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S4 #4 - Getting Into it With Arie · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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  Speaker 1: This is the Benn and Ashley I almost Famous podcast
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  Speaker 1: with i R Radio. Wait, I think I'm Ben, oh
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  Speaker 1: and I think I'm interesting? Who are you? I may
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  Speaker 1: or may not be Ashley? And this is the almost
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  Speaker 1: famous podcast? Then is in a pyper mood today? I
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  Speaker 1: love it. I I'm excited for this podcast because I
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  Speaker 1: finally finally get to talk to Ari on the show today.
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  Speaker 1: It's so crazy. I don't know how this happened, but
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I'm really excited for people to see Ari
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  Speaker 1: or to hear Ari without it being on TV, you know,
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  Speaker 1: because they can they select what they choose us to
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  Speaker 1: see of Ari on the show. But today are gets
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  Speaker 1: to be his complete self, no editing. I'm I'm so excited.
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  Speaker 1: These these Bachelor people are untouchable and somehow, some way
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  Speaker 1: we got actual Bachelor himself on this podcast. You know.
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  Speaker 1: I actually, I'm I've got I have something an issue
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  Speaker 1: with Ari though, because I talked about it. Okay, so
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  Speaker 1: every Bachelor sent me um which has been one I
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  Speaker 1: have reached out to and talked to at least at
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  Speaker 1: some point either before the season started or during the season.
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  Speaker 1: I reached out to Ari on two different occasions to
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  Speaker 1: offer him, just hey, I'm here. You know I've I've
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  Speaker 1: been through it. I know you're gonna get hated on
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  Speaker 1: this podcast, will probably hate on you at time, but
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  Speaker 1: but we're all in it together. We're all going to
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  Speaker 1: get through it together. And I have never heard from him.
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  Speaker 1: Do you think he read it? I know he read it,
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  Speaker 1: so because oh yeah, so I am not. I'm not.
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  Speaker 1: I'm really really upset. You're looking tom cruise mode right now.
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  Speaker 1: You're about to jump on the couch before we bring
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  Speaker 1: Ari on. Actually, I want to ask you, how is life?
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  Speaker 1: Give us one of your biggest upstates on what's going
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  Speaker 1: on right now for you? Um, okay, there was something
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  Speaker 1: very exciting. Oh yeah, okay, this is what I wanted
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  Speaker 1: to talk about. In February, in like two weeks, I
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  Speaker 1: have this new digital digital show coming out. It's called
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  Speaker 1: the Story of Us, and you're gonna get to see
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  Speaker 1: me interview. I think it's eight different couples about how
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  Speaker 1: they met their first kiss, how they proposed their wedding day,
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  Speaker 1: all that good stuff. Because I've always been fascinated by
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  Speaker 1: like how we met stories, because it's it's so amazing that, like,
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  Speaker 1: you know, you just run into somebody at the grocery
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  Speaker 1: store or match with someone online and then you end
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  Speaker 1: up spending the rest of your life together. So I
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  Speaker 1: just h yeah, it's so crazy. So I have always
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  Speaker 1: been fascinating the stories that I get to tell them.
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  Speaker 1: So I'll send you guys links and all that good
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  Speaker 1: stuff when it actually comes out. What about you, Ben?
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  Speaker 1: What is one thing to update everybody on? Yeah? Well,
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  Speaker 1: first off, actually, congratulations, I know this is your passionate
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  Speaker 1: about You're great at it. I actually I watched the
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  Speaker 1: Golden Globes episode that you we co hosted together in
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  Speaker 1: your segment alone with the chef was really good. So
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  Speaker 1: I'm excited to watch this. I'll be the biggest fan
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  Speaker 1: of this show for you. UM. So one thing that
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  Speaker 1: I'm really excited about is obviously Generous Coffee is still pumping.
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  Speaker 1: I am sitting in my office right now and as
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  Speaker 1: soon as this podcast is done, I am jumping on
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  Speaker 1: the phone UM to try to secure a couple more
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  Speaker 1: clients for Generous. It's been a really good experience. And
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  Speaker 1: I am also going on my first I'm taking a
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  Speaker 1: group of people two hundurus to see some of our
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  Speaker 1: coffee farms UH next month and some of those people
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  Speaker 1: are from The Bachelor, UM, which is really exciting. And
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  Speaker 1: then finally this last Saturday, UM, a few nights ago,
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  Speaker 1: my first episode of First Look aired and it was
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  Speaker 1: called Breaking Ben. Uh aired after SNL on NBC, and
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  Speaker 1: I was so excited about this project. I really want
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  Speaker 1: UM to do this more. I guess I had a
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  Speaker 1: lot of fun with this show and I felt very
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  Speaker 1: alive doing the show. And so I'm hoping that everybody
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  Speaker 1: that listens to the podcast also goes out and looks
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  Speaker 1: into watching the Breaking Ben episode of First Look, because
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  Speaker 1: it really was something that I enjoyed doing. Can you
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  Speaker 1: watch it on YouTube? You can google it, so it's
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  Speaker 1: it's on the internet. UM, you can just google Breaking
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  Speaker 1: then First Look it will pop up with with a
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  Speaker 1: link to the episode. UM. So anyways, that just stared
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  Speaker 1: and we'll see where that takes me. If it doesn't
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  Speaker 1: take me anywhere, I'm really glad that I got the
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  Speaker 1: opportunity to work with that show because just show me,
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  Speaker 1: UM that I do actually kind of enjoy hosting, which
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  Speaker 1: makes sense because we have a podcast. Yeah, you are
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  Speaker 1: great on TV, and you're great at like getting out
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  Speaker 1: of your comfort zone. Not many people can be as
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  Speaker 1: comfortable getting out of their comfort zone as you do. Well.
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  Speaker 1: One of our first guests is definitely out of his
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  Speaker 1: comfort zone, is um he? I mean Ari is going
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  Speaker 1: to come onto this podcast. We're let's just be clear.
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  Speaker 1: I want this to be a time for Ari to
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  Speaker 1: tell all the fans out there, because he has a
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  Speaker 1: lot of them who he is. I want to ask
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  Speaker 1: him the questions that helps him dig into a little
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  Speaker 1: bit more of himself than like like actually was just
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  Speaker 1: saying that we see on television. This podcast is meant
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  Speaker 1: for all of you, all of you listening to get
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  Speaker 1: to know the current Bachelor better because I hear nothing
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  Speaker 1: but great things about him and I'm excited for him
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  Speaker 1: to show us this on the podcast today. So with that,
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  Speaker 1: I would love to bring Ari lion Dyke, our current
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  Speaker 1: Bachelor is on the phone. Are you out there? I'm here?
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  Speaker 1: How are you guys? All right? Thank you for coming
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  Speaker 1: to the podcast. We appreciate it. Um I just gave
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  Speaker 1: you a round of a pause by myself. I think
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  Speaker 1: so excited to have you on. But before we start,
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  Speaker 1: you and I have to have a little conversation. Um.
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  Speaker 1: I was just telling our listeners that every season since
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  Speaker 1: mine Bachelor has reached out to me or actually him out.
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  Speaker 1: I I'm I'm very upset and I just need to
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  Speaker 1: get this off my chest. Um. I have talked to
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  Speaker 1: going into the Bachelor or during the Bachelor, and Ari,
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  Speaker 1: I've reached out to twice that I've never heard anything.
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  Speaker 1: Why is that You're not like me? I didn't even
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  Speaker 1: know you reached out. Actually, but I did come to
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  Speaker 1: find you a winner game, but you're already gone. I
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  Speaker 1: wanted to have oh he left that morning? Uh, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: you know. I I think I reached out. I v
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  Speaker 1: M do. I messaged you on Twitter, and I also
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  Speaker 1: tried to get your numbers. So I'm not that mad,
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  Speaker 1: but I felt like I was chasing after you. I
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  Speaker 1: felt like I had a crush on a girl, in
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  Speaker 1: this case, on you, Ari. And I was trying so
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  Speaker 1: desperately hard to get your attention and I never got it.
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  Speaker 1: And so I'm glad that you decided to come on
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  Speaker 1: the podcast because now we can talk. Yeah. I didn't
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  Speaker 1: go to you. I just didn't know trust me. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: Well I'm here it for you. Ari. I just got
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  Speaker 1: off the phone last night with my aunt aunt Cindy.
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  Speaker 1: We've talked about her on the podcast before. She's a
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  Speaker 1: huge Bachelor fan and and actually I've tried to break
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  Speaker 1: down this season and break down you and your performance
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  Speaker 1: as a Bachelor with the knowledge that we have. I
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  Speaker 1: don't think you've probably listened if if you haven't, Will
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  Speaker 1: will fill you in as we go here. But my
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  Speaker 1: aunt is a huge fan of your She really loved
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  Speaker 1: you and and that, and she means it. So at
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  Speaker 1: least Ari, you have one fan in Carmelo, Indiana. So
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  Speaker 1: I love it. I love it. I know I have
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  Speaker 1: to have some love from India though, because of obviously,
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  Speaker 1: and I have listened to the podcast, and you guys
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  Speaker 1: have been kind of hard on me. I'm not gonna lie.
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  Speaker 1: I know, I know we haven't so so hard on you. Um,
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  Speaker 1: I do want to say that I was definitely a
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  Speaker 1: fan of you being the Bachelor, and I really liked
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  Speaker 1: you in person for reasons that people will find out
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  Speaker 1: one watching the Winter Games, even though we didn't really
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  Speaker 1: get to have like a really private chat. I do
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  Speaker 1: want you to be here though, so that people can
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  Speaker 1: get to know your personality beyond what they've showed on
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  Speaker 1: the show. You tweeted last week, maybe a little frustration.
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  Speaker 1: You said that it's something along the lines of it's
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  Speaker 1: unfortunate that you guys didn't get to see a lot
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  Speaker 1: of deep, meaningful conversations. Um. This episode four was the
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  Speaker 1: first episode I started feeling like, Okay, I think his
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  Speaker 1: personality is coming out. I definitely think that. So it's
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  Speaker 1: a good time for you to be here. But I
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  Speaker 1: want to go back to that tweet. What is the
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  Speaker 1: most frustrating part of watching this back for you so far?
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  Speaker 1: I just got to say, you know, obviously, the first
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  Speaker 1: few weeks, I was pretty uncomfortable being in this role. Uh,
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  Speaker 1: And I think that showed a little bit. But I
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  Speaker 1: did have some really great conversations and some awesome moments,
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  Speaker 1: and you know that there's things I get shows that
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  Speaker 1: chosen that they show and things that they don't show obviously,
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  Speaker 1: and so it was just, you know, I think the
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  Speaker 1: storyline was a little bit more on the physical side
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  Speaker 1: of things than that. It's hard to watch for me
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  Speaker 1: and um, yeah, So Tahoe was great though, because I
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  Speaker 1: was finally very comfortable the group that it was so
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  Speaker 1: much fun, and that was sort of the first location
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  Speaker 1: where I was like, Okay, I was feeling good in
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  Speaker 1: the role and I was having a blast. I really
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  Speaker 1: think it shows. And I'm not just saying this because
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  Speaker 1: we're talking to you today. Thank you, Actually, I appreciate that.
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  Speaker 1: I you know, all right here, okay, let's start. I
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  Speaker 1: want to be clear. Okay, the three friends talking right now.
