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Awkward and Funny Ramadan Moments · Obnoxiously Pleasant

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SPEAKER_01: I'm Hanan.
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SPEAKER_01: I'm Lena.
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SPEAKER_01: Welcome back, everyone, to the Obnoxiously Pleasant Podcast.
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SPEAKER_02: This week we're going to be talking about what Lena all the questions Muslims get asked during this month of Ramadan.
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SPEAKER_02: And some of some of them are funny, some of them are annoying, but we're going to talk about that.
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SPEAKER_02: And then the other uh topic we're going to discuss are just moments that every Muslim experiences.
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SPEAKER_02: Uh, some of them are like struggles or just funny situations that we find ourselves in during this month.
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SPEAKER_02: But before we get into those two topics, I wanted to ask you are you, how do you, you know, every year there seems to be confusion about when Ramadan is.
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SPEAKER_02: Are you, do you rely on the scientific method, the calculations, or do you rely on going outside and sighting the moon or or waiting for someone to tell you, hey, I saw the moon, it's Ramadan tomorrow.
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SPEAKER_02: Okay, so let's just say I rely on Google.
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SPEAKER_01: Okay.
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SPEAKER_02: On Google.
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SPEAKER_02: Okay.
0:58
SPEAKER_03: Really?
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SPEAKER_03: That's what you rely on.
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SPEAKER_01: That sounds and my mom.
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unknown: Okay.
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SPEAKER_01: Your mom.
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SPEAKER_01: Like, what does your mom rely on?
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SPEAKER_01: My mom relies on the sighting of the moon.
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SPEAKER_01: Okay.
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SPEAKER_01: Okay.
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SPEAKER_01: But but in all that's all jokes.
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SPEAKER_01: Like, but in all in all seriousness, I actually rely on Isna.
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SPEAKER_01: So and they, I think they go by like what NASA says.
1:19
SPEAKER_01: I could be wrong.
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SPEAKER_01: There's probably a much more scientific term for it, but they go by the phases of the moon that are already like predetermined.
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SPEAKER_01: So um, yeah, I just kind of I've I just like fast when everyone tells me, hey, I don't tomorrow.
1:34
SPEAKER_02: I mean, yeah, that's fair.
1:35
SPEAKER_02: My only concern, like I don't care either way.
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SPEAKER_02: Like, I just want to fast with everybody, like my family, whether they're they're in Ohio or you basically go by the sighting of the moon in Cleveland.
1:46
SPEAKER_02: Pretty much, because I can't like celebrate aid on a whole different day than they do.
1:51
SPEAKER_02: You know what I mean?
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SPEAKER_02: Like, that's my only concern.
1:53
SPEAKER_02: That's everybody.
1:54
SPEAKER_01: So you just answered your own question.
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SPEAKER_01: Everybody goes by like what their family is doing, but like if you belong to like whatever community or mosque or whatever, usually that's what people go by because you know you're gonna fast with them and you're gonna have aid with them.
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SPEAKER_02: Yeah, okay.
2:07
SPEAKER_02: So we're gonna get into we're not gonna waste any time, we're gonna get into our first topic, which okay.
2:13
SPEAKER_02: It's the questions that we always get asked.
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SPEAKER_02: And I asked my kids also, and I had a funny one to share with you.
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SPEAKER_02: But like these are the questions that we face as Muslims, uh, and we face these growing up in this country, uh, when Ramadan begins or right before Ramadan Ramadan begins or during the month.
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SPEAKER_02: So the first one, okay, I want your reaction to this.
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SPEAKER_02: Okay.
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SPEAKER_02: What do you automatically think of or want to say when someone says to you, not even water?
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SPEAKER_01: I want to be like, Yes, I'm a camel.
2:41
SPEAKER_01: You don't realize that.
2:41
SPEAKER_01: Like, I can I can store water for 30 days.
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SPEAKER_01: No, I think I think honestly, like it doesn't bother me.
2:49
SPEAKER_01: I'm gonna be completely it really doesn't bother me.
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SPEAKER_01: It is a foreign concept.
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SPEAKER_01: There is fasting in other religions, you got to think about it, but it's not like fasting during Ramadan, where you completely abstain from like food and water and yeah, everything, you know, from sunup to sundown.
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SPEAKER_01: Other religions have different forms of fasting.
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SPEAKER_01: So, like, I get it.
3:06
SPEAKER_01: I I totally understand.
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SPEAKER_01: I just think it's always funny because it's like it's like every year.
