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Why Disembodiment Holds Women Back and How to Reconnect Into Your Erotic Power · Becoming Flame: Where Sensuality, Sovereignty, and Sacred Power Ignite

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Our products are initiations into that coherence. Luxury in experience. Devotional in use. Transformational in effect. Get yours now at phenxx.com That's P-H-E-N. Because if you love yourself, say, let's say 10 % to... to the maximum compared to the maximum unconditionality of love Even like comparing it 10 % of love right like it's a weird way to say about it because it's Unconditional love is binary you unconditionally love or you don't So I guess it's like it like let's look about it in this binary way Do you do you act for yourself? xx.com in the same way that you would act for your child. And I think that's why having a child was so catalytic for me. Because the way that I showed up to love her, to love this being of innocence, who was so connected, so innocent, so pure, so loving. And she had this emission, this frequency of love. And you can't help but elevate your game to love a child. That's why everybody loves babies. And I had to really ask like, do you love yourself the way that you love your child? No, I didn't. I really, really didn't. And when I looked around my life and the level of things that I was accepting was so far below the mark of what I accepted for my child, it was so... I had to grieve that, right? I had to grieve the idea that as a... the result of me not loving myself to the degree that I love my own child is because I was not loved. to the degree that I love my child. Such a hard pill to swallow. But also so liberating. It was also so liberating in the sense that it's not my fault that I don't love me this way. But now that I see it, if I don't choose differently, that's on me. So two things happen. I was able to liberate myself from the... lesser love than I knew that I truly deserved by going ahead and loving myself and being that mother to me. Two, I was able to forgive ⁓ unleash and ⁓ my own parents off ⁓ the hook for that and say okay well you obviously didn't love yourself and they didn't love you and and it goes back and back and back and back and back right so if i have the realization that i don't love myself the way that i love my daughter maybe my mother loves me far more than she loves herself and maybe her mother and her and going back and back and back and back And so I think that really helped me to just go, doesn't matter. It's okay. Like, let's let this go. But now that I see the difference, now that I have ⁓ a decision point here, I can choose radical self-love. So the difference between self-love, I think, and radical self-love is the intentionality, the daily commitment, the connecting with... with what I started to call this triad. So that was for me connecting to my own love that I felt from the creator, from God, from source, whatever you want to call it. I call it source connection. And sitting in the womb of the earth. And you get this sort of sense of hug. by this love of all that is, all the love in the universe and you're just feeling it and you're in this triangle and this pyramid, this triad between the connection point to the source of all that is and to the womb of the earth or into Gaia and this loving mother's eternal love. And... expanding that into your body, emboldening that, strengthening that, fortifying that, seeing this love come into your body, into your atoms, into your quarks, the strings, down to the smallest known particle and then smaller again and smaller again and smaller again and finding a love so infinite that it defies language, it defies science, it defies the identity that you had built up until that point. For me, my access point was the love that I had for my daughter matched that. And I was like, wow. It's a deeper knowing. When you are in your body and when you are accepting of all the pain, you can accept all the pleasure. You can accept all the love. And so for me, it was like all of this stuff that I've been doing of like feeling and not being scared of feeling. because I think it took me 10 years, probably, genuinely, to accept that I could feel a level of unconditional love. Because that was, for me, very, very scary at first. was like, don't want, I don't want to be loved. That's too much for me. I can't handle, I can't hold that. My body's not made for that. And so by no means was this an overnight success story. And I think that's one of the things that's really weird about how weird is that to be like, I had to work on being loved. But so many of us do, right? So many of us do. ⁓ I think history, just has this way of forging. ⁓ forging through with love first and then science catches up. And I don't think that science has caught up to the true infinite nature of our bodies and the true infinite nature of our biotechnology system to receive pure love, infinite love, and what that can radically and rapidly change in reality and how you can rapidly and radically change your individuality and your collective connection based on that love. ⁓ spontaneity collapses time and pure love ⁓ True love exists in this frequency of spontaneity, in the natural time. When we come out of artificial time, when we come out of capitalism, when we come out of patriarchy, and we receive this love and it restores us to truth, and it brings us into this frequency of pure love. Where our desires and our creations can start to physicalize, whether spontaneously or whether over time, it's