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  Speaker 1: We have you on the podcast. First off, thank you
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  Speaker 1: so much for coming of the podcast. This is huge
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  Speaker 1: for us and and really exciting. So I have to
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  Speaker 1: give you all the credit for being willing to talk
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  Speaker 1: with us. But I want you to try to let
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  Speaker 1: your guard down a little bit because I know how
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  Speaker 1: it is to be in your position, and you're nervous,
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  Speaker 1: and everything you say is being criticized. Every move you
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  Speaker 1: make is being criticized. You say one wrong thing in
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  Speaker 1: the world erupt and it feels like the world erupts
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  Speaker 1: for this podcast. If you can, and I don't want
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  Speaker 1: to set you up for anything. I'm not gonna ask
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  Speaker 1: you actually, and I are not gonna ask you anything
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  Speaker 1: to put you in a weird spot. The just talk
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  Speaker 1: to us because this experience is hard and it's weird,
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  Speaker 1: and like you said, for the first few weeks, you
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  Speaker 1: go from being I guess you're never that normal you're
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  Speaker 1: a race car driver, which is pretty cool in itself. Um,
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  Speaker 1: and I was just a software salesman. But you go
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  Speaker 1: from being a very normal guy to being the Bachelor
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  Speaker 1: and having all of these women in front of you
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  Speaker 1: and and all these emotions to kind of handle and manage. Honestly,
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  Speaker 1: are you like, how hard was it for you? I
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  Speaker 1: think the first few weeks and just sort of seeing
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  Speaker 1: who's there for you, who's who's really genuine. I think
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  Speaker 1: that was the biggest thing for me. I think it's
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  Speaker 1: just been the show is completely different than when I
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  Speaker 1: was on it five years ago. I think it's a
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  Speaker 1: lot larger. I think there's more that goes into it.
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  Speaker 1: Obviously being the Bachelor, you know you're running the dates. Um,
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  Speaker 1: you know you sort of you need you see what's
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  Speaker 1: going on behind the scenes with how many producers are involved,
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  Speaker 1: and I think that's a little overwhelming effirst. So for me,
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  Speaker 1: it's more about getting a connection started with women that
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  Speaker 1: I felt that were very genuine. You know, some of
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  Speaker 1: those choices might have not been popular I think those
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  Speaker 1: first few weeks, but you know, those are the people
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  Speaker 1: that I connect with. UM. But yeah, it's difficult. I
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  Speaker 1: think there's just so much more to think about. You know.
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  Speaker 1: I think that first night, I remember, you know, being like, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: I have to stand on these marks, and if you know,
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  Speaker 1: if I'm talking to someone and their shade in their face,
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  Speaker 1: I have to sort of position myself so the lights
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  Speaker 1: in their face so that you know, they can pick
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  Speaker 1: that up on camera. And if those things threw me,
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  Speaker 1: I think those things I was thinking way too much
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  Speaker 1: about the little nuances about being the bachelor and and
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  Speaker 1: not just enjoying the conversation and being loose. And so
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  Speaker 1: that's took probably a week, and then then I was fine.
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  Speaker 1: It was just that first night obviously, with all those
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  Speaker 1: nerves and and those little things that I just think about.
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  Speaker 1: Those are things that I wasn't really comfortable with. Um.
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  Speaker 1: You know, I'm going to ask you a few things
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  Speaker 1: to your bachelor the Bachelor, and then I want to
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  Speaker 1: throw over to Ashley to kind of talk about this season.
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  Speaker 1: But for the for the next few minutes, I really
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  Speaker 1: want to are just kind of let the listeners out
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  Speaker 1: there in the sands of the Bachelor no, um kind
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  Speaker 1: and kind of dive into the things you just said,
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  Speaker 1: because it is hard you do. I mean, the things
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  Speaker 1: that aren't shown is you are a normal guy who
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  Speaker 1: was who's really trying to find love. And I think
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  Speaker 1: that's what I admire most about you is even even
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  Speaker 1: myself I throw in this cat where I can tell
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  Speaker 1: that you are passionately trying to pursue somebody just spend
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  Speaker 1: a life with. But at the same time, there is
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  Speaker 1: a show being made, and so you're dating and you're
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  Speaker 1: carrying a show, and so you do have to keep
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  Speaker 1: in the back of your head, Okay, I'm putting shade
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  Speaker 1: on this person. It's not gonna look get on camera,
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  Speaker 1: let me turn, but also stay involved in the conversation.
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  Speaker 1: Also stay aware of what's being said. That isn't an
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  Speaker 1: easy transition to get into. And I think all of
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  Speaker 1: us need to give you a little great because you
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  Speaker 1: took some years off. For me, it was a little
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  Speaker 1: easier because I went from one season to the next. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I think that's you know, that's why that's that progression.
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  Speaker 1: It's a little easier just because you know you're sort
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  Speaker 1: of especially you know for the whim in. I think
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  Speaker 1: it's a lot easier too, because you know the bachelor
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  Speaker 1: wrath in March and then they're straight into filming. So
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  Speaker 1: for the bachelorat that is um, and that is you
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  Speaker 1: did you did it used to being in front of camera,
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  Speaker 1: you used to the whole environment, and then when you're
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  Speaker 1: taken away from that and five years are moved, it
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  Speaker 1: is a bit of a shock to the system at first.
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  Speaker 1: But I think the experience, you know, is incredible, and
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  Speaker 1: I think it just took me a little while to
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  Speaker 1: warr onto it. It is one of the coolest things
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  Speaker 1: that anybody can ever do and one of the most
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  Speaker 1: beneficial things for a lot of reason. And I hope, um,
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  Speaker 1: and tell me if I'm wrong for you, you are happy, correct,
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  Speaker 1: And so we can hear this conversation with the knowledge
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  Speaker 1: that you have said, I am happy and whatever that means. Correct. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I'm so happy. I'm so happy. Good, I'm really so.
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  Speaker 1: That's that's the best part where Astley and I are
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  Speaker 1: thrilled for you. My final thing, I want to ask
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  Speaker 1: you about my biggest critique of you, and I want
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  Speaker 1: to talk to you about it, man to man. Okay, UM,
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  Speaker 1: all right, and I think it's I think it is.
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  Speaker 1: One of the hardest things about being a bachelor is
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  Speaker 1: you are also now responsible to allow everybody to feel welcomed, everybody,
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  Speaker 1: to feel um cared for, everybody, to feel valued. And
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  Speaker 1: I know you said at multiple times that you're really
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  Speaker 1: thankful that the women showed up to try to date you,
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  Speaker 1: and that's a huge deal to you. Um. I feel
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  Speaker 1: like it's been very clear watching the show who you're
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  Speaker 1: into and who you're not into, you feel like and
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  Speaker 1: and as a result, it's a critique of mine, because
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  Speaker 1: not that you should lead anybody on. I don't, there's
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  Speaker 1: a good balance there. But the women that you weren't
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  Speaker 1: into and that you said goodbye to, I knew way beforehand,
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  Speaker 1: and I think they even could tell which effort you
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  Speaker 1: how it just explained that to me. How was that
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  Speaker 1: for you? Yeah, No, I'm watching it back, I see
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  Speaker 1: that too. I think that's something that I wasn't really
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  Speaker 1: aware of. I think that I am the type of
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  Speaker 1: person that I definitely wear my heart on my sleeve.
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  Speaker 1: And I think I have a really bad poker face,
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  Speaker 1: Like if I feel a certain way, it's gonna show
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  Speaker 1: my body language. And that's something that is just very
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  Speaker 1: apparent now watching it back that I wasn't really aware of.
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  Speaker 1: But yeah, I mean that's just who I am. You know,
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  Speaker 1: I'm yea. If I'm uncomfortable, or if I'm in a
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  Speaker 1: situation where I don't feel like it's it's going anywhere,
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  Speaker 1: then then it's hard for me to act a different way.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like, what's interesting is that my biggest critique
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  Speaker 1: of you so far has been what Bend just mentioned.
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  Speaker 1: And it just seems like in an awkward situation, you
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  Speaker 1: sometimes make it more awkward. But the funny thing is
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  Speaker 1: I'm basically critiquing myself because I would have been the
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  Speaker 1: exact same way. I cannot hide what I'm feeling, and
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  Speaker 1: I can't pretend to like someone that I don't. And
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  Speaker 1: I think there's you know, watching it back, Yes, I
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  Speaker 1: do see that, but I think it'd be a lot
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  Speaker 1: worse if I could just put on a faith and
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  Speaker 1: and and act as as though I was into that person.
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  Speaker 1: I think because I'm doing in a more natural way,
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  Speaker 1: it's letting them know that right away. And I don't know,
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  Speaker 1: you know, it's it's hard, but it's that's just the
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  Speaker 1: way I am. I guess. I I honestly, I think
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  Speaker 1: it makes complete sense. I watch it, and I and
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  Speaker 1: I see how you're handling situations. I do think there
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  Speaker 1: is a level there where you could maybe make the
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  Speaker 1: women that you are interested in feel a little more like, Hey,
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  Speaker 1: I'm happy you're here. But again, you're genuine and you're authentic,
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  Speaker 1: and as I watched the show, I'm learning to see
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  Speaker 1: you in that life. You know, I didn't know you
• 16:23
  Speaker 1: on on week one, actually didn't know you on week one,
• 16:25
  Speaker 1: and so we're the question we always asked was who
• 16:28
  Speaker 1: is are? We don't know him yet, And what I'm
• 16:30
  Speaker 1: seeing is the R that I watched in week four
• 16:33
  Speaker 1: is the R that is authentic and genuine. And now
• 16:37
  Speaker 1: I can honestly say for the first time, I am
• 16:40
  Speaker 1: really excited to see how this plays out for you.
• 16:42
  Speaker 1: And I mean that I am excited because I know
• 16:44
  Speaker 1: what it's like to be in this situation, and I
• 16:47
  Speaker 1: know how good it can be, and I know how
• 16:49
  Speaker 1: great the final results can be for for you, and
• 16:53
  Speaker 1: I want this to in in the best way possible.
• 16:55
  Speaker 1: So I'm happy you're happy. And with that, I'm gonna
• 16:57
  Speaker 1: throw it over to ask you for a little bit
• 16:59
  Speaker 1: because now she's going to dive in this season and
• 17:01
  Speaker 1: exactly what he thinks, which already hold on for a
• 17:04
  Speaker 1: little bit. I'm decided Okay, so all right, we do
• 17:07
  Speaker 1: want people to get to know your personality a little more,
• 17:10
  Speaker 1: and I'm glad that we're starting to see you with
• 17:12
  Speaker 1: episode four. But let's go with a little speed round
• 17:14
  Speaker 1: of questions to get you warmed up right now. What
• 17:17
  Speaker 1: is your favorite dessert? What kind of chocolate? Chocolate with
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: chocolate saus Yeah, sprinkles sounds good. Yeah, I'm very Actually
• 17:31
  Speaker 1: it's okay, Okay. I like detail. I like to build
• 17:36
  Speaker 1: a picture. What's your best concert ever? Um, Molly Crue.
• 17:44
  Speaker 1: My buddy has been nail and so I go to
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: the I got in trouble on this podcast once talking
• 17:51
  Speaker 1: about my experience at a Motley Crue concert, and I
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: am not going to bring it up, but I will
• 17:55
  Speaker 1: tell you sometime in private because it was quite interesting.
