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Body Shaming and Hypocrisy on Morgan's New Podcast | Paul and Morgan · Rachel Oates

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Hey everyone and welcome to a new video.
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If this looks familiar and I look a mess then I apologise.
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And I've just finished writing five very long scripts in a row.
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I'm in the middle of filming. I'm just halfway through filming
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my yesteryear video script but I needed a break so I'm filming
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this. OK.
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A couple of weeks ago I responded to Morgan from Paula
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Morgan, her first podcast with her friend Carl.
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It was a bit of a mess, I'll be honest.
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There was a lot of straw manning in there and hating on anti
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natalists. There was a lot of
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misinformation. It was just kind of bizarre,
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boring, an unorganised half hour of moaning and squealing
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welcome. To.
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Unbuckled. A little on hand.
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And a lot honest. Oh.
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Man. Because once a month, me and
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Carl meet up. That's Carl.
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I'm Morgan. Yeah, we don't introduce.
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Ourselves. Should we introduce ourselves?
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I'm Morgan. And I'm Caroline.
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There we go. OK, Carl.
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Yes. Today we're going to be
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responding to the second episode of their podcast, High Rise
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Panty Girls in a Low Rise Gene World.
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And I will warn you that this episode there is a lot of
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discussion around body image and weight loss and exercise, which
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could be very triggering for people who have body image
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issues or a history of eating disorders.
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So I would let you to please be careful and use your best
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judgement going forward. I'm not going to go into depths
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on those topics, even though they're important to talk about.
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I just don't think I'm the most qualified person to talk about
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them. But there are some points I'm
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going to be raising and kind of asking you guys to Let me know
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your thoughts in the comments if you have more experience with
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those issues than I do. This episode opens with them
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both staring threateningly into the camera and making me feel
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very uncomfortable. What is up girlies?
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Welcome to. Unbuckled.
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A little unhinged. A lot honest it seems.
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Like ASMR right there. Don't worry, that's not what
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this is turning into, guys. No, no, no.
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Cheers. Cheers.
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Once again, I just kind of don't get their sense of humour and I
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don't really get what's so funny.
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And sit down and unbuckle with us.
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Unless you're driving then. You should buckle up.
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Like what do we do when we drive?
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We do we buckle up. We take Rd safety very seriously
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around here. Very serious.
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I said in the last video, and I'll say again here, I don't
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really understand who their target audience is and I still
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don't. They're so immature and they're
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giggling like teenagers. But then they talk about stuff
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like especially in the last episode they were talking about
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like the appearance of their vaginas and volvers and how much
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their husbands want to have sex with them.
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So it's clearly not appropriate for kids.
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But the tone is so off put into the majority of adults.
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I'm really confused who they think is going to be watching
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this. I just don't really get it.
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The first several minutes of this podcast episode are just
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Morgan screeching about having road rage and shouting at the
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cars and hating when people drive slower than her.
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And it's just a lot of high pitched noise to be honest.
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And I'll give you the highlights, but it's not
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pleasant. Although you know what?
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I realise I'm a maniac driver. You didn't have to tell me.
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But like, I'm like a good maniac driver, you know what I'm
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saying? Explain yourself.
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So like, I'm kind of a crazy driver, you guys.
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And I do get road rage, if I'm being honest.
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And if she is driving while voice memoing it is 100% like
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there is a 100% guarantee she will make some kind of comment
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about the way other people are driving.
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It's like Oh my gosh I can't believe someone had the audacity
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to go 5 miles now slow with me. Anyways.
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Anyways, so when Morgan says that she has Rotary like it's in
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check though you don't really like honk at people very much or
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anything like that. I said before that people who Dr
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Dangerously and and angry, angry driving is definitely dangerous
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driving and it's a big worry of mine and something I'm really
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concerned about and it's something I feel strongly about
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and I don't think people take seriously enough.
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I've got a whole video about speeding.
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Sounds silly, I know, but it's a whole video if people are
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interested. And I think people forget how
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dangerous cars can be. Like you're moving around this
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giant metal machine capable of killing people.
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And it's a lot of responsibility.
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And I just don't find bragging about being a poor driver to be
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funny. But maybe that's just me.
