Latest / Petty and Unbothered / #12 - For our petty pets
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- Robin Axline: So glad we're recording. Here we are. Tita Lors: Alright, so I was gonna start today with a joke because I'm needing it. Are you ready? I saw this on threads. Honestly, I've been living for threads recently. They're hilarious. The drama on threads is so funny. Robin Axline: ⁓ yeah, we need to make a Petty Nunballard threads by the by. I'll make one. Yeah. Okay. Any- anyway. Tita Lors: Do it through Instagram. YouTube. Super. Yeah. And also, uh, YouTube. YouTube. We haven't been really doing video, so whatever. Okay. Are you ready? Robin Axline: Yes, I'm Joke. Tita Lors: Okay. What is a four letter word with a laugh in the middle? I read this and it took me a while to get it, but I had to say it a few different ways in my head. Robin Axline: rehab or something? No that's not a four letter word. Okay. Tita Lors: Okay, I'm going to say it two different ways and see if it helps you. So I'll say it the same way that I said it earlier. What is a four letter word with a laugh in the middle? And I'm going to say it a different way. What is a four letter word with a laugh in the middle? Robin Axline: ⁓ what? What? Tita Lors: Yeah, get it? What? Has a laugh in the middle. Robin Axline: Yes, I get it. Yes. Yeah, good one. Good one. Because it's like literally telling you. That's a good one. It made me think for a second. Pretty good. That was on threads. Tita Lors: Yes, I know. was like, yeah, exactly. ⁓ huh. You too. was like... And I said it so many times in my head too. Yeah it was on ⁓ I said it so many times, was like, what is a four letter word? What is a four letter word? Okay, so content warning for this one about grief and animal loss before we go any further. Because I lost my dog this week and that was really rough. Yeah, so I'm kind of struggling with like a ton of guilt about the last four to five years of her life. because it's vastly different than what the first decade of her life was. ⁓ So I'm like going through it and rolling back the tapes in my head and you know, there's the story of like in my head of like, ⁓ she was neglected. I neglected her. Shoulda woulda coulda, blah, blah, blah, blah. So it's gonna be. I'm not gonna be as high energy today. Robin Axline: good because I'm a bit low energy as well. But I'll make the difference. Tita Lors: okay, cool. Okay, cool. Yeah, like I did, I did pick a fun story. I don't think it's very petty, but it's And I got a lot of other ideas to like dive deeper into in the future, especially for like Halloween and stuff. But yes. ⁓ Okay. ⁓ You know, you know that I traumatized my kids yesterday by watching all dogs go to heaven. Robin Axline: I- yes, I saw that and I was like, you know, you're the coolest mom though because like these kids gotta know the stuff, you know? Like we were a bit traumatized by all that Don Bluth 90s core trauma- trauma cartoons. Tita Lors: ⁓ my gosh. Yes, where every parent is, at least one parent is dead or dies. Robin Axline: Right? Oh man. Well my brother, a side note, texted me he got the VHS of Ferngully and showed it to his four year old. I was like, dude, really? I was like, well, at least you'll learn about like, you know, yeah, that's what yeah. I was like, at least maybe that'll sink in somehow. Yikes. Anyway. Tita Lors: ⁓ no! environmentalism. Yeah. ⁓ yeah, seriously. What other movies have I like traumatized her with recently? I feel like there's been a lot. There's every time I get her to watch anything from our childhood, she's like, Mom, it's scary. I ⁓ OK, so for me, one of my favorite Disney movies are not Disney because it's not a Disney movie, is it? I don't think so. It never was counted as a Disney movie. I don't think anyways, rant, random tangent. of my favorite princess movies growing up was Swan Princess. Because she was like one of the few princesses who was like, you just love me because I'm pretty, but like, what else? Yeah. like the prince, he's like proposing to her and she's like, why do you want to get married to me? And he's like telling her how beautiful she is and blah, blah, blah. And she's like, OK, but what else? And the prince goes, what else is there? And the music cuts out and everyone's like, ⁓ wrong answer. Robin Axline: That's insane. Like, huh. No, I never even like, I mean, I saw that, of course, in like 90, I think 94 or something like that. But I mean, obviously those things just kind of went like this as a kid. How shallow, though. Tita Lors: I know, right? Yeah. Mm-hmm. Well, I mean, for me, it really stood out because, right? But that was like every prince all the time. ⁓ you're beautiful. And that's why I want to marry you. And it really stood out to me because I always felt like the ugly duckling when I was younger, because like I have all of my cousins and like all of my family members. They're very like they're very cute. They were very cute kids. and of course they've all like grown up and they're all incredibly attractive human beings, both like inside and out. But I, I had like really bad eczema and it was on my face and just like always felt so unattractive. And I was like, ⁓ well. I guess it's possible to be hideous, be like not as attractive and still have something going for me. So that was like one of my favorite movies because it made me feel like, okay, I don't have to be like, I don't have to be a princess or I don't have to be the most beautiful person because there's more to it than just that. But I didn't realize how scary that movie was until I watched it with my kids. Robin Axline: I don't, yeah, I really don't, I mean, I remember it more because my dad read me the book. ⁓ It's a, cause it does have like a little bit more of like morals, but just kind like a deeper tone to it because it's, ⁓ you know who Hans Christian Anderson is? Tita Lors: ⁓ yes, people need to know like all of the Disney movies, they're horrendous. They're like, people are maimed and mauled and like, they're somewhere in every single one of those stories. People are bleeding. ⁓ Like your favorite Disney princesses die. It's not good. They're very horrific and scary and they're meant to terrify children. Mm-hmm. I read all of the books in the Hans Christian Andersen version. I read them. And I was like, Robin Axline: Like, cause he wrote Little Mermaid 2 and that's like not that happy also. What is it? I don't know that is. Tita Lors: Studio Ghibli, ⁓ it's like My Neighbor Totoro or ⁓ Spirited Away or Ponyo. Okay, so Ponyo. Yeah, Yeah. So ⁓ I watched Ponyo recently and I just realized that Ponyo is basically Robin Axline: yeah, okay. Yes, yes, yes, yes, All those Miyazaki, yeah, yes, I know. Tita Lors: their edition of like My Little Mermaid. Yeah, because they're like, ⁓ we have to test the boy. And if he fails, she turns into seafoam. I