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The Human Bleeds Affecting Your Bottom Line | The 'NEW' Marriage | Ep448 · Morrow Marriage | Disrupting Divorce

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  SPEAKER_00: The human bleeds affecting your bottom line no more, Mr.
• 0:02
  SPEAKER_00: Nice Guy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Why your partner disrespects you and how you have the power to influence a different lifestyle, a different adventure for your marriage.
• 0:12
  SPEAKER_00: Will this work for me?
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  SPEAKER_00: Stop sending miles of text messages.
• 0:16
  SPEAKER_00: Your wife withholding text from you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Truth, integrity, moving fast, and sound decisions.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't know if I'm gonna get started right away because my wife just said blue job meant meaning blowjob.
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  SPEAKER_02: I said blue job, yes.
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  SPEAKER_02: But I knew I knew that when I as soon as it came out of my mouth, uh you should leave this on the recording.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm going to, guys.
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  SPEAKER_02: Welcome to the Morrow Marriage Podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: The human bleeds affecting your bottom line.
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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to the Moral Marriage Podcast, guys, where we are real, raw, uncensored, and anointed.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you just saw some of the real and raw right there.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want to talk about something that we do with businesses occasionally.
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  SPEAKER_00: Typically, a client will come into the program and then we'll help them with their business when they understand that everything that we teach is about relationship.
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  SPEAKER_00: You all come to us because relationship is typically not where you want it to be for obvious reasons and quite often in crisis.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: And um what we have to understand is everything that we teach, again, is for every relationship.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like we always say on the men's side, I'm not sure how you put it over on your side, maybe, but we say, like, you can use everything we teach you with your children.
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  SPEAKER_00: You just can't sleep with your children for obvious reasons.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can use this.
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  SPEAKER_00: Nor should you want to.
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  SPEAKER_00: Nor should you want to.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can use this with your colleagues, with your employees who you're also not sleeping with.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's correct.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's the only thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can't you can't use that kind of intimacy.
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  SPEAKER_01: Nothing else except for the the sex, the the sexual intimacy part, the floating.
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  SPEAKER_01: All of it can be used.
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  SPEAKER_01: The communication, the teamwork.
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  SPEAKER_01: The same thing that you do with your husband or your wife.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yes.
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  SPEAKER_01: Aside from those special things, you can do with everybody else in your life.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, we do talk about that.
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  SPEAKER_01: You do?
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  SPEAKER_01: We get a lot of business owners that come in.
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  SPEAKER_01: Uh-huh.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so we can actually invoice you for consulting to include everything that we do.
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  SPEAKER_01: Which it would be impossible to list everything on an invoice, but a lot of our business owners can actually claim the coaching program as an expense because of the amount of leadership we teach.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not a lot, all leadership, teamwork, rapport, communication, I could go on.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yes.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so I say the same thing on the women's time.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, exactly.
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  SPEAKER_00: So tell to give you an idea, okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when we recognize this early on, we saw I would say, like, I remember a mortgage broker was the very first time who's doing about eight million dollars a year with his company, and when he started implementing what we were teaching, within six months, they were on track to do twelve million dollars that year.
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  SPEAKER_00: And uh so essentially what massive increase.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yes, essentially.
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  SPEAKER_01: Even if it wasn't millions, just think about the percentage.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yes, so yeah, exactly.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's percentage, it's proportionate, okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you can imagine what we recognized was simple, um, you know, what's the difference?
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  SPEAKER_00: I won't say his name, I'll say I'll call him Roger.
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  SPEAKER_00: What's the difference, Roger?
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  SPEAKER_00: What do you think?
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  SPEAKER_00: He says, Well, I'm I'm using the program with my employees, the morale is lifting, like everybody's happier around uh around because we're getting along, we're getting things done, we're moving quicker.
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  SPEAKER_00: Think about this, just identify yourself where you're at right now with what you do for a living.
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  SPEAKER_00: And and if you're a stay-at-home mom, I want you to consider that's still a job, obviously.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so when you think about it, if you are in relationship distress, okay, is that the right word?
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  SPEAKER_00: Distress.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you're in in relationship distress, in other words, it's in there's there's a lack of stability, you're instable, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Unstable.
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  SPEAKER_00: Unstable.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, thank you.
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  SPEAKER_00: My my my dictionary over here.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, you don't think that clear.
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  SPEAKER_00: People often talk about health being the foundation, and I call bullshit.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, you don't even probably work out as focused if you are going through a hard time in your marriage.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you haven't figured it out, relationship instability or divorce is the first human bleed.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: And what we recognize is you the description I would say is you're in the fog.
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  SPEAKER_00: When this mortgage broker was having trouble with his marriage, his business was still doing well with his team.
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  SPEAKER_00: But when he started to understand that he could create stability in the home, and yes, of course, use the tools at his office, what did he find?
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  SPEAKER_00: He was on track to nearly double, okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, I guess that's not fair, double, to be about a third more that year.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, and so we have to understand that if we can recognize this, if we think about, let's say you have a uh near miss at your place of business, the typical and standard for the last three decades is safety meetings, safety procedures, safety protocols, all of these things because we had a near miss, or God forbid, we actually had a problem and the forklift crashed or somebody fell off the lift or whatever, okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: We do this inaccurately.
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  SPEAKER_00: We think, oh my gosh, we need more safety procedures.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you didn't understand that this man, I'm just gonna make up a few examples that we've that would fit into uh divorce and instability with your relationship, but this man's not having sex, let's say.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: So he's thinking about not being wanted.
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  SPEAKER_00: He's often super distracted.
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  SPEAKER_00: Super distracted, numbing behavior uh and addiction is bleed seven, okay, the last one.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so what is he coping with?
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  SPEAKER_00: Alcohol, maybe?