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Anyway, let's move on. And we then get a boring story
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from Carl about another driver who honked at her.
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It's dull. I listened on two times, Speed
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and speed through it because I was bored.
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OK, we're now almost 1/4 of the way into this podcast episode
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and nothing has happened. Nothing interesting has been
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said. It's such a waste of time.
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Anyhow, guys, can I just say? I would be so disappointed if
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you didn't. Then I gotta say it.
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Say it. Actually, guys, I don't even
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know what I'm gonna say. I just need to fill you in some
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more details about my week. Yes.
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OK, you guys need to hear about the details of my week.
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Let me think for a second. Do you want me to go first while
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you think on yes. Would that be helpful?
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Yes. Can I just say I want you to go
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first, OK? OK, can I just say it was not a
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good idea to drink Sprite because I literally feel like I
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have to burp every 30 seconds. Like holding it.
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I've yet to feel that way. Oh my gosh, I guess the
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carbonation just does it for me. Seriously, so much of this is
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filler which could have been cut, or if they'd actually
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planned in advance what topics they want to talk about that we
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wouldn't have these minutes of just nothingness, would we?
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Karl then starts talking about how she has been losing weight
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and how she wants to lose more weight, and this is where the
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kind of worrying content starts for me.
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And she does say something that I thought was going to be
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interesting here. Postpartum is so interesting,
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especially breastfeeding because it's just like there's your body
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just is weird. But then that's all she says
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about it. She doesn't elaborate.
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And this is something I think could have actually been an
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interesting topic as a woman who's never been pregnant, I'd
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like to know what she means. Like educate me, teach me.
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What do you mean by weird? What are these changes?
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What's bad, what's good? What advice can you give to
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women to feel good about themselves when their bodies
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going through these changes? And can you talk about what you
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wish you'd known before you were pregnant or started
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breastfeeding? What advice you give to your
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younger self or other women in that position and let let me
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know this stuff. Don't just say, Oh my God, it's
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so weird, right ladies? And then just move on.
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There's stuff here that I think would actually be interesting
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and useful for others to hear about, but they don't even touch
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on it. All we get is it's weird.
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And then she moves on to more nothingness again.
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It kind of feels like they don't really have an audience in mind
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when they're making this, so I understand why they're not
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really getting many views. I get why no one's watching it.
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Morgan then goes on to complain that her Instagram feed is full
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of women in bikinis and how she doesn't like still having a
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little tummy. Or a little pooch, as she calls
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it. And after having two kids, I
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mean, I kind of get this. It's fine.
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Feel the way you want to feel about your body.
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I feel the way I feel about my own body.
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I just feel like there's a lot of shaming going on here around
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just the idea of having like a little little bit of belly all.
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She's making it sound like it's a bad thing for everyone, and
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it's really not. It's a completely normal thing.
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She goes into some detail about how during pregnancy your ABS
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split apart and how that kind of changes how your body looks, but
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she doesn't really go any further other than to say this.
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Or is it like because of like the like how your ABS split?
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Is that what they're saying? And like it's like, OK,
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interesting. Yes.
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And just like your pelvic floor is weaker.
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And so like, yeah, I don't honestly, I couldn't tell you
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the science behind it, but I trust, I really trust the real
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that I'm watching. Yeah, I.
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Mean, obviously, if it's on the Internet.
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It's correct. It's correct.
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Again, I think this could have been a topic that other people
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find interesting. Not not me personally, but I see
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the appeal for others, but they just don't expand on it or
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provide anything new to the conversation.
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It's all just kind of very vapid.
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It's all very surface level. It's all very unoriginal or
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unoriginal as I accidentally put in my last thumbnail when I when
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I. Responded to episode 1.
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I made the funniest type on the thumbnail.
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Which is like original instead of original.
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I just felt it right. This is what I get for recording
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at like it's currently 20 to 2 in the morning so I'm exhausted.
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This is just while I'm here, while I'm in the process of
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buying a house, which is long and exhausting.
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And I'm staying with my parents temporarily.
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I'm having to film at night when my parents are in bed because
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it's the only time when the house is quiet.
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So because of that I'm doing a lot of work at night when I'm
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very very tired and I'm making silly mistakes.
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So I apologise but that that was a funny mistake.