was like, Robin Axline: interest i that's like actually one i haven't seen so ⁓ going into that i'll have to think about it yeah that's crazy Tita Lors: Yeah. Okay. ⁓ I decided to, my doggo was born in 2012, so I looked up movies about animals from that year, and it was really great because my dog was a Chihuahua, and ⁓ Beverly Hills Chihuahua 3 had just come out that year. And she looks like the, ⁓ like the Taco Bell dog. She looked more like it when she was like younger. When she got older, she was kind of like graying and turning white. But yeah, so everybody would always like make fun of her because of that. ⁓ But she's so cute and you know, you met her. Yeah, So there's that. then also, yeah, also Frank and Weenie came out that year, the stop motion. Yeah, so was like, and I love Tim Burton. ⁓ my God. Live for him. And all of his weirdness, but. I decided. Robin Axline: I've met her. Man, that's a funny question. think, yeah, I've seen some pettiness for sure. First that comes to mind, I, no, I'm not gonna try to, I still have a hard time with the loss of my cats, especially shout out to Alix But, brother and sister and they always had this like funny like petty rivalry going on and one I just that popped in my head is at nighttime they would both want to curl up with me like jump on the bed and one of them would jump on the bed and then the other one would jump on and then they'd start fighting because they didn't want to both be on the bed Tita Lors: you Robin Axline: They'd be like, it's me, I get to sleep on Robin's bed tonight. And the funny, petty thing, yeah, the petty thing about it is how they'd usually settle it is they'd kind of like have this little skirmish and then eventually they'd kind of get quiet and then they did this thing where... Even though they were so mad at each other, they would pretend that the other one wasn't on the bed also. And they would like turn their heads this way and this way. And they're so like my fingers are their heads going like this. And this is their backs and their backs would actually touch, but they pretend that the other cat wasn't there. And then just eventually like get over it and fall asleep. But it was like so petty how they were just kind of like, Tita Lors: you you it. Robin Axline: Oh, I am on the bed and you're not there. Hmm. Hmm. Kind of thing. And sometimes they even turn like this, like a yin and yang kind of formation. And it was just so freaking cute. But you could tell they both were like trying to prove a point to each other. Like, I don't see you. You're not here. And it would just crack me up because I was like, wow, that is super petty. But. Tita Lors: Yeah. Yeah. Robin Axline: they actually love each other like somehow because why would they want to be like kind of touching each other yeah it's just ⁓ man that was one that i still have an image in my head i'll just show you a picture of it yeah i have lots of pictures of them in that formation so Tita Lors: So close, yeah. Yeah. ⁓ that's so funny. What a sibling thing to do. I love it. Yes. Yay, when we post stuff on Instagram, we'll have to have like a pet tax and have pictures of our babies. Robin Axline: Definitely, definitely. ⁓ Yeah, do you have one of those little stories or big stories? Tita Lors: Mm hmm. ⁓ yeah. Betsy was super petty, like subtle petty, too. I. So. ⁓ With Betsy, it's funny because I actually was not trying to have a dog because I was well into my like ho phase, my ho era. ⁓ So I wasn't really home that much and I was just trying to like live my life. My family has ⁓ these two dogs, Kiko and Kikai. Shout out to Betsy's parents. And I would joke that every time it rains, they would have a new litter because that's just what it felt like. ⁓ And so Betsy was part of one of the litters and she was the runt and Kikai didn't really pay attention to her and wasn't like... feeding her and all that. So my uncle would like take her in and my mom got really attached to her. And she's like, she was living at my aunt's house at the time. And my mom was there all the time because that was her little sister. And my my mom was like holding her and she's like, look how cute she is. I was like, yes, very, very cute dog. So adorable. And she's like, they're going to sell her. And I was like, they do that every time they go because they can't afford to have this many dogs. So, Uh huh. And she's like, but. it would be so nice if we could keep her and I'm not for some reason registering the we in her her sentences here and I was like well you know you're a grown-ass woman if you want a dog you should own a dog right like if you need the companionship and I convinced my mom I talked her into getting the dog and keeping the dog um and she was like really you think that's a good idea she was so stoked she's like really and I was like yeah mom get a dog. This is your dog. What are you going to name her? I'm going to name her Betsy poop. And I'm like, cool name mom. Yes, that's your dog. And I, as I'm like having this conversation with her, I start to realize that my dad didn't want a dog in the house. And I'm like, hold on a second. And I asked her, where's this dog going to stay? And she's like, with you! Yeah, so I ended up with Betsy as my dog, which it wasn't part of my plan. It was the best thing that ever happened to me, having Betsy, honestly. But the petty thing is that I ended up having to, I had already made plans to be gone for like a month, a month and a half. ⁓ I was going to be like in Hawaii with my other aunt out there because I was just doing online classes for my masters at the time. So I was like, I'm going to go do them with her in Hawaii. Why not? And help her with her wedding that was coming up. And so I was like, you need to watch your dog because it is your dog. Robin Axline: Yeah. Tita Lors: And my mom was like calling me once and ⁓ she was freaking out. She's like, ⁓ my God, she's she went pee and she pooped on your bed. It's everywhere. ⁓ my God. Yeah, so that in her like pettiness and her upsetness at me leaving her, she like pooped on my pillows on my bed and she like peed all over my bed. Which took her some effort to get up to, honestly, because I had like a high captain's bed and she was like a, she's a small tiny dog. So I was like, wow, you're really mad, huh? Robin Axline: Yeah. Tita Lors: Yeah. And so I like, I know because we, Betsy and I were like, she was always, she, I would take her to class with me. She would be inside my sweater pocket because she was so teeny tiny. So she'd just be in my sweater pocket. And I would like, this one time I was in the middle of a, middle of a lecture and I was like, ⁓ my dog has to go pee. And she ended up peeing like in my hand. I was like, ⁓ no. to like leave the room, run out of the room with my dog because that's how quiet she was and how sweet she was. Like I could take her to