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Two boat rides · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So today I want to Little exercise with you and it
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  involves you grabbing maybe a pen and paper.
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  Even if you're driving, and you're doing this, like, do the
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  exercise part after, but you can think about it while you're
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  driving, but it's going to give you some clarity on some things
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  in your life. So let's start off with.
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  You've got a cruise ship, you're going to go on this amazing
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  cruise ship. It's going to be the best Crews
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  of your entire life. You're going to have the most
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  fun you've ever had. It's going to be the kind of
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  fun. You like to have whatever that
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  might be. It's going to have all the Food
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  the parties, the rest, whatever your version of fun is that's
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  what this boat is going to provide and you get to bring 10
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  people with you. Now, you might be saying, I
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  don't, there aren't 10 people that I would want to bring and
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  I'd already be laughing because I'd be saying the same thing.
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  However, I would say whatever your number is, I'm giving you
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  10 as an example, because most people can say, okay, these are
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  good solid ten people in my life, whether their close
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  family, close friends, acquaintances, Just someone you
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  would not want to know that would be on that boat with you
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  and I want you to make that list, okay?
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  Get that list down, figure out, who would that be?
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  Who are those people that you would want to bring?
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  And if you need to make more than 10, go ahead and do it.
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  Don't stress out about that hard number of 10.
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  Okay, now once you have that done, I want you to start
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  thinking about the next boat ride that I'm going to put you
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  on, is the worst. It's like the Gilligan's Island
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  boat ride for all of you, who know what that is.
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  It's going to be awful. Going to encounter the worst
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  sees, you're going to be sick to your stomach.
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  You're going to have all kinds of problems.
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  You are going to have food shortages, you're going to have
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  everything that you could possibly imagine.
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  Go wrong on this boat. Go wrong on this boat, who are
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  your 10 people that you would want to take with you on that
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  ride and no, it's not about torturing them.
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  No, it's not about. Hey I want you to suffer while I
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  suffer. This is about thinking of it in
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  terms of. Who would you want to be
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  spending your time with if you were Suck on this boat.
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  Or if you're truly like the Gilligan's Island ride, stuck on
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  an island where you can't get off.
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  So who would those people be? Who are those 10 people that you
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  would want to bring with you and write them all down.
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  So you have an idea of who they are.
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  Now, here's the tricky part of this exercise, when you have
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  both of those done. The job is to sit and
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  cross-reference, who is on both lists.
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  Because those people, those are your core support system in
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  life. Those people are.
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  A core support system, meaning you can take them anywhere, you
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  want to go, and they're going to be there for you, no matter
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  what. Now here's the interesting part
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  of this exercise. There are not a lot of people on
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  the same list for most, most of us out there, if you have your
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  10 that can cross reference to both lists, I love that.
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  I mean I don't have that. So I will tell you most people
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  that I have ever worked with or trained with or done these
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  exercises with. Do not have the same people on
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  both lists and we often ask ourselves, why is that?
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  Why is it that we don't have those people on you know, both
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  of List because we want to have people on both of our lists.
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  But the reality is that every every person has a role in our
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  lives. Every everybody who comes in
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  just like we have roles in other people's lives and we might be
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  the person that they go to in crisis, but we would not be the
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  person that they would want to take on their Fun Ship.
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  And that, I mean, that was my mother.
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  Honestly, I love my mother so much.
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  I miss my mother every day, but my mother was the person who
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  fell asleep in Disney World. When I took her, she complained
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  that she didn't see Winnie, the Pooh enough.
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  Did she Have happy moments. Sure.
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  But 80% of that trip she found problems.
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  It was too hot. There was too much walking.
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  The food wasn't what she liked. Winnie, the Pooh wasn't around
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  enough. They didn't make enough attempt
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  to let you see the characters enough.
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  You name it and we were in supposedly the happiest place on
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  the planet. And this is what happened and it
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  wasn't just that one trip. She went with a friend on a trip
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  and that trip ended up being a twin on a cruise and funny.
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  I think for this exercise and they went to Mexico and lo and
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  behold she was complaining about the trip to Mexico and that it
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  was the ship was too much to walk around.
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  There were too many choices with food.
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  I mean, too many choices with food.
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  She found the way to complain about that and her friend and I
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  were laughing about it. But, you know, here's the,
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  here's the interesting part of this.
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  Once you start to realize who's on both lists, you can start to
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  appreciate them on different levels because they truly, Uli
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  are gifts my friends. When you can find somebody that
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  is on both of those lists. Oh my gosh.
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  And I will say, my husband is that person that's on both,
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  those lists for me, without question I have been in Dire
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  Straits of situations with him, when, you know, we got into
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  trouble kayaking and a fast-moving Blackwater swamp.
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  And I've never seen a human being as calm and as directive
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  and as cool as the whole thing could have been It is in the
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  water. Moving, trying to save our son,
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  holding him up and hanging onto a kayak and still not yelling no
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  screaming calm. As can be directing me what to
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  do and he's also the coolest person to go on vacation with
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  because wherever we go we always have fun.
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  You know, walking Amsterdam and realizing that we had been out
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  walking for 14 hours and we didn't realize it because of the
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  lighting and how the light wasn't going down and we laughed
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  and had such a great time about it and like why are we so tired?
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  Well, because We had so much fun and didn't even realize the time
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  he's my person that's on both. And I mean, when you find those
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  people, you hang onto them and you find ways to give them Grace
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  when they need it. And that's what this is all
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  about, is that once you recognize where these people are
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  in your life and how they show up and how you show up with
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  them, you know the opposite of this is are you on someone's
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  cruise ship of fun and also on Gilligan's Island boat or are
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  you just showing up on one of those?
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  It's a great way for us to be in that exercise of saying.
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  Well, am I showing up as a, you know, both ships person or am I
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  showing up just as a crisis ship and that's no fun at all.
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  So take the inventory figure out who are your people and figure
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  out? Are you being the Dual person
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  for somebody or you just being, you know, that one one-sided
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  person that can't be there for? Somebody else.
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  And then figure out, is that something you really want?
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  Are you okay with that or do you want to shift it?
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  So, I will see you guys tomorrow.
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  Have fun taking your cruise. Bye.