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Andrea Hunt on EFT Coaching, Confidence Building, and Living Your Best Life · The Scene Projects

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  Hello everybody, and welcome back.
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  I'm your host, Brian White.
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  And today we get to sit down with Andrea Hunt.
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  She's here to share her stories, her path, and walk us into how she got into EFT coaching.
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  Andrea, thank you so much for joining us.
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  Thank you so much, Brian, for having me.
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  I am super excited to be here.
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  I just want to start off by throwing the stage over to your way and letting you start us off
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  with how you ended up walking from the seasons of your life into a world of coaching, and the
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  tools that you've learned, the experiences that you've been able to have, and what you do now.
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  So one of the themes in my life is getting unstuck, adjusting and pivoting when necessary,
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  and trying new things.
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  So for example, I'm originally from Minnesota.
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  I didn't really feel like I had a very happy high school part, and I knew that I wanted to
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  go out and do something.
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  I didn't know what I wanted to study yet, I just knew that I needed to go and kind of
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  explore and find myself.
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  I wouldn't have probably used those words at the time.
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  But I ended up moving to Mexico by myself at 20, and what that did was completely open up a
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  world for me where I realized that if I wasn't happy the way that I was, or where I was, that
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  I always had the power to change it.
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  And sometimes in life, you know, it doesn't have to be a huge thing like moving to Mexico,
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  or like I moved to China after a breakup at 28 to try to rebuild myself, like in every way
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  possible.
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  Sometimes it can just be something small, like starting a morning routine.
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  So I've lived in a lot of different countries, you know, for work or for studying, like
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  Mexico, Argentina, Germany, China, and now I'm based in Germany.
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  And during COVID, so like I ended up getting laid off.
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  Unfortunately, it's not a rare story, you know, it happened to so many different people.
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  And I went through, you know, the initial, the ego bash, the depression, the like, Oh my God,
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  I'm laid off during a pandemic.
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  Like, what am I supposed to do?
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  I mean, and what I realized out of that was, I had been wanting to do something with a bit
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  more substance and meaning in life.
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  I really had enjoyed, you know, working in content marketing, working in branding with
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  different companies, but I felt like something was a little bit missing, like something a
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  little bit deeper.
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  I've always been a natural motivator, and I've done a lot of personal growth, attended like,
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  you know, tons of different workshops and stuff like that.
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  And so I started thinking about it, I was like, you know, actually, maybe I could turn this
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  into an opportunity.
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  And so it was now, we were going in the second lockdown.
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  In Germany, we had three.
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  And it was getting to be like winter.
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  And I was like, you know what?
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  Why don't I get a certification?
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  Why don't I work on getting a coaching certification?
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  It was online at the time.
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  There was a school from The UK called Animas that didn't have online classes up until that
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  point.
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  And so it actually provided an opportunity for me.
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  And then EFT tapping is something that I have been using for twelve years in, for pretty much
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  anything in my life, from job loss, to breakup, to anxiety, to just simple emotional regulation
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  throughout the day to have resilience and being able to manage myself.
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  And so that's just kind of the natural integration of those two things.
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  And so that's what I've been able to do is integrate the transformational coaching aspect
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  with the EFT tapping to really be able to get past things like imposter syndrome, overwhelm,
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  self doubt, and the other emotional blocks that can come with getting outside of our comfort
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  zone and trying to do something new.
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  Let's start with my first question here.
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  What is EFT tapping?
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  I'm sure there's a very large amount of people out there such as myself and a lot of our
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  audience that has never heard of EFT tapping.
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  Sure.
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  So EFT stands for the emotional freedom technique, and it was started by Gary Craig and
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  Roger Callahan in the knees, I believe.
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  Both of them were into Eastern medicine and acupuncture.
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  And they realized that actually if you tap on the acupuncture points on the face or different
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  parts the body, that you can calm the body's nervous system and calm the fight, flight,
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  freeze response in the brain.
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  So they just started trying it with different things, even, you know, veterans with PTSD.