this true love attunement. not only into the source of love from a child or of God or whatever but like where that because that can exist outside of you and I think when I I've learned a lot of ⁓ like religious people, spiritual people, they have this love coming from outside of them into them. And I think the shift for me, especially when I became a mother was like, the source of my love is in my womb. I made this love because when you have this baby, you are constantly and constantly and constantly directing your attention into you, you, into you, into you, into you. And then when I birthed, that habit remained. and it took me a moment to be like ⁓ the baby's here now not here and then i was like but i've already got this habit of ⁓ a tuning into the love that I be in my womb and the infinite source of creativity and spontaneity and relaxation and purity and calmness and like my selfness that I felt in my womb. And so I didn't give up that habit. I kept a tuning into my womb space, into my womb wisdom. And it was this really, really, really, especially there was no baby in there and no other consciousness in there and it was just my body again. I really could feel the subatomic particles and the... I don't know, it's like somehow this moving of that throughout my auric field or throughout my body and... you you start to strengthen that, at least I started to strengthen my own source of connection. And I was amplifying my own capacity to feel this pleasure, to feel this orgasmic bliss, joy, love, and ⁓ allowing that to go ⁓ every atom, every molecule, every fiber of my being. ⁓ really was like... ⁓ Show me how this love from my own womb can purify, can correct, can adjust, can attune. ⁓ How can it help me just feel the same level of love connection for myself as I do for my daughter, as I do for the earth, as I do for this love that I have on this being I created? And that's what it is about these really high, pure frequencies of love, of creation, nature, and your own personal purity setting and... For me, was this alignment to this triad. And in many ways, became ⁓ more than a triad with my daughter because I had my source connection. had the connection to the womb of the earth that I was sitting in, but I also had my baby in my arms. And so maybe it was the three of us, ⁓ the two of us connected into the upper and the lower, and we were one still and so I thought of it as a triad but it was this really magical recalibration period for me where I was able to at a time in a woman's life where she doesn't necessarily feel sexual in terms of sexual activity with you know another person I've just had a baby I don't want to have sex right it's like literally the last thing that I want to do but I felt the what we often call orgasmic, blissful, joyful sexual energy that created this being. It was the creation energy and that's why I stopped calling it sexual energy. I started calling it creation energy because that creation energy had so much nurturing and so much love and so much compassion and joy and bliss and incredible desire to see ⁓ my life force come to full form. ⁓ And for me, of course I was processing a lot during this period as well. was going through a really hard time. you know in terms of DV and my marriage in terms of you know ⁓ feeling extremely unsafe in my home and yet really safe in motherhood and it was very paradoxical it was it was the more that I leaned into the love that I had for my child and the love that I then had for myself was growing and stabilizing and becoming a real life force of its own. that I could see abuse, I could see trauma, I could see pain, suffering, disappointment, anger, resentment, sadness, grief, shame, embarrassment, all of it was so agitated. It was getting so agitated in my system. ⁓ It was the contrast of this unconditional love with everything that wasn't. It was like love and not love, that's it. It became very binary for me. And I'm not a binary person. I'm not like... I'm like, there's all 5,000 shades of gray. Like, let's give somebody the benefit of the doubt. But in this moment, my Mattressen's journey was very binary. It was love or not love. I'm allowing this or I'm not. And that's when I started to realize if when you are living and operating in a level of disembodiment that would allow you to not love yourself to the fullest extent of unconditionality, the fullest extent of source love, of earth love, of child love. the unconditional love that a mother has for her child where she would literally give her own life for that child. I started loving myself that way. I started loving myself that way to allowing every single atom, molecule, fibre of my being to purify and then correctly adjust to the frequency attunement of this unconditional love. connected to my child, connected to source, connected to... ⁓ connected to this greater power of capacity to hold a greater vision. when that fills you, when that love fills every corner of your being and pushes that which is not in alignment out or agitates it until you feel it coming out and you're just like I need to get out of this. It was so, it was this potent time for me of like I will not accept anything less. I will not accept for my child anything less than this and I will not accepted for myself because my vitality and my longevity and my health all of a sudden became the most important thing on the planet because I can't die now. I can't be less than now. I have been, I have received the greatest promotion of my life to not only receive and gestate and birth this child, but to raise this child and