: I was about eight years old, joined the military, the Air National Guard, december 6th of 96.
• 1:32
  Speaker 3: I also did forestry from 93 to 96 too as well.
• 1:40
  Speaker 3: Done industrial, municipal, worked on the volunteer fire departments, central Mount Sioux, volunteer Fire Departmentdez marine terminal on the aliaska fire team.
• 1:50
  Speaker 3: Um, done pretty much anything under the sun except for aerospace and shipboard firefighting.
• 1:52
  Speaker 2: So, uh, life has been good so you're loving it, man, let's go do that if you want, man right, awesome yeah.
• 2:03
  Speaker 2: A lot of lifelong experiences oh, absolutely, and thank you for sharing that.
• 2:07
  Speaker 2: Um, so what I want to just remind everybody, the qr code, the blue qr code in the top right hand uh corner of your screen.
• 2:14
  Speaker 2: It is uh links to empower performance strategies.
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  Speaker 2: If you're listening to the podcast on the podcast forums later on again, empower performance strategiescom there's plenty of resources for veterans and their families.
• 2:27
  Speaker 2: There's some books that I've written, there's Facebook groups, all that stuff.
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  Speaker 2: So please check that out and stick around to the end, because Mr Corey Matthews is going to share his three tips to get veterans further faster.
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  Speaker 2: I know right, so let's go ahead and get started.
• 2:55
  Speaker 3: So, corey, what kind of got you started down the road into, you know, your WellForm Solutions company and helping people.
• 2:59
  Speaker 3: Well, it's the reason why I joined the military.
• 3:01
  Speaker 3: You know, actually, the firefighting.
• 3:02
  Speaker 3: So I wanted to guarantee you know the firefighter position so that you know when I enlisted I actually made sure and tested out, you tested out, you know through, you know the asvab testing and make sure my scores were good and actually got it written on contract that I was, you know, going to fire protection services.
• 3:14
  Speaker 3: And because I wanted to not only, you know, serve my country, I wanted to serve my state and also serve my community and my people are, you know, and people around me and be able to be a service and help to them.
• 3:25
  Speaker 3: Uh, big addict as being a medic as well.
• 3:29
  Speaker 3: And, you know, going through life and seeing, you know different areas, you know the cut, you know the world and the country as well and just being, you know, just a service to, you know, to people.
• 3:41
  Speaker 3: And well, you know, as you go through life, you experience things in life right.
• 3:46
  Speaker 3: So, as I was, I was going through things.
• 3:49
  Speaker 3: There was things I needed to work on myself that I was pushing off to the side.
• 3:52
  Speaker 3: And so one day I, you know, was enough was enough and something had to change and so I decided to, um, you know, get out of fire department, get out of the medic and actually become a neuro-incorporating specialist and a NLP practitioner, also EFT practitioner, I mean, there's just a lot of tools that you know I went through to get certified so that I can dive in deeper, instead of just putting a bandaid on, you know, on the symptoms, actually go dive in deep, look at the you know the problem, the root to the problem, and help people, you know, have a long, longer, lifelong change in their life, instead of something that's going to be temporary.
• 4:34
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's awesome.
• 4:35
  Speaker 2: So at some point you just got leverage over yourself and said enough's enough and wanted to move forward.
• 4:40
  Speaker 2: That's fantastic.
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  Speaker 2: Love that.
• 4:42
  Speaker 2: Oh, yeah, it was most definitely a day to remember, don't we have those?
• 4:51
  Speaker 2: So, as far as like resilience and transformation, how has your own journey as a veteran shaped your approach to helping others, particularly veterans?
• 4:58
  Speaker 2: You know navigating life's challenges.
• 4:59
  Speaker 2: You know, as Les Brown says I know you introduced him not that long ago life be life, and so you know what.
• 5:07
  Speaker 2: You know what, what is on your own journey has helped you with life's challenges that way.
• 5:13
  Speaker 3: Well, having that connection, having that understanding and you know, even though that's you know, say, for example, if you and I were standing shoulder to shoulder and we see a dumpster catch on fire, right, your perception would be different than my perception, even though we've kind of gone through the same similarities.
• 5:29
  Speaker 3: The way that it transcends in the person, the way it's perceived, is different.
• 5:34
  Speaker 3: So, having that understanding, like, hey, I understand that you may be feeling this or you've may felt this here because of the similarities, I might not have actually gone through that exact same moment you know of that person.
