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It is a Wednesday, it's April 8th, it's
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2026, and from the beautiful background that you
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see here, yes, I am at Montclair State
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University, and the building you see directly in
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All right guys, so it's great to be
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State University.
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Hope all of you guys had a great
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Passover or you had a good Easter or
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so let's get right into the show.
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We have a great master topic for the
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week, as you know, we always do.
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I really appreciate you guys dropping in.
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Because we are live on a campus ground,
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the beauty of being live here in this
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environment.
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All right guys, so this is Inspirations for
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Your Life.
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It's Wednesday, April 8th, and yes, How to
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Become Living Proof is our granular for today.
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And that is, guys, Series 5, in case
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you didn't know, yep, Series 5.
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It's show 15, and it's episode number 5.
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Yeah.
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So, yes, it's great to be here.
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Oh, who am I?
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Sure.
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I'm John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video producer,
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podcast host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate student, and
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a passionate lifelong learner.
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And pretty soon, guys, next Friday, not this
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Friday, but next Friday, that's like nine days
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away, I will be an official published author
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with a hardcover book, a Kindle version, and
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yes, even an Audible version that I'll be
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reading.
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So really excited about that.
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And today was the day, actually, today, April
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8th, 2026, that the Library of Congress actually
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cataloged our ISBN number, so really grateful for
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that.
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So, you know, most people talk about change
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that I'm with, but very few actually become
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it.
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When we become what we want to embody,
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it happens.
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If your life doesn't show it, it's not
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real yet.
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I think that causes change to affect people
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in the fact that they're never going to
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get something, and that's not true.
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It's just they haven't aligned with it yet.
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And in a world full of noise, what
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people trust is not what you say.
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It's what you consistently do.
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We've said this before, actions speak louder than
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words, right?
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So let's dive right in.
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Number one, guys, let your life be evidence.
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Results are the only proof that cannot be
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debated.
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Can't debate results, right?
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Number two, results speak louder than claims people
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make.
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What you produce matters more than what you
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promise.
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That's another insight that I think a lot
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of people miss, and they try to stuff
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it under a rug, and that's just not
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good.
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Number three, guys, change should show growth, but
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must be visible to be believable.
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Hey, there's my slogan, BelieveMeAchieve.com.
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So change should show growth, must be visible
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to be believable.
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Yeah, if you can't see something, how can
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you believe it?
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But, you know, when we talk about things
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that we can't see, like religion or other
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things, we have to have faith.
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We have to have blind faith that what
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we know is going to exist, even though
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we can't see it here with our two
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eyes or feel it with our hands.
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We know that we know that we know
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it's on its way or we know that
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we have it already.
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We know it's ours.
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Like this book being published, I knew it
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was mine even before it got an ISBN
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number.
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I just felt it in every core of
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my body.
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Number four, guys, quiet proof beats loud promises.
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Consistency outperforms hype every single time, every time.
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Number five, guys, live what you say.
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Alignment builds instant credibility.
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Alignment builds instant credibility.
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And as I'm out here in the beautiful
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outdoors, I'm seeing the beautiful birds.
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One literally came literally about two feet from
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my foot.
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It was just interesting to see the bird
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just staying there.
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And they're just kind of like just moving
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very slowly and they're watching me and I'm
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watching them.
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And it's just, it's really neat.
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Number six, guys, integrity.
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Yeah.
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Integrity is visible.
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People feel what is real without explanation.
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And that bird is just you can't see
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it, but that bird is just he's just
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there and he's watching.
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I'm waving to him and he's just kind
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of he's staying.
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He's about a good three or four feet
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from me.
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And it's nice when nature comes so close
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to you, you can actually just see the
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bird.
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How are you?
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I'm just waving to him and he's looking
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back at me.
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And it's really nice.
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All right.
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Number seven, transformation leaves fingerprints.
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Real change always leaves a trace.
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That's inevitable, OK?
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You may not want to accept that.
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You may not want to believe that.
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But everything you've ever done and ever will
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do will leave a trace, whether it's good
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or whether it's bad.
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Right.
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Number eight, be the example, not the excuse.
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So many people in our world make excuses
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to why they don't want to do something,
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why it can't be done.
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Your life should demonstrate possibility, accountability, not a
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bunch of excuses.