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  And now there's around a hundred different studies that show that it's good for anxiety,
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  depression, you know, even traumas and phobias.
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  For the purposes of what I do with coaching, I use it to be able to articulate and voice
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  negative emotions and beliefs, and be able to kind of neutralize the negativity so that it
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  doesn't activate the fight flight freeze response you raise, and provide a reframe so
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  that you can put positive beliefs on top of it.
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  So it's just really, I mean, it sounds really funny, and I remember when I heard of it, I was
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  like, I don't understand that, why would that be helpful?
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  You know, I mean everybody, if you see it, it does look kind of funny because you're like,
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  why would you tap on your face?
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  But if you think about it, a lot of times naturally, you end up like, if you have a
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  headache for example, you often rub your temples, know.
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  Or sometimes people will, you know, just right here, or if you're kind of startled or afraid,
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  kind of might hold your chest.
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  So these are natural acupuncture points that you might be drawn to anyway.
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  But yeah, it's quite fascinating actually, it's one of those things like, just try it, you
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  know, you don't have to, nobody's making you do anything, but there's so many ways that you can
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  either just try it for yourself with a YouTube video, or like to have an app, like the Tapping
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  Solution app.
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  But if you want to kind of do deeper things, do deeper work, it's more helpful with a
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  practitioner.
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  It's kind of like the difference between like going, like brushing your teeth versus going to
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  the dentist.
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  Like you could do a great job by yourself, but like there are certain things that is probably
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  important to have a professional help you with.
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  You said that you had the opportunity to kind of travel to a lot of different countries and
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  you worked in a lot of different spaces.
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  How did you find that the difference in having those opportunities to travel and work and live
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  in different places, built your experiences?
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  What kind of difficulties did that bring in always finding yourself in a new place,
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  adapting to a new situation, and finding yourself in new cultures, new time zones.
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  I would say that China was probably the biggest challenge, but it also really taught me what I
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  was really capable of.
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  Because when I when I moved there, I mean, think I had, like, 800 to a thousand dollars,
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  something like that, in my pocket.
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  I had found an English teaching job online.
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  And by the way, I'm not a teacher, I have a degree in journalism and I have a mass
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  communications.
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  I had never talked before, but I was like, you know, going through a breakup and I just really
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  wanted to start over in my life.
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  It was like an eight year relationship, I was 28 years old.
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  I didn't know what I wanted to do, but I just couldn't stay where I was anymore, so I kind
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  of, you know, ran away to try to find myself again.
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  And actually it ended up being one of the best things that I could have ever done for myself,
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  because I was totally terrified, you know, and there's so many adjustments, like I didn't know
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  anybody, I didn't have any friends there, I couldn't speak Chinese at the time, and so it
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  was just a constant, like, adjustment, and like, okay, I can't get exactly what I want,
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  for example, like on a menu, like, okay, I know this is chicken, I have no idea how it is,
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  let's just point and get it, because I can't explain.
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  And so you just have to be calm and patient with yourself.
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  And there's also, you know, like other cultural aspects, like I worked for the Chinese state
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  radio.
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  Obviously, there's degree of censorship, and there's a certain way that you have to report
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  things for them, And there's even certain subtleties, like in the office in terms of
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  communication.
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  And all of those are things that you just have to learn along the way, and have patience with
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  yourself, and show yourself grace if you make a mistake and you don't understand something.
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  But I think after moving to China, moving to Germany was quite easy.
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  You know, like, I remember I mean, a lot people are like, wow.
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  Germany.
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  You know, The US is such different cultures.
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  I'm like, like, no.
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  After being in China, I mean, it's it's just it's food and and mindset and everything that's
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  just it's it's different.
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  You know?
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  Most people would think to have the ability to move to different continents, different areas
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  of the world would require to be a very confident, trusting person, that you would have
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  to have it all together and know exactly what you're doing and have these plans and
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  structures.
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  Did any part of these large moves come out of confidence and feeling like you knew what you
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  were doing?
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  And how did you find the confidence in yourself to be able to not just run back to where you
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  were from?
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  That's a good question.