• 17:59
  Speaker 1: You can go doesn't do an early episode. I had
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: an experience with an experience with Tommy Lee. It was
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: a little it was a little scary. That's funny. I'm
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: more I'm more buddies within, but um, yeah, Tommy's crazy
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: dude for sure crazy. Who is your celebrity crush? Ok
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: that can sail such respect work, that's great. I saw
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: her out to dinner a couple of months ago, and
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: holy Molly, that woman is forty four years old and
• 18:34
  Speaker 1: she looks far younger than me and she's striking. Yeah,
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: she's beautiful. Can I make a comment real quick? Um, Caroline,
• 18:45
  Speaker 1: the woman that you sent home this week, it looks
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: a lot like Kate that she kind of she was
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: very much my type. Um, we just didn't land on
• 18:57
  Speaker 1: the conversation. I really wanted it. We Yeah, I think
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: we had a lot of times when we sat down
• 19:03
  Speaker 1: and it just I could feel that there was like
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: a disconnect and you know, she was so beautiful, and
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: that was it was hard to under home and that
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: was that was a tough goodbye because I did really
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: want that potential there. Yeah she does. Anyways, Sorry, Actually,
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: did you ever think that you would like a pixie
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: cut as much as you do? On beccup? No, she's
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: the first girl at Data with short hair. Wait, please
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: tell me you all saw Saturday Night Live on Saturday.
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: Oh my god, she's all I have short hair something
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: you've never seen before? Is it crazy? For the first
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: time in my life, I'm like, should I get a
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: pixie cut? Yes? It was You learn a lot about yourself, obviously,
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: and watching those things, and I do say I love that.
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: Oh my god, after every conversation they like, I love that.
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: That's amazing. A what's your favorite movie? Oh, that's a
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: tough one, good, like a million times good one. That's
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: definitely my top ten drink of choice. What did the
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: what did they get you when you were the bachelor?
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: What was your drink to go to? Usually red wine
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: and if h if that was kind of after if
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: I needed to stay awake, then the red boll vodka. Okay,
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: if this was your last meal and you could eat
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: Actually one time, sorry, in around one of the producers,
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: Sam created a new drink. It's called the sam Gria,
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: and it's red wine with red bulls in that and
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: it sounds terrible. It sounds terrible, but try it. It's
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: actually really good. Alright. Did you drink a lot as
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: the bachelor? Like you have a tattoo? Um, I wouldn't say.
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: I would say that I drank pretty regularly, but not
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: a lot. Maybe one or two drinks in the evening
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: meal at the time to really enjoy drink because you're
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: having these conversations and you're and you obviously want to
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: be as sharp as you can and so it's just
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: it's different than being on the other side of things,
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: where you can have a conversation with that person and
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: then you can relax a little bit and have some
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: drinks and hang out with everybody else. I think as
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: the bachelor you just have to be way more cognizant
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: and you know, keep it to a few drinks in
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: an evening. Yeah, I agree, I never really did. I
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: don't want the energy either, not just during this anyway. Sorry,
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: lets you wake up really early and yeah, I mean,
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: you know how it is you're on this schedule. That's
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: kind of insane. Yeah, while all right, all right, what's
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: your last meal? You can be as elaborate and have
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: as many dishes as you'd like, oh my last meal?
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: Oh man um or just a regular binge eating Sunday. Yeah,
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: it would be like pizza with ice cream with uh
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: with like paramsey afterwards, and then like a cappuccino. Good
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: I am. I'm a big please guy. Which girl was
• 22:11
  Speaker 1: best dress on night one? Who I would say? I
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: would say Crystal, just because the red really popped out
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: and as you bring up Crystal and then I was
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: just going to move on to the reds talk about
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: for a second. Wait, my most important question about Crystal.
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: What are you thinking are watching now seeing her behind
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: the scenes interviews and with the girls. Is it changing
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: the experience you had one on one with her. You
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: talked about this in your blog this week, right, Yeah,
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: I meant you know that blog he wrote, Right, al,
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: So I would say that walking it back, it is,
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: I mean, obviously a whole different experience. I'm getting to
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: see so much more of Crystal and what that whole
• 23:03
  Speaker 1: situation is. And I think this episode and tallow you
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: kind of see some cracks in our relationship, and next
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: week it really sort of kind of blows up and
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: some draw that happens. But you know, it's it's just
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: different now watching it back, I'm getting to see all
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: these conversations that I didn't know that we're happening. I'm
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: getting to see the I t M s where they're
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: chatting about me, and it's fun, but it's also a
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: little bit shocking and revealing at time. So now, now,
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: do you think that her voice is sexy or annoying
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: watching it back? I mean I don't think it's that bad.
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: I know you guys think it's terrible, but I I
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: often found it to be, but she does carry out
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: the vout quite long on the show. And if you
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: guys are engaged, like, there's no hard feelings here for us,
• 23:55
  Speaker 1: we want to be a big fan of Crystal. So
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: just so you know, if you guys are happy together,
• 23:59
  Speaker 1: and you're happy couple right now, just know we're huge
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: Crystal things. I'm quite certain they're not. Also, you just
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: said it implodes next week, so but it explodes, but
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: you know that doesn't mean you can get over that,
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: you know. So I think sometimes a little conflict in
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: the show, I will have to say, it's good if
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: you get through things together. Yeah, I mean, I think
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: she's going to stick around a little bit longer than
• 24:18
  Speaker 1: just next week. I'm torn on Crystal because there are
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: things I like in things that are annoying me. But
• 24:26
  Speaker 1: did she posted on her Instagram that she's, you know,
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: getting bullied and stuff like that, which I get. That's
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: it's really hard when people are mean to you on
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: the internet or mean talking about you. But I don't
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: know she's setting herself up a little bit for it
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: because she is a bit sort of condescending to the
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: other girl. Yeah, but I think she's you know, I
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: think that's the thing. I think, looking back on it,
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: it is you're seeing it from a different perspective. But
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: our relationship at this point in the show is going
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: really good. You have some conflict next week, but you know,
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: ultimately she wasn't there too. I know it's so cliche
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: to say I didn't come here to make friends, but
• 25:10
  Speaker 1: put she put our relationship first, and that caused some conflicts.
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: And I think that there is something to be said
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: about something that kind of fights for the time that
• 25:22
  Speaker 1: you get together because you do have such limited time. Well,
• 25:25
  Speaker 1: let's talk about the rose ceremony from this week, because
• 25:27
  Speaker 1: I'm all for it. She can grab you first, she
• 25:29
  Speaker 1: can grab you twenty times during dates and parties and
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: all that. I don't care. That's fine, But I did
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: think it was a little unfair to stop the rose
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: ceremony to have time with you, because all I thought was, well,
• 25:42
  Speaker 1: don't they all want to do that? Yeah? That actually
• 25:47
  Speaker 1: took me back, you know, I don't I don't really
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: know why she did that, to be honest, because that
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: week wasn't a hard week for us. You know, our
• 25:54
  Speaker 1: our group date was really really fun, and she was
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: on that little group with me, during the during the
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: high and so I just feel like she saw other
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: relationships forming and she had that early one on one,
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: so it's probably hard for her to really adapt to
• 26:10
  Speaker 1: being on the true page. Um, you know what, Ari,
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: it's so weird. Kareem Abdul Jabbar, he has a Bachelor
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: blog each week. I think he talks, Yeah, isn't that
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: so weird? He's a he's a big reporter. He doesn't
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: a big fan, but he like really picks it apart
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: culturally and psychologically. So he brings up Crystal and says
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: she's not a villain for trying to put her relationship first,
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: because you can always say I'm kind of just playing
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: devil's advocate and saying what he said. He goes, she's
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: not putting the relationship for hers, she's putting winning first.
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: What do you think about that? And did you have
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: any fears about that? Just girls wanting to win and
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: not necessarily wanting to be with you. Yeah, And I
• 26:55
  Speaker 1: think with time too, you can really realize you know
• 26:58
  Speaker 1: who's there for you and who's there to just be
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: there and be on the show and to see how
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: far they can get. I felt like there was some
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: of that it's tough. You know, it's really hard to
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: really see who's there for you. I think that's one
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: of the most difficult things. Also too, it's like you
• 27:16
  Speaker 1: you brought up the bullying stuff, and I do hate
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: seeing that, you know. I hate how people are so
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: cruel online. You know. I'm obviously I took the role.
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: I knew that it was going to be a part
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: of it, and I feel like some of the women
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: on the show, they come on for this experience, and
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: I just feel so unfair to really bully them online.
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: I just hate seeing that. No, But what's interesting is
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: there's such a fine line between what people interpret as
• 27:40
  Speaker 1: bullying and what is funny. Like Saturday Night Live, because
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: people I got a lot of emails because people didn't
• 27:46
  Speaker 1: think I was nice enough to analyze because I made
• 27:49
  Speaker 1: so much fun of her for her bumper card drama
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: and her dog fears, and so I got all these
• 27:54
  Speaker 1: hateful emails. Except she was over at my house for
• 27:57
  Speaker 1: dinner that night, so she was cool, do you know
• 27:59
  Speaker 1: what I'm saying. So sometimes you're just the show is
• 28:03
  Speaker 1: made for us to make half come on, Yeah, you
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: have a sense of humor about it, and like a
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: sense of sense, and then you have to have like
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: a be self aware about it. You have to be
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: self aware about yourself. Oh and you learned so much
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: about yourself walking your help back. I say so many things.
• 28:21
  Speaker 1: I'm like, really, wow, I say that way too much.
• 28:26
  Speaker 1: But I have I have a list on my phone
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: are of statements that you've made. I know it's like,
• 28:33
  Speaker 1: you know what I mean. And another one is I
• 28:35
  Speaker 1: love it. There's a lot of lights going on too.
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: There's a lot of like like like like like like
• 28:40
  Speaker 1: I've noticed that myself lately. I really need to cut
• 28:43
  Speaker 1: down on the likes. I'm really trying to make a
• 28:45
  Speaker 1: cognitive effort to do. So, Hey, Ari, this is an
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: interesting question. I just came up at the top of
• 28:50
  Speaker 1: my head um from day one. Okay, So for me,
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: it's just like so I'm sorry it's not on my
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: list here, but it's just super random. So my first
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: week on The Bachelor with Cris Souls, I put myself
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: in his top three. I thought, like the attention I
• 29:08
  Speaker 1: was getting in just the order of the roses. I
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: was like, I think he likes me in his top
• 29:13
  Speaker 1: three or four. I quickly fell from that like boom,
• 29:18
  Speaker 1: But I want to know if the three girls that
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: you were most concentrated on and thought that you were
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: going to really have something with in week one ended
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: up being the same girls that you felt that way
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: about midway through and then towards the end. Did it change?
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: Did your favorites change? Yes, they change for sure. Um
• 29:37
  Speaker 1: and Lisa's actually in my top three the first night WHOA, Yeah,
• 29:41
  Speaker 1: she was. She was very I could tell she really
• 29:44
  Speaker 1: wanted to settle down. I could tell that she was
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: serious about finding someone. She's very genuine. And then I
• 29:50
  Speaker 1: think everything sort of got to her and I think
• 29:54
  Speaker 1: she put a lot of pressure on herself and I
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: think that affected her negatively and that really you know that,
• 30:01
  Speaker 1: I think the whole experience is very difficult for her.
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: But she was in my top three, and so you know,
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: that's one of those relationships that obviously didn't pan out.