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SPEAKER_02: Yeah, every year we get asked the same question.
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SPEAKER_02: Not even water.
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SPEAKER_01: Um, no.
3:16
SPEAKER_02: So the next one, what is Ramadan about?
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SPEAKER_02: You know, why is this so in month so important for Muslims?
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SPEAKER_02: You know, and I explained this to my I tried my best to explain to my kids how to respond to that because, like you said, I don't get annoyed when people ask me questions.
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SPEAKER_02: I think it's it's awesome that they they're interested and they want to know.
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SPEAKER_02: And and there's nothing wrong with wanting to learn.
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SPEAKER_01: First of all, you really get to focus on building positive habits that the the month pushes you to.
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SPEAKER_01: If you're somebody who's like lacking in your prayer, it pushes you to do more of that.
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SPEAKER_01: If you're lacking in reading the Quran, it pushes you more into doing that.
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SPEAKER_01: But it also pushes you into doing other things like spending time with your family, even if you don't want to, right?
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_02: And and you know, like I think some people just want to know why it's so important for us.
3:57
SPEAKER_02: And it's important because, you know, like like from a theology point of view or perspective, the reason, you know, for us we celebrate this month and it's a big deal for us is because that's when the Quran was really uh revealed.
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SPEAKER_02: That's what we believe.
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SPEAKER_02: This is when the Quran, the first uh revelations uh came to the Prophet Muhammad.
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SPEAKER_02: This was the month, and this is why it's a big deal for us.
4:16
SPEAKER_02: Um yeah, peace be upon him.
4:18
SPEAKER_02: Um, okay, so I think we answered that question.
4:21
SPEAKER_02: Um, have you ever gotten the question?
4:23
SPEAKER_02: So it's like your Christmas.
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SPEAKER_02: Have you ever gotten that question?
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah, uh, and I tell people, I'm like, yeah, kind of sort of.
4:30
SPEAKER_01: You know, it's it's a very holy month, it's a month of celebration, but it's not what you would think a celebration looks like, right?
4:39
SPEAKER_01: But it is a celebration from the perspective of like worship and family getting together, right?
4:43
SPEAKER_01: Because that's for a lot of people, that's what Christmas is.
4:45
SPEAKER_01: It's you seeing family food and gathering friends and exactly, yeah.
4:48
SPEAKER_01: It's seeing family and friends that you haven't seen in a really long time.
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SPEAKER_01: And for me, as much as I love Ramadan in the pandemic, and we talked about this, yeah, I am looking a little forward to some social gatherings during Ramadan this year.
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SPEAKER_01: Like I'm not, I'm not gonna like lie and say, Oh my god, I hate them all.
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SPEAKER_01: But yeah, that it really is, it really is kind of like Christmas in that sense that you see people and you catch up with people that you haven't in a like a really long time.
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SPEAKER_02: I mean, when they say that, I'm just like, you know, it's it's a big celebration, it's a big deal.
5:18
SPEAKER_02: I I think that's how it's similar, but it's completely different, obviously.
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SPEAKER_02: But anyway, that's fine.
5:23
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, you know, sorry, inter like we need to.
5:26
SPEAKER_01: I slept on my neck wrong, or as you say, I got left.
5:32
SPEAKER_01: Okay, okay.
5:33
SPEAKER_02: It hurts you.
5:35
SPEAKER_01: I'm struggling today.
5:36
SPEAKER_01: I'm like, I'm struggling today.
5:38
SPEAKER_01: That's all I could, and every time I thought of that, I just laughed today.
5:41
SPEAKER_01: You just laughed while I was walking.
5:43
SPEAKER_01: I caught a brisk wind in my neck and shoulder, guys.
5:46
SPEAKER_02: Okay, we're gonna go to question number four.
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SPEAKER_02: Yeah, how can you survive without food and water for 30 days?
5:53
SPEAKER_01: I mean, it's not like we're not eating, you're eating every day after sundown.
5:57
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, you have to explain to them when they ask you this question, guys.
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SPEAKER_02: Like, I'm not fasting the entire 30 days with no food or water.
6:04
SPEAKER_01: But I will say it's gotten so much better since like well, at least for me, I guess because I'm not friends, for example, with like kids our kids' age.
6:12
SPEAKER_02: I'll tell you what Maya said.
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SPEAKER_02: I'll tell you what my daughter's questions, yeah.
6:15
SPEAKER_02: So she said she gave me like some of them were very like they they overlapped, they were similar.
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SPEAKER_02: But there was one, like one kid the other day asked her, he's like, if God loves you so much, why would he want you to starve?