to facilitate this child's capacity to create this new world that she needs to live in that is far beyond the the war and the crime and the whatever else of the world that we're living in right now. And so I just allowed everything that was coming up every single day to be made so apparent to me that I couldn't ignore it any longer. that no excuses, that no red flags, that no boundaries crossed, that no less than activity was ever going to take place again. And... And I tapped into this place where I started to feel every single undertaking that had been committed against humanity. Whether it's by a particular controlling agenda or it's just, you know, the entire, you know, mess of everything. And... all of this unfiltered, infiltrated hate that was being pushed into this planet and I started to feel it and I started to see this alternative agenda to disconnect us from pure love and I started to see how it was so easy to scramble my system to get me out of alignment and connection into pure love. The fact that I had lived all these decades on the planet from my pure love until such a time that there was such a ⁓ potent activation point of this is what love is and this is what it needs to be coming from my child and coming from this act of natural birth. And I think that's possible for many, many women. Why this might not happen for them is because they're having hospital births and they're not touching their child first. And they're having all of these other hands and all of these other instructions. Because my birthing portal, first of all, it was, you know, very many hours. And my baby didn't come until we had a conversation actually at this point where before she like really descended and came down. And she said, I'm not coming because I don't think you would make me the priority. And I said, why would you say that? Just like, because you haven't built rest and relaxation and pleasure and joy and beauty into your life. You're not in the zone of what true femininity is. You're not in the zone of true receivership. You're even trying to control my birth. You're trying to move through it. Like you did everything that you could to have an unmedicated birth, an unassisted birth. You're here by yourself, but you're still controlling it. It doesn't matter who else is here. You want me to come when you want. That's not life. That's not nature. It comes in the time that it comes. And you need to commit to me that I'm your priority. This was devastating. I was very not present in the room at that point, cognizantly. mean, I was obviously very present in my body because you can't be anywhere else when you're birth. And birth is the ultimate act of embodiment because you, a woman who's not in her body has complications at birth. She has intervention at birth, you know, and that's why there's such a push to medicate and numb at birth so that we can continue to control the narrative right from the point of birth. Anyway that's another story. But I knew that I was made to birth. I knew that my body could do that. Like it didn't need instruction. And so I birthed alone. As in I didn't have a hospital team. My midwife was primarily outside during my birthing time. And birthing is a very solo activity. Even if there's someone behind you doing something for you, you don't know that they're there. You have no concept of who's in the room, what time it is, or where it's going. And it is the most natural connection to natural time. Because it doesn't matter if it's 10.30 or 1.30 or 2.30. It doesn't matter. Is the baby in or out? like are you still in labor or have you birthed? like that's it. all the time and all the calculation of time like dissolves away and you come back into this alignment into your into your source into your earth connection and you have to understand that loving yourself to the full and total extent of love is all that's going to get you through because the love that you have for your child is what is getting you through. I had a tense machine for example and I think like on hour 10 of my labor there was like just pull this off my back it's doing absolutely nothing anymore and you have to you have to ride the waves of that pain. When they say that like a contraction is like a surge that you ride, fuck that bullshit. It hurts like motherfucking hell, okay? But it is a pain that is manageable when you connect into the love of your child and when you connect into the power of your body and the eros of you. Birth is a primarily erotic thing to do because it is life force energy. You cannot do it disconnected from your body. You cannot do it disconnected from love. And again, if you're... version of erotic means sex, means pornography, you know ⁓ French films late at night. You know that's that's an aspect of eroticism but eroticism is life. It is the vitality of you and there's nothing more erotic than giving life, than birthing life. that you have to be in your body, you have to be in yourself. Even though I had been going through the motions of doing so much ego death and so much maiden death and so much of all of this, the act of birthing requires the death of the maiden, the death of the young girl who had no other responsibilities than her to die in order to birth the mother, in order to birth she who births. A girl cannot birth. a woman, a mother births and You need to withdraw all permissions and all interferences and all imprints and all controls and you need to withdraw and delete anything where you believe your power is held outside of you. Because if you are birthing... If you are being in your