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  So to be completely honest, I was not feeling confident or like empowered or anything at all
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  during the times where, when I moved to Mexico, I just knew that I couldn't stay where I was.
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  Like, knew that I had to make a change, and I knew that if I didn't buy the ticket, and I
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  signed up for like a language school, I was going to go learn Spanish.
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  If I didn't push myself out of there, I would never, I would never do it.
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  I mean, both times, I got to, you know, the guesthouse where I was staying in Mexico, and
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  then also in China, like at the school where I was going to work, and I sat down on my bed and
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  I cried.
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  And I was just like, oh my God Andrea, now you've really done it.
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  Like, you're, you're in a foreign country completely by yourself, you don't know anybody,
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  you can't speak to like, like what have you done?
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  This is either the most brilliant or the stupidest thing you've ever, you know, you've,
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  you've ever done.
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  But then both of those times, like I said, those two experiences have completely shaped me
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  as a person.
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  I mean, grew as a person, I also learned about the world, I learned about how I interact in
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  it.
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  And also, I mean, even before moving to Mexico, I was pretty shy.
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  I was pretty reliant on like having a friend network and everything.
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  I wouldn't have, you know, gone someplace by myself.
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  Know, that just wasn't, I wasn't that independent.
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  And moving to Mexico by myself when I was 19, I was turning 20 that year, I realized that I
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  could be, you know, social and meet new people, and if I was by myself that I could ask for
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  help, and I could, I don't know, I just learned a lot about my capabilities as a person.
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  And in China, I mean, were a lot of things that were totally, I don't want to say scary, but
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  just, you know, confusing on a daily basis, you know, trying to go get a train ticket.
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  Like something very simple.
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  Like waiting in line, and waiting in the wrong line, and getting to the window, and trying to
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  ask for what you want, and everybody's behind you, and they're impatient, and like, and
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  trying to learn to be assertive.
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  I don't know, just so many things, but I think one of the things that I emphasize in my
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  coaching is like, confidence doesn't have to be like a light switch.
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  Know, some people are born with confidence and they just, you know, they have it during
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  childhood, they have it later in life, but for most of us, it's something that's like a muscle
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  that we have to build up.
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  And so you know, you wouldn't go to the gym and do one sit up and be like, okay, where's my six
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  pack?
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  You know, you have to kind of keep doing it bit by bit, and you start to see the changes.
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  And you're like, look at that, I knew it was under there.
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  And so when you move outside of your comfort zone bit by bit, and you deal with those
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  feelings as they come up, you know the fear, impostor syndrome, worrying about judgment,
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  worrying what other people think about us, or that they're not taking us seriously.
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  And we use EFT tapping to kind of neutralize those negative feelings, and instead reframe it
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  to be like, okay look at this, like I have evidence that I'm creating all the time, that I
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  can be confident, that I can handle this, and you can keep challenging yourself and making
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  your goals bigger and bigger.
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  And that's what I think is a very practical, realistic way for most people to do it, because
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  we are not all fearless.
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  I mean, I have a lot more confidence than I did in the past, but I'm always trying to like push
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  the bar and challenge myself.
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  You touched base about one of the things that I struggle with a lot in a few different aspects
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  of my life, and I could not imagine how much impostor syndrome could possibly have risen in
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  you, again, with all these moves and all these different changes, different cultures,
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  communities, spaces, time zones, all these different things.
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  And you just kept integrating yourself into all these different places.
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  How did, or did you have any of that impostor syndrome try to seep in?
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  Absolutely.
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  I mean, the thing is is that I always push myself, but then I might be like, oh my god,
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  did I do the right thing?
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  I mean, like, the job at the Chinese radio, like, I have a degree in journalism.
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  I really wanted to work for the radio, like, it was in Beijing, and so I I kept applying, and
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  they were like, thank you for applying, Andrea, but you don't have the experience.
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  Like, and then I would just try again, like, a couple months later, because I was like, I
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  really, I really, really wanna do this.
