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E 277: How to Build Resilience When Life Falls Apart, Guest Tom LeNoble · Adult Child of Dysfunction

• 0:47
  Well,
• 0:47
  good
• 0:47
  morning
• 0:48
  everybody,
• 0:48
  and
• 0:48
  welcome
• 0:49
  back
• 0:49
  to
• 0:49
  another
• 0:49
  episode
• 0:50
  of
• 0:50
  Adult
• 0:50
  Child
• 0:50
  of
• 0:51
  Dysfunction.
• 0:51
  Today
• 0:52
  we
• 0:52
  have
• 0:52
  with
• 0:52
  us
• 0:53
  Tom
• 0:53
  Lenoble.
• 0:54
  He's
• 0:54
  an
• 0:54
  executive
• 0:55
  leader,
• 0:55
  an
• 0:55
  international
• 0:56
  speaker,
• 0:56
  a
• 0:57
  resilience
• 0:57
  coach,
• 0:58
  a
• 0:58
  philanthropist,
• 0:59
  a
• 0:59
  best
• 1:00
  selling
• 1:00
  author.
• 1:01
  He
• 1:01
  is
• 1:01
  also
• 1:01
  CEO
• 1:02
  of
• 1:02
  the
• 1:02
  Academy
• 1:03
  for
• 1:03
  Coaching
• 1:03
  Excellence
• 1:04
  and
• 1:04
  a
• 1:04
  leadership
• 1:05
  coach
• 1:05
  with
• 1:05
  the
• 1:06
  Miller
• 1:06
  center
• 1:07
  at
• 1:07
  Santa
• 1:07
  Clara
• 1:08
  University.
• 1:09
  His
• 1:09
  best
• 1:09
  selling
• 1:10
  memoir,
• 1:10
  My
• 1:11
  Life
• 1:11
  in
• 1:11
  Business
• 1:11
  Suits,
• 1:12
  Hospital
• 1:12
  Gowns
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  and
• 1:13
  High
• 1:13
  Heels,
• 1:14
  is
• 1:14
  now
• 1:14
  published
• 1:15
  and
• 1:15
  we're
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  going
• 1:15
  to
• 1:15
  let
• 1:15
  him
• 1:16
  tell
• 1:16
  you
• 1:16
  about
• 1:16
  that
• 1:16
  one.
• 1:17
  He's
• 1:17
  also
• 1:17
  the
• 1:17
  creator
• 1:18
  and
• 1:18
  host
• 1:18
  of
• 1:18
  the
• 1:18
  Opening
• 1:19
  Pathways
• 1:19
  podcast,
• 1:20
  a
• 1:21
  former
• 1:21
  executive
• 1:22
  at
• 1:22
  Facebook,
• 1:22
  Walmart.com,
• 1:24
  palm
• 1:24
  and
• 1:24
  MCI,
• 1:25
  and
• 1:25
  now
• 1:26
  he
• 1:26
  mentors
• 1:26
  founders
• 1:27
  and
• 1:27
  leaders
• 1:27
  worldwide.
• 1:28
  But
• 1:28
  more
• 1:29
  importantly,
• 1:29
  what
• 1:30
  I
• 1:30
  think
• 1:30
  is
• 1:31
  your
• 1:31
  philanthropy,
• 1:32
  like,
• 1:33
  I
• 1:33
  feel
• 1:33
  like
• 1:33
  in
• 1:34
  listening
• 1:34
  to
• 1:34
  the
• 1:34
  podcast
• 1:35
  episodes
• 1:35
  that
• 1:35
  you've
• 1:35
  been
• 1:36
  on,
• 1:36
  everything
• 1:37
  you
• 1:37
  do
• 1:37
  or
• 1:37
  every
• 1:38
  experience
• 1:38
  you
• 1:38
  have,
• 1:39
  somehow
• 1:40
  you're
• 1:40
  like,
• 1:40
  okay,
• 1:40
  how
• 1:41
  can
• 1:41
  I
• 1:41
  help
• 1:41
  everybody,
• 1:42
  somebody
• 1:42
  else
• 1:42
  not
• 1:42
  experience
• 1:43
  this?
• 1:44
  And
• 1:44
  I
• 1:44
  love
• 1:44
  that
• 1:45
  about
• 1:45
  you.
• 1:45
  But
• 1:46
  welcome,
• 1:46
  Tom.
• 1:47
  Thank
• 1:47
  you,
• 1:47
  Tammy.
• 1:48
  It's
• 1:48
  great
• 1:48
  to
• 1:49
  be
• 1:49
  with
• 1:49
  you
• 1:49
  and
• 1:49
  I
• 1:50
  love
• 1:50
  what
• 1:50
  you
• 1:50
  just
• 1:51
  said
• 1:51
  because
• 1:51
  it's
• 1:51
  why
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  I
• 1:52
  do
• 1:52
  what
• 1:52
  I
• 1:52
  do.
• 1:53
  And
• 1:53
  it's
• 1:54
  great
• 1:54
  to
• 1:54
  be
• 1:54
  with
• 1:54
  you
• 1:54
  and
• 1:54
  your
• 1:54
  viewers
• 1:55
  today.
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  Well,
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  thank
• 1:56
  you.
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  And
• 1:57
  also
• 1:57
  the
• 1:58
  fact
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  that
• 1:58
  I
• 1:58
  know
• 1:58
  we're
• 1:59
  going
• 1:59
  to
• 1:59
  go
• 1:59
  into
• 1:59
  your
• 2:00
  whole,
• 2:00
  you
• 2:00
  know,
• 2:00
  your
• 2:01
  story
• 2:01
  and
• 2:01
  what
• 2:01
  happened
• 2:02
  and
• 2:02
  obviously
• 2:03
  how
• 2:03
  you
• 2:03
  wrote
• 2:04
  your
• 2:04
  book,
• 2:04
  how
• 2:04
  that
• 2:04
  came
• 2:04
  about,
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  but
• 2:06
  just
• 2:06
  the
• 2:07
  source,
• 2:07
  the
• 2:07
  resilience.
• 2:09
  And
• 2:09
  talk
• 2:10
  to
• 2:10
  me,
• 2:10
  because
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  you've
• 2:11
  had
• 2:11
  some
• 2:11
  experiences
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  where
• 2:12
  resilience
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  is
• 2:13
  such
• 2:13
  a
• 2:14
  must.
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  Well,
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  first
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  I
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  want
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  to
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  share
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  with
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  you
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  what
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  I
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  how
• 2:17
  I
• 2:17
  define
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  resilience.
• 2:19
  I
• 2:19
  define
• 2:19
  resilience
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  as
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  not
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  only
• 2:21
  getting
• 2:22
  up
• 2:22
  after
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  you
• 2:23
  fall
• 2:23
  down
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  or
• 2:24
  whatever,
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  however
• 2:25
  you
• 2:25
  want
• 2:25
  to
• 2:26
  describe
• 2:26
  it,
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  but
• 2:27
  it's
• 2:27
  really
• 2:27
  about
• 2:28
  how
• 2:28
  we
• 2:28
  grow
• 2:29
  from
• 2:29
  it.
• 2:30
  I
• 2:30
  see
• 2:30
  resilience
• 2:31
  and
• 2:32
  muscle.
• 2:33
  Just
• 2:33
  like
• 2:33
  you
• 2:33
  exercise
• 2:34
  your
• 2:34
  bicep
• 2:35
  or
• 2:35
  tricep
• 2:36
  to
• 2:36
  make
• 2:36
  sure
• 2:36
  you
• 2:36
  have
• 2:36
  those
• 2:37
  guns
• 2:37
  in
• 2:37
  your
• 2:37
  arms.
• 2:38
  Resilience
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  is
• 2:39
  the
• 2:40
  same
• 2:40
  thing.
• 2:40
  The
• 2:41
  more
• 2:41
  you
• 2:41
  use
• 2:41
  it,
• 2:42
  the
• 2:42
  better
• 2:42
  it
• 2:43
  serves
• 2:43
  you.
• 2:44
  And
• 2:44
  the
• 2:45
  great
• 2:45
  news
• 2:45
  about
• 2:46
  resilience,
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  I
• 2:47
  love
• 2:47
  to
• 2:47
  say
• 2:47
  resilience
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  is
• 2:48
  your
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  greatest
• 2:49
  currency
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  because
• 2:51
  the
• 2:51
  stock
• 2:52
  market,
• 2:52
  your
• 2:52
  title,
• 2:53
  your
• 2:53
  job,
• 2:54
  a
• 2:55
  disaster
• 2:55
  can
• 2:56
  take
• 2:56
  your
• 2:56
  house,
• 2:56
  God
• 2:57
  forbid,
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  but
• 2:58
  no
• 2:58
  one
• 2:58
  can
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  take
• 2:59
  your
• 2:59
  resilience.
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  And
• 3:01
  that's
• 3:02
  really
• 3:02
  your,
• 3:03
  you're,
• 3:03
  I'm
• 3:04
  a
• 3:04
  victor
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  or
• 3:04
  I'm
• 3:05
  a
• 3:05
  victim.
• 3:05
  You
• 3:05
  know,
• 3:06
  if
• 3:06
  you
• 3:06
  don't
• 3:06
  have
• 3:06
  that
• 3:07
  resilience,
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  you're
• 3:07
  going
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  to
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  fall
• 3:08
  right
• 3:08
  into
• 3:08
  that
• 3:08
  victimhood
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  and
• 3:09
  you're
• 3:09
  just
• 3:09
  going
• 3:09
  to
• 3:09
  be
• 3:10
  like,
• 3:10
  oh,
• 3:10
  woe
• 3:10
  is
• 3:10
  me.
• 3:10
  This
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  is
• 3:11
  just
• 3:11
  the
• 3:11
  way
• 3:11
  it
• 3:11
  is.
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  But
• 3:12
  if
• 3:12
  you
• 3:12
  have
• 3:12
  that
• 3:13
  resilience
• 3:13
  to
• 3:13
  be
• 3:13
  like,
• 3:14
  okay,
• 3:14
  that
• 3:15
  sucked.
• 3:15
  But
• 3:15
  what
• 3:16
  can
• 3:16
  I
• 3:16
  learn
• 3:16
  from
• 3:17
  this?
• 3:17
  Or
• 3:17
  what?
• 3:18
  How
• 3:18
  can
• 3:18
  I
• 3:18
  grow
• 3:18
  from
• 3:19
  this?
• 3:19
  Like
• 3:19
  you
• 3:19
  said,
• 3:20
  I
• 3:20
  love
• 3:20
  the
• 3:20
  comment
• 3:21
  that
• 3:21
  you
• 3:21
  made
• 3:21
  about
• 3:23
  what
• 3:23
  do
• 3:23
  you
• 3:24
  call
• 3:24
  them?
• 3:25
  Terrible
• 3:26
  gifts?
• 3:26
  Terrible
• 3:27
  gifts.
• 3:27
  I
• 3:27
  was
• 3:27
  trying
• 3:27
  to
• 3:28
  think.
• 3:28
  Yes,
• 3:28
  yes,
• 3:29
  you
• 3:29
  just,
• 3:29
  you
• 3:29
  just
• 3:30
  touched
• 3:30
  on
• 3:30
  that.
• 3:30
  You
• 3:31
  know,
• 3:31
  I
• 3:31
  want
• 3:31
  to
• 3:32
  share
• 3:32
  with
• 3:32
  you
• 3:32
  and
• 3:32
  your
• 3:32
  viewers
• 3:33
  about
• 3:33
  terrible
• 3:33
  gifts
• 3:34
  because
• 3:35
  I
• 3:35
  find
• 3:35
  it
• 3:35
  to
• 3:36
  be
• 3:36
  so
• 3:36
  true,
• 3:36
  if
• 3:37
  we're
• 3:37
  open
• 3:37
  to
• 3:37
  it.
• 3:38
  You
• 3:38
  know,
• 3:38
  things
• 3:39
  happen
• 3:39
  to
• 3:40
  us
• 3:40
  in
• 3:40
  life,
• 3:41
  things
• 3:41
  happen
• 3:41
  to
• 3:42
  people
• 3:42
  we
• 3:42
  love,
• 3:43
  we
• 3:43
  lose
• 3:43
  somebody
• 3:44
  we
• 3:44
  love,
• 3:44
  a
• 3:45
  relationship
• 3:46
  ends,
• 3:46
  our
• 3:46
  pet
• 3:47
  dies,
• 3:47
  we
• 3:47
  lose
• 3:48
  a
• 3:48
  job,
• 3:48
  or
• 3:48
  we
• 3:49
  get
• 3:49
  sick.
• 3:50
  Terrible
• 3:51
  things
• 3:51
  happen
• 3:52
  in
• 3:52
  our
• 3:52
  lives,
• 3:52
  things
• 3:53
  that
• 3:53
  we
• 3:53
  would
• 3:53
  never
• 3:54
  want
• 3:54
  to
• 3:54
  happen
• 3:55
  or
• 3:55
  wish
• 3:55
  on
• 3:55
  anyone.
• 3:56
  But
• 3:57
  here's
• 3:57
  what's
• 3:57
  true
• 3:58
  from
• 3:58
  them.
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  Whether
• 3:59
  it's
• 4:00
  a
• 4:00
  month,
• 4:00
  a
• 4:01
  year,
• 4:01
  or
• 4:01
  five
• 4:02
  years,
• 4:02
  there's
• 4:03
  often
• 4:03
  a
• 4:04
  gift
• 4:04
  from
• 4:05
  that
• 4:05
  experience,
• 4:06
  which
• 4:06
  is
• 4:06
  why
• 4:06
  I
• 4:06
  call
• 4:07
  them
• 4:07
  terrible
• 4:07
  gifts.
• 4:08
  You
• 4:09
  know,
• 4:09
  my
• 4:09
  favorite
• 4:09
  story
• 4:10
  about
• 4:10
  this
• 4:10
  Tammy
• 4:11
  is
• 4:11
  this
• 4:11
  woman
• 4:11
  that
• 4:12
  I
• 4:12
  know,
• 4:13
  and
• 4:13
  she
• 4:15
  was
• 4:15
  a
• 4:16
  super
• 4:16
  athlete,
• 4:17
  like
• 4:17
  Olympiad
• 4:17
  level.
• 4:18
  She
• 4:18
  went
• 4:18
  in
• 4:18
  for
• 4:19
  a
• 4:19
  minor
• 4:19
  surgery,
• 4:20
  got
• 4:21
  mrsa,
• 4:21
  had
• 4:22
  to
• 4:22
  have
• 4:22
  her
• 4:22
  leg
• 4:22
  cut
• 4:22
  off.
• 4:24
  So
• 4:24
  there
• 4:25
  she
• 4:25
  sits,
• 4:25
  wheelchair,
• 4:26
  cane,
• 4:27
  walking
• 4:27
  stick.
• 4:29
  You
• 4:29
  know,
• 4:29
  you
• 4:29
  can
• 4:29
  go
• 4:30
  to
• 4:30
  some
• 4:30
  dark
• 4:30
  places
• 4:31
  with
• 4:31
  that.
• 4:31
  Well,
• 4:31
  she
• 4:32
  got
• 4:32
  frustrated
• 4:32
  because
• 4:33
  she
• 4:33
  didn't
• 4:33
  like
• 4:33
  the
• 4:33
  way
• 4:34
  the
• 4:34
  cane
• 4:35
  in
• 4:35
  the
• 4:35
  walking
• 4:35
  sits
• 4:36
  look.
• 4:36
  So
• 4:36
  she
• 4:36
  created
• 4:37
  in
• 4:38
  her
• 4:38
  own
• 4:38
  oven
• 4:38
  in
• 4:39
  the
• 4:39
  kitchen,
• 4:39
  an
• 4:39
  acrylic
• 4:41
  cane,
• 4:42
  fashioned
• 4:43
  the
• 4:43
  handle
• 4:43
  around
• 4:44
  a
• 4:44
  wine
• 4:44
  bottle.
• 4:45
  And
• 4:46
  today,
• 4:46
  this
• 4:47
  woman
• 4:47
  has
• 4:47
  a
• 4:48
  global
• 4:48
  business
• 4:49
  making
• 4:50
  these
• 4:50
  unbelievably
• 4:51
  beautiful
• 4:52
  canes
• 4:52
  and
• 4:52
  walking
• 4:52
  sticks
• 4:53
  for
• 4:53
  people.
• 4:54
  So
• 4:54
  people
• 4:54
  that
• 4:54
  are
• 4:55
  in
• 4:55
  that
• 4:55
  situation
• 4:55
  can
• 4:56
  be
• 4:56
  proud
• 4:56
  of
• 4:56
  what
• 4:57
  they've
• 4:57
  got.
• 4:57
  And
• 4:58
  people
• 4:58
  focus
• 4:58
  on
• 4:59
  that
• 4:59
  versus
• 5:00
  perhaps
• 5:00
  how
• 5:01
  they're
• 5:01
  perceived
• 5:02
  in
• 5:02
  their.
• 5:03
  Whatever
• 5:04
  they're
• 5:04
  trying
• 5:04
  to
• 5:04
  either
• 5:04
  recover
• 5:05
  from
• 5:05
  or
• 5:05
  deal
• 5:06
  with
• 5:06
  in
• 5:06
  life.
• 5:06
  Anyway,
• 5:07
  these
• 5:07
  are
• 5:08
  terrible
• 5:08
  gifts.
• 5:09
  There
• 5:09
  are
• 5:09
  gifts
• 5:10
  from
• 5:10
  it.
• 5:10
  I
• 5:10
  know
• 5:11
  I
• 5:11
  have
• 5:11
  had
• 5:12
  many.
• 5:13
  So
• 5:14
  I'll
• 5:14
  give
• 5:14
  you
• 5:14
  just
• 5:14
  an
• 5:14
  example
• 5:15
  of
• 5:15
  mine.
• 5:15
  And
• 5:15
  for
• 5:16
  the
• 5:16
  listeners
• 5:16
  out
• 5:16
  there,
• 5:16
  click.
