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You Have Success. So Why Are You Still Unhappy? | Melissa Marina [Ep 88] · Glovisor Podcast

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  Speaker 1: Every soul has a unique blueprint, a purpose, and a
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  Speaker 1: way that you're destined to succeed. It's like your soul
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  Speaker 1: has its own job description.
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  Speaker 2: Welcome to the Glowvisor podcast, where we explore business growth, communication,
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  Speaker 2: and personal development through real conversations with people who make
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  Speaker 2: an impact. Our guest is an international speaker, intuitive mentor,
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  Speaker 2: and subconscious mindset expert who helps high-achieving leaders unlock the
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  Speaker 2: life they're destined for. Glowvisor welcomes Melissa Marina.
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  Speaker 1: Hi, thanks for having me. I'm really excited to be
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  Speaker 1: part of this conversation today.
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  Speaker 2: You're welcome. Looking forward to it. All right, Melissa, so
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  Speaker 2: let's start it off. Tell us a little bit more.
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  Speaker 2: Who do you help and what is it that you do?
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  Speaker 1: So I help the affluent, successful person who has achieved
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  Speaker 1: the accolades. They've achieved a great amount of success. They're
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  Speaker 1: no longer happy with their life. It's like they've outgrown
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  Speaker 1: a chapter. This new thing is emerging. They can't quite
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  Speaker 1: see where they're being pulled. They're clear that they've got
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  Speaker 1: a purpose, right? And they've made a good living. They've
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  Speaker 1: got the home, the kids, the family, everything looks right,
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  Speaker 1: but it like no longer fits, right? They've outgrown this.
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  Speaker 1: And sometimes putting ourselves out there and starting again, it
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  Speaker 1: can be daunting, right? They feel like if they try,
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  Speaker 1: they could start over. They could be a failure. People
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  Speaker 1: might see them flop, right? And they also have a
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  Speaker 1: mortgage and other responsibilities. There's people counting on them. I
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  Speaker 1: help them to decode what their dissatisfaction and their emptiness
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  Speaker 1: is trying to tell them. and help them to redefine
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  Speaker 1: their next chapter in alignment with what they actually want,
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  Speaker 1: not what they've been taught, you know, from mentors, right?
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  Speaker 1: Or relationships, things that they've been sold that they should want.
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  Speaker 1: And it goes through sort of a life reinvention process
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  Speaker 1: that I call my destiny alignment blueprint. So we basically
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  Speaker 1: strip away all of the lies that you're carrying, everything
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  Speaker 1: that you thought you had to be to be successful,
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  Speaker 1: to get love, to get into a relationship. And any
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  Speaker 1: of those distortions or masks, right, that limit what you
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  Speaker 1: can create, When it comes to redefining life on your
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  Speaker 1: terms and also creating the most prosperous, fulfilling chapter in
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  Speaker 1: a way that actually gets you out of bed every
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  Speaker 1: day where you're just so excited to get to it.
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  Speaker 1: And it's no longer a life that you have to
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  Speaker 1: escape from or vacation from.
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  Speaker 2: That sounds like it would take a lifetime to go
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  Speaker 2: through all of that. It can be. Yeah, I guess so.
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  Speaker 2: So now tell me a little bit more about that.
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  Speaker 2: I'm having some issues. Especially, you know, what really baffles
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  Speaker 2: me the most is those individuals that really don't know
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  Speaker 2: what they want or need. So how do you decipher that?
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  Speaker 2: How do you help them clarify that for them?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, so a lot of people get stuck with the
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  Speaker 1: concept that it should take a lot of time, right?
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  Speaker 1: We think that this level of transformation, if we're doing
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  Speaker 1: like a makeover on our life, on our business, our career, right,
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  Speaker 1: we think that that takes a lot of time. And
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  Speaker 1: if you use certain things like traditional talk therapy, right,
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  Speaker 1: or the slow way, for sure it will. My clients
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  Speaker 1: typically describe my My gift to my program, sort of
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  Speaker 1: like an ayahuasca level rebirth, right? Without the plant medicine,
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  Speaker 1: we don't need to go to the Amazon to, you know,
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  Speaker 1: kumbaya in the jungle. But it is that level of
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  Speaker 1: rapid acceleration, rapid transformation that can actually nip our deepest
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  Speaker 1: core patterns, our most limiting beliefs, the things that we
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  Speaker 1: just like can't seem to get past away in 45
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  Speaker 1: minutes or less. And this is where things become really
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  Speaker 1: fun because every soul has a unique blueprint, a purpose,
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  Speaker 1: and a way that you're destined to succeed. It's like
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  Speaker 1: your soul has its own job description. And when we
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  Speaker 1: try to fit ourselves into other people's job descriptions or something,
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  Speaker 1: it can work for a while. But then we get
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  Speaker 1: to like this inevitable plateau where it's just like, oh
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  Speaker 1: my God, this again, like I'm still not fulfilled. I'm
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  Speaker 1: still kind of empty. I'm still seeking the next Amazon
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  Speaker 1: purchase or the next vacation home to try and make
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  Speaker 1: me feel something. but I don't actually feel like I'm
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  Speaker 1: just in my joy, in my happiness or like excited
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  Speaker 1: to get out of bed every day. And what we
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  Speaker 1: do is we take a look at all of the
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  Speaker 1: things that you've been trying to force yourself into being.
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  Speaker 1: This is where a lot of burnout comes to high
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  Speaker 1: achievers because it takes a lot of energy to play
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  Speaker 1: a facade, to be someone you're not, to expend your
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  Speaker 1: energy trying to force yourself to do something that you
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  Speaker 1: don't actually want to do anymore. And once we clear
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  Speaker 1: away all of the heaviness and all of the lies
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  Speaker 1: and the past patterns and past commitments you've made, Then
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  Speaker 1: we actually return to who you were underneath it all.
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  Speaker 1: And people kind of describe it as, oh, oh my God,
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  Speaker 1: of course, that's my purpose. Of course, that's my next chapter.
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  Speaker 1: That makes so much sense because it's not actually foreign.
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  Speaker 1: It's just so deeply buried under all the performance that
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  Speaker 1: you can't access it.
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  Speaker 2: Is there something that you can share with us that
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  Speaker 2: would allow us to know whether we're living in the
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  Speaker 2: good versus the great? Once we're there, And we recognize it.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe we can make a different choice and live in
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  Speaker 2: the great.
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  Speaker 1: The funny thing, and we were talking about this just
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  Speaker 1: before we hopped on a little bit about, you know,
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  Speaker 1: moments in life where people start to drift, right? They
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  Speaker 1: hit a certain number or they get close to that
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  Speaker 1: thing that they've been working for. And then what happens?
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  Speaker 1: Their foot kind of just goes off the brake, right?
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  Speaker 1: And unfortunately for us, our subconscious mind, which is, it's
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  Speaker 1: very primitive. Its job is to keep us safe. It's
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  Speaker 1: to protect us from harm, to keep us alive. This
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  Speaker 1: is why cavemen learn not to eat the poisonous mushroom
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  Speaker 1: after they saw, right? Like the person who was the
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  Speaker 1: first one to learn that that's not a great idea.
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  Speaker 1: And we start to make things important, right? But the
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  Speaker 1: problem is it's wired for familiarity. It repeats what it's
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  Speaker 1: known because that's how we know how to move around.
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  Speaker 1: We know how to stop at a stoplight instead of
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  Speaker 1: just plowing through. When it comes to making changes in
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  Speaker 1: our life, it can feel a little bit uncomfortable because
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  Speaker 1: it actually contradicts our wiring of like what got us here.