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SPEAKER_02: And I'm like, Wow, that's that's you know, kids, that's it's it's fine.
6:30
SPEAKER_02: That's pretty yeah, and I'm like, wow, okay, and I'm like, how did you respond to that?
6:37
SPEAKER_01: You're not starving, you're just these are little kids though, yeah.
6:41
SPEAKER_02: You know, to be fair, to be fair, them.
6:43
SPEAKER_01: But I will say, I will say interjection, interjection.
6:45
SPEAKER_01: But don't you feel well, yeah.
6:49
SPEAKER_01: Well, I guess your experience can't really be compared because you went to a Catholic school, right?
6:54
SPEAKER_01: Yes, I went to a Catholic school.
6:55
SPEAKER_01: I went to public school, and I feel like now there's a lot more kids with my son that are fasting and observing Ramadan than they were when I was in school.
7:04
SPEAKER_01: Yes, right.
7:04
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, definitely.
7:05
SPEAKER_01: So I feel like I feel like there's like a little, they have their own little community now.
7:08
SPEAKER_01: It's really great.
7:09
SPEAKER_02: And and you know, the school that they go to, and I mean, they're so supportive and so awesome.
7:14
SPEAKER_02: And I got an email from them today, like one of the teachers saying, you know, let us know if you need us to do anything or whatever.
7:20
SPEAKER_02: So it's a whole different kind of and I don't think when we were growing up, it it was anything like hateful or or bad.
7:26
SPEAKER_02: It was just people, yeah.
7:29
SPEAKER_01: It's just it's just yeah, it's just exactly people weren't aware, and it was just what we it was like, think about it, like where we were in our communities, like in the 90s.
7:41
SPEAKER_01: I'm gonna put age myself, yeah.
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SPEAKER_01: Whatever everybody knows going up late 80s, 90s, um, yeah, it just wasn't, you know, it wasn't like now where there's just a lot more of us like running around and observing Ramadan.
7:54
SPEAKER_02: Exactly.
7:54
SPEAKER_01: So and it's not just and it's not just Arab Americans.
7:57
SPEAKER_01: Like I will say, like growing up in my in my area in northern Virginia, most of the people that were observing Ramadan with me were actually like Pakistani Americans, right?
8:06
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
8:06
SPEAKER_01: So like, or the the the children of immigrants or immigrants themselves.
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SPEAKER_01: So those are the people that I really would spend my time observing Ramadan with were my friends who were like of because that's just in my area, that's the other immigrant population that's prevalent.
8:19
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
8:20
SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
8:20
SPEAKER_01: Okay, so then immigrant sorry population that's prevalent.
8:23
SPEAKER_02: Sure.
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SPEAKER_02: So the next question is once they understand that it's from uh dawn to sunset and it's not the whole 30 days, the next question you usually get is isn't it hard?
8:33
SPEAKER_02: I can never do it.
8:33
SPEAKER_02: So is it hard?
8:34
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, it's hard.
8:35
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, it's hard.
8:36
SPEAKER_01: Yes, it's hard, especially as somebody who consumes coffee a lot per day.
8:40
SPEAKER_01: Yes, it's hard.
8:40
SPEAKER_01: And you know what?
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SPEAKER_01: People are like, Yeah, give it up, give it up.
8:44
SPEAKER_01: I'm like, no, no, no, I'm not gonna give it a lot until uh you know, the first, but let me tell you first day, I am.
8:52
SPEAKER_01: I'm not just on the struggle bus, I am the captain of the struggle bus.
8:56
SPEAKER_01: Like I'm tired, my head hurts.
8:59
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, it's tough.
9:00
SPEAKER_02: Your body has to adjust, but in terms of like in regards to people telling you to give up coffee, I'm just like, you know what?
9:05
SPEAKER_02: As a Muslim, there's already enough things that I can't do.
9:07
SPEAKER_02: I'm drinking my damn coffee.
9:08
SPEAKER_02: Leave me the F alone.
9:09
SPEAKER_01: Okay, let me have my coffee.
9:11
SPEAKER_01: Okay.
9:12
SPEAKER_01: It's it's not just that, it's not just about the coffee.
9:14
SPEAKER_01: I mean, I seriously, for me, I I it's such a big part of my day.
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SPEAKER_01: Like, it's something I truly enjoy.
9:22
SPEAKER_01: You know, I always tell people, people are like, Oh, well, yeah, why don't you just I'm like, I would not ask you to give up something that you truly enjoy.