• 5:17
  Close
• 5:17
  your
• 5:17
  eyes
• 5:17
  and
• 5:18
  just
• 5:18
  picture,
• 5:19
  say
• 5:20
  picture
• 5:20
  a
• 5:20
  time
• 5:20
  in
• 5:21
  your
• 5:21
  life
• 5:21
  where
• 5:21
  you
• 5:21
  can
• 5:22
  say,
• 5:22
  this
• 5:22
  wouldn't
• 5:23
  have
• 5:23
  happened
• 5:23
  if
• 5:24
  blank
• 5:25
  had
• 5:25
  never
• 5:25
  happened.
• 5:26
  Because,
• 5:27
  I
• 5:27
  mean,
• 5:27
  I
• 5:28
  know
• 5:28
  I
• 5:28
  was
• 5:29
  wanting
• 5:29
  to
• 5:29
  write
• 5:29
  a
• 5:29
  book
• 5:30
  and
• 5:30
  I
• 5:30
  was
• 5:30
  not
• 5:30
  slowing
• 5:31
  down
• 5:31
  enough
• 5:31
  to
• 5:31
  write
• 5:32
  a
• 5:32
  book.
• 5:32
  I'm
• 5:32
  like,
• 5:32
  I
• 5:32
  gotta
• 5:33
  write
• 5:33
  this
• 5:33
  book.
• 5:34
  And
• 5:34
  then
• 5:34
  I
• 5:34
  fell
• 5:35
  off
• 5:35
  a
• 5:35
  scooter
• 5:35
  going
• 5:36
  15
• 5:36
  miles
• 5:36
  an
• 5:36
  hour
• 5:37
  after
• 5:37
  a
• 5:37
  Yankee
• 5:38
  game
• 5:38
  one
• 5:38
  night
• 5:38
  with
• 5:38
  my
• 5:39
  son
• 5:39
  and
• 5:39
  four
• 5:39
  or
• 5:39
  five
• 5:40
  ligaments
• 5:40
  in
• 5:40
  my
• 5:40
  knees.
• 5:41
  And
• 5:42
  like,
• 5:42
  I
• 5:42
  was
• 5:42
  like.
• 5:43
  And.
• 5:43
  And
• 5:43
  the
• 5:43
  very
• 5:44
  day
• 5:44
  like
• 5:45
  that,
• 5:45
  well,
• 5:45
  the
• 5:45
  next
• 5:46
  night
• 5:46
  in
• 5:46
  the
• 5:46
  emergency
• 5:47
  room,
• 5:47
  I'm
• 5:47
  sitting
• 5:47
  there
• 5:47
  and
• 5:48
  I'm
• 5:48
  like,
• 5:48
  wow,
• 5:49
  I'm
• 5:49
  going
• 5:49
  to
• 5:49
  be
• 5:49
  able
• 5:49
  to
• 5:49
  write
• 5:50
  my
• 5:50
  book
• 5:51
  because
• 5:51
  I
• 5:51
  can't
• 5:52
  walk
• 5:52
  for
• 5:52
  three
• 5:52
  and
• 5:52
  a
• 5:52
  half
• 5:53
  months
• 5:53
  or
• 5:53
  six
• 5:53
  months,
• 5:54
  and
• 5:55
  there
• 5:55
  came
• 5:56
  my
• 5:56
  book.
• 5:56
  In
• 5:56
  three
• 5:56
  months,
• 5:57
  I
• 5:57
  wrote
• 5:57
  two
• 5:57
  books.
• 5:58
  Two
• 5:58
  things,
• 5:59
  two
• 6:00
  things.
• 6:00
  I
• 6:00
  just
• 6:00
  heard
• 6:01
  Tammy's
• 6:02
  resilience
• 6:03
  and
• 6:04
  yes,
• 6:04
  the
• 6:04
  terrible
• 6:05
  gift.
• 6:05
  Because
• 6:05
  what
• 6:06
  happens
• 6:06
  so
• 6:06
  often,
• 6:06
  and
• 6:07
  we're
• 6:07
  all
• 6:07
  different,
• 6:07
  we
• 6:08
  all
• 6:08
  take
• 6:08
  our
• 6:08
  own
• 6:09
  time.
• 6:09
  Sometimes
• 6:10
  these
• 6:10
  events
• 6:11
  happen
• 6:11
  in
• 6:11
  our
• 6:12
  life
• 6:12
  and
• 6:12
  we
• 6:12
  end
• 6:13
  up
• 6:13
  wallowing
• 6:14
  there.
• 6:15
  We
• 6:15
  end
• 6:15
  up
• 6:15
  living
• 6:16
  there,
• 6:17
  as
• 6:17
  opposed
• 6:18
  to
• 6:18
  saying,
• 6:18
  here's
• 6:19
  where
• 6:19
  I
• 6:19
  am
• 6:20
  now.
• 6:20
  What
• 6:20
  do
• 6:20
  I
• 6:21
  do
• 6:21
  next?
• 6:22
  So
• 6:22
  many
• 6:22
  of
• 6:22
  my
• 6:23
  clients,
• 6:24
  so
• 6:24
  many
• 6:24
  I
• 6:25
  find
• 6:25
  are
• 6:26
  living
• 6:26
  in
• 6:26
  the
• 6:26
  past.
• 6:27
  And
• 6:27
  it's
• 6:28
  almost
• 6:28
  comical
• 6:29
  at
• 6:29
  times
• 6:29
  because
• 6:30
  we
• 6:30
  act
• 6:30
  as
• 6:31
  if
• 6:31
  there's
• 6:31
  a
• 6:32
  do
• 6:32
  over
• 6:32
  in
• 6:32
  life.
• 6:32
  Or
• 6:33
  we're
• 6:33
  like
• 6:33
  those,
• 6:33
  you
• 6:34
  know
• 6:34
  how
• 6:34
  you
• 6:34
  watch
• 6:34
  videos
• 6:35
  on
• 6:35
  your
• 6:35
  phone
• 6:35
  now
• 6:35
  and
• 6:35
  there's
• 6:36
  that
• 6:36
  little
• 6:36
  button
• 6:36
  that
• 6:36
  says,
• 6:37
  back
• 6:37
  up
• 6:37
  10
• 6:37
  seconds.
• 6:39
  Life
• 6:39
  isn't
• 6:40
  like
• 6:40
  that.
• 6:40
  Right,
• 6:40
  Right.
• 6:41
  So
• 6:41
  while
• 6:41
  you're
• 6:42
  hanging
• 6:42
  out
• 6:43
  and
• 6:43
  what
• 6:43
  happens,
• 6:43
  you're
• 6:44
  missing
• 6:44
  what's
• 6:44
  going
• 6:44
  on,
• 6:45
  right?
• 6:46
  Yeah.
• 6:47
  Or
• 6:47
  you're
• 6:47
  ruminating
• 6:48
  about
• 6:48
  what's
• 6:48
  going
• 6:49
  to
• 6:49
  happen
• 6:49
  in
• 6:49
  the
• 6:49
  future
• 6:50
  because
• 6:50
  of
• 6:50
  what
• 6:50
  happened
• 6:51
  in
• 6:51
  the
• 6:51
  past.
• 6:51
  And
• 6:51
  bottom
• 6:52
  line,
• 6:53
  stop.
• 6:53
  Like
• 6:54
  you
• 6:54
  said,
• 6:54
  stop.
• 6:55
  Look
• 6:55
  up
• 6:55
  at
• 6:55
  the
• 6:55
  blue
• 6:56
  beautiful
• 6:56
  sky
• 6:57
  and
• 6:57
  enjoy
• 6:57
  the
• 6:58
  moment
• 6:58
  you
• 6:58
  have
• 6:58
  right
• 6:59
  now
• 6:59
  because
• 6:59
  you'll
• 6:59
  never
• 6:59
  get
• 7:00
  that
• 7:00
  moment
• 7:00
  back.
• 7:01
  So
• 7:01
  make
• 7:01
  that
• 7:01
  one
• 7:02
  the
• 7:02
  best.
• 7:03
  I
• 7:03
  love
• 7:03
  to
• 7:03
  say,
• 7:03
  you're
• 7:04
  going
• 7:04
  to
• 7:04
  miss
• 7:04
  the
• 7:04
  butterfly
• 7:05
  that
• 7:05
  just
• 7:05
  flew
• 7:05
  by.
• 7:07
  You
• 7:07
  are,
• 7:08
  you
• 7:08
  are.
• 7:08
  And
• 7:09
  a
• 7:09
  lot
• 7:09
  of
• 7:09
  that
• 7:09
  too
• 7:10
  goes
• 7:10
  with
• 7:11
  that
• 7:11
  resilient
• 7:12
  attitude.
• 7:13
  And
• 7:13
  so
• 7:14
  much
• 7:14
  more
• 7:14
  goes
• 7:14
  into
• 7:15
  resilience.
• 7:15
  I
• 7:15
  remember
• 7:16
  when
• 7:16
  I
• 7:16
  used
• 7:16
  to
• 7:16
  explain
• 7:16
  resilience,
• 7:17
  I
• 7:17
  used
• 7:17
  to
• 7:17
  own
• 7:17
  a
• 7:18
  window
• 7:18
  company,
• 7:18
  which
• 7:18
  I
• 7:19
  lost,
• 7:19
  by
• 7:19
  the
• 7:19
  way,
• 7:19
  because
• 7:20
  of
• 7:20
  COVID
• 7:20
  And
• 7:21
  now
• 7:21
  I'm
• 7:21
  doing
• 7:21
  my
• 7:22
  dream
• 7:22
  job.
• 7:22
  So
• 7:24
  terrible
• 7:24
  gift.
• 7:25
  Perfect.
• 7:26
  Terrible
• 7:26
  gift.
• 7:27
  So,
• 7:29
  you
• 7:29
  know,
• 7:29
  I
• 7:29
  used
• 7:30
  to
• 7:30
  say,
• 7:30
  we
• 7:30
  used
• 7:31
  to
• 7:31
  teach
• 7:31
  resilience
• 7:32
  and
• 7:32
  we
• 7:32
  used
• 7:32
  to
• 7:32
  picture,
• 7:33
  you
• 7:33
  know,
• 7:33
  the
• 7:33
  rocky,
• 7:34
  the,
• 7:34
  you
• 7:34
  know,
• 7:34
  get
• 7:35
  back
• 7:35
  down,
• 7:35
  get
• 7:35
  back
• 7:35
  up.
• 7:36
  It's
• 7:36
  not
• 7:36
  how
• 7:36
  many
• 7:36
  times
• 7:36
  you
• 7:37
  fall
• 7:37
  down,
• 7:37
  it's
• 7:37
  how
• 7:37
  many
• 7:37
  times
• 7:37
  you
• 7:38
  get
• 7:38
  back
• 7:38
  up.
• 7:39
  But
• 7:39
  I
• 7:39
  100
• 7:40
  agree
• 7:40
  with
• 7:40
  you.
• 7:40
  It's
• 7:40
  not.
• 7:41
  It's
• 7:41
  more
• 7:42
  than
• 7:42
  that.
• 7:42
  It's
• 7:42
  how
• 7:42
  many
• 7:43
  times
• 7:43
  you
• 7:43
  get
• 7:43
  back
• 7:43
  up
• 7:44
  and
• 7:44
  go,
• 7:45
  I
• 7:46
  got
• 7:46
  an
• 7:46
  idea,
• 7:47
  or
• 7:47
  oh,
• 7:47
  I
• 7:47
  have
• 7:48
  an
• 7:48
  epiphany
• 7:48
  from
• 7:48
  that.
• 7:49
  Or
• 7:49
  that's
• 7:49
  going
• 7:50
  to
• 7:50
  move
• 7:50
  me
• 7:50
  and
• 7:50
  move
• 7:51
  the
• 7:51
  needle
• 7:51
  forward.
• 7:52
  Because
• 7:53
  if
• 7:53
  you
• 7:54
  are
• 7:54
  not
• 7:54
  in
• 7:54
  your
• 7:54
  life
• 7:55
  exactly
• 7:55
  where
• 7:55
  you
• 7:56
  want
• 7:56
  to
• 7:56
  be,
• 7:56
  which
• 7:57
  you
• 7:57
  deserve
• 7:57
  to
• 7:57
  be,
• 7:58
  you
• 7:58
  got
• 7:59
  to
• 7:59
  do
• 7:59
  something
• 7:59
  to
• 7:59
  move
• 7:59
  the
• 8:00
  needle.
• 8:00
  So,
• 8:02
  yeah,
• 8:02
  I
• 8:02
  love
• 8:02
  it.
• 8:02
  So
• 8:03
  talk
• 8:03
  about
• 8:03
  your
• 8:03
  book.
• 8:04
  Oh,
• 8:05
  this
• 8:05
  book.
• 8:05
  My
• 8:05
  Life
• 8:05
  in
• 8:06
  Business
• 8:06
  Suits,
• 8:06
  Hospital
• 8:07
  Gowns,
• 8:07
  and
• 8:07
  High
• 8:08
  Heels.
• 8:08
  Well,
• 8:09
  you
• 8:09
  spoke
• 8:09
  to
• 8:09
  the
• 8:09
  viewers.
• 8:10
  I
• 8:10
  had
• 8:10
  this
• 8:10
  amazing
• 8:11
  career.
• 8:12
  I
• 8:12
  was
• 8:13
  an
• 8:13
  executive
• 8:13
  at
• 8:14
  some
• 8:14
  of
• 8:14
  the
• 8:14
  biggest
• 8:14
  companies
• 8:15
  and
• 8:16
  really
• 8:17
  powerhouse
• 8:18
  contributions
• 8:19
  and
• 8:19
  responsibility.
• 8:21
  And
• 8:21
  after
• 8:21
  that,
• 8:22
  I
• 8:22
  like
• 8:22
  to
• 8:22
  say
• 8:22
  I
• 8:22
  retired.
• 8:23
  Being
• 8:23
  retired
• 8:24
  to
• 8:24
  be
• 8:24
  inspired.
• 8:25
  I
• 8:26
  fell
• 8:26
  in
• 8:26
  love,
• 8:26
  got
• 8:27
  married,
• 8:27
  traveled
• 8:27
  the
• 8:27
  world,
• 8:28
  kind
• 8:28
  of
• 8:28
  pulled
• 8:28
  back
• 8:29
  a
• 8:29
  little
• 8:29
  bit.
• 8:29
  I
• 8:29
  knew
• 8:29
  I
• 8:30
  had
• 8:30
  more
• 8:30
  to
• 8:30
  share
• 8:31
  and
• 8:32
  so
• 8:32
  that's
• 8:33
  why
• 8:33
  I'm
• 8:33
  doing
• 8:33
  what
• 8:33
  I'm
• 8:34
  doing
• 8:34
  today.
• 8:34
  All
• 8:34
  because
• 8:35
  I'm
• 8:35
  a
• 8:35
  philanthropist.
• 8:36
  But
• 8:36
  I
• 8:37
  had
• 8:37
  this
• 8:37
  great
• 8:38
  business,
• 8:39
  business
• 8:39
  suit
• 8:40
  experience.
• 8:40
  I'm
• 8:41
  still
• 8:41
  doing
• 8:41
  business
• 8:42
  today,
• 8:42
  but
• 8:42
  I
• 8:42
  don't
• 8:42
  wear
• 8:43
  the
• 8:43
  suit
• 8:43
  anymore.
• 8:43
  And
• 8:43
  then
• 8:44
  hospital
• 8:45
  gowns.
• 8:45
  I've
• 8:45
  had
• 8:45
  two
• 8:46
  life
• 8:46
  threatening
• 8:46
  illnesses.
• 8:48
  One
• 8:48
  of
• 8:48
  them
• 8:48
  I
• 8:48
  was
• 8:49
  told
• 8:49
  was
• 8:49
  terminal.
• 8:50
  I've
• 8:50
  lived
• 8:50
  with
• 8:51
  metastatic
• 8:51
  cancer
• 8:52
  now
• 8:52
  for
• 8:53
  almost
• 8:53
  14
• 8:54
  years.
• 8:54
  And
• 8:54
  as
• 8:54
  you
• 8:55
  can
• 8:55
  see,
• 8:55
  I'm
• 8:55
  still
• 8:56
  here.
• 8:56
  I've
• 8:57
  been
• 8:57
  given
• 8:57
  six
• 8:57
  months
• 8:58
  to
• 8:58
  live
• 8:58
  three
• 8:59
  times.
• 8:59
  I
• 8:59
  have
• 9:00
  some
• 9:00
  experience
• 9:01
  with
• 9:01
  those
• 9:01
  hospital
• 9:02
  gowns,
• 9:02
  you
• 9:02
  know,
• 9:02
  that
• 9:03
  flimsy
• 9:03
  piece
• 9:03
  of
• 9:04
  fabric
• 9:04
  that
• 9:04
  never
• 9:04
  ties.
• 9:05
  Well
• 9:05
  in
• 9:05
  the
• 9:05
  back
• 9:06
  you
• 9:06
  can
• 9:06
  see
• 9:06
  your
• 9:06
  butt.
• 9:07
  And
• 9:07
  then
• 9:08
  the
• 9:08
  high
• 9:08
  heels.
• 9:08
  Well,
• 9:09
  I
• 9:09
  have
• 9:09
  to
• 9:09
  say
• 9:09
  you
• 9:10
  need
• 9:10
  to
• 9:10
  read
• 9:10
  the
• 9:10
  book
• 9:11
  to
• 9:11
  learn
• 9:12
  about
• 9:12
  the
• 9:12
  high
• 9:12
  heels.
• 9:12
  But
• 9:13
  I'll
• 9:13
  just
• 9:13
  let
• 9:13
  you
• 9:13
  look
• 9:13
  at
• 9:14
  the
• 9:14
  COVID
• 9:14
  and
• 9:14
  what
• 9:14
  you
• 9:14
  can
• 9:15
  see
• 9:15
  is
• 9:15
  I'll
• 9:15
  just
• 9:15
  leave
• 9:15
  you
• 9:16
  with
• 9:16
  this.