school and nobody would even know that she was with me. ⁓ So she was just used to always being with me. And then I left for a month and a half and she was really upset. And I told my mom, like, you need to spend a lot more time with her because she's not used to being alone. Yeah, so. From then on, anytime Petsy was mad at me, she would just like poop in the middle of my studio or in the middle of like whatever. And I was just like, what did I do wrong this time? Robin Axline: Man, that's... wow. I think when I met Betsy, I think that was one of my first comments is how quiet she was. Because I was like, sometimes dogs are just too loud for me. So when I went to your house, I was like, oh, these dogs are not so loud. Thank goodness. Tita Lors: ⁓ yeah. Yeah. Yeah, they don't like, they don't bark a lot. It's mostly just if there's, mean, Valky rarely barks at the door. Usually it's only if she sees like a big dog. ⁓ But yeah. They're pretty quiet. They were good dogs or Valky is a good dog. Betsy was the best dog. I used to take her hiking with me. Yeah. Robin Axline: That's amazing. It's like such a little dog, but wow. Tita Lors: Yeah, she'd go on like, I the longest hike I ever took her on was like 13 miles. And it was like up in the Santa Monica mountains or whatever. It was a pretty rigorous hike that we went on. But I had like a backpack to like a carrier for she got tired, so I would put her in that. Yeah, she's the best. Robin Axline: That's very cool. Sounds like you had some really good times. So thanks for sharing your story. Tita Lors: Yeah, thanks. I did. She was great. So I also found some pretty funny stories on Reddit about this and they're super short. So I'm going to read those too. OK, all right. So. It's funny because I typed in like, what's the pettiest thing an animal's ever done or used and there were answers already. Somebody had already asked this question. So, Over the Moon 82, five years ago, posted. When do you think they were born, Robin? Robin Axline: I have no idea and they might be like 43 just to top of my dome. Tita Lors: Yeah, yeah. Okay, so we got another dog because I left for college and my dog would be lonely. So now I can't really take her with me because of the other dog. Well, my mom would when my mom would feed them. ⁓ well, my mom would feed them first, but sometimes I would eat first. And our second dog would then poop in front of the pantry door and look at me. Like it was my fault. Robin Axline: ⁓ my gosh. Tita Lors: That one made me think of Betsy. Okay, and then Keep It Quick said, I watched a Chihuahua hoard three plus different bones after having distributed bones. Okay, so after having distributed bones to each dog present, and she would wait lurking in the shadows until one of them set their bone down. She would run up and steal them, carry them back to her hut and would continue hoarding. and by steel, literally out from underneath them pit bulls, other chihuahuas and she wouldn't even chew them she'd just take them Robin Axline: Man, that's savage. Tita Lors: I couldn't see Betsy doing that but that's so funny. Yeah, seriously, right? A pit bull stealing from a- I mean a chihuahua stealing from a pit bull? Robin Axline: Yeah, that's pretty confident. Tita Lors: Seriously, what if the comments on that one was like, wow, that two always got some balls. Robin Axline: Yeah, right. Tita Lors: Okay, so I didn't want to do ⁓ Beverly Hills Chihuahua because I didn't want to watch the movie because I think it would have made me cry. Yeah. And I'd recently seen... Really? I saw the first one, only the first one. Robin Axline: I don't think I've seen any of those but I yeah I I remember when it dropped but I just yeah Tita Lors: Uh, but yeah, so I had recently, I've recently watched Frank and Weenie. so I thought I'd do a little deep dive on that one. Um, but not the stop motion. I was going to do both, but then this happened last night and I got tired. Um, so yeah, okay. So there's two. There's the original one from 1984. was a 27, 30 ish minute live action. a movie and there's the it's a have you do know what it's about Okay. Yeah, yeah. Okay. So it's a Tim Burton short. ⁓ And it's basically, it's basically like the Frankenstein. ⁓ story but twisted a little bit to be and it's a lot more I feel like kid friendly and fun. I like the story better. ⁓ So Victor Frankenstein is the kid's name and he's a filmmaker and his dog is like in the movies that he makes and it's super cute. His dog is a bull terrier. His name is Sparky. ⁓ And in both movies, the live action and the stop motion. something happens and the dog gets hit by a car. Yeah. So I bury him and the kid goes to school and from the science teacher learns about ⁓ reanimation of like muscles through like the electrical pulses and stuff. And so then he decides to, you know, what is it? Not excavate. What's the word when you. un-bury your dog. Wow. I know the word. Exhumed. Robin Axline: Exoom, yeah, yeah, that's it. I knew it started, it was like an EX kind of vibes, but... Tita Lors: Yes, so he decides to exhume his dog and ⁓ bring him back to life. And the visual reminded me of like science classes in school. Did you ever do the science classes where you had to like cut open a frog or the ones with the cats? Robin Axline: In high school in science we cut open a sheep's eye. That's all we did. Yeah, we didn't do cats or frogs, but we had like this metal tray with like a sheep eye. And that was it. Tita Lors: ⁓ huh. So when I moved into like, where I grew up, and I joke about it because I was like hood adjacent and like LA County School District, not the best. Don't recommend. but then we moved to like a more affluent ⁓ area and I took summer classes because I thought I was dumb in comparison to all the people. There's, my childhood is filled with a lot of really negative thoughts about myself. ⁓ We've since worked on most of them. Some we still struggle with, but it's fine. ⁓ So in this place, I took summer school because I wanted to be like, on par or like caught up to what the kids were learning in that school district. And I took a summer science class and we like opened up a frog. I'm like, what in the shit? I don't, do they do this in LA school districts? I don't know. That was my first experience of that. And then I took like AP bio and we ended up know, dissecting a cat and like part of our test was having to know where all of the organs and everything was for the cat and I was like I still don't know what any of these organs are, but I did pass that AP test so it's fine. ⁓ yeah, and I heard recently from someone that I don't think they're allowed to do that anymore. Yeah, I don't know if it's like specific school districts or specific places, but I've heard they're like, ⁓ we don't do that anymore. Like, that sucks because that was a really... It was a good experience, I