9:27
SPEAKER_01: So I just I love coffee, it's a very and I love it in all its forms, right?
9:31
SPEAKER_01: Like I love I love that the the the Ottawa coffee, like the you know, like the Turkish coffee.
9:37
SPEAKER_01: I love or Greek coffee, depending on where you are from in the world, right?
9:40
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, let's not offend anybody because you know, okay, whatever.
9:43
SPEAKER_02: After Homosgate, after homose gate, cheese.
9:46
SPEAKER_02: Okay, um, let's go.
9:48
SPEAKER_03: That food was so freaking polarizing.
9:51
SPEAKER_02: Anyway, whatever.
9:52
SPEAKER_02: Uh, let's go to the next question.
9:54
SPEAKER_02: So, and and then sometimes people get more interested and they want to know a little bit more.
9:58
SPEAKER_02: And then one question that I used to get a lot is what about pregnant women or people who are sick or older people, you know, and just like just to explain to people, since we're already asking questions, I mean answering questions, do you want to take that one?
10:11
SPEAKER_01: Oh, yeah.
10:12
SPEAKER_01: So if you are pregnant, you obviously do not have to fast.
10:16
SPEAKER_01: Okay.
10:16
SPEAKER_01: This is if you are sick, you don't have to fast.
10:19
SPEAKER_01: If you're somebody who's on medication that needs to be taken like every couple few hours, or if you're, you know, some people who are diabetic don't fast.
10:27
SPEAKER_01: It's not something, yes, it's a requirement, but like God is also like merciful.
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SPEAKER_01: Like one of the 99 names of Allah is that most merciful.
10:36
SPEAKER_01: So if you're somebody who you are physically incapable of fasting, you were not gonna like nobody wants you to die.
10:44
SPEAKER_01: It's cool.
10:45
SPEAKER_01: Exactly, right?
10:46
SPEAKER_01: That's not that's not the point.
10:47
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, and then you can wait.
10:48
SPEAKER_02: There's other things that you can do as a Muslim during this month, you can still be part of it.
10:53
SPEAKER_02: It's just you know, you can't fast.
10:54
SPEAKER_02: It's fine, it doesn't mean you know anything bad.
10:58
SPEAKER_01: And and honestly, like I want I want people, and I'm gonna interject, and I'm about to get like so uncomfortable for some people, but it's okay, we're all adults here, right?
11:06
SPEAKER_01: So, a lot of people just to show you, like to go back to my point about how merciful Allah is in in these situations or on us as like believers or as worshippers, right?
11:15
SPEAKER_01: Like I bad Allah.
11:17
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, as a woman, when you have your period, you don't have to fast.
11:20
SPEAKER_01: You know why?
11:21
SPEAKER_01: Because that is an exhausting week of your life.
11:23
SPEAKER_01: Some people it's really easy, some people it's not easy at all.
11:27
SPEAKER_01: But people say, Oh, it's because you're dirty, it's because of this.
11:30
SPEAKER_01: No, it's not because of that, it's because Allah is merciful, and Allah did not you cannot literally and figuratively be losing a part of you and be tired and not well, and then be expected to do this other, you know, task that's also heavy on your like on hard on your body.
11:46
SPEAKER_02: So yes, I'm glad you you you mentioned that.
11:49
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, um, we're all adults here, and even if you're exactly it's okay to talk about your our periods, guys.
11:54
SPEAKER_02: Something that is so taboo in our culture, it's there's no need to it doesn't have to be taboo, it's something that I mean, this is not what the religion teaches us anyway.
12:01
SPEAKER_01: But no, no, no, no.
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SPEAKER_02: Do you so the next question do you mind if I eat or drink in front of you?
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SPEAKER_02: Like, you know, I have friends or colleagues who get worried, and I'm just like, guys, no, I it doesn't bother me.
12:11
SPEAKER_01: I I honestly think that that when somebody asks that question, I don't take offense to it.
12:15
SPEAKER_02: I think it's no no no, this is not offensive, and I think it's so sweet of them.
12:19
SPEAKER_02: So I'm always like, Listen, you can eat whatever you want to eat.
12:22
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, like do you can drink?
12:23
SPEAKER_02: I tell, like, you know, what I explained to them is I'm gonna be really mean.
12:27
SPEAKER_01: Yes, I don't mind if they're drinking coffee.
12:31
SPEAKER_01: It's the coffee, right?
12:32
SPEAKER_01: I get so, you know, like it's not that I don't want them to, it's just I get really sad.