• 9:16
  All
• 9:17
  three
• 9:17
  of
• 9:17
  those
• 9:17
  are
• 9:17
  me
• 9:18
  on
• 9:18
  the
• 9:19
  COVID
• 9:19
  of
• 9:19
  that
• 9:19
  book.
• 9:20
  The
• 9:20
  reason
• 9:20
  I
• 9:21
  wrote
• 9:21
  this
• 9:22
  book,
• 9:23
  which
• 9:23
  is
• 9:23
  a
• 9:23
  memoir
• 9:24
  that
• 9:24
  crosses
• 9:24
  over
• 9:25
  into
• 9:25
  self
• 9:25
  help.
• 9:26
  I've
• 9:26
  won
• 9:26
  two
• 9:27
  book
• 9:27
  awards.
• 9:27
  I'm
• 9:28
  going
• 9:28
  to
• 9:28
  be
• 9:28
  on
• 9:28
  a
• 9:28
  Times
• 9:29
  Square
• 9:29
  billboard
• 9:30
  at
• 9:30
  the
• 9:30
  end
• 9:30
  of
• 9:30
  the
• 9:30
  month
• 9:31
  with
• 9:31
  this
• 9:31
  book.
• 9:31
  I'm
• 9:32
  so
• 9:32
  excited.
• 9:33
  But
• 9:33
  I
• 9:33
  wrote
• 9:33
  this
• 9:34
  book
• 9:34
  because
• 9:34
  who
• 9:35
  we
• 9:35
  are
• 9:36
  today
• 9:37
  is
• 9:38
  the
• 9:38
  sum
• 9:38
  part
• 9:39
  of
• 9:40
  everything
• 9:40
  we've
• 9:41
  been
• 9:41
  in
• 9:41
  our
• 9:41
  life.
• 9:42
  And
• 9:42
  there
• 9:43
  are
• 9:43
  parts
• 9:43
  of
• 9:43
  many
• 9:44
  of
• 9:44
  our
• 9:44
  lives
• 9:44
  that
• 9:45
  we
• 9:45
  either
• 9:45
  feel
• 9:45
  shame,
• 9:46
  we
• 9:47
  feel
• 9:47
  it
• 9:47
  was
• 9:47
  outrageous,
• 9:48
  we
• 9:48
  want
• 9:48
  to
• 9:48
  keep
• 9:48
  it
• 9:49
  probably
• 9:49
  private,
• 9:49
  or
• 9:50
  we
• 9:50
  just
• 9:50
  think
• 9:50
  somebody's
• 9:51
  not
• 9:51
  going
• 9:52
  to
• 9:52
  understand.
• 9:53
  And
• 9:53
  I
• 9:53
  want
• 9:53
  to
• 9:54
  remind
• 9:54
  you
• 9:55
  that
• 9:55
  without
• 9:55
  all
• 9:56
  those
• 9:56
  parts,
• 9:57
  you
• 9:57
  would
• 9:57
  not
• 9:58
  be
• 9:58
  who
• 9:59
  you
• 9:59
  are
• 9:59
  today.
• 10:01
  Right.
• 10:02
  But
• 10:02
  on
• 10:03
  the
• 10:03
  flip
• 10:03
  side,
• 10:03
  and
• 10:04
  I'm
• 10:04
  going
• 10:04
  to
• 10:04
  throw
• 10:04
  this
• 10:04
  out
• 10:04
  to
• 10:04
  the
• 10:05
  viewers
• 10:05
  as
• 10:05
  well,
• 10:05
  I
• 10:05
  mean,
• 10:06
  that
• 10:06
  is
• 10:06
  so
• 10:06
  true.
• 10:08
  I
• 10:08
  used
• 10:08
  to
• 10:09
  say
• 10:09
  my
• 10:09
  life
• 10:09
  designed
• 10:10
  me,
• 10:10
  but
• 10:10
  it
• 10:11
  didn't
• 10:11
  define
• 10:11
  me.
• 10:12
  So
• 10:13
  I
• 10:13
  am
• 10:13
  the
• 10:14
  some
• 10:14
  part
• 10:14
  of
• 10:14
  the
• 10:15
  alcoholic
• 10:15
  parents,
• 10:16
  the
• 10:16
  drug
• 10:16
  addicted
• 10:16
  mother,
• 10:17
  the
• 10:17
  pimping
• 10:17
  out
• 10:17
  the
• 10:18
  drug
• 10:18
  dealers.
• 10:18
  Like
• 10:18
  I
• 10:19
  am
• 10:19
  that
• 10:19
  some
• 10:19
  part.
• 10:20
  That's
• 10:20
  who
• 10:20
  I,
• 10:21
  I
• 10:21
  was
• 10:21
  for
• 10:22
  a
• 10:22
  while.
• 10:22
  That's
• 10:22
  what
• 10:23
  the
• 10:23
  pieces
• 10:23
  all
• 10:23
  put
• 10:24
  together
• 10:24
  and
• 10:24
  said
• 10:25
  here
• 10:25
  it
• 10:25
  is.
• 10:26
  But
• 10:27
  now
• 10:27
  I'm
• 10:27
  like,
• 10:27
  okay,
• 10:27
  that's
• 10:28
  not
• 10:28
  who
• 10:28
  I
• 10:29
  am
• 10:29
  in
• 10:29
  the,
• 10:29
  in
• 10:30
  the,
• 10:30
  in
• 10:30
  the
• 10:30
  heart
• 10:31
  of
• 10:31
  the
• 10:31
  heart
• 10:31
  of
• 10:32
  the
• 10:32
  heart.
• 10:32
  And
• 10:33
  that's
• 10:33
  where
• 10:33
  I
• 10:34
  took
• 10:34
  all
• 10:34
  of
• 10:34
  those
• 10:34
  lessons
• 10:35
  I
• 10:35
  learned
• 10:35
  from
• 10:36
  all
• 10:36
  of
• 10:36
  that
• 10:36
  stuff
• 10:36
  and
• 10:37
  all
• 10:37
  of
• 10:37
  those
• 10:37
  things
• 10:38
  that
• 10:38
  define
• 10:38
  Me.
• 10:38
  And
• 10:38
  what
• 10:39
  am
• 10:39
  I
• 10:39
  going
• 10:39
  to
• 10:39
  do
• 10:39
  with
• 10:39
  this,
• 10:39
  like,
• 10:40
  I.
• 10:41
  Terrible
• 10:42
  gift.
• 10:42
  My
• 10:43
  parents,
• 10:44
  more
• 10:44
  terrible
• 10:44
  gifts,
• 10:45
  were
• 10:45
  both
• 10:45
  alcoholics.
• 10:46
  I
• 10:46
  had
• 10:46
  a
• 10:46
  horrible,
• 10:47
  horrible
• 10:48
  upbringing.
• 10:49
  But
• 10:49
  now
• 10:50
  I
• 10:50
  am
• 10:50
  doing
• 10:50
  what
• 10:50
  I
• 10:51
  want
• 10:51
  to
• 10:51
  do,
• 10:51
  which
• 10:51
  is
• 10:51
  helping
• 10:52
  people
• 10:52
  that
• 10:52
  grew
• 10:52
  up
• 10:53
  in
• 10:53
  dysfunction
• 10:54
  learn
• 10:55
  that
• 10:55
  they
• 10:56
  can
• 10:56
  still
• 10:56
  have
• 10:56
  pure
• 10:57
  joy,
• 10:57
  which
• 10:58
  I
• 10:58
  never
• 10:58
  had.
• 10:59
  So,
• 10:59
  yes,
• 11:00
  It's.
• 11:01
  It's
• 11:01
  so
• 11:01
  true.
• 11:02
  So
• 11:02
  true,
• 11:02
  so
• 11:02
  true.
• 11:03
  You're
• 11:03
  going
• 11:03
  to
• 11:03
  read
• 11:03
  in
• 11:03
  the
• 11:04
  book,
• 11:04
  and
• 11:04
  I
• 11:04
  hope
• 11:04
  your
• 11:04
  viewers
• 11:05
  will
• 11:05
  read
• 11:05
  it.
• 11:05
  It's.
• 11:06
  I
• 11:06
  keep
• 11:06
  getting
• 11:06
  comments
• 11:07
  like,
• 11:07
  I
• 11:07
  can't
• 11:07
  put
• 11:08
  this
• 11:08
  book
• 11:08
  down.
• 11:08
  A
• 11:08
  guy
• 11:09
  called
• 11:09
  me
• 11:09
  and
• 11:09
  said
• 11:09
  his
• 11:09
  wife
• 11:10
  told
• 11:10
  him
• 11:10
  to
• 11:10
  leave
• 11:10
  the
• 11:10
  house
• 11:11
  because
• 11:11
  he
• 11:11
  was
• 11:11
  100
• 11:11
  pages
• 11:12
  in
• 11:12
  and
• 11:12
  he
• 11:12
  wouldn't
• 11:12
  do
• 11:12
  any
• 11:12
  work
• 11:13
  around
• 11:13
  the
• 11:13
  house.
• 11:13
  One
• 11:13
  Saturday,
• 11:14
  she
• 11:14
  said,
• 11:14
  just
• 11:15
  take
• 11:15
  your
• 11:15
  book
• 11:15
  and
• 11:16
  leave.
• 11:16
  And
• 11:16
  then
• 11:17
  people
• 11:17
  tell
• 11:17
  me,
• 11:17
  I
• 11:18
  laughed,
• 11:18
  I
• 11:18
  cried.
• 11:19
  I
• 11:19
  did
• 11:19
  both
• 11:19
  at
• 11:19
  once.
• 11:20
  You're
• 11:20
  going
• 11:20
  to
• 11:21
  learn
• 11:21
  that.
• 11:21
  I
• 11:21
  grew
• 11:22
  up
• 11:22
  in
• 11:22
  a
• 11:22
  shack.
• 11:23
  We
• 11:23
  actually
• 11:23
  called
• 11:24
  it
• 11:24
  the
• 11:24
  Shack,
• 11:24
  fondly.
• 11:26
  And
• 11:26
  we
• 11:26
  had
• 11:26
  no
• 11:27
  hot
• 11:27
  water.
• 11:27
  We
• 11:28
  had
• 11:28
  no
• 11:28
  refrigerator.
• 11:29
  My
• 11:29
  dad
• 11:29
  brought
• 11:29
  home
• 11:30
  a
• 11:30
  block
• 11:30
  of
• 11:30
  ice
• 11:31
  every
• 11:31
  day
• 11:31
  to
• 11:31
  put
• 11:31
  in
• 11:31
  the
• 11:32
  ice
• 11:32
  box.
• 11:33
  And
• 11:33
  from
• 11:34
  that
• 11:34
  to
• 11:34
  boardrooms
• 11:35
  and
• 11:35
  the
• 11:35
  stories
• 11:36
  in
• 11:36
  between,
• 11:37
  you're
• 11:37
  not
• 11:37
  going
• 11:37
  to
• 11:37
  believe.
• 11:39
  But
• 11:39
  I
• 11:39
  think
• 11:39
  what
• 11:40
  you
• 11:40
  just
• 11:40
  spoke
• 11:41
  to
• 11:41
  for
• 11:41
  yourself,
• 11:42
  Tammy,
• 11:42
  is,
• 11:42
  yes,
• 11:43
  one
• 11:43
  of
• 11:43
  those
• 11:43
  terrible
• 11:44
  gifts.
• 11:44
  But
• 11:45
  how
• 11:45
  we
• 11:45
  have
• 11:45
  an
• 11:45
  opportunity
• 11:46
  in
• 11:47
  life
• 11:47
  to
• 11:48
  continue
• 11:48
  and
• 11:49
  to
• 11:49
  continue
• 11:49
  to
• 11:49
  define
• 11:50
  who
• 11:50
  we're
• 11:51
  going
• 11:51
  to
• 11:51
  be,
• 11:51
  just
• 11:51
  as
• 11:52
  you
• 11:52
  said,
• 11:52
  versus
• 11:53
  letting
• 11:53
  life
• 11:53
  define
• 11:54
  us.
• 11:54
  And
• 11:55
  it's
• 11:55
  so
• 11:55
  important
• 11:56
  to
• 11:56
  do
• 11:56
  this.
• 11:56
  I
• 11:56
  mean,
• 11:57
  look,
• 11:58
  today
• 11:58
  I
• 11:58
  get
• 11:59
  to
• 11:59
  be
• 11:59
  a
• 11:59
  philanthropist.
• 12:00
  I
• 12:00
  get
• 12:01
  to
• 12:01
  support
• 12:01
  things
• 12:02
  that
• 12:02
  mean
• 12:02
  so
• 12:03
  much
• 12:03
  to
• 12:03
  me.
• 12:03
  Underserved
• 12:04
  communities,
• 12:05
  youth
• 12:05
  in
• 12:05
  the
• 12:06
  arts,
• 12:06
  first
• 12:06
  gen
• 12:07
  students,
• 12:08
  current
• 12:08
  women's
• 12:09
  issues,
• 12:09
  a
• 12:09
  host
• 12:10
  of
• 12:10
  things
• 12:10
  that
• 12:11
  I
• 12:11
  get
• 12:11
  to
• 12:11
  support.
• 12:13
  And
• 12:14
  I
• 12:14
  could
• 12:14
  have
• 12:14
  had
• 12:14
  a
• 12:14
  very
• 12:15
  different
• 12:15
  life.
• 12:15
  Everything
• 12:16
  I
• 12:16
  told
• 12:16
  you
• 12:16
  about,
• 12:16
  business
• 12:17
  suits
• 12:17
  and
• 12:18
  hospital
• 12:18
  gowns
• 12:19
  and
• 12:19
  high
• 12:19
  heels.
• 12:20
  I
• 12:20
  was
• 12:20
  sick.
• 12:21
  Those
• 12:21
  illnesses,
• 12:22
  the
• 12:22
  first
• 12:22
  one.
• 12:22
  I'm
• 12:23
  in
• 12:23
  my
• 12:23
  37th
• 12:24
  year
• 12:24
  with
• 12:25
  the
• 12:25
  cancer.
• 12:26
  14
• 12:26
  years.
• 12:29
  These
• 12:29
  things
• 12:30
  could
• 12:30
  have
• 12:30
  easily
• 12:31
  derailed
• 12:32
  me
• 12:32
  from
• 12:32
  moving
• 12:33
  forward.
• 12:33
  And
• 12:33
  I
• 12:33
  don't
• 12:33
  want
• 12:34
  to
• 12:34
  take
• 12:34
  away
• 12:34
  that.
• 12:34
  Illness
• 12:35
  is
• 12:35
  really
• 12:35
  difficult,
• 12:36
  and
• 12:36
  not
• 12:37
  everybody
• 12:37
  can
• 12:37
  do
• 12:37
  what
• 12:38
  I'm
• 12:38
  saying.
• 12:39
  All
• 12:39
  I
• 12:39
  want
• 12:40
  to
• 12:40
  do
• 12:40
  is
• 12:40
  try
• 12:41
  to
• 12:41
  inspire
• 12:42
  you
• 12:42
  to
• 12:42
  see
• 12:43
  possibility.
• 12:45
  Well,
• 12:46
  you're
• 12:46
  right.
• 12:47
  And
• 12:47
  you
• 12:47
  have
• 12:47
  to
• 12:47
  be
• 12:48
  able
• 12:48
  to
• 12:48
  see
• 12:48
  possibility
• 12:49
  to
• 12:49
  survive
• 12:49
  those.
• 12:50
  Those
• 12:50
  illnesses.
• 12:51
  I've
• 12:51
  seen
• 12:52
  so
• 12:52
  many
• 12:52
  people
• 12:53
  beat
• 12:53
  cancer.
• 12:54
  Be,
• 12:55
  you
• 12:55
  know,
• 12:55
  be.
• 12:56
  I've
• 12:56
  seen
• 12:56
  people
• 12:57
  that
• 12:57
  had,
• 12:57
  you
• 12:57
  know,
• 12:58
  debilitating
• 12:59
  ms,
• 13:00
  that
• 13:00
  with
• 13:00
  the
• 13:01
  power
• 13:01
  of
• 13:01
  the
• 13:01
  mind
• 13:02
  and
• 13:02
  just.
• 13:03
  Just
• 13:03
  getting
• 13:04
  up
• 13:04
  and
• 13:04
  moving
• 13:05
  and
• 13:05
  exercising,
• 13:06
  even
• 13:06
  though
• 13:06
  Dr.
• 13:06
  Said,
• 13:07
  you've
• 13:07
  got
• 13:07
  a
• 13:08
  limit,
• 13:08
  you've
• 13:08
  got
• 13:08
  a
• 13:08
  limit.
• 13:09
  And
• 13:09
  they're
• 13:09
  like,
• 13:09
  I
• 13:09
  know
• 13:10
  my
• 13:10
  limit.
• 13:11
  Going
• 13:11
  to
• 13:11
  still
• 13:11
  continue
• 13:11
  to
• 13:12
  take
• 13:12
  peptides
• 13:13
  and
• 13:13
  supplement
• 13:13
  and,
• 13:14
  and
• 13:14
  do
• 13:14
  this.
• 13:15
  And
• 13:15
  now
• 13:15
  they're
• 13:15
  walking
• 13:15
  fine.
• 13:16
  I
• 13:16
  mean,
• 13:17
  you
• 13:17
  know
• 13:18
  how
• 13:18
  many
• 13:18
  people
• 13:18
  beat
• 13:19
  cancer?
• 13:20
  A
• 13:20
  lot
• 13:20
  of
• 13:20
  people.
• 13:21
  And
• 13:21
  a
• 13:21
  lot
• 13:21
  of
• 13:21
  it.
• 13:22
  It's
• 13:22
  that
• 13:22
  resilient
• 13:23
  mindset
• 13:23
  and
• 13:24
  it's
• 13:24
  that
• 13:24
  belief
• 13:25
  and
• 13:25
  it's
• 13:25
  that
• 13:25
  faith
• 13:25
  which
• 13:26
  is
• 13:26
  just
• 13:26
  believing
• 13:27
  in
• 13:27
  something.