• 5:48
  Speaker 3: However, the cause and effect is still the same.
• 5:52
  Speaker 3: You know you're not wanting to get up out of bed, or you're using drinking to to self-medicate, or other drugs or anything else to self-medicate, or even adrenaline junkie, even even, uh, even myself, you know, trying to find that.
• 6:05
  Speaker 3: You know that constant adrenaline to keep, you know, to keep going to, that felt like that, you know, had to sustain my life.
• 6:11
  Speaker 3: So, being able to relate to the, you know the symptoms, you know if you will, you know that you know from the cause of xyz, right, that's where, that's where, like, the root of it all is, you know, I I can't say that I experienced the same thing as they have.
• 6:27
  Speaker 3: I have experienced the same emotions self-doubt, self-loathing, self.
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  Speaker 3: You know the, the all the self.
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  Speaker 3: You know deterioration.
• 6:36
  Speaker 3: You know beating yourself up, the what ifs.
• 6:39
  Speaker 3: You know the what if I could have I should have done this or I should have done that.
• 6:42
  Speaker 3: Shouldn't all over ourselves, don't shit on yourself, man.
• 6:47
  Speaker 3: It's not pretty sight.
• 6:47
  Speaker 3: And just even by doing that, even though you think that that's something that you know helps you out, it's not, it actually makes things worse.
• 6:55
  Speaker 3: By, you know in, you know reflecting, internalizing, you know those negative thoughts and feelings.
• 6:59
  Speaker 3: So, with my life and seeing, you know, the struggles of other people, other veterans and first responders, and the stigma of we're not supposed to talk about our emotions and feelings.
• 7:12
  Speaker 3: We're not supposed to talk about the cause.
• 7:13
  Speaker 3: Even if we do, it's like is this more of looking at, are we being blamed for something that we did wrong or whatever?
• 7:20
  Speaker 3: So the whole stigma of that is trying to change, the whole stigma.
• 7:55
  Speaker 3: That is trying, you know trying to change the whole services.
• 7:57
  Speaker 3: And by being able to reflect back on myself, when you know my pile of you like this is not me, it's not who, I am Making that transition and saying, okay, now look at myself and see what I know I have X Y Z to do or it's like, well, I have nothing else really important to do.
• 8:07
  Speaker 3: I'll get up when I have this thing here, but when you know, you know in your mind that you can be doing X Y Z, you're cleaning up around the house or whatever, and by being able to see that and relating to that and you know, and delicately, you know with you know sympathy and compassion and understanding, and you know being able to communicate, you know to get those emotions and find those emotions and then find out.
• 8:35
  Speaker 3: You know we can't go back and we can't go back in the past in time and change what happened.
• 8:41
  Speaker 2: Right, however, we can, yeah, yeah what happened, right?
• 8:50
  Speaker 3: however, we can, yeah, yeah.
• 8:50
  Speaker 3: So, however, we, we can go back in time and change how we allow it to affect us today and in our future.
• 8:53
  Speaker 3: You know, just by asking the good quality questions, you know, and going back in and saying, hey, let's what's what's you know, take a look at this, let's reframe this, let's you know.
• 9:04
  Speaker 3: Whatever the case is and everybody is different, I can't really go into too much, you know explanations, because it's going to be different for everybody, you know so with you.
• 9:13
  Speaker 2: What did you do?
• 9:15
  Speaker 3: well, um.
• 9:16
  Speaker 3: So basically that you know I had that that moment of enough was enough.
• 9:20
  Speaker 3: Um, after um having a public incident with a ptsd episode with my uh girlfriend and her kids, um, and after giving everybody the number one salute at a theater pub here in anchorage, alaska, and I was uh, don't know what it was that you know, triggered me or whatever else, but I you know what.
• 9:40
  Speaker 3: Whatever was said to me, I remember what was said to me, uh, and don't remember what was said to me After I said what I said.
• 9:45
  Speaker 3: I guarantee you 100% of the people in that theater heard me and I was upstairs.
• 9:50
  Speaker 3: I guarantee you that 100% of the people heard me in that whole entire building.
• 9:55
  Speaker 3: I'm pretty sure that 98% of that 100% didn't even know it was human, possible to hear what they heard coming from a person telling another person.
• 10:06
  Speaker 3: And after I was walking out and giving everybody the number one salute and inside my head I was telling myself get the F out, get the F out, get the F out of here, just get outside, get outside, get outside.
