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Can I feel pregnant when my wife is? · Stuff You Should Know

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  Speaker 1: Edit tris. I'm gonna go with edit tricks just because
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  Speaker 1: it sounds authoritative, and I'm feeling pretty authoritative today because
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  Speaker 1: I've got a really weird question for you, and I
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  Speaker 1: already know the answer. Can I, assuming I'm a man,
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  Speaker 1: feel pregnant when my wife is? The answer is a
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  Speaker 1: resounding yes, at least from anecdotal evidence. M we're talking
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  Speaker 1: about couveid or kuvad syndrome, first described by Hippocrates. I
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  Speaker 1: believe in three correct that's right, And if you don't
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  Speaker 1: feel like whipping out your French, you could also call
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  Speaker 1: it false pregnancy or sympathetic pregnancy. And essentially what happens
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  Speaker 1: is a man develops studos SISIs, which is a swollen belly.
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  Speaker 1: This phantom belly is that he's actually carrying a child.
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  Speaker 1: And now I've heard about men succumbing to their pregnant
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  Speaker 1: wives cravings and them also wanting chocolate shakes and French
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  Speaker 1: fries at three in the morning. But who doesn't, well, naturally,
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  Speaker 1: I do every day. But when you get that phantom belly,
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  Speaker 1: I think you're going a step too far. You're really
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  Speaker 1: stealing your wife's thunder, don't you think. Yeah, And that's
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  Speaker 1: one of the theories behind Cuvey syndrome is that the
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  Speaker 1: man has developed a rivalry with his wife. He wants
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  Speaker 1: in on the attention, the action, the you know, just
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  Speaker 1: the glamour of being pregnant. And it's worth mentioning to
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  Speaker 1: no men choose to develop phantom pregnancy any more than
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  Speaker 1: they choose to develop man breasts. This is a psycho
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  Speaker 1: somatic condition and it's brought on by this emotional attachment
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  Speaker 1: or maybe confusion with all these changes that are happening.
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  Speaker 1: And it's also very important to mention too that this
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  Speaker 1: isn't something exclusive of two men. It happens to women
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  Speaker 1: who maybe I had a miscarriage in the past, or
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  Speaker 1: they've lost a child and they have this extreme emotional
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  Speaker 1: need to actually bear a child again. And there's actually
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  Speaker 1: a pretty famous case of this. Have you heard of
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  Speaker 1: bloody Mary. I have actually the woman where if you
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  Speaker 1: stand in the mirror and you say your name how
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  Speaker 1: many times fast? I'm not going to tell you because
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  Speaker 1: you're gonna try to do it. I don't want to.
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  Speaker 1: I don't want to lose her on how stuff work.
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  Speaker 1: But yes, I have heard of bloody Mary. Well, apparently
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  Speaker 1: one of the reasons she was so bloody reputedly is
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  Speaker 1: because she had this syndrome. She either had a lot
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  Speaker 1: of bad runs with miscarriages or she couldn't actually bear
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  Speaker 1: her children, and so she took her aggression out in
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  Speaker 1: a pretty violent way. And when women get this condition,
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  Speaker 1: a lot of times it results in more serious consequences
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  Speaker 1: than men, because when men have it, I think they
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  Speaker 1: know innately they're not going to actually give birth to
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  Speaker 1: a child. When all of a sudden done, it goes away.
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  Speaker 1: After the woman gives birth, things get back to normal.
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  Speaker 1: But for women at the into the gestation period, they
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  Speaker 1: expect to see a baby. Lisa Montgomery was a woman
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  Speaker 1: who had a pretty extreme case of Vot syndrome. In
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  Speaker 1: December two thousand four, she actually murdered a woman who
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  Speaker 1: was pregnant. She cut open her womb and removed her
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  Speaker 1: unborn child because she felt very proprietor proprietarily that was
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  Speaker 1: her baby. She should have that baby. That was a
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  Speaker 1: bad day for everyone. Indeed, my big problem with sympathetic
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  Speaker 1: pregnancy is this. You know, obviously with Lisa Montgomery cases,
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  Speaker 1: that's that's pretty serious stuff. But specifically with men, it's psychosomatic,
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  Speaker 1: and it is across the board. In every case. This
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  Speaker 1: isn't a physical malady. It's it's basically a mental disorder
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  Speaker 1: and a certain to a certain degree. Um, and it
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  Speaker 1: is psychosomatic. It's it's the mind playing tricks on the body. Um.
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  Speaker 1: That seems logical enough, But the thing is the medical
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  Speaker 1: community hasn't really established a clear link yet, although I
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  Speaker 1: think they're hot on the trail with a let to
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  Speaker 1: lights and hormones. So what do you think about psychosomatic conditions?
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  Speaker 1: Should people with them be pitied? Should they basically just
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  Speaker 1: be smacked around and and and told to get over themselves? Well?
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  Speaker 1: I'm not really sure because I know psychiatrists. But it
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  Speaker 1: does make for pretty great TV. Did you see the
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  Speaker 1: episode of Grey's Anatomy with the man who had this? No? No,
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  Speaker 1: I didn't, but I did watch a law and order
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  Speaker 1: SVU where a homeless woman had had several children taken
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  Speaker 1: by the state and she developed Couved syndrome. It was
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  Speaker 1: it made for moving television. I'll tell you that the
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  Speaker 1: good news is because this is in the media and
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  Speaker 1: more people know about it, there are ways for people
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  Speaker 1: to get help. You can get counsel, you can go
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  Speaker 1: see psychiatrists. There are ways that you could sit down
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  Speaker 1: with your wife and talk about the feelings that you're
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  Speaker 1: having and see if maybe you can reach a level
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  Speaker 1: ground where she understands what you're going through and she's
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  Speaker 1: equally as sympathetic to your condition as you are to hers,
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  Speaker 1: all the while you're fetching her pickles and ice crect. Yes, well, clearly,
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  Speaker 1: what you're saying is is that this could conceivably be
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  Speaker 1: worked out just by talking about it, which you know
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  Speaker 1: indicates it is a psychosomatic condition. It's the mind exerting
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  Speaker 1: um some sort of authority over the body and causing
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  Speaker 1: physical symptoms. UM. The bottom line for all this is uh,
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  Speaker 1: if you do have Kupid syndromes, seek help, see get beast,
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