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Sadly it's fixed now. I'm just trying to tell myself
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that I'm going through short term discomfort for long term
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gain. That's what I'm trying to
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remember. Anyway, enough about me.
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Back to Morgan and Carl. And there is one thing that she
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says that makes me feel really sad for her.
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So anywho, I am focused on getting rid of the pooch and I
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just. I'm sure it's for looks.
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I'm not like I'm not above that and I don't think.
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Anybody hot for my husband? Okay like my husband is very
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sexy. Okay, I just got to say.
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I'm uncomfortable. He has been working out so hard.
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He is in like the best physical shape of his life.
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Yeah, it's not. Pickleball, man, It's.
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Really like the cardio, like literally it's the cardio.
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But then he works out on top of that for like an hour and a half
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in the gym, some of the most intense workouts he's ever done.
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And I'm like, I got to be equal with him.
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Obvious he can't be out shining me.
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I guess it just makes me really sad for her that she feels like
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she has to change herself for a man.
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Like she's almost competing with Paul or she's competing with
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other women for Paul's attention or something.
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It just makes me feel really sorry for her.
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I mean, what about things like wanting to feel like you look
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good for yourself, to feel healthy for yourself?
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I just, I don't know, the way she phrased this just made me
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really feel for her here. OK, editing me here.
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Jumping in and hopefully there's not too much background noise
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here because I'm working outside today, but the other thing that.
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I found interesting here is since.
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I recorded this. I've seen Morgan kind of having
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a little crush out on Instagram as she does, you know, it's.
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Like a weekly occurrence at. This point, if not twice a week,
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and this time it's because a lot of people have been kind of like
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a lot of actual fans. Have been saying like what
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you're doing isn't. Really very Christian and
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you're. Being quite sane about.
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This and like, why are you so motivated by like looks and how
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you look to others? I thought your whole thing was
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like modesty and they're calling out for this.
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And she's like, well, no, obviously the main focus is
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actually like, for my health and for my kids and that sort of.
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Thing she's. Kind of backtracking a.
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Little bit now and having a crush out and say that that's a.
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Motivation. But I feel like if that was the
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case, then when she said it here, I don't know, I feel like
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there's moments where like you can forget to say things and Oh
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no, of course I meant that. You're absolutely right.
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I forgot to say that. And then there's other times
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where it's like, well, I feel like this is like the first
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instinct to say this stuff and clearly like you are motivated
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by this and want to compete with Paul.
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And wanting to. Be what you perceive as hot.
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And it is. It is a kind of vanity thing.
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And in some ways there's nothing wrong with vanity, you know?
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And if it was any other person saying, I'd be like, hey, no,
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you're more power to you. This is absolutely fine, but I
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can understand why some of her past fans are being critical of
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her and why other people are being critical of her because
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she spent so long putting down other women for how they look
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and their appearance. And being too.
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Vain or. And.
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You know, caring too much about their appearance and stuff like
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I don't know if it was in this episode now or in the next door.
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I can't remember because I filmed response to episode 3 as
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well. But there's that's why she's
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going off about women for getting my plastic surgery and
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saying how terrible that is and how they're paying and blah,
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blah. And it's like, I don't know, it
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all just feels very hypocritical.
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So I want to jump in and say that hopefully you can hear me.
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But yeah, also, if you see my response to Officer one, you'll
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there's a bit where Morgan goes off an ambulance for going by.
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And the irony was when I started filming this outside, that's a
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giant lorry. This just went past when he
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first started filming and there's a giant train that went
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past up there. It's quite funny.
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I'll put them puts in now because it's just, the irony is
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hilarious. I love it.
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OK, editing. Me here jumping in.
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Let me be very clear, I am not just doing this to get super
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hot. I'm a stay at home mom on the
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journey to get in the best shape of my life physically,
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spiritually, and mentally. And I'm not just doing it so
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that I can look in the mirror and be like, wow, I'm hot, OK?
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I'm doing it for a plethora of reasons, but reason #1 and the
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most important reason is so that I can live to full capacity of
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what the Lord has called me to do, and that is to serve others.
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You know, people talk about like looks and stuff and how like,
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that's vain. Oh, no, I'm so sorry.