• 10:14
  Speaker 3: You know, just, you know, my, my, my subconscious was like, literally like pushing me out, like get your butt outside.
• 10:21
  Speaker 3: And other colorful languages, right.
• 10:23
  Speaker 3: And so after that, after I got outside, I took a couple of deep breaths.
• 10:28
  Speaker 3: I called my dad, you know, god rest his soul and said hey, this is what happened.
• 10:33
  Speaker 3: This is where I, you know, I need to go home, I need a ride.
• 10:35
  Speaker 3: This is the route I'm taking, don't roll up behind me, meet me at one of my turns, or you know something.
• 10:46
  Speaker 3: And he said I'll meet you here.
• 10:47
  Speaker 3: I was like all right, got in the car.
• 10:48
  Speaker 3: He talked about me home, um, I was also going to the tbi clinic on base it's.
• 10:50
  Speaker 3: You know, at the time it's called jay bear and, uh, you know, it was a sunday, you know closed.
• 10:56
  Speaker 3: So I got the emergency line, talked to a guy and he said I'll see you tomorrow at six o'clock in the morning, you know, and we're, with the rest of the physicians coming at seven, the place won't open up until eight.
• 11:04
  Speaker 3: So we're going to try something new, something different.
• 11:06
  Speaker 3: Well, he did, and it was called battlefield acupuncture and that was kind of the gateway of opening up my, my way of of seeing things right and being able to calm down.
• 11:17
  Speaker 3: And uh, after that, um, I was introduced to NLP neuro Linguistic Programming and actually it took a couple of times, because to get certified you actually have to work on somebody that you don't know.
• 11:30
  Speaker 3: So I was asked to be a volunteer because somebody didn't show up the first time and the second time my girlfriend was actually going through the NLP course and she asked me to facilitate, to facilitate and um, so after that, uh, you know that second time, uh, there was some courses that was going on at the facility that was putting on the nlp courses and, um, there was a training course and it was learning.
• 11:57
  Speaker 3: I just got to learn how to anchor, you know, emotions and feelings and stuff like that right, which is really cool because you can be able to take that, you know.
• 12:03
  Speaker 3: You know, take a physical memory of a positive memory and place it on your body somewhere and recall.
• 12:07
  Speaker 3: It's really cool and amazing technique to use and it gets people out of you know, you know on on resourceful thoughts, absolutely.
• 12:15
  Speaker 3: And so I had another ptsd episode in that class.
• 12:20
  Speaker 3: The second day to the last class, after learning all the anchors, I asked him a question and he answered the question, but then I felt my body started getting hotter and it felt like something with really sharp claws was starting to climb in through the inside of my body, from my feet, and clawing on my skin from the inside out, trying to get out, and you know this dark beast or whatever.
• 12:43
  Speaker 3: And I was like, hey, you know, she's like you know my girlfriend's beast or whatever.
• 12:44
  Speaker 3: And I was like, hey, you know, she's like you know my girlfriend's.
• 12:45
  Speaker 3: Like what's wrong?
• 12:46
  Speaker 3: I was like it's like he answered my question but he didn't answer my question.
• 12:48
  Speaker 3: But I have a lot of stuff going on.
• 12:50
  Speaker 3: I'm getting hot and all this other stuff going on.
• 12:52
  Speaker 3: And then he turned to me and said I'm sure you did everything you could at that moment and I was like, boom, I was gone.
• 13:00
  Speaker 3: I went from there to my biggest team, my biggest trauma, and you know.
• 13:05
  Speaker 3: And he came up and he's like, hey, it's time for a break.
• 13:07
  Speaker 3: And I was like, hey, you don't got your anchors.
• 13:10
  Speaker 3: I'm like, yeah, I got my anchors, all right, fire them off, fire them off.
• 13:12
  Speaker 3: And I was like, okay, well, each time I was going deeper and deeper and deeper into my you know ptsd.
• 13:22
  Speaker 3: Well, the facilitator.
• 13:22
  Speaker 3: He came up and was like, whoa, he's a veteran, we have to change, we have to change the wording.
• 13:25
  Speaker 3: And so he used nlp to bring me out of a really deep rooted you know, absolutely you know ptsd episode.
• 13:33
  Speaker 3: The room got brighter, that my posture got better.
• 13:36
  Speaker 3: My body got started getting like I felt that flush, just like I did with the battlefield acupuncture.
