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The One Where Lala Goes Straight Off Insta & Down In The DMs · Untraditionally Lala

• 0:06
  Speaker 1: Hello, gorgeous.
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  Speaker 2: I am fresh off season ten.
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  Speaker 1: A Vanda pump fools. Whoa yayay they're done.
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  Speaker 2: It's so exciting. I mean, ten years of a show
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  Speaker 2: to be on. And obviously I have not been a
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  Speaker 2: part of all ten seasons. I came in season four
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  Speaker 2: and I have to count on my finger. So I
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  Speaker 2: completed season four, five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten seven.
• 0:36
  Speaker 1: That's hilarious. Has it been ten years? Is it a
• 0:39
  Speaker 1: season a year? Is that how it works? Yes?
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  Speaker 2: And we didn't have a season come out in twenty twenty.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yeah, And you know we were talking about
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  Speaker 2: it as a Costin's like this would have been eleven.
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  Speaker 2: But then again you think about it and you're like,
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  Speaker 2: would it have been eleven? Like what if the season
• 0:54
  Speaker 2: that season that we missed out on didn't go great?
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  Speaker 3: And it was like, we actually don't need this anymore.
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  Speaker 1: So yeah, however it.
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  Speaker 2: Worked out is how it was supposed to work out,
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  Speaker 2: how it's supposed to be.
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  Speaker 1: That's my energy. How do you feel or what you
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  Speaker 1: can say? I know you're kind of limited. How do
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  Speaker 1: you feel about how this season is going to be?
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  Speaker 1: Because you know, I've heard some things and I've been
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  Speaker 1: like oh my god, this season's going to be incredible.
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  Speaker 1: But how do you feel.
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  Speaker 2: I feel like I have conquered the art of and
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  Speaker 2: We've spoken about this so many times on the podcast,
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  Speaker 2: so I'm sorry if you guys get sick of me
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  Speaker 2: on repeater mode. I've conquered the art of compartmentalizing. And
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  Speaker 2: there have been I can count two times this season
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  Speaker 2: where I've said I've brought this home. It's affecting me
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  Speaker 2: because you know, it is our real it's our real life,
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  Speaker 2: it's our lives for real. Yeah, so it's very hard
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  Speaker 2: to be like, I'm just gonna go home now and
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  Speaker 2: not let it affect me. Sometimes I do incredible with
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  Speaker 2: doing things like that. Other times I literally have to
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  Speaker 2: tell my mom, like I need you to give a
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  Speaker 2: five yeah, because my mom doesn't watch the show. Yeah,
• 2:04
  Speaker 2: she's never watched it. She doesn't know one thing about it,
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  Speaker 2: and so, and she's not really into drama, you know.
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  Speaker 2: She wants to talk to me about other things, which
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  Speaker 2: is great because it keeps my mind off of it.
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  Speaker 2: But there are times where I'm like, please pause Game
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  Speaker 2: of Thrones. I need to obsess, right, and then I
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  Speaker 2: need to sage myself and listen to Break My Soul
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  Speaker 2: by Beyonce.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I just have to.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, but I think it's gonna be a really great season,
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  Speaker 2: really really amazing.
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  Speaker 1: It's gonna be really good. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I feel like I say that every year because you know,
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  Speaker 2: we're there, we're living it. But at the end of
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  Speaker 2: the day, it's like there are people on the other
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  Speaker 2: end who are like, well, we can't really show every
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  Speaker 2: single waking moment, you know, because it's still a production,
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  Speaker 2: still a television show, so they got to condense things.
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  Speaker 2: And I feel like, I'm just excited to see it.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, And you know, you say it's real life, and
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  Speaker 1: it is real life. But in real life you have
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  Speaker 1: to or at least some people, I have to compartmentalize things.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm not even on a show, you know what
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  Speaker 1: I'm saying, Like a lot of people will compartmentalize work.
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  Speaker 1: I'm dealing with work right now, but when I'm home,
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  Speaker 1: I need a compartmentalize. Okay, now I'm home, now I'm
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  Speaker 1: a mom. Whatever you are. I'm so happy you said that.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, because when you go to work and you may
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  Speaker 2: be like beefing with a coworker like you, that's real life.
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  Speaker 1: And when you go home, it's like you don't want
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  Speaker 1: to think about it.
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  Speaker 2: You want to enjoy your kids, or your alone time,
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  Speaker 2: or your husband or boyfriend or girlfriend, whatever.
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  Speaker 3: You know it may be.
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  Speaker 2: So you're right, it absolutely is. It's just like everybody
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  Speaker 2: is day to day, right right. I'm glad you said that,
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  Speaker 2: because you know we're all in work spaces that sometimes
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  Speaker 2: are not enjoyable.
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  Speaker 1: Do you think I don't know if you can say this,
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  Speaker 1: and if not, that's fine. Friendships, because I know you
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  Speaker 1: know watching you last season, there were friendships I saw.
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  Speaker 1: And then would you say that there are different and
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  Speaker 1: dynamics between your friends? Yes, yeah, yeah, okay, so we'll
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  Speaker 1: see it's not.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, so it's there are certain this group is very resilient,
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  Speaker 2: but there are things that I don't know that people
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  Speaker 2: are gonna come back from.
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  Speaker 3: M Okay, So that's all I'll say.
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  Speaker 1: Speaking of my mother, Yeah, Lisa, Lise, who.
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  Speaker 3: I sit there and I'm like, you need to listen
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  Speaker 3: to me talk about this.
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  Speaker 2: Stuff, and she's like, I need you to listen to
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  Speaker 2: me about so and so down the hall.
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  Speaker 3: God upset at me for Lily not being on a leash.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, that's the type of shit she wants to talk about.
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  Speaker 2: So We're in Beverly Hills the other day and I'm
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  Speaker 2: at a light and I see this guy in this
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  Speaker 2: very cute frenchie and he's walking his dog, and his
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  Speaker 2: dog is visibly tired, doesn't want to walk anymore. He
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  Speaker 2: keeps sitting down. The guy is literally pulling. He's on
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  Speaker 2: the phone, pulling, dragging the dog. The dog gets up
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  Speaker 2: and starts to walk, then he tuckers out again, and
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  Speaker 2: the guy keeps dragging him. So me, being the person
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  Speaker 2: that I am, say fuck that. I flip my car around. Obviously,
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  Speaker 2: I make sure that traffic is not coming. I've read
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  Speaker 2: my car around, roll down the window. I said, stop
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  Speaker 2: dragging your dog. Your dog is tired, and he was like,
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  Speaker 2: what I said, stop dragging your fucking dog. Yeah, he's tired.
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  Speaker 2: So then my mom chimes in, because you know she
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  Speaker 2: works for the Humane Society. Yeah, she is like oh,
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  Speaker 2: she goes in. And there are times where I'm like,
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  Speaker 2: you need to There are times where I always want
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  Speaker 2: my mom to say something. But we live in a
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  Speaker 2: world now where the other day on the news, a
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  Speaker 2: man saw someone's dog being mistreated.