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  Speaker 1: But what gets you here will not get you to
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  Speaker 1: your next level, right? And this is where a lot
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  Speaker 1: of people, they spend years, again, kind of just going coasting,
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  Speaker 1: like life's pretty good, right? But they're not actually in
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  Speaker 1: their zone of excellence. And we sometimes also have sort
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  Speaker 1: of a thermostat setting. It's like an upper limit problem
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  Speaker 1: for how much love, how much success, how much happiness.
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  Speaker 1: we have decided that we're worthy of or what is
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  Speaker 1: familiar to us. I might have a happiness thermometer, right?
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  Speaker 1: Based on my life and how I've seen my parents
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  Speaker 1: grow up, if they were happy people or not, I can,
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  Speaker 1: you know, have, let's say like a zero to 10 setting, right?
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  Speaker 1: And I will live myself at this limit. If I
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  Speaker 1: create experiences beyond that, like a peak performance experience or
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  Speaker 1: somewhere where I'm just in my zone of genius, good
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  Speaker 1: luck is happening. Sometimes we can find ways to bring
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  Speaker 1: ourselves down to the familiar setting if we don't know
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  Speaker 1: what to look for and remove when it comes to
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  Speaker 1: our own mindset or the underlying rules about why that
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  Speaker 1: makes us belong to our tribe or other people who
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  Speaker 1: are also a little bit limited.
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  Speaker 2: Well, that's interesting. Could it be someone out there right
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  Speaker 2: now be thinking, I'm too smart for the tribe that
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  Speaker 2: I'm with? And maybe I should slow down in my
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  Speaker 2: success or slow down in the way that I speak
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  Speaker 2: or just to fit in to where I am.
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  Speaker 1: We see this so much like our number one most
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  Speaker 1: fundamental underlying need besides oxygen and water is the need
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  Speaker 1: to belong. Everything that we do unconsciously, it's the sports
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  Speaker 1: car that you drive because you want to look sexy
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  Speaker 1: for the girl, right? It's the way that you try
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  Speaker 1: to wear certain kinds of clothes. It's the way that
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  Speaker 1: you maybe even join a coaching program or mastermind because
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  Speaker 1: they're living their life and you think they're really cool
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  Speaker 1: and you want to be like that. Sometimes it can
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  Speaker 1: also take us away from our goals because we think
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  Speaker 1: that if we get too successful, too rich, too sexy,
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  Speaker 1: then something's going to fall away. We're not going to
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  Speaker 1: resonate with them and we can unconsciously keep ourselves stuck.
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  Speaker 1: And what I would say is, you know, being aware
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  Speaker 1: that maybe the old friend circle or the old business
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  Speaker 1: group has outgrown you, sorry, not outgrown you, you've outgrown them,
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  Speaker 1: is part of the problem, right? It's half of the problem.
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  Speaker 1: But then we need to make a choice to either
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  Speaker 1: seek people who are on a growth trajectory, because it's
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  Speaker 1: the sum of who we spend our time with, right?
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  Speaker 1: We're the average of about the five people that we
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  Speaker 1: hang out with. And if people are not congruent or
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  Speaker 1: they are constantly doubting our bigger goals, we're going to
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  Speaker 1: keep playing small. We're going to just, you know, silence ourselves.
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  Speaker 1: We're going to swallow the cool ideas that we want
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  Speaker 1: to share. And sometimes we need people who are also
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  Speaker 1: aligned on a growth trajectory in order to be able
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  Speaker 1: to hit those next levels because they start to normalize it.
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  Speaker 1: You surround yourself in a room where you don't quite yet,
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  Speaker 1: you know, maybe hit that level of success and you
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  Speaker 1: start to see all these people, you know, where you
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  Speaker 1: want to be and it suddenly becomes normalized, right? And
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  Speaker 1: this is where the fastest growth can happen, but we
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  Speaker 1: do need to be able to surrender people that are
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  Speaker 1: just not willing to go where you're at. One of
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  Speaker 1: the biggest things I say to myself and my coaching
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  Speaker 1: clients all the time is we never take advice from
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  Speaker 1: someone who's not living the life that we want.
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  Speaker 2: That's a good point. Now, I think one of the
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  Speaker 2: things that I've heard multiple times is if you're comfortable
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  Speaker 2: in the room that you're in, you're in the wrong room.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. You're probably doing a familiar thing of take like
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  Speaker 1: the eldest daughter syndrome, right? So she's The eldest daughter
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  Speaker 1: is responsible for all the people around her, right? So
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  Speaker 1: it's a very familiar place to be the one who's
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  Speaker 1: the smartest. Our ego loves that. We feel like we're
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  Speaker 1: being valuable, but we're limiting our own growth by being
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  Speaker 1: the one who's the smartest person in the room versus
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  Speaker 1: knowing when to contribute to people to help raise them
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  Speaker 1: up versus also allowing ourselves to be stretched with other
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  Speaker 1: people who make it look easy and maybe even shine
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  Speaker 1: a light on the places that we are playing small.
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  Speaker 2: Now, you just mentioned birth order. Earlier, you talked about
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  Speaker 2: the soul. So it seems like there are many different
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  Speaker 2: elements within your process. How do you decipher all of
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  Speaker 2: this and how do you put it all together to
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  Speaker 2: help someone?
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  Speaker 1: It's a very custom process. So I'm an intuitive channel.
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  Speaker 1: I'm clairvoyant, clairaudient. I can see things that people have
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  Speaker 1: never spoken out loud, right? I always work with permission.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not reading people just for fun on the street.
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  Speaker 1: It's in sessions where they've consented to open up. and
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  Speaker 1: have things illuminated. And I can piece together the time
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  Speaker 1: where you started a people pleasing pattern, right? Where the
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  Speaker 1: nice guy pattern emerged, Maybe it started early off in
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  Speaker 1: your childhood. You realize that in order to keep your mom,
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  Speaker 1: you know, from crying because dad was stressful, you always
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  Speaker 1: had to appease her. Sometimes it can originate way down
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  Speaker 1: in the ancestry and it didn't even begin with you.
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  Speaker 1: It wasn't even your pattern. It's just something that you
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  Speaker 1: inherited because you grew up around people who were operating
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  Speaker 1: a certain way. So it's very bespoke work, but it
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  Speaker 1: basically comes down to an understanding that we have our
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  Speaker 1: own patterns, things that, you know, I have my gifts
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  Speaker 1: and I also have my limitations, right? Then there's other
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  Speaker 1: things that I'm carrying that are actually not part of
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  Speaker 1: who I am, that I've sort of unconsciously inherited. Things like, say,
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  Speaker 1: my great-grandmother's pattern with men right this wasn't actually something
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  Speaker 1: that is my own doing this is something that was
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  Speaker 1: epigenetically um you know like it was how do i
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  Speaker 1: word this um i'm trying to use everyday language there
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  Speaker 1: was a pattern that stores in the dna when the
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  Speaker 1: subconscious notices there is a threat and what our body
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  Speaker 1: does is it crystallizes this information and we can also
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  Speaker 1: pass it through to our children and And if we're
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  Speaker 1: not aware of it, this is why we can see
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  Speaker 1: certain family line cycles and the drama loops happen over
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  Speaker 1: and over and over again. But many people right now
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  Speaker 1: who are being born are these kinds of cycle breakers.