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Hey, how are you?
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I'm just I'm really just fathomed by this
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bird, just like he's getting closer to me
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and he's like coming around a circle and
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he's looking at me and he's just like
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he's just watching me.
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I know you can't see that.
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It's like it's really amazing to watch that.
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All right.
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Number nine, guys.
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Consistency makes belief believable.
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Repetition builds trust.
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Maybe I should have had a camera on
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the bird.
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He's like getting so close to me, he's
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going around the back.
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All right.
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Number 10.
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Number 10.
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Character is your loudest message.
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Who you are speaks before you do.
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So that means that your presence comes from
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your character, comes from your integrity.
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Comes from your belief that you are something
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or you're not something right.
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I want to go back to Henry Ford
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and he said something very important.
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If you believe it and you believe you
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can, you're right, if you believe it and
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you believe you can't, you're also right.
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So our belief creates our reality.
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In other words, our perceptions create reality.
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Number 11, guys.
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Proof is built daily.
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Small actions compound into undeniable results.
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Proof is built daily.
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Small actions compound into undeniable results.
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That's something you might have heard of before,
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but maybe you just kind of pushed it
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under a pillow or something because you didn't
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believe that that actually meant something.
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The people that actually have the proof.
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And have been able to use it and
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share it, live by this every single day.
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Number 12, let healing become visible.
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Growth should show in behavior.
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There's three more birds.
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They just literally swooped.
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You missed it.
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They swooped right around me here sitting outside
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and they're all right with other birds doing
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and they're just kind of like now I've
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got two of them and they're both looking
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at me.
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OK.
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All right.
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Nature is fun.
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So let healing become visible.
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Growth should show in behavior.
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That's your behavior.
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Number 13, your habits are testimony.
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What you repeat defines who you're becoming.
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So when a pattern gets repeated.
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OK.
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It starts to shape.
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Who we are.
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Our actions, our integrity, our character.
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All right.
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And I think that's something that a lot
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of people.
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Have tried to.
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Shall I say, put a lower priority on
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because they think that because it's one thing,
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OK, that it means nothing, but actually it
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means so much more because these are your
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habits and these small habits are what turn
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into your life.
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Number 14, walk your message into the room,
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right?
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Your presence should confirm your words.
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I didn't say pick up a cell phone
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and text your message.
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I didn't say email your message.
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I said, walk your message into the room,
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whether it's on a piece of paper or
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whether you're going to deliver it.
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Your presence should confirm your words.
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And I think when somebody knows that our
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presence is there, it oftentimes gives us more
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respect.
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Because there's a genuineness that accompanies it.
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Number 15, guys, private discipline creates public credibility,
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private discipline creates public credibility.
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What you do unseen.
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Builds what is seen.
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All right, so what are we trying to
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say, John, what you do in private, the
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actions, your attitude carries through to what will
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be seen in public.
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If even if you're saying, well, John, no,
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that's not going to happen.
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It is because your actions, your mannerisms are
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all going to flow through to your public
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character.
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There's no separation between your private character and
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your public character, your private character might be
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a little quieter, right?
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But your public character is going to inherit
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a lot of those same traits.
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Number 16, earn trust through pattern.
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Earn trust through a pattern or through patterns.
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Consistency over time creates certainty.
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Consistency over time creates certainty.
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So earn trust through patterns.
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Consistency over time creates certainty.
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This is why, you know, I was watching,
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I think it was Below Deck when I
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was on the plane the other day and,
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you know, there was this one person that
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brought on these people that were going to
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date and he did something very interesting.
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He said to the, to the singles, he
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said that he got down to the last
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two and he says, well, I'm not really
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ready to make a decision, so I'd like
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to date you both and just see how
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it plays out.
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And they're like, I don't think I really
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like that idea.
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And the other one came out very rudely
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and said, well, we're not a buffet.
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So the fact that people want to impose
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their agenda.
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That's terrible, OK?
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That obviously broke trust.
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In him, and the fact that they were
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saying these things was a power play to
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get him to make a decision.
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In fact, one of the batches just walked
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right, walked right, right off the boat when
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it got to the dock.
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The other one was kind of like going
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to get ready to walk out and wasn't
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happy.
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But he said to her, you know, I'd
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like to still keep seeing you.
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He's like, oh, I guess it's OK.