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  Speaker 3: He goes up to the.
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  Speaker 2: Guy the guy pulls out a gun shoots him. Okay,
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  Speaker 2: trigger warning. I should have said that before, but that happened.
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  Speaker 2: So I get concerned, you know, just for the safety
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  Speaker 2: of people around me, including myself. So my mom starts
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  Speaker 2: chiming in. I don't know really what she says, but
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  Speaker 2: he says, it's none of your business, bitch.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: By the way, we're going to talk about that word
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  Speaker 2: in just a second. Yeah, yeah, I have my own
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  Speaker 2: whole spill on the bitch word.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, but my mom goes, it is my business.
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  Speaker 1: You fuck head. I love.
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  Speaker 2: And all I think about was I hope that this
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  Speaker 2: guy was on the phone trying to close a business
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  Speaker 2: deal while we yelled at him that he's dragging his dogs.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And I just couldn't believe when my mom when the
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  Speaker 2: words fuckhead, yeah, because in her mouth, I was like,
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  Speaker 2: either she's been hanging around me way too much, or
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  Speaker 2: this is a moment where I go, oh, that's where
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  Speaker 2: I get it from.
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  Speaker 1: Who knows. I think it's that at least can be spicy,
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  Speaker 1: especially when she's sticking up from and I know we
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  Speaker 1: talked about this, especially when she's sticking up for things
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  Speaker 1: she believes in don't get in her way, and that's
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  Speaker 1: how you are by the way, Yes, I agree with you. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: She is the sweetest human beingsweet my grandmother, by the way,
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  Speaker 2: her mom, same exact way, sweet Southern Bell, the classiest
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  Speaker 2: woman you will ever you will have ever met in
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  Speaker 2: your life. I know she's in heaven sitting there looking
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  Speaker 2: at me, going she would never.
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  Speaker 1: Say the F word, She never cursed ever. Yeah, but
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  Speaker 1: I'm sure she's like.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, what is this job that you have taken on,
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  Speaker 2: my sweet little Laurie.
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  Speaker 1: I think that's how I will be lost.
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  Speaker 3: No, it's like Southern Bell Georgia accent.
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  Speaker 1: That was okay good, that's like that's like old South accent.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, okay yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Bright red lipstick at all times, perfectly painted, bright red
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  Speaker 2: meles always, all of the things, perfect blonde Marilyn hare, Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Just fabulous. Did she have the like, I'll stick up
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  Speaker 1: for what I believe it?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's what I mean.
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  Speaker 2: That's why I say you better come correct because we
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  Speaker 2: can get along.
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  Speaker 3: I will build you up.
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  Speaker 2: No one will ever break you, but you come for me, bitch,
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  Speaker 2: m M, and I will bury you.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. That's how my mom is that. Yeah, yeah, fuck it,
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  Speaker 1: Lisa is because she told me a story a few
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  Speaker 1: weeks ago when you guys are at the beach about
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  Speaker 1: someone raising a man raising their voice to a woman,
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  Speaker 1: and Lisa got and she was like, absolutely not, You're
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  Speaker 1: not going to do that in front of me. So
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  Speaker 1: it's like that's how both it because you both are
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  Speaker 1: so sweet and just like will do anything for anyone,
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  Speaker 1: and but then if you see a wrongdoing, you're like
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  Speaker 1: on it, like to the point where sometimes it makes
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  Speaker 1: me nervous because, like you said.
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  Speaker 2: I say, that's what I mean is it's like we
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  Speaker 2: live in a world that's unhinged.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, speaking of that, I had posted over the weekend
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  Speaker 1: and I'm sorry, I'm just gonna say it. I posted
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  Speaker 1: it and someone did say message me and say, hey,
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  Speaker 1: trigger warning next time. So trigger warning for this with
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  Speaker 1: animal cruelty. But a video came out of the weekend
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  Speaker 1: with a dog, a sweet white dog, and they were
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  Speaker 1: you know, how you bring your animal in to get
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  Speaker 1: groomed or in this case, nails trimmed, something as simple
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  Speaker 1: as a fucking nail trimming. The sweet woman owner was
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  Speaker 1: right outside, but it's COVID and they don't let you
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  Speaker 1: come back there, which I get it, but a lot
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  Speaker 1: of grooming places or say you have to stay here,
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  Speaker 1: don't come back there. And the dog was just kind
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  Speaker 1: of had a collar and was like tied up like
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  Speaker 1: they do, but was freaking out over getting its nails trimmed.
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  Speaker 1: The people the two groomers just sat there and did
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  Speaker 1: what they had to do and let the dog, I
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  Speaker 1: mean trigger warning, but hang himself. And he did and
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  Speaker 1: he didn't make it out alive. No, yep. Got me
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  Speaker 1: sick to my stomach, and it just makes me like
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  Speaker 1: I'm sorry. But the sad truth is like there are
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  Speaker 1: a lot of people who just don't give a fuck
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  Speaker 1: at their jobs and they don't care and they will
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  Speaker 1: just kind of like do whatever. And this isn't just
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  Speaker 1: that big corporation. This is a lot of places. So
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  Speaker 1: you really have to trust who you're taking your pet
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  Speaker 1: to if you're not doing it yourself, which it's very
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  Speaker 1: hard to do. So I get it if you can't
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  Speaker 1: get like I get a drum all off Amazon and
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  Speaker 1: do my dogs myself. But if you're not doing it yourself,
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  Speaker 1: you have to be able to a watch, your eyes
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  Speaker 1: are on your dog or your pet at all times
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  Speaker 1: or b You really really have to trust that person
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  Speaker 1: you trust the place we take Bella and Lily too,
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  Speaker 1: I do no, but we stopped. We only took Bella
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  Speaker 1: and Lily, which those were great. We took Bella and
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  Speaker 1: Lily to a corporation like probably like a year ago
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  Speaker 1: where we would take them and that local corporation pet store.
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  Speaker 1: Those groomers were great, but unfortunately that's not how it is,
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  Speaker 1: and a lot of stores and they don't like watch
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  Speaker 1: or check them. Granted, like the video came out so
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  Speaker 1: you can see.
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  Speaker 2: By the way, like I fully support the like posting
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  Speaker 2: of wrongdoings because as much as I sit there and
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  Speaker 2: I really have a hard time with social media, it
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  Speaker 2: is the one place where you can go and and
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  Speaker 2: share things that affect you without being face to face
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  Speaker 2: with someone you know and getting the word out and
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  Speaker 2: saying this is happening and it needs to change and
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  Speaker 2: holding people accountable.
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  Speaker 1: There's it's just you.
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  Speaker 2: You deep dive into it. And I think a lot
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  Speaker 2: of things are so accessible that we're seeing so much
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  Speaker 2: and we're hyper sensitive and it just makes me so sad.