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: But um, yeah, it was very interesting looking back because
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: I wrote down at every roads ceremony sort of you know,
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: the order of of where my feelings were at, let's say,
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: in the house, and you know how I was feeling
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: going into the roads ceremony, and so yeah, reading that
• 30:27
  Speaker 1: back was very interesting because there's a whole different. I
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: painted a whole different picture that first evening to how
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: it ended and with long haired Becca on the Rachel
• 30:35
  Speaker 1: Zoe date, my notes on that were, I am pretty
• 30:38
  Speaker 1: comfortable watching them. It was a comfortable date with like
• 30:42
  Speaker 1: minimal awkwardness. Yeah, she You know, the reason I picked
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: her for the first day is because our first conversation
• 30:50
  Speaker 1: it flowed really nicely and I could have sat there
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: for a lot longer than, you know, the ten or
• 30:54
  Speaker 1: fifteen minutes that we talked, and I knew that I'd
• 30:56
  Speaker 1: be very comfortable on that date just because she was
• 30:59
  Speaker 1: so confident in front of the cameras and she really didn't,
• 31:03
  Speaker 1: you know, left the experience sort of um make her
• 31:06
  Speaker 1: nervous at all, and so I needed somebody who was
• 31:09
  Speaker 1: like that to sort of help me through the first
• 31:12
  Speaker 1: couple of days. And so that first date was selected
• 31:16
  Speaker 1: just based on the fact of how comfortable I was
• 31:18
  Speaker 1: around here. That's awesome. Hey, hey, Ari, did you keep
• 31:21
  Speaker 1: a bachelor diary? Speaking of you writing a list before
• 31:24
  Speaker 1: he draws ceremony? Yeah, no, I tried to write stuff down,
• 31:27
  Speaker 1: but it was so hard because the days are really long.
• 31:30
  Speaker 1: So some of the first few weeks are it was
• 31:33
  Speaker 1: pretty smart. But yeah, for sure, No, I wrote everything
• 31:36
  Speaker 1: now kind of look back on things. I love reading
• 31:40
  Speaker 1: my bachelor diary. It's so embarrassing. It's like I knew
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: him for you know, ten days, and I was like,
• 31:47
  Speaker 1: I really picture myself marrying him. I'm not surprised actually
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: that you fell head over heels for crystals. Um. I
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: want to just I don't know, man, the man here.
• 31:59
  Speaker 1: We have a lot of listeners out there that email us, UM,
• 32:02
  Speaker 1: really deep and heartfelt questions about relationships and about life. UM,
• 32:08
  Speaker 1: my last thing, and a lot of our listeners have
• 32:10
  Speaker 1: these vulnerabilities and insecurities that they expressed with us, and
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: they kind of live by kariously through it feels like
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: the bachelor to kind of relate with people and relate
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: with the bachelor. What were some of your biggest insecurities
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: going through this experience? Go back, you know, the few
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: months to when this was filming and when you were
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: dating and when you were thinking about you know, the process.
• 32:28
  Speaker 1: What what were what were the hardest things going through
• 32:30
  Speaker 1: your head? Oh? Man, Um, well, I think right off
• 32:34
  Speaker 1: the bat, like, no secret, I think people were maybe
• 32:37
  Speaker 1: expecting a different bachelor, So I had to navigate that
• 32:41
  Speaker 1: I had to see, you know, who was there for
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: me and who there was generally you know, who was interested.
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: I think I had just port of let's let's post here.
• 32:50
  Speaker 1: Was that hard for you? Are? I mean? Hard? Okay,
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: so hard? I mean think about you know, I know
• 32:57
  Speaker 1: that it seems way back up a little bit. I
• 33:01
  Speaker 1: feel like in the last five years, you know, you
• 33:03
  Speaker 1: guys have all built a relationship together because there's more
• 33:05
  Speaker 1: than just two shows, there's three four shows now a year.
• 33:09
  Speaker 1: Everyone in Bachelor Nation sort of hangs out together. They
• 33:12
  Speaker 1: all know each other. So when I was chosen, I
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: really hadn't kept touch with anyone in recent years in
• 33:19
  Speaker 1: the franchise, so I really felt like an outsider. And
• 33:24
  Speaker 1: and I still feel that way. I mean, if I
• 33:26
  Speaker 1: kind of read into the social media comments and I
• 33:28
  Speaker 1: kind of feel like, you know, sometimes everyone's kind of
• 33:32
  Speaker 1: getting up on me a little bit just because they
• 33:35
  Speaker 1: don't know me. So they're trying to get to know
• 33:37
  Speaker 1: me through the show, which is highly edited, and they're
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: showing you know, more of the drama and obviously less
• 33:43
  Speaker 1: of the romance from the beginning. And so for me,
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: like going back to that time September when we were
• 33:48
  Speaker 1: started shooting. I had that first evening and I was,
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: you know, obviously very nervous because I was worried that
• 33:54
  Speaker 1: people would be disappointed that it was me. You know,
• 33:57
  Speaker 1: that's you know, that's a very real thing. Um So,
• 34:01
  Speaker 1: you know, I had to sort of prove myself in
• 34:03
  Speaker 1: a way and sort of let the women that were
• 34:05
  Speaker 1: there know who I was. And and it was a
• 34:08
  Speaker 1: little refreshing in a way because since I didn't watch
• 34:11
  Speaker 1: my season, or many of them didn't, they had a
• 34:14
  Speaker 1: fresh perspective on me. And so that was cool too
• 34:17
  Speaker 1: because I felt like it allowed me to get to
• 34:21
  Speaker 1: know them more naturally. Um souse them having a preconceived
• 34:24
  Speaker 1: notion of me, and you know things that are written
• 34:28
  Speaker 1: the media that they're always kind of hurtful to hear.
• 34:30
  Speaker 1: I mean, I let those things kind of slide off
• 34:32
  Speaker 1: my back pretty easily. But you know, going into it,
• 34:35
  Speaker 1: I think I had to combat a lot of bad
• 34:38
  Speaker 1: reputation just because I'm a man in my mid thirties
• 34:41
  Speaker 1: that isn't married. But hey, you know, it's you know,
• 34:44
  Speaker 1: you're gonna date and you're gonna have failed relationships, and
• 34:47
  Speaker 1: not every relationship is going to end well and I
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: think you just need to know who you are and
• 34:52
  Speaker 1: be confident in what you want. And then that's sort
• 34:55
  Speaker 1: of how I entered the whole experience. Man, I I
• 35:00
  Speaker 1: think that is spot on. I love that you you
• 35:04
  Speaker 1: shared how difficult it was for you, because I know
• 35:07
  Speaker 1: the insecurity that I felt. One of my biggest was
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: I thought I was the wrong guy for him, Like
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: I was confused, like, how are they going to choose
• 35:13
  Speaker 1: me to be the bachelor? And for you, it was
• 35:15
  Speaker 1: very public that you weren't supposed to be the bachelor,
• 35:18
  Speaker 1: and yet you carried that role and you carried it well. Uh.
• 35:22
  Speaker 1: And we're in week four and I think the best
• 35:24
  Speaker 1: is yet to come from you. I want to switch
• 35:26
  Speaker 1: gears a second here, because this might be speaking on
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: everything you just talked about, speaking on the bowling part, uh,
• 35:34
  Speaker 1: and also relating it back to what people are saying
• 35:36
  Speaker 1: on social media. There's one thing that's really rubbed me
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: the wrong way and and and one thing that I
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: have gotten very protective of you about is a tweet
• 35:44
  Speaker 1: by Jeff Holme. Um, can you share it with me
• 35:48
  Speaker 1: a little bit of the insight as much as you
• 35:50
  Speaker 1: feel comfortable about what is going on there? Because he
• 35:54
  Speaker 1: said something that was really difficult for you to kind
• 35:58
  Speaker 1: of combat on Twitter as soon as you were right now. Yeah,
• 36:03
  Speaker 1: I mean I think Jeff and I haven't spoken since
• 36:05
  Speaker 1: Sean's wedding. I think that was four or five years
• 36:08
  Speaker 1: ago now, and obviously a lot happened in that amount
• 36:13
  Speaker 1: of time. I don't really feel like he knows the
• 36:15
  Speaker 1: man who I am, and I don't know why the
• 36:19
  Speaker 1: ship has been thrown. Um. I could, I could really
• 36:23
  Speaker 1: dive into this, but you know, he lives with Robbie.
• 36:26
  Speaker 1: He's still hangs in the bachelor's circle of friends, which
• 36:30
  Speaker 1: is fine. I just don't see why he had to
• 36:34
  Speaker 1: come after me and be so negative, you know, when
• 36:37
  Speaker 1: his own relationship didn't work out. Um, I feel like
• 36:40
  Speaker 1: it's unfair to judge, and I feel like I feel
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: more disappointed than anything, because I don't really feel like
• 36:46
  Speaker 1: it's a warranted um attack on me that I really
• 36:52
  Speaker 1: don't get. Good. Yeah, I was gonna say, you get it.
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: I mean, is it coming from any place? No? I
• 36:59
  Speaker 1: think you know, we had John's wedding, you know, he
• 37:04
  Speaker 1: he brought a date. I felt like he handled the
• 37:06
  Speaker 1: situation badly with his date, and he didn't treat that
• 37:09
  Speaker 1: person right, and I spoke out and then he got
• 37:12
  Speaker 1: a new a fight with myself and a few of
• 37:14
  Speaker 1: the producers, and and that was the last time we talked.
• 37:19
  Speaker 1: And I just felt like, in the moment, I had
• 37:21
  Speaker 1: to stick up for that person that he brought instead
• 37:25
  Speaker 1: of him, and I felt like he thought that I
• 37:28
  Speaker 1: chose the wrong side, But in actuality, I just felt
• 37:30
  Speaker 1: like he was treating that person in a negative way.
• 37:33
  Speaker 1: So and so I don't know, you know, I think
• 37:36
  Speaker 1: there maybe there's a little bit of jealousy. That's what
• 37:39
  Speaker 1: I was gonna say. It seems like a lot of
• 37:40
  Speaker 1: this is coming from jealousy. There has got to be
• 37:44
  Speaker 1: a reason why he hasn't been on any spinoff shows,
• 37:47
  Speaker 1: especially since I do believe that it's something he's desired. Yeah,
• 37:50
  Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know. I can't speak to that.
• 37:52
  Speaker 1: I can only speak to my experience. But um, yeah,
• 37:56
  Speaker 1: I haven't talked to him so long, so it was
• 37:58
  Speaker 1: surprising to hear. But well, you know, bachelor mystery right there.
• 38:04
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I mean to sum it up, man, I
• 38:06
  Speaker 1: I know that we've critiqued you. We will continue to
• 38:09
  Speaker 1: critique you on this podcast. I'm gonna warn you now. Um,
• 38:11
  Speaker 1: it's it's all. It will never be hopefully attacked on
• 38:14
  Speaker 1: you personally because I don't know that and we don't
• 38:18
  Speaker 1: know how this goes. Like we talk about we have
• 38:20
  Speaker 1: to talk about what we see, not about like what
• 38:23
  Speaker 1: we can guess happen behind the scenes, Like we we
• 38:26
  Speaker 1: know that there's probably more to this, but we have
• 38:28
  Speaker 1: to talk from a fans point of view. Yeah, totally.
• 38:32
  Speaker 1: And if you know, if I say dumb things fun camera,
• 38:35
  Speaker 1: then you're more than welcome to may fun of me.