life force energy and you believe at some level of you that someone else is in control of your life, someone else is in control of your body, you cannot birth. Not naturally and not unassisted and not without complication because birthing is the power of femininity of woman unleashed. It is raw and it is primal and if you see anyone birthing she is not demure and she is not sweet and she is not all cutesy cutesy she is wild and she is feral and she is primal and she is animalistic and she is so deeply in the core primordial essence of her femininity of bearing life of screaming of yelling of churning that power from her down. We do not birth with power going from our pelvis going to our head. And yet every single spiritual guru will say to you, take your energy up and out. Why? Because it disconnects you from your body, disconnects you from your truce power source, disconnects you from your feminine birthing erotic power. A woman births down. She brings her power down through her legs and out. If you cannot connect to that which is between your legs, if you cannot connect to your womb, if you cannot birth down and out, if you cannot open your hips and open your pelvis and open your pussy and you cannot connect into that space and push it out into the world, how can you do that? in any other practice. And so the technologies of spirituality have very primarily been created by men for masculine forms of spiritual enhancement, spiritual connection, where they come up. They come up and out, right? But all that does for a woman is disembodied her. All that does for a woman is disconnect her from the truth of her body technology, which is that of her womb, which is that of her eros, and which is that of her deepest source connection and her deepest self and her deepest power, which is down and out. There are so many indigenous customs and cultures around the world that refuse for women to birth in any other place than her feet directly on the floor, crouching on her ankles and down. The moment that you put a woman in a high-rise building on her back, you have taken all agency away from her. She is not in her power position. She is not in a power position. Her power is birthing down. She needs to have connection. to her hips, to her pelvis, to her feet and she needs that position to go down into the earth. She needs to have her head high and her... and that is natural. It is really really really really natural. If you see anyone birth who is not being instructed by someone, she doesn't lie down on her back. She doesn't lie on her back at all. If you see relics of ancient manuscripts or ancient cave drawings or anything, any depiction of sexuality, ⁓ some kind of a female power move, it is very much that those legs are open and that she is birthing. She is birthing. If you see a lot of ancient Egyptian or Mesopotamian or ⁓ Greek, Roman, even way older than that, indigenous, Incan, Mayan, that woman's legs are open and the power is coming out through her legs. That is the heiress. That is feminine power. So every time someone tries to take you up and out of your body, every time that a spiritual person, a guru, a master, a teacher tries to tell you, go out of your body, do astral travel, go and find the source of power somewhere else. No. You'll find nothing. You'll find fracturing, you'll find disembodiment, and you'll find somebody else's energy and somebody else's portal and somebody else's blueprint that has absolutely no application to your life at all. Nothing. So what I really found out here was... when you want to create something in the slavery world. in this capitalist world, in this patriarchal world. You go to work, you shut down your connection, you shut down your community, you focus on yourself, you focus on your computer, you hustle your grind, you put in these long hours and you take time away from your family, away from your friends, away from others and you leave nature and you stay indoors and you work and you work and you work. Head down and you just go for it. And if you want to get ahead with a team, you hire them or you direct them about what they that you want to and yet this is completely backwards to what is true in nature. So the way that you work and the way that you make money or in another way of speaking, gain resources to access aspects of life that you wish to be living, i.e. your dream. And when that's separate from love, from family, from friends, from community, ⁓ it's also separate from what you eat, how you spend your weekends or your pleasure time. And you have this segmentation or segmenting of life so that no aspect of community or collectivism or sharing or togetherness is into that. So we isolate families in their own homes and we isolate workers in cubicles or at home, right? At home offices. And you know, we're becoming really, really isolated and disconnected. And that's because what I started to feel as a mother that I didn't necessarily know, this was what was really being activated in me as a mother, was that as a power, as a collective, we're powerful. When we share a collective dream, we raise children collectively, when we are in community, when we are coming together outdoors in nature, sharing the load, sharing the wisdom, sharing the time, not only does it help the mother, yes, for sure, but it's what does that child need? That child needs activation from all of these different members of community. They need wisdom from all different members of community. coming from a teacher or a swimming teacher or music teacher or a you know whatever it may be. We are not