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  Speaker 2: It makes you feel defeated and lose faith in humanity. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: things that you're sitting there going why does no one care? Yeah, Like,
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  Speaker 2: why are we not being protected the way that we
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  Speaker 2: should be protected? Why are animals not being protected and
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  Speaker 2: treated the way they should be treated. There's so much
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  Speaker 2: wrong with this world.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and a lot of times it is like people
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  Speaker 1: and I don't know if I can blame this on
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  Speaker 1: them or society or mental health and people not getting
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  Speaker 1: the resources they need, but they're just checked out. Like
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  Speaker 1: when I was watching this video of these two groomers
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  Speaker 1: and this dog, I'm like, they're just checked out. They're
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  Speaker 1: not paying attention. They're going along just like just doing
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  Speaker 1: their thing, not paying attention to this being that is
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  Speaker 1: struggling and killing itself on the table in front of them,
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  Speaker 1: And they're just checked out. And I'm just like it
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  Speaker 1: made me obviously cry and sick to my stomach. But
• 12:49
  Speaker 1: you just have to be extra careful. You have to
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  Speaker 1: be that way with babysitters. I remember my mom saying,
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  Speaker 1: I will my babysitters go through the ringer, they get
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  Speaker 1: reference checks, background checks. I know you're going through it all. Oh,
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  Speaker 1: but that's why I have my mother. Yeah, that's true.
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  Speaker 1: I'm nervous. You're lucky if you have a family member,
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  Speaker 1: but if you don't, like, no, that's what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 1: It's a luxury.
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  Speaker 2: It's a luxury that my mom was able to like
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  Speaker 2: pick up right and leave her life behind in Utah,
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  Speaker 2: in Utah to come here and step up when I
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  Speaker 2: needed her. Like, that's not just that wasn't my right
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  Speaker 2: or her right.
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  Speaker 3: That was a fucking luxury. So yeah, that happened.
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  Speaker 1: Lisa is a bad bitch.
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  Speaker 2: Yes that she called him an f head because he
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  Speaker 2: was being in head. Suddenly I can't say the fuck word.
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  Speaker 1: No, what is that? Okay? So my feeling on.
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  Speaker 3: The word bitch.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, what I have learned, I don't care what anybody
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  Speaker 2: says that women have made so much progress you hear, you.
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  Speaker 1: Know, And I'm not saying that we haven't. I'm not
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  Speaker 1: saying that we haven't.
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  Speaker 2: Just this is my own perspective, Okay, everyone has one.
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  Speaker 1: That's why we battle so much.
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  Speaker 2: So this is just how I personally feel from my
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  Speaker 2: experiences in life. We have and there are men who
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  Speaker 2: are like I want to see women succeed. They wholeheartedly
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  Speaker 2: believe it. Their actions prove that from my experience, this
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  Speaker 2: world is not ready for women. With minds, women with voices.
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  Speaker 2: You're a female and trigger word, you're like stupid kind
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  Speaker 2: of m h like you just act like that dit see,
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  Speaker 2: like you don't really speak your mind the opposite of me.
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  Speaker 2: Let's just say that men gravitate towards that. Okay, they
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  Speaker 2: like to say I love a strong woman. It's like no,
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  Speaker 2: because the second that a woman puts you in check,
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  Speaker 2: starts making more money than you, starts maybe like shitting
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  Speaker 2: all over your ego. Is put in a position of power,
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  Speaker 2: even if it's not a like a visual, tangible position
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  Speaker 2: of power's not running a giant company, but position of
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  Speaker 2: power in a way that like you're not gonna fuck
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  Speaker 2: with me. This is how I feel. You are immediately
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  Speaker 2: labeled a bitch. Okay, if I've learned anything this summer,
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  Speaker 2: that is what I've realized. You cannot walk into a
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  Speaker 2: room and be a thinking woman. And I'm not saying
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  Speaker 2: every with every situation. I cannot stress this enough. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: you're labeled a bitch. How in the world could you
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  Speaker 2: have a vagina and have a thought at the same time.
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  Speaker 3: You're a bitch.
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  Speaker 2: I'm so triggered by it, by the word. But just
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  Speaker 2: like number one, when a dude calls me a bit,
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  Speaker 2: it's like, what a stupid fucking word. Yeah, by the way,
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  Speaker 2: because number one, you think it's an you're saying it
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  Speaker 2: as an insult. It ain't an insult. Right, I am
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  Speaker 2: a bitch. I'm actually that bitch. And now I'm gonna
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  Speaker 2: go even heavier in the paint. I'm gonna show you
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  Speaker 2: what a bitch I can be. All Right, it's so triggering.
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  Speaker 1: No, I well, I mean kind of at this point,
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  Speaker 1: it's like a tale as old as time with a
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  Speaker 1: woman is laying the law down, she's a bitch. A
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  Speaker 1: man does it, he's a boss, he's a woman. A
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  Speaker 1: woman is being emotional in her job, Well, she's overly emotional.
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  Speaker 1: She's a woman. A man does it, well, he's passionate.
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  Speaker 1: It's like it's beyond and tail as old as time.
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  Speaker 1: I'm bored, Like I'm bored with it, Like we're not.
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  Speaker 1: I know, it's so sad. And when people use it
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  Speaker 1: nowadays and like well you're a bitch, You're such a bitch,
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  Speaker 1: It's like it feels lazy, it feels sad. I'm like
• 16:58
  Speaker 1: we're doing it just like like we while and I
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  Speaker 1: were just talking about this just like when men nowadays
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  Speaker 1: go after an appearance, especially on a woman.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, no, oh, I know what you're gonna.
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  Speaker 1: It's twenty twenty two, and you're gonna say, you're gonna
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  Speaker 1: I don't care if you say I have a bad hair.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, don't what are you doing? You're gonna tell
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  Speaker 1: you're gonna sit here and get in a fight with
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  Speaker 1: me and start going after my appearance and be like,
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  Speaker 1: well you're this and you're that, and start like talking
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  Speaker 1: about the way lazy are you? It's lazy and it's
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  Speaker 1: like pathetic, and I almost want to like laugh and
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  Speaker 1: be like, oh, that's so sad. No, I know it's
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: that feels like bitch to me. When you're calling a
• 17:34
  Speaker 1: woman a bitch. It feels like you're gonna say like,
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: well you are whatever about my appearance, and I'm just
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: like it's just gross. It's so stupid and lazy. Yeah.
• 17:44
  Speaker 2: But that's why, Yeah, I'm always constantly saying like I
• 17:49
  Speaker 2: love that bitch. Yeah, my bitch, because you will not
• 17:53
  Speaker 2: put power into that word as an insult.
• 17:55
  Speaker 1: All right, bitch, No bitch is bitch can be powerful.
• 17:59
  Speaker 1: It is power, It is powerful.
• 18:01
  Speaker 3: I want to be that bitch. Sometimes you think we've
• 18:03
  Speaker 3: said the word.
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: Do you want to know what's hilarious?
• 18:05
  Speaker 3: That word was.