• 38:37
  Speaker 1: We don't Yeah, we don't need your permission. Are we
• 38:40
  Speaker 1: got a podcast bill on making money too young for
• 38:45
  Speaker 1: a thirty six year old? Wait? Wait, Ben has one
• 38:47
  Speaker 1: more thing to say, and then and then we're gonna
• 38:49
  Speaker 1: get into that, all right. I just I really do
• 38:51
  Speaker 1: want to say this to you. I think it is
• 38:53
  Speaker 1: incredibly inappropriate for anybody when you get announced there's something
• 38:58
  Speaker 1: that is really going to be a lot of a
• 39:00
  Speaker 1: good experience for your hopefully one I think it's inappropriate
• 39:02
  Speaker 1: for anybody to speak out and at that moment throtiated
• 39:05
  Speaker 1: you because you can't defend yourself. And I think that's
• 39:08
  Speaker 1: the thing that hurts me the most, being that is
• 39:10
  Speaker 1: I know what it feels like, UM, when your character
• 39:14
  Speaker 1: is in question and you feel like there's no reason why,
• 39:17
  Speaker 1: and yet you're you're now in a public spotlight that
• 39:19
  Speaker 1: everybody's talking about it, and you can't answer to everybody.
• 39:22
  Speaker 1: And so I hope, I hope the listeners this podcast
• 39:26
  Speaker 1: defend you and also understand, um that any critique of you,
• 39:31
  Speaker 1: this is a show, but you're doing it in an
• 39:33
  Speaker 1: authentic way, and and we I want to have your
• 39:36
  Speaker 1: back in this because I think that was incredibly unfair
• 39:37
  Speaker 1: and I want to say that publicly it's ridiculous. So actually, uh,
• 39:41
  Speaker 1: you can finish out here with your you know, final
• 39:43
  Speaker 1: back to questions. Are you've been You've been great. Thanks
• 39:45
  Speaker 1: for coming on the day. Yeah, thanks to appreciate it. Hey, alright,
• 39:49
  Speaker 1: so we could not get through this interview without asking
• 39:52
  Speaker 1: you probably the hottest topic going on around your season
• 39:55
  Speaker 1: right now, which is the fourteen year age difference between
• 39:58
  Speaker 1: you and Becca. Have you dated anyone that young before?
• 40:02
  Speaker 1: And how much of a big deal do you think
• 40:03
  Speaker 1: it is? Like, I actually think people are making too
• 40:07
  Speaker 1: big of a deal. I think the fact that she's
• 40:08
  Speaker 1: twenty two is what makes this even a topic. I
• 40:12
  Speaker 1: think if she was thirty and you were forty four,
• 40:16
  Speaker 1: no one had to really think about it, right, Yeah, totally.
• 40:20
  Speaker 1: I think you know, it did shock me that she
• 40:23
  Speaker 1: was twenty two. Um, and I think you see on
• 40:26
  Speaker 1: the episode that pretty tormented on. Yeah, definitely, reaction did
• 40:32
  Speaker 1: not hide your reaction, did not hide how you felt,
• 40:35
  Speaker 1: which I like. I know, I really expected her to
• 40:40
  Speaker 1: be in her mid mid twenties. And even though that
• 40:43
  Speaker 1: she she looks so young, just because the conversation with her,
• 40:47
  Speaker 1: we always have these really great conversations. She's very intelligent,
• 40:50
  Speaker 1: she's very mature, and she really read me really well.
• 40:54
  Speaker 1: She seems to really know a lot about me in
• 40:58
  Speaker 1: those few conversations that we had, and so I always
• 41:02
  Speaker 1: really connected her. So when she said to his pointy two,
• 41:04
  Speaker 1: it was a really there was a real inner conflict
• 41:06
  Speaker 1: there for sure, But I couldn't deny the fact that
• 41:10
  Speaker 1: there was a lot of feeling towards her, and at
• 41:13
  Speaker 1: that point in the show, I was probably mostly the
• 41:17
  Speaker 1: most connected to her, and that made things really difficult
• 41:20
  Speaker 1: for me. You had to love the way she challenged you,
• 41:23
  Speaker 1: and she was always like you I'm I'm what you want,
• 41:27
  Speaker 1: because you know, I don't need you. Yeah, I know,
• 41:30
  Speaker 1: because she said things like that all the time. Or
• 41:32
  Speaker 1: she would, you know, we'd have a I'd be like,
• 41:35
  Speaker 1: we can't just you know, we can't just sit here
• 41:36
  Speaker 1: and kiss. We need to have it. You need to
• 41:37
  Speaker 1: have a great conversation. And she would say, we'd have
• 41:41
  Speaker 1: this conversation and then she was like, okay, we've done.
• 41:43
  Speaker 1: Now you get kiss me yet. You know, she'd say
• 41:45
  Speaker 1: little things like that. I like, Jesus, do you think
• 41:48
  Speaker 1: she's too young to be the bachelorette? Um, if you know,
• 41:54
  Speaker 1: you don't choose her, of course, let's just play the game. Yeah,
• 41:59
  Speaker 1: I mean that's kind of yeah, that's a little further
• 42:02
  Speaker 1: discussion further down the line. But um, yeah, she's just
• 42:06
  Speaker 1: very bold she is. And you know that was very
• 42:09
  Speaker 1: copy to me. My only hard part with hers. I
• 42:11
  Speaker 1: like her and I think the age difference is fine.
• 42:13
  Speaker 1: It's just when she talks about like her past relationships,
• 42:15
  Speaker 1: I keep thinking, like at the prom, like do you
• 42:18
  Speaker 1: know what I mean? Like, yeah, yeah, her longest relationship
• 42:24
  Speaker 1: with two to three years. I think at that point
• 42:26
  Speaker 1: eight grade, it's longer than mine. She was in eighth grade. Alright, Alright,
• 42:35
  Speaker 1: that one we will get you off the hook on there,
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: but we will get you onto another topic that's also cringeworthy.
• 42:41
  Speaker 1: I'm sure for you to talk about. Um. You went
• 42:44
  Speaker 1: into this season known as the kissing Bandit that was
• 42:46
  Speaker 1: your ultimate skill, and now you're getting some flak about
• 42:49
  Speaker 1: it because I guess everybody's just like, oh, he kisses
• 42:52
  Speaker 1: every girl that way. Now, it doesn't have anything to
• 42:55
  Speaker 1: do with his emotional connection to her. He's just he's
• 42:58
  Speaker 1: just a very romantic, impassed and kisser. So how do
• 43:01
  Speaker 1: you respond to that? I mean, I think that was
• 43:05
  Speaker 1: what was so frustrating watching the second episode back UM
• 43:09
  Speaker 1: Repisode three, because it was all about the physicality and
• 43:13
  Speaker 1: about Analie's not getting her kiss. So I think it
• 43:15
  Speaker 1: was edited in a way that showed me kiss me everyone,
• 43:19
  Speaker 1: and it left out some really awesome conversations that we're
• 43:23
  Speaker 1: really pivotal to my experience, and that was that was disappointing.
• 43:28
  Speaker 1: But I think that's just part of watching the show
• 43:33
  Speaker 1: that's that's edited like that, you know, you're you. It's
• 43:36
  Speaker 1: like reading the most amazing book you've ever read and
• 43:39
  Speaker 1: then watching you know, the movie version, which is still
• 43:43
  Speaker 1: good but leaves out a lot of really important details analogy. Yeah,
• 43:50
  Speaker 1: so that's that's like the thing that kills me when
• 43:53
  Speaker 1: I watched it, because I'm like, I wish they showed
• 43:55
  Speaker 1: the moment when this happened, and they instead they showed
• 43:59
  Speaker 1: you know me like, um, you know, making out with
• 44:02
  Speaker 1: someone in front of a fire, and I'm like, uh,
• 44:04
  Speaker 1: it kills me to watch it to trust me. Oh,
• 44:06
  Speaker 1: we we totally relate to that. Ben, And I know
• 44:09
  Speaker 1: about missing out on some of your favorite moments not
• 44:11
  Speaker 1: making air, but I mean I think, yeah, yeah, I
• 44:16
  Speaker 1: am a passionate person and I do kind of lead
• 44:20
  Speaker 1: with some physicality. But I think you're going to see
• 44:23
  Speaker 1: a lot more great conversation and it's going to shift
• 44:26
  Speaker 1: more towards that funny how girls are like getting on
• 44:29
  Speaker 1: your lap. Like we've never seen so much straddling so
• 44:32
  Speaker 1: early on in the season. Yeah, you didn't see that
• 44:37
  Speaker 1: with me. I kept ari I kept the two ft
• 44:43
  Speaker 1: on the floor rule for my season. There was no
• 44:46
  Speaker 1: parallel lane. Well we do. Yeah, this is what it
• 44:54
  Speaker 1: is at week four. I can't wait to see one
• 44:56
  Speaker 1: a week seven brings man. All right, we are so
• 45:01
  Speaker 1: thankful for you coming on, and I'm so excited for
• 45:04
  Speaker 1: our listeners to hear this. They are truly get going
• 45:07
  Speaker 1: to get to know a whole different side of you.
• 45:09
  Speaker 1: You're so much more lighthearted and fun and easy to
• 45:12
  Speaker 1: talk to you. And it's funny because I think the
• 45:14
  Speaker 1: past couple of weeks we've been saying like he doesn't
• 45:16
  Speaker 1: seemed easy to talk to you, but you're such an
• 45:18
  Speaker 1: open book. I love it. No, thank you guys, thanks
• 45:21
  Speaker 1: for having me on. Of course, thank you so much,
• 45:23
  Speaker 1: and we hope to have you at the end of
• 45:24
  Speaker 1: the season, maybe with your winner, your your love not
• 45:27
  Speaker 1: your winner. Sound good? All right, bye? All right? Thanks,
• 45:32
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• 47:36
  Speaker 1: a second extremely special guests for this podcast. He is
• 47:41
  Speaker 1: a part of a group that sings my favorite song
• 47:44
  Speaker 1: of the year. I'm not kidding. I listened to the
• 47:46
  Speaker 1: song all the time. The first time I heard it,
• 47:48
  Speaker 1: it made me cheer up a bit. Brandon from Lanco,
• 47:51
  Speaker 1: Are you on the line? What's up here? I am?
• 47:54
  Speaker 1: Hey Brandon, you are first musical artists who has performed
• 47:58
  Speaker 1: on The Bachelor. Yeah, that's so cool that you've come
• 48:02
  Speaker 1: on to talk to us. We need to know how
• 48:04
  Speaker 1: do you like, do you know anything about the date
• 48:07
  Speaker 1: before the actual couple walks in? Do you know which
• 48:10
  Speaker 1: girl is on the date? Do you know you know
• 48:13
  Speaker 1: is they're gonna dance? Tell us everything? Right? Yeah? Yeah?
• 48:18
  Speaker 1: So they I mean kind of it worked as like
• 48:20
  Speaker 1: that day we got there and uh, how was the day?
• 48:24
  Speaker 1: They let us know who it was gonna be um
• 48:27
  Speaker 1: and who who was on a date that day? They
• 48:28
  Speaker 1: didn't really told us details. I think they gave us
• 48:31
  Speaker 1: some details of the date, but like nothing too specific.