12:38
SPEAKER_01: Like I'm gonna lie.
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SPEAKER_02: You know, there's another the the next topic when we go to the next segment, there's a section about this that I want to talk about.
12:47
SPEAKER_02: But just when someone even is nice enough to ask me that, yeah, focused.
12:53
SPEAKER_02: We're not there yet.
12:54
SPEAKER_02: When someone is nice, I I always explain to them like, listen, guys, I do this for God, I'm not doing it to for anybody.
13:00
SPEAKER_02: And when I do it, I'm a hundred percent in.
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SPEAKER_02: Like, I'm not like, oh my god, I'm gonna do it.
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SPEAKER_02: You know, like it's not about that.
13:05
SPEAKER_02: If if that's how you feel, you shouldn't be able to do it.
13:07
SPEAKER_01: Let me tell you, I have I have moments like that where I'm like, I just gotta get through the day.
13:12
SPEAKER_02: It's okay, you just gotta get through the day, but it doesn't mean you don't want to do it, you know what I mean?
13:16
SPEAKER_02: So when someone asks me, I'm like, Thank you guys, it's really sweet.
13:19
SPEAKER_02: You don't have to worry about me.
13:20
SPEAKER_02: You can, and I'm like, it's okay, eat more because I get more like credit with God.
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SPEAKER_02: So it's not eat in front of me.
13:26
SPEAKER_02: I don't know about more credit.
13:28
SPEAKER_02: Okay, I these are the lies I tell myself.
13:30
SPEAKER_02: Okay, can you just stop?
13:32
SPEAKER_02: Can you not ruin it for me?
13:35
SPEAKER_01: I'm gonna let you have this.
13:36
SPEAKER_02: Yes, so it's fine if you ask us that.
13:38
SPEAKER_02: Usually, I think like 99% of us don't mind, like there's no point in us doing fasting if we're gonna be upset if someone ends in front of us.
13:47
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, fasting that minds.
13:48
SPEAKER_01: I mean, some people prefer just let like not to participate in things where other people are eating, they're just mostly because uh we can get to this in like the yeah, yeah.
13:58
SPEAKER_01: In the next yeah, yeah, because you know what I would or I could just speak for myself.
14:02
SPEAKER_01: Most of the time I don't participate because I'm just a crabby patty.
14:04
SPEAKER_02: Like that's yeah, maybe okay.
14:07
SPEAKER_02: Last question that we usually get as Muslims during this month how much weight do you lose during Ramadan?
14:13
SPEAKER_02: None.
14:13
SPEAKER_02: So absolutely none.
14:15
SPEAKER_02: None see that's the thing.
14:16
SPEAKER_02: The assumption is that you know, we have our own built-in diet system or something.
14:20
SPEAKER_02: Like, guys, we don't lose weight.
14:22
SPEAKER_02: I wish I wish it's the opposite, it's the opposite, you know?
14:27
SPEAKER_02: Because, like, yes, you're not eating all day, but then you're getting up in the middle of the night, you stuff your face with food, and then uh once a ftah rolls around, yeah.
14:37
SPEAKER_02: I don't know.
14:38
SPEAKER_01: I just and then the sweets and the desserts, like how and I have this like, and you know what's really funny is that the entirety of the year I don't have a sweet tooth.
14:46
SPEAKER_01: Ramadan rolls around and it is just out of freaking control.
14:50
SPEAKER_01: I'm just okay.
14:51
SPEAKER_02: Can I just say it's all the sweets?
14:53
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, it's knafa.
14:55
SPEAKER_02: Speaking of all the sweets, okay.
14:58
SPEAKER_02: There was one, there was one Ramadan, obviously not last Ramadan or the previous because it was the pandemic and we were all in all stuffing our faces, but there was one Ramadan where me and my husband decided we're not gonna have we're not gonna do any sweets, we're not gonna have any sweets, and that's the first Ramadan that I actually lost weight.
15:11
SPEAKER_02: So I think it's the sweets.
15:13
SPEAKER_02: Makes sense.
15:14
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, I think it's the sweets.
15:15
SPEAKER_02: Okay, so now I can't live without it.
15:17
SPEAKER_00: It's okay.
15:18
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, it's fine, dude.
15:19
SPEAKER_02: We're fasting all day.
15:19
SPEAKER_02: We deserve to eat.
15:21
SPEAKER_02: So now we're gonna talk about the moments that every Muslim experiences during this month.
15:27
SPEAKER_02: Some of them are funny, some of them are not, but the first one is bad breath.