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: Sponsoring the podcast? Do you know what I mean? You?
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: The first thing I ever wrote in the first pilot
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: I ever made with my friends and like my crew
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: when I was in Nashville, it was called be that Bitch,
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: and it was like, be that fucking bitch. Yeah, what
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: it was about, I just love. But there's something triggering
• 18:23
  Speaker 1: when it's when men use it against women negatively. It's
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: just like slut for me. And I know you don't
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: like that word, but when I won't even lie, I
• 18:31
  Speaker 1: think I used ho horror this season because I'm like
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: I feel empowered if I'm like I'm like constantly like
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: joking to Kyle, I'm like calling myself like ho and like, oh,
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: I'm like I'm gonna be a slut tonight and just
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: like being stupid and I think it's awesome. But when
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: it's used negatively torn a woman these days, I'm like,
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: you are so pathetic. No, I know you're gonna call
• 18:57
  Speaker 1: it like especially by man, I'm like, ew, what you're
• 18:59
  Speaker 1: gonna she ca'me a chick? Yeah? Or like being sexually
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: empowered you lose there. What are you doing well again?
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: Suck my ovaries? All right? Yeah, you idiot. That's that's
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: that's my take on that word.
• 19:12
  Speaker 2: And I'm not saying that we haven't progressed, because it
• 19:16
  Speaker 2: depends on who you ask, what your perspective is, what
• 19:19
  Speaker 2: the experience has been for you in this world as
• 19:21
  Speaker 2: a woman.
• 19:22
  Speaker 3: I just for me again. People look at you as scorned.
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: Oh, she's just emotional. You're very emotional, You're volatile. Yeah, no, bitch,
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: I'm passionate right now.
• 19:37
  Speaker 2: I'm a woman with a brain and this is how
• 19:40
  Speaker 2: it is. And you're not going to try and dumb
• 19:44
  Speaker 2: me down for your own benefit. Yeah, I see right
• 19:48
  Speaker 2: through it. Stop doing it, Stop doing it. Yeah, on
• 19:51
  Speaker 2: that my two fingers.
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: She's got her two fingers, she's got the finger. But
• 19:55
  Speaker 1: on that note, you guys, Lalla made me start doing this,
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: she says. She started saying it a few months ago
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: that I heard like, instead of like strap on a
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: pair of balls, she puts it replaces it with women's stuff,
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: so like strap on your ovaries. And I've been trying
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: to do that more because there's a lot of things
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: that are very like male centric, so like man up
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: or like, so I'm like, woman up, stupid. You should
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: do start doing that because I think is a woman
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: it makes you feel better.
• 20:20
  Speaker 2: I have very few men in my life that like
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: I look up to. Yeah, right so if and I've
• 20:27
  Speaker 2: come in contact with a lot of men. Yeah, and
• 20:29
  Speaker 2: I'm not a man hater. Yeah, I've felt this way
• 20:32
  Speaker 2: for a really long time.
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: Yeah, there's just I would rather.
• 20:36
  Speaker 3: Be with a group of chicks.
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 20:38
  Speaker 3: I like it way better.
• 20:44
  Speaker 2: It's just me and Jess on the podcast today, which
• 20:46
  Speaker 2: I really love this Jess. Even though it's like a
• 20:50
  Speaker 2: podcast where I love having guests, sometimes.
• 20:52
  Speaker 3: I just feel like everyone needs to hear what I'm thinking.
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: Yeah, well that's what they want, So give the people
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: what they Everyone needs to hear what I'm thinking.
• 21:01
  Speaker 2: So I had you guys do and ask me anything
• 21:04
  Speaker 2: on the gram. We do.
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: We have some stuff, Jess.
• 21:07
  Speaker 2: We do.
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: Okay. First one is from Maria. Maria, this was a DM,
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: so I'm gonna read this and then I'm gonna go
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: to the ask me anything. But this says I saw
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: you guys are doing the pod and answering people's questions.
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: My question is, how do you guys stay so healthy
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: and fit. You're both so busy and with La La
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: being a mom, how do you find time to make
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: healthy meals and workout. I'm a new mommy and ready
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: to have my body back. With like a crying, laughing face, it's.
• 21:33
  Speaker 3: Maria, Oh Maria.
• 21:36
  Speaker 2: Honestly, I have to attribute a lot of my bounce
• 21:39
  Speaker 2: back after becoming a mom and giving birth and that whole,
• 21:43
  Speaker 2: that whole thing to genetics, because my you know what,
• 21:50
  Speaker 2: I think I'm able to maintain just like a quote.
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: Unquote I don't even want to call it healthy, but just.
• 22:00
  Speaker 2: The way that I look because I don't everything's in moderation, right,
• 22:06
  Speaker 2: Like I don't limit things out, but I'm certainly not
• 22:10
  Speaker 2: overeating right all the time? Right?
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: Does that make sense?
• 22:13
  Speaker 2: But I'm gonna be honest, Like I went to the
• 22:14
  Speaker 2: gym for the first time in like a couple months
• 22:17
  Speaker 2: last week because I'm exhausted, and I feel for moms
• 22:22
  Speaker 2: who either are stay at home moms and then the
• 22:26
  Speaker 2: second that the day is over, you want to go
• 22:28
  Speaker 2: to the gym. Yeah, And the moms that do do that,
• 22:30
  Speaker 2: I'm like, teach me.
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: The ways you're like, what are you?
• 22:33
  Speaker 2: You know you're healthy though, Jess Well, so do you
• 22:36
  Speaker 2: work out a lot.
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: And so it's funny because I when I first when
• 22:42
  Speaker 1: I was in college, I was and I'm not kidding,
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: I would run five days a week and I would
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: run about three to four miles every run. Now that's
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: and I was always exhausted, and I was eating fine.
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: I just probably wasn't eating enough. I was always exhausted.
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: I was always like or I'd go to the gym
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: at like ten at night. I'd get done with a
• 23:02
  Speaker 1: whole day of college and go to the gym, and
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: I was always tired. I'd have to take naps. I
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: was like not bubbly, and long story short, I finally
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: found in Granted, I've been with Kyle for six years,
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: and Kyle is he's a personal trainer, so he also
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: helped me and he would never like try and force
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: it on me. But if I was like, oh I'm
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: so tired, he'd be like, how much you eating? What
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: are you eating?
• 23:26
  Speaker 2: Like?
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: So anyway, long story short, for me and my body,
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: it helps me feel best when I only work out
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: about maybe three to four days a week max. My
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: workouts are maybe I mean, I'm not kidding. I haven't
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: worked out for longer than thirty minutes in a while. Okay,
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: if I'm in the gym, it's like a good twenty
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: five minutes. I go off of a program that well,
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: Kyle's a trainer, so I go off a program he
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: makes me. But like, I just I can't be in
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: the gym for an hour.