• 13:41
  Speaker 3: So I started putting two to two together and I was like, hey, that was cool.
• 13:46
  Speaker 3: I want to learn that, not only for myself, to work on myself, you know, like the whole thing we hear about physician heal ourselves.
• 13:52
  Speaker 3: Not only that, also to help other people and to to them unstuck, to get them either unstuck with.
• 14:01
  Speaker 3: You know the whole hesitation, procrastination, self-doubt, self-loathing and many others right Also to get-.
• 14:06
  Speaker 2: I'm going to go through all of them for a second.
• 14:09
  Speaker 3: Oh I mean, I can't.
• 14:11
  Speaker 2: I know I'll do it.
• 14:12
  Speaker 3: I mean, you know, if we're going to do a challenge of the, you know of the toxic 10, let's go, baby, you know, let's do it Right.
• 14:18
  Speaker 3: So, yeah, so you know being able and being able to and get through the, you know the TBIs to heal from TBIs and to be able to heal from CPTSD, which is complex post-traumatic stress disorders, which stems from, you know, early childhood to, you know, compounding through the years as more crescendos, more the shoulds, the piles of turds that get piled up through life.
• 14:45
  Speaker 3: But you're able to heal from this stuff.
• 14:48
  Speaker 3: The body heals itself and that's what's been really interesting in the past few years, several years actually, ptsd, or traumatic experience anyways, is on the submolecular level, where the receptors in the brain get so amped up, you know, in stress, they actually start to crack and break and break apart.
• 15:09
  Speaker 3: So the signals get misaligned and everything else.
• 15:12
  Speaker 3: So it's actually an injury and not a disorder.
• 15:16
  Speaker 3: That's a whole different topic.
• 15:18
  Speaker 3: I'm not going to gonna, we're not gonna go on that there.
• 15:20
  Speaker 3: We have to bring up a lot of resources and stuff like that.
• 15:23
  Speaker 3: However, we all know that our body heals ourselves.
• 15:27
  Speaker 3: I mean, we all have had, you know, cut, a scrape or bruise or something right that we or we've seen somebody that's had that you know, and healed from it.
• 15:35
  Speaker 3: We can also heal from our traumas.
• 15:36
  Speaker 3: We can also heal from the tbis, and you know, and you know, and healed from it.
• 15:39
  Speaker 3: We can also heal from our traumas.
• 15:40
  Speaker 3: We can also heal from the TBIs, and you know we may not be the person that we were before.
• 15:46
  Speaker 3: However, we can be a better version of our older selves if we apply for it.
• 15:52
  Speaker 3: If that person wants that, and that's one of the greatest things is that change happens from within you, you, you know.
• 16:04
  Speaker 3: A person can want it like oh, you know, I'm coming in because my wife says I have an anger problem.
• 16:06
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I see, I've got, you know, I got anger issues, you know, and I think it'd be good.
• 16:09
  Speaker 3: It's only going to stick for a very short period of time and it's not going to last.
• 16:12
  Speaker 3: Has that person has to want that change?
• 16:15
  Speaker 3: That person's been in that position where enough is enough.
• 16:18
  Speaker 3: I want this for myself, because we all know that if we're having a bad day, we stub our toe in the morning.
• 16:24
  Speaker 3: All of a sudden we're starting to get late, we're dropping stuff, and then people don't want to be around us and then people's tonalities are different towards us.
• 16:31
  Speaker 3: Well, the same thing applies when we're happy, when everything goes well, we're making our bed, we're going, we're getting on things on time, people are smiling, people want to converse and be close to us, so that by changing and reframing what's going on in your lives, you know yes, for the positive, of course, because we want you know the past, or anger, the things that has once served us before.
• 17:00
  Speaker 3: Right now, in this particular moment and five minutes from now, doesn't it, anger, need to serve me?
• 17:06
  Speaker 3: No, it doesn't.
• 17:07
  Speaker 3: Now is there a point in time where I need to be angry?
• 17:11
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 17:12
  Speaker 3: Say, for example, if somebody is attacking my family, guarantee you there's going to be some anger.
• 17:16
  Speaker 3: Know there's.
• 17:19
  Speaker 3: There's just those kind of situations and stuff that you don't.
• 17:21
  Speaker 3: There's time, there's a time and place for it and there's a time and place not for it absolutely so, let's, let's move into something else.