• 13:28
  Believing
• 13:28
  in
• 13:29
  being
• 13:29
  able
• 13:29
  to
• 13:29
  visualize
• 13:30
  something
• 13:30
  that
• 13:30
  you
• 13:30
  can't
• 13:31
  see
• 13:31
  yet,
• 13:33
  and
• 13:33
  being
• 13:33
  able
• 13:33
  to
• 13:34
  see
• 13:34
  it
• 13:34
  and
• 13:34
  be
• 13:35
  there
• 13:35
  yet.
• 13:36
  People
• 13:36
  ask
• 13:36
  me
• 13:37
  often,
• 13:37
  you
• 13:37
  know,
• 13:37
  Tom,
• 13:38
  you've
• 13:38
  been
• 13:38
  given
• 13:38
  six
• 13:39
  months
• 13:39
  to
• 13:39
  live,
• 13:39
  three
• 13:39
  times,
• 13:40
  you've
• 13:40
  had
• 13:40
  these
• 13:41
  illnesses.
• 13:42
  And
• 13:42
  some
• 13:42
  of
• 13:42
  the
• 13:42
  stories
• 13:42
  when
• 13:43
  you
• 13:43
  read
• 13:43
  them,
• 13:44
  I
• 13:44
  want
• 13:44
  to.
• 13:44
  Don't
• 13:45
  want
• 13:45
  to
• 13:45
  tell
• 13:45
  you
• 13:45
  some
• 13:46
  of
• 13:46
  it
• 13:46
  was
• 13:46
  tough,
• 13:46
  but
• 13:46
  they'll
• 13:47
  ask
• 13:47
  me,
• 13:48
  why
• 13:48
  do
• 13:49
  you
• 13:49
  think
• 13:49
  you're
• 13:49
  still
• 13:49
  here?
• 13:50
  You
• 13:50
  say,
• 13:50
  I'm
• 13:50
  still
• 13:51
  here.
• 13:51
  Why
• 13:51
  are
• 13:51
  you
• 13:51
  here?
• 13:52
  And
• 13:52
  here's
• 13:53
  my
• 13:53
  answer.
• 13:54
  I've
• 13:54
  had
• 13:54
  the
• 13:54
  best
• 13:55
  medical
• 13:55
  care.
• 13:57
  I've
• 13:57
  had
• 13:57
  the
• 13:57
  best
• 13:58
  access
• 13:58
  to
• 13:58
  treatment.
• 14:00
  I'm
• 14:01
  privileged.
• 14:03
  But
• 14:04
  most
• 14:04
  important,
• 14:05
  underneath
• 14:05
  it
• 14:06
  all,
• 14:07
  I
• 14:07
  believed
• 14:08
  I
• 14:08
  could.
• 14:11
  Yep.
• 14:12
  What's
• 14:12
  that
• 14:13
  old
• 14:13
  saying?
• 14:13
  Whether
• 14:13
  you.
• 14:14
  You
• 14:14
  believe
• 14:14
  you
• 14:15
  can
• 14:15
  or
• 14:15
  you
• 14:15
  believe
• 14:15
  you
• 14:16
  can't,
• 14:16
  you're
• 14:16
  right.
• 14:18
  Belief
• 14:19
  is
• 14:19
  a
• 14:20
  power,
• 14:21
  powerful.
• 14:21
  The
• 14:21
  mind
• 14:22
  is
• 14:22
  a
• 14:22
  powerful
• 14:23
  thing.
• 14:23
  I'm
• 14:24
  very
• 14:24
  into.
• 14:24
  I
• 14:24
  don't
• 14:25
  know
• 14:25
  what
• 14:25
  you
• 14:25
  think
• 14:25
  of
• 14:25
  this.
• 14:25
  This
• 14:26
  might
• 14:26
  be
• 14:26
  too
• 14:26
  woo
• 14:26
  for
• 14:26
  you.
• 14:27
  I
• 14:27
  don't
• 14:27
  know.
• 14:28
  I'm
• 14:28
  very
• 14:29
  into
• 14:29
  energy.
• 14:29
  Very
• 14:30
  into
• 14:30
  frequencies.
• 14:30
  Absolutely,
• 14:32
  yeah.
• 14:32
  I'm
• 14:32
  very
• 14:33
  into,
• 14:33
  you
• 14:33
  know,
• 14:33
  this
• 14:34
  is
• 14:34
  your
• 14:34
  energy
• 14:34
  field.
• 14:35
  And,
• 14:35
  and
• 14:36
  every
• 14:36
  morning
• 14:37
  you
• 14:37
  wake
• 14:37
  up,
• 14:37
  you
• 14:38
  can
• 14:38
  fill
• 14:38
  that
• 14:38
  energy
• 14:39
  field
• 14:39
  with
• 14:39
  positivity
• 14:40
  or
• 14:40
  you
• 14:40
  can
• 14:41
  fill
• 14:41
  it
• 14:41
  with
• 14:41
  negativity.
• 14:42
  And
• 14:42
  that
• 14:43
  is
• 14:43
  what
• 14:43
  everybody
• 14:43
  around
• 14:44
  you
• 14:44
  is
• 14:44
  going
• 14:44
  to
• 14:44
  absorb
• 14:45
  and
• 14:45
  feel.
• 14:46
  And
• 14:46
  the
• 14:46
  ripple
• 14:47
  effect
• 14:47
  of
• 14:47
  that
• 14:48
  is
• 14:48
  astronomical.
• 14:50
  Absolutely.
• 14:50
  And
• 14:51
  I
• 14:51
  encourage
• 14:52
  people
• 14:53
  to
• 14:54
  remember
• 14:55
  all
• 14:56
  of
• 14:56
  the
• 14:56
  benefits,
• 14:57
  the
• 14:57
  extraordinary
• 14:58
  benefits
• 14:59
  of
• 15:00
  gratitude.
• 15:02
  Gratitude
• 15:02
  brings
• 15:03
  so
• 15:03
  many
• 15:03
  things.
• 15:04
  One
• 15:04
  of
• 15:04
  the
• 15:04
  biggest
• 15:05
  ones
• 15:05
  is
• 15:05
  peace.
• 15:06
  Yeah.
• 15:07
  Be
• 15:08
  grateful.
• 15:10
  Even
• 15:10
  the
• 15:10
  things
• 15:11
  that
• 15:12
  feel
• 15:12
  like
• 15:13
  there's
• 15:13
  no
• 15:13
  way
• 15:13
  to
• 15:14
  be
• 15:14
  grateful
• 15:14
  for,
• 15:15
  I
• 15:15
  promise
• 15:16
  you
• 15:16
  look
• 15:16
  around,
• 15:17
  someone's
• 15:17
  got
• 15:18
  it
• 15:18
  worse.
• 15:19
  Look
• 15:19
  around,
• 15:20
  it
• 15:20
  could
• 15:20
  be
• 15:20
  a
• 15:21
  lot
• 15:21
  harder.
• 15:22
  Be
• 15:23
  grateful
• 15:24
  we
• 15:24
  woke
• 15:24
  up
• 15:25
  this
• 15:25
  morning.
• 15:26
  Some
• 15:26
  people,
• 15:27
  some
• 15:27
  people
• 15:27
  didn't.
• 15:29
  Yeah,
• 15:29
  I
• 15:30
  mean,
• 15:30
  I've
• 15:30
  had
• 15:30
  clients.
• 15:30
  When
• 15:31
  I
• 15:31
  say,
• 15:31
  wake
• 15:31
  up
• 15:31
  in
• 15:31
  the
• 15:31
  morning
• 15:32
  and
• 15:32
  just
• 15:32
  find
• 15:32
  three
• 15:32
  things
• 15:33
  real
• 15:33
  simple
• 15:34
  before
• 15:34
  you
• 15:34
  get
• 15:34
  out
• 15:34
  of
• 15:34
  bed.
• 15:35
  Thank
• 15:35
  you.
• 15:35
  Whatever
• 15:36
  your
• 15:36
  creator
• 15:37
  is.
• 15:37
  I
• 15:37
  don't,
• 15:37
  I
• 15:37
  don't
• 15:38
  know
• 15:38
  if
• 15:38
  you
• 15:38
  believe
• 15:38
  in
• 15:38
  God,
• 15:39
  but
• 15:39
  whatever
• 15:39
  I
• 15:39
  say,
• 15:39
  thank
• 15:40
  you,
• 15:40
  God,
• 15:40
  for
• 15:40
  giving
• 15:40
  me
• 15:40
  another
• 15:41
  day.
• 15:41
  That
• 15:41
  is
• 15:41
  the
• 15:41
  first
• 15:42
  thing
• 15:42
  out
• 15:42
  of
• 15:42
  my
• 15:42
  mind.
• 15:43
  First
• 15:43
  thing
• 15:43
  out
• 15:43
  of
• 15:43
  my
• 15:43
  mouth
• 15:44
  when
• 15:44
  I
• 15:44
  wake
• 15:44
  up
• 15:45
  is,
• 15:45
  thank
• 15:45
  you,
• 15:45
  God,
• 15:46
  I
• 15:46
  opened
• 15:46
  my
• 15:46
  eyes
• 15:47
  for
• 15:47
  another
• 15:47
  day.
• 15:48
  At
• 15:48
  the
• 15:48
  same
• 15:48
  time,
• 15:49
  I've
• 15:49
  made
• 15:49
  peace
• 15:50
  with
• 15:50
  the
• 15:50
  fact
• 15:50
  if
• 15:51
  that
• 15:51
  doesn't
• 15:51
  happen
• 15:52
  because
• 15:52
  I
• 15:52
  have
• 15:52
  had
• 15:53
  to
• 15:53
  face
• 15:53
  to
• 15:53
  face
• 15:54
  death.
• 15:54
  In
• 15:54
  fact,
• 15:54
  I
• 15:54
  have
• 15:54
  a
• 15:54
  keynote
• 15:55
  that
• 15:56
  I'm
• 15:56
  doing
• 15:56
  that
• 15:56
  is
• 15:57
  called
• 15:57
  living
• 15:58
  fully
• 15:58
  while
• 15:58
  dying.
• 15:59
  And
• 15:59
  it's
• 16:00
  three
• 16:00
  phases
• 16:01
  for
• 16:01
  me.
• 16:01
  The
• 16:01
  first
• 16:01
  phase,
• 16:02
  I
• 16:02
  was
• 16:02
  living
• 16:03
  fully,
• 16:03
  as
• 16:03
  you'll
• 16:04
  read
• 16:04
  in
• 16:04
  this
• 16:04
  book,
• 16:04
  without
• 16:05
  regard
• 16:05
  to
• 16:05
  dying.
• 16:06
  Then
• 16:06
  I
• 16:07
  was
• 16:07
  living
• 16:07
  fully
• 16:08
  while
• 16:08
  being
• 16:08
  told
• 16:09
  I
• 16:09
  was
• 16:09
  going
• 16:09
  to
• 16:09
  die.
• 16:11
  Right.
• 16:11
  Faith
• 16:11
  now
• 16:12
  is
• 16:12
  living
• 16:12
  fully
• 16:13
  while
• 16:13
  dying,
• 16:14
  realizing
• 16:14
  I
• 16:14
  was
• 16:15
  dying
• 16:15
  all
• 16:15
  the
• 16:16
  time.
• 16:17
  When
• 16:17
  you're
• 16:17
  born,
• 16:18
  there
• 16:18
  are
• 16:18
  only
• 16:19
  one
• 16:19
  guarantee
• 16:20
  you're
• 16:20
  going
• 16:20
  to
• 16:20
  die.
• 16:21
  Just
• 16:21
  like
• 16:21
  people
• 16:22
  think
• 16:22
  about
• 16:22
  aging,
• 16:23
  it
• 16:23
  doesn't
• 16:23
  happen
• 16:23
  to
• 16:24
  them.
• 16:24
  The
• 16:24
  moment
• 16:24
  you
• 16:24
  were
• 16:24
  born,
• 16:25
  you
• 16:25
  start
• 16:26
  aging.
• 16:26
  It's
• 16:26
  just
• 16:27
  when
• 16:27
  we
• 16:27
  get
• 16:27
  a
• 16:27
  little
• 16:27
  older,
• 16:28
  that
• 16:28
  proverbial
• 16:28
  light
• 16:29
  starts
• 16:29
  to
• 16:29
  get
• 16:29
  a
• 16:29
  little
• 16:29
  brighter
• 16:30
  and
• 16:30
  a
• 16:30
  little
• 16:30
  closer.
• 16:32
  Yeah,
• 16:32
  exactly.
• 16:33
  But
• 16:33
  you're
• 16:34
  right,
• 16:34
  it's.
• 16:34
  We're
• 16:35
  all
• 16:35
  going
• 16:35
  to
• 16:35
  die
• 16:35
  someday.
• 16:36
  Absolutely.
• 16:37
  And
• 16:38
  you
• 16:38
  don't
• 16:38
  know
• 16:38
  when
• 16:38
  that
• 16:39
  day
• 16:39
  is.
• 16:39
  You
• 16:40
  can
• 16:40
  sit
• 16:40
  home
• 16:41
  and
• 16:41
  I
• 16:41
  know
• 16:41
  this
• 16:41
  is
• 16:42
  for
• 16:42
  the
• 16:42
  health
• 16:42
  conscious
• 16:42
  people
• 16:43
  out
• 16:43
  there.
• 16:43
  Don't,
• 16:44
  don't
• 16:44
  yell
• 16:44
  at
• 16:44
  me.
• 16:45
  You
• 16:45
  can
• 16:46
  sit
• 16:46
  home
• 16:46
  and
• 16:46
  you
• 16:46
  can
• 16:46
  watch
• 16:46
  every
• 16:47
  calorie
• 16:47
  and
• 16:47
  you
• 16:47
  can
• 16:47
  watch
• 16:48
  everything
• 16:48
  you
• 16:48
  put
• 16:48
  in
• 16:48
  your
• 16:48
  body
• 16:49
  and
• 16:49
  you
• 16:49
  can
• 16:49
  watch
• 16:49
  everything.
• 16:50
  But
• 16:50
  where
• 16:50
  do
• 16:50
  most
• 16:50
  people
• 16:51
  die?
• 16:51
  Like
• 16:51
  with
• 16:51
  less
• 16:52
  than
• 16:52
  three
• 16:53
  miles
• 16:53
  from
• 16:53
  their
• 16:54
  home?
• 16:54
  Sometimes
• 16:55
  in
• 16:55
  a
• 16:55
  car,
• 16:55
  sometimes
• 16:56
  getting
• 16:57
  hit
• 16:57
  by
• 16:57
  a
• 16:57
  scaffolding,
• 16:58
  whatever
• 16:59
  it
• 16:59
  is.
• 16:59
  Like,
• 16:59
  you
• 16:59
  just
• 17:00
  never
• 17:00
  know
• 17:00
  when
• 17:00
  that
• 17:01
  day
• 17:01
  is.
• 17:01
  So
• 17:02
  instead
• 17:03
  of,
• 17:03
  I
• 17:03
  used
• 17:03
  to
• 17:03
  always
• 17:03
  say
• 17:04
  to
• 17:04
  my
• 17:04
  kids
• 17:04
  and
• 17:04
  they
• 17:04
  would
• 17:05
  get
• 17:05
  so
• 17:05
  mad
• 17:05
  at
• 17:05
  me,
• 17:05
  I
• 17:05
  have
• 17:06
  this
• 17:06
  21
• 17:06
  day
• 17:07
  cruise
• 17:07
  on
• 17:07
  my
• 17:08
  bucket
• 17:08
  list
• 17:08
  and
• 17:08
  it's
• 17:09
  like
• 17:09
  Turkey
• 17:09
  and
• 17:09
  Greece
• 17:10
  and
• 17:10
  all
• 17:10
  these
• 17:11
  places,
• 17:11
  Istanbul,
• 17:12
  all
• 17:12
  these
• 17:12
  places
• 17:12
  I
• 17:12
  would
• 17:12
  never
• 17:13
  go,
• 17:13
  like
• 17:13
  get
• 17:13
  in
• 17:14
  a
• 17:14
  plane
• 17:14
  and
• 17:14
  just
• 17:14
  fly
• 17:14
  there.
• 17:15
  Well,
• 17:15
  Greece
• 17:15
  I
• 17:15
  would
• 17:15
  for
• 17:16
  sure,
• 17:16
  but.
• 17:17
  And
• 17:17
  I
• 17:18
  keep
• 17:18
  saying
• 17:18
  as
• 17:18
  soon
• 17:18
  as
• 17:18
  they
• 17:19
  say
• 17:19
  I'm
• 17:19
  terminal,
• 17:19
  I'm
• 17:20
  going.
• 17:20
  And
• 17:20
  my
• 17:20
  kids,
• 17:21
  like,
• 17:21
  would
• 17:22
  you
• 17:22
  stop?
• 17:22
  Stop.
• 17:23
  Like,
• 17:23
  why
• 17:23
  don't
• 17:23
  you
• 17:24
  just
• 17:24
  go?
• 17:25
  Go?
• 17:25
  Yeah.
• 17:25
  And
• 17:26
  I'm
• 17:26
  like,
• 17:26
  you
• 17:26
  know,
• 17:26
  you're
• 17:27
  right.
• 17:27
  Because
• 17:27
  if
• 17:27
  I
• 17:27
  just
• 17:28
  go,
• 17:28
  it'll
• 17:28
  probably
• 17:29
  the
• 17:29
  peace
• 17:30
  and
• 17:31
  solitude
• 17:31
  of
• 17:32
  that
• 17:32
  trip
• 17:32
  by
• 17:33
  myself,
• 17:33
  I
• 17:34
  don't
• 17:34
  care
• 17:34
  if
• 17:34
  anybody
• 17:35
  goes
• 17:35
  with
• 17:35
  me.
• 17:35
  Will
• 17:36
  probably
• 17:36
  add
• 17:36
  five
• 17:36
  years
• 17:37
  to
• 17:37
  my
• 17:37
  life.
• 17:37
  Yes,
• 17:38
  there's
• 17:38
  more
• 17:38
  than
• 17:38
  that.
