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Happy Hour #127: SMNTY Checks In · Stuff Mom Never Told You

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  Speaker 1: Hey, this is Annie and Samantha and welcome to Stephane
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  Speaker 1: Never Told You production of iHeart Radio, And.
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  Speaker 2: Welcome to another edition of Happy Hour. And today we're
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  Speaker 2: taking a small break because we're pretending like we have
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  Speaker 2: seasons like as a thing along with Sex and the City,
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  Speaker 2: because we ended season two with our lovely friend Lou
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  Speaker 2: came on and did an amazing job.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, noted it out of the park.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, So we were taking a small break before we
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  Speaker 2: jump back into the viewing party. And typically on my segments,
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  Speaker 2: because this is my segment, I would have a drink
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  Speaker 2: or something featuring women in the industry. Yeah, I'm me,
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  Speaker 2: and I don't have that ready, even though I've got
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  Speaker 2: some ideas. I was like, oh, because it's one of
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  Speaker 2: those things where I have to go buy it and
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  Speaker 2: then I have to divvy it out and then deliver
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  Speaker 2: it to Annie because Annie does not believe in cars.
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  Speaker 3: A terrible person.
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  Speaker 2: No, no, no, not at all. You care more about
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  Speaker 2: the environment, I think than me. But all those things
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  Speaker 2: that which makes perfect sense. I'm like, yeah, yeah, I
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  Speaker 2: get it, I get it. But in this segment, I
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  Speaker 2: decided I would do a check in. But before we
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  Speaker 2: do all of that because Annie has no idea what
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  Speaker 2: we're doing today, which she loves this. She loves so fun.
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  Speaker 2: She's not like this at all. Uh, what are you
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  Speaker 2: sipping on? Annie?
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  Speaker 1: I am sipping on some leftover red wine, which is
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  Speaker 1: great that perhaps I answers some questions you're going to
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  Speaker 1: ask me. But I had some wine for both you
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  Speaker 1: and I went to go see Barbie, yes this weekend separately,
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  Speaker 1: and I had some wine for that and I did
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  Speaker 1: not get anywhere close to finishing it.
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  Speaker 3: So how old is that? That's a couple of days old? Now, Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: it's fine.
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  Speaker 2: Box is one of those small mini to go boxes time, Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: that's fine of those. Yeah, there it is. I used
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  Speaker 2: to pick those up for you to go together.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Yes. And just as a reminder right now, we're not
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  Speaker 2: talking about anything that is sponsored for this episode. Something
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  Speaker 2: comes up that'll be amazing. I don't know. It's all stuff.
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  Speaker 2: We're going to talk about products, maybe we are whatever.
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  Speaker 2: And if you are drinking or whatever you're doing in
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  Speaker 2: this Happy Hour segment, do it responsibly, safely and to
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  Speaker 2: your limits. You know your limits, you do, yeah, but
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  Speaker 2: safely once again? And I am deciding yeah, because my
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  Speaker 2: health is starting to get there. I think I don't know,
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  Speaker 2: maybe I'm in denial. I am drinking a Seltzer Heart
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  Speaker 2: Seltzer once again, pineapple my favorite, and decided, I think
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  Speaker 2: my pineapple is my favorite right now, and like flavor wise.
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  Speaker 3: I have some frozen pineapple. Maybe I could. Maybe it's
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  Speaker 3: my time to make a drink for you.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, I would love that, you know, I would love that. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: let me know. But today say but I decided, we
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  Speaker 2: just need to do a check in. Even though we
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  Speaker 2: talk about the woes and worries, I want to do
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  Speaker 2: a true check in because I think I talked about
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  Speaker 2: one of the things I would do with a close
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  Speaker 2: friend of mine Anna, sister of Kristen actually former host,
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  Speaker 2: which is how I kind of got into all this,
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  Speaker 2: this whole like happenstance of getting to know Caroline because
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  Speaker 2: we realized we had a mutual friend who ended up
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  Speaker 2: being Kristin Conger, who happened to be the sister of
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  Speaker 2: one of my good friends in Athas, Georgia small, y'all,
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  Speaker 2: Georgia ends up being very small. But Anna and I
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  Speaker 2: would get together because we just loved being able to
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  Speaker 2: be real, honest and upfront with each other. I think
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  Speaker 2: for her it was refreshing to find someone like me
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  Speaker 2: who was just over the top honest and too blunt
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  Speaker 2: to the point they were like I like you, and
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  Speaker 2: other people like I really don't like you. To me,
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  Speaker 2: finding someone who has so many layers like Anna is
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  Speaker 2: one of those people that I love. She may never
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  Speaker 2: hear this, but this is my love and that she
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  Speaker 2: had so many layers to her. That's just finding different
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  Speaker 2: parts of her that was so unexpected that I was like,
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  Speaker 2: oh my god, who are you and why are you?