will say, because I did learn and getting that hands-on experience and being able to be like, I don't want to do this. There's a part of me who wanted to do the traditional like... Filipino become a doctor route, but that cemented that I didn't want to. I don't want to be looking. Yeah. It's like, I don't need to know where all the organs are. It's fine. Yes. It also, it let me know who like the little Robin Axline: ⁓ really? Tita Lors: pansies. was trying not to cuss, like, where, who the pansies in my class were, because I was like, it's already dead. And it was a stray cat, very, yeah, you know, like, because they would, these cats were donated probably from like shelters of, you know, cats who didn't make it or, and all that stuff. And so it got donated to science ⁓ and stuff like that. So it's like, You're not killing the cat. It's already, you know, this is for our education, blah, blah, blah. And I was like, man up, Make the cut. Robin Axline: funny I have a similar story actually ⁓ like when I was in high school I was like more trying to be like a activist because I was more vegan than vegetarian at times ⁓ but so I was like I should do like a protest about this I don't want do it ⁓ and our lab partners Tita Lors: ⁓ yeah? Do tell. Robin Axline: were randomly chosen and this one guy who I never really talked to that much. He was one of the people that wore Maryland Manson shirts and like a black trench coat and would go across the street to smoke on between classes and Tita Lors: Mm-hmm. Yeah. Robin Axline: tried to look kind of scary. But I thought he was like, once he was my partner, I was like, he's actually really like nice and kind of soft spoken. And I was like, ⁓ cool. But this is the funny part is I thought, out of all the people, but then he turned out to be like a pansy, I guess, because he was like, I don't want to do it. I don't want to cut this. It's like gross kind of. And I was like, wow. Tita Lors: Mm-hmm. Yep. Nice. Yeah. you Yeah, yeah, I mean, it would be a different. Yeah, it'd be so different if it was like, ⁓ no, I like I'm against this. This is like against my beliefs or if it was like, yeah, exactly. Right. But no, it's because you're grossed out. That's why you don't want to do this. I'm like, it's. Make the cut. Yeah. Robin Axline: Yeah, like me, kind of. Yeah, I wasn't grossed out, but yeah, I think I kind of had to do a lot of it, which is ironic, but funny. Anyway, I just wanted to share because it really, yeah, it's funny how it does show like how people actually are. Tita Lors: I'd ask yourself. Yeah. Mm-hmm. Yeah, like you really find out who people are because you're over here talking about how big and bad you are and all of this stuff. You can't make a simple cut. There's not, there's no blood. There's nothing. You're going to be fine. Robin Axline: Mm-hmm. Yeah. Right. Totally. Such a funny memory unlock. Tita Lors: Yeah. Okay. So Victor has just learned that he can reanimate his dog. ⁓ And so in the live action, it's just the teacher shows them what's possible and in the stop motion. ⁓ like they're trying to make a statement. I might go deeper dive into that one, but it's a lot more fun. in the stop motion, they're encouraged to do an experiment and they like win something, whatever, but Victor's not doing it for the experience, for the prize. He's doing it because he's like, I can bring my dog back. So he does it and Sparky comes back to life. He's trying to keep them a secret. ⁓ So. Somehow the neighbors like see the dog and this was the funniest part to me about the movie or like if there's any like pettiness in the live action. ⁓ It's the part where like the neighbor or Sparky somehow gets out and then the neighbors see him and they're just like. like this creature and he runs into ⁓ Victor's house and one of the neighbors like stops the parents as they're exiting their vehicles ⁓ and they're like you know what did they say I wrote it down. Okay ⁓ so the parents get accosted by a neighbor. And the neighbors like, I don't mind that you got another dog, but you can't let him run around and scare half the neighborhood. And then I was like, we didn't get a dog. just, right, already you're laughing. like. Robin Axline: Yeah... Yeah... Tita Lors: Okay. Hold the phone there. And then I guess Sparky had scared his daughter. And so the mom was like, ⁓ honey, maybe you just imagined it. ⁓ Which I've got notes on this entire interaction. And then the dad goes, well, I didn't imagine what I saw and Rose didn't either. ⁓ And yeah, um, and then the mom says, I'm sure there's a very logical explanation for all of this. Well, well, what is it? So it made me think about like HOAs and I know you don't actually have to deal with this. You don't have, cause you're in like an apartment. Uh, wait, wait, really? No way. Tell me more. Robin Axline: No, yeah, I mean, some apartments do, but yeah, not mine. Yeah. I just know there's like standards, like you have to keep it, you know, like your fire escape or whatever, and your parking spot and that kind of stuff, I think. And there's like boards too. Tita Lors: ⁓ huh. Robin Axline: Yeah, so it is kind of, I mean, ⁓ HOA of sorts. And you have to pay dues too, so that's the other part. Tita Lors: Yeah. For what? It's an apartment. Like it's part of living in that apartment. I'm already paying you to do this. Robin Axline: Dude, I... Yeah, clearly I don't live in one of those kinds of apartments, but it exists, so yeah. Tita Lors: That would piss me off. We have an HOA and they piss me off. They, every spring, so probably now actually people, people are probably walking around and people are gonna start getting notices on their houses to tell them what they need to fix on their house. Yeah, I'm like, no. There's been two times. where I'm like, out of principle, no. It's my backyard. Like when we first got this, when we first got this house, there was a garden in the backyard. And then they told us we weren't allowed to have it. And I was like, why do you get to tell me what happens in my backyard? It's not a mess. It was great. was one of the reasons why we decided to have this house was because there was a garden back there. ⁓ And then they told us that, yeah, the previous owners weren't supposed to have it. So either the previous owners have to take it down or we do. And I was like, wow. Yeah, like the first taste of having an HOA was a bad connect. It was not good. And then the next year, the fence was leaning. So we had to, we had to do that. And if not, they were going to start like, I don't know, whatever the penalties are. I was like, cool. Bye. I have like a toddler and an infant and my partner is not here. He's at a training. So. Unless you are going to do something about it. I don't know what to tell you. But they just kept dropping off notices at our house and I was like, leave me