• 23:56
  Speaker 2: I just can't, Yeah, with when I train with Jenna Jenna,
• 24:01
  Speaker 2: it's an hour, and it's like intense. Yeah, but I
• 24:07
  Speaker 2: just like my bands right now because I can't commit
• 24:10
  Speaker 2: to like and I would go four days a week,
• 24:12
  Speaker 2: but I just for some reason mentally, I'm drained right now.
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: Yeah. And that's like and and you know I've always
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: I've been told and for me it's number one is sleep.
• 24:28
  Speaker 1: Number two is diet. Number three is jim. So if
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: my sleep's not right and my diet's not right, I
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: don't usually go to that.
• 24:33
  Speaker 2: I think that's why I wake up feeling so tired,
• 24:36
  Speaker 2: because my appetite comes in at night and all I
• 24:39
  Speaker 2: want is bread, cheese and crackers. And I will be honest, like,
• 24:43
  Speaker 2: my diet is not on point yesterday, super healthy, and
• 24:47
  Speaker 2: I feel like I get what I need most of
• 24:50
  Speaker 2: the time, and then I binge at night yeah, with
• 24:53
  Speaker 2: just all the breaches.
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: Well, world, that's my mom was like, my mom loves
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: night eating. And for me, when I say diet, it's
• 25:01
  Speaker 1: the opposite of what I used to do in college.
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: It's not cutting really anything out. I just eat whatever
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: I want, but in moderation. And I also make sure
• 25:10
  Speaker 1: like I'm getting enough like vegetables and protein throughout the
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: day because for me, that's what works best for my body.
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: If I'm not eating enough, I feel it, I'm tired,
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: I'm so I never limit myself. Me Limiting myself with
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: food is a recipe for a disaster.
• 25:26
  Speaker 2: I can't stop eating Domino's pizza. Yeah, there's no I'm disgusting, okay,
• 25:32
  Speaker 2: but like Domino's pizza with bread twists and fond of cheese.
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: Step all right, that actually sounds really like it.
• 25:38
  Speaker 2: It's you know, and like sometimes it's a splurt for
• 25:42
  Speaker 2: most people, right for me, it's like, let's have it.
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: Three days in a row. See. But for me, and
• 25:47
  Speaker 1: I've told you this before, if I if I eat
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: like shit, I do it. I mean whenever. But if
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: I do too much, my brain starts just short circuiting.
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: I can't think that's happening. To me and I'm cranky.
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: I'm cranky. I mean, I'll be a raging bitch if
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: i'm if I don't get some And I love a
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: good walk with my dog. But if yes, fresh air
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: and trees, guys like number one get that freaking fresh air. Hikes. Yes,
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: I love the smell of cars whizzing past me. Wait
• 26:20
  Speaker 1: are you the one that said if someone tells me
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: to take a fucking hike one more time? What? Oh No,
• 26:26
  Speaker 1: that wasn't you, was it?
• 26:27
  Speaker 2: Someone says people love to tell me to Hip Logan
• 26:30
  Speaker 2: is a hiker and he's.
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: Like, you should hike. I'm like you, like, stop with
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: the hike.
• 26:36
  Speaker 2: I'm from Utah, right, you don't even hike, to be
• 26:38
  Speaker 2: quite honest, And we're gonna talk about hiking like I
• 26:42
  Speaker 2: calm from the mountains.
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: Bro. Yeah, So it's different for everyone. I you too.
• 26:46
  Speaker 2: I think you got to find what works, what makes
• 26:48
  Speaker 2: you happy, and because there's so much out there that
• 26:50
  Speaker 2: people are shoving down your throats and like this is
• 26:52
  Speaker 2: the way, this is the way. No, no, yeah, that's
• 26:56
  Speaker 2: what's working for you. And I'm gonna figure out what
• 26:58
  Speaker 2: works for me. And you know what, it may not
• 26:59
  Speaker 2: be working right, now. But I'm gonna figure it out.
• 27:01
  Speaker 2: Like there's gonna be a day where I'm not going
• 27:02
  Speaker 2: to be consuming Domino's pizza three days a week.
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: But right now, but mentally, that's that's the point. Right now,
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: Domino's and Perier, all right, put me on a couch.
• 27:13
  Speaker 1: Oh I want if mentally you're Oh my god. I
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: read something the other day that said that said it
• 27:20
  Speaker 1: was something about mental health, but it said, if today
• 27:26
  Speaker 1: you're only mental you can't judge your mental health compared
• 27:29
  Speaker 1: to others. If today you you're only mentally able to
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: keep yourself alive, then bravo you fucking did it every
• 27:39
  Speaker 1: day for me. Yeah, but like that's what some people are,
• 27:42
  Speaker 1: Like I'm a piece of trash. I laid in bed
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: all day and like, yeah, if that's what you had
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: to do, though, bravo you did it another day on earth.
• 27:51
  Speaker 3: Oh I love that.
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: Take the pressure off.
• 27:53
  Speaker 2: Well, this goes back to when we were talking about
• 27:55
  Speaker 2: just America being.
• 27:57
  Speaker 1: Just grind grind. When you're it's like, oh my god,
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: I'm so tired. Yeah, and I just woke up like
• 28:05
  Speaker 1: let me sleep. Oh my god. Okay, what's another question?
• 28:11
  Speaker 1: What is the most Okay, so this is wedding ideas global.
• 28:15
  Speaker 1: What is the most shocking that's her handle. What's the
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: most shocking thing about being a mommy that you weren't
• 28:21
  Speaker 1: ready for?
• 28:22
  Speaker 2: Oh, the most shocking thing about being a mom that
• 28:25
  Speaker 2: I was not ready for. I'm gonna be so freaking
• 28:29
  Speaker 2: honest right now. Yeah, having to not I don't want
• 28:34
  Speaker 2: to say having I get to because I'm there's so
• 28:36
  Speaker 2: many people out there that want to become moms and
• 28:39
  Speaker 2: it doesn't happen for them. So I'm very grateful. But
• 28:42
  Speaker 2: let's like really break it down. We can be honest.
• 28:46
  Speaker 2: Not being able to really just go and do whatever
• 28:51
  Speaker 2: the hell I want. Yeah, I no longer have that luxury.
• 28:57
  Speaker 2: If I want to go out and and eat somebody,
• 29:00
  Speaker 2: I got to think, who is this person?
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: Deep dive? I got a child to think about.
• 29:06
  Speaker 2: If I get a text from a boy and he's like,
• 29:08
  Speaker 2: oh my gosh, you should come over, and it's like can't.
• 29:12
  Speaker 2: I got my baby, which, again, all things that I
• 29:15
  Speaker 2: want to do. She's the love of my life. But
• 29:19
  Speaker 2: when people say to me, I don't really know if
• 29:21
  Speaker 2: I want kids, I'm like, if you don't know, don't
• 29:23
  Speaker 2: do it, because your life changes and I love.
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: Being a mom. She's the biggest blessing.
• 29:30
  Speaker 2: But I mean, I feel like sometimes as moms we
• 29:33
  Speaker 2: feel guilty for some thoughts that we have.