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  Speaker 2: This amazing? But because of this we did the sessions
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  Speaker 2: called turn wine literally be just like I know, sexist
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  Speaker 2: turned But we thought it was cute because we are
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  Speaker 2: those people that love the words. I use the word
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  Speaker 2: in the very like loving way, and I understand if
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  Speaker 2: you think that's offensive, I get it. But for me,
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  Speaker 2: it's something that I reclaimed and I have always loved
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  Speaker 2: to use. Now if someone uses if a man uses
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  Speaker 2: against me, if a man uses it against me, there's
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  Speaker 2: a good chance I'm gonna dick punch him again. Very offensive,
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  Speaker 2: I know, but just saying that I probably would. But
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  Speaker 2: violence is not the answers kids, But that in that
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  Speaker 2: we had been wine where we would drink wine and
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  Speaker 2: then just talk about whatever was happening, and it could
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  Speaker 2: be good, it could be bad, it could be concerned.
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  Speaker 2: We were in leaving college, so it was that time
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  Speaker 2: of era for us, so getting to really jump into
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  Speaker 2: our feminism and stepping away from the patriarchy, but a
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  Speaker 2: slow burn away from that. She had just left Christian
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  Speaker 2: college and I had just starting to lead the Christian world.
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  Speaker 2: We had met through a church actually, and then we realized, huh,
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  Speaker 2: this is real dysfunctional. So all of that to say,
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  Speaker 2: I kind of want to come back to the origins
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  Speaker 2: of that and talk about how are you? And I
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  Speaker 2: am one of those firm believers. When I ask you
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  Speaker 2: that question, I'm really asking you that question, whether it's
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  Speaker 2: good or bad. So let's begin Annie, how are you?
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  Speaker 3: Oh? I'm I'm good.
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  Speaker 1: I think I feel little overwhelmed by a lot of things,
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  Speaker 1: like our book. I was kind of complaining to you
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  Speaker 1: about like this problem I have, which is a great
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  Speaker 1: problem that people want to hang out with me. I
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  Speaker 1: think that issue is more I have been, as I've
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  Speaker 1: discussed on the show, trying to set up more boundaries.
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  Speaker 1: So when I get these questions I've gotten better at
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  Speaker 1: knowing the answer, but the issue is communicating it and
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  Speaker 1: not feeling.
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  Speaker 3: Bad about it. So I'm dealing with that right now.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm also dealing with this long known problem I've
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  Speaker 1: had of trying to please like everybody and then I
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  Speaker 1: end up just pissing everybody off because I'm trying to
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  Speaker 1: please everybody in my friend group and not communicating well.
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  Speaker 1: And it's it cracks me up how often on the show,
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  Speaker 1: our advice is communicate and I still don't do it
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  Speaker 1: very well a lot of times. So I would say that,
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  Speaker 1: and just I am sort of on a press. I
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  Speaker 1: feel like I want to press the po of. I
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  Speaker 1: was talking to you about finances. What am I gonna do?
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  Speaker 3: Like next?
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  Speaker 1: What should I where should I put my money? Do
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  Speaker 1: I get a house? And I got a birthday coming up?
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  Speaker 1: And it's just kind of one of those things where
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm pretty happy, but I also sometimes look
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  Speaker 1: back and I'm like, wow, so much time has just
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  Speaker 1: passed and I've been here doing this. And also I
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  Speaker 1: did kind of have a health scare where I thought
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  Speaker 1: I was gonna lose my voice, and I.
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  Speaker 3: Was like, that is my job, what I do.