alone. Mm-hmm. Yeah, they're not as high as other places. There are other places where it's like multiple hundreds of dollars. I don't know if it's quarterly or monthly or whatever, but I think ours isn't that bad, luckily, yet, so far. I know, seriously. Okay, so my notes on that whole conversation is ain't that a sign of the times? Right? Like being able to just walk up to your neighbor and be like, ⁓ Robin Axline: Yeah. Tita Lors: And then also how dismissive the mom was of the child's experience. Right, I noticed even you like kind of audibly sighed or laughed at the whole, well, honey, maybe you just imagined it. Comment. Yeah, that's like... that's actual gaslighting. Yep. ⁓ Yeah. And I think that like adults do that too much to kids where they try to like tell kids what their experience is and they don't actually listen to what the kid is experiencing or what's going on for the kid. So that was really annoying for me. Boop boop boop boop boop. Also. I kept looking at the dad and I was like, God, you look so familiar. Who the hell are you? And I looked him up. He's Marv from Home Alone. Robin Axline: Okay. Tita Lors: Yeah, like super, super young and he aged well, honestly, because from that to like Marv, there's not too, too much of a difference. But I was like, okay, guy, look at you. You're in like a black and white short film in 90. Yes. And then you're in Home Alone. Okay. But yeah. Anyways, that's probably like the pettiest thing. If anyone... These movies have... This movie has been out for a while, so I'm spoiling the ending for everyone. So if you don't want to the rest of this... Yeah, exactly. Exactly. If you don't want to hear the rest of it, then, you know, fast forward five or ten minutes from here, but... It's... Come on. Robin Axline: Yeah, think the statute of limitations is way past. Yeah, yeah, five or 10 minutes. All right. Tita Lors: That's a while now. So anyways, the parents are like, ⁓ you know, they find out that Sparky is still alive. And then they convince Victor that like, people are just, you know, afraid because they don't understand. They don't get it. So let's reintroduce Sparky. And they have like a not like a neighbor meeting in their living room. And they bring Sparky down. And immediately Rose, one of the other neighbors, like screams and she's like, ⁓ he tried to kill my dog. And like big reaction or they're kind of scaring Sparky and Sparky reacts obviously and then runs away. ⁓ And then ⁓ through like by accident, somehow Victor. ⁓ He ends up in this windmill on a mini golf course that he gets knocked in the head. He gets knocked out, and he almost dies because they set the windmill on fire by accident. And Sparky is the one that saves him. But in saving Victor, he gets hurt, and he dies again. And then like. Yeah. And then the neighbors are friendly like, ⁓ shit, he actually tried to shoot. He tried to like save the kid. We were wrong. ⁓ And so then, yeah, they helped to reanimate Sparky and Sparky lives. Yay. Yeah. But it like kind of got me thinking about big dogs, ⁓ big dogs and especially pit bulls. Where do you stand on that situation? Robin Axline: of structured for one and also they get kind of a bad rap even though they are way aggressive. I don't know. Tita Lors: Yeah, well, so yeah, I feel bad for pit bulls. I 100 % agree with you. Like, I'm really glad that I had a small dog and not a big dog because she got to. It was easy to bring her with me wherever I lived and whatever apartments I lived in. I didn't have to feel bad that she was cooped up in a small space because she was very small, but I always felt bad for big dogs in small spaces. like pit bulls, pit bulls I feel so bad for because they're actually super, super sweet dogs. I have. Most pit bulls that I've met with like good owners who learned proper ways to train their dogs have been the sweetest, kindest dogs I've ever met in my life and like protective and very loving and mostly gentle. There was one maybe who is still really young and didn't know his strength. And that was an unfortunate thing, but most pit bulls I've ever met are just so kind and loving. of. Yeah, so and then that made me think of a story of like one of my friends. ⁓ ex-mother-in-law's was telling me about this pit bull and like, and how it had to like get taken away or put down or something. And it was just so unfortunate because, you know, people were saying that he was so aggressive because he was like super protective of the owner, blah, blah. That's, I was barely paying attention ⁓ because I was watching for kids. ⁓ Yeah. And, and mostly honestly she just had a lot of anxiety that I was starting to like pick up it was whatever anyways so she's told me she tells me the story and I'm just like that's just so unfortunate you know pit bulls everything that I just said to you they get such a bad rap usually it's the owner's fault it's like the pit bull is aggressive there's something about that relationship or something about like how the owner treats the dog and she's like ⁓ yeah I it was it was my dog and I was like ⁓ I was like, I don't know how to fix this. was like, ⁓ well, you know, ⁓ I'm sure you did your best to... Yeah. like, ⁓ I don't know how to come back for this. Robin Axline: Foot and mouth. Not you, not you, but... That's hilarious. ⁓ no. ⁓ Tita Lors: Yeah. Robin Axline: Yeah, I think I just like ⁓ growing up kind of going over to friends houses where they do have these big dogs and they kind of jump up on you kind of scared me a little bit as a kid and I kind of still carry a little bit of that ⁓ energy. I'm like, I don't like it. It's loud barking and jumping on me. But I did have a sheep dog when I was little growing up and she was like very, very sweet and just very calm and like chill. Tita Lors: ⁓ yeah. Yeah. Robin Axline: ⁓ I think it, ⁓ she probably didn't get as much love as she needed from everybody. It's just, it is what it was. A dog that actually my mom grew up with. So it was kind of like, yeah, yeah. But, ⁓ that's my only dog. Other than that, I've just had like cats, hamsters, fish. ⁓ That's about it. Tita Lors: The girls want to get a guinea pig. like, you can have a guinea pig. ⁓ man. I said you can have a guinea pig when you start like walking Betsy regularly. Yes, we got to find a different. She can't walk Valkyrie. Valkyrie weighs more like twice as much as she does. That's not happening. ⁓ You'll find a different measure for that. ⁓ Robin Axline: ⁓ yeah. Tita Lors: Yeah, so actually I was really, really afraid of dogs too when I was little. I remember like this Chihuahua like ran across the street and chased me and I jumped into the arms of like whatever aunt I was with and I was like, ⁓ my God. Yeah. And then the owner like got it. My aunt was laughing at me and I was like, get that little rat away from me. Yeah, well, I ended up owning an adorable little rat and she