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  Speaker 1: They kind of disrupt the family status quo. They're the
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  Speaker 1: ones that think differently. They may be the black sheep
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  Speaker 1: in the family. These are the people that I help
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  Speaker 1: work with because they're here to actually put a stop
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  Speaker 1: to the stuff that's been going in circles for eons.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, so that black sheep in the family might be
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  Speaker 2: the one who's just putting an end to that process?
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  Speaker 1: They're the ones that are the questioners. They're like, why
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  Speaker 1: do we always talk about money this way? Why, you know,
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  Speaker 1: why is it that work has to be so stressful?
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  Speaker 1: And it's also why people go into business for themselves.
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  Speaker 1: A lot of entrepreneurs are the curious ones, the ones
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  Speaker 1: who have like maybe the ADHD kind of traits where
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  Speaker 1: we're a little high strung, but we're constantly like not
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  Speaker 1: following the rules because we're like, no, that's there's a
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  Speaker 1: better way. That's that's the gift of entrepreneurship and innovation. Right.
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  Speaker 1: So it's typically those change makers. Whether you're breaking cycles
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  Speaker 1: or you're just somebody who sees a better tomorrow or
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  Speaker 1: faster ways of doing things, these are the people I.
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  Speaker 2: Love to serve. Now, you talked about your gifts earlier,
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  Speaker 2: and I want to know a little bit more about that.
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  Speaker 2: And when did you recognize that you had those gifts?
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  Speaker 1: I've had these gifts all my life, and there's been
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  Speaker 1: moments where in my childhood I can just clearly think
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  Speaker 1: back to moments where I've been able to see things
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  Speaker 1: and just know things that I had no business knowing.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't have words for them at this time. And unfortunately,
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  Speaker 1: with the school system and just covering it up, it
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  Speaker 1: kind of went away for a long period. Then I
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  Speaker 1: came into in 2019, I had a big life shattering.
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  Speaker 1: I fled domestic violence. I went through a life altering
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  Speaker 1: moment leaving behind my family belongings, my home, a board
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  Speaker 1: level position, like everything was just upside down. And they
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  Speaker 1: started coming back and I started receiving these pieces of
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  Speaker 1: guidance and just hearing things that would set me up
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  Speaker 1: with knowing exactly what conversation to have in each next moment.
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  Speaker 1: I knew it wasn't coming from me. There was moments
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  Speaker 1: where I was driving home, gosh, on Christmas morning to
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  Speaker 1: visit our in-laws and I heard, check your daughter's seatbelt.
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  Speaker 1: And I look back and my 10-year-old, who always wears
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  Speaker 1: her seatbelt, just forgot to wear it. We were in
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  Speaker 1: the middle of the highway going 120. And certain things
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  Speaker 1: like that just happened more and more and more. And
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  Speaker 1: The funny thing is, it's kind of like giving a
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  Speaker 1: baby these like abilities, like giving them a remote without
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  Speaker 1: any instruction. So I went through a deep process of
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  Speaker 1: trying to figure out what this all meant, why it
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  Speaker 1: was happening and how to use them. And thankfully, after
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  Speaker 1: a lot of training, a lot of investing in myself
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  Speaker 1: and a lot of mentorship, we've gotten to a place
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  Speaker 1: where there's a spiritual mastery of being able to communicate
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  Speaker 1: with both worlds and knowing exactly how to ground it
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  Speaker 1: into everyday language. And that's typically where a lot of healers,
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  Speaker 1: they have this Love and light, follow your heart, and
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  Speaker 1: we can actually ground it into real life. Okay, no,
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  Speaker 1: you need to set a boundary with your mom, mother-in-law,
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  Speaker 1: and much more practical sort of lensing.
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  Speaker 2: You've had this your whole life. Would you be able
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  Speaker 2: to share with us maybe an example of someone that
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  Speaker 2: you've worked with in the past and how this gift
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  Speaker 2: was able to help them?
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  Speaker 1: That's a great question. So one of my VIPs in
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  Speaker 1: the Dusty program is a multiple... time click funnels award
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  Speaker 1: winner TEDx speaker very successful business owner he makes a
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  Speaker 1: really big impact and we were working on one of
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  Speaker 1: his income goals which was basically around wanting to hit
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  Speaker 1: 100k per month in monthly recurring revenue or personal income
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  Speaker 1: what was blocking him underneath we thought it was you
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  Speaker 1: know some stuff to do on the business and the
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  Speaker 1: mindset and confidence and what we took a look underneath
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  Speaker 1: was that the romantic relationship that he was in was
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  Speaker 1: not congruent with who he needed to become to hit
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  Speaker 1: this next level of success. Mind you, he's already achieved
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  Speaker 1: a great level of success. Unfortunately, the wife was not
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  Speaker 1: on board to support him. From what I understand, she
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  Speaker 1: had a vested outcome of making him less public, less visible,
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  Speaker 1: and she just didn't want him to rise to his
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  Speaker 1: full potential. So there was this constant battle between, please
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  Speaker 1: let me do what I need to do to provide
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  Speaker 1: for the family, versus I'm not accepted and I can
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  Speaker 1: expect fights and criticism and just unkind treatment if I'm
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  Speaker 1: going to give a keynote and help people. And what's
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  Speaker 1: really funny between a lot of people that I see
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  Speaker 1: in the coaching realm is these talented, really capable entrepreneurs,
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  Speaker 1: executives and founders come to me for business problems, money,
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  Speaker 1: mindset problems, like upper glass ceilings in terms of their
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  Speaker 1: revenue or output. But a lot of the time it
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  Speaker 1: goes back to that very belonging world, right? Something bad
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  Speaker 1: will happen if I step into my full potential. If
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  Speaker 1: I make this much money, maybe I'll outgrow my friend
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  Speaker 1: group and I won't have anyone to hang out with anymore, right?
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  Speaker 1: Like these things that smart people, of course, they don't
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  Speaker 1: actively choose that. They know that it's nonsense, but it's
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  Speaker 1: the underlying patterns that keep them like steering away from
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  Speaker 1: the goal just ever so slightly, where it's almost imperceptible.
• 15:58
  Speaker 1: And the moment we took a look at some of
• 15:59
  Speaker 1: those belonging wounds, meaning Something bad would happen on the
• 16:02
  Speaker 1: relationship side if I hit that next 100K a month
• 16:06
  Speaker 1: income goal. We were able to generate, it was so funny.
• 16:10
  Speaker 1: He texted me at his son's basketball game. It was like, Melissa,
• 16:12
  Speaker 1: I think we like broke the universe or something. He
• 16:14
  Speaker 1: was watching his son's basketball game. He had over $ 130, 000
• 16:17
  Speaker 1: in deals just come in through texts, random things, random synchronicities.
• 16:22
  Speaker 1: Like he didn't launch anything new. He didn't put out
• 16:24
  Speaker 1: a new program. It was literally just by taking those
• 16:27
  Speaker 1: blocks out that tell us it's not safe. Or something
• 16:31
  Speaker 1: bad will happen or there will be a consequence, maybe
• 16:33
  Speaker 1: more responsibility. By removing all those doubts and those unconscious fears,
• 16:37
  Speaker 1: it actually allowed all of the existing opportunities that were
• 16:40
  Speaker 1: already on his way that just couldn't quite reach him
• 16:43
  Speaker 1: to actually land safe. And it was, yeah, it was phenomenal.
• 16:46
  Speaker 1: It was within like six weeks of working together, it
• 16:48
  Speaker 1: just blew up. And he was having fun with his kid.