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I care. And I don't think it's like, OK,
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I think that as Christians there is completely a balance here.
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But I don't think that there is anything wrong with loving the
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temple of the Holy Spirit. You know what I mean?
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Like, I really, I just don't think that there's anything
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wrong with that. I don't think that there's
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anything wrong with wanting to make it like.
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Look. Good.
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Or the best that it can be, I think tempering that with, you
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know, not idolising it, then remembering, you know, who's
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your body is like it's the. Lord's, yeah, but no.
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And I think there is this balance of like we can enhance
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it so far. Like we can work out really
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hard, we can eat really clean and we can get strong and
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healthy and then like, you know, look our best whatever
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physically. And then we could start like
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enhancing it by boob jobs and face fillers and like all of
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that stuff. And I feel like that could
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become somewhere. I'm not saying that fillers and
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things like that are a sin. Don't think they're good for
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your body. Like what do you do when
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injecting that chemical into your baate?
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But I feel like that's where it kind of becomes.
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Yeah, like way too much too. Much.
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Yeah, Yeah. And I feel like there's a lot of
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rationalising here. So Paul and Morgan are known for
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doing a lot of we'll do what we'll do and then decide that
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that's the Christian thing to do.
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And if people do it differently than us, we'll call them
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sinners. There's a lot of that in Paul
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and Morgan's content. We've seen a lot of hypocrisy
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from them, a lot of constantly changing their minds.
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So especially on the topic like modesty, for example, they
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started out with things like filming themselves in swimwear
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in a hot tub and doing this like hot tub blogs and then
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complaining the other people weren't modest enough.
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And then Paul made a video complaining about women wearing
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leggings and not being immodest. But then Morgan was like, I love
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wearing leggings. So they changed it to like, OK,
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you can wear leggings, but only at the gym.
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OK, you can wear leggings, but only if your bums covered.
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And then eventually now it's just like leggings all the time
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are fine for Morgan and she can wear them anywhere and a bum can
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be out and it doesn't matter. And then there's a stage where
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like, and when she was pregnant and posting like pregnancy
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photos, she was like there in leggings, but she like drew over
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her bum so you couldn't see it because she didn't want to be a
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modest. And now she's like screwed and
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all my reels like her bums out and you can see all in these
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leggings and stuff. And like, they don't care
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anymore. But the minute someone else does
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it, it's immodest. And they're sinners and they're
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disgusting and they should be ashamed.
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So it's very much like one rule for me, another for thee, you
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know? Yeah, so even just now I've
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recorded a bunch of her latest reels from Instagram.
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These were all like from the last week or so and even now
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there's no consistency to what she's doing.
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She'll censor a bum in half of them with this big.
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Purple Heart emoji over it. And then in other clips it's not
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there at all, but she's happy. To let her bum be.
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Shown on screen. She's happy to have.
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These like basically up crotch shots of her exercising in some
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videos but then nine others even within the same video.
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Even within the same shot. Sometimes she'll not censor it
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at one point but then we'll others.
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There's no consistency. It makes no sense whatsoever.
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It feels like when she is censoring, it's performative.
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And then other times she like just doesn't do it because.
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Either she doesn't actually care, she forgets, or she knows
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that stuff will get views. Like, I don't know.
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Again, it makes no sense. There's a lot of hypocrisy.
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It's ridiculous. Oh, by the way, I'm.
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Absolutely going to censor Morgan's kids in these clips.
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Because she did not. Oh and don't even get me started
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on like some of the earlier vlogs they did where like Paul
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was literally filming Morgan wearing skinny jeans and like
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focusing on her bum. I mean like how hard is my wife?
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And it's like well that's not very modest is it?
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And then like just a few months later they're like Christian
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women need to cover up in the mean events.
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Like you have no consistency your massive hypocrite.
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Shut up. Anyway, after this, there's a
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lot of clips that I think are really, really unhealthy and
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quite damaging. And I'm not going to go into too
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much detail here because I don't want to trigger people, but
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there's a big focus on numbers. So how many pounds you're
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losing, calorie deficits? And like I said, I can see how
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this would be triggering for people with a history of eating
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disorders. So I am concerned that they
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didn't include any kind of disclaimer before these clips.