15:34
SPEAKER_01: You know, honestly, I feel sometimes that it's more um like in my mind than it actually is in reality.
15:42
SPEAKER_01: Uh, because like I brush my teeth, I floss, I mouthwash, mouthwash.
15:46
SPEAKER_01: I'm definitely I mean.
15:52
SPEAKER_02: The masks.
15:53
SPEAKER_02: I wear my mask everywhere.
15:55
SPEAKER_02: So now I don't feel as I'm not gonna be as self-conscious about it as I was before.
15:59
SPEAKER_01: No, no, no, no, no.
16:00
SPEAKER_02: You know, because like that's the thing.
16:02
SPEAKER_02: Like we brush our teeth, we use mouthwash, but sometimes we're always like you said, the concerns like, oh my god, what because we haven't had anything in our in our system in our mouth.
16:09
SPEAKER_02: So of course it's gonna be, you know, exactly.
16:11
SPEAKER_02: So yeah, I mean, like, so that's that's one of the things that we we sometimes worry about.
16:15
SPEAKER_02: Um, number two scarfing down food at sahur.
16:22
SPEAKER_01: I can't do that.
16:23
SPEAKER_01: I can't I have a hard time having regular people breakfast.
16:26
SPEAKER_01: Imagine I yes, yes, because I have a child that's fasting, so we get up, we make it a point.
16:34
SPEAKER_01: It is so hard for me because half the time I feel like I'm just gonna barf.
16:38
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, it is hard.
16:39
SPEAKER_02: And you know, I used to before the kids started fasting, I used to just skip it.
16:42
SPEAKER_02: I just get up to drink water, honestly.
16:44
SPEAKER_01: Me too.
16:45
SPEAKER_01: Like I just I'd keep one of these lovely red solo cups right by my bed.
16:50
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, that's the thing.
16:51
SPEAKER_02: I just kept water next to my bed.
16:52
SPEAKER_02: Like I'd get up to pray fajr or whatever, but that's it.
16:55
SPEAKER_02: I never actually ate.
16:57
SPEAKER_02: Like you said earlier, it's our kids, we have to feed them, you know.
17:00
SPEAKER_02: So it's like we gotta get up and feed them because they are fasting.
17:03
SPEAKER_02: Absolutely.
17:04
SPEAKER_02: Okay, so the other moment or awkward moment or situation where you're fasting and then you forget you're fasting, and then you end up eating something or taking a sip of water.
17:14
SPEAKER_02: Your reaction to you, you know, that's happened by accident to everybody.
17:18
SPEAKER_02: Absolutely.
17:19
SPEAKER_02: What's your initial reaction when that happens?
17:23
SPEAKER_02: It's like, thank you, God, you felt my pain, you helped me out.
17:27
SPEAKER_02: That's why I'm like, that was the sign.
17:30
SPEAKER_02: He knows, he knows he knows she's struggling.
17:33
SPEAKER_02: Let me just let her forget for a minute and have her have a bite or drink something.
17:38
SPEAKER_02: Exactly.
17:38
SPEAKER_02: That's so funny.
17:39
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, I think like, and then you realize after you're like, oh, snap.
17:43
SPEAKER_02: I mean, that doesn't usually happen often to me, though.
17:45
SPEAKER_02: No, no, no, no, no.
17:46
SPEAKER_02: Me neither.
17:46
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, but what it does, I am so thankful.
17:49
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, you're like Alhamdulillah.
17:51
SPEAKER_02: Okay, pretty much.
17:52
SPEAKER_02: Um so another thing that usually happens, and it seems it only happens during Ramadan or when I'm fasting, when a colleague brings in like donuts to work for everybody.
18:00
SPEAKER_02: And I'm just like, really?
18:02
SPEAKER_02: On the day that I'm fasting.
18:04
SPEAKER_01: Thankfully, this year I'm working from home for the entire month of Ramadan.
18:07
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, lucky you, but you know what?
18:09
SPEAKER_02: I mean, now with after the pandemic, I'm like, I don't even want anybody to I don't want to touch anybody's food that they bring in.
18:14
SPEAKER_02: I just I can't.
18:15
SPEAKER_02: Like it's weird, right?
18:17
SPEAKER_01: Um, well, not if it's like donuts, especially duck donuts.
18:21
SPEAKER_01: Right?
18:21
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
18:22
SPEAKER_01: What donuts?
18:23
SPEAKER_01: Duck donuts.
18:24
SPEAKER_01: What the hell is that?