was the best. She didn't do that to people at all. She doesn't jump on people. She just wanted to be in your lap all the time. Yeah. Okay. I will at some point possibly maybe talk about the stop motion version because it's actually there's petty moments in that one and it's actually really funny to me. like I'll just, so I'll share one moment in the stop motion where like the teacher actually plays a bigger role in the movie or in the stop motion. So yeah, ⁓ there's like a town hall meeting because all the parents are upset with the teacher for actually teaching their children about science. Like Pluto's not even a planet anymore. What in the world kind of stuff? What are we teaching these kids? And so they're just dragging the teacher and Victor's mom is like, okay, hold on, hold on. Like, let's give him a chance to speak, you know, maybe Robin Axline: Stop motion. Tita Lors: there's a reason why he's saying all of these things and the science teacher is like ⁓ what does he say he goes he gets a friend of everyone and he's like the reason why you all feel this way is because you're small-minded and ignorant and you're afraid of science and i'm trying to encourage your kids to learn and to enjoy science and that's how i get at their brains Robin Axline: Weird. Tita Lors: yet. Yeah, right. So the parents took it as like, oh, you want to eat their brains kind of situation. But the but he meant it in like, this is how I access their brains to actually get them to learn this information and blah, blah, blah, and all this stuff. So it's it's a really cool movie. It like had like tips attached to a whole bunch of different horror films because Tim Burton himself was like, oh, he enjoyed horror films. And there's like Easter eggs, guess, of like different older 80s ⁓ films in there and it's really good. I think even 90s films too. So I want to, I might save the deep dive into that for, for Halloweeny. Yeah. Okay. Now I have. we can go we could either just end it right there because we're already at like an hour I guess but I also have FMKs and I have like some petty animal stories that were really good that'll give you gives you the option this time Robin Axline: ⁓ Maybe we could jump into some FMKs. Tita Lors: Okay, so this is, ⁓ you're have to pick three numbers, ⁓ one through 18, but you do three, 15 or 17. Robin Axline: 12 and. Tita Lors: just reread one of the ones we already did. That's funny. I removed the tabs from all of the zippers. Okay. All right. So the first one is I was a six year old. was sorry. Wow. I was in a six year relationship. We were arguing one time and my ex admitted that she hadn't loved me for the last two years of our relationship. I knew her email password and I used her email to sign her up for a bunch of Scientology stuff and conspiracy theory websites. I then went into her games and deleted every single piece of data in all of her games. ⁓ my god. I'm not a gamer, but yikes. finally. Yeah. Finally, I changed the password so she couldn't recover any of them. Evil? Probably. But I sleep well at night knowing that she could never recover her 10 year old Minecraft world. ⁓ Robin Axline: Wow. Tita Lors: 10 years of stuff? I would be livid! I be pissed. Nah. I already know where I stand on that. I'm just gonna label that one right now. Okay. Um, my ex fiance and I had a really bad breakup. His mother called me nasty things on social media, so I called her to leave her a voicemail. I left a list of reasons why I had to leave her narcissistic son and said I saw exactly where he got it from. I kept calling her and leaving her voicemails every time I would think of a new reason. She blocked my number after a few days. Not bad. Okay. Alright, last one. I hated my dad's at the time girlfriend. She was petty and mean and homophobic and just all around cruel. At one point, I took her purse and microwaved it so that all the makeup would melt. Not my proudest moment, but it felt petty pretty damn good. Robin Axline: That one is like kind of ⁓ like almost like in a kid's mind creative person a microwave. Tita Lors: Yeah. Yeah, right? Like, aw. Okay, hold on. So the first one was, um, was number two. That's the, passwords and like the emails and the game stuff. What would you do for that one? FMK. Robin Axline: Well, I am like, getting somebody's password and first of all, that is just like a heck no. ⁓ I don't, I don't, that's somebody's personal stuff that you don't mess with. I would so ⁓ kill that one. I just don't like that at all, period. Tita Lors: Yeah, well, they already had it. Mm-hmm. Yeah. same. Yeah, I don't care how petty you're being with that is a lot of work and a lot of hours and a lot of dedication to build those worlds. And if somebody messed with mine just because they were angry at me, like, it's so uncalled for. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. No, it's X. Yeah. They're not in a relationship anymore. That was their X. Yeah. Yeah. No, somebody is saying this really hard thing to you, which you're right. It's not easy to tell somebody that you've been in a six year long relationship with. They're like, I don't think that I have loved you these past two years. And to finally get to a point of like, you know, this probably isn't working. Robin Axline: ⁓ X, OK. But yeah, so that's my stance on that one. because you get comfortable and then, yeah. Tita Lors: And then you do all of that. Yeah. I mean, that's a good enough reason to be done with the relationship. Like if I wasn't done, I am now for sure. Like, we're not. There's no coming back from that. There's nothing you can do. Actually, sorry, I'm just full. Coughing. Yeah. Okay, so unlocked memory. ⁓ I. I was in ⁓ my first adult relationship in college and it was like five years, four or five years long. And I stayed in it because, you know, it's an adult relationship and you're supposed to like try and put an effort and relationships take work. But after the first year, I don't think that I wanted to be in that relationship anymore. ⁓ And then the last year and a half, maybe two years, I was just trying to... to convince other people that I shouldn't be in this relationship anymore so that they would be okay with me leaving, which is crazy. I know, I told you, I was problematic when I was younger. Like I invited my best friend over, was like, really need you to just like, to come and like see, see our relationship more because everyone said that we were perfect for each other and I was like, this doesn't feel perfect. Um, but anyways, I fi- she finally understood why I wanted to leave. And, um, and then like I left college and we were now in like two different cities. Um, and I broke it up with him finally. My best friend made me, she literally drove me to his house and was like, have like 20 minutes and then I'm doing it for you. I was like, okay, everyone needs a best friend