• 16:52
  Speaker 2: You say remove these blocks. How do you deliver your healing?
• 16:56
  Speaker 1: We go through a process of what we call root
• 16:58
  Speaker 1: cause transformation. So typically we'll take a look at the symptom, right?
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: So let's just say there is somebody who has a
• 17:05
  Speaker 1: symptom of never-ending scope creep, okay? I've worked with people
• 17:09
  Speaker 1: who have had like these nightmare clients where they go
• 17:11
  Speaker 1: to work with them and collaborate with them and then
• 17:13
  Speaker 1: the client just changes direction and wants more and wants
• 17:15
  Speaker 1: this and it's like way beyond the scope of the project, right?
• 17:18
  Speaker 1: But it seems to be this, again, glass ceiling, this
• 17:22
  Speaker 1: limit that just they cannot surpass. When we trace to
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: what's underneath it, it is usually a mirror of what's
• 17:29
  Speaker 1: happening in business or in your money. based on who
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: you're being or what you're tolerating. So in this case
• 17:35
  Speaker 1: of the never-ending scope creep, it's a people-pleasing and boundaries issue.
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: They also struggled with boundaries with family members. They also
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: struggled with saying no and wanting to be everything to everyone, right?
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: And not knowing when to just actually say, hey, sorry,
• 17:48
  Speaker 1: I'm not available to help you. Or, hey, sorry, I
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: actually need to like pour into myself for a little
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: bit before I can take on this next thing. And
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: once we're able to take a look what stories are
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: reinforcing this, meaning I need to be the savior for everyone.
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: I'm only, safe if everyone around me is doing good,
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: therefore I have to fix their problems and their problems
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: and their problems. These are all just examples, but there's
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: typically a combination of trapped emotions, so stuckness in your
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: body where you feel density, you might also have physical
• 18:16
  Speaker 1: pain points there, recurring muscle tension, or certain things like IBS,
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: gut issues, right? Emotions can take the place or can
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: take the shape of many different physical symptoms. migraines are
• 18:29
  Speaker 1: common for people who are classic overthinkers, right? So a
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: lot of these physical things are traced to the emotions
• 18:35
  Speaker 1: that you're feeling on an ongoing basis, which keeps you
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: trapped at a sort of groundhog's day loop over and
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: over again to match more of those same stress emotions.
• 18:45
  Speaker 1: So once we remove the emotions, then we take a
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: look at the underlying subconscious beliefs. So this is actually
• 18:51
  Speaker 1: the limiting beliefs that are telling you that you need
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: to choose something you don't want to because X, Y, Z, right?
• 18:59
  Speaker 1: Or some of those family line stories where you've taught
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: to have a good work ethic, which means something that
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: your dad taught you way back when that may actually
• 19:07
  Speaker 1: not match who you need to be in leadership. And
• 19:12
  Speaker 1: when we go back in time, we actually go back
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: to the root cause, which is why it's so fast
• 19:16
  Speaker 1: and effective. So a lot of healers, they might do
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: some Reiki, they might make you feel good. It's kind
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: of like a relaxing, you know, self-care day, kind of
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: like a massage, right? You feel really good right after,
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: but then you go back to the same sabotage, the
• 19:28
  Speaker 1: same cycles, the same taking yourself out, the same distractions
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: instead of actually doing the thing you know you need
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: to do that scares the shit out of you, right?
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: Because they haven't actually pulled it off by the root
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: or like the weed. And what I'll do is I'll
• 19:40
  Speaker 1: go back in time to the very first moment that
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: occurred where that pattern started and to yank up the
• 19:45
  Speaker 1: entire weed and to rewrite it in alignment with your
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: future self. or who you would be and how you
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: would think if you already had that goal achieved so
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: it's the fastest way to kind of collapse time to
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: hit those next level goals because again we're replacing it
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: with the wiring of who your future self is that
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: already knows how to act accordingly that already knows how
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: to hit the income goal.
• 20:07
  Speaker 2: Are you delivering this online or does it have to
• 20:10
  Speaker 2: be in person?
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: No, it's fully virtual. So I have clients in Australia, Nigeria, Berlin,
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: over for some reason, I'm in, I'm in Canada. My
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: name and my clients are in the States for some people.
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: Californians just love to work with me. I don't know
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: if there's like a coincidence or not, but it's fully virtual.
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: So quantum healing, it is through pure energy, right? And
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: I could tap into your energy field from where you're
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: sitting with your permission, Joe. distance doesn't matter.
• 20:38
  Speaker 2: When you say with permission, okay, so can you explain
• 20:41
  Speaker 2: to us to what extent can you read me right now?
• 20:45
  Speaker 2: What would you be able to do?
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: So what I would do is I would basically proxy
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: your body, right? So if I were to come into
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: your energy field, okay, and we could use this as
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: an example. If there's like a theme or something you
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: want some guidance on, we could, it might be actually
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: easier to do sort of a, if you're good being
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: a guinea pig for that, that would be amazing. Sure.
• 21:02
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: What's the number one thing that you're struggling with right
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: now that if we could just like eliminate that for
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: you would totally rock your world?
• 21:10
  Speaker 2: I would say choosing the right path. Would you like
• 21:17
  Speaker 2: to be more specific?
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: Yeah, give me a rundown of how that looks or
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: what does your mind do when you're in between choices?
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: How do you usually make your decisions?
• 21:28
  Speaker 2: I have a lot of opportunities offered on an ongoing basis.
• 21:32
  Speaker 2: And that's one of the things I think that sometimes
• 21:34
  Speaker 2: I need some clarity to make the best choice for me.
• 21:39
  Speaker 1: Perfect.
• 21:39
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: How dialed in are you to your body? Do you
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: feel like you're someone that's quite connected to your body?
• 21:47
  Speaker 2: I feel like I am.
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: Yeah? Okay. Ask your body to show me what a
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: soul yes looks like. Okay? We're going to just connect
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: you to the most direct path to access your intuition. Okay?
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: Show me yes, yes, yes. Just ask your yes, yes, yes, yes.
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: For me, I go like this. My body, my shoulders raise.
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: I almost want to lean forward out of my chair.
• 22:08
  Speaker 2: Yes. So I inhaled and just my chest just expanded.
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: Yeah. It's like a heart opening and it doesn't feel
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: light or heavy.
• 22:15
  Speaker 2: It feels light.
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: That would be yes. Perfect. Now show me no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: What does your body do?
• 22:23
  Speaker 2: I think it's like down. Like my shoulders go down
• 22:26
  Speaker 2: and I kind of sunk in.
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: Yes. So now you're actually tapped into the fastest way
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: to access your soul's truth or like your higher intelligence.
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: It's called through muscle testing. They use this in applied kinesiology.
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: So practitioners actually use the heavy versus light to know
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: what nutritional deficiencies you have. Like if you need more magnesium,
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: they could use this muscle testing. So the no, no, no,
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: no for me also feels like dead weight. It's like
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: in my womb, I'm pulling myself back. It's like I
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: want to sink into my chair. So I like to
• 22:56
  Speaker 1: use a combination of three questions. This is after you've
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: done the logical work, right? So I'm a big believer
• 23:02
  Speaker 1: of data. I don't mean bypassing that. The more info
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: we have, the better, right? We'd want to take a
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: look at those cold, hard facts too. Does it practically
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: make sense to my business? Does it make sense to
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: my contextual goals? Once those things have checked out, this
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: is where the intuition is like that final green light
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: that will tell you where you receive a business opportunity.