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And I think sometimes people try to push
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their agendas on others when.
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That's just not right.
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It's not right.
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That breaks the circle of trust.
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And when somebody acts a certain way consistently.
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And we know that that's when we build
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a trust, that's when we build this camaraderie,
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right?
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This rapport, it doesn't happen in five seconds,
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guys, it does not.
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Number 17, guys, number 17, show what growth
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looks like.
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Become the example others need to see, hear
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and experience, show what growth looks like, be
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an example of what growth will be, be
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that example.
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Number 18, guys, let your actions answer questions.
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Results remove doubt.
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When you demonstrate something and everyone else says
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you can't, it suddenly causes this big ripple
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effect and people do like a like a
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quick backtake, like what was that about?
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But it gets people to re-evaluate because
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you're able to do what they said you
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couldn't do.
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Number 19, guys, let your actions answer questions.
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Guys, stability is contagious.
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Yeah, let's just get over that.
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People follow what feels grounded.
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People follow what feels, are you ready for
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this word, guys?
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Comfortable.
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But I said before that success actually starts
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to happen when you learn to get comfortable
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being uncomfortable.
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That's what I've said before.
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And that is the truth.
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But a lot of people don't want to
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admit that.
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They don't want to admit that.
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They want to just sit on that nice
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warm chair or snuggled up under the covers
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or that hot cocoa or that ice cold
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latte on a hot day.
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They want what's comfortable.
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They don't go by discomfort.
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And that's an important thing that I think
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we all need to realize.
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Number 20, demonstrate the possibility you preach.
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Be the evidence it works.
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So demonstrate what is possible and then show
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people through your actions and results that, hey,
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it works to believe it works to start
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perceiving your reality.
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Okay.
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Neville Goddard said something a long time ago,
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and I follow him a lot.
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He said, you know, to be where you
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want to be, you need to live the
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feeling of the wish fulfilled.
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That's a very powerful statement, but most people
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don't do it because they're trying to force
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it.
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They're not allowing their emotions.
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They're not allowing their mind and body to
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go somewhere.
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A wise person once told me, if you
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go somewhere in the mind, you will eventually
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go there in the body.
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So go there in the mind and the
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body will eventually follow.
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Number 21, guys, embody the standard.
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Do not lower it, live it daily.
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Embody the standard, support the standard.
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Don't lower it.
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Don't change it because this is going to
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be easier because it's going to be more
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comfortable.
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Don't do that.
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A lot of people do because they don't
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want to feel uncomfortable.
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Number 22, influence grows from alignment.
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People trust what is real, what they see,
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what they hear, what they touch, what they
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taste, what they smell.
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That's what they define as real.
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You can't negotiate that.
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It's valid.
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Number 23, do not market what you do
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not live.
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Don't preach, don't share what you don't live.
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Authenticity cannot be faked.
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No, it can't be.
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If you try it, you might fool some
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of the people some of the time, but
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you're never going to fool all the people
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all of the time, so start being authentic.
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Your life will change exponentially in a real
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positive way.
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Number 24, make progress undeniable.
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Consistency makes you impossible to ignore.
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When you're consistent, things keep happening over and
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over and over and over again, and people
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see that kind of behavior, they build a
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trust, they build a respect, they build a
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commodity with you, a rapport with you.
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People look for patterns because those that operate
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in patterns generally stay that way.
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They're what we call reliable, right?
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Number 25, guys become hard to dismiss.
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Results eliminate opinions.
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Results are truth.
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Results are fact.
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Okay.
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Become hard to dismiss results.
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Eliminate opinions.
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Number 26 guys.
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Let change behavior.
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Do the talking transformation speaks for itself.
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You're trying to achieve something and suddenly that
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happens.
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When I say suddenly, you're working on something
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for a while and to you, it seems
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sudden, but it's taken a while.
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That locks in the fact that the behaviors
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and the actions you are taking are the
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correct ones and they should be rewarded again,
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again, again, again, again, number 27 guys.
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Authenticity is powerful proof.
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Truth carries weight without any kind of effort.
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Truth carries weight without effort.
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So when you're true to yourself, it's very
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easy to be true to others.
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When you're true to others, more people flock
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to and say, you know what?
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I want to hang around with somebody like
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you.
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I want to be with you.