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  SPEAKER_00: Did you know a lot of your employees that have a problem with porn are using it at the office or in the warehouse, obviously in the what the restroom, okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: And so this is causing a problem.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you have this level of distraction, a man or woman going through a divorce could actually uh be at work for five weeks of the year and be not not present for those five weeks.
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  SPEAKER_00: Compound that with instability for year after year.
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  SPEAKER_00: We know women on average think about divorce for five years.
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  SPEAKER_00: Both parties, whether you're working at the office or wherever you work, or if you're talking about being at home, the distraction, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because you start to not be so present.
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  SPEAKER_00: You start to check out.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you look in the last episode, we talked about coasting or settling.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like all of this is bleed number one, relationship instability, which starts to then bleed into every other one of them.
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  SPEAKER_00: Bleed two would be hormones, menopause.
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  SPEAKER_00: Did you know that most women don't even know all the signs of menopause?
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  SPEAKER_00: They think they're just stressed out or burnt out, and they don't realize that their body is not functioning well enough to handle the pressures of even the normal day-to-day stuff.
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  SPEAKER_00: So what was easy in a boardroom before has now become a very difficult conversation to follow.
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  SPEAKER_00: Therefore, decision making becomes an issue.
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  SPEAKER_00: Andropause for men, same thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: And these are just, there's so many ways we can go down.
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  SPEAKER_00: Those are just very common that people don't really even know to address, okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: Bleed three would be parenting, okay, and caretaking.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you're taking care of your in-laws, caretaking, these kinds of stressors that we start to deal with and they start to stack, this pulls you away.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'll give you an example because you're thinking, how does that affect the bottom line?
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, what if your employee has to go leave because it keeps getting expelled from school?
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  SPEAKER_00: Recent steps, a recent case that I had to work with with a client.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, you guys, well, then your employee's not fucking working.
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  SPEAKER_00: Why do you think the bottom line is suffering?
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, and then we can get into bleed four, financial debt and pressure.
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  SPEAKER_00: Did you know that 70% of people over six figures where you think they shouldn't be struggling, are struggling?
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  SPEAKER_00: And the pressure alone has them distracted at work, i.e., trying to find uh solve problems with their debt, with their budget, not working.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is it's unreal the studies that are out there for all of this stuff, guys.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, bleed five is when we start to get into identity crisis, we i.e.
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  SPEAKER_00: uh grief and loss, okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: And we start to realize that um we like we have to take it, take a look like this.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like if you lose someone three years to seven years, they're not present at work, they're distracted, they're not present at home, distracted.
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  SPEAKER_00: What if they lost a child?
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh, good God, you're fucked, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: And then you'd have like employee assistance programs, you're not even you're not even covering what they need, man.
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  SPEAKER_00: Counseling doesn't cover that shit.
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  SPEAKER_00: It just doesn't because we start to bleed out our identity at that stage.
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  SPEAKER_00: When that happens, we're not even who we want to be anymore.
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  SPEAKER_01: I don't know the statistic, but I remember hearing years ago that there's a large percentage of a percentage of marriages that don't make it after the loss of a child.
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  SPEAKER_01: They they don't have the skills to be able to be there for each other, to be able to communicate, to be able to empathize with each other, everybody because I can I cannot even imagine what that would be like.
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  SPEAKER_01: But I know people who it has happened to and they're still married, the ones that I'm thinking of.
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  SPEAKER_01: But the statistics, so if you think about how this is connected, grief and loss, it doesn't have to be a child, but specifically with a child, how is that going to affect your marriage?
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  SPEAKER_01: And then you have two things that are stacking and then at work, you're not focused, you're distracted, and then now now maybe you're worried about divorce.
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  SPEAKER_01: Like it's just everything compounded together.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, and then we haven't even talked about bleed six, which is uh the sleep deprivation.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, you can have your employees not sleeping because of course, what are they what's keeping up at night if their partner doesn't want them, if they're you know opposite ends of the bed, if they're not happy, start there, okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: And now do that a few days in a row, and then they they're not actually gonna blow over, but it's the equivalent of blowing over if with with what their uh state of mind is in.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's like they're drunk, okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: Which, by the way, if we look at numbing behaviors, if you're going through all that, you don't think somebody's drinking or smoking a bunch of weed, you don't think they're coping somehow, you don't think that that's gonna affect their sleep?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like all of these things, these bleeds are affecting your bottom line, and you're like, hmm, I think we should just look at like how we can train the salesman more.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're just not meeting KPIs.
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  SPEAKER_01: Wrong decrease our safety protocols, wrong.
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  SPEAKER_00: Wrong.
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  SPEAKER_00: You guys don't even know you're not addressing and again, you uh whether you work or you're stayed home parent, and whether you work and you should be coming home and parenting as well, you are still affected.
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  SPEAKER_00: Why do you think you guys go off about like maybe it's better if we leave, maybe we should just leave.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not fair to the children with all this fighting.
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  SPEAKER_00: No, maybe you should solve the fucking problems.
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  SPEAKER_00: The exact same problems that are affecting you and your life and your marriage are bleeding out the bottom line of the economy, and everybody thinks it's just because of the economy sucks, or because we had a big crash.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, what if you could be the business that was actually focused and actually moving because you knew about what these were, you took care of yourself, you took care of your employees, you took care of the people in your life, and you didn't bleed out hemorrhage anymore.
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  SPEAKER_00: In fact, when we would work with a business, we we would say we provide surgeries.
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  SPEAKER_00: You guys, this is such a cool concept because it's so real, and I don't know why people haven't figured it out, but hopefully you really get the point.
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  SPEAKER_00: Do you have anything you want to add, baby?
• 9:39
  SPEAKER_00: No.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right, guys, we'll see you next time.
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  unknown: Bye.