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: It's like the best thing you've ever experienced, but the
• 23:24
  Speaker 1: person doesn't feel quite right. There's something about them you
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: don't like. It feels kind of shady, right? But like
• 23:29
  Speaker 1: everything on paper looks good. This is moments where you
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: want to use this. What we'll ask is a combination.
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: So truth, if I choose this opportunity, will this create
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: more for me? More joy, more money, more ease, more fulfillment,
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: more clients, more visibility. And your body will give you
• 23:46
  Speaker 1: a yes versus no.
• 23:48
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 23:49
  Speaker 1: Then what we'll say is, If I choose this, will
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: this lead to a future I'm happy with? Meaning if
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: I invest in this, it's like the butterfly effect, right?
• 23:59
  Speaker 1: Sometimes we want to check the long-term implications of committing
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: to a certain project. And this is great where we
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: can keep ourselves on track for, say, the mountain, like
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: the big overarching goal. Because you might have things that
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: tempt you in the short term that actually take you
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: away from your mountain that you want to climb, you know?
• 24:16
  Speaker 2: So interesting, because right there I'm going to say that
• 24:18
  Speaker 2: the first question, I feel like I expand it. And
• 24:21
  Speaker 2: the second question, I feel, because I chose one option
• 24:24
  Speaker 2: to think about, to focus on. And then I felt
• 24:26
  Speaker 2: that during the second question, I feel like I kind
• 24:30
  Speaker 2: of sunk in a little bit.
• 24:31
  Speaker 1: Okay. Perfect. Can you ask, is it a distraction? Yes. Okay. Okay.
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: So it's something that feels good in the moment, and
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: it maybe makes sense to our, like, and I'm not
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: saying you're egotistical. We all have an ego, but it
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: makes sense to our ego, right? That part of our
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: brain that's like, yeah, it's like a great idea. But
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: perhaps it derails a little bit from the long term
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: of where you're actually destined to go or what you've
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: written in for your long-term goal. Yes. Okay. One other
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: example for the muscle testing is they've used this in,
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: are you familiar with 10X is Easier Than 2X, that book? No. Okay.
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: So Dr. So Stan Sullivan and Dr. Benjamin Hardy, they
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: have written this amazing book called 10X is Easier Than 2X.
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: And it basically says that most people are playing at 2X, right?
• 25:20
  Speaker 1: You want to double your income, but so many people
• 25:22
  Speaker 1: are competing for average returns, but no one's actually competing
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: at the top. If I wanted to 10X my business
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: tomorrow or next year, hardly any people are playing that up.
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: So it's actually easier because, well, there's not that many
• 25:35
  Speaker 1: paths that would allow that, right? Versus if I wanted
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: to double my business in a year, there's like 3
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: million paths I could probably take. So what we want
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: to take a look at is with your mountain, the
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: thing that is your overarching long-term goal, the thing that
• 25:48
  Speaker 1: you like really want to accomplish. We watched this yesterday.
• 25:51
  Speaker 1: I went to my daughter's school. We were watching the
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: space launch, the astronaut mission that was happening. And I
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: had a moment where I got teary because I'm like,
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: this is what they've been training for their whole life.
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: Like this is their pinnacle moment, right? Like that's the mountain.
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: And it made me so emotional to see like people
• 26:10
  Speaker 1: who have worked so hard and faced so many, you know, obstacles.
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: Like that must be so hard to be counting down
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: in the spaceship. Like that's so cool to me. That's
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: what I love to do. So the equivalent of your liftoff, right?
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: What is that mountain for you? And what they studied
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: is there was this team, they were doing like dragon
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: boating or some sort of like rowing and they could never, ever,
• 26:30
  Speaker 1: ever win, right? They kept going to the championships, but
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: they just were not like operating at this level. And
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: what they finally did is they set out an experiment
• 26:38
  Speaker 1: to do one thing for the season only, and it's
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: ask for every single decision, does it make the boat
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: go faster? Meaning if I go to the bar tonight,
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: does it make the boat go faster, right? If I
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: say no to the workout, does it make the boat
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: go faster? And without any other, you know, guidance, any
• 26:52
  Speaker 1: other leadership, all they kept doing is just asking in
• 26:55
  Speaker 1: each moment, does it make the boat go faster, which
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: was their mountain. They were able to like, Get first
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: place on the next, you know, like just achieve the impossible.
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: It was something quite profound. Like they were able to
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: go to the world championships. And so these are another thing.
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: Does that make your boat go faster, right? Does it
• 27:13
  Speaker 1: lead you closer to where you actually want to go?
• 27:15
  Speaker 1: Not just what is the safe good bet? Because that's
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: the difference between good and great.
• 27:21
  Speaker 2: And is that what we're doing? We're trying to just
• 27:24
  Speaker 2: follow that expansion and sinking in to sort of answer
• 27:29
  Speaker 2: those questions for you? Exactly. And in the meantime, are
• 27:33
  Speaker 2: you able to read me? How does that work?
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: Would you like guidance on something? Please. Okay. Do you
• 27:40
  Speaker 1: have a specific question? So I'll just open up your
• 27:42
  Speaker 1: soul's records if that's okay. We'll just call in your
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: higher self. Any guides, angels, loved ones, if that's what
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: you believe. Any other help on the other side? Go ahead.
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: What would you love guidance on?
• 27:55
  Speaker 2: Good question. So let's go with the same theme. What
• 27:58
  Speaker 2: is holding me back from getting to the next level?
• 28:01
  Speaker 1: It's actually defining yourself, defining yourself as successful and worthy
• 28:05
  Speaker 1: at that level. And then also defining what the heck
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: you want. There's a lot of freedom that you have.
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: And I think you've mentioned also with your kids. So
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: maybe tied to that being them being in college, there's
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: this freedom, right? To like live your life. And what
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: is it? It's freedom to decide what you want without
• 28:22
  Speaker 1: defining any limitations. So if this next chapter could be
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: truly limitless, And if we didn't actually have any preconceived
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: notions about what you've been able to achieve in the
• 28:31
  Speaker 1: stretches that you've had so far, this next sprint, it's
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: almost like it's going to defy what you've been able
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: to achieve over the last five years, the last 10 years,
• 28:39
  Speaker 1: or any other seasons you've dealt with. Do you want
• 28:43
  Speaker 1: to go a little bit deeper?
• 28:44
  Speaker 2: Please. Yes, definitely. I would love to understand it. Is
• 28:48
  Speaker 2: it okay if I stop for questions along the way?
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: Sure, please do. That's sort of like a... So it's
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: almost like playing tennis. So I'll just like pass you
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: the answer and then you can go deeper and ask
• 28:59
  Speaker 1: any clarifying questions. Okay. No, no, no.
• 29:01
  Speaker 2: But also for guests or people who are listeners also,
• 29:06
  Speaker 2: do people ask you for things that would give them
• 29:10
  Speaker 2: a confirmation that you're going in the right direction? For instance,
• 29:14
  Speaker 2: I think that if, I guess I'm not saying that
• 29:16
  Speaker 2: there are some people who are not going to be
• 29:18
  Speaker 2: believers in the beginning until they connect. So do people
• 29:22
  Speaker 2: ask for confirmation of some sort?
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so here's the thing about confirmation, right? Absolutely. Can
• 29:28
  Speaker 1: we ask for the universe for a sign like the,
• 29:31
  Speaker 1: you know, the angel numbers or a feather or something
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: to confirm that we're on the right track? Absolutely, we can.