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  Speaker 2: So right, that's huge. That's been your job for like
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  Speaker 2: ten years essentially, like you've been in this world. Yeah
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  Speaker 2: over ten years. Yeah, which, well the way we didn't
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  Speaker 2: really celebrate the ten years. Hey, iHeart, what's wrong with you?
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  Speaker 2: I know?
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  Speaker 1: So, oh my gosh, like real deep silly complaint. We
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  Speaker 1: have this like every of every month, which is today
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  Speaker 1: as we speak, first of August, they send out this
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  Speaker 1: like work anniversary, work birthdays thing. I'm not included on
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  Speaker 1: any of these things. And I never happened, even though
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  Speaker 1: they asked me, when did you start? April twenty ten.
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  Speaker 1: Never do I show up on the work anniversaries. It's
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  Speaker 1: like I don't even exist.
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  Speaker 2: I didn't get asked that.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I'm doing fair.
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  Speaker 2: I have done really well from hiding from.
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  Speaker 3: You're very under the radar employee.
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  Speaker 2: I have to say no members that I'm there until
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  Speaker 2: I show up. Yeah, they're like, oh, they only care
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  Speaker 2: that we're bringing in enough money and listeners. And that's
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  Speaker 2: They're like, who I like that to be honest, So
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  Speaker 2: I prefer that. I think we've talked about that before.
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  Speaker 2: Like I said, when I first started, it was right
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  Speaker 2: before COVID and in our other office, they were like, so,
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  Speaker 2: we need to get you a desk. I was like, no,
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  Speaker 2: you don't know. I don't need people to know when
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  Speaker 2: I'm not here.
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  Speaker 1: I'm good.
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  Speaker 2: I remember our original when I came in. The original
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  Speaker 2: producer for us was Christopher, who is not with us,
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  Speaker 2: who is not our producer anymore. That's not really honiss whoo.
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  Speaker 2: He's a life and fine, he's happy living his life.
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  Speaker 2: But in that he tried to like really bring me
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  Speaker 2: and I was like, I'm good, it's I'm good. I
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  Speaker 2: just need to be on this one show, right, Like
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  Speaker 2: I thought I had to do more because everybody, including you,
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  Speaker 2: were doing so much. I was like, am I am?
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  Speaker 2: I supposed to be doing this to keep my job,
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  Speaker 2: and then I found out I didn't. I was like, oh, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: I'm not here. I'm not here, but yeah, like I
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  Speaker 2: think I get that, that overwhelming feeling of trying to
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  Speaker 2: do so much, and then I'm with you on this
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  Speaker 2: whole precipice thing, but not necessarily about that, because I
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  Speaker 2: think I've I left that when I originally bought that house,
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  Speaker 2: but feeling like something that's coming, shifts are happening, and
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  Speaker 2: whether that's just the real world the big world with
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  Speaker 2: the politics that's happening, with all the policy changes. But
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  Speaker 2: then now we're seeing a lot of pushbacks and I'd
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  Speaker 2: love to see it, as people would say on TikTok
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  Speaker 2: and all the social media's the finding out part of
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  Speaker 2: the around has come around for so many So like
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  Speaker 2: watching that just kind of like this fills. There's there fills,
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  Speaker 2: something is in the air and whether that's a personal thing,
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  Speaker 2: because I was thinking about that with it our job,
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, you know, there are moments where we were
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  Speaker 2: like you have to do this, have to do this,
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  Speaker 2: and then changes happened and we're like, what is happening
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  Speaker 2: That feels like it could be a thing. I'm not sure.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe I'm just reading into things because I am an
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  Speaker 2: anxious person as we know. But there that's the big
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  Speaker 2: question is like how do we manage that, How do
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  Speaker 2: we uh like wade through that those moments to not
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  Speaker 2: going into panic mode or just giving up, which is
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  Speaker 2: what I do one the other uh huh, which is
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  Speaker 2: that level like trying to figure this out? And yeah,
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  Speaker 2: and with that kind of talking about those lines about
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  Speaker 2: how are you what's going on that conversation of like Okay,
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  Speaker 2: now we've been talking and we talked about with ease.
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  Speaker 2: I feel like we talk about it with a lot
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  Speaker 2: of people. The idea of adulting, like are we truly adulting?