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  And finally, the guy's like, okay, you know what, like, you don't have the experience, but
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  like, just come in, let's have an interview, because you're obviously very insistent about
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  this.
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  And so then, you know, I finally actually got the job.
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  They kind of created a, you know, Beijing Reporter job for me, because I was doing
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  lifestyle reports.
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  They would have things going on in Beijing, they would send me to report on it.
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  It would be like a tango class that was taught by Germans to Chinese people, and, and things
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  like that.
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  But then when it came to, you know, time for, like, me to actually record everything, and you
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  know, have my little radio package that I made to put on like, Beijing Drive, or the Beijing
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  Hour, and I was just like, Oh my gosh, this is international radio, like, what am I doing?
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  You know?
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  But again, it's like every time that I pushed myself, you know, it ended up being the best
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  thing possible, and you always have to convince yourself that I do deserve this.
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  You know, there's plenty of people out there in the world that might not deserve their
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  positions, you know, and you have to always think, if not me, then who?
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  You know, if not now, then when?
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  Like, because we don't have to be perfect, you know, like, for everything that we do, the
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  first time is probably not gonna be very good, whether it's like, you know, first blog
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  article, first podcast, whatever.
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  And we're always learning and growing, and we just have to trust that we can kind of take the
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  first step and take it from there.
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  Do you find through the coaching that you do now with your EFT and any of your
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  transformational coaching, that confidence, impostor syndrome are some of the larger topics
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  that tend to arise in people?
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  Absolutely.
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  And especially, I think what a lot of people don't always understand is they think it's like
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  only them, you know what I mean?
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  Like that they're the only person who doesn't feel like they're good enough, or they might be
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  found, you know, people might consider them a fraud.
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  And actually I think the statistic is something around like, you know, sixty, seventy percent
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  of people have those feelings from time to time.
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  And I remember seeing an interview where Shakita was like, Oh yeah, sometimes I don't
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  feel worth, you know?
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  And you're like, What?
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  I mean, when you look at how much she's accomplished, and how successful she is, it
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  kind of, it surprises me that, you know, it's not the people that are not trying to do
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  anything with their lives that have imposter syndrome.
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  It's usually people who are ambitious, they know that they're deserving of bigger, bigger
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  things, and they have to get outside of their comfort zone to do it, you know.
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  And when you're like, you know, you have the same job for ten years or whatever, you feel
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  capable, you feel confident, you feel like you know what you're doing.
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  But the second that you have that idea that like, okay, maybe I should start a YouTube
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  channel, And then suddenly all of these fears of, oh my god, everybody from high school's
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  gonna see it, and they're gonna think I'm ridiculous, and no one's gonna listen to it.
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  And all of these, you know, insecurities come up in that moment.
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  It sounds like, to me at least from an outside perspective, that when it comes to comfort
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  zones, you've always been willing to push your comfort zones, and comfort zones doesn't seem
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  like it's ever been something that would challenge you.
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  Is that just something that's arisen from taking these opportunities and leaping into
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  them and challenging yourself?
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  Or is it true?
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  Have you always been someone who just found it easy to push your comfort zones?
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  I never found it easy.
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  I never find it easy.
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  I mean, I think there are certain things that I always knew, like if it was in my intuition or
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  my gut feeling that I had to do it, that I would take action on it.
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  But a lot of times actions that I've taken had to do with a circumstance that like, you know,
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  changed immediately that I didn't have any control over.
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  I mean, being laid off during the pandemic or something, I didn't plan for that.
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  Like I didn't have this, you know, this structured plan to become a coach or something
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  like that.
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  It's like something that in the back of my mind, was there and I kept thinking about it,
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  but I wasn't gonna be one of those people that could leave their full time job and like start
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  a coaching business.
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  Like that wasn't where I was at the time.
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  And the opportunity just arose from having my full time job taken away, that I was just like,
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  okay, maybe actually this is, this is the spark, the push that I needed.
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  And I feel like many things in my life, the universe, or however you wanna think of it, is
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  just like, okay, if you're not gonna do that, you know, like, what about now?