• 29:36
  Speaker 1: But the funny thing about our soul's journey, and this
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: is where my rule breaker tendencies come in is that
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: we are sovereign beings and our only authority about whether
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: we are on track or not is what we actually
• 29:48
  Speaker 1: want so my great aunt mary who's on the other
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: side she might be my you know angel she might
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: be my spirit god she may have some great advice
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: for me but the only person that is responsible for
• 29:59
  Speaker 1: the outcomes is actually what do I want and is
• 30:02
  Speaker 1: that congruent for what I am calling in, right? So
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: where we need a lot of clarity is about actually
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: getting crystal clear about where we're heading because we end
• 30:10
  Speaker 1: up coasting. It's kind of like going on a sailboat.
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: If you don't have a destination, you can end off.
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: They've actually studied this too on airplanes. If you don't,
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: if your compass isn't calibrated and you veer off like
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: even just three degrees, you'll end up in like a
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: different country. It's insane, right? So I've worked with a
• 30:28
  Speaker 1: lot of people who have religious backgrounds. I've worked with
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: people who actively, like their religion says that anything like
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: psychic or intuitive is, you know, it's not like it's
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: the devil. It's not that. But we actually come back
• 30:40
  Speaker 1: to bringing it into their own wisdom, meaning stuff that
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: resonates with their soul. And the funny thing happens around truth.
• 30:47
  Speaker 1: It's like a puzzle piece that just fits in. There's
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: no questioning it. It kind of just lands. It kind
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: of just hits. It kind of just stings a little bit,
• 30:53
  Speaker 1: but it's like that truth that There's no arguing. It
• 30:56
  Speaker 1: just feels like that last missing piece, that's when you
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: know it's in alignment. It's usually those goosebumps you get
• 31:02
  Speaker 1: or the thing where they're like, oh, yeah, of course
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: I didn't think about that. Sure.
• 31:06
  Speaker 2: Now, you did ask me, can I go further or deeper,
• 31:10
  Speaker 2: I think is what you asked. What does that mean?
• 31:13
  Speaker 2: Where are we going from there?
• 31:16
  Speaker 1: So in order to get the best guidance, it's important
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: to formulate the question with hyper-specificity, meaning... I'm considering path
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: X or path Y. I've been struggling with X health symptom.
• 31:30
  Speaker 1: I've been considering selling my house and going there, right?
• 31:32
  Speaker 1: So the more context will allow this. And then also,
• 31:36
  Speaker 1: instead of asking things like, what should I do? Because
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: the should is subjective. What choice could I make here
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: that will create the most cashflow? What choice could I
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: make here that will increase my relationship satisfaction? So you
• 31:48
  Speaker 1: kind of also want to define what you're, it's like
• 31:51
  Speaker 1: a prompt actually, right? It's like a good AI prompt.
• 31:54
  Speaker 1: You want to define what you want in return so
• 31:57
  Speaker 1: that we can get the guidance to actually match your
• 31:59
  Speaker 1: expectation or the small nuances that give you a really
• 32:03
  Speaker 1: good piece of truth to follow.
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  Speaker 2: I guess what I'm hoping for is for the runway
• 32:09
  Speaker 2: to light up in the direction that I should go.
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  Speaker 1: And have you defined your endgame?
• 32:17
  Speaker 2: And that's the thing. I feel that since I have
• 32:20
  Speaker 2: so many opportunities, which direction do I take? Do I
• 32:24
  Speaker 2: take the 10X using that example? If all of the
• 32:28
  Speaker 2: options are 2Xs, there are a couple that are 10Xs.
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  Speaker 2: And I feel that I can play at the 10X
• 32:34
  Speaker 2: because I have more opportunities now. I do have a
• 32:37
  Speaker 2: lot more freedom to do that 10X. But then you
• 32:40
  Speaker 2: think in your mind, I know that I kind of
• 32:43
  Speaker 2: have to build on it with the 2X. Should I
• 32:44
  Speaker 2: do that instead? Mm-hmm.
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  Speaker 1: What I love to phrase is if time, money, existing
• 32:51
  Speaker 1: responsibilities and commitments weren't a thing, what is the thing
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: where you look back on the end of your life
• 32:56
  Speaker 1: and you're like, damn, I freaking did it. Like the
• 33:00
  Speaker 1: thing that like is a little bit scary, right? The
• 33:02
  Speaker 1: thing that when we're on our deathbed, we're like, whoa,
• 33:04
  Speaker 1: I really went for it, right? And usually there's things
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: that are like 90% good and comfortable. And then there's
• 33:11
  Speaker 1: that one thing that like scares the living shit out
• 33:13
  Speaker 1: of you, for lack of a better word, right? So
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: this is the thing that I always recommend playing with.
• 33:18
  Speaker 1: And then from there, it depends on what, it's like
• 33:23
  Speaker 1: plugging in a GPS. You sometimes have the fast way,
• 33:26
  Speaker 1: like you can take the highway. Some people prefer the
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: scenic route. There's people I work with that are like,
• 33:31
  Speaker 1: I don't want a lot of stress. I don't want
• 33:32
  Speaker 1: a lot of intensity. Just give me the gentle way
• 33:34
  Speaker 1: to get there so I can have a lot of
• 33:35
  Speaker 1: fun along the way. Other people are like, I want
• 33:38
  Speaker 1: that goal tomorrow or yesterday. Give me the fast way
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: and I don't care if it stings. It's going to
• 33:42
  Speaker 1: hurt a little bit. We're going to get there super fast.
• 33:44
  Speaker 1: So what do you value?
• 33:45
  Speaker 2: Well, I would say I'll take the stings.
• 33:49
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Okay. So I would say if you bring in
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: that big audacious goal that scares you a little bit,
• 33:56
  Speaker 1: the thing that actually requires you to be vulnerable enough
• 33:58
  Speaker 1: to face the potential of disappointment if you didn't get it,
• 34:02
  Speaker 1: what is the fastest way to make a step there?
• 34:05
  Speaker 1: Or what is the fastest way or who do I
• 34:07
  Speaker 1: need to speak with? Do you have a specific thing
• 34:09
  Speaker 1: in mind? It works better if you have an actual
• 34:11
  Speaker 1: scenario for me. Yes.
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  Speaker 2: I would say that is it monetarily or is it
• 34:18
  Speaker 2: Is it actual?
• 34:20
  Speaker 1: It's money is a very spiritual thing. So even if
• 34:22
  Speaker 1: you have an income goal, that's great.
• 34:24
  Speaker 2: So I've always had the dream of the million dollars
• 34:27
  Speaker 2: a month. That's been my goal. Okay. And as I
• 34:31
  Speaker 2: headed towards that direction, I start heading that way and
• 34:36
  Speaker 2: it starts to work and I'm happy with it. And
• 34:39
  Speaker 2: then it kind of just resets again. Hmm.
• 34:42
  Speaker 1: Okay. So are you hitting your own glass ceiling there? Hmm.
• 34:48
  Speaker 1: There's an upper limit on how much you can receive
• 34:50
  Speaker 1: before taking yourself out, I'm hearing. So what does taking
• 34:52
  Speaker 1: yourself out look like? Does it involve distractions, procrastination? What
• 34:58
  Speaker 1: does that look like specifically, if you don't mind sharing?
• 35:01
  Speaker 2: I feel like challenges just come up, and then you're
• 35:05
  Speaker 2: back to it. So it's like it's going in the
• 35:07
  Speaker 2: right direction, and then something will happen that's major, and
• 35:11
  Speaker 2: it'll slow me back down again. Okay, I've got to
• 35:14
  Speaker 2: reset again. Let's start to work towards it again. And
• 35:17
  Speaker 2: then it's a lot of work, but it's going well.