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  Speaker 2: And talking about finances, talking about all these big things
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  Speaker 2: does have this conversation of like, Okay, this is what
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  Speaker 2: adulting is. How do I do this? I've been thinking
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  Speaker 2: about it with coming into talking conversations about recession. We
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  Speaker 2: need to have a look at recession and how it's
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  Speaker 2: gonna affect women and the marginalized communities, because it's gonna
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  Speaker 2: affect women in marginalized communities in a larger way. We
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  Speaker 2: know this, it's historical, we've seen this, but in that
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  Speaker 2: we're talking about, you know, where are we how do
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  Speaker 2: we handle adulting literally talking about retirement and people losing
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  Speaker 2: pensions again because of where we are today. I saw, uh,
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  Speaker 2: there was a TikTok. I don't know if you I
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  Speaker 2: don't know if it was TikTok. They've just been on
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  Speaker 2: social media in general, and I just saw it on
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  Speaker 2: TikTok where they had a video of the employee that
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  Speaker 2: had worked thirty years at a trucking company. That trucking
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  Speaker 2: company went bankrupt and he lost his entire pension, which
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  Speaker 2: is criminal. Yeah, criminal, And that's that conversation is like, Okay,
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  Speaker 2: what do we do? Mm hmm, what am I supposed
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  Speaker 2: to do? Because we don't have options like a pig
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  Speaker 2: behind the scenes. I don't understand retirement plans that are
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  Speaker 2: based on buying stock options that we have no control
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  Speaker 2: over that I can't take out with that penalty to me,
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  Speaker 2: even though it's my damn money. Yeah, and then they
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  Speaker 2: lose it and they're just like oh sorry.
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  Speaker 3: Yep, no.
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  Speaker 1: It's frustrating and it's very scary. Honestly, that is one
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  Speaker 1: of my biggest fears, because I have saved a lot
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  Speaker 1: of money and there's a part of it's like, well,
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  Speaker 1: they could tell me it doesn't exist anymore, and what
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  Speaker 1: am I going to do about it? But it's also
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  Speaker 1: upsetting because I hate the whole idea in the first place,
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  Speaker 1: that you have to like make your money work for
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  Speaker 1: you to ever retire.
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  Speaker 3: I hate that and I hate how complicated it is.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like one of my most competent friends when
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  Speaker 1: it comes to that, was recently telling me she did
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  Speaker 1: not understand any of it. And when she was telling
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  Speaker 1: me that, I was like, well.
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  Speaker 3: What of what the hope do I have?
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  Speaker 1: And I have been fined a substantial amount just for
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  Speaker 1: moving my money from one place to another, right because
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  Speaker 1: I didn't want to forget it. Honestly, that was ultimately
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  Speaker 1: I was like, one day, I'm just going to forget
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  Speaker 1: this even exists. And I got fine for it just
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  Speaker 1: to move it. And that's something that I am fortunate
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  Speaker 1: enough it was. I mean, it made me mad, it
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  Speaker 1: was a big blow, but I could handle it right.
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  Speaker 1: And that's not the case forever.
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  Speaker 2: I was there. I had that with taxes, like where
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  Speaker 2: I have to oh, oh money, and I was like,
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  Speaker 2: how I literally get paid like seven point fifty every
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  Speaker 2: two weeks. That's not even rent. How a much suppecificay
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  Speaker 2: the tax back? I don't I don't understand. Of course,
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  Speaker 2: things changed and finding those positions that many people still
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  Speaker 2: are in, Like I lived paycheck to paycheck up until
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  Speaker 2: five years ago, and that's when I held three jobs.
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  Speaker 2: When I started doing three jobs, when I was like okay,
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  Speaker 2: and by the way, this is also working for the community,
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  Speaker 2: and the community could give us about me, Like let's
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  Speaker 2: just be very honest. There's so many things. Is when
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  Speaker 2: it comes to this adulting things and there's so many
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  Speaker 2: scary things happening. I feel like when we're talking about
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  Speaker 2: how are people doing? What's going on? And I see
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  Speaker 2: things like school has started back today for many of people,
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  Speaker 2: and I am in shock. I was like, what what kiuse? Parents?
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  Speaker 2: Are you okay? Are you okay? Do you need something?