• 17:39
  I
• 17:39
  happen
• 17:40
  to
• 17:40
  believe
• 17:41
  we
• 17:41
  can
• 17:41
  get
• 17:41
  woo
• 17:41
  woo
• 17:42
  a
• 17:42
  little
• 17:42
  bit
• 17:42
  here.
• 17:42
  But
• 17:42
  I
• 17:42
  happen
• 17:43
  to
• 17:43
  believe
• 17:43
  there's
• 17:44
  something
• 17:44
  waiting
• 17:45
  for
• 17:45
  you
• 17:46
  in
• 17:46
  one
• 17:47
  of
• 17:47
  those
• 17:47
  places
• 17:48
  that
• 17:48
  you
• 17:48
  don't
• 17:48
  know
• 17:49
  yet
• 17:49
  that's
• 17:50
  waiting
• 17:50
  for
• 17:50
  you
• 17:51
  to
• 17:51
  get
• 17:51
  there.
• 17:51
  You
• 17:52
  know,
• 17:52
  in
• 17:52
  the
• 17:52
  book
• 17:52
  when
• 17:52
  you
• 17:53
  open
• 17:53
  it,
• 17:53
  there's
• 17:53
  a
• 17:53
  quote
• 17:54
  from
• 17:54
  Maya
• 17:55
  Angelou
• 17:55
  that
• 17:56
  says
• 17:56
  every
• 17:56
  storm
• 17:57
  runs
• 17:57
  out
• 17:57
  of
• 17:57
  rain.
• 17:58
  You
• 17:59
  know,
• 17:59
  the
• 17:59
  sun
• 17:59
  is
• 17:59
  shining
• 18:00
  behind
• 18:00
  the
• 18:01
  horrible
• 18:01
  storms
• 18:02
  that
• 18:02
  it
• 18:02
  can
• 18:03
  be
• 18:03
  hailing.
• 18:03
  And
• 18:05
  behind
• 18:05
  all
• 18:05
  that,
• 18:06
  the
• 18:06
  sun's
• 18:06
  still
• 18:06
  shining.
• 18:07
  Just
• 18:07
  like
• 18:07
  the
• 18:07
  storms
• 18:08
  in
• 18:08
  our
• 18:08
  life.
• 18:08
  The
• 18:09
  sun
• 18:09
  is
• 18:09
  still
• 18:09
  shining
• 18:10
  behind
• 18:10
  them.
• 18:11
  You
• 18:11
  know,
• 18:11
  storms
• 18:12
  bring
• 18:12
  a
• 18:12
  lot
• 18:12
  of
• 18:12
  rain.
• 18:13
  They
• 18:13
  make
• 18:13
  the
• 18:13
  ground
• 18:14
  fertile.
• 18:15
  The
• 18:15
  same
• 18:15
  thing
• 18:15
  can
• 18:16
  happen
• 18:16
  to
• 18:16
  the
• 18:16
  storms
• 18:16
  in
• 18:17
  your
• 18:17
  life.
• 18:18
  My
• 18:18
  question
• 18:18
  is,
• 18:19
  just
• 18:19
  like,
• 18:19
  in
• 18:19
  that
• 18:20
  fertile,
• 18:20
  wet
• 18:20
  ground,
• 18:21
  that
• 18:21
  you
• 18:21
  can
• 18:21
  plant
• 18:21
  something
• 18:22
  after
• 18:22
  the
• 18:22
  storms
• 18:23
  of
• 18:23
  your
• 18:23
  life,
• 18:24
  what
• 18:25
  are
• 18:25
  you
• 18:25
  going
• 18:25
  to
• 18:25
  plant?
• 18:26
  Right.
• 18:27
  That's
• 18:28
  a.
• 18:28
  That's
• 18:28
  a
• 18:28
  great
• 18:28
  quote
• 18:29
  and
• 18:29
  a
• 18:29
  great
• 18:29
  segue
• 18:30
  into
• 18:30
  what
• 18:30
  you
• 18:31
  just
• 18:31
  said.
• 18:31
  That's
• 18:31
  awesome.
• 18:32
  Yeah,
• 18:32
  it's
• 18:33
  kind
• 18:33
  of
• 18:33
  like.
• 18:33
  And
• 18:33
  even
• 18:34
  the
• 18:34
  bad
• 18:34
  things,
• 18:34
  you
• 18:34
  know,
• 18:35
  why
• 18:35
  this
• 18:35
  isn't
• 18:36
  happening
• 18:36
  to
• 18:36
  me?
• 18:36
  This
• 18:37
  is
• 18:37
  happening
• 18:37
  for
• 18:37
  me
• 18:38
  for
• 18:38
  some
• 18:38
  reason.
• 18:38
  But
• 18:39
  you're
• 18:39
  probably
• 18:39
  right
• 18:39
  about
• 18:40
  my
• 18:40
  Greece
• 18:40
  trip,
• 18:40
  because
• 18:41
  it's
• 18:41
  literally
• 18:41
  been.
• 18:42
  I
• 18:43
  had
• 18:43
  a
• 18:43
  screenshot
• 18:44
  of
• 18:44
  it
• 18:45
  from
• 18:45
  the
• 18:45
  first
• 18:45
  time
• 18:45
  I
• 18:46
  saw
• 18:46
  the
• 18:46
  itinerary.
• 18:47
  It's
• 18:47
  been
• 18:47
  on
• 18:47
  my
• 18:48
  phone,
• 18:48
  and
• 18:48
  I've
• 18:48
  had
• 18:48
  six
• 18:48
  phones
• 18:49
  since
• 18:49
  then.
• 18:49
  And
• 18:49
  that
• 18:50
  screenshot
• 18:50
  still
• 18:51
  stays
• 18:51
  there.
• 18:52
  I'm
• 18:52
  like,
• 18:52
  there's
• 18:53
  got
• 18:53
  to
• 18:53
  be
• 18:53
  something.
• 18:54
  So
• 18:54
  maybe
• 18:54
  I'll
• 18:54
  just
• 18:54
  have
• 18:54
  to
• 18:55
  book
• 18:55
  the
• 18:55
  trip.
• 18:56
  I
• 18:56
  don't
• 18:57
  know
• 18:57
  what
• 18:57
  I'm
• 18:57
  waiting
• 18:57
  for.
• 18:58
  I'm
• 18:58
  in
• 18:58
  that
• 18:58
  camp,
• 18:59
  Tammy.
• 18:59
  I'm
• 19:00
  all
• 19:00
  for
• 19:00
  that.
• 19:00
  I
• 19:00
  say
• 19:01
  book
• 19:01
  that
• 19:01
  trip
• 19:02
  and
• 19:02
  go
• 19:03
  see
• 19:03
  what
• 19:03
  magic
• 19:03
  happens
• 19:04
  for
• 19:04
  you
• 19:04
  as
• 19:04
  a
• 19:04
  result.
• 19:05
  You
• 19:05
  know,
• 19:05
  I
• 19:05
  love
• 19:05
  what
• 19:06
  we're
• 19:06
  talking
• 19:06
  about
• 19:06
  here
• 19:07
  because,
• 19:07
  you
• 19:08
  know,
• 19:08
  people
• 19:08
  sit
• 19:09
  and,
• 19:09
  as
• 19:09
  you
• 19:09
  said,
• 19:10
  and
• 19:10
  are.
• 19:10
  And
• 19:10
  are
• 19:10
  waiting
• 19:11
  for
• 19:11
  things
• 19:11
  to
• 19:11
  happen
• 19:11
  or
• 19:12
  counting
• 19:12
  calories
• 19:13
  or,
• 19:13
  you
• 19:13
  know,
• 19:13
  I
• 19:14
  talk
• 19:14
  to
• 19:14
  people
• 19:14
  all
• 19:14
  the.
• 19:14
  The
• 19:15
  time,
• 19:15
  and
• 19:15
  they.
• 19:15
  They
• 19:16
  talk
• 19:16
  about
• 19:16
  their
• 19:16
  life,
• 19:16
  and
• 19:17
  some
• 19:17
  people
• 19:17
  tell
• 19:17
  me,
• 19:17
  oh,
• 19:18
  everything's
• 19:18
  fine.
• 19:18
  You
• 19:19
  know,
• 19:19
  when
• 19:19
  I
• 19:19
  hear
• 19:20
  people
• 19:20
  talk
• 19:20
  about
• 19:21
  life,
• 19:21
  like,
• 19:21
  is
• 19:21
  just
• 19:22
  like
• 19:22
  this.
• 19:23
  You
• 19:23
  know
• 19:23
  what
• 19:23
  it
• 19:23
  reminds
• 19:24
  me
• 19:24
  of?
• 19:24
  It's
• 19:24
  like
• 19:24
  a
• 19:25
  flat
• 19:25
  line
• 19:25
  on
• 19:25
  that
• 19:25
  monitor
• 19:26
  you
• 19:26
  see
• 19:26
  on
• 19:26
  those
• 19:26
  TV
• 19:27
  shows
• 19:27
  where
• 19:27
  it's,
• 19:27
  you
• 19:27
  know,
• 19:28
  supposed
• 19:28
  to
• 19:28
  be
• 19:28
  doing
• 19:28
  it,
• 19:28
  jumping
• 19:29
  around.
• 19:29
  That's
• 19:30
  not
• 19:30
  life.
• 19:31
  Life
• 19:31
  is
• 19:32
  a
• 19:32
  series.
• 19:33
  Life
• 19:34
  is
• 19:34
  a
• 19:34
  series.
• 19:34
  We
• 19:35
  can
• 19:35
  call
• 19:35
  them
• 19:35
  ups,
• 19:36
  downs,
• 19:37
  risks,
• 19:37
  opportunities,
• 19:38
  whatever
• 19:38
  you
• 19:38
  want.
• 19:39
  I
• 19:39
  happen
• 19:39
  to
• 19:40
  have
• 19:40
  learned
• 19:40
  and
• 19:40
  believe
• 19:41
  these.
• 19:41
  What
• 19:41
  we
• 19:42
  perceive
• 19:42
  as
• 19:42
  down
• 19:43
  times
• 19:44
  are
• 19:44
  where
• 19:44
  we
• 19:44
  have
• 19:45
  the
• 19:45
  opportunities
• 19:46
  to
• 19:46
  learn
• 19:47
  and
• 19:47
  grow.
• 19:48
  The
• 19:48
  up
• 19:49
  times,
• 19:49
  if
• 19:49
  we
• 19:49
  want
• 19:50
  to
• 19:50
  call
• 19:50
  it
• 19:50
  that,
• 19:51
  is
• 19:51
  when
• 19:51
  we
• 19:51
  get
• 19:52
  to
• 19:52
  apply
• 19:53
  those
• 19:54
  things
• 19:54
  that
• 19:54
  we
• 19:55
  learned
• 19:55
  and
• 19:55
  grew
• 19:56
  from.
• 19:56
  And
• 19:56
  if
• 19:56
  we're
• 19:57
  smart,
• 19:57
  we
• 19:57
  know
• 19:59
  because
• 19:59
  life
• 19:59
  is
• 20:00
  like
• 20:00
  that
• 20:00
  we're
• 20:01
  going
• 20:01
  to
• 20:01
  get
• 20:01
  another
• 20:01
  opportunity
• 20:02
  soon.
• 20:03
  Yep.
• 20:04
  It's
• 20:04
  funny,
• 20:04
  I
• 20:05
  was
• 20:05
  talking
• 20:05
  to
• 20:05
  someone
• 20:05
  one
• 20:05
  day,
• 20:06
  I
• 20:06
  said,
• 20:06
  it's
• 20:06
  kind
• 20:06
  of
• 20:06
  like
• 20:07
  a
• 20:07
  mutual
• 20:07
  fund.
• 20:09
  Everybody
• 20:09
  goes,
• 20:10
  oh,
• 20:10
  no,
• 20:10
  it's
• 20:10
  down.
• 20:11
  It's
• 20:11
  down.
• 20:11
  Like,
• 20:11
  run.
• 20:12
  And
• 20:12
  I'm
• 20:12
  like,
• 20:12
  no,
• 20:12
  it's
• 20:13
  down.
• 20:13
  Buy
• 20:13
  More,
• 20:14
  because
• 20:14
  when
• 20:14
  it
• 20:14
  goes
• 20:14
  back
• 20:14
  up,
• 20:15
  it's
• 20:15
  worth
• 20:15
  more.
• 20:17
  I
• 20:17
  said,
• 20:18
  you
• 20:18
  know,
• 20:18
  it's
• 20:19
  just
• 20:19
  kind
• 20:19
  of
• 20:19
  funny.
• 20:20
  But
• 20:20
  no,
• 20:21
  you're
• 20:21
  right.
• 20:21
  You're
• 20:21
  absolutely
• 20:22
  right.
• 20:22
  And
• 20:24
  into,
• 20:24
  but
• 20:25
  you
• 20:25
  know,
• 20:25
  living,
• 20:25
  anticipating
• 20:26
  those
• 20:26
  downs,
• 20:27
  that
• 20:27
  you
• 20:27
  don't
• 20:28
  want
• 20:28
  to
• 20:28
  do
• 20:28
  that
• 20:29
  either.
• 20:29
  But
• 20:29
  when
• 20:29
  you,
• 20:30
  then
• 20:30
  they
• 20:30
  come,
• 20:30
  you
• 20:30
  want
• 20:31
  to
• 20:31
  embrace
• 20:31
  them
• 20:31
  because
• 20:31
  it's
• 20:32
  also
• 20:32
  not
• 20:32
  this
• 20:33
  smooth
• 20:33
  like
• 20:33
  this.
• 20:33
  It
• 20:34
  could
• 20:34
  go,
• 20:34
  it
• 20:34
  could
• 20:34
  go
• 20:35
  high
• 20:35
  for
• 20:35
  a
• 20:35
  really
• 20:35
  long
• 20:36
  time
• 20:36
  and
• 20:36
  then
• 20:36
  dip.
• 20:37
  Right?
• 20:37
  That's
• 20:38
  right.
• 20:38
  And
• 20:38
  how
• 20:39
  many
• 20:39
  people,
• 20:40
  how
• 20:40
  many
• 20:41
  of
• 20:41
  us
• 20:41
  sit
• 20:41
  around
• 20:43
  thinking
• 20:44
  about
• 20:44
  the
• 20:45
  worst
• 20:45
  that
• 20:45
  can
• 20:46
  happen?
• 20:46
  We
• 20:47
  live
• 20:47
  from
• 20:47
  that
• 20:48
  space.
• 20:48
  We're
• 20:48
  not
• 20:49
  here
• 20:49
  in
• 20:49
  the
• 20:49
  present.
• 20:50
  We're
• 20:50
  in
• 20:50
  the
• 20:50
  future
• 20:51
  of
• 20:51
  how
• 20:51
  bad
• 20:51
  now?
• 20:52
  If
• 20:52
  you
• 20:52
  look
• 20:52
  back,
• 20:53
  yes,
• 20:54
  some
• 20:54
  terrible
• 20:54
  things
• 20:55
  happen,
• 20:55
  but
• 20:55
  if
• 20:55
  you
• 20:55
  look
• 20:56
  back
• 20:57
  the,
• 20:57
  and
• 20:58
  that
• 20:58
  kind
• 20:58
  of
• 20:58
  thinking,
• 20:59
  it
• 20:59
  rarely
• 21:00
  happens.
• 21:01
  And
• 21:02
  if
• 21:02
  nothing
• 21:03
  else,
• 21:03
  what
• 21:03
  a
• 21:04
  waste
• 21:04
  of
• 21:04
  time
• 21:05
  right
• 21:05
  now
• 21:05
  while
• 21:05
  it's
• 21:06
  not
• 21:06
  happening.
• 21:07
  Right?
• 21:08
  I,
• 21:08
  you
• 21:08
  know,
• 21:08
  I
• 21:09
  was
• 21:09
  working
• 21:09
  with
• 21:09
  a
• 21:09
  client
• 21:10
  the
• 21:10
  other
• 21:10
  day
• 21:10
  and
• 21:10
  I
• 21:11
  literally
• 21:11
  said
• 21:11
  to
• 21:11
  her,
• 21:11
  she
• 21:12
  was
• 21:12
  waiting,
• 21:12
  she
• 21:12
  got
• 21:12
  a
• 21:13
  bill
• 21:13
  from
• 21:13
  somebody
• 21:13
  and
• 21:14
  it
• 21:14
  was
• 21:14
  like
• 21:14
  way
• 21:14
  more
• 21:15
  per
• 21:15
  month
• 21:15
  than
• 21:15
  she
• 21:15
  ever
• 21:15
  thought
• 21:16
  it
• 21:16
  was
• 21:16
  going
• 21:16
  to
• 21:16
  be.
• 21:16
  And
• 21:16
  she
• 21:17
  was
• 21:17
  just
• 21:17
  so,
• 21:18
  so
• 21:18
  anxious
• 21:19
  and
• 21:19
  so
• 21:19
  stressed
• 21:20
  out.
• 21:20
  And
• 21:20
  it
• 21:20
  broke
• 21:20
  my
• 21:20
  heart.
• 21:21
  And
• 21:21
  I
• 21:21
  said,
• 21:21
  she
• 21:21
  goes,
• 21:22
  I
• 21:22
  know
• 21:22
  it's
• 21:22
  going
• 21:22
  to
• 21:22
  this
• 21:23
  and
• 21:23
  I
• 21:23
  know
• 21:23
  it's
• 21:23
  going
• 21:23
  to
• 21:23
  that.
• 21:23
  And
• 21:24
  I
• 21:24
  know
• 21:25
  you
• 21:25
  are
• 21:25
  literally
• 21:26
  speaking
• 21:26
  that
• 21:26
  into
• 21:26
  existence.
• 21:27
  I
• 21:27
  said,
• 21:27
  close
• 21:28
  your
• 21:28
  eyes
• 21:28
  and
• 21:28
  imagine
• 21:29
  four
• 21:29
  best
• 21:30
  case
• 21:30
  scenarios.