• 48:35
  Speaker 1: I'm really honestly, they just didn't trust us to like
• 48:37
  Speaker 1: not spoil anything. Uh, but we knew that, you know,
• 48:41
  Speaker 1: we knew who was gonna be and we knew that,
• 48:42
  Speaker 1: uh pretty much the way they started up. That was
• 48:45
  Speaker 1: cool because they set it up in the way that
• 48:46
  Speaker 1: was natural for us as a fan, where um, we
• 48:50
  Speaker 1: pretty much you know, they tweeted out that we're gonna
• 48:52
  Speaker 1: be uh, there's gonna be special gast Lanco and then
• 48:55
  Speaker 1: performing show and also they said it was gonna be
• 48:57
  Speaker 1: for for the Bachelor, and so it was a pretty
• 49:00
  Speaker 1: naice environment and we just played a show and then
• 49:02
  Speaker 1: they waited till the end for us to play. They
• 49:05
  Speaker 1: had to play Great slu story last. And then uh,
• 49:08
  Speaker 1: at that moment, you know, they told us, all right,
• 49:10
  Speaker 1: they're gonna walk in, there's the crowds part, they're gonna
• 49:13
  Speaker 1: stand and it's gonna be a moment and pretty much
• 49:16
  Speaker 1: it's all the way of their moment is on your shoulders,
• 49:19
  Speaker 1: so don't screw it up now say that. But then
• 49:23
  Speaker 1: you're like you're like, oh man, this is like the
• 49:24
  Speaker 1: finality to their date. Um, all right, then no pressure.
• 49:27
  Speaker 1: Here we go. But it was fun. Is it as
• 49:30
  Speaker 1: romantic as it seems on TV? Or is it a
• 49:32
  Speaker 1: little more forced and awkward because you know, an entire
• 49:35
  Speaker 1: crowd of hundreds of people are watching you interact with
• 49:38
  Speaker 1: somebody you've just been on a first date with, right,
• 49:42
  Speaker 1: I mean, I've seen honestly, they seem to be having
• 49:44
  Speaker 1: fun with it. Um, it's it seemed naturally. I could
• 49:47
  Speaker 1: imagine that would be offered for anyone. Um, even if
• 49:50
  Speaker 1: it wasn't your first date that, um, that might be awkward.
• 49:54
  Speaker 1: But I mean I think that you know, they're they're
• 49:55
  Speaker 1: at a US days, you just kind of be having
• 49:57
  Speaker 1: fun and and enjoying moment and you know, just just
• 50:03
  Speaker 1: kind of living in that moment. And there they seem
• 50:05
  Speaker 1: to be pretty focused on each other. So that was cool.
• 50:07
  Speaker 1: And and the more natural they were, you know, the
• 50:09
  Speaker 1: more comfortable faded for for everyone else and us playing.
• 50:12
  Speaker 1: So it was cool. Yeah. I think it's a huge
• 50:15
  Speaker 1: deal that you came onto The show Man. It is special.
• 50:18
  Speaker 1: I know how special it was for me. I had
• 50:20
  Speaker 1: on my very first date of the season, I had
• 50:22
  Speaker 1: one of my favorite singers of all time, amosus Lee
• 50:24
  Speaker 1: there and It's something I'll never forget and I look
• 50:27
  Speaker 1: back on. And I'm a huge fan of you all.
• 50:29
  Speaker 1: I'm a huge fan of Lanka. Let me be clear here,
• 50:31
  Speaker 1: Brandon F. Lancas on on the phone right now. Uh.
• 50:34
  Speaker 1: Your song, the song that made you really popular is incredible,
• 50:37
  Speaker 1: but your your music since then has been great as well.
• 50:40
  Speaker 1: So I was really excited to watch you on this
• 50:43
  Speaker 1: week's episode and see you help out the Bachelor little bit.
• 50:46
  Speaker 1: So thanks, brand is the greatest love story is greatest
• 50:50
  Speaker 1: love story? Your story? Um? Yeah, it is, you know
• 50:53
  Speaker 1: what I mean, it's It's the cool thing about songwriting,
• 50:56
  Speaker 1: and songwriting is really kind of a it's always a
• 50:59
  Speaker 1: combination of both observations and experiences and and great as
• 51:03
  Speaker 1: little story is kind of a perfect example of that
• 51:05
  Speaker 1: for me. Uh, I grew up in a pretty small
• 51:08
  Speaker 1: town where you know a lot of my friends, uh
• 51:10
  Speaker 1: with data high school and then where I am from
• 51:13
  Speaker 1: the Nissan factories there, and so a lot of times
• 51:16
  Speaker 1: girls will go to college and the guys we'd just
• 51:18
  Speaker 1: go straight to work at Niss round and then it
• 51:20
  Speaker 1: was kind of that, you know, it was the girl
• 51:21
  Speaker 1: wh come back during the summer or whatever it was, Um,
• 51:24
  Speaker 1: or you know, if she graduated, she gonna come back home.
• 51:26
  Speaker 1: And so I kind of had that inspiration from it,
• 51:28
  Speaker 1: just seeing my friends go through that, and then I
• 51:31
  Speaker 1: am I'm recently married as a few months ago, thank
• 51:35
  Speaker 1: you very much. And yeah, and uh, you know, but
• 51:39
  Speaker 1: we my wife and we met in college. I mean
• 51:41
  Speaker 1: I was still I was like nineteen, Um, so we
• 51:44
  Speaker 1: met in school, but then she moved away and we
• 51:47
  Speaker 1: you know, we broke up, took some time apart, and
• 51:49
  Speaker 1: then in that time apart, kind of found um, you know,
• 51:53
  Speaker 1: what what each other meant to uh, to the other person,
• 51:56
  Speaker 1: and and kind of saw how importantly were to each
• 51:59
  Speaker 1: other and that you know, that person balances you out,
• 52:02
  Speaker 1: and uh you know that we end up getting back together,
• 52:04
  Speaker 1: and you know that was years ago now and now
• 52:06
  Speaker 1: we were married at the last September, so so you know,
• 52:09
  Speaker 1: it's kind of those two things. And and really I
• 52:12
  Speaker 1: think that the reason of the song Greatest Love Story.
• 52:15
  Speaker 1: That's why I was really happy for to be you know,
• 52:17
  Speaker 1: the successful single off our album is because it's it's
• 52:19
  Speaker 1: a story. But really the point of the song is
• 52:22
  Speaker 1: just you know what my favorite line of the song is,
• 52:23
  Speaker 1: I was what you wanted here what I needed. We
• 52:25
  Speaker 1: could meet in between, because at the end of the day,
• 52:27
  Speaker 1: I think that love is no matter how much you
• 52:29
  Speaker 1: have in common, Love is two completely different people coming
• 52:32
  Speaker 1: together and uh, finding the strengths and weaknesses and each
• 52:34
  Speaker 1: other and kind of creating that balance and balancing each
• 52:38
  Speaker 1: other out. And and love is compromised. And that's only
• 52:40
  Speaker 1: is what the song Greatest Stories about. So and I
• 52:42
  Speaker 1: think it's a very appropriate song for anyone trying to
• 52:45
  Speaker 1: find love or who knows about love. Brandon, what was
• 52:48
  Speaker 1: cool about them using the Greatest Love Story as the
• 52:51
  Speaker 1: song is it kind of made it the theme of
• 52:53
  Speaker 1: the day. You know, CNN is talking about how she
• 52:55
  Speaker 1: never really got to watch love stories with girls who
• 52:58
  Speaker 1: looked like her, and they kind of gave her in
• 53:02
  Speaker 1: one day, in one you know, segment of the show,
• 53:05
  Speaker 1: her own little love story, right absolutely. And I think that,
• 53:09
  Speaker 1: you know, I think that um, well, you know, it
• 53:12
  Speaker 1: can come across in so many different ways and and
• 53:14
  Speaker 1: uh and you know, I think that's the whole thing.
• 53:16
  Speaker 1: I think that, uh, you know, for her to be
• 53:18
  Speaker 1: able to have a love story. I think everyone has
• 53:20
  Speaker 1: a love story out there. And I think that if anything, um,
• 53:23
  Speaker 1: love is unpredictable and uh, and you never know exactly
• 53:27
  Speaker 1: one it's gonna happen, on how it's gonna happen. And hoptimately,
• 53:30
  Speaker 1: you know, long term, you know, true love I think
• 53:32
  Speaker 1: really takes work. But uh, you know, the beginning of
• 53:34
  Speaker 1: any great love story is uh, you know, you never
• 53:37
  Speaker 1: know who it can happen to, you when it can happen,
• 53:39
  Speaker 1: and it's you know, it's something that anyone, any anyone
• 53:42
  Speaker 1: could you can be right on the corner for anyone. Hey,
• 53:45
  Speaker 1: what's next for Lanca? What's next? Alanca? Well, we just
• 53:49
  Speaker 1: we actually just this past week and released our our
• 53:53
  Speaker 1: debut album called How We Unite Amazing again. Congratulations, thank
• 53:59
  Speaker 1: you very much. Um, greatest love stories on that. And
• 54:02
  Speaker 1: then we have a new single out we just leave.
• 54:04
  Speaker 1: Um it's called Born to Love You, which is another
• 54:07
  Speaker 1: song you know, it's kind of a stag way out
• 54:09
  Speaker 1: of Great Love Story. Um, it's a single off that album.
• 54:12
  Speaker 1: And then we're a we're tour and all this year,
• 54:13
  Speaker 1: you know, we're out on tour right now with an
• 54:15
  Speaker 1: art named Chris Young and then other arts named cam Brown.
• 54:18
  Speaker 1: And then wait this year we're going to on the
• 54:20
  Speaker 1: road with Dirk Stanley and brothers Osborn Coast to coast
• 54:26
  Speaker 1: playing a different arena. So it's gonna be a funny year.
• 54:29
  Speaker 1: You guys are killing it. We have one last question
• 54:31
  Speaker 1: for you before you go, Um, who should Ari pick?
• 54:35
  Speaker 1: You know, are you a big Bachelor fan? Did you
• 54:38
  Speaker 1: get to interact with him at all? Yeah? Yeah, no,
• 54:40
  Speaker 1: Uh yeah, we got to interact with a really Ari.
