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Season 3 - Episode 52 - Overthinking everything · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody good morning from the chicken coop.
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  Today we are talking about overthinking and the reason that
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  we are talking about overthinking is we all do it.
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  We all overthink everything. I had a conversation with a long
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  term client of mine during the week, had a session and then got
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  a bunch of poop emoji sent to me saying that he was overthinking.
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  And I got on the phone with him and I said to him, OK, first of
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  all stop making yourself wrong for overthinking.
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  And he said how did you know I was making myself wrong?
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  And I said because we all do it, we all make ourselves wrong for
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  overthinking. But I this is a great reminder
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  for everybody as you hear me say this, who is driving your bus
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  when you are overthinking, You have got to know the emotion
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  that is in the seat causing the overthinking.
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  And he his funny answer to me is, well, the overthinker.
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  And I'm like, yes, but who's sitting next to the overthinker?
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  Who is the emotion that is sitting next to the overthinker?
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  And in his case, it really comes down to anxiety gets in that
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  seat, and then imagination, creativity is sitting right
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  there and making it all worse, and the overwhelm that just
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  shows up and overthinking that comes out of it all causes
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  everything to go awry because now you're judging yourself.
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  So now we've got the cast of characters at the front of the
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  bus that could wipe anybody out. And as they're all sitting there
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  and they're all talking and yakking it up, we all know how
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  that feels. And it becomes a a daunting,
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  debilitating state of paralysis. And you do go into analysis
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  paralysis and then over you say, oh, I'm overthinking.
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  Every single person does this, myself included.
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  I was talking yesterday about reassessing the farm.
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  And I can promise you, I can promise you that.
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  The crazy part is I overthink it.
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  I don't need to make it as complicated as it is, but in my
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  head I'm painting the pictures. So my imagination is doing an
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  excellent job painting pictures for me.
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  Yet it's causing me to go down a rabbit hole and and take way too
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  much time where I don't need to. And this is what we all do.
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  We every single person overthinks.
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  Now, real question is great. We all overthink.
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  What do we do, Kim? How do we stop it?
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  Well, the first thing you have to do is go back to basic bus
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  rules and understand what is happening in those moments, What
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  is happening when you're having those times and you're feeling
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  that way. You've got to make sure you know
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  who's at the front of the bus in those commanding seats, along
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  with whatever the main driver is now.
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  Sometimes when you're feeling, you know, like you're
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  overthinking and you're overwhelmed, really, the main
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  driver may be anxiety, it could be judgement, it could be
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  overwhelmed, it could. There is a myriad of
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  possibilities when it comes to emotions, but unless and until
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  you put them on paper, you will never have the ability to
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  command and switch those drivers.
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  It's an absolute, necessary part of what we do.
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  You have got to know the cast of characters on that front of the
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  bus. So you pull those out and then
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  you decide, OK, does this situation warrant having 567
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  drivers? Sometimes.
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  And the answer is no, it it never does.
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  It never does. And then you have to pick and
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  choose another driver. And sometimes that driver that
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  you need in the moment is not a driver that you even consider
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  going to regularly. So for me, when I get
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  overthinking, especially about the farm and what I'm doing, I
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  know I have this. Yes, apparently Raven knows it
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  too. He's seen her show up here.
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  I have this driver of, I don't want to even say just jokingly
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  perfectionism, but really it kind of is.
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  I refer to her as Martha on my bus because I obsess on Martha
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  Stewart and what she does. And I love her farm and I think
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  she's amazing in many ways. And I know there are a lot of
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  people who are not fans of Martha Stewart, but I grew up
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  reading her books, looking at her stuff and I just love the
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  the the image, at least the image that she puts out there
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  behind the scenes. Listen, I've never met the
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  woman. I don't know who she is in
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  person, so she may be dreadful because that's what happens a
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  lot of times behind the scenes. People are dreadful.
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  They put out a public persona. But I'm going to be the first
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  one to say I've never. I know she's a perfectionist.
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  I know she is a self-proclaimed perfectionist.
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  And she says yes, I'm a pain in the ass.
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  So I just love her for the fact that she confesses that because
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  I feel that way sometimes too. So when Martha is driving my
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  bus, I have this need to have things be a certain way and I
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  will drive myself insane trying to attain that.
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  And even now, I could sit here and I could look and I could
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  say, OK, I am seeing where everything is on the farm and I
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  want to change it. I want to change it because I'm
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  overthinking it and I've actually gone so far as to say
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  in my head, boy, I wish I just had a blank slate and start all
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  over again. What?
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  How is that even possible? Why would I even go there after
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  everything that we've done? Well, it's because of that
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  nature of overthinking. So just be aware that it's
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  there, debrief it, switch the drivers.
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  Be very careful with who you leave driving because it is one
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  of those things that is potentially very, very dangerous
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  when you leave it in the seat too long because the
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  overthinking leads to analysis paralysis and then you're not
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  moving at all. OK, my friends, I hope you have
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  a blessed day and I will see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.