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They spend a lot of time laughing at these things and
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acting like they're big jokes, but they're pretty serious
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issues. Like they try and like they talk
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about things like trying to exercise too soon after giving
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birth, feeling like your body needs to be a certain way and
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look a certain way to please your husband's.
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There's a heavy focus on like you need to lose X amount of
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pounds. Doesn't seem like the healthiest
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approach. At one point, Carl makes a joke
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about how after you've given birth, you should weigh yourself
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straight away because like, that's the quickest way you're
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ever going to lose 10 lbs. And it's like, you know, you can
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be happy about seeing that number drop.
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And it's just it that's, that shouldn't be your focus after
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you've just been through the physical trauma of childbirth.
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Like that shouldn't be the first thing you think about.
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You shouldn't be worrying about weighing yourself at that point
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when you've got a baby who needs you.
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Like, it just feels very kind of unhealthy.
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And they're making this joke out of it.
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And it's like, I feel nothing but concern when I hear it.
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And they're acting like it's, it's normal and funny and it's,
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it's getting quite sad. It's not.
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Just about like the weight. It's not just about like a
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certain amount of like poundage you want to lose.
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No, I mean, I do think like it's helpful to have that like in
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your, in your head. I mean, I can remember as soon
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as I got home, I stepped on the scale from the hospital.
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Yeah. No.
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Literally terrible. I think like we've grown.
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Yeah, No. Unless you want to be amazed at
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how much weight you've lost. No, I know literally someone
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asked me like, like who came to visit me at the hospital, like
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how's, you know, how was it? And I was like, oh great.
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I lost like 10 lbs and like one night, you know, it was
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fantastic. Fastest way to lose weight.
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Have a baby? Grace.
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Like finding the balance of grace and discipline and
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self-control. As we drink by McDonald's,
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right? You know we don't do this every
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day, so. Morgan also talks about how she
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used to go to hot yoga classes, but now they can't afford it,
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which is again, kind of sad to see when we've seen Paul and his
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pickleball journey on Instagram and how he's constantly like,
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spending money to go to gyms and playing these pickleball
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tournaments that he never wins. And he's constantly playing
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pickleball and training and doing cold plunges and whatever.
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So it's like they can afford to do that, but then when Morgan
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wants to do some yoga, she has to shut herself alone in a hot
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bathroom to do it. It just, it just doesn't feel
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fair. And because she's had all these
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health issues recently that she hasn't, she still hasn't got
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tested for and she's doing all this exercise and stuff, which
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if she has got the illness that the doctors think she might have
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could very easily like make her very ill or kill her.
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So the fact that she's just like being so like calm about this
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and making all these jokes about it, it's just, it's quite
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worrying and it's a bit scary. It's a lot.
19:21
But I don't know, I'm not a doctor.
19:23
So what can I say at this point? We're not even halfway through
19:25
this 40 minute episode and I honestly feel like I just wasted
19:28
20 minutes of my life on this horrific content.
19:31
And but now we finally get to Morgan's crazy take for the
19:34
episode. OK, Carl, I've got a crazy take
19:38
for you. Do you?
19:39
I do. OK.
19:41
It's. I don't know what this.
19:43
Is is my take crazy? Is it your take or is it like
19:48
someone? It's my take, slash.
19:50
It's my take on a take. You know what I'm saying?
19:54
I sure like, No, I really do know exactly what you're saying,
19:57
OK. Great.
19:58
Thank you. We all love a good fashion take.
20:04
So that's what this is. OK.
20:05
This is my take on some fashion. My take my crazy take is that
20:13
low rise jeans should literally be burned at the stake.
20:18
Oh my God. OK, Or you can just not wear
20:21
clothes you don't like and only buy clothes you do like.
20:25
You don't have to be like, we need to ban this thing just
20:27
because I personally don't like it.
20:29
I mean, yeah, I'm not a fan of low rise jeans either.
20:31
I find them a bit uncomfortable. I'd rather like, I like my
20:34
highest waisted jeans, my high waisted shorts, my fairly high
20:37
waisted leggings and stuff. Like I find them comfier that
20:39
way. But the fact that they exist in
20:41
the world has absolutely no impact on me.