getting the activation of togetherness in the way that our societies are structured anymore and increasingly there is more and more and more expectation on mothers to have full-time jobs and to outsource care of their children to somebody else. But that person may or may not have the codes that your child specifically needs. And now we're having all these kids that don't listen or don't want to connect. And it's like, yeah, because we're not giving the nourishment and the soul feeding that comes from community, that comes from mothering, that comes from birthing in this connected way. And really what we're saying here is that togetherness is a power. It's a way of rising. The most important thing that a child needs is to activate and download their own personal understanding of self. of life and the role that they have and the skills that they have and the beauty that they have in great clarity. So for children to attain this it is so easy and simple. For us as adults especially if we have no connection to this at all and we're coming to it and later in life it's a lot more complicated. But children all they need is access to unconditional love source which they are born with. Children are activated through love because the veil between them and the source connection is so thin. It is actually possible for them at this time to live their life completely knowing that love is the source of all, that love is all around you, that you are made of it, you exude it, you share it, and you be it, and you know it. It's completely possible for children coming to the earth at this time to never know the kind of suffering that most of us as adults not only have defined our lives by but are spending all our time healing. from, right? And so when my daughter came she was so open and she was so connected to unconditional love. That was the activation point for me to come back and to vacillate there, to connect in there, to exude that, to embody that and to become that. And that love connection was the catalyst for really undoing so many of the limiting beliefs that have helped me. And as she grows, ⁓ now three and a half because I've been able to connect into and anchor into the unconditional love that she was connected into and connect that into myself that has strengthened the the bond between us really really strongly and it's almost like to activate that love source that knowing within that child is to ensure that it it never diminishes and I've really watched as my child is growing up and she's got some peer group that I've really seen this enormous chasm shift and change over time. what happens as babies is that we get conditioned, right from the time that we come into this earth, we're conditioned, conditioned, conditioned, conditioned. The reason that I know that this is true is because I can't walk down the street. can't go anywhere without people trying to understand how my child can have this radiance, have this joy, have this laughter that they have one conversation or they just watch her and they're just like, I'm so happy right now. I'm laughing and I'm playing and I have so much compassion and I'm here. And what I've really understood is that need enormous amounts of eye contact with loved ones to really see the doorways to source. And if you think about a lot of tantric activities or exercises to really build connection, it's eye gazing staring into the soul of the other. So children need this. And if you are spending at least two minutes every sort of hour or every sort of couple of hours staring deeply into the eyes of this child and you're holding them and you're giving them physical touch, you're giving them open understanding, true compassion, you're laughing with them, you're playing with them. You don't have behavioral problems that you then need to go and adjust. So I know when my child has got anything, anything coming up behaviorally, I haven't been connected enough today. Let's go and do some eye gazing. Let's go and do some physical touch. Let's go and demonstrate our love bonds. Let's get connected. Let's get deeper into this." And all of a sudden she'll come back and she'll say, she'll apologize for whatever behavior that she had or I will, or I'll say, I'm so sorry that I didn't give you enough today. And as a mother, it's really, really hard to always pour into your child when you've got so much else going on. But what's harder is trying to regulate dysregulated children through discipline, through yelling, through punishment. So for me, I've always known, and she's always given me that feedback loop of saying, whenever there is a disconnect and it's showing up behaviorally, or it's showing up with ⁓ strange behaviors of some kind, It's a lack of connection. She needs more time. She needs more attention. And so I do that. stop everything that I'm doing and we do that. And you know what's funny is that it doesn't take more time than doing a punishment. It takes almost no time. As long as you're being present, you're looking in the eyes of a child. And then think about that for you yourself as an adult. You get depleted, depleted, depleted, depleted, you're running on empty and you're in a shitty mood, you've got bad behaviour, you're triggered, you're reacting, you're whatever. You can't sleep that well, everything, everything. But if you have somebody who sits and holds you and it might be a girlfriend and it's just listening to you and it's just hearing you and it's just saying, I'm here for you. I'm giving you a cuddle. I'm giving you a massage. I'm giving you time to have a bath. I'm giving you