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, it's hard, hard in your life. Like
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: you said, your life changes, correct, it's never the same again.
• 29:43
  Speaker 1: You know.
• 29:43
  Speaker 2: When I have ocean, I know that I'm going to
• 29:47
  Speaker 2: have another person in the bath with me, right. I
• 29:50
  Speaker 2: don't get to just like put whatever soap that I
• 29:53
  Speaker 2: want in or a back bomb. It's like we're getting
• 29:55
  Speaker 2: in to just lukewarm water and I have to just
• 29:59
  Speaker 2: basically sit here. Which great because at the end of
• 30:03
  Speaker 2: the day, I want my kid all day every day.
• 30:05
  Speaker 2: I never want her to leave my side, you know,
• 30:08
  Speaker 2: Like I am going through a lot right now, and
• 30:12
  Speaker 2: that's what I want. Yeah, I would literally give anything
• 30:17
  Speaker 2: to have someone say here's your kid. She's with you
• 30:20
  Speaker 2: all day every day, and that's it. Like I would
• 30:23
  Speaker 2: give anything in the world.
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: To feel that.
• 30:28
  Speaker 2: But it's it's different, Like That's I think the most
• 30:31
  Speaker 2: shocking is you think when someone tells you, like your
• 30:34
  Speaker 2: life's gonna change, You're gonna have to think about another
• 30:38
  Speaker 2: person now, you know, and you're like, that's fine, I'm
• 30:41
  Speaker 2: ready it's like then they come and you're like, oh,
• 30:43
  Speaker 2: literally every move I make, you know, every time I
• 30:47
  Speaker 2: wake up, and it's like I don't want to work today,
• 30:50
  Speaker 2: It's like, well, bitch, you have better work today because
• 30:52
  Speaker 2: there's gonna be a day that Ocean needs to go
• 30:54
  Speaker 2: to school. And we live in Los Angeles, and I
• 30:56
  Speaker 2: need to know, like I can afford to put her
• 30:58
  Speaker 2: in private school if necessary, if she has needs that
• 31:03
  Speaker 2: you know are going to help her in school that
• 31:06
  Speaker 2: maybe I wasn't planning on, and just all these things
• 31:09
  Speaker 2: that you maybe don't expect, Yeah, your life revolves around them.
• 31:13
  Speaker 2: So there's the long answer to what I didn't expect.
• 31:16
  Speaker 1: That's what I want to hear, though. That's what I
• 31:18
  Speaker 1: want to hear, just because I have heard over and
• 31:21
  Speaker 1: over again from my own mother how having a baby
• 31:24
  Speaker 1: it's going to change your life. You're gonna be a
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: brand new pert. You're gonna be it's the best decision
• 31:28
  Speaker 1: you can ever make. And I totally is yes, And
• 31:30
  Speaker 1: I hear that, and I hear it, and I hear
• 31:32
  Speaker 1: it's a miracle. I love it and I appreciate it.
• 31:34
  Speaker 1: But I also want to hear the other stuff too,
• 31:36
  Speaker 1: So like, tell me everything and like that, yes, if
• 31:40
  Speaker 1: you think, like your life will never be the same,
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: and people really need to hear that well.
• 31:44
  Speaker 2: Ariana being so open about like not wanting kids, and
• 31:47
  Speaker 2: we've had these conversations where I tell her, like, your life,
• 31:50
  Speaker 2: it's the biggest blessing in the world to have a baby.
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: But if you don't know that you want them, I'm
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: gonna be real with you don't have them, Yeah.
• 31:59
  Speaker 2: Because because your life is different, you don't get to
• 32:02
  Speaker 2: just say I'm gonna head to Vegas. I'm gonna I
• 32:04
  Speaker 2: want to take a weekend and go see my girlfriends
• 32:06
  Speaker 2: in New York, like whatever it may be, I want
• 32:08
  Speaker 2: to go camping. It's like, no, even the tiniest little
• 32:12
  Speaker 2: trip us packing for a fifty five minute drive to
• 32:15
  Speaker 2: Newport Beach is like packing to go to Europe.
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you can't just like get in the No. Yeah.
• 32:21
  Speaker 1: I feel that way with a dog. When I met
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: Kyle and he was like, yeah, I have a dog,
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: and I'm like, oh, nowadays we can't just like we can't.
• 32:29
  Speaker 1: We don't pack and go let's go to Santa Barbara
• 32:31
  Speaker 1: for the weekend. We have to get a dog setter.
• 32:33
  Speaker 1: So I don't even I can't imagine how I would
• 32:35
  Speaker 1: be with a child. Yeah, so that's the most shocking thing.
• 32:38
  Speaker 1: I like, yeah, where are you in the saucy slash
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: Brittany situation? Switzerland? Question Mark? Oh where am I in
• 32:48
  Speaker 1: the Britney slash Stassy situation? No, I like this question.
• 32:53
  Speaker 2: I adore both of them. They're both my friends, I think,
• 32:57
  Speaker 2: and I preach this to everybody. If you don't feel
• 33:01
  Speaker 2: like someone has a place in your life anymore, for
• 33:03
  Speaker 2: whatever reason, then you have to you have to burn
• 33:09
  Speaker 2: the bridge. I mean Chris Medina, who's the psychic medium
• 33:12
  Speaker 2: who I love and a door always says well, has
• 33:16
  Speaker 2: said to me burn bridges and don't be afraid. And
• 33:19
  Speaker 2: I just think life is People say it all the time,
• 33:22
  Speaker 2: life is too short, but like, if you really think
• 33:24
  Speaker 2: about it, I mean, it flies by the other day.
• 33:30
  Speaker 2: I was just excited that we got picked up for
• 33:33
  Speaker 2: season ten and now it's wrapped.
• 33:34
  Speaker 1: We're done.
• 33:35
  Speaker 2: I know, we finished filming and that I feel like
• 33:38
  Speaker 2: I just blinked my eyes and I became funny with
• 33:40
  Speaker 2: time when my dad passed away and I realized how
• 33:44
  Speaker 2: in the world I had twenty seven years with this man,
• 33:46
  Speaker 2: and it felt like nothing, even though you have all
• 33:49
  Speaker 2: these memories. You're like, how is it gone?
• 33:52
  Speaker 1: Yeah?
• 33:53
  Speaker 2: So I just I support them both, and however they're feeling, everybody,
• 33:59
  Speaker 2: I reserve the right to feel however the fuck.
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  Speaker 1: I want to feel.
• 34:02
  Speaker 2: Right, you don't have to understand it. I don't have
• 34:04
  Speaker 2: to explain it to you. This is how I feel.
• 34:07
  Speaker 2: I feel like it's time to move on from the friendship,
• 34:11
  Speaker 2: and it seems like that's where what they decided to do.
• 34:15
  Speaker 2: I don't know much about the situation right because I'm
• 34:18
  Speaker 2: friends with both of them, and they're both very sweet,
• 34:22
  Speaker 2: and so you know, I just I go hang out
• 34:25
  Speaker 2: with Britt. I think I'm gonna see her today, and
• 34:28
  Speaker 2: then I'll hang out with Stas.