like her. Um. And he would like text me afterwards and he would be like, ⁓ I'm doing all these things that you used to hate that like, that you used to get mad at me for. Like I'm driving drunk and I'm doing this and I'm doing that. And I'm like, just all the things that I hated. I was like, wow, I so ⁓ man crazy how I don't want you back. definitely have convinced me that I made the right choice. Like you're not doing what you think you're doing, my guy. Like if you think, I mean, I get that I stayed in like a somewhat emotionally abusive relationship with you for that long, but once I'm out of it, you're not going to manipulate me back into being with you because you're putting yourself in danger and being an idiot. right? Like, ⁓ I'm not going to finish my program, my schooling, and it's going to be your fault. No, it's not. It's going to be your fault, dumbass. Like, what? Yeah, I'm going to get into a, right? I'm going to get into a really bad accident because I'm doing all of these dangerous things. It's going to be your fault. No, it's not. The fudge monkeys. Yeah. Robin Axline: Whew, man, glad you got out of that one. Tita Lors: I know, right? So, you know, for all of you people out there, I just want you to know that's what emotional abuse sounds and looks like. People saying that it's your fault when it's not your fault. Like, people are making the choice to be stupid and they're making the choice to harm themselves. If somebody says something that they're going to do something to hurt themselves, then you should call emergency services and have somebody do a wellness check because that's petty as fuck. And... it like if they really are going to hurt themselves then you're sending them the help that they need but if they're not it just makes them look stupid and that's great Yes. Okay. Anyways, tangent. All right. We've got, that was a hard kill. We did not like that with the changing of the passwords. Okay. ⁓ boo boo boo calling the ex's mom and leaving voicemails of why she's not with him anymore and why it reminds her of the mom. I would marry that. Yeah, mostly because of the next story. That's the microwave the bag one. Yeah, like you're so cute. That's so cute. I'll F with you, but I don't think it's gonna be forever. Yeah, it's sweet. I don't I like people have a little bit more bite to them. Robin Axline: Okay. ⁓ Yeah. Tita Lors: So. Yeah, that was fun. Again, I like that. I'm gonna be sad when we run out of stories for that one. I know I'll have to find some more. Okay. Yeah. All right. So I want to do quick glimmer and then a radical compassion segment real quick before we go. Robin Axline: I have to load some more up. Yeah, no, that was great. Tita Lors: ⁓ What's your glimmer for this week? Robin Axline: my glimmer would have to be regarding this podcast. ⁓ It has to do with creating the podcast and feeling really good about it because when I'm doing it and through the process of being open and being with you as a co-host, being an open person as well. trying not to get too savvy about it, ⁓ Tita Lors: I know I'm gonna cry. I'm already like on the brink of tears already just as these past days have been. But I love that so much for you. Like, I think you're such a cool person. Robin Axline: you Yeah, and I just... Oh, thanks for saying that. That's really nice. I think you're a cool person, so... That feeling is mutual, but I guess just I wanted to finish off by saying like the fearless... like, version of me that is present in these episodes. I found out that I can be a little bit petty sometimes, and I'm here for that too, so... Tita Lors: Yeah. Thanks. Yeah, yeah, I love it. Yeah. Robin Axline: And realizing that's okay too. yeah, that's where my head's at with the glimmer and it's ⁓ just been really strong this week especially. Tita Lors: yay, I'm so happy. I love hearing that you're like. stepping more into this like more sure version of yourself because I really think that you're one of the most admirable people that I've met because you're so kind. ⁓ And again, like I've said before, so intentional about how you do things and that people might tend to take advantage of you because of how kind you are. And I love you stepping into this more like, no, I'm you can't do that to And like, yeah, just so much even more powerful and even more like, like you said, authentic. I even have been hearing, because I've been editing everything, how just more certain you are and more able you are to just say what you're thinking. Like, you're not pausing as much to consider, ⁓ like, how you want to finish the sentence. You're just kind of saying what you want to say. And it's so cool. Robin Axline: That's really nice. I'm glad that you've kind of picked that up because I'm noticing that myself instead of saying like, what will people think or I can't be that version because the fear of kind of judgment or what I think that people want me to be and I'm subscribing to that. So it feels good to just be present with you here and with our audience. So that's it. What about you? What about you? Tita Lors: Ooh, yes. Yes. ⁓ I know. Let's not both cry. I will. ⁓ man. ⁓ I had a lot and then my dog died. Then I had other ones. Yeah. ⁓ So the ones before my dog died is my wow mom bracelet. Which I'm not even wearing because I took a shower. Yeah. So my big has been making bracelets and she's like spelling. She's in kindergarten and so she's learning how to spell and she's been reading really well. Like it's amazing. We have letter. for the bracelets, the beads, we have letter beads. And so she made us all bracelets with our names on it. She has like a, there's a dad bracelet, Lena, or my bad. Anyways, so her bracelet, her sister's bracelet. And then ⁓ she made me one and it was supposed to say mom, but you know, W's and M's look very similar. Yeah, so she picked two W's instead of two M's. Robin Axline: Hence, wow. Tita Lors: Exactly! Yeah, so it's my wow. We call it my wow mom bracelet, ⁓ because if you look at it in one direction, it's wow, and if you look at it the other, it's mom. Wow mom. Robin Axline: That's pretty sick. Yeah! I love that. That's really cool. Tita Lors: Yeah, so that's super cool. ⁓ And then the other day, was actually, I thought I had like a resting bee face on. And because I was like trying to do stuff and it randomly got hot. And this random person stopped me and they're like, you know, no disrespect, but you're really beautiful. And I was like, ⁓ thank you. Robin Axline: That is awesome! That's gotta feel good. Tita Lors: Yeah, it did feel good. Yeah, I have things to say about the whole disrespect thing, but we'll save that for another time. ⁓ And then I wanted to like shout out the emergency vet place because they were just amazing. It's Veg ER in like Chantilly, Virginia. They were... Even from like the first phone call to as soon as we got