whatever it is that you need. Don't you feel that feeling up? We keep thinking that children are not people. And we keep thinking that we ourselves are not people acting like robots, so tapped into the capitalist machine of efficiency and productivity. I just need to push myself more, push myself more, push myself more. And I remember pre-children. How normalized is it to work through lunch or to eat lunch at your desk while you're working? To have your entire life and your entire day and your entire focus on your career or on a company that is or isn't yours. Work is the primary focus in our capitalist world and then everything else comes around that. still true for a lot of people today. People who are going to work first and their children arrange themselves around the parents work. But if we could activate that source love knowing within a child and we ensure that it never diminishes, then children will raise the vibration, the frequency and the capacity of embodiment for a parent or a guardian or whatever it is to demonstrate this loving bond with their own source connection, with their own bodies, with their own answers when they need knowing coming from inside of them. And love then becomes this very solid foundation for a child to replicate that for themselves. So they get raised in an environment where the love that they have in themselves and the intimate relationship that they have within themselves is the foundation of truth. And that anyone else that comes around, anyone else that comes around and naturally wants to pull them out of that self-love, be very weird thing to do. That would be like, why would I ever leave myself love for you? I don't even know who you are. And so you don't need necessarily in the same way to, to educate your children about stranger danger or about trying to date a good guy or trying to do all of these other things that put the body first. What you do and you don't need to use shame or guilt or oppression or any of these other things as parenting mechanisms. You don't need to punish. What you need to do is build that child up in a level of embodiment and self-love and love connection to a higher and greater source of power where they have that in themselves and it's the very solid foundation for that child. It gives the child access to source-connected love via the parent and via themselves. And then they share this with the child on a daily and frequent basis and the child shares it with their parents on a frequent basis. know throughout the day not just once a day and then the child would grow up with such security in the presence and existence of the laws of love and the laws of embodiment that they would understand how to create from their own creation source, from their own body and they would never succumb to abuse, they would never enslave themselves into these other drudgery ways, the indoctrination of anything that is less than love. And so this is a really different way of raising children in embodiment, in erotic embodiment. know, so there's a lot of... beliefs from our culture that sort of say that children should be sheltered from sex, that they shouldn't know anything about it. And again, if your definition of eroticism is so narrow that it's just about sex and it's just about porn and it's just about transaction and extraction, know, linked into these old capitalist and religious patriarchy's, then you know, what you're going to get is a child that continues to seek outside of themselves, that is going to be searching for answers, searching for joy, searching for pleasure, searching for connection outside of him or herself. And that is the most dangerous aspect of our society. And if we've all gone through the... requirement to come back into the body to heal the shame to heal the trauma to stop the moments when our soul was so scared it left our body our consciousness left our body and we became a fractured being and then we have either PTSD or CPTSD that we need to heal from and that we use narcotics or alcohol or Netflix or whatever else it is to numb and binge and and isolate the deep disconnection that we have and the reason that our body is so painful If we put the core of that embodiment work in our parenting and in the way that we raise children, then we are raising them to understand about connection. We are ⁓ raising them to understand their body capacity, their infinite capacity to be in the truth of their own self. Whether that's a joyful play or whether it's with time that's genuinely, genuinely hard. And when we start the education about feelings and emotions, not from a picture about a facial expression, but where is that emotion in the body? What does it look like? What's the tone? What's the color? Where's it trapped? What does it want to say? And I know that my My three and half has been doing this for at least a year now and she has more emotional mastery than the average adult because my three and a half year old does not learn emotions from a facial expression on a piece of paper. She learns it in the moment. She has zero fear of being angry. She has zero fear of being... sad, embarrassed, whatever. And she will sit with that feeling and she will physically put her hands on her body and move it out. or she will know I need to shake this off. I need to dance or I need to cry or I need to hug myself or I need to jump or need to whatever. If our children do not have emotional mastery to a level of this nuance of feeling, it's mine and not theirs, or it's theirs and not mine. I know how to work with this. I know how to be in this. What