20:44
I don't care if other people want to wear them.
20:45
It's fine. I just I can't.
20:47
Oh, Morgan's barely younger than me.
20:49
She's 31, I'm 33. I can't imagine being so angry
20:54
at this point over an item of clothing that I have to make a
20:56
whole podcast episode about it. Like this feels like something I
20:59
might have said when I was an insecure 14 year old, but now,
21:03
now I'm older, it's just there's so many more important things in
21:06
the world to spend your time thinking about, you know?
21:09
I just anyway. OK.
21:14
I agree they are disgusting. Like okay and disgusting Let.
21:19
Me set this. Up for you.
21:20
Yeah. No, I was about to say like
21:21
context, so. I was on a mission to find a
21:27
certain type of gene I wanted. Just like at first, honestly it
21:32
was really confusing because I wasn't sure what I wanted
21:34
because it was a mixture of what I wanted and what my husband
21:37
wanted. Because he called the police,
21:39
her husband has an opinion on the jeans she wears.
21:43
It's quite concerning to me that I'm making fun of critics who
21:46
are concerned that Paul is controlling about what Morgan
21:48
wears. But seriously, I just, I can't
21:51
deal with this. The fact that he has a say of
21:53
what she wears is concerning. And again, I feel too old for
21:56
this nonsense. I really do.
21:58
I can't imagine ever taking a man's opinion into account when
22:01
deciding what to wear at this point.
22:03
I can't really imagine taking anyone else's opinion into
22:05
account when I decide what to wear at all.
22:07
Really. Like OK, here's a story for you.
22:09
And I have this skirt I really loved.
22:11
It's like a black skirt and kind of like mid length and it's got
22:15
these little ruffles on it. And then the whole skirt is
22:17
covered in this like gorgeous plant design, like a drawn
22:21
plant, like a botanical drawing of a plant.
22:23
There we go. And I it's one of my favourite
22:26
skirts and I love it. And a few years back I had a
22:28
neighbour who told me to my. Face it.
22:30
Was one of the most hideous things she'd ever seen.
22:32
And I was like, wow, well, that's rude.
22:35
And I feel like if I'd been as like insecure as maybe someone
22:39
like Morgan, I'd have probably never worn that skirt again.
22:42
But as it happens, I still wear it regularly and I love that
22:44
skirt and it's one of my favourites.
22:45
And I wore it to a concert the other night at the Albert Hall
22:48
when like my friends band were playing.
22:50
And I got so many compliments that night from so many people.
22:53
They're like, Oh my God, you're out.
22:53
It's amazing. It looks great.
22:55
You look great. And I was like, you know what, I
22:56
feel great. It's one of the first time since
22:58
I've lost Kyra that I got like dressed up and everything.
23:00
And I, yeah, it was just what I needed.
23:03
And I, I felt so confident in what I was wearing and I loved
23:06
how I looked and everything was great.
23:07
And I just feel like if I'd taken into account my neighbour
23:10
opinion all those years ago and like, say, got rid of that
23:12
skirt, I wouldn't have had that moment in the same way.
23:14
I wouldn't have been like, yeah, you know what?
23:16
I feel really good about myself. And then other people wouldn't
23:18
have lied to. It's just my point is we don't
23:21
need to listen to other people, whether it's your husband or a
23:23
neighbour or a friend or whatever.
23:24
Just like, wear what you want. Wear what makes you feel good.
23:28
You know, just dress for yourself and stop judging what
23:32
the people wear and you're going to be so much more comfortable
23:35
and confident in life. Yeah, no.
23:40
So. Anywho.
23:42
I was looking for some high waisted jeans to love it.
23:46
We're a little more tapered down at the leg I walk.
23:49
In not like bell bottom. Not bell bottom.
23:51
I have some cute bell bottoms. Like I'm not against bell
23:54
bottoms. No, but like you wanted it more.
23:55
Straight, yes, yeah, yeah, yes. Or even like, I didn't
23:58
necessarily want skinny jeans. Yeah, but like, yeah, straight,
24:03
but maybe. Literally what I said, yes.
24:06
But a little tighter than straight.
24:07
OK, but but. This is such nonsense, but also
24:11
based on what you've said before, shouldn't skinny jeans
24:15
be a sin? Are they not immodest?
