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There’s No Stupid Questions · RiseUp - Live Joy Your Way

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  SPEAKER_01: Okay, let's start the show.
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  SPEAKER_00: Rise up, live joy your way.
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  SPEAKER_00: From emotional intelligence through cognitive distortions, certified life and wellness coach Comedy Wood is on a mission to help people see the magnificence of their own unique human spirit.
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  SPEAKER_00: Through these small bites of self-visualization and self-confidence, you can have healthy relationships, success in business and career, and live the life you want to live.
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  SPEAKER_00: Rise up, live joy your way.
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  SPEAKER_01: Hi there, and welcome to another episode of Rise Up, Live Joy Your Way.
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  SPEAKER_01: Whether it's morning, afternoon, or evening, I just want to say thank you.
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  SPEAKER_01: Thank you for taking some time out of your day and your schedule to spend with me.
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  SPEAKER_01: So if you've been paying attention and kind of tuning in over the last few episodes, we've really been talking about how to build healthy and effective communication styles.
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  SPEAKER_01: And we've been diving deeper into specifics, such as, you know, being an active, good listener, being able to pay attention to nonverbal cues, really being able to emotionally regulate how we respond to situations.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so today we're just going to be talking about how healthy communicators are about being curious, staying curious all the time.
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  SPEAKER_01: Edward Stemming said if you don't know how to ask the right question, you discover nothing.
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  SPEAKER_01: So it's been said that there are no stupid questions.
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  SPEAKER_01: Also, the only stupid question is the one that hasn't been asked.
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  SPEAKER_01: So it seems that asking questions can be a good thing.
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  SPEAKER_01: And the fact about being curious is one of the key aspects to being an effective communicator.
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  SPEAKER_01: Staying curious, asking questions.
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  SPEAKER_01: It makes an important impact on the individual that you might be speaking to or the group that you might be interacting with.
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  SPEAKER_01: And knowing how to ask the right questions and incorporating them into your communication style honestly can help set you apart from other people.
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  SPEAKER_01: So asking questions does more than just dig for information.
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  SPEAKER_01: It can build relationships.
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  SPEAKER_01: It can actually build rapport with people and it can allow space for them to feel more trusted or to feel more trust with you.
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  SPEAKER_01: And people really do enjoy talking about themselves or talk about talking about the things that they're passionate about.
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  SPEAKER_01: So when you ask questions, it really does allow space for them to feel like you are truly interested in them.
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  SPEAKER_01: And if you've spent, I mean, well, think about it, if you spent time with a toddler or a little child, they love to ask the question why.
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  SPEAKER_01: And they will ask why over and over and over again.
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  SPEAKER_01: And it's because that age, they're learning, they're absorbing.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so they're genuinely curious about what and why things are happening in their environment.
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  SPEAKER_01: And every question asked is a window into their thought process, and every answer gives them the ability to help connect the dots and to build up how they're seeing and experiencing the world.
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  SPEAKER_01: So mimicking a young child or a toddler and being curious to the point of asking why as much as possible can actually help make your world make sense too.
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  SPEAKER_01: So what questions should we be asking?
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  SPEAKER_01: Being curious during communication can take many forms.
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  SPEAKER_01: Questions such and the types of questions that great communicators honestly ask, or questions that test knowledge, or questions that explore feelings or beliefs, questions for clarification, questions that encourage broader thinking, or questions that might promote uh teamwork or the ability to collaborate.
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  SPEAKER_01: So questions about finding out what somebody already knows, meaning testing knowledge.
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  SPEAKER_01: Sometimes simply just asking, where's the coffee shop is an important question, but other times quizzing somebody about their general knowledge is actually important before establishing where to go next during an engagement.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, this happens oftentimes in um coaching sessions, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: Was just asking questions or understanding what somebody knows.
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  SPEAKER_01: Finding out how somebody feels, thoroughly understanding and being curious about somebody's stand or stance on something or how they feel is really important when you're trying to cultivate empathy for the other person.
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  SPEAKER_01: If you don't really understand how somebody feels, it's very difficult to build up that empathy, which is what we talked about in the last podcast episode.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so if we can't understand how somebody feels, it's really hard to decide how to continue the conversation or how to proceed with healthy, effective communication.
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  SPEAKER_01: Asking questions that fill in the blanks, asking those clarifying questions, that is really important when you're trying to implement active listening.
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  SPEAKER_01: So if you're gonna mirror back what somebody is saying, you have to truly understand what they're saying.
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  SPEAKER_01: So asking those clarifying questions builds rapport, but it also gives the other person the ability to recognize that you are truly trying to understand what they're saying.
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  SPEAKER_01: Asking questions to fill in the blanks is just simply very similar to asking those clarifying questions.
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  SPEAKER_01: But if you don't fill in those blanks, it's very difficult for you to be able to uh um understand where they're coming from.
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  SPEAKER_01: And then, of course, you know, get asking questions about um, you know, the what if questions.
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  SPEAKER_01: What if questions can help enhance communication or give people something else to consider?
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  SPEAKER_01: So if we're trying to build healthy communication, we can ask questions about what if this, which allows space for the other person to reflect back and to think on a deeper level about what it is that they're talking about, building that communication with one another.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, other types of questions, just sort of going through as we're building these healthier communication styles, you know, just understanding the difference between closed questions and open questions.
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  SPEAKER_01: Closed questions are really more of yes or no types of questions.
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  SPEAKER_01: Uh, closed questions, honestly, with their limitation of yes or no, they don't really leave a whole lot for us to dialogue about.
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  SPEAKER_01: But open questions allow the ability to have a range of possible answers and allow for more dialogue to happen.
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  SPEAKER_01: So an example of an open-ended question would be, what did you do while you were there on your last trip?
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  SPEAKER_01: Or uh, were there any uh good restaurants that you ate at?
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  SPEAKER_01: Rather than did you eat at a good restaurant, which would be a yes or no, that's a closed-ended question versus were there any good restaurants?
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  SPEAKER_01: So that's just a way to offer up um the different types of questions too, just paying attention to am I asking more closed-ended questions or open-ended questions?
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  SPEAKER_01: When we're trying to build healthier communication styles, having those open-ended questions allows for a deeper connection with the other person.
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  SPEAKER_01: If you would like to talk with me about situations that you might be facing, trying to build your own effective communication, definitely feel free to reach out.
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  SPEAKER_01: Also, if you're feeling stuck or feeling like you are needing some support in your ability to move forward in other aspects of your life, whether in your professional career or in your personal life, definitely feel free to reach out.
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  SPEAKER_01: Book a time to speak, and let's see if coaching would make sense for you.
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  SPEAKER_01: And until next time, I'm Comedy Wood.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you for listening to Rise Up, Live Joy Your Way.
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  SPEAKER_00: For more information, book a chat with comedy at www.chatwithcomedy.com.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or visit her website at www.comedywood.com.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you for listening.