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  You touched base about trusting your gut, trusting your instinct, and that is something
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  that I live by.
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  I'm a very, very firm believer in trusting my gut and listening to my body.
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  And do you believe that if we took more time to listen to our gut and our instinct, that it
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  would be easier for us to push our comfort zones, challenge our confidence, and kind of
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  grow within ourselves.
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  If we were able to listen to our body a bit more and took that time to really feel and know
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  what was going on within us, we could put that out to the universe better.
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  Yeah, absolutely.
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  I mean, I think our body is kind of always giving us signals in our intuition, but it's I
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  think it takes a while to listen to it.
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  I know that there's like tons of situations that, especially in my 20s, I had a bad feeling
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  about something and I didn't listen to it, you know.
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  And I always especially about like people, you know what I mean?
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  That when you, when you have that feeling that you're like, you know, and I think in my
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  twenties especially, I didn't listen to that because I was like trying to, I don't know, I
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  just didn't trust myself, I guess.
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  I think, I think in my twenties, now that I'm in my forties, like, I do trust myself.
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  I rely on my intuition.
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  I rely on what my body is telling me, what my mind or, you know, whatever message is.
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  But I did not always do that, and it didn't end well, usually.
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  So it's like, it is something that it's important to learn, whether it's through
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  meditation or, you know, whatever way that you feel that you need to to listen to yourself.
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  Through all the different places you've gotten to travel and all the different experiences
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  that you've had, do you have a favorite place, or a place that you would ever love to return
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  back to, even for vacation?
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  So many places.
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  So I'm usually based in Germany, but I'm I'm in between Spain and Albania.
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  Usually, Albania is like kind of my summer place for the beach.
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  I absolutely love it.
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  It's like amazing seafood, super nice people.
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  And I love Andalusia.
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  I read about it in The Alchemist, I don't know if you've read The Alchemist, but I read it, I
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  don't know, way back in like early 2000s, and so I always had this dream in my head that I
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  wanted to go to Andalusia.
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  And then when I went there, I guess it was maybe five years ago or something, and it was
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  just every, like every much as amazing as I had imagined it to be.
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  And so I've gone back almost every year since I went there, so, and I would highly recommend
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  it.
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  It's just, it's a magical place, beautiful architecture, just wonderfully scenic.
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  I'd like to head back to South America at some point, haven't been since 02/2006.
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  So many places that I'd like to go, like Colombia and Peru, and back to Argentina.
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  My original plan was to go to Buenos Aires, or back to Buenos Aires and live there, And then I
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  was living in China during the Olympics, and after the financial crisis happened, I was
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  like, well, I should probably just stay here, because I'm employed, and my dad was like, I
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  miss you, but honestly, there's no opportunities right now.
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  You know, back in The US, things were really starting to happen, and of course, everywhere
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  in the world, you know, got affected.
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  But China was still good at that time, so most of the foreigners just stuck around for another
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  five to seven years, which is what I did.
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  If you could go back and talk to yourself back in your, say, early twenties, what would be one
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  of the greatest pieces of wisdom that you would share with your younger self?
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  Oh, god.
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  That's a good question.
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  Oh, that is really good.
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  I think learning EFT earlier would have helped me emotionally regulate because I think I, I'm
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  kind of hyperactive anyway, and so if that is not channeled in a positive way, it can easily
• 18:54
  turn into stress and anxiety or, and I think I used to take a lot of things personally.
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  I think like something in their forties that's really nice is just like being like, you know
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  what, this is me.
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  Like I'm gonna do what I want.
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  Like, you know, I'm proud of the person that I've become.
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  I think trusting yourself and not thinking about so much about what everybody thinks about
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  it, you know, and always making sure that you have, you in some way change your situation if
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  you're not happy with it.
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  You're never stuck, you know, even if it's just a small adjustment that you need to make and
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  trust your intuition and your gut.
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  Don't we all wish we could go back and talk to our earlier selves?
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  Because there is so many pieces of wisdom that if I could go back and talk to myself in my
• 19:36
  twenties, would tell myself a whole lot of different things.