• 54:43
  Speaker 1: He was a you know, really nice guy, really cooled
• 54:45
  Speaker 1: down to earth. Um, I will say that we got
• 54:47
  Speaker 1: to interact like after we did our segment, after we
• 54:50
  Speaker 1: there were a song. We know, we were all kind
• 54:52
  Speaker 1: of a you know, after the crowd left everything they
• 54:54
  Speaker 1: were there and we were all kind of you know,
• 54:56
  Speaker 1: kind of the end of the night for everyone. Um,
• 54:58
  Speaker 1: I will say he was a little preoccupied. Uh, he
• 55:02
  Speaker 1: was still kind of on the state, but he was
• 55:04
  Speaker 1: really dumb and they were really nice. So I'll say this,
• 55:08
  Speaker 1: The one thing I know about love is that it's unpredictable,
• 55:11
  Speaker 1: So I'm not even gonna start to make any predictions. Alright, alright,
• 55:14
  Speaker 1: very smart man. Thanks for being with us, Brandon, absolutely
• 55:18
  Speaker 1: thanks for having me and for everyone listening. If you
• 55:20
  Speaker 1: want to ask Lanco any questions, they're going to be
• 55:23
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• 55:25
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• 55:28
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• 55:29
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• 55:31
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• 55:37
  Speaker 1: I am a huge fan of their music and I'm
• 55:39
  Speaker 1: really mean at that Greatest Love Story I think is
• 55:41
  Speaker 1: one of the best songs UH in the last year,
• 55:44
  Speaker 1: basically because such a relatable song and if you listen
• 55:47
  Speaker 1: to it, I always seem to get sucked up in
• 55:49
  Speaker 1: the story that it's telling. And so I'm a huge
• 55:51
  Speaker 1: Lanco fan and I mean that. And so hopefully Amy,
• 55:54
  Speaker 1: you can hook me up with some Lanco tickets this
• 55:55
  Speaker 1: year somewhere. Well she could have, but she walked out
• 55:58
  Speaker 1: of the room. I'm sure you'll end up seeing them. Um,
• 56:04
  Speaker 1: you know what I'm gonna wear when we go to
• 56:05
  Speaker 1: Atlanta concert. I have zero idea, actually, but I hope
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• 56:30
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• 58:06
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• 58:10
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• 58:14
  Speaker 1: Um this next segment, I need to hear you break
• 58:17
  Speaker 1: down this week's episode. Oh my goodness, gracious. Okay, So
• 58:21
  Speaker 1: in this episode, Ari went parasailing with Cenne. And you
• 58:27
  Speaker 1: know what's funny is I want parasailing with my best
• 58:29
  Speaker 1: friend once and parasailing with her even was awkward. Because
• 58:33
  Speaker 1: you've never heard silence the way you've heard it when
• 58:35
  Speaker 1: you're up in the sky like that. Have you have
• 58:37
  Speaker 1: you been to parasailing? Yeah, it's it's it's wild. Hey,
• 58:40
  Speaker 1: and I'm glad you mentioned this news started here. I
• 58:43
  Speaker 1: want you to explain this whole episode with Here is
• 58:46
  Speaker 1: my here's my big thought right now, coming out of before,
• 58:50
  Speaker 1: CN should be the next I like seeing a lot.
• 58:54
  Speaker 1: I think she's great. I think she fits so many
• 58:56
  Speaker 1: of the categories that could be could be a bachelor.
• 58:59
  Speaker 1: I feel like her as a lead would even shine
• 59:01
  Speaker 1: even more. I really, really, I believe that Tia and
• 59:05
  Speaker 1: CN are giving me the two most bachelor at vibes
• 59:08
  Speaker 1: right now. All right, well, hopefully we get to know
• 59:10
  Speaker 1: her more. But I got grade vibes from her from
• 59:13
  Speaker 1: this date. It was the first time we saw are
• 59:16
  Speaker 1: have a good sense of humor. This was what I'm
• 59:18
  Speaker 1: talking about. When he really seemed to start warming up
• 59:20
  Speaker 1: an episode four, he seemed really comfortable with her. It
• 59:23
  Speaker 1: was nice banter. It was fun banter, but also a
• 59:26
  Speaker 1: meaningful conversation. And then they had the land Code date.
• 59:31
  Speaker 1: They had a good dinner, very vulnerable conversation, and uh,
• 59:36
  Speaker 1: I just like her. She's like relatable, she's pretty, she
• 59:39
  Speaker 1: seems really smart, she is really smart. She's from Yale
• 59:41
  Speaker 1: or is she the yell girl? Yeah? So yeah, yeah
• 59:47
  Speaker 1: it was yeah so then are The group date was
• 59:50
  Speaker 1: like one of those adventure dates where they almost they
• 59:53
  Speaker 1: almost drink their pee, which I honestly, I have to say,
• 59:58
  Speaker 1: I probably would have drank my pea if it was
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 1: going to really get his. I know they didn't actually
• 1:00:03
  Speaker 1: drink me, but at first he was like, this is
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 1: part of survival. You have to drink your own pea.
• 1:00:09
  Speaker 1: And I think I would have done it if I
• 1:00:10
  Speaker 1: were on the Bachelor, because you never know what they're
• 1:00:13
  Speaker 1: going to judge you for, you know how. Sometimes they're like, oh,
• 1:00:15
  Speaker 1: she was an adventurous to drink her own pea, so
• 1:00:17
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna eliminate her. It's the weirdest thing ever. I
• 1:00:21
  Speaker 1: think it's the grossest thing I've ever seen. I really
• 1:00:23
  Speaker 1: thought she was going to I was gonna be so
• 1:00:25
  Speaker 1: upset with that's so funny. I would intentionally not drink
• 1:00:29
  Speaker 1: my pea to be judged as the only smart one there.
• 1:00:33
  Speaker 1: I don't think it's okay. I know you can drink
• 1:00:35
  Speaker 1: your pa and that doesn't alright, alright, they they looked
• 1:00:40
  Speaker 1: crazy when they were about to drink it. I was like,
• 1:00:42
  Speaker 1: why is this happening? So I wonder how long that
• 1:00:46
  Speaker 1: hike was that they had to go on before finding
• 1:00:48
  Speaker 1: that nice little cabin with the hot tub. Beautiful. It's
• 1:00:53
  Speaker 1: very nice, but also definitely the makings of a horror movie.
• 1:00:56
  Speaker 1: Am I right? A whole bunch of bachelorettes walking around
• 1:01:03
  Speaker 1: and he's in Tahoe And it's not like they were
• 1:01:06
  Speaker 1: in the wild tun dry. It was probably like a
• 1:01:08
  Speaker 1: quarter mile and people everywhere, I know. So then Crystal
• 1:01:12
  Speaker 1: was dramatic at that group date, which you know where
• 1:01:15
  Speaker 1: they were literally remember when we went to the concert, Yes,
• 1:01:18
  Speaker 1: that's where they were. They were literally right there. Really,
• 1:01:22
  Speaker 1: so they didn't go adventure much. I mean they did,
• 1:01:24
  Speaker 1: but like it's all right there. They just went across
• 1:01:26
  Speaker 1: the street up into the you know, ski hill of
• 1:01:29
  Speaker 1: Heavenly Probably that's funny, right, They're like right there. And
• 1:01:33
  Speaker 1: then the second, the second one on one was with
• 1:01:35
  Speaker 1: Becca and again I really think she's cool girl, Like
• 1:01:39
  Speaker 1: she's really cool, Like I kind of have a girl
• 1:01:41
  Speaker 1: crush on her. I wish I could be so sassy
• 1:01:43
  Speaker 1: and just like feisty and smart and challenging like that.
• 1:01:47
  Speaker 1: Everything that Becca is is the kind of thing that
• 1:01:50
  Speaker 1: we get described as the ideal woman for a guy.
• 1:01:54
  Speaker 1: Like guys, guys love that, right, Ben, Well, I'm very checked.
• 1:01:59
  Speaker 1: I told you since we one, I thought Becca's banter
• 1:02:01
  Speaker 1: was very very attractive. Yeah. Then she revealed her age
• 1:02:06
  Speaker 1: and which Ari I loved. Aria's reaction, like we talked
• 1:02:08
  Speaker 1: about before, it was so authentic. He was like, oh wait,
• 1:02:11
  Speaker 1: that's creepy. Oh god, oh no, you're not ready to
• 1:02:13
  Speaker 1: get married. And I know that this has been something
• 1:02:16
  Speaker 1: that we've talked about so much on the Almost Same
• 1:02:17
  Speaker 1: As podcast about age and marriage, and everybody is like, oh,
• 1:02:22
  Speaker 1: you know, you can be ready at any time. Some
• 1:02:24
  Speaker 1: people already at twenty two, some people aren't ready until
• 1:02:26
  Speaker 1: thirty two. What do you what do you think about
• 1:02:29
  Speaker 1: Becca's age? Do you think it's creepy for him to
• 1:02:31
  Speaker 1: be dating a twenty two year old or you just like, no,
• 1:02:33
  Speaker 1: she's actually worry more mature than your average twenty two
• 1:02:36
  Speaker 1: year old. Actually, I feel very strongly about this. The
• 1:02:40
  Speaker 1: way she carries herself, the way she puts our in
• 1:02:43
  Speaker 1: his place, her confidence that she showed tells me that
• 1:02:47
  Speaker 1: she is ready um to today are to be with
• 1:02:51
  Speaker 1: Ari or to be with a man that is intentionally
• 1:02:53
  Speaker 1: trying to get married. I have zero qualms with Becca
• 1:02:56
  Speaker 1: being interested or or claiming that she's ready for Mary.
• 1:03:00
  Speaker 1: I think her age isn't an issue. I think she's
• 1:03:02
  Speaker 1: she's wise beyond her years, and she's the first person,
• 1:03:07
  Speaker 1: first woman on the show, to really put Ari in
• 1:03:10
  Speaker 1: his place, and she's done it consistently, and I think
• 1:03:12
  Speaker 1: that's important in a relationship. So I am a big
• 1:03:16
  Speaker 1: thing of Becca and are together. I just need to
• 1:03:18
  Speaker 1: throw out there that twenty two I also said I
• 1:03:20
  Speaker 1: was ready to get married and I wasn't. Well, now,
• 1:03:23
  Speaker 1: looking back, I wasn't, but I totally thought I was.
• 1:03:25
  Speaker 1: Then well, Becca, is not you actually? Okay? I know,
• 1:03:30
  Speaker 1: but we're you ready to get married? At twenty two?
• 1:03:31
  Speaker 1: You probably said the same thing. You probably were like, oh, yeah,
• 1:03:34
  Speaker 1: I am. And then you probably you're twenty six, so
• 1:03:40
  Speaker 1: let's not be dramatic. You oh my god, you were
• 1:03:46
  Speaker 1: twenty four going out? No, you were twenty six is
• 1:03:49
  Speaker 1: the bachelor? You're twenty six is the bachelor? But you were?
• 1:03:55
  Speaker 1: I know, I know you're right. You did. You turned
• 1:03:57
  Speaker 1: it on the Bachelorette. Okay, little baby Ben look so young.
• 1:04:06
  Speaker 1: M all right, well that's interesting and uh oh yeah,
• 1:04:10
  Speaker 1: but you know what, Becca's family, she comes from a
• 1:04:12
  Speaker 1: family of people who have been married really early on,
• 1:04:16
  Speaker 1: so it's just tradition. And maybe she truly is ready
• 1:04:19
  Speaker 1: because it seems like successful marriages too. I mean, I
• 1:04:21
  Speaker 1: think this is the thing. And and this whole episode
• 1:04:23
  Speaker 1: to me actually said one thing. It was kind of
• 1:04:27
  Speaker 1: setting the foundation for the storyline going into the rest
• 1:04:30
  Speaker 1: of the of the season. It's, hey, Becca is young.
• 1:04:33
  Speaker 1: Is she going to be ready for marriage or not?
• 1:04:34
  Speaker 1: Is there going to be an issue there because we
• 1:04:36
  Speaker 1: know how much ris into her. The other story is
• 1:04:39
  Speaker 1: with Crystal. I think was set up was what in
• 1:04:41
  Speaker 1: the heck is she doing? Who is she? Is? She?
• 1:04:45
  Speaker 1: Is she spot on in her pursuit of Ari? Is
• 1:04:47
  Speaker 1: she confused? Is she going to rub the girls the
• 1:04:50
  Speaker 1: wrong way? And I think for me, this episode really
• 1:04:53
  Speaker 1: was the first one that I said, Okay, I'm getting
• 1:04:55
  Speaker 1: into it. I didn't want this episode to stop because
• 1:04:58
  Speaker 1: I was so invested in. I liked it too, I
• 1:05:01
  Speaker 1: felt that really good. I really enjoyed this episode. I
• 1:05:04
  Speaker 1: really just enjoyed Ari in this episode, and I know
• 1:05:06
  Speaker 1: people are gonna be like, oh, I was just saying,
• 1:05:08
  Speaker 1: because ours on the podcast today. I know I'm going
• 1:05:11
  Speaker 1: to get that deep, but you know what I mean
• 1:05:14
  Speaker 1: it and you can go. And I wish I would
• 1:05:17
  Speaker 1: have seen this episode and I had old notes so
• 1:05:20
  Speaker 1: I could show you, guys, I like Ari in this
• 1:05:22
  Speaker 1: episode before I knew he was gonna be on our podcast.