24:17
What if a man sexualises your skinny legs and skinny legs,
24:22
your skinny jeans legs and sexualises you?
24:26
What if what if that? I just know consistency.
24:30
I'm tired, I just don't care anymore.
24:32
This is nonsense. They talk absolute nonsense.
24:35
That's my main takeaway today in this short video.
24:38
Then I go into Pacsun. That was a huge mistake going
24:42
into freaking Pacsun. I walk in and literally on both
24:46
men and women's. I was obviously looking for
24:48
women's but I just thought I'll look at the men's too.
24:52
Wait wait wait. More hypocrisy.
24:54
So you looked in the men's section for men's jeans?
24:57
So you, Morgan, would be OK wearing men's jeans.
25:01
But is that not cross dressing? Is that not sinful?
25:05
You are so quick to call out trans people, drag Queens, just
25:09
men who wear skirts and dresses in general for fun, but you are
25:12
fine with being a cisgender woman wearing men's jeans?
25:16
Does that not make you a massive hypocrite?
25:18
Of course it does. Anyway, she's mad because she
25:21
went into three shops and none of them had the style of jeans
25:23
she wanted. And I'm like, did you not think
25:25
to maybe just do like a Google search before you left the house
25:28
and be like, where currently sells this style or where can I
25:31
buy this online? Or, or look, you know, if you
25:34
know that the style you want isn't currently like in fashion
25:36
and readily available, then go look in vintage shops and second
25:39
hand shops and charity shops, right?
25:41
I don't know. We live in a world where you can
25:43
find pretty much whatever you want online in a matter of
25:45
minutes. I don't see why this had to be a
25:47
several long minute topic for a podcast.
25:50
I don't see why I'm even talking about it now.
25:52
Why am I wasting my time? I'm.
25:54
Gonna have to go back. I could have put both of my kids
25:57
in one of these each leg and walked around with them hidden
26:01
in my legs, but but it was disgusting.
26:05
It was disgusting. And I was like, what?
26:07
People are wearing these? Like I don't think I've ever
26:10
seen anyone in real life wear a pair of those pants.
26:12
So why are they selling them? No really though.
26:15
But no, like it is disgusting and I'm just like, OK, there is
26:19
no way there's enough people in this world, in this country, let
26:23
alone that are looking for jeans like this at Pacsun.
26:26
Well, clearly people are wearing them.
26:28
Clearly people are liking them. Clearly there's a demand for
26:30
them. That doesn't give you a right to
26:32
call them disgusting. That's just rude and
26:34
unnecessary. Yeah.
26:36
So I literally had to go online to find a pair and then guess
26:41
what? I walk out one day and I'm a
26:42
pair of jeans that I own and Paul goes, but I love those
26:46
jeans. Oh my Lord.
26:48
I was like, what? I thought you didn't like any of
26:50
the jeans that I own. And he was like, no, those are
26:52
great. When did you get those?
26:53
I was like, I've had them for like 12 years bro I love.
26:55
It when a husband pays attention.
26:57
We love it. Sometimes he pays too much
26:59
attention and then not enough and so any who I.
27:02
Thought so. Next time he wants like a
27:04
specific kind of clothing, you have to go through your closet.
27:07
I'm going to go try on my own pants first.
27:10
Made this kind of relationship never find me then there's just
27:14
a bunch of stuff about American clothing brands that I don't
27:16
really know about. I can't comment on them.
27:18
I've never shopped any of these. I know Levi's, I know that's a
27:21
brand. I do own one pair of Levi jeans.
27:24
And then they started smelling like really chemically after a
27:28
while. They're a bit gross.
27:30
So yeah, not fun of that. Anyway.
27:33
Then they start complaining and body shaming people who wear low
27:35
res jeans. And again, can we just not?
27:38
It's cruel, it's rude, it's unnecessary.
27:41
It's really gonna be mature. Like please grow up.
27:43
No, I would agree. I'm like, why would you want
27:46
that? No, to me what it is is it feels
27:50
uncomfortable. Like looking at it I feel
27:52
uncomfortable because all I want to do.
27:54
Like your torso is abnormally longwell.