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  Yet, I truly believe that every step, every place we've ever been to, every experience
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  we've ever had is all part of our growing journey, and it's all meant to happen.
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  Everything happens for a reason.
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  I don't believe that there's ever such thing as a coincidence in our life.
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  Every experience, every person we get to meet, every hiccup in life, every catastrophe that we
• 20:04
  have that we feel like is the end of the world, it's all part of our growing journey.
• 20:08
  Yeah.
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  Absolutely agree.
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  Has there been any points within your growing journey over all these years and all these
• 20:16
  different places that you've traveled to that you ran into a space where you thought this
• 20:21
  might be the end of it.
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  This might be the last place I traveled to.
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  This is where I'm stuck.
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  What was one of your greatest moments of, oh my God, what do I do next?
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  I would say that was when I, my relationship fell apart when I was in South America.
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  When I went back, that's how I moved to China.
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  Because basically my relationship fell apart.
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  I was gonna go work in Atlanta.
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  I wanted to work in Victoria Public Broadcasting, where I was doing an internship
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  at the time.
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  And after the breakup, I mean, was like an eight year relationship in my twenties.
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  And I just, I literally, now I have better emotional tools, but I didn't have that then,
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  to know what I was gonna do.
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  And I had met when I was in Bolivia, I was in La Paz at the hostel, there where they had like
• 20:58
  pancake breakfast every morning, which is amazing.
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  But I met a girl, an American girl who had been teaching English in Korea, and I was just like,
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  wow, that's amazing, I didn't even know you could do that.
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  She goes, oh yeah, there's like lots of places in Asia you could do it.
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  And I had studied Chinese as a kid, and so like, I thought about it and I was like, yeah,
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  maybe actually I could, I could go do it in China.
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  And so it just kind of like, you know, sometimes you have to really pay attention to
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  the little insight that like, you know, the universe is bringing to you.
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  Because when I got back to The US, I was living in Athens, Georgia, to the apartment where we
• 21:27
  had lived and everything, he was already gone, and had a breakdown.
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  And then I was just like, okay, that's enough.
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  Like, I completely had, you know, a meltdown for several weeks, and I was like, I cannot
• 21:37
  stay like this.
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  Like, this is, you know, this is not gonna be how, how, how this ends, you know.
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  And so I started looking online, it was Dave's ESL Cafe, I don't know, I think they still use
• 21:47
  it, but I looked on there and I found a school in Zhejiang, like outside of Hangzhou, I was
• 21:52
  like, okay, that's the one.
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  And two weeks later, I was on a plane, that's going to China.
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  So sometimes, especially after a breakup, you're already outside of your comfort zone.
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  It's like, you know what?
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  I need something.
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  I need to go start over.
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  And yeah, that was what I needed at the time, I guess.
• 22:10
  It sounds like you've always been a very action oriented kind of person that you've always
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  taken action and being able to move yourself forward.
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  From somebody who might not be as action oriented, what is a tool or what is a thought
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  that you might be able to give them to help them become more action oriented or help them
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  to understand the importance of taking action to be able to move forward?
• 22:33
  Sure.
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  Well, I think, like, I mean, sometimes you don't need to be that drastic, honestly.
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  Like, I mean, you can start with small actions.
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  I mean, like, just a morning routine, or just doing one thing differently every day, for
• 22:42
  example.
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  I mean, figuring out like, what, you know, in the different areas of your life, whether it's
• 22:46
  like health and mental health, or like career, or family and connections.
• 22:51
  Looking and seeing like, rate those, like scale of one to 10, and when it's not a 10, be like,
• 22:57
  okay, well why is it a seven?
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  What are the things that I'm not happy with?
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  Okay, and so what's one thing, just one thing that I could do to change, to get it from a
• 23:05
  seven to an eight maybe?
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  And if you start seeing things like that, it's a lot easier to take action because you'll it
• 23:10
  doesn't have to be moving to China.
• 23:12
  It could just be like, you know, with my family, maybe I'd like to do Saturday morning,
• 23:16
  I don't know, pancakes, something.