18:26
SPEAKER_01: What you don't know what duck donuts are?
18:30
SPEAKER_01: No, what is that?
18:31
SPEAKER_01: That's what we're doing after the Maldon.
18:32
SPEAKER_01: Duck donuts are these like so, first of all, like the flagship store was in like duck, like North Carolina, like in the Outer Banks.
18:39
SPEAKER_01: Okay, okay.
18:40
SPEAKER_01: And it is the most delicious donut you will ever have.
18:45
SPEAKER_01: It's fluffy, it's cakey.
18:46
SPEAKER_01: So how are we gonna get it here?
18:47
SPEAKER_01: Do they have oh yeah, they have they have them all over the one's about to open across the street from my house.
18:52
SPEAKER_02: Oh, okay.
18:53
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, okay.
18:54
SPEAKER_02: Halas, it's a date then.
18:55
SPEAKER_02: Okay, I mean, do we really need the donuts in Canada?
18:58
SPEAKER_02: I know what I mean.
18:59
SPEAKER_01: Yes, of course we need the donuts.
19:01
SPEAKER_02: Dude, there's like 500 calories in each one.
19:04
SPEAKER_02: I don't think we were fasting, right?
19:06
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, it will be fine.
19:07
SPEAKER_02: Anyway, okay, so the the thing that you know how you mentioned earlier about coffee and like smelling coffee.
19:12
SPEAKER_02: So I feel like I get a heightened sense of smell during this month.
19:17
SPEAKER_02: And I searched it up, and it's true that when you're fasting, you do you yeah, the the sense of smell kind of gets heightened.
19:24
SPEAKER_01: So for me, no, if it's just overall, for me, it's just for coffee.
19:30
SPEAKER_02: That's the thing.
19:30
SPEAKER_02: I can smell coffee a mile away when I'm fasting.
19:33
SPEAKER_02: And I'm just like, oh my god, I wish I can have that right now.
19:36
SPEAKER_02: Like, I could care less about food.
19:38
SPEAKER_02: I do not care about food.
19:39
SPEAKER_02: And I you know what, I can even deal with the no water.
19:41
SPEAKER_02: Okay, but the coffee is what hurts the most.
19:43
SPEAKER_02: Alhamdulillah.
19:44
SPEAKER_02: There's another thing that some Muslims do, or I mean, I've seen it enough, where they Google pictures or videos of food.
19:52
SPEAKER_01: I mean, if it pops up on Instagram and stuff, then yeah, but like I don't go hunting for it.
19:56
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, yeah, I never understood that either.
19:58
SPEAKER_01: Okay, so here's another thing constantly checking the time to see how many hours or minutes are left until you break your because I always tell people, I'm like, look, it's fajr, dhr, and then asrr.
20:13
SPEAKER_01: And then it's so it's like that's true.
20:16
SPEAKER_03: It is like that.
20:18
SPEAKER_03: Like literally, asr lasts for what I feel like is a long time, a long time.
20:24
SPEAKER_02: And it's the hour right before I thought what happens to me is like oh minutes, minutes.
20:29
SPEAKER_01: We actually call that the witching hour because it's when all the kids go crazy.
20:31
SPEAKER_01: That's that was that's that's my husband's term for it.
20:34
SPEAKER_01: It's the witching hour, everybody just goes nuts, and yeah, everyone's fighting with each other, and everyone's getting on each other's nerves, and every somebody says something sassy to someone else.
20:45
SPEAKER_02: Yes, yes, and then we all eat, and it's like we're a different group of people.
20:48
SPEAKER_02: But see, no, it's not it's the opposite, I feel for me.
20:50
SPEAKER_02: Like everyone is so dead tired, like no one has the energy to fight with anybody.
20:54
SPEAKER_02: And then as soon as you put give them food, it's like all hell is breaking loose.
20:58
SPEAKER_02: Really?
20:58
SPEAKER_02: No, we're like the opposite.
21:00
SPEAKER_02: It's so yeah, maybe.
21:01
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, they get their energy after they eat.
21:04
SPEAKER_02: Um, okay, so the next one is You're right.
21:06
SPEAKER_01: I am gonna make a coffee after this.
21:08
SPEAKER_02: My I am just saying you'll be productive after thought.
21:12
SPEAKER_01: Oh, hell no.
21:13
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, but you we all say that, but we never do it.
21:16
SPEAKER_01: So sometimes I am productive post-thought.
21:18
SPEAKER_01: I'm not gonna lie to you.