• 17:28
  Speaker 2: so, for neuroencoding specifically so, uh, what are some?
• 17:34
  Speaker 2: What are some specific neuroenc encoding techniques when you're angry and you know you want to default back to your best self for instance, effective in helping veterans and their families but overcoming those those things in the moment, if you will, because obviously, if you're angry and you stay there, you're not making great decisions, or any of those things.
• 17:58
  Speaker 2: So let's talk about that just for a minute.
• 18:01
  Speaker 3: Absolutely.
• 18:02
  Speaker 3: And yes, you know, making that transition, you know, from learning.
• 18:05
  Speaker 3: You know NLP, eft, core transformation.
• 18:07
  Speaker 3: I mean, you know da, da, da da.
• 18:09
  Speaker 3: And learning neuroencoding through the Neuroencoding Institute.
• 18:13
  Speaker 3: You know that's put on by Joseph McLennan III and a great staff they have, and actually it's either been or will be on your podcast here shortly.
• 18:29
  Speaker 3: Is that the basics, the foundation?
• 18:30
  Speaker 3: It really starts with the mind.
• 18:31
  Speaker 3: Your thoughts becomes your reality as you think, so you feel as you feel, so you do as you do, so you have.
• 18:39
  Speaker 3: I also like to add as you have, you know, you know as you think, so you feel as you feel, so you do as you do, so you have right.
• 18:42
  Speaker 3: I also like to add you know as you have, you give.
• 18:43
  Speaker 3: So as you give, you get to receive.
• 18:44
  Speaker 3: You know you get to receive from others and you get to receive from, you know, the universe, divine, god, whatever belief systems that you have.
• 18:52
  Speaker 3: So, really, really, yeah, so really, the basics.
• 19:00
  Speaker 3: So as you think right, think right, so you're thinking, so also, it has comes with your speech what you say.
• 19:04
  Speaker 3: So, as you say onto yourself or onto others, you know it's, it's really.
• 19:09
  Speaker 3: You know you're programming yourself to believe it.
• 19:12
  Speaker 3: So like, for example, I am like, I am courageous, I am strong, I am powerful.
• 19:17
  Speaker 3: Those are things that are going to pump you up, right, well, if you say, well, you didn't do the same thing on the other side, if I say I am fat, I'm stupid, I'm repulsive, I'm like what you know, like what the hell am I doing, you know, kind of thing.
• 19:29
  Speaker 3: Well, it's the same thing, affects, affects, it happens here.
• 19:32
  Speaker 3: So it's the basics.
• 19:33
  Speaker 2: And I just want to add really quick Corey, and most of the human thoughts are the negative ones until you change it over to self-love and loving yourself and so on.
• 19:46
  Speaker 2: So I just wanted to point that out Pay attention to your thoughts, because more of your thoughts are negative generally than they are positive.
• 19:52
  Speaker 2: So just want to throw that in there.
• 19:54
  Speaker 2: Please go ahead and continue.
• 19:56
  Speaker 3: Yeah, absolutely, because we have a million billion-year-old brain, right, I mean, it started developing from the back, working towards and forward.
• 20:04
  Speaker 3: And having that primordial brain is that the brain likes to go to the negative first, because that's it likes to protect itself.
• 20:15
  Speaker 3: It's the brain's self, because without the brain, everything else dies, right?
• 20:20
  Speaker 3: So by having the, by having those thoughts, you know, you know.
• 20:24
  Speaker 3: You know either the negative ones or positive ones stand in front of a mirror in the morning when you wake up and do your morning routine.
• 20:30
  Speaker 3: You know and say I am courageous, I am powerful, I am beautiful, I'm handsome, I'm strong, I'm sexy, whatever I'm magnificent, I'm powerful, Whatever it is for you.
• 20:40
  Speaker 3: That's what you say.
• 20:42
  Speaker 2: Corey, how do you know?
• 20:43
  Speaker 2: I say all those things in the morning.
• 20:46
  Speaker 3: Well, because I was your accountability partner and I trained you well, flipped that one back on you.
• 20:55
  Speaker 2: I totally did.
• 20:56
  Speaker 2: I have a list of my marriage about that long right, no, and it's really good.
• 21:05
  Speaker 3: And also the what we say in conversations.
• 21:08
  Speaker 3: You know, like the but statements.
• 21:10
  Speaker 3: You know anything that you say beforehand.