• 23:18
  Pancakes seem to be the theme of this.
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  So I just wanted to bring that back.
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  But something like that, just to try to increase things little by little.
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  Because I think sometimes when we get stuck so much in the bigger picture, we forget that
• 23:30
  sometimes the small actions, you know, can add up.
• 23:33
  It's like, you know, the kaizen, it's like the 1% thing.
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  So if you do 1% every day, it adds up to big huge changes
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  over time.
• 23:40
  It is interesting how when we are able to take action and be that 1% better, it really can
• 23:48
  transform our life.
• 23:49
  I'm sure that you never saw yourself living in Germany and traveling to all these places, and
• 23:56
  you couldn't have imagined where your life would have taken you.
• 23:59
  And it leads me into my next question of what does the next five years look like for you?
• 24:05
  What is going forward look like for you right now?
• 24:08
  So what I would really like to do, because I feel like EFT is already pretty big in, you
• 24:13
  know, US, Canada, and also The UK and Australia.
• 24:16
  But in terms of Europe, there's not as many, you know, EFT conferences and things like that.
• 24:21
  And I would like to be the person that is able to go around to different cities and have
• 24:26
  workshops with people on EFT empowerment coaching.
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  Because what I found was that, I mean, with my clients, you're really able to achieve so much
• 24:35
  when you can get out of your own way.
• 24:37
  And for many people, they don't realize that a tool like EFT can be so helpful in terms of
• 24:42
  their limiting beliefs and getting past things like self doubt, you know, maybe not feeling
• 24:47
  that they're good enough, or maybe that they're not worthy.
• 24:50
  And I think EFT is quite known in terms of stress relief, which is absolutely amazing for.
• 24:56
  But I think when you really start to apply it for beliefs and empowerment, that's where you
• 25:01
  can really transform your life with the emotional health desk.
• 25:04
  So I'm really curious to dive into this further now on how does touching the human body, how
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  does our touch alleviate things like impostor syndrome and confidence and not feeling good
• 25:16
  enough?
• 25:17
  What is the connection between touch and EFT to mindsets and thoughts?
• 25:24
  So to basically explain like how EFT would work in this case, like let's say you're, you have
• 25:28
  impostor syndrome.
• 25:29
  So you would start with a negative round.
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  And the first part you would be like kind of tapping on your, on your karate chop point.
• 25:35
  A lot of times we don't actually articulate honestly what we're feeling, what we're afraid
• 25:40
  of.
• 25:41
  We go around telling everybody that we're fine.
• 25:43
  We go around telling, you know, telling ourselves like, I'm good enough and I'm smart
• 25:46
  enough, but like we don't believe it at all.
• 25:48
  So that's kind of a disassociation between your mind and your body.
• 25:52
  Because you can tell yourself in the mirror like, I'm good enough and smart enough, and I'm
• 25:55
  a great public speaker, and then your brain's like, You liar!
• 25:59
  So then when you go do the public speaking, your nervous system just like ramps up, and
• 26:04
  suddenly you're about to have a panic attack.
• 26:06
  So in an EFT round, always start usually, there's lots of different techniques, but the
• 26:11
  standard one is to articulate the negative feelings and emotions first.
• 26:15
  So what you would do is rate yourself like, from a zero to 10.
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  Let's say you have a presentation and you're like, even though I feel like a complete fraud,
• 26:22
  you know, I deeply, completely love and accept myself.
• 26:24
  Even though everyone's gonna make fun of me, nobody's gonna listen to me, like I'm just
• 26:28
  fearing the worst.
• 26:29
  You can go through all of the what ifs and all of these things, And so maybe at the beginning
• 26:34
  it would be like an eight.
• 26:35
  And you check-in with yourself after each round as it releases the negative feelings, and
• 26:40
  you're like okay, now it's maybe like a four.
• 26:43
  You know, so maybe it goes down.