• 21:31
  One,
• 21:32
  maybe
• 21:32
  being
• 21:32
  that
• 21:33
  you
• 21:33
  have
• 21:33
  to
• 21:33
  pay
• 21:33
  it
• 21:33
  for
• 21:33
  two
• 21:33
  months
• 21:34
  and
• 21:34
  then
• 21:34
  they
• 21:34
  realize
• 21:34
  it
• 21:34
  was
• 21:35
  a
• 21:35
  clerical
• 21:35
  area
• 21:35
  and
• 21:36
  they
• 21:36
  give
• 21:36
  it
• 21:36
  back.
• 21:37
  2
• 21:37
  Meaning,
• 21:37
  maybe
• 21:38
  they're
• 21:38
  like,
• 21:38
  oops,
• 21:38
  sorry,
• 21:39
  we
• 21:39
  messed
• 21:39
  up.
• 21:39
  3,
• 21:40
  but
• 21:40
  picture
• 21:41
  the
• 21:41
  good.
• 21:42
  Put
• 21:43
  yourself
• 21:43
  in
• 21:44
  the
• 21:44
  feeling
• 21:45
  of
• 21:45
  the
• 21:46
  good
• 21:46
  outcome
• 21:46
  coming.
• 21:47
  Because
• 21:47
  if
• 21:48
  you
• 21:48
  put
• 21:48
  yourself,
• 21:48
  it's
• 21:49
  like,
• 21:49
  you
• 21:49
  know,
• 21:49
  that's
• 21:50
  where
• 21:50
  your
• 21:50
  energy
• 21:50
  is
• 21:51
  going.
• 21:51
  Put
• 21:52
  yourself
• 21:52
  in
• 21:52
  that
• 21:52
  energy.
• 21:53
  And
• 21:53
  she's
• 21:53
  like,
• 21:53
  wow,
• 21:53
  that
• 21:54
  actually
• 21:54
  really
• 21:54
  helped.
• 21:55
  Yes.
• 21:56
  Thoughts
• 21:57
  become
• 21:57
  things.
• 21:58
  Thoughts
• 21:58
  become
• 21:59
  things.
• 21:59
  You
• 21:59
  know,
• 21:59
  and
• 21:59
  you.
• 22:00
  And,
• 22:00
  and
• 22:00
  it
• 22:00
  is
• 22:01
  hard
• 22:01
  for
• 22:01
  the
• 22:01
  people
• 22:01
  listening,
• 22:02
  especially
• 22:02
  some
• 22:02
  of
• 22:03
  the
• 22:03
  people
• 22:03
  on
• 22:03
  this
• 22:03
  podcast,
• 22:04
  some
• 22:04
  of
• 22:04
  the
• 22:04
  listeners,
• 22:05
  because
• 22:06
  you've
• 22:06
  been
• 22:06
  wired
• 22:08
  because
• 22:08
  of
• 22:08
  your
• 22:09
  history
• 22:09
  to
• 22:10
  expect
• 22:10
  the
• 22:11
  worst.
• 22:12
  So
• 22:12
  you
• 22:13
  need
• 22:13
  to
• 22:13
  start
• 22:13
  working
• 22:13
  with
• 22:14
  that.
• 22:14
  We
• 22:14
  talk
• 22:14
  about
• 22:14
  that
• 22:14
  little
• 22:14
  inner
• 22:15
  critic
• 22:15
  or
• 22:15
  that
• 22:15
  self,
• 22:16
  you
• 22:16
  know,
• 22:16
  that
• 22:16
  little
• 22:17
  self
• 22:17
  talk
• 22:17
  person
• 22:17
  that
• 22:18
  goes,
• 22:18
  oh,
• 22:18
  I
• 22:18
  know
• 22:19
  this.
• 22:20
  You
• 22:20
  don't
• 22:20
  know
• 22:20
  anything.
• 22:21
  It's
• 22:21
  in
• 22:21
  the
• 22:21
  future.
• 22:23
  So
• 22:23
  if
• 22:23
  you're
• 22:23
  going
• 22:23
  to
• 22:24
  make
• 22:24
  it
• 22:24
  up
• 22:24
  anyway,
• 22:25
  make
• 22:25
  it
• 22:25
  good.
• 22:26
  Just
• 22:26
  like
• 22:26
  people
• 22:27
  that
• 22:27
  have
• 22:27
  blackouts
• 22:28
  of
• 22:28
  entire
• 22:28
  years
• 22:29
  of
• 22:29
  their
• 22:29
  life
• 22:29
  because
• 22:30
  of
• 22:30
  trauma
• 22:30
  or
• 22:30
  abuse
• 22:31
  or
• 22:31
  whatever,
• 22:32
  you're,
• 22:32
  you're
• 22:32
  filling
• 22:33
  in
• 22:33
  blanks
• 22:34
  when
• 22:34
  you
• 22:34
  think
• 22:34
  about
• 22:34
  what
• 22:34
  happened.
• 22:35
  You
• 22:35
  go
• 22:35
  to
• 22:35
  therapy,
• 22:36
  you're
• 22:36
  you're
• 22:36
  making
• 22:37
  up
• 22:37
  those
• 22:37
  stories
• 22:38
  in
• 22:38
  your
• 22:38
  mind,
• 22:38
  assuming
• 22:39
  what
• 22:39
  happened.
• 22:40
  If
• 22:40
  you're
• 22:40
  going
• 22:40
  to
• 22:40
  make
• 22:40
  it
• 22:40
  up,
• 22:41
  make
• 22:41
  it
• 22:41
  good.
• 22:45
  Absolutely.
• 22:47
  Make
• 22:47
  it
• 22:47
  good.
• 22:48
  So
• 22:48
  talk
• 22:48
  about.
• 22:49
  I
• 22:49
  know
• 22:49
  you
• 22:49
  had
• 22:49
  a
• 22:49
  lot
• 22:49
  of
• 22:50
  experience.
• 22:50
  I
• 22:50
  was
• 22:50
  laughing,
• 22:51
  too,
• 22:51
  because
• 22:51
  you
• 22:51
  said
• 22:52
  you
• 22:53
  were
• 22:53
  one
• 22:53
  of
• 22:53
  the
• 22:54
  first,
• 22:54
  I
• 22:54
  think,
• 22:54
  47th
• 22:55
  employee
• 22:56
  with
• 22:56
  Facebook.
• 22:57
  I
• 22:57
  think
• 22:57
  I.
• 22:58
  I
• 22:58
  was
• 22:58
  in
• 22:58
  the
• 22:58
  first
• 22:59
  75.
• 22:59
  I
• 23:00
  think
• 23:00
  I
• 23:00
  was
• 23:00
  number
• 23:00
  57,
• 23:01
  but
• 23:01
  who's
• 23:02
  counting?
• 23:02
  You
• 23:02
  know,
• 23:02
  that's
• 23:03
  a
• 23:03
  great
• 23:03
  story.
• 23:04
  I'll
• 23:04
  tell
• 23:04
  you
• 23:04
  a
• 23:05
  little
• 23:05
  bit
• 23:05
  about
• 23:05
  it
• 23:05
  because
• 23:05
  it's
• 23:05
  in
• 23:06
  the
• 23:06
  book.
• 23:07
  I
• 23:07
  was
• 23:07
  sitting
• 23:08
  at
• 23:08
  my
• 23:08
  desk
• 23:08
  at
• 23:09
  Palm
• 23:09
  one
• 23:09
  day,
• 23:10
  and
• 23:10
  I
• 23:10
  was
• 23:10
  responsible
• 23:11
  for
• 23:11
  global
• 23:11
  service
• 23:12
  operations,
• 23:12
  traveling
• 23:13
  around
• 23:13
  the
• 23:14
  world.
• 23:14
  And
• 23:14
  my
• 23:15
  corporate
• 23:15
  staff
• 23:16
  had
• 23:16
  like
• 23:16
  three
• 23:17
  or
• 23:17
  four
• 23:17
  thousand
• 23:17
  people
• 23:18
  out
• 23:18
  around
• 23:18
  the
• 23:18
  world.
• 23:19
  And
• 23:19
  I
• 23:20
  was
• 23:20
  going
• 23:20
  to
• 23:20
  these
• 23:20
  wonderful
• 23:21
  places
• 23:21
  that
• 23:21
  I
• 23:22
  probably
• 23:22
  would
• 23:22
  have
• 23:22
  never
• 23:22
  gone
• 23:23
  to.
• 23:23
  And
• 23:23
  I
• 23:23
  got
• 23:23
  the
• 23:23
  phone
• 23:24
  rang,
• 23:25
  and
• 23:25
  it's
• 23:25
  a
• 23:25
  recruiter
• 23:26
  from
• 23:26
  this
• 23:26
  little
• 23:26
  company
• 23:27
  called
• 23:27
  Facebook.
• 23:28
  Well,
• 23:28
  Facebook
• 23:29
  was
• 23:29
  still
• 23:29
  in
• 23:30
  colleges.
• 23:30
  I
• 23:31
  had
• 23:31
  no
• 23:31
  idea
• 23:32
  what
• 23:32
  it
• 23:32
  was.
• 23:32
  I
• 23:33
  thanked
• 23:33
  them
• 23:34
  graciously,
• 23:35
  hung
• 23:35
  up
• 23:35
  the
• 23:35
  phone,
• 23:36
  and
• 23:36
  a
• 23:36
  buddy
• 23:37
  called
• 23:37
  me
• 23:37
  that
• 23:37
  I
• 23:37
  used
• 23:37
  to
• 23:38
  work
• 23:38
  with
• 23:38
  and
• 23:38
  said,
• 23:39
  I
• 23:39
  referred
• 23:39
  you
• 23:39
  to
• 23:40
  Facebook
• 23:40
  and
• 23:40
  you
• 23:40
  didn't
• 23:40
  even
• 23:41
  talk
• 23:41
  to
• 23:41
  them.
• 23:41
  I
• 23:41
  said,
• 23:42
  what's
• 23:42
  Facebook?
• 23:43
  So
• 23:44
  I
• 23:44
  interviewed
• 23:45
  with
• 23:45
  Mark
• 23:46
  Zuckerberg
• 23:47
  when
• 23:48
  he
• 23:48
  was
• 23:48
  19,
• 23:49
  and
• 23:49
  if
• 23:49
  you
• 23:49
  want
• 23:49
  to
• 23:50
  read
• 23:50
  a
• 23:50
  great
• 23:50
  story,
• 23:51
  read
• 23:51
  it
• 23:51
  in
• 23:51
  the
• 23:51
  book.
• 23:52
  But
• 23:52
  I
• 23:52
  ultimately
• 23:53
  went
• 23:53
  to
• 23:53
  Facebook
• 23:54
  in
• 23:54
  the
• 23:54
  very,
• 23:55
  very
• 23:55
  early
• 23:55
  days
• 23:56
  and
• 23:57
  to
• 23:57
  set
• 23:57
  up
• 23:57
  all
• 23:58
  their
• 23:58
  customer
• 23:58
  operations.
• 23:59
  A
• 23:59
  bunch
• 23:59
  of
• 23:59
  other
• 24:00
  stuff
• 24:00
  there.
• 24:00
  But
• 24:00
  the
• 24:01
  interesting
• 24:01
  thing
• 24:01
  was
• 24:02
  everybody
• 24:03
  working
• 24:03
  there
• 24:05
  was
• 24:05
  20
• 24:06
  or
• 24:06
  21.
• 24:07
  They
• 24:07
  were
• 24:07
  all
• 24:08
  fresh
• 24:08
  out
• 24:08
  of
• 24:09
  school.
• 24:10
  Yale,
• 24:10
  Stanford,
• 24:11
  Harvard,
• 24:12
  all
• 24:13
  these
• 24:13
  top
• 24:13
  schools
• 24:14
  deferring.
• 24:14
  Business
• 24:15
  school,
• 24:15
  medical
• 24:16
  school,
• 24:17
  you
• 24:17
  name
• 24:17
  it,
• 24:18
  law
• 24:18
  school.
• 24:19
  Because
• 24:20
  Facebook
• 24:20
  was
• 24:20
  in
• 24:21
  colleges
• 24:21
  and
• 24:21
  it
• 24:21
  was
• 24:22
  their
• 24:22
  dream
• 24:22
  job.
• 24:23
  Well,
• 24:23
  here
• 24:24
  I
• 24:24
  come.
• 24:25
  I
• 24:25
  was
• 24:26
  old
• 24:26
  enough
• 24:27
  to
• 24:27
  be
• 24:27
  everyone's
• 24:28
  father.
• 24:30
  In
• 24:30
  fact,
• 24:31
  my
• 24:31
  next
• 24:31
  book,
• 24:31
  that's
• 24:32
  what
• 24:32
  it's
• 24:32
  about.
• 24:32
  I'm
• 24:33
  telling
• 24:33
  a
• 24:33
  story
• 24:33
  of
• 24:34
  my
• 24:34
  life
• 24:34
  at
• 24:34
  Facebook.
• 24:35
  The
• 24:35
  adult
• 24:35
  in
• 24:35
  the
• 24:36
  room.
• 24:36
  Because
• 24:36
  that's
• 24:36
  what
• 24:37
  they
• 24:37
  called
• 24:37
  me,
• 24:37
  the
• 24:37
  adult
• 24:38
  in
• 24:38
  the
• 24:38
  room.
• 24:39
  And
• 24:39
  I'm
• 24:39
  going
• 24:39
  to
• 24:39
  tell
• 24:39
  some
• 24:40
  fun
• 24:40
  stories
• 24:40
  about
• 24:41
  those
• 24:41
  crazy
• 24:41
  early
• 24:42
  days
• 24:42
  at
• 24:42
  Facebook
• 24:43
  through
• 24:44
  my
• 24:44
  eyes.
• 24:44
  Being
• 24:45
  old
• 24:45
  enough
• 24:45
  to
• 24:46
  be
• 24:46
  everyone's
• 24:47
  father.
• 24:48
  That's
• 24:48
  funny.
• 24:48
  I
• 24:49
  actually
• 24:49
  laughed
• 24:49
  because
• 24:49
  I
• 24:50
  was
• 24:50
  like,
• 24:50
  wow,
• 24:50
  it's
• 24:50
  funny
• 24:51
  how
• 24:51
  life
• 24:51
  just
• 24:51
  kind
• 24:51
  of
• 24:52
  throws
• 24:52
  things
• 24:52
  at
• 24:52
  you.
• 24:53
  Yesterday
• 24:54
  I
• 24:54
  did
• 24:54
  an
• 24:54
  interview
• 24:55
  with
• 24:55
  a
• 24:56
  gentleman,
• 24:56
  Anthony
• 24:57
  Spark,
• 24:57
  who
• 24:57
  is
• 24:57
  second
• 24:58
  cousins
• 24:58
  to
• 24:58
  Mark.
• 24:59
  I
• 24:59
  know,
• 24:59
  I
• 25:00
  know.
• 25:00
  Anthony,
• 25:01
  do
• 25:01
  you
• 25:01
  in
• 25:02
  that
• 25:02
  funny?
• 25:03
  So
• 25:03
  I
• 25:03
  was
• 25:04
  laughing.
• 25:04
  I
• 25:04
  was
• 25:04
  like,
• 25:04
  well,
• 25:04
  that's
• 25:05
  kind
• 25:05
  of
• 25:05
  weird.
• 25:05
  Like,
• 25:05
  it
• 25:05
  came
• 25:06
  up
• 25:06
  twice,
• 25:06
  that
• 25:06
  name,
• 25:07
  you
• 25:07
  know,
• 25:07
  and
• 25:07
  it's
• 25:08
  kind
• 25:08
  of
• 25:08
  a
• 25:08
  joke
• 25:08
  because
• 25:09
  I
• 25:09
  just,
• 25:09
  I'M
• 25:10
  not
• 25:10
  good
• 25:10
  with
• 25:10
  names.
• 25:11
  But
• 25:11
  anyway,
• 25:11
  I
• 25:11
  always
• 25:11
  just
• 25:12
  called
• 25:12
  him
• 25:12
  Mark.
• 25:13
  I
• 25:13
  do,
• 25:13
  I
• 25:13
  do
• 25:14
  know,
• 25:14
  Anthony.
• 25:14
  I
• 25:15
  tell
• 25:15
  you
• 25:15
  a
• 25:15
  fun
• 25:15
  story
• 25:15
  too,
• 25:16
  for
• 25:16
  your
• 25:16
  viewers
• 25:16
  is
• 25:17
  when
• 25:17
  I
• 25:17
  left,
• 25:18
  I
• 25:18
  said
• 25:18
  to
• 25:18
  Mark,
• 25:19
  I
• 25:19
  want
• 25:19
  to
• 25:19
  see
• 25:19
  you
• 25:20
  in
• 25:20
  10
• 25:20
  years.
• 25:20
  And
• 25:21
  mark
• 25:21
  said,
• 25:21
  well,
• 25:21
  why
• 25:21
  do
• 25:21
  you
• 25:22
  want
• 25:22
  to
• 25:22
  see
• 25:22
  me?
• 25:23
  You're
• 25:23
  leaving.
• 25:23
  And
• 25:23
  I
• 25:24
  said,
• 25:24
  I
• 25:24
  just
• 25:24
  want
• 25:24
  to
• 25:24
  see
• 25:24
  what
• 25:24
  happens
• 25:25
  to
• 25:25
  you
• 25:25
  and
• 25:25
  what
• 25:25
  goes
• 25:26
  on.
• 25:27
  So
• 25:27
  I
• 25:27
  forgot
• 25:28
  all
• 25:28
  about
• 25:28
  it,
• 25:29
  Tammy.
• 25:30
  And
• 25:30
  I'm
• 25:30
  sitting
• 25:30
  at
• 25:31
  my
• 25:31
  desk
• 25:31
  10
• 25:32
  years
• 25:32
  later
• 25:32
  and
• 25:33
  a
• 25:33
  Facebook
• 25:34
  message
• 25:34
  pops
• 25:35
  up
• 25:35
  that
• 25:35
  says,
• 25:36
  still
• 25:37
  want
• 25:37
  to
• 25:37
  have
• 25:37
  lunch?