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  Speaker 2: Let us know? How are you? Because like I'm concerned,
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  Speaker 2: there are so many things that I'm like, motherhood. No.
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  Speaker 1: Well, my friend, a good friend of mine is a teacher,
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  Speaker 1: and she we'd gone on this group vacation we go
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  Speaker 1: on every year and after it was over, it always
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  Speaker 1: ends because she has to be back for teaching. Well,
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  Speaker 1: that was sort of the impetus for the week we
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  Speaker 1: chose usually, and she was saying, she has like forty
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  Speaker 1: kids in her classes and she's teaching French one to
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  Speaker 1: four and in each class or students from French one
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  Speaker 1: to four. And I'm like, well, then, how how are
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  Speaker 1: you supposed to succeed in this?
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  Speaker 2: The levels one through four all together in one class?
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  Speaker 1: My god class?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and that's the other part teachers, educators, how are you?
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  Speaker 2: Oh my god again coming back? Yeah. My partner's sister,
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  Speaker 2: she's an educator, and she was like, oh, I have
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  Speaker 2: to do these things, and trying to cram everything in.
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  Speaker 2: And she's still one of those who's been in the
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  Speaker 2: teaching world, in educational world for a while now, at
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  Speaker 2: least I'm going to say how old is she? Probably
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  Speaker 2: a decade a little over a decade of like how
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  Speaker 2: old am I? This is the age of three, and
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  Speaker 2: like the fact that they're going backtracking and trying to
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  Speaker 2: do all these things, and being told they need to
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  Speaker 2: teach these things, and not having any control about what's
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  Speaker 2: happening in classrooms half the time, and then having students
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  Speaker 2: who for whatever reason may also be really bitter about
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  Speaker 2: coming back as well, and so many things, and then
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  Speaker 2: you have the pushbacks with the government and so many things.
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  Speaker 2: Of course, it's not everyone, and these are more horror
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  Speaker 2: stories in different places. A part of her sister has not
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  Speaker 2: told any stories. She has said that right now, they're okay.
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  Speaker 2: They've had some incidents when it comes to like the
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  Speaker 2: board of education, but they've been they've not been hit
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  Speaker 2: as hard as like being called out for this thing
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  Speaker 2: or being told they can't do this and this constantly.
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  Speaker 2: And they're from a southern area as well as like
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  Speaker 2: in our state, Georgia if you've seen this. Cobb County
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  Speaker 2: has a teacher under scrutiny because she played a move
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  Speaker 2: or read a book that I think had one same
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  Speaker 2: sex couple. Nothing about it, just had a couple of there.
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  Speaker 2: And she is uh being she was terminated. Essentially, she
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  Speaker 2: is filing against them, as she should. And Cobb County
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  Speaker 2: is slowly becoming more and more left leaning. But Cobb
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  Speaker 2: County is also one of those areas that people see
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  Speaker 2: a lot of gerrymandering, way more than you would hope for.
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  Speaker 2: That has happened recently and a lot of contesting wah that.
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  Speaker 2: But like we know that things like this are happening.
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  Speaker 2: It is just horrifying, Like this is the adulting that
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  Speaker 2: we weren't prepared for. At least the finest is kind
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  Speaker 2: of not really. Actually my parents did not teach me.
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  Speaker 2: I did watch my dad lose his entire retirement because
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  Speaker 2: of the recession in early two thousands and get laid
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  Speaker 2: off and have to go through that which he was
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  Speaker 2: making six figures at one point and then it dropped
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  Speaker 2: to three hundred and twenty dollars a month from unemployment,
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  Speaker 2: which hasn't changed.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, my dad he was a professor. He got
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: it's not fur load, but basically he took a pay
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  Speaker 1: cut because they were like, well, we can't afford to
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  Speaker 1: pay it anymore, so everyone takes a pay cut.
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  Speaker 3: I'm like, what is this world?
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: What is a sudden It could be just like the
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: pcass of living going up, you were going down right.
• 18:57
  Speaker 1: And also one more thing about my teacher friend is
• 18:59
  Speaker 1: we were going grocery shopping and we were checking out.
• 19:03
  Speaker 1: There was the person, very kind person cashier. It was like,
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: do you want to donate to teachers classrooms or something?