• 1:05:24
  Speaker 1: But I know you guys don't believe me, So okay,
• 1:05:28
  Speaker 1: moving on to something else that I really like. Yeah,
• 1:05:32
  Speaker 1: moving on to yeah, okay. I'm really obsessed though with
• 1:05:38
  Speaker 1: Ari in his choice of people to go home this week.
• 1:05:40
  Speaker 1: He again, I'm not kidding you. Actually he chose two
• 1:05:44
  Speaker 1: of my top four favorite people it's left to send home.
• 1:05:48
  Speaker 1: He's done that every week. You and Arid do not
• 1:05:51
  Speaker 1: have the same taste, not at all. I mean, I
• 1:05:54
  Speaker 1: like I said, I I think he is great. She
• 1:05:57
  Speaker 1: has a foul mouth on the on the young lady,
• 1:06:00
  Speaker 1: she believes back and right um she and I think
• 1:06:04
  Speaker 1: is unbelievable. I think she is radiating bachelor or radiating
• 1:06:08
  Speaker 1: Ari's choice. I don't know, but I think she's awesome.
• 1:06:11
  Speaker 1: But outside of those two, like two other favorites, guys,
• 1:06:14
  Speaker 1: at home, Harry and I are not on the same
• 1:06:16
  Speaker 1: page here. Well, you could always date his rejects. Pause, Ashley,
• 1:06:21
  Speaker 1: Let's let's refocus this. Do you do like that girl?
• 1:06:27
  Speaker 1: Let's let's refocus back. Let's have her on next week.
• 1:06:31
  Speaker 1: Let's read. Actually, let's let's finish this nice little recap episode.
• 1:06:36
  Speaker 1: All right, let me get this straight. You like Ari,
• 1:06:38
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  Speaker 1: think his like responses are really really get like weak,
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  Speaker 1: time for two emails? All right? Two emails Okay, which
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  Speaker 1: don't want to dive into dr Ben today. We don't
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  Speaker 1: have enough time for that. From Sierra Hi, Ashley and Ben.
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  Speaker 1: On last week's episode, they took a private jet to
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  Speaker 1: Wine Country for their date and the girl got sent home.
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  Speaker 1: We see Ari put her in a limo, but let's
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  Speaker 1: be real. Are they going to put both of them
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  Speaker 1: on separate private jets back to l A or does
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  Speaker 1: she have to hop on a Southwest flight or do
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  Speaker 1: they have to fly back on the same jet together
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  Speaker 1: after he demped her and the whole limo thing was
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  Speaker 1: just a formality awkward. I'd love to know your thoughts.
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  Speaker 1: Keep up the great work, and Sierra, thank you applause
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  Speaker 1: for reading. All right, Well, in my experience and Becca's
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  Speaker 1: are here, you can reaffirm this um. When Julian got
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  Speaker 1: Jillian had a plane date to San Francisco and then
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  Speaker 1: I don't even know if she had packed her stuff up,
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  Speaker 1: but what she do? She stayed overnight in San Francisco.
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  Speaker 1: I remember that she had a really fancy hotel in
• 1:10:27
  Speaker 1: San Francisco. After being dumb by crystals and then did
• 1:10:30
  Speaker 1: she fly back to l A to get her stuff
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  Speaker 1: and then fly back to d C. Well, I don't
• 1:10:36
  Speaker 1: time out, time out. Who's there? Becca? Becca? Becca? Okay? Yes,
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  Speaker 1: so we do need to clarify. How do you feel
• 1:10:45
  Speaker 1: how do you feel want people stealing your name on
• 1:10:47
  Speaker 1: this show? Yeah, this is the first time there's been
• 1:10:49
  Speaker 1: not only one Becca, but too many. There's been Ashley too,
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  Speaker 1: But I have no idea who she is. She's yeah,
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  Speaker 1: but I feel like Ashley's like a like a good
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  Speaker 1: common bachelors like Lauren. Yeah, you guys, I'm sorry interrupt.
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  Speaker 1: Nothing was funnier than on Saturday Night Live when they said,
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  Speaker 1: and he's going to pick from one of twelve laurens. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: so what is the plane situation? I feel like they
• 1:11:13
  Speaker 1: do need to come back to l A. You have
• 1:11:16
  Speaker 1: to pack your bags before you go on to one
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  Speaker 1: on one day? So that did she though I thought
• 1:11:19
  Speaker 1: we had to pack up bags from an inside source
• 1:11:22
  Speaker 1: that Lauren s that that suitcase was a fake. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: that was a fake. Yeah, yeah, I mean I kind
• 1:11:28
  Speaker 1: of remember everyone frantically trying to help we get and
• 1:11:32
  Speaker 1: then we like put goodbye notes and in the pockets
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  Speaker 1: of everyone likes. It's a really emotional process when someone
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  Speaker 1: leaves on one on one day. Yeah. So anyway, I
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  Speaker 1: think to answer your question, they do have to come
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  Speaker 1: back to l A eventually, and I do think they
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  Speaker 1: have to debrief. You know, there's a lot to debrief
• 1:11:47
  Speaker 1: after you get eliminated. Well, there's you talked to the
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  Speaker 1: therapist exactly where I was going to say, except I
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  Speaker 1: wasn't sure if I was allowed to say it. Oh
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  Speaker 1: I can't, but I've done. Wait, but Ben, did if
• 1:12:02
  Speaker 1: you dump someone on a one did you? Did? You? Did?
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  Speaker 1: You never dumped dumped Emily Ferguson, Oh, that's right, I did. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it works. Uh, they do not fly back to l A.
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  Speaker 1: They fly back their home. No, they get a flight out,
• 1:12:19
  Speaker 1: they fly back home. Um so no, not every single
• 1:12:23
  Speaker 1: contestant goes back to l A after being eliminated. All right,
• 1:12:27
  Speaker 1: this one's from Megan. Can we please talk about how
• 1:12:30
  Speaker 1: are was eating on his date with Lauren s. I
• 1:12:32
  Speaker 1: have never seen anyone eat on The Bachelor, and I
• 1:12:35
  Speaker 1: think you could see the awkwardness in conversation because he
• 1:12:38
  Speaker 1: was eating. Do you guys usually eat food or just
• 1:12:40
  Speaker 1: stare at and starve. Thanks Megan from Utah. Okay. So
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  Speaker 1: in my in my experience, I actually enjoy eating on dates.
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  Speaker 1: I think it makes it seem normal. They of course
• 1:12:51
  Speaker 1: included it on my date with Wells where we eat
• 1:12:53
  Speaker 1: tacos and like that was part of our date, was
• 1:12:55
  Speaker 1: the fact that we both love tacos and it was
• 1:12:57
  Speaker 1: just cute. It was really cute. But normally I like
• 1:13:02
  Speaker 1: to eat on dates because it makes me feel that
• 1:13:04
  Speaker 1: they discourage you, because they do discourage. They totally do discourage.
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  Speaker 1: But I'm like, no, screw that. I do not sit
• 1:13:10
  Speaker 1: in front of food without eating it, but especially free food.
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  Speaker 1: But I couldn't tell with Ari and Lauren s as
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  Speaker 1: if it was chopped together a little bit, where maybe
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  Speaker 1: I thought that too amy, But then I really watched
• 1:13:22
  Speaker 1: closely and there's a there's an actual image of her
• 1:13:24
  Speaker 1: sitting right next to him as he's going for a
• 1:13:26
  Speaker 1: plate of steak. Yeah, which it's fine, and I think
• 1:13:29
  Speaker 1: it happens more often than you guys would think, and
• 1:13:33
  Speaker 1: they do feed us very very well. Did you how
• 1:13:35
  Speaker 1: much weight did you gain on the show? Both of you, guys?
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  Speaker 1: I mean, well, I on Christmas season. I actually when
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  Speaker 1: I got home. My family was like, wow, you look
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  Speaker 1: so thin because I think, honjously, I was stressed about
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  Speaker 1: the situation, but I hadn't stopped eating. I think my
• 1:13:48
  Speaker 1: body was just like burning it because I was stressed. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: I gained four pounds, which is nothing. Four pounds of
• 1:13:53
  Speaker 1: over four weeks. But you know you're still eating. You're
• 1:13:57
  Speaker 1: still eating a lot us thinking and then Ben, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I mean I lost thirty pounds. We had you had
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  Speaker 1: a problem because the show. Yeah, I mean I can't
• 1:14:12
  Speaker 1: really I lost thirty Did you ever eat on dates? Yeah?
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  Speaker 1: But but the food sits out for like an hour
• 1:14:25
  Speaker 1: and a half before you get there, so it's disgusting,
• 1:14:27
  Speaker 1: like if you have a lobster sitting in front of you.
• 1:14:30
  Speaker 1: First off, shellfish, I couldn't eat anything that would be
• 1:14:33
  Speaker 1: a good date experience are you having? But literally the
• 1:14:37
  Speaker 1: food sits out for so long that it's a select
• 1:14:39
  Speaker 1: few things that you can actually eat. I'm impressed that
• 1:14:42
  Speaker 1: he ate on camera. I had a lot of tweets
• 1:14:44
  Speaker 1: and text from my friends going why is are we eating?
• 1:14:47
  Speaker 1: You told us, but the food was always cold. It
• 1:14:50
  Speaker 1: is cold. So for me, if there's free food in
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  Speaker 1: front of me, I'll eat it regardless of the situation.
• 1:14:55
  Speaker 1: They gave me like French fries and chicken tenders and
• 1:15:00
  Speaker 1: stuff in the hotel before I'd gone the date, so
• 1:15:01
  Speaker 1: they knew that I was like cool and wasn't gonna eat.
• 1:15:04
  Speaker 1: But on my one on one date with Been, we
• 1:15:06
  Speaker 1: didn't have food. He didn't supply the food cold or hot. Nothing,
• 1:15:10
  Speaker 1: he didn't he didn't surprise your food cheese. Having so
• 1:15:15
  Speaker 1: much fun that what we had no time to eat, Becca,
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  Speaker 1: So I thought that we would cut out the food
• 1:15:21
  Speaker 1: part and we just have to continue to have the
• 1:15:24
  Speaker 1: good time that we were having. There was alcohol, though,
• 1:15:27
  Speaker 1: there's definitely. You know, one of my first memories of
• 1:15:30
  Speaker 1: Becca outside of the of the show, we're in the
• 1:15:33
  Speaker 1: airport in Mexico City and we got delayed and the
• 1:15:36
  Speaker 1: women that were left and myself having to run into
• 1:15:39
  Speaker 1: each other at the airport and Becca has I'm not kidding,
• 1:15:42
  Speaker 1: like cheetos with Skittles and a doctor pepper and she's
• 1:15:46
  Speaker 1: eating it all at once. This was her snack. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I think I think that then I need to have
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  Speaker 1: and how it's becoming such a problem as we're both
• 1:16:00
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  Speaker 1: I noticed a stretch, but I just want to confirm
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