• 25:38
  Oh,
• 25:39
  that's
• 25:39
  funny.
• 25:39
  I
• 25:40
  looked
• 25:40
  at
• 25:40
  that
• 25:40
  message
• 25:41
  from
• 25:41
  Mark
• 25:41
  Zuckerberg
• 25:42
  and
• 25:42
  thought
• 25:42
  to
• 25:43
  myself,
• 25:44
  do
• 25:44
  I
• 25:44
  want
• 25:44
  to
• 25:45
  have
• 25:45
  lunch
• 25:45
  with
• 25:45
  the
• 25:46
  fifth
• 25:46
  richest
• 25:46
  man
• 25:47
  in
• 25:47
  the
• 25:47
  world?
• 25:48
  Because
• 25:48
  that's
• 25:48
  what
• 25:49
  he
• 25:49
  was
• 25:49
  at
• 25:49
  the
• 25:49
  time.
• 25:50
  And
• 25:50
  I
• 25:50
  said,
• 25:51
  heck
• 25:51
  yeah,
• 25:51
  I'm
• 25:51
  going
• 25:51
  to
• 25:51
  have
• 25:51
  lunch
• 25:52
  with
• 25:52
  the
• 25:52
  fifth
• 25:52
  richest
• 25:53
  man
• 25:53
  in
• 25:53
  the
• 25:53
  world.
• 25:54
  And,
• 25:54
  boy,
• 25:55
  was
• 25:55
  that
• 25:55
  an
• 25:56
  experience.
• 25:56
  In
• 25:56
  fact,
• 25:57
  we're
• 25:57
  due
• 25:57
  for
• 25:58
  20
• 25:58
  years.
• 25:58
  That's
• 25:59
  coming
• 25:59
  up
• 25:59
  really
• 26:00
  soon
• 26:00
  here.
• 26:01
  And
• 26:01
  with
• 26:01
  all
• 26:01
  the
• 26:01
  changes
• 26:02
  that
• 26:02
  have
• 26:02
  gone
• 26:02
  on,
• 26:02
  who
• 26:03
  knows
• 26:03
  if
• 26:03
  I'll
• 26:03
  get
• 26:03
  that
• 26:04
  same
• 26:04
  Facebook
• 26:04
  message.
• 26:05
  And
• 26:05
  I
• 26:05
  even
• 26:06
  question
• 26:06
  if
• 26:06
  I
• 26:06
  go.
• 26:07
  But
• 26:07
  I
• 26:07
  made
• 26:07
  a
• 26:07
  decision.
• 26:08
  If
• 26:08
  I
• 26:08
  hear
• 26:08
  from
• 26:08
  Mark
• 26:09
  and
• 26:09
  wants
• 26:09
  to
• 26:09
  have
• 26:09
  another
• 26:10
  a
• 26:10
  20
• 26:10
  year
• 26:11
  lunch,
• 26:11
  I'm
• 26:12
  in.
• 26:12
  There
• 26:13
  you
• 26:13
  go.
• 26:13
  Amen.
• 26:14
  No,
• 26:14
  that's
• 26:15
  funny.
• 26:15
  And
• 26:15
  yes,
• 26:16
  funny
• 26:16
  that
• 26:16
  it
• 26:17
  just
• 26:17
  goes
• 26:17
  back
• 26:17
  to,
• 26:18
  I'm
• 26:18
  thinking
• 26:19
  business
• 26:19
  wise,
• 26:19
  I'm
• 26:20
  picturing
• 26:20
  him
• 26:21
  going,
• 26:21
  okay,
• 26:21
  10
• 26:21
  years
• 26:22
  picturing.
• 26:23
  I'm
• 26:23
  putting
• 26:23
  it
• 26:23
  on
• 26:23
  his
• 26:24
  little
• 26:24
  Google
• 26:24
  calendar
• 26:26
  like
• 26:26
  he
• 26:27
  did
• 26:27
  Tom
• 26:27
  Lenoble.
• 26:28
  He
• 26:29
  did.
• 26:29
  I
• 26:30
  was,
• 26:30
  believe
• 26:30
  me,
• 26:31
  I
• 26:31
  was
• 26:31
  amazed.
• 26:32
  I
• 26:32
  was
• 26:32
  shocked.
• 26:33
  You
• 26:33
  know,
• 26:33
  I
• 26:33
  went
• 26:34
  and
• 26:35
  I
• 26:35
  had
• 26:35
  to
• 26:35
  get
• 26:35
  through
• 26:36
  this
• 26:36
  unbelievable
• 26:37
  security.
• 26:38
  And
• 26:39
  they
• 26:39
  took
• 26:40
  me
• 26:40
  upstairs
• 26:40
  and
• 26:41
  there's
• 26:41
  these
• 26:41
  two
• 26:41
  glass
• 26:42
  conference
• 26:42
  rooms.
• 26:43
  One
• 26:43
  was
• 26:43
  his,
• 26:43
  one
• 26:44
  was
• 26:44
  Sheryl
• 26:44
  Sandberg's,
• 26:45
  and
• 26:45
  I'm
• 26:45
  on
• 26:45
  a
• 26:45
  couch
• 26:46
  in
• 26:46
  between.
• 26:46
  So
• 26:46
  of
• 26:46
  course
• 26:47
  I
• 26:47
  positioned
• 26:47
  myself
• 26:48
  so
• 26:48
  I
• 26:48
  could
• 26:48
  sit,
• 26:48
  see
• 26:48
  as
• 26:49
  much
• 26:49
  as
• 26:49
  I
• 26:49
  could.
• 26:50
  And
• 26:50
  I
• 26:50
  had
• 26:50
  opened
• 26:51
  a
• 26:51
  building
• 26:51
  there
• 26:51
  and
• 26:52
  we
• 26:52
  had
• 26:52
  graffiti
• 26:52
  art
• 26:53
  everywhere.
• 26:53
  And
• 26:53
  they
• 26:54
  had
• 26:54
  taken
• 26:55
  cutouts
• 26:55
  of
• 26:55
  the
• 26:56
  walls
• 26:56
  and
• 26:56
  framed
• 26:57
  them
• 26:57
  and
• 26:57
  had
• 26:57
  them
• 26:57
  hanging
• 26:58
  as
• 26:58
  part
• 26:58
  of
• 26:58
  the
• 26:58
  artwork.
• 26:59
  So
• 27:00
  the
• 27:00
  history
• 27:00
  of
• 27:00
  the
• 27:00
  company
• 27:01
  came,
• 27:01
  was
• 27:01
  really
• 27:01
  beautiful.
• 27:02
  So
• 27:02
  I'm
• 27:02
  absorbing
• 27:02
  it
• 27:02
  all.
• 27:03
  I'm
• 27:03
  watching
• 27:03
  Mark
• 27:03
  in
• 27:03
  a
• 27:04
  meeting.
• 27:04
  He
• 27:05
  comes
• 27:05
  out
• 27:05
  of
• 27:05
  the
• 27:05
  room
• 27:05
  and
• 27:06
  we
• 27:06
  see
• 27:06
  each
• 27:06
  other.
• 27:06
  I
• 27:06
  think
• 27:07
  we
• 27:07
  might
• 27:07
  have
• 27:07
  even
• 27:07
  hugged.
• 27:08
  And
• 27:08
  all
• 27:08
  of
• 27:08
  a
• 27:08
  sudden
• 27:08
  there's
• 27:08
  a
• 27:08
  photographer
• 27:09
  takes
• 27:09
  this
• 27:09
  picture.
• 27:10
  We're,
• 27:10
  you
• 27:10
  know,
• 27:11
  smiling
• 27:11
  and
• 27:11
  I'm
• 27:11
  thinking,
• 27:11
  oh,
• 27:12
  this
• 27:12
  is
• 27:12
  really
• 27:12
  cute.
• 27:13
  They're
• 27:13
  going
• 27:13
  to
• 27:13
  put
• 27:13
  me
• 27:13
  in
• 27:13
  the,
• 27:14
  the
• 27:14
  newsletter,
• 27:15
  talk
• 27:15
  about
• 27:15
  me
• 27:15
  at
• 27:15
  the
• 27:16
  company
• 27:16
  meeting.
• 27:16
  And
• 27:16
  then
• 27:16
  I
• 27:16
  realized
• 27:17
  in
• 27:17
  that
• 27:17
  moment,
• 27:18
  no,
• 27:19
  you're
• 27:19
  talking
• 27:19
  to
• 27:19
  the
• 27:20
  fifth
• 27:20
  richest
• 27:20
  man
• 27:20
  in
• 27:21
  the
• 27:21
  world.
• 27:21
  They
• 27:21
  want
• 27:21
  a
• 27:21
  picture
• 27:21
  of
• 27:22
  you
• 27:22
  in
• 27:22
  case
• 27:22
  something
• 27:22
  happens
• 27:23
  that
• 27:23
  you
• 27:24
  were
• 27:24
  here.
• 27:24
  Oh,
• 27:25
  that's
• 27:25
  funny.
• 27:26
  We
• 27:26
  went
• 27:26
  into,
• 27:26
  we
• 27:27
  had
• 27:27
  30
• 27:27
  minutes
• 27:27
  and
• 27:27
  we
• 27:28
  went
• 27:28
  into
• 27:28
  this
• 27:28
  conference
• 27:28
  room
• 27:29
  that
• 27:29
  had
• 27:29
  this
• 27:29
  beautiful
• 27:30
  spread
• 27:30
  of
• 27:30
  food.
• 27:30
  He
• 27:31
  and
• 27:31
  I
• 27:31
  didn't
• 27:31
  even
• 27:31
  touch
• 27:32
  it.
• 27:32
  We
• 27:32
  were
• 27:33
  there
• 27:33
  for,
• 27:33
  talked
• 27:33
  for
• 27:34
  45
• 27:34
  minutes.
• 27:34
  There
• 27:35
  were
• 27:35
  people
• 27:35
  waiting
• 27:35
  outside
• 27:36
  for
• 27:36
  him.
• 27:37
  And
• 27:37
  it
• 27:37
  went
• 27:37
  by
• 27:37
  really
• 27:38
  quickly,
• 27:38
  but
• 27:38
  we
• 27:38
  had
• 27:38
  a
• 27:39
  really
• 27:39
  engaging
• 27:39
  conversation.
• 27:40
  Conversation.
• 27:41
  And
• 27:42
  it
• 27:43
  was,
• 27:43
  it
• 27:43
  was
• 27:43
  remarkable.
• 27:44
  Yeah.
• 27:45
  So
• 27:46
  that
• 27:46
  is
• 27:46
  amazing
• 27:46
  and
• 27:47
  an
• 27:47
  amazing
• 27:47
  story
• 27:48
  of
• 27:48
  just,
• 27:48
  you
• 27:48
  know,
• 27:48
  going
• 27:49
  from
• 27:49
  your.
• 27:49
  I'm
• 27:49
  picturing
• 27:50
  your
• 27:51
  shack,
• 27:51
  as
• 27:51
  you
• 27:51
  humbly
• 27:52
  called
• 27:52
  it.
• 27:55
  You
• 27:55
  use
• 27:55
  another
• 27:56
  word,
• 27:56
  not
• 27:56
  humbly,
• 27:56
  but.
• 27:58
  And
• 27:59
  anybody
• 28:00
  can
• 28:00
  do
• 28:00
  anything.
• 28:01
  It
• 28:01
  doesn't
• 28:01
  matter.
• 28:02
  Like
• 28:02
  it's
• 28:03
  so
• 28:03
  true.
• 28:03
  That
• 28:04
  shack
• 28:04
  had.
• 28:04
  It
• 28:05
  was
• 28:05
  a
• 28:05
  one
• 28:05
  bedroom
• 28:06
  shack
• 28:06
  that
• 28:07
  my
• 28:07
  grandfather
• 28:08
  built.
• 28:09
  My
• 28:09
  brother
• 28:09
  and
• 28:09
  I
• 28:10
  shared
• 28:10
  the
• 28:10
  bedroom
• 28:11
  at
• 28:11
  one
• 28:11
  point
• 28:11
  with
• 28:11
  a
• 28:11
  grandmother.
• 28:12
  My
• 28:13
  mother
• 28:13
  and
• 28:13
  father's
• 28:14
  bedroom
• 28:14
  was
• 28:14
  the
• 28:15
  living
• 28:15
  room.
• 28:15
  We
• 28:15
  never
• 28:16
  saw
• 28:16
  it
• 28:16
  as
• 28:16
  a
• 28:17
  bedroom.
• 28:18
  My
• 28:18
  father
• 28:19
  heated
• 28:19
  these
• 28:20
  huge
• 28:21
  vats,
• 28:21
  vats
• 28:21
  of
• 28:22
  water
• 28:23
  on
• 28:23
  a
• 28:23
  kerosene
• 28:24
  stove,
• 28:24
  which
• 28:24
  I
• 28:25
  can
• 28:25
  still
• 28:25
  smell.
• 28:26
  And
• 28:26
  that's
• 28:26
  how
• 28:27
  we
• 28:27
  bathe.
• 28:27
  That's
• 28:28
  the
• 28:28
  hot
• 28:28
  water
• 28:29
  that
• 28:29
  went
• 28:29
  in
• 28:29
  the
• 28:29
  bathtub.
• 28:31
  And
• 28:31
  I
• 28:31
  didn't
• 28:32
  know
• 28:32
  any
• 28:32
  difference.
• 28:33
  I
• 28:33
  was
• 28:33
  a
• 28:33
  kid,
• 28:34
  right?
• 28:34
  You
• 28:34
  don't
• 28:34
  know
• 28:34
  what's
• 28:35
  going
• 28:35
  on.
• 28:35
  And
• 28:37
  fortunately
• 28:37
  for
• 28:37
  me,
• 28:38
  there
• 28:38
  was
• 28:38
  a
• 28:38
  lot
• 28:38
  of
• 28:39
  love.
• 28:39
  I
• 28:39
  had
• 28:39
  two
• 28:40
  of
• 28:40
  the
• 28:40
  most
• 28:40
  incredible
• 28:41
  parents
• 28:42
  and.
• 28:43
  But
• 28:43
  I
• 28:43
  remember
• 28:44
  I
• 28:44
  started
• 28:44
  school
• 28:45
  when
• 28:45
  I
• 28:45
  was
• 28:45
  five
• 28:46
  and
• 28:46
  I
• 28:46
  remember
• 28:47
  coming
• 28:47
  home
• 28:47
  one
• 28:48
  day
• 28:48
  from
• 28:48
  school
• 28:48
  and
• 28:49
  in
• 28:49
  my
• 28:49
  little
• 28:49
  five
• 28:50
  year
• 28:50
  old
• 28:50
  mind,
• 28:50
  not
• 28:51
  like
• 28:51
  I'm
• 28:51
  going
• 28:51
  to
• 28:51
  say
• 28:51
  it
• 28:51
  now,
• 28:52
  but
• 28:52
  I
• 28:52
  came
• 28:53
  home
• 28:53
  and
• 28:53
  I'm
• 28:53
  like,
• 28:55
  yeah,
• 28:55
  this
• 28:55
  isn't
• 28:56
  what
• 28:56
  this
• 28:56
  is
• 28:56
  supposed
• 28:56
  to
• 28:57
  look
• 28:57
  like.
• 28:58
  And
• 28:58
  in
• 28:58
  some
• 28:59
  way
• 28:59
  or
• 28:59
  fashion
• 28:59
  I
• 29:00
  knew
• 29:00
  the
• 29:00
  wheel
• 29:00
  started
• 29:01
  turning
• 29:01
  then
• 29:02
  that
• 29:03
  this
• 29:03
  isn't
• 29:03
  what
• 29:03
  this
• 29:03
  is
• 29:04
  going
• 29:04
  to
• 29:04
  be
• 29:04
  about
• 29:04
  again.
• 29:05
  I
• 29:05
  was
• 29:05
  a
• 29:05
  little
• 29:05
  five
• 29:05
  year
• 29:06
  old
• 29:06
  and.
• 29:07
  But
• 29:08
  you
• 29:08
  know,
• 29:08
  it's
• 29:08
  an
• 29:09
  amazing
• 29:09
  story
• 29:10
  of
• 29:10
  shack
• 29:11
  to
• 29:12
  Fortune
• 29:12
  500
• 29:13
  boardrooms.
• 29:14
  Shack
• 29:14
  through
• 29:15
  illnesses
• 29:16
  and
• 29:16
  difficult
• 29:17
  times,
• 29:18
  Shaq,
• 29:19
  through
• 29:19
  even
• 29:20
  high
• 29:20
  heels
• 29:21
  to
• 29:22
  what
• 29:22
  happened.
• 29:23
  And
• 29:24
  so
• 29:25
  anything
• 29:26
  is
• 29:26
  possible,
• 29:27
  just
• 29:27
  as
• 29:28
  nothing
• 29:29
  is
• 29:29
  certain.
• 29:30
  Absolutely.
• 29:31
  That's
• 29:32
  so
• 29:32
  true.
• 29:33
  So
• 29:33
  for
• 29:33
  the
• 29:33
  people
• 29:33
  out
• 29:34
  there
• 29:34
  who
• 29:34
  have
• 29:34
  been
• 29:34
  sitting
• 29:35
  there
• 29:35
  their
• 29:35
  whole
• 29:35
  lives
• 29:35
  going,
• 29:36
  well,
• 29:36
  I'm
• 29:37
  just
• 29:37
  destined.
• 29:37
  Because
• 29:38
  you're
• 29:38
  not
• 29:38
  destined
• 29:39
  to
• 29:39
  anything.
• 29:40
  You
• 29:40
  determine
• 29:41
  your
• 29:41
  own
• 29:41
  destiny.
• 29:42
  You
• 29:42
  make
• 29:42
  your
• 29:42
  destiny.
• 29:43
  And
• 29:44
  it
• 29:44
  starts
• 29:44
  up
• 29:44
  here.
• 29:46
  And
• 29:47
  there's
• 29:47
  so
• 29:47
  many
• 29:48
  tools
• 29:48
  out
• 29:48
  there
• 29:49
  now.