27:56
And I just like, want to like pull them up for you, you know,
28:00
get you by your wrenches and pull you up because it's just
28:03
like just, and I'm sorry, I don't own any panties that are
28:08
gonna show all of my underwear. My eye rides.
28:12
I know they're trying to make a joke out of this again but can
28:15
we just not with the body shaming and judging us please?
28:18
Ladies, we need you all to comment below and let us know
28:21
your take on low rise jeans. Are you for or against them?
28:24
And if you're for them, you need.
28:26
To really explain yourself. Explain yourself and let us know
28:29
if you've had children 'cause I want to.
28:31
Meet the woman. Woman.
28:32
Who has kids? I mean, if you're Hailey Bieber,
28:35
OK. Oh sure, go ahead, wear your low
28:37
rise jeans. But.
28:39
Also, don't like don't brag. But yeah, like, you know.
28:41
Like that's not attractive. That's.
28:42
Just rude. There are so many things that
28:46
annoys about me, like the idea that if you have a different
28:49
opinion to them, then you're not allowed to share it because
28:50
you're bragging. The idea that you can only wear
28:52
certain clothes if you have a certain body type.
28:54
The idea that a different body type existing is rude and
28:58
bragging. It's all unhealthy and it's all
29:00
judgmental. And that's pretty much where the
29:02
podcast ends. And the last thing I want to
29:04
speak about today, I know so shorter than my other videos.
29:06
I just, I don't have a huge amount to say about this
29:09
particular episode, but I wanted to cover all of them.
29:11
So this is just a quick video, like think of this as like a
29:15
bonus video on the main channel. I do find like so much of what
29:18
they said though, and this is just me going off script for a
29:20
minute. It's really damn dangerous.
29:22
This whole heavy focus on counting calories and losing
29:26
weight. And I'm locking in to get rid of
29:28
this many pounds and lose this and do this and do this.
29:31
And like, you know, I need to get my body back for this.
29:33
So my husband likes it. My husband needs this and he
29:35
wants this. Otherwise he'll look at the
29:36
girls and I need to keep up with this and this and this just
29:39
feels very unhealthy like, and I can see why that kind of talk
29:43
would be really, really triggering for people who've had
29:46
food or body image issues before.
29:48
And that's just what worries me. They normalise like this weight
29:52
loss ideation so much. They, I think especially with
29:56
Morgan's health issues that she refuses to get tested for and
29:59
therefore refuses to get any treatment for, it's scary the
30:02
damage she could be potentially doing to her body and the way
30:05
she's just normalising that. Like, I'm all for healthy
30:07
lifestyles and healthy eating and being fit and healthy.
30:11
But when there's such a heavy focus on like the numbers behind
30:14
it all and having to look a certain way and be a certain way
30:16
and how there's only one proper good body type, I just, I find
30:21
it so worrying. Especially when, like I say, the
30:24
tone of their podcast feels like not so much the content, but the
30:28
tone feels like it's really aimed at teenagers and young
30:30
girls, if they're hearing this being like, oh, well, I need to
30:33
lose this many pounds and I need to do this and I need to be this
30:36
way and I need to have this body type.
30:37
And if my tummy does this, then it's wrong because Morgan and
30:41
Morgan and Carl say it's wrong. So this is like, it worries me
30:45
what young kids are taking away and internalising when they hear
30:49
this sort of thing. And yeah, that's just something
30:53
that I'm not not really OK with. But anyway, this is where I want
30:58
to hand it over to you guys because some of you maybe have
31:00
more experience with this than me.
31:01
And maybe you can comment on this a little bit better than I
31:04
can. So please let me know down in
31:06
the comments what you thought of this.
31:08
And I am going to go and record my actually, I think I'm going
31:12
to do the rest of the yesteryear review video now, which is going
31:15
to be good. I don't know what order you're
31:16
going to see this, but it's been a busy week.
31:18
Like I said, I've written 5 scripts, two of the Morgan
31:21
podcast response, a yesteryear review, a review of a horror
31:25
book, and a review of a pretty big scary issue with men online.
31:31
So yeah, I'm going to keep keep filming what I can tonight.
31:35
And anyway, thank you for watching.
31:37
I appreciate you guys a lot and this video was shorter than
31:39
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