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: And she was like, look, I have to pay for
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  Speaker 1: everything to put in those classrooms.
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  Speaker 3: I am not gonna do. She put it much more nicely.
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  Speaker 1: But that teacher was like, oh, that's where we are
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: with adulty, right.
• 19:29
  Speaker 2: That's who we are. Everybody's in this state like what
• 19:32
  Speaker 2: in the hell. Because there's also like, yeah, we with
• 19:35
  Speaker 2: the world of social media, we have so many people
• 19:37
  Speaker 2: chiming in about what they think is right or wrong.
• 19:40
  Speaker 2: Apparently there was a video where the teacher told the parents, Hey,
• 19:44
  Speaker 2: if you send supplies, it's going to be divvied out,
• 19:48
  Speaker 2: so everybody has it, so please just send it. It's
• 19:51
  Speaker 2: not just for your kid, and then people got mad
• 19:53
  Speaker 2: and apparently one comment with something along the lines so
• 19:55
  Speaker 2: like I bought them this designer brand something and I'm
• 19:58
  Speaker 2: not using this this for my kid. Like it was like, whoa,
• 20:02
  Speaker 2: I get the idea of, like you bought your kids
• 20:04
  Speaker 2: something special? Sure, sure, sure, sure sure, But then also,
• 20:08
  Speaker 2: do you not understand where the teachers are coming from
• 20:12
  Speaker 2: and trying mm hmmm, like kindness is gone when it
• 20:20
  Speaker 2: comes to schools. I don't know from some Don't get
• 20:24
  Speaker 2: me wrong, I know there's amazing parents who actually are
• 20:27
  Speaker 2: very hyper aware and self aware about things, So that's amazing,
• 20:31
  Speaker 2: But like those are those are the moments of were like,
• 20:35
  Speaker 2: what's going on?
• 20:37
  Speaker 3: It's really disheartening?
• 20:38
  Speaker 2: Yeah, why are you so unhappy? I guess maybe it's
• 20:42
  Speaker 2: the financial stuff that we're talking about being adulting and
• 20:44
  Speaker 2: adulting makes everybody unhappy. But yeah, I think that's where
• 20:49
  Speaker 2: it comes out to. It's like just finding out, hey,
• 20:53
  Speaker 2: you're good, you're not why you are even better? Why?
• 20:58
  Speaker 2: How are you? How are you? And yeah, listeners, we
• 21:04
  Speaker 2: hope you're well. No matter what, we want to know,
• 21:07
  Speaker 2: how are you?
• 21:09
  Speaker 3: Yeah? How are you?
• 21:15
  Speaker 2: No?
• 21:16
  Speaker 3: It's good.
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: I think these sessions are good. They're helpful. I understand
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: why you and Anna do it. A lot of us
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: do it.
• 21:23
  Speaker 3: You need today, you need to get it out. You
• 21:25
  Speaker 3: need to get it.
• 21:26
  Speaker 2: Out sitting and having a moment, you know. And this
• 21:29
  Speaker 2: is what I think about why I think I like
• 21:30
  Speaker 2: shows like Sex and the City because this is what
• 21:32
  Speaker 2: they do. Yes, seuse trivial. Sometimes it's over the overly
• 21:36
  Speaker 2: absurd and you're tired of it. But having a group
• 21:39
  Speaker 2: or a person just to sit down with them being
• 21:41
  Speaker 2: like what's going on and catching up and enjoying and
• 21:44
  Speaker 2: laughing and crying together and just reminiscing. It's nice.
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: It is nice. It's nice to have the person that
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: you can be like, you know what. I know it
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: sounds perhaps trivial, but this is what's going on my life,
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: and it's upsetting me.
• 22:02
  Speaker 2: And if at any point, Anna you're listening, I heart you.
• 22:06
  Speaker 2: I miss you. Let's have a session soon.
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: I've only met you once, Anna, but I like you too.
• 22:11
  Speaker 1: You got a great singing voice. A karaoke night.
• 22:15
  Speaker 2: She's an amazing singer. Actually, their whole family is. It's
• 22:18
  Speaker 2: really irritating.
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: Actually I was kind of annoyed, but that's only Sack.
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: But I'm enthusiastic and I have fun. Yes, well as
• 22:27
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