• 21:12
  Speaker 3: You know when you say like you know, honey, I love you, but could you have worked on the dishes?
• 21:16
  Speaker 3: Well, now she's going to be upset because she's thought you know, you know because could you have worked on the dishes?
• 21:19
  Speaker 3: Well, now she's going to be upset because she's thought, you know, you know cause now she's concentrating on the dishes and not the I love you part.
• 21:22
  Speaker 3: And the same thing for men.
• 21:24
  Speaker 3: If you have to flip it, do the negative first.
• 21:26
  Speaker 3: You know, like, hey, you know dishes aren't done, but, babe, I love you so much, I admire you, thank you for working's like really the, the like the starting pouring of the foundation, and then help kind of solidify this foundation, have a really good, strong foundation to build the rest of your mental.
• 21:55
  Speaker 3: You know structure up right is what we like to call the stop technique.
• 22:00
  Speaker 3: You know you have this negative thought you actually literally say out loud, you know in practice, of course, because you know in public, if you yell stop, who knows what's going to happen, right, I mean cars might be screeching and kids be crying or whatever.
• 22:13
  Speaker 3: Who knows It'd be chaos cats and dogs living together, who knows so?
• 22:17
  Speaker 3: Who knows It'd be chaos, cats and dogs living together, who knows so?
• 22:19
  Speaker 3: You know, you say stop.
• 22:20
  Speaker 3: You practice at home and you have this negative thought.
• 22:22
  Speaker 3: You say stop out loud.
• 22:23
  Speaker 3: If you're sitting, you stand up, you shake your body out, you change your physiology.
• 22:27
  Speaker 3: If you're standing, step forward, step to the left, step to the right.
• 22:31
  Speaker 3: Avoid stepping backwards, because that's kind of like going in the past, step into the future, step right, step left.
• 22:37
  Speaker 3: Whatever the case is, shake your body out, think of something positive that's really strong in memory that nothing else can defeat that, and make a finger point at your chest and say I am magnificent, and then say yes, and give yourself a celebration, and that will start the stopping process.
• 22:57
  Speaker 3: It.
• 22:57
  Speaker 3: It will take that CD or that record or that cassette or a track I'm running out old, you know our audiences here.
• 23:04
  Speaker 3: Oh Lord, right, it's going to start scratching it, or it's going to start pulling out that feed, right, and what's going to do is going to scratch it enough to where that operating system can't.
• 23:18
  Speaker 3: You know that crescendo, that negative thought, can't play anymore, you know.
• 23:24
  Speaker 3: And then you're going to create a space like a skitoma, right, you know, and you got to place it, you know, in there with something.
• 23:31
  Speaker 3: That's what the positive.
• 23:31
  Speaker 3: Then you change your thoughts of like, okay, what can I concentrate on next?
• 23:35
  Speaker 3: What can I concentrate on next, what can I do next?
• 23:38
  Speaker 3: And by getting a coach or you know, or seeking help with somebody, we get to train you and show you what exactly to put in that crescendo.
• 23:45
  Speaker 3: And it's what, and usually what that is.
• 23:48
  Speaker 3: It's going to be your outcomes, whatever that is specifically for you, not the agenda that we have or anybody else.
• 23:55
  Speaker 3: If they have an agenda for you, it's the wrong person.
• 23:57
  Speaker 3: It's for you.
• 23:58
  Speaker 3: It's whatever your outcome that you want.
• 24:01
  Speaker 3: So, like you have all these negative thoughts coming up that's stopping you from getting to the outcome that you're going to contact us, we'll help you out, we'll get that taken care of and we'll get you to your outcomes, for you know, get you further and faster in your life that you don't.
• 24:13
  Speaker 3: You didn't think that was even possible.
• 24:15
  Speaker 2: Very cool, and thanks for sharing the stop technique there.
• 24:17
  Speaker 2: That's different than other, you know we're taught it, so, like I myself have changed it and added to it, if you will.
• 24:26
  Speaker 2: I see you did that too, so bravo, man.
• 24:28
  Speaker 2: I love it.
• 24:29
  Speaker 2: I love it, hey.
• 24:30
  Speaker 2: So what are some of the unique challenges veterans face when transitioning to civilian life, and how does your holistic approach address that?
• 24:40
  Speaker 3: when transitioning to civilian life, and how does your holistic approach address that?
• 24:45
  Speaker 3: Well, transitioning from one thing to another, you know it's.