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You say what's on your mind.
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You're not afraid to tell the truth.
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You're accountable.
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These are the qualities people look for.
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Number 28, your life can validate hope.
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Others believe when they see it in you,
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when they see it in you, they suddenly
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have this epiphany moment, like, wow, that's incredible,
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but it doesn't always happen immediately, it takes
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some time, but when that happens, either a
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slow change or a quick change happens and
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you realize that you're either going the right
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direction or you're going the wrong direction, number
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29 guys.
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Build evidence with repetition.
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Consistency creates confidence.
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There it is again.
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It's that pattern, consistency, confidence, accountability, trust.
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That's what people look for.
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They look for these qualities, but some people
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will do some things today or some things
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tomorrow, and they're not consistent in their business
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life.
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They're not consistent in their relationships.
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They're not consistent in any of their behaviors.
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So people define them as a flake, somebody
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that's not all there.
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They have lots of words for these people.
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Someone that doesn't have quote unquote their act
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together.
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People that have different types of actions in
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the same environments cause others to step back
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and say, wait a minute, maybe we should
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check on this first.
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Or maybe we should think about this, right?
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This happens a lot in job interviews.
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People get a good perception of you, but
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then what happens is they want to meet
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you in person or they want to have
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a video interview with you that is different
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than the quick handshake or the quick meeting
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that you had together, they want to see,
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do your skills and does your attitude hold
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up in another environment?
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Like their environment.
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Or when let's say it's more off the
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cuff or you're being asked questions that are
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pretty straightforward, but they're meant to get your
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genuine responses.
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When you ask somebody a question and they're
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on a job interview or what have you,
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and they take too long to answer that
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question, do you know what that means?
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It means that they are trying to reconstruct,
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but they're not.
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They're constructing something that they have no idea
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about.
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So for example, I'm going to ask you
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about the science of, I don't know, let's
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say a pretty big one is meteorology.
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And you have no experience about meteorology.
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And so I ask you, well, tell me
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what was it that made you want to
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get a meteorology?
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And you're sitting there like a deer in
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the headlights.
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Well, you know, it's about weather and I
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like weather.
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That's a horrible answer.
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Or they might say something to you like,
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so tell us what was your most interesting
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experience when you started forecasting the weather?
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Here we go again, the deer in the
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headlights.
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Well, I think it was the day when
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I said it was going to rain and
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it snowed or, and that doesn't mean anything
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either.
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There's no, there's no connection to anything.
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So what you're trying to do so hard
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with the deer in the headlights is you're
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trying to construct something that never really existed.
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It's one thing.
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If you actually went to meteorologist school or
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you reported the weather, or you were a
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part of a weather group in school, you
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can say, well, gee, you know, I remember
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the time when I was in whatever grade
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it was and we were working on this
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weather project and I was so fascinated with
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the way rain actually comes back and the
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way it's this cycle starting with the water.
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Now, if you didn't study it, you wouldn't
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be able to make that up.
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Okay.
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That's important.
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Also, somebody that's trying to construct data.
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It's not factual.
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They just pick things out of wherever.
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Okay.
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Number 30 guys, build living proof, stop explaining
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and start showing.
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So many people I know want to explain,
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want to prove things.
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Don't try to prove anything.
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Show me your results.
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Become the change Gandhi, right?
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Become the change you want to be.
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I love that quote.
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So become living proof.
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And the way you become living proof is
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by becoming the change.
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That's powerful guys.
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That's extremely powerful.
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So, um, before I wrap up tonight, I
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want to thank you first of all, for
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joining me this evening, if any part of
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this show tonight hit you in any small
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or big way and cause a shift, stop
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talking about who you want to become.
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Start proving it with your actions because ladies
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and gentlemen, real influence is not built through
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words.
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It is built through the evidence you set
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with your life.
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When your life reflects your message, you do
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not need to convince anyone.
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They see it.
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They feel it.
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They believe it.
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And that ladies and gentlemen is when everything
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changes, your credibility grows, your impact expands, and
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your presence becomes undeniable.
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You do not need more talk.
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You need more alignment in your life.
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Become living proof today.
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For more insights, visit BelieveMeAchieve.com.
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We'll help you get on that path to
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becoming even more successful and more intentional.
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The next chapter of your life starts now.