• 26:45
  And once you have removed the negative beliefs, and you can actually feel it working, just
• 26:50
  checking in after a couple minutes, then you can go to, okay, you know what, like I'm not
• 26:54
  perfect, I don't have to be perfect, but I choose to, you know, be open to the idea that
• 26:58
  this could go well for me.
• 26:59
  I choose to believe that people might be interested in what I have to say.
• 27:02
  Why not?
• 27:03
  That is equally as true as somebody not liking it, you know.
• 27:07
  And if somebody is bored, like, is that really the end of the world?
• 27:10
  Like, what do I care?
• 27:11
  You know, like, I prepared, I'm doing a good job.
• 27:13
  And so that's basically how it works.
• 27:15
  And it sounds kind of weird, but it's it's it's truly amazing what people can do when they are
• 27:22
  able to just honestly say it.
• 27:24
  You know?
• 27:24
  Like, I'm terrified of this meeting.
• 27:25
  You know, because I think we don't really give ourselves the opportunity to be that honest.
• 27:30
  And when you get it all out, kinda like journaling as well, like when you write things
• 27:34
  down, you kind of get it out of your head, right?
• 27:36
  And this is the same thing except for you're releasing the negative energy.
• 27:39
  I'm always very fascinated about how we are so connected from our own touch and touch with
• 27:46
  other people to how it connects to such a deeper level into everything from our
• 27:55
  bloodstream to our mental health to everything.
• 27:58
  What an interesting coroque, that's the word I want, cohesion that there is between and the
• 28:04
  energy that it either puts into us or can take out of
• 28:07
  us.
• 28:09
  Absolutely.
• 28:10
  So this seems like a great place to bring our conversation full circle.
• 28:13
  And at the end of every one of my podcasts, I like to pose a very deep question.
• 28:17
  So Andre, the question that I like to pose is what is your definition of truly living your
• 28:23
  best life?
• 28:24
  I would say, I mean what pops into my head, authenticity.
• 28:27
  First of all, not being, not having to suppress yourself for other people.
• 28:33
  I think living in integrity, and I always, I mean, like my company name is Living
• 28:36
  Deliberately.
• 28:37
  That's kind of, you know, with full intention, knowing that you are challenging yourself, but
• 28:43
  also like there's a sense of gratitude and purpose in what you're doing.
• 28:47
  That's fantastic.
• 28:48
  It is when we live in our most authentic selves that I really feel we are able to show up best
• 28:53
  in the world.
• 28:54
  Absolutely agree.
• 28:55
  So Andre, thank you so much for joining us on the Thriving Chronicles podcast.
• 28:58
  This has been a fantastic conversation.
• 29:00
  And before we leave here, I would just like for you to share with our audience that if they'd
• 29:05
  like to learn more about EFT tapping or be able to reach out to you, how can they find you?
• 29:09
  Sure.
• 29:09
  But they can just, they can Google Andrea Hunt living deliberately today, and they can find me
• 29:14
  all over Google, my blogs, everything.
• 29:16
  My website is www.dreahunt.com.
• 29:20
  That's d r e a h u n t.
• 29:23
  I'm on Facebook, I'm on Instagram, I'm on TikTok, I am everywhere.
• 29:28
  And from my website, you can find all my socials as well.
• 29:31
  I always do workshops, for example, on limiting beliefs, where you can identify your limiting
• 29:36
  beliefs, see where you got them, and then use the tapping to be able to make changes for
• 29:40
  certain things.
• 29:41
  And then I also have tapping sessions that I'm gonna be starting in March, and I have a free
• 29:46
  ebook as well that I'll give you the link to so they can check it out if they just wanna
• 29:50
  understand, like, why does EFT work, how does it work, and get some of the scientific
• 29:54
  articles about it, because a lot of people have questions about that.
• 29:57
  So yeah.
• 29:57
  Well, thank you so much.
• 29:59
  And I look forward to being able to check out that ebook myself.
• 30:01
  It's been a pleasure.
• 30:02
  It's been a fantastic conversation.
• 30:04
  Thank you so much for joining us today.
• 30:06
  Thank you so much, Brian.
• 30:07
  I appreciate it.