• 35:21
  Speaker 2: And then we'll have to reset again.
• 35:24
  Speaker 1: Okay, got it. So is there something that comes to
• 35:26
  Speaker 1: take up, like wipe out the profit or wipe out?
• 35:29
  Speaker 1: When you say reset, it's almost like you're back to zero.
• 35:31
  Speaker 1: Is that what?
• 35:33
  Speaker 2: Let's just say you get to a certain level and
• 35:35
  Speaker 2: you're there at that level and you're happy. And it's like, okay, well,
• 35:37
  Speaker 2: now we're going. The machine's going in that direction. That's great.
• 35:40
  Speaker 2: And then something major will happen. And then you're like, okay, well,
• 35:44
  Speaker 2: you know. I didn't reach that number, but we're going
• 35:46
  Speaker 2: to go for it again next month. And then next
• 35:49
  Speaker 2: month comes around and it starts to go in that
• 35:51
  Speaker 2: direction again. But then another challenge comes and slows you
• 35:54
  Speaker 2: down again. And then it's kind of like a replay.
• 35:57
  Speaker 1: Got it. Okay. Would you say that it's like cyclical
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: or like a loop? Like it happens over and over
• 36:02
  Speaker 1: again and it's the same kind of story you're telling yourself? Yes.
• 36:05
  Speaker 2: Got it.
• 36:06
  Speaker 1: Okay. So right now what's running is a karmic cycle.
• 36:09
  Speaker 1: And so karmic cycles have been in motion over and
• 36:12
  Speaker 1: over and over again. So there's something that needs to
• 36:14
  Speaker 1: be done differently to actually algorithm interrupt it. One method
• 36:18
  Speaker 1: is clearing, right? That's the stuff that we do. But
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: whether you choose to clear or not, you can also
• 36:24
  Speaker 1: do something that is completely unexpected to almost break the
• 36:27
  Speaker 1: loop because the energy is repeating the same thing over again, right?
• 36:33
  Speaker 1: So in those moments, how do you typically show up
• 36:35
  Speaker 1: when the challenge comes in?
• 36:37
  Speaker 2: It's I want to fight and I want to continue.
• 36:40
  Speaker 2: But in the back of my mind, it's always like,
• 36:42
  Speaker 2: here it is again. We're back to that level again.
• 36:45
  Speaker 2: We're having this issue.
• 36:46
  Speaker 1: Got it. And does that confirm any suspicions you have
• 36:49
  Speaker 1: about yourself? Like, what does it mean about you to
• 36:52
  Speaker 1: hit that? What's the story that you have underneath that?
• 36:56
  Speaker 2: I think maybe to the point, like, maybe I. It
• 37:01
  Speaker 2: sounds like a good number to hit, but it feels
• 37:03
  Speaker 2: like it's not like something I'm going to hit.
• 37:07
  Speaker 1: Do you have any beliefs running out? Maybe I'm asking
• 37:08
  Speaker 1: for too much then? Maybe I should just settle?
• 37:10
  Speaker 2: Oh, there are times where you're like, well, maybe that's
• 37:15
  Speaker 2: just way too much and I should be sort of,
• 37:17
  Speaker 2: because if it stays at the regular numbers where I
• 37:21
  Speaker 2: am at the 2x level, let's just say using that example,
• 37:24
  Speaker 2: then it feels like, well, yeah, it's still better than those,
• 37:27
  Speaker 2: but maybe I should be happy with that.
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: So I would look at all the times in your
• 37:31
  Speaker 1: life where somebody has told you that you're asking for
• 37:33
  Speaker 1: too much. What you wanted is too much. You should
• 37:36
  Speaker 1: just settle. You're being selfish. You're being right. Or even
• 37:38
  Speaker 1: times as a kid where what you wanted, maybe your
• 37:40
  Speaker 1: parents couldn't always meet your needs.
• 37:42
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 37:42
  Speaker 1: Or they had their own limitations. And certainly they probably
• 37:46
  Speaker 1: had certain things that they wanted to parent with threats
• 37:48
  Speaker 1: to not raise kids that are spoiled. Right. So there
• 37:51
  Speaker 1: were times where what you had asked for was not
• 37:53
  Speaker 1: met and it created a positive reinforcement loop of, oh,
• 37:56
  Speaker 1: I should just lower, which is fine in terms of
• 37:59
  Speaker 1: relationships and creating grounded kids. Right. But when it comes
• 38:03
  Speaker 1: to business, we actually want to clear anywhere there's a
• 38:05
  Speaker 1: relativity assigned. So if I were to take a look
• 38:08
  Speaker 1: at the, like the back end of the subconscious is one,
• 38:12
  Speaker 1: anywhere you've deemed this like above you, too much, right? Unlikely,
• 38:16
  Speaker 1: we would want to collapse all that meaning. The other
• 38:19
  Speaker 1: piece is anywhere you've made this a big relative number, meaning,
• 38:24
  Speaker 1: let's take $ 100, right? For somebody who is, for somebody, oh,
• 38:28
  Speaker 1: this is gonna, For somebody who's on the streets, a
• 38:31
  Speaker 1: homeless person might say $ 100, that would give them a
• 38:34
  Speaker 1: night's shelter, that would give them a lot of food,
• 38:37
  Speaker 1: that's a big amount for them. For somebody who makes multi-millions,
• 38:40
  Speaker 1: that's an insignificant amount. What we can do is we
• 38:43
  Speaker 1: can actually collapse the time it takes to reach your goal.
• 38:45
  Speaker 1: By collapsing anywhere we've assigned, it's a big relative thing
• 38:48
  Speaker 1: to do. What if it was just insignificant? What if,
• 38:50
  Speaker 1: because you've already learned how to get to this point
• 38:53
  Speaker 1: in business, Each level up is easier than the one
• 38:56
  Speaker 1: before because you know how it's like the growth hustle
• 38:58
  Speaker 1: era in the beginning and then it kind of becomes
• 39:00
  Speaker 1: more stable. So what if you're now equipped for these
• 39:03
  Speaker 1: bigger jumps to actually be faster and more inevitable? So
• 39:06
  Speaker 1: there's a little bit of rewiring there, but I would
• 39:08
  Speaker 1: say anywhere you've decided to like back away from what
• 39:11
  Speaker 1: you wanted out of fear of it being too much
• 39:13
  Speaker 1: or unrealistic or unreasonable, this would be the first thing
• 39:16
  Speaker 1: that would need to get out of the way because
• 39:18
  Speaker 1: you It's going to keep mirroring back the same doubt
• 39:21
  Speaker 1: you have, which is where you take yourself out and
• 39:23
  Speaker 1: you're like, okay, well, I'll settle for 70% or I'll
• 39:25
  Speaker 1: try again. But it's not, I don't actually feel the
• 39:28
  Speaker 1: conviction behind you of I'm going to get it I
• 39:30
  Speaker 1: don't care what it takes it's that like potency where
• 39:34
  Speaker 1: it's almost like that final piece before it starts to
• 39:36
  Speaker 1: to arrive right now it's a mirror for the doubt
• 39:39
  Speaker 1: where you betray yourself by actually sliding down away from
• 39:44
  Speaker 1: the desire does that make sense.
• 39:47
  Speaker 2: It does it does Now, are you able to see
• 39:50
  Speaker 2: something that I can't?