21:19
SPEAKER_01: Like there are days when yeah, but there are days definitely where I will, there's a lot of stuff that I put off that I'm like, after I've thought I'm gonna be okay.
21:26
SPEAKER_01: But like if I really put my mind to it and I like grab my computer and sit down and stuff, no, I am productive, but I do work.
21:31
SPEAKER_01: A lot of times, though, during the day, I'm very productive, which causes me to be extremely tired after after like there are days at work where it's so busy and you're putting all your energy and focus into being awake and like on top of it that when it's time, you're just like, okay, I'm but I have a moment like like every day during the day, like there's a an hour where I am struggling, where I am struggling to keep it together, and then either I sleep it off for like half an hour or something, yep, or I just like just deal with it and just you know let it pass.
22:05
SPEAKER_01: I mean, but there are yeah, there are days though when it is so hard to not sleep it off.
22:09
SPEAKER_02: So I don't know if you if you do this now still, but I know when I was a kid I did this a lot, and even sometimes now I do it when I'm fasting, like I'll be listing the uh mentally listing the foods that I want to eat.
22:20
SPEAKER_01: Like the minute you break your fast, you're like, I'm full.
22:23
SPEAKER_02: Right?
22:24
SPEAKER_02: And then like like I was just talking to my mom about like um the soups.
22:27
SPEAKER_02: I'm like, I don't believe in soup.
22:29
SPEAKER_02: Like I always make it every day for a star.
22:32
SPEAKER_02: That's my favorite book.
22:33
SPEAKER_02: But if I know, but like that's the thing.
22:35
SPEAKER_02: Like my son will he's like he has to have soup, and I get that.
22:38
SPEAKER_02: But I if I have soup, if I have soup, then that's gonna take away from the space that I have for food allocated for food that really matters to me because like you get full so easily.
22:49
SPEAKER_00: I don't care, I'd rather get full on that.
22:51
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, really soup?
22:52
SPEAKER_00: It's my it's my like I love it.
22:55
SPEAKER_02: So another one is finally breaking your fast and then getting the dreaded food coma.
23:03
SPEAKER_02: Every night, every night work.
23:05
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, it's just some nights are better than others, but for the most part, yeah, you get it, and you're just like, Yeah, it's so awful.
23:12
SPEAKER_02: I know it is awful.
23:13
SPEAKER_02: And then the the last one that I have on here is getting your period right before if thought.
23:19
SPEAKER_02: It's happened to every single one of us lately.
23:21
SPEAKER_02: It's happened to every single one of us.
23:22
SPEAKER_02: Can I just say that?
23:23
SPEAKER_02: And maybe I shouldn't say this, but I'm just like, I'm not going to the bathroom.
23:26
SPEAKER_02: I'm just gonna, you know, roll.
23:30
SPEAKER_02: If I don't know, if I don't know, then I can't be held accountable for it.
23:35
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, if I don't know, I don't know, then I don't know.
23:38
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, yeah, because I know, but it's you're fasting, no, you're fasting all day and you're like, God damn it, like you know it's there, but like I I I shouldn't do that.
23:45
SPEAKER_02: You're right.
23:46
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, no, don't but it's happened to it's happened to everybody.
23:49
SPEAKER_01: Let me tell you, the minute I find out, I'm gone.
23:51
SPEAKER_01: I'm like, give me that water and we get a snack.
23:53
SPEAKER_01: Even if it's like right before iftar, you don't get upset.
23:56
SPEAKER_01: I do, so that's why I'm just like, let me go get a snack, let me go get water, it's done.
24:01
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
24:01
SPEAKER_01: Um, did you want to say anything else?
24:04
SPEAKER_01: Um, I just wanted to say I hope everybody has a wonderful and peaceful and blessed Ramadan.
24:09
SPEAKER_01: Ramadan Karim to everybody.
24:11
SPEAKER_01: Uh, celebrating, not celebrating.
24:13
SPEAKER_01: I hope it is a month of of peace and uh spirituality and beauty for everyone, like everywhere.
24:21
SPEAKER_01: Yes, um, yeah.
24:22
SPEAKER_01: So that's it.
24:23
SPEAKER_01: And um, I can't wait to catch up with everybody and see like how your Ramadan is going and what you're doing or what you're not doing.
24:29
SPEAKER_02: Yes, Ramadan Mubarak to everybody.
24:32
SPEAKER_02: Um, and we'll see you on next week's episode.
24:35
SPEAKER_02: InshaAllah, inshallah.
24:37
SPEAKER_02: All right, bye guys later.