• 24:47
  Speaker 3: You know preparation is the key.
• 24:48
  Speaker 3: You know knowing.
• 24:48
  Speaker 3: You know knowing what you're going to be doing.
• 24:49
  Speaker 3: You know ahead of time and, yes, you don't even know.
• 24:51
  Speaker 3: You know in the long time.
• 24:53
  Speaker 3: You know long-term veterans, you know that's been in the military for.
• 24:57
  Speaker 3: You know long-term veterans, you know that's been in the military for.
• 24:59
  Speaker 3: You know 20 plus years or have had a very intense career.
• 25:01
  Speaker 3: You know in six to eight years and 10 years excuse me, excuse me, for that will have.
• 25:09
  Speaker 3: You know they know that they're getting out, they know when they're getting out.
• 25:12
  Speaker 3: They know that.
• 25:13
  Speaker 3: You know the ceremonies are coming or whatever the case is.
• 25:15
  Speaker 3: They know the processing, the paperwork is coming.
• 25:18
  Speaker 3: They know they have to do it A lot of the times.
• 25:21
  Speaker 3: You know there are some individuals that you know have, you know, an outcome, a goal in mind.
• 25:26
  Speaker 3: They see it, they hear it, they feel it.
• 25:28
  Speaker 3: They know what they're going to be doing.
• 25:29
  Speaker 3: Then the majority are lost in a sense.
• 25:33
  Speaker 3: They, they, they're kind of like everything's kind of blurred after what's going to be when they get out.
• 25:38
  Speaker 3: You know exactly what they're going to do.
• 25:39
  Speaker 3: They're going to do for work.
• 25:41
  Speaker 3: What are they going to do for, you know, housing going to do for work.
• 25:45
  Speaker 3: What are they going to do for, you know, housing.
• 25:46
  Speaker 3: You know, you know the list goes on right.
• 25:47
  Speaker 3: So preparation is the key, even though that you know that there is.
• 25:50
  Speaker 3: You know, even when I was transitioning out, you know, having that thought in the mind, it was still like you know, mud it was.
• 25:59
  Speaker 3: You know, I had a similar vision, but didn't really feel it, didn't really.
• 26:04
  Speaker 3: It wasn't really clear.
• 26:05
  Speaker 3: You know, I just had a, you know, just of an idea of what it would be like instead of actually like digging deep and finding out exactly what it is.
• 26:15
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and that's that's more of the norm, unfortunately.
• 26:18
  Speaker 2: You know, the military does a great job of conditioning you to go in and do what you need to do.
• 26:23
  Speaker 2: And I'm not throwing shade on the military, I love you, I love you but they're not conditioning for civilian life afterward.
• 26:31
  Speaker 2: You know they need to find their purpose.
• 26:33
  Speaker 2: You know, this is what I'm finding.
• 26:35
  Speaker 2: They need to have a purpose, because most military veterans now they're not drafted, they're not going in because they don't have a choice.
• 26:43
  Speaker 2: They're going in because they want to serve and they want to have a purpose, a purpose.
• 26:46
  Speaker 2: Same thing coming out, you know, but they need a purpose, they need, they need their camaraderie and they need a plan.
• 26:52
  Speaker 2: You know, those are the main three things.
• 26:53
  Speaker 2: There's multiple other ones, but you know it's it's super important that you brought that up, thank you.
• 26:57
  Speaker 3: Absolutely.
• 26:58
  Speaker 3: And also, yeah, grant, I mean it's been a while since we've had the draft.
• 27:01
  Speaker 3: There are, you know, a few individuals that you know they come into a crossroad that can either, you know, choose military, they can choose jail, so they're kind of there is that kind of draft and I'm not and it's this is not to dog those individuals.
• 27:16
  Speaker 3: Those are some of the ones that actually have fought the hardest in the trenches of of you know, of, you know going through either through combat or or or going through the military and stuff and, um, you know everybody that you know I've come across with the military and you know, and the people that I've, uh, interacted with and deployed with have been, you know, stellar across the board.
• 27:38
  Speaker 3: Uh, you know, of course, you're going to have occasional where you're, you're, you're going to have a person you're not going to really see eye to eye with, and that's going to happen.
• 27:47
  Speaker 3: You know, and you're absolutely right about that transitioning, I mean you know being able to, you know, come back from deployments.
• 27:54
  Speaker 3: I mean it's.