• 34:29
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 34:29
  Speaker 3: And I support both of them.
• 34:31
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I love them both. I think they're so sweet.
• 34:34
  Speaker 3: My another long winded answer for.
• 34:35
  Speaker 1: Me my opinion on just relationships in general. Life's too
• 34:40
  Speaker 1: short for relationships that don't serve you. It's just that
• 34:44
  Speaker 1: that's what you were saying. But just at this point
• 34:46
  Speaker 1: in my life, yes, and you don't have to have
• 34:48
  Speaker 1: a reason. Oh this friend and I don't click anymore. Sorry,
• 34:52
  Speaker 1: let's go our merry way.
• 34:54
  Speaker 2: Yeah, And and I don't care if I end up
• 34:56
  Speaker 2: with ocean, you, my mom, and my brothers right right,
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  Speaker 2: like bye, Yeah, I just want to be like, I
• 35:05
  Speaker 2: just want to be happy and feel free. So if
• 35:07
  Speaker 2: you're not adding to my.
• 35:08
  Speaker 1: World like be gone, Yeah, not saying I'm not saying that.
• 35:12
  Speaker 2: Like that's how they felt about each other, right, Obviously
• 35:15
  Speaker 2: they felt how they felt, yeah, and that's where they
• 35:17
  Speaker 2: are now.
• 35:18
  Speaker 1: But I support both of them in their journeys. I
• 35:21
  Speaker 1: love this one, La La, What advice would you give
• 35:24
  Speaker 1: your younger self? And that's from PACIFICA Harry, Sorry if
• 35:27
  Speaker 1: I didn't read the last handle.
• 35:29
  Speaker 2: Oh that's such a that's such a hard question because
• 35:34
  Speaker 2: I look back on every moment that I may have
• 35:39
  Speaker 2: regret or remorse and I'm like, okay, but where am
• 35:43
  Speaker 2: I right now? And without those moments would I be here?
• 35:47
  Speaker 2: Like I can look back at my life and say,
• 35:51
  Speaker 2: you know, I'm now going to AA meetings. I should
• 35:53
  Speaker 2: have never picked up that first drink, but I I'm
• 36:00
  Speaker 2: trying to make this make sense.
• 36:02
  Speaker 1: No, it makes sense.
• 36:03
  Speaker 2: But then we cut to where I am now and
• 36:05
  Speaker 2: I can look back and be like, there were a
• 36:07
  Speaker 2: lot of fun nights out before my alcoholism. Really kicked
• 36:11
  Speaker 2: int high gear because I'm the person who does believe
• 36:14
  Speaker 2: that it's a progressive disease. You may not have a
• 36:18
  Speaker 2: drinking problem in the moment, but it can certainly lead
• 36:20
  Speaker 2: to that. Again, that's my own thought, and I'm like, damn,
• 36:24
  Speaker 2: I had some really really fun nights out, you know,
• 36:29
  Speaker 2: you know, I can look back and not go like, oh,
• 36:31
  Speaker 2: I've never been drunk before. Then again here I am
• 36:34
  Speaker 2: going to AA meetings and then it's like okay. But
• 36:38
  Speaker 2: without that, I wouldn't be able to talk about addiction
• 36:43
  Speaker 2: and like help people who have reached out to me
• 36:46
  Speaker 2: and give them advice on that.
• 36:48
  Speaker 1: Vpr T. This is from TSA l R E. N Oh, sorry,
• 36:53
  Speaker 1: I don't know how to say it. Vpr T Raquel
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: and Sandy question mark, are you beefing with Raquel? Question mark? Oh,
• 37:01
  Speaker 1: I cannot say that.
• 37:03
  Speaker 2: You guys will have to watch season ten because I'm
• 37:07
  Speaker 2: not trying to get another email or call from my
• 37:10
  Speaker 2: production company that says, please shut your freaking out. Yeah. Yeah,
• 37:15
  Speaker 2: so I can't answer that, but you guys will see
• 37:18
  Speaker 2: it all play out. I'm I'm interested to see what
• 37:20
  Speaker 2: people people have to say, like their perspective.
• 37:24
  Speaker 1: Yes, I'm just excited for this season. I think it's
• 37:27
  Speaker 1: gonna be I think it's gonna be iconic.
• 37:29
  Speaker 3: I think it's gonna be pretty damn good.
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: I think it is too Okay, should we do one more? Yeah?
• 37:35
  Speaker 1: So this is from eest u ebs eest tubes. I
• 37:40
  Speaker 1: think that's how you say it. How are you really
• 37:43
  Speaker 1: doing mentally and emotionally throughout slash since filming season ten?
• 37:48
  Speaker 3: Ooh, I love this question.
• 37:50
  Speaker 2: Yeah, Filming season ten came at the perfect time because
• 37:56
  Speaker 2: just my life is weird.
• 37:58
  Speaker 1: My life is weird.
• 38:00
  Speaker 2: One day, I wake up and I'm like, you know what,
• 38:01
  Speaker 2: I'm strong, I'm gonna get the job done. Other days
• 38:05
  Speaker 2: I work wake up and I'm like, today's just gonna
• 38:08
  Speaker 2: be a little bit of a struggle. Yeah, we're feeling
• 38:10
  Speaker 2: a little defeated. Like I'll be honest, I have those moments.
• 38:13
  Speaker 1: We all do.
• 38:15
  Speaker 2: But filming vander Pump came at the perfect time because
• 38:19
  Speaker 2: even though there's a lot of drama, it can become
• 38:22
  Speaker 2: like a very strange and at times toxic environment. Just
• 38:26
  Speaker 2: like we were talking about earlier, there are times you
• 38:28
  Speaker 2: go into the workplace and you're like, I really fucking
• 38:30
  Speaker 2: hate Sally today.
• 38:31
  Speaker 1: She's a bitch, Salie.
• 38:33
  Speaker 2: She's a bitch in the best way Possible's the bitch.
• 38:39
  Speaker 1: She's a bad bitch.
• 38:40
  Speaker 2: But like she's stepping into a power position that like
• 38:43
  Speaker 2: I'm a little intimidated by whatever it may be is
• 38:45
  Speaker 2: you know.
• 38:49
  Speaker 3: So yeah, it just like took me out.
• 38:53
  Speaker 1: Of my my stuff.
• 38:56
  Speaker 2: You know, I love having something to occupy my time, right,
• 39:03
  Speaker 2: that makes sense?
• 39:03
  Speaker 1: Yeah, no, that makes sense.
• 39:04
  Speaker 2: You know when I have I'm a virgo. You put
• 39:07
  Speaker 2: this virgo into give her free time. You're just giving
• 39:13
  Speaker 2: me a recipe to have my mind wander to crazy places.
• 39:17
  Speaker 1: I can't have it. I gotta have a.