is this emotion coming to me now? How do I heal the organs that are holding my emotions? How do I sit with my body in this discomfort until there is comfort to be found? How do I alchemize here? How do I show up here? Where is my erotic intelligence leading me and taking me? And if we have children that only are allowed to express joy and happiness and play and laughter, then you are no better off than the generations prior to ours that allowed only some emotions to take part. Because in a control agenda, parent insists on believing that their own hurt, pain or suffering or trauma or wounding was who they are, who they were and if they believe that they weren't good enough in any way due to this illusion, to this disconnection from body, from love, from self then we would be naturally demonstrating that to our child subliminally and then the child would adopt this frequency setting, this mentality, this belief system. and align to their parent or guardian because children want to be like their parents. They want to be exactly the same. It's safety for them. So now we need to as embodied feminine beings support children as their ultimate mother connected to Gaia, connected to the earth, connected to a safety and an intimacy with itself, a neurotic embodiment within self that says you are safe to feel. ⁓ You are safe to not only feel because that's where our education stopped, you are safe to alchemize, you are safe to tap into the ultimate intelligence of this emotion and you are safe to extract the gifts and the opportunities and the knowing and the wisdom from the emotions that you are holding within your body. You are safe to heal the organs. You are safe to purify these organs. You are safe to move this out of the fascia. were safe to allow your skeletal structure a setting of nervous system safety to feel emotions as they come. When your child has, and when you, for example, grew up in a home where it was not safe to feel and an emotion arose within your body, first thing that would be done would be to hide it and to hold it and to put it into the deep shadow where nobody can know it and feel it and see it, whatever. That would affect the fascia. That would affect your skeletal system and that would affect your nervous system. And so any kind of feeling would bring you into survival mechanism, into a complete frieze, freeze, fall, or whatever it may be. The reason that we need to override this and come deep embodiment into our bodies and our erotic intelligence is so that our children will be natural emotional masters and emotional alchemizers where they can hold their true purity setting with greater firmness, greater clarity than any adult ever could. But more importantly, they can catalyze the world into this new place and not only conceptualize a way of living in safety, but actually manifest it because there is safety within their own body. And therefore there's safety outside of that. And that is the role of every woman here on this planet to come into an erotic intelligence around safety and self-intimacy. And whether she is a mother or whether she is not, she is still a creatrix, she's still a creator of all and she brings that safety into her own body, that intimacy within her own body. And that is part of what the alchemy oils help her to do. Hold the setting of safety and intimacy so that she can move through the emotional repertoire. And so. Emotions exist in the amygdala, in the brain formation where memory and scent are both connected. And that's one level of it, right? So any functional fragrance is going to be able to help you to evoke a mood, evoke a memory and move into that, whether it's a good one or a bad one. Functional fragrance brands don't typically help you to evoke deeper ⁓ transformation and transition and alchemization of those deeper emotions held within the body because they're working at the neural path. It's neurobiology. We already know how to think our way better. We already know how to adjust our minds to go better. But the wisdom and the change, the truth is held within the body. And so what is important to understand about the Phoenix alchemy oils is that the spedurics and the plant medicine and the plant intelligence codes in the oils and in the speduric tinctures is unlocking that intelligence in the body. It's unearthing that. It's agitating that in the body so that not only can the, as I was saying when I was holding my baby in the love, it's agitating that which is not love. The Spatirix is designed to do the same thing but around your sensuality, your eroticism and your femininity. So that which is not linked into the true coherence of you is going to be agitated through the adding of more codes into the truth, into the sensuality, into the relaxation of the body. Because most of us are holding so strongly because we are so terrified at a level we don't even understand of feeling the emotions and of feeling unconditional love, of unconditional femininity, of unconditional power in the feminine, of erotic embodiment and sensual force. That is actually one of the biggest fears of all women of all time and I don't think anyone really truly knows that until they come out the other side and they go, ⁓ my god How did I not know I was so terrified of the power of being this woman? and what you're really tapping into is the collective. true fear of women. It's not hatred of women. No. Hate, hate puts on a really good mask. And if you are occupied with the perceived hatred of women, you won't look into how powerful you truly are and why that terrifies the world so much.