• 39:52
  Speaker 1: And how? So do you mean in terms of like
• 39:56
  Speaker 1: how I track on the intuitive side? Yes.
• 39:59
  Speaker 2: Because you said you're able to sort of see within,
• 40:03
  Speaker 2: I guess, within us. So is there something that I'm
• 40:06
  Speaker 2: missing that you can see that I can't?
• 40:08
  Speaker 1: When you're, this is so interesting, Kay. Taking a step back,
• 40:13
  Speaker 1: I want to take a look at all of the
• 40:14
  Speaker 1: ways that you've made money or hit your targets in
• 40:16
  Speaker 1: the past, okay? If we look at like, where 80%
• 40:19
  Speaker 1: of like the revenue or successes come, does it come
• 40:24
  Speaker 1: from a place, how do I want to ask this?
• 40:27
  Speaker 1: There's like a missing fun factor, okay? So from the
• 40:29
  Speaker 1: times you've made the most money with the least amount
• 40:31
  Speaker 1: of effort, from all times in your past, how were
• 40:34
  Speaker 1: you being? I don't necessarily mean like the mechanism of
• 40:37
  Speaker 1: making money, like what product you sold. Were you in
• 40:40
  Speaker 1: the flow? Were you fun? What were you being?
• 40:42
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I was enjoying the process. Of working and making money.
• 40:50
  Speaker 1: Yeah. So there's something where it's like if each moment
• 40:54
  Speaker 1: gets so good, you don't even care about the goal
• 40:57
  Speaker 1: that much because you're so fulfilled in the work you do.
• 41:00
  Speaker 1: This is one piece to like recreate it because it's
• 41:02
  Speaker 1: going to accelerate that happening since it no longer becomes
• 41:05
  Speaker 1: about getting there until I can enjoy myself. So one
• 41:07
  Speaker 1: thing to keep in mind is, yeah, in your soul's
• 41:11
  Speaker 1: growth is showing like activate the fun factor, right? Amp
• 41:13
  Speaker 1: up the enjoyment of it. Because then it makes that
• 41:16
  Speaker 1: million dollar mark less juicy. It just makes it like, okay, great.
• 41:19
  Speaker 1: I'm working towards this, but I'm good now. And then
• 41:24
  Speaker 1: I would take a look at anywhere you're like trying
• 41:26
  Speaker 1: to experiment or start over a brand new. This feels
• 41:29
  Speaker 1: like a sabotage thing, like a shiny red dress of, oh,
• 41:31
  Speaker 1: let's just like reinvent the entire wheel versus recreating what works.
• 41:35
  Speaker 1: And then taking a look at what 20% of actions
• 41:39
  Speaker 1: could I take to create 80% of more of my income, right?
• 41:42
  Speaker 1: So that's that Pareto principle. if we can zone in
• 41:46
  Speaker 1: on laser focusing there, amping up the enjoyment factor, and
• 41:50
  Speaker 1: then also having that fiery conviction of an obstacle comes up,
• 41:54
  Speaker 1: so what? How is this the biggest blessing ever? How
• 41:57
  Speaker 1: is this a gain? How is this obstacle that is
• 42:00
  Speaker 1: a perceived threat actually gonna accelerate me forward? I'm happy
• 42:03
  Speaker 1: this is happening because I'm getting feedback about how to
• 42:05
  Speaker 1: do something better. And so rather than seeing it as
• 42:08
  Speaker 1: something that backtracks you, I want you to actually lean
• 42:10
  Speaker 1: into each obstacle and use this feedback as, something to
• 42:15
  Speaker 1: like do it better or refine it that actually slingshots
• 42:18
  Speaker 1: you forward it's like the obstacle isn't the end point
• 42:22
  Speaker 1: it's the illusion i don't know how to word that
• 42:24
  Speaker 1: but it's i'm seeing it as actually an accelerator if
• 42:26
  Speaker 1: you can lean in.
• 42:27
  Speaker 2: And when you say lean in you mean just.
• 42:32
  Speaker 1: Accept it not necessarily accept it but if you had
• 42:36
  Speaker 1: to overcome this obstacle so that it was never a
• 42:39
  Speaker 1: thing again what missing piece are of information do you
• 42:43
  Speaker 1: have So there's a missing piece about the way that
• 42:47
  Speaker 1: you're doing your business that once you have this ingredient
• 42:50
  Speaker 1: will actually like accelerate you through the next obstacles and
• 42:54
  Speaker 1: it doesn't actually step you back anymore. Yeah.
• 42:58
  Speaker 2: Thank you for the example and the process. So this
• 43:00
  Speaker 2: is how you work with clients?
• 43:02
  Speaker 1: Yes. My pleasure. It's always hard to describe the invisible.
• 43:06
  Speaker 1: So I appreciate you being willing to be the example
• 43:10
  Speaker 1: there because it's a lot easier to see it in action. Sure.
• 43:13
  Speaker 2: Oh, no, this is great. I love it. Because, you know,
• 43:16
  Speaker 2: you get to see it in action and you get
• 43:18
  Speaker 2: to understand a little bit better. So I can't wait
• 43:21
  Speaker 2: to see how I'm going to edit this to make
• 43:22
  Speaker 2: sure it's great.
• 43:24
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Awesome.
• 43:27
  Speaker 2: Now, all right. So let's start from the beginning. So
• 43:30
  Speaker 2: if someone wants to work with you today, what is
• 43:32
  Speaker 2: the initial step? And then what is, we already saw
• 43:35
  Speaker 2: sort of part of the process, but how does that work?
• 43:38
  Speaker 1: So if anyone is interested, they hear something that resonates
• 43:41
  Speaker 1: and they're like, oh my gosh, I need help with this.
• 43:43
  Speaker 1: Your number one step is to schedule an abundance acceleration goal.
• 43:46
  Speaker 1: So I have a process with my team that I've
• 43:48
  Speaker 1: defined that helps us take a look at what your
• 43:50
  Speaker 1: number one mindset or energetic abundance business goal is. The
• 43:53
  Speaker 1: number one thing that is actually keeping you back from
• 43:56
  Speaker 1: your next level or the dream life that you've called in.
• 43:59
  Speaker 1: And what we'll do is we'll work through with you
• 44:01
  Speaker 1: to identify what that is, how it looks like, and
• 44:03
  Speaker 1: to help you actually come up with a a proven
• 44:06
  Speaker 1: path that accelerates your goals faster. From there, there's opportunities to,
• 44:11
  Speaker 1: you know, to receive some support. So I would say
• 44:13
  Speaker 1: book a call there to explore what that is and
• 44:15
  Speaker 1: if we can even potentially help you, which I will
• 44:18
  Speaker 1: leave the link with you below, I guess.
• 44:20
  Speaker 2: Yeah, absolutely. We're going to have a description, but feel
• 44:22
  Speaker 2: free to just spell it out, please.
• 44:25
  Speaker 1: Perfect. So it will be melissamarina.com forward slash destiny dash
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  Speaker 1: opportunity Dash audit.
• 44:37
  Speaker 2: We really appreciate the exercise, the conversation. I really, really
• 44:43
  Speaker 2: enjoyed this. So I want to thank you for taking
• 44:45
  Speaker 2: the time.
• 44:46
  Speaker 1: Thank you so much for having me. It's a pleasure.
• 44:47
  Speaker 1: I love what you're creating. And it's so cool to
• 44:50
  Speaker 1: see so many different lenses of business that you are
• 44:53
  Speaker 1: able to share about what people are doing these days.
• 44:56
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