• 29:49
  Like
• 29:49
  people
• 29:49
  are
• 29:50
  like,
• 29:50
  oh,
• 29:50
  I've
• 29:50
  been
• 29:50
  depressed
• 29:51
  my
• 29:51
  whole
• 29:51
  life,
• 29:51
  I've
• 29:51
  been
• 29:52
  anti
• 29:52
  psychotics
• 29:53
  my
• 29:53
  whole
• 29:53
  life
• 29:53
  and
• 29:54
  blah,
• 29:54
  blah,
• 29:54
  blah.
• 29:55
  Then
• 29:55
  find
• 29:55
  the
• 29:56
  right
• 29:56
  tools,
• 29:56
  find
• 29:57
  the
• 29:57
  right
• 29:57
  people,
• 29:57
  the
• 29:58
  community,
• 29:58
  the
• 29:58
  people
• 29:59
  that
• 29:59
  will
• 29:59
  support
• 29:59
  you.
• 30:01
  They're
• 30:01
  out
• 30:01
  there.
• 30:02
  They're
• 30:02
  so
• 30:02
  out
• 30:03
  there.
• 30:03
  It
• 30:03
  just
• 30:03
  use
• 30:04
  your
• 30:04
  resilience.
• 30:06
  Talk
• 30:07
  about
• 30:07
  risk.
• 30:08
  Resilience
• 30:08
  and
• 30:09
  reinvention.
• 30:10
  Sometimes
• 30:11
  we
• 30:11
  have
• 30:11
  to
• 30:11
  take
• 30:12
  risks.
• 30:12
  It
• 30:12
  requires
• 30:13
  our
• 30:13
  resilience
• 30:14
  to
• 30:14
  be
• 30:15
  able
• 30:15
  to
• 30:15
  reinvent
• 30:16
  ourselves.
• 30:18
  But
• 30:18
  I
• 30:18
  mean,
• 30:19
  we
• 30:19
  were
• 30:19
  saying
• 30:19
  it
• 30:19
  yesterday,
• 30:20
  you
• 30:20
  know,
• 30:20
  Henry
• 30:20
  Ford,
• 30:21
  if
• 30:21
  you've
• 30:21
  only
• 30:22
  always
• 30:22
  do
• 30:22
  what
• 30:22
  you've
• 30:23
  always
• 30:23
  done,
• 30:23
  you
• 30:23
  can
• 30:23
  always
• 30:23
  get
• 30:24
  what
• 30:24
  you've
• 30:24
  always
• 30:24
  gotten.
• 30:25
  So
• 30:26
  shake
• 30:26
  it
• 30:26
  up
• 30:27
  a
• 30:27
  little
• 30:27
  bit.
• 30:27
  If
• 30:27
  you're
• 30:27
  not
• 30:28
  right
• 30:28
  where
• 30:28
  you
• 30:28
  want
• 30:28
  to
• 30:28
  be
• 30:29
  right
• 30:29
  now,
• 30:29
  make
• 30:30
  a
• 30:30
  change.
• 30:31
  But
• 30:31
  just
• 30:31
  make
• 30:31
  a
• 30:31
  change.
• 30:32
  Just
• 30:32
  start
• 30:32
  moving.
• 30:33
  Say,
• 30:33
  what
• 30:34
  do
• 30:34
  I
• 30:34
  need
• 30:34
  right
• 30:34
  now?
• 30:35
  And
• 30:36
  what's
• 30:36
  going
• 30:36
  to
• 30:36
  make
• 30:36
  me
• 30:36
  feel
• 30:36
  a
• 30:37
  little
• 30:37
  better
• 30:37
  right
• 30:37
  now?
• 30:38
  And
• 30:38
  then
• 30:38
  take
• 30:38
  one
• 30:39
  step
• 30:39
  towards
• 30:39
  that.
• 30:40
  That's.
• 30:40
  That's
• 30:41
  really
• 30:41
  what
• 30:41
  it's
• 30:41
  all
• 30:41
  about.
• 30:42
  Because
• 30:43
  nobody.
• 30:44
  I
• 30:44
  mean,
• 30:44
  look
• 30:44
  at
• 30:44
  the
• 30:44
  people
• 30:45
  you
• 30:45
  hear
• 30:45
  it
• 30:46
  with,
• 30:46
  sports
• 30:46
  stars
• 30:47
  all
• 30:47
  the
• 30:47
  time
• 30:47
  making,
• 30:47
  you
• 30:47
  know,
• 30:48
  $300
• 30:48
  million
• 30:49
  a
• 30:49
  year.
• 30:50
  They
• 30:50
  grew
• 30:50
  up
• 30:50
  like
• 30:50
  you
• 30:51
  did.
• 30:51
  When
• 30:51
  you
• 30:51
  picture
• 30:52
  your
• 30:52
  story,
• 30:52
  I
• 30:52
  picture
• 30:53
  Willy
• 30:53
  Wonka
• 30:53
  in
• 30:53
  the
• 30:53
  chocolate
• 30:54
  factory,
• 30:54
  you
• 30:54
  know,
• 30:54
  that
• 30:55
  family.
• 30:58
  I
• 30:58
  picture
• 30:58
  you
• 30:59
  in
• 30:59
  that
• 30:59
  little
• 31:00
  setting.
• 31:00
  I
• 31:00
  don't
• 31:00
  know
• 31:00
  why,
• 31:01
  but.
• 31:01
  But
• 31:01
  he
• 31:02
  did
• 31:02
  well
• 31:02
  too,
• 31:02
  because
• 31:03
  of
• 31:03
  it.
• 31:03
  He
• 31:03
  was
• 31:03
  a
• 31:03
  good
• 31:04
  person.
• 31:04
  Not
• 31:04
  because
• 31:05
  he
• 31:05
  was
• 31:05
  handed
• 31:05
  something,
• 31:05
  because
• 31:06
  he
• 31:06
  was
• 31:06
  a
• 31:06
  good
• 31:06
  person
• 31:07
  and
• 31:07
  he
• 31:08
  made
• 31:08
  the
• 31:08
  right
• 31:08
  decision.
• 31:09
  So.
• 31:11
  Yeah.
• 31:12
  But
• 31:12
  anyway.
• 31:12
  Oh,
• 31:12
  this
• 31:13
  has
• 31:13
  been
• 31:13
  so
• 31:13
  much
• 31:13
  fun.
• 31:14
  So
• 31:14
  tell
• 31:14
  people
• 31:15
  where
• 31:15
  if
• 31:16
  they
• 31:16
  want
• 31:16
  to
• 31:16
  talk
• 31:16
  to
• 31:16
  you,
• 31:16
  they
• 31:17
  can
• 31:17
  reach
• 31:17
  you.
• 31:17
  It
• 31:17
  will
• 31:18
  all
• 31:18
  be
• 31:18
  in
• 31:18
  the
• 31:18
  show
• 31:18
  notes,
• 31:18
  but
• 31:19
  the
• 31:19
  quickest,
• 31:19
  easiest
• 31:20
  place,
• 31:20
  the
• 31:20
  easiest
• 31:21
  way
• 31:21
  is
• 31:21
  my
• 31:22
  website,
• 31:22
  www.tom
• 31:24
  lenoble.com.
• 31:25
  i'm
• 31:25
  also
• 31:25
  on
• 31:26
  all
• 31:26
  the
• 31:26
  socials.
• 31:27
  My
• 31:27
  email
• 31:27
  address
• 31:28
  is
• 31:28
  resilienceom
• 31:29
  lenoble.com
• 31:31
  I'd
• 31:31
  love
• 31:31
  to
• 31:31
  hear
• 31:31
  from
• 31:32
  you.
• 31:33
  Sounds
• 31:33
  perfect.
• 31:33
  And
• 31:33
  I'm
• 31:34
  going
• 31:34
  to
• 31:34
  put
• 31:34
  the
• 31:34
  link
• 31:34
  to
• 31:34
  your
• 31:35
  book.
• 31:35
  I'm
• 31:35
  also
• 31:35
  going
• 31:35
  to
• 31:35
  throw
• 31:36
  your
• 31:36
  book
• 31:36
  in
• 31:36
  a
• 31:37
  series
• 31:37
  that
• 31:37
  I
• 31:38
  have
• 31:38
  called
• 31:38
  the
• 31:38
  Collective
• 31:39
  Wisdom
• 31:39
  Healing
• 31:40
  series,
• 31:40
  which
• 31:40
  is
• 31:41
  a
• 31:41
  bunch
• 31:41
  of
• 31:41
  courses
• 31:42
  and
• 31:42
  things
• 31:42
  and
• 31:43
  resources
• 31:43
  from
• 31:44
  all
• 31:44
  of
• 31:44
  the
• 31:44
  coaches,
• 31:45
  all
• 31:45
  of
• 31:45
  the
• 31:45
  doctors,
• 31:46
  everybody
• 31:46
  that
• 31:46
  I
• 31:46
  talk
• 31:47
  to.
• 31:47
  If
• 31:47
  something
• 31:48
  sparks
• 31:48
  me
• 31:48
  is
• 31:48
  interesting,
• 31:49
  I
• 31:49
  throw
• 31:49
  it
• 31:50
  in
• 31:50
  there.
• 31:50
  It's
• 31:50
  a
• 31:50
  free
• 31:51
  resource
• 31:51
  for
• 31:51
  people.
• 31:52
  So
• 31:52
  thank
• 31:53
  you
• 31:53
  so
• 31:53
  much.
• 31:53
  But
• 31:53
  before
• 31:54
  you
• 31:54
  go,
• 31:55
  what
• 31:56
  is
• 31:56
  your
• 31:56
  biggest,
• 31:57
  baddest,
• 31:57
  best
• 31:58
  message
• 31:58
  from
• 31:58
  Tom
• 31:59
  Lenoble?
• 32:00
  Here
• 32:00
  it
• 32:00
  is.
• 32:01
  I
• 32:01
  have
• 32:01
  a
• 32:01
  keynote
• 32:02
  and
• 32:02
  a
• 32:02
  message
• 32:02
  that
• 32:03
  I
• 32:03
  share
• 32:03
  a
• 32:04
  lot.
• 32:04
  It's
• 32:04
  called
• 32:04
  the
• 32:05
  philanthropic
• 32:06
  mindset.
• 32:08
  People
• 32:08
  say
• 32:08
  to
• 32:09
  me
• 32:09
  when
• 32:09
  they
• 32:09
  learn
• 32:09
  that
• 32:10
  I'm
• 32:10
  a
• 32:10
  philanthropist,
• 32:11
  they
• 32:11
  say
• 32:11
  this,
• 32:12
  tom,
• 32:13
  when
• 32:13
  I
• 32:14
  have
• 32:14
  money,
• 32:14
  I
• 32:15
  want
• 32:15
  to
• 32:15
  be
• 32:15
  a
• 32:15
  philanthropist.
• 32:16
  Here's
• 32:17
  what
• 32:17
  I
• 32:17
  want
• 32:17
  you
• 32:18
  to
• 32:18
  know.
• 32:19
  Your
• 32:20
  smile
• 32:21
  or
• 32:22
  a
• 32:22
  hello
• 32:23
  is
• 32:23
  a
• 32:23
  philanthropic
• 32:24
  gesture.
• 32:25
  You
• 32:26
  can
• 32:26
  change
• 32:26
  someone's
• 32:27
  day,
• 32:28
  even
• 32:28
  the
• 32:28
  trajectory
• 32:29
  of
• 32:29
  their
• 32:30
  life
• 32:31
  by
• 32:31
  simply
• 32:33
  a
• 32:33
  smile
• 32:33
  and
• 32:33
  a
• 32:34
  hello.
• 32:34
  Remember,
• 32:35
  you
• 32:35
  can
• 32:35
  give
• 32:36
  time.
• 32:37
  You
• 32:37
  can
• 32:37
  use
• 32:37
  talents
• 32:38
  you
• 32:38
  have.
• 32:39
  And
• 32:39
  yes,
• 32:40
  you
• 32:40
  can
• 32:40
  give
• 32:40
  treasures.
• 32:41
  That
• 32:41
  is
• 32:41
  not
• 32:42
  always
• 32:42
  defined
• 32:43
  as
• 32:44
  dollars,
• 32:44
  checks,
• 32:45
  galas,
• 32:46
  or
• 32:46
  your
• 32:46
  name
• 32:46
  on
• 32:46
  a
• 32:46
  building.
• 32:48
  I
• 32:48
  promise
• 32:48
  you
• 32:49
  this,
• 32:50
  by
• 32:51
  giving
• 32:51
  and
• 32:51
  sharing
• 32:52
  with
• 32:52
  others,
• 32:53
  you
• 32:53
  will
• 32:53
  get
• 32:54
  far
• 32:54
  more
• 32:54
  than
• 32:54
  you
• 32:55
  ever
• 32:55
  expected
• 32:56
  in
• 32:56
  return.
• 32:59
  Thank
• 32:59
  you
• 33:00
  so
• 33:00
  much
• 33:00
  for
• 33:00
  that,
• 33:00
  Tom.
• 33:02
  And
• 33:02
  thank
• 33:03
  you
• 33:03
  for
• 33:03
  coming
• 33:03
  on.
• 33:04
  Delight.
• 33:04
  Thank
• 33:05
  you,
• 33:05
  Delight.
• 33:06
  Enjoy
• 33:06
  being
• 33:07
  with
• 33:07
  you.
• 33:08
  I
• 33:08
  hope
• 33:08
  your
• 33:08
  viewers
• 33:09
  get
• 33:09
  something
• 33:10
  from
• 33:10
  our
• 33:10
  conversation
• 33:11
  today.
• 33:11
  I
• 33:12
  love
• 33:12
  what
• 33:12
  you're
• 33:12
  doing
• 33:13
  and
• 33:13
  please
• 33:14
  do
• 33:14
  me
• 33:14
  a
• 33:14
  favor.
• 33:15
  Yes,
• 33:16
  I'm
• 33:16
  waiting
• 33:17
  to
• 33:17
  hear
• 33:17
  when
• 33:17
  you're
• 33:17
  booked
• 33:19
  for
• 33:19
  your.
• 33:19
  I
• 33:19
  will.
• 33:20
  Oh,
• 33:21
  I
• 33:21
  will
• 33:21
  tell
• 33:21
  you
• 33:21
  when
• 33:21
  I'm
• 33:22
  booked
• 33:22
  for
• 33:22
  that
• 33:22
  cruise.
• 33:22
  I
• 33:23
  will
• 33:23
  let
• 33:23
  you
• 33:23
  know
• 33:24
  for
• 33:24
  sure.
• 33:25
  And
• 33:25
  for
• 33:25
  everybody
• 33:26
  else
• 33:26
  out
• 33:26
  there,
• 33:26
  you
• 33:27
  heard
• 33:27
  it.
• 33:27
  Just
• 33:27
  one
• 33:28
  small
• 33:28
  gesture,
• 33:29
  one
• 33:29
  smile.
• 33:30
  Tell
• 33:30
  someone
• 33:30
  to
• 33:30
  have
• 33:30
  a
• 33:30
  blessed
• 33:31
  day.
• 33:32
  A
• 33:32
  lot
• 33:32
  of
• 33:32
  people
• 33:32
  are
• 33:32
  out
• 33:32
  there
• 33:33
  having
• 33:33
  really
• 33:33
  hard
• 33:33
  days
• 33:34
  right
• 33:34
  now.
• 33:34
  You
• 33:35
  know,
• 33:35
  if
• 33:35
  you're
• 33:35
  78
• 33:36
  years
• 33:36
  old
• 33:36
  and
• 33:37
  you're
• 33:37
  working
• 33:37
  bagging
• 33:37
  groceries
• 33:38
  at
• 33:38
  the
• 33:38
  grocery
• 33:38
  store,
• 33:39
  you
• 33:39
  probably
• 33:39
  that
• 33:39
  is
• 33:40
  not
• 33:40
  your,
• 33:40
  your
• 33:41
  career
• 33:42
  of
• 33:42
  choice.
• 33:42
  Let's
• 33:43
  say
• 33:43
  some
• 33:44
  people
• 33:44
  are
• 33:44
  struggling.
• 33:45
  Just
• 33:45
  give
• 33:45
  them
• 33:45
  a
• 33:45
  smile,
• 33:46
  give
• 33:46
  them
• 33:46
  some
• 33:47
  love,
• 33:47
  and
• 33:48
  it
• 33:48
  will
• 33:48
  go
• 33:48
  a
• 33:48
  long
• 33:49
  way.
• 33:49
  And
• 33:49
  you
• 33:49
  never
• 33:49
  know.
• 33:50
  You
• 33:50
  never
• 33:51
  know
• 33:51
  when
• 33:51
  you
• 33:51
  actually
• 33:51
  save
• 33:52
  a
• 33:52
  life.
• 33:53
  And
• 33:53
  remember,
• 33:54
  if
• 33:54
  you're
• 33:54
  expecting
• 33:55
  something
• 33:56
  in
• 33:56
  return,
• 33:58
  you're
• 33:58
  not
• 33:59
  truly
• 33:59
  giving
• 33:59
  from
• 34:00
  your
• 34:00
  heart.
• 34:01
  It
• 34:01
  is
• 34:01
  not
• 34:02
  a
• 34:02
  philanthropic
• 34:03
  mindset
• 34:03
  gesture.
• 34:04
  We
• 34:05
  give
• 34:05
  freely,
• 34:06
  without
• 34:06
  expectation.
• 34:08
  That's
• 34:08
  where
• 34:09
  the
• 34:09
  success
• 34:09
  of
• 34:10
  it
• 34:10
  is.
• 34:11
  Absolutely.
• 34:11
  Absolutely.
• 34:12
  So
• 34:13
  thank
• 34:13
  you
• 34:13
  everybody
• 34:14
  and
• 34:14
  we
• 34:14
  will
• 34:14
  see
• 34:14
  you
• 34:15
  back
• 34:15
  next
• 34:15
  week.
• 34:15
  Have
• 34:16
  a
• 34:16
  blessed
• 34:16
  day.