there, it was the most amazing experience I've ever had. never had to be. I think I've been to like a emergency, emergency that one other time. ⁓ But this was like an open space and the. Like they called, they called her my baby the whole time they. ⁓ She like I told her, OK, I'm like 20 minutes, 20, 30 or so minutes away. She's like, OK, great. She was like at the door waiting for me. She reminded me of like a dog wagging her tail, waiting for me to get through the doors. I told her I had my kids with me. literally spent the entire most of the time. All the vet techs were like entertaining my girls. They had coloring pages they put on blue. They like did so much. And after the. actual vet told me what was going on. Like I was in and out of some other room, just kind of processing and figuring out what I wanted to do and calling people and Ryan and like friends and people who knew Betsy. And I was like, I just need some perspective and I need somebody to tell me if I should drop 10 K to spend another like potentially two months maybe with this dog and spoil the ever living crap out of her. But like, it wouldn't have been spoiling her. would have been extending a really difficult life and like forcing her to take medication. so to make a hard choice. Yeah, they were amazing. They were literally I'm and I feel bad for them because I'm pretty sure that my kids ⁓ made them cry. But yeah, it was it was a really, really good experience. So that's also another glimmer that in my grief and sorrow and something that I was actually able to experience it and not have to like. be a mom for a while. I really, that was really great. ⁓ I know, sorry. Robin Axline: man, I am just... No, it's okay. just... ⁓ That's really nice when you find a professional that takes the care, just like that extra step to make you feel okay and secure with your loved ones. Tita Lors: Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, and the choices, like it's not an easy choice, whether it's a human or like an animal or creature, whatever. It's not easy to decide for another being whether or not their life is worth $10,000. Yeah, as ⁓ someone who's been asked this question more than once, it's not fun. but yeah, so that kind of falls into radical compassion. ⁓ there's a term in dialectical behavioral therapy. So DBT, if anyone's ever done it, it's called radical acceptance. And you're just supposed to like, accept what's happened to you and move on. Because oftentimes what happens is you get stuck and you ruminate on this one thought and you want to understand why it happened or what was the point of it and blah, blah, and all that stuff. And it's really hard to get past that. And so in DBT, it's like, you're not going to know why and you just have to accept it. It just happened and you just have to accept it. And for me, I can accept it, but What I can't accept is like, what I'm having a hard time is the guilt and the regret that I feel about like how neglected I think she was in the last few years of her life. And so I want to like, you for all the caretakers and all the parents out there who might be in a similar situation, I, you know, hope that we can all practice together radical compassion, like. a delusional amount of self love and self care and self respect and, and forgiveness because there's so much when you become a caretaker caregiver that a lot of balls get dropped and not everything you can't do everything. You can't be everything for everyone. So you just kind of have to forgive yourself. every once in a while for not being able to catch everything that you're juggling and not do everything all the time and things like this happen. And it sucks that it happened. I wish I could have done things differently. I wish I was more aware. ⁓ But as one of my friends said, it's information and it's definitely something to take forward in how I care for my other dog that's still alive. doesn't make it hurt less, but it's what I'm holding on to. Yeah. Yeah, so, you know, for all of us out there who might be experiencing this, I am there with you. I'm here with you. I'm healing with you, grieving with you. And you're doing great. However long it is that you take to grieve, because this is probably gonna take me a while. Me and grief are not friends. So if it takes you years even, then that's fine. And you're doing great. You're being a great mommy, a great daddy, a great everything. sometimes you know we can't put out every single fire when we're also trying to navigate and manage three different houses and homes. It's not easy so lean into your loved ones and just be really nice and forgiving to yourself. I'm gonna try and do the same. Yeah, anyways, grief sucks. ⁓ Yeah, you know, that's I think that's all we've got. Do you have anything else Robin? Robin Axline: Yeah. said about her and her sister after the plane crash at the funeral. And if anybody wants to look it up, I highly recommend it. It's so well spoken. And there's so many inspiring things that you can draw out of it and even bring into your own experience as a person that's alive. ⁓ Tita Lors: Yeah. Robin Axline: And like I said, I might want to dip back into that topic. for now, while we're on this, I just had to throw that in there because I just read it and it was pretty spectacular. So yeah. Tita Lors: I'm gonna go read it then. Send me the link. Yeah. Alrighty. All right. Well, again, I know it was a sad one, but if you enjoyed hearing us and hanging out with us today, subscribe, you know, anywhere you listen to podcasts, Apple, Spotify, Deezer, iHeart, where else? Amazon, all those places. ⁓ Robin Axline: I will, of course. ⁓ Even like your, if you just have an app, just, uh, do a search for petty and unbothered and we'll pop right up. So it's not even, you don't even have to have a service where we're really accessible. Um, I found that out on my, uh, podcast addicts, podcast addict app. Um, Tita Lors: That's so hard to say. I'm like, I'm not even gonna try. Robin Axline: mouthful. ⁓ But yeah, so if you have just like a podcast app, ⁓ just look for us and you can find it. You don't even have to have a service. It's that easy. And please like, rate, subscribe, recommend us to your buddies. I'm sure they'll thank you for it. And again. ⁓ right. Check those out. Tita Lors: Yeah. ⁓ there's polls on Spotify. Yeah, yeah, I keep the polls up for a month. So each episode has a poll and you can add your thoughts and let us know stuff like that or just comment on Spotify, especially. I don't know if you can do that on Apple Podcasts or any other places, but you can. Robin Axline: think you can. Yeah, you can. So give us five stars. Tita Lors: Yeah. All right. Well, do all those things. Don't miss the next episode. And until next time. ⁓ I guess we can't say this if we're trying to be friendly. I don't care. Fuck it. Robin Axline: Stay petty. Bye.