• 27:56
  Speaker 3: You know everything is so kind of ramrodded, if you will.
• 28:00
  Speaker 3: You know the process of like, ok, here's, here's these meetings, you got to go here, you got to get your, your signatures here, and you got to go get your signatures there and you got to.
• 28:08
  Speaker 3: You know this now.
• 28:10
  Speaker 3: You got to get medical appointments and your shots.
• 28:13
  Speaker 3: Oh really, action, and actually, yeah, we, we.
• 28:27
  Speaker 2: So it was a good-looking face instead of something like that's never a good-looking face when they freeze me Right Never so where are you at?
• 28:35
  Speaker 2: Yeah, we're getting a little on time here, corey, so thank you for sharing what we did get to go through.
• 28:39
  Speaker 2: Can you share?
• 28:44
  Speaker 3: how people reach out to you.
• 28:44
  Speaker 3: If they want to reach out, yeah, you can reach out to me on Facebook at Wellformed Solutions as well.
• 28:49
  Speaker 3: You can also reach out to me through wwwwellformedsolutionscom.
• 28:54
  Speaker 3: And I'm also on Instagram as WFS or Corey, so if you can reach out to me there, Excellent, excellent.
• 29:04
  Speaker 2: So also, you know we promised at the beginning of the show.
• 29:07
  Speaker 2: You know the three tips to get veterans and their families further faster.
• 29:10
  Speaker 3: So go All right.
• 29:13
  Speaker 3: Three tips One be aware you know what's going on internally.
• 29:18
  Speaker 3: Right, and it is OK to not be.
• 29:22
  Speaker 3: Ok, it's OK to to reach out.
• 29:24
  Speaker 3: It's OK to say something.
• 29:24
  Speaker 3: It's okay to say something.
• 29:25
  Speaker 3: It's okay to say, hey, I need help with this, even if it's out processing, you know, even though it seems, you know, it might be something that somebody else may like.
• 29:34
  Speaker 3: Oh, this is easy, it may be easy for them Say, hey, I'm struggling with this because I have other things going on.
• 29:41
  Speaker 3: Other tips is go with a plan in anything in life.
• 29:45
  Speaker 3: You know, just like, even with the military and deploying, there's always a plan, right, uh, even with uh missions, that, even with tasks, uh, task force, uh, there's a lot of myself, there's a lot of people out there that can, that can help you out with that.
• 29:59
  Speaker 3: And also the third thing is communication.
• 30:10
  Speaker 3: Communication is the result that it gets.
• 30:12
  Speaker 3: So by communicating, you know communicating with your higher ups, communicating with your subordinates.
• 30:17
  Speaker 3: So you know, communicate with your spouse and your family.
• 30:21
  Speaker 3: You know, do a check-in.
• 30:23
  Speaker 3: You know not only you know the families.
• 30:26
  Speaker 3: You know, do a check-in.
• 30:26
  Speaker 3: You know not only you know the family is.
• 30:27
  Speaker 3: You know, when the service member deploys, the family deploys too as well.
• 30:29
  Speaker 3: It's just they're deployed on the home, on the home end.
• 30:31
  Speaker 3: They're they, you know they're.
• 30:33
  Speaker 3: They're battles out on the home front, your battles on the battlefield, right.
• 30:36
  Speaker 3: So, communication, communicate, communicate, communicate, you know, is the, you know, one of the best things I can.
• 30:43
  Speaker 3: Probably, you know, give right now and then again reach out, you know, because you know everybody's loved.
• 30:49
  Speaker 2: So, yeah, absolutely so.
• 30:50
  Speaker 2: Thank you, corey, and you know what that communication is such a big.
• 30:54
  Speaker 2: You hold space for each other, you know.
• 30:55
  Speaker 2: Let each other know where you are.
• 30:57
  Speaker 2: It's not a weakness to ask for help.
• 30:59
  Speaker 2: It's the most courageous thing you really can do and it changes the game.
• 31:06
  Speaker 2: It truly, truly does.
• 31:07
  Speaker 2: So thank you, man.
• 31:07
  Speaker 2: Awesome to have you on here, cory.
• 31:08
  Speaker 2: Thank you, buddy, appreciate it, man all right, everybody um cory matthews and we are out of here bye, bye thank you for joining us on another insightful journey of your thoughts your Reality podcast with your host, michael Cole.
• 31:27
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• 31:30
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• 31:37
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• 31:41
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• 31:46
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