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Season 2 - Episode 86 - Emotions are like hurting cats! · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop.
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  Along with all her chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from inside the chicken.
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  A coupe, just doing a little head check, making sure
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  everybody's good before they go off for their day.
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  And apparently, our girl Wanda wants to say hello to everybody
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  because she's got a lot to say going on.
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  So today we're going to talk about why do most of us,
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  believe, we fail at managing our emotions.
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  So first of all emotions are like herding cats.
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  I want to be very clear about this.
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  Emotions are like herding cats. They are all over the place, and
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  you've heard me say this before on other podcasts, but, you
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  know, it's Projected that we have between 60 to 80 thousand
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  thoughts a day, some people project up to 100,000 thoughts
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  per day and those hundred thousand thoughts or up to
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  100,000 thoughts. We have two thirds of them
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  repeated than the day before. It's no accident that they're
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  hard to manage. There's a lot going on, not to
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  mention that everybody in the world is vying for your
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  attention, trying to get you to buy this.
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  Pay attention to this. Look at me, influencers are
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  everywhere. Everybody's Asking for your
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  family, everybody's trying to capture a moment of your time to
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  get your attention. And you know, here we are trying
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  to manage ourselves and trying to stay calm with all of our
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  buttons with all of our beliefs, with all the things that we have
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  adopted from other people. We all have these issues and
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  Lord knows that it's completely complex, to be able to manage
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  yourself in all this chaos, which is why it's so important
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  to Pause, you know, if any of you have read my book who's
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  driving your bus, that there is a very distinct line in there
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  where we say, you have to stop reflect choose redirect.
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  So when that stopped comes up, you have to ask yourself, you
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  reflecting. Where am I right now?
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  Where am I? What am I giving my attention
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  to? What is the buttons that's being
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  pushy? What is the emotion?
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  I'm in. Because if you can't figure out
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  where you currently are, it's impossible to figure out where
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  you want to go next. So it's just like, being in the
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  car. And being lost.
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  If I called one of you, and I said, Hey, listen, I'm trying to
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  get to your house and I'm lost you'd say, well, where are you?
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  And if I said to you, I don't know you'd say, well, I can't
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  help you unless I know where you are.
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  And so just like in a coaching session with someone calls and
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  they say to me, I'm so upset, I have this going on.
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  Are this going on? I the very first thing that I
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  always say to them is. Okay, what's the main thought
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  going on in your head? What's the main focus going on
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  your head? And if I can mail down, what
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  that mean focus is that I can help them.
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  Sure their way out of it. So today I want to give you guys
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  the same pattern because nothing is more important than that.
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  Stop and reflect and then choosing and redirecting.
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  Yes. But the first part of it is so
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  critical. Stop just stop yourself from
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  from the constant chatter of saying, oh my God, I'm all over
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  the place because we I can't tell you how many times I hear
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  people say that I'm all over the place and I know there are times
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  when I get really excited about things perfect example.
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  The other day, I was in the garden center and I had this I
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  would call it an experience with this girl that work there
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  because she was helping me with a problem.
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  And she said something that I heard hadn't heard that I could
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  have certain plants that I had never been able thought.
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  I was able to have here in the Heat and she said no as long as
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  you do them like this and this and this you can have them and I
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  was from that moment forward. My head was spinning because all
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  these ideas were running in, I was excited and I was anxious
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  that I wanted to get the ones that were on the floor before
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  someone else got them. With so many different things
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  happening in my head all at once, and I had legitimately
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  could not get control of it. So I'm telling you even when we
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  think, we know all this stuff, we're still going to have these
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  things happen. My husband walked over, and he
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  looked at me, he's like, you're all over the place.
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  I'm like, yeah, I am really, I am so, it is not unusual to have
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  that happen. It common, it's really really
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  common but the trick the trick you have to nail down is hitting
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  that pause button, hitting that stop button so that you can just
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  get yourself centered. Take a deep breath.
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  Where am I right now? Getting yourself the primary
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  where you are in your head is the distinction and stop beating
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  yourself up for thinking that you fail at this all the time
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  because most of us most of us are very capable of doing this
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  unless you have been diagnosed with something that tells you
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  you have a disorder or an inability to manage this.
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  The majority of Of us can manage this if we follow the rules.
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  First of all, stop blaming yourself because the beatings
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  will continue until morale and prove, never works.
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  Ever Works ever Works. Doesn't get you where you want
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  to go. So you have to pause or stop,
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  whichever word works for you and then you say, okay what is my
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  biggest outcome, right now? What is the thing that I want
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  more than anything right now? What is the thing that I need to
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  focus on more than anything right now?
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  And then, Then do that, do that one thing?
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  And then you can you can bring yourself back to you know, that
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  Center of saying. Well why do, I think I fail at
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  this all the time, you don't fail it at all the time.
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  You may feel, sometimes we all do I do, but it's not all the
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  time. It's incremental, it's moment,
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  it's just in the moment but you can bring yourself back and you
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  just have to allow yourself to space and the grace to say,
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  yeah, okay, I had a hiccup, I didn't fail because if you don't
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  give up, you don't fail. That's the rule.
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  If you don't give up, you don't fail.
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  If you keep resetting, keep trying again, you are going to
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  get there. You're going to get to that
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  point. If you keep working at it, if
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  you keep asking better questions, if you keep hitting
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  the pause button and you keep doing the right things, I
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  promise you, you will get there. So, I hope hope you guys have a
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  great day. I will see you tomorrow and work
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  on this piece because it's critical to success.
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  Have a great one. Bye.
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  Have a great one. Bye.