• 39:19
  Speaker 2: To do list for the next day. And let's just
• 39:21
  Speaker 2: say I complete nothing on the to do list. It's like,
• 39:24
  Speaker 2: but at least I had it, Like I knew that
• 39:25
  Speaker 2: I should.
• 39:26
  Speaker 1: Have been business today.
• 39:27
  Speaker 2: It wasn't by choice, right, right, that I was, you know,
• 39:30
  Speaker 2: like I did, I wasn't busy by choice. Yeah, you know,
• 39:36
  Speaker 2: vander Pump asked me this.
• 39:38
  Speaker 1: Yeah, she was like, are are you really okay? Though,
• 39:43
  Speaker 1: I'm really okay. I'm actually really happy. Yeah.
• 39:48
  Speaker 2: You know, like even with every this is how I
• 39:52
  Speaker 2: explain it. There's just one little like fucking fly, and
• 39:57
  Speaker 2: I can't quite kill you know, it's like I'm swatting.
• 40:01
  Speaker 1: You know, it ain't gonna ruin the day, right, It's annoying. Right,
• 40:06
  Speaker 1: we all have a fly though, we all have that something, Yes,
• 40:08
  Speaker 1: we all do that somewhere.
• 40:10
  Speaker 2: Like does the fly ruin your happiness? Are you like
• 40:13
  Speaker 2: this fly is ruining my happiness? No, it's just annoying, right,
• 40:19
  Speaker 2: And you know you'll take care of it. You know
• 40:21
  Speaker 2: he's gonna tuck her out and you'll find him dead
• 40:23
  Speaker 2: in the course at some point, you know. Yes, I
• 40:29
  Speaker 2: love this analogy how I feel, But I'm like mentally
• 40:36
  Speaker 2: I'm strong. Yeah, I can sit there and be like,
• 40:38
  Speaker 2: today's a shitty day, but guess what, shitty days don't
• 40:41
  Speaker 2: last forever. I may wake up tomorrow it could be
• 40:44
  Speaker 2: a great day. Guess what the rest of the week.
• 40:45
  Speaker 2: I could wake up and it could be not a
• 40:47
  Speaker 2: great day. But remember everything is temporary. Feelings are not forever.
• 40:53
  Speaker 1: They're just not.
• 40:54
  Speaker 2: They're not, you know, and I know that it seems
• 40:58
  Speaker 2: like they all and when you're in it, you feel
• 41:01
  Speaker 2: like you're drowning. It is so important for you to
• 41:04
  Speaker 2: take a moment. I don't care if you drop down
• 41:07
  Speaker 2: to your knees and pray. I don't care if you
• 41:09
  Speaker 2: saved your ass off. I don't care if you go
• 41:11
  Speaker 2: work out whatever it may be, to get yourself to
• 41:14
  Speaker 2: a place where you remember this is temporary and this
• 41:18
  Speaker 2: will not take me out.
• 41:19
  Speaker 1: I'll be damned.
• 41:20
  Speaker 2: I don't care if for the next month you are
• 41:23
  Speaker 2: feeling down in the dumps. It is temporary. Nothing is forever, and.
• 41:29
  Speaker 1: Coming from someone who because to me, I can't imagine
• 41:32
  Speaker 1: this pain, but who has lost her father, someone who
• 41:35
  Speaker 1: isn't very close to her father. You if that had
• 41:39
  Speaker 1: happened to me in the moment I think this, I'm done.
• 41:41
  Speaker 1: I'm a different person now, I'm never gonna be okay again.
• 41:45
  Speaker 1: And like, I'm sure you are feeling that in the moment,
• 41:48
  Speaker 1: and then now you look back at how you're feeling.
• 41:51
  Speaker 1: Of course, grief comes and waves, and grief is a
• 41:53
  Speaker 1: different beast than a lot of other emotions. But like,
• 41:57
  Speaker 1: you survived through that, and I look at someone like that,
• 42:00
  Speaker 1: like I couldn't imagine losing my father. I couldn't survive
• 42:02
  Speaker 1: through that, but you can. Yeah, And so it's just yeah.
• 42:06
  Speaker 2: And I'm no stranger to anxiety. I'm no stranger to depression.
• 42:10
  Speaker 2: And I know that a lot of my listeners or followers.
• 42:14
  Speaker 2: You know, there are things that are well above my
• 42:18
  Speaker 2: pay grade. You just never never shut out that you
• 42:26
  Speaker 2: can and will be happy.
• 42:28
  Speaker 1: Am I making any sense? Absolutely?
• 42:31
  Speaker 2: Absolutely, talk to somebody. Yeah, you know, we have science
• 42:35
  Speaker 2: for a reason. Don't just I can't stress that enough
• 42:39
  Speaker 2: that you will be Okay.
• 42:42
  Speaker 1: That's another good point too, is you have science for
• 42:44
  Speaker 1: a reason. I was just talking to a friend about
• 42:46
  Speaker 1: this and she said, I think something is She's been
• 42:48
  Speaker 1: depressed for a while. And she said, I think something
• 42:50
  Speaker 1: is chemically wrong. And I said, because I didn't ever
• 42:53
  Speaker 1: want to say, maybe you should look into medicine or
• 42:56
  Speaker 1: meet talking with your doctor about it. And she said
• 42:59
  Speaker 1: that to me, I think some think's chemically wrong. And
• 43:00
  Speaker 1: I was like, there you go. Why don't you talk
• 43:03
  Speaker 1: to someone about that. We are in the power position.
• 43:06
  Speaker 2: Okay, if you walk into a doctor and they tell
• 43:10
  Speaker 2: you X, Y and Z, and you feel like that
• 43:13
  Speaker 2: may not be right for you.
• 43:15
  Speaker 3: Take a different route.
• 43:16
  Speaker 2: Yeah, if you feel like it would be perfect for you.
• 43:19
  Speaker 2: Listen to yourself. You are in the position of power.
• 43:22
  Speaker 2: You own your body, heart and soul. Like, just listen
• 43:26
  Speaker 2: to yourself and remember that everything is temporary and you're
• 43:29
  Speaker 2: going to figure it out. So there's my heartfelt note.
• 43:33
  Speaker 2: I hope that that I like that we should end
• 43:35
  Speaker 2: on that.
• 43:35
  Speaker 1: We should end on that. I love you guys, so mad?
• 43:39
  Speaker 3: Whoa turn into a valley?
• 43:42
  Speaker 1: So mad? And you can keep it in. I don't
• 43:47
  Speaker 1: care whoa.
• 43:48
  Speaker 2: I've had one too many periods. I love you guys
• 43:53
  Speaker 2: so much. Thank you for listening to another episode of
• 43:55
  Speaker 2: the Give Them La La podcast. It's hump day. If
• 43:58
  Speaker 2: you want to throw back a little glass of wine,
• 44:01
  Speaker 2: hey have one for me. I love you, guys, and
• 44:04
  Speaker 2: I will catch you next week