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82. Freedom in Marriage Part 1 · 4-Freedom Podcast

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Welcome to the for Freedom podcast.
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This podcast exist to bring the freedom of the gospel for
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everyday Christians with everyday issue.
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Shoes. Now, here are your hosts, John
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hollifield, and James sacred Welcome back, everybody.
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We are back back. James, we're back in black baby
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that I don't know about black, but we're back.
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We're back. The new and improved for Freedom
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podcast, new and improved. I don't know if we're really new
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and I don't know if it's that improve, but we're back and
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we're excited. And we got some, we're doing
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things a little different and say that all the time.
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Don't worry, John. We're just do changing it up a
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little bit. Same guys.
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Different structure. I don't know.
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Do what same setting. You're in Tennessee.
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I'm in North Carolina. Yep.
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Unfortunately you couldn't make it to the promised land still in
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the desert 104 Flames. That maybe when this airs, you
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may come be coming back from Israel or you may still be in
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Israel. This airs.
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Yes I'll probably be in Israel if we're planning on dropping
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the first week of February. Yeah.
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And looking forward man. I'm excited.
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There's I just got off a call just a minute ago.
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With Marcus our tour guide, our leader of the trip and 38
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pastors. 38, men of us are going.
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It's going to be awesome. He said they had a goal of 20
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and their ending with 38, which is pretty credible.
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Pretty incredible, and looking it parking and get into Atlanta
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meeting up with some guys before I leave out and so, just so
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excited about that excited about seeing the, the the Bible come
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to life. Been able to experience that in
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a 3D World of been able to go to caesarea Philippi, it'll go to
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Jordan, be able to go to Bethlehem and and Calvary and
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all the places that we're going to go to.
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I'm just really, really stoked. Really talked about it.
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And can't wait to report back and talk to you guys about
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what's happened. And what we learned there, I'll
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be reporting our church as well about the things that we'll be
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seeing there and so just really excited.
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Wish, John could go with us but, you know, this big-time senior
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pastor guys, they don't have time for us lowlifes to go to
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Israel. So they just have to continue to
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minister where they're at right John.
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Well, come on. Well, John that's how we roll
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John you just got out of a pretty cool time.
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Two weeks, tell us about what you got to church.
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My church graciously gave it gave me a sabbatical and so we
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Had my family, we had two weeks off of everything and it was
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fun. We have a good time and really
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enjoyed the time off and yeah, just it's been a lot of good
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time with the family makes made some memories and so looking
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forward to getting back at it and back into the swing of
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things and and doing Ministry and that kind of thing.
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But well, when we were talking about, we are the the for
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Freedom podcast Take that name from Galatians. 5:1 is for
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Freedom, that Christ has set. You free, do not be entangled
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again with the Yoke of bondage. And the purpose of the statement
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of the podcast is, is the bring the freedom of the gospel for
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everyday, Christians, with everyday issues and our
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Authority, our source that we use to do.
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So, is our belief on the sufficiency of scripture and
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James and I are both In the biblical Counseling World.
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I'm in a CBC biblical counsellor, as long as a pastor,
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James is finishing up his certification with the Institute
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of biblical counseling and discipleship.
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And so we're going to be what our structure is going to be is
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we want to cover topics each month and so we're going to have
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a series of episodes on that topic where James and I will
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tackle the subject from and and talk a little bit about it and
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then we want to get some interviews.
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With some that have done some work in this topic, maybe
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produce materials, or that type of thing.
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And so, the topic for You want to list all eight topics that
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were gonna be doing well, I have to bring it up.
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You got me when I'm not ready. I've got a right here, I'll know
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some things, don't change. Yes.
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Yeah. All right.
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Go ahead James. Those Joe doakes February.
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We're looking at marriage and that's what we'll be taking the
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four weeks. Three to four weeks is what
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we're looking at. And the having some interviews
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talking through what marriage is today, we will specifically be
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talking to Ephesians me and John will then in March will be
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talking about Renting and an April anxiety.
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John, what about May June July? Well, I thought you had it.
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I didn't bring it all. Sorry.
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Okay, the meher? We got mental, disorders.
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I thought you brought it up and you were ready for me.
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Maybe we'll be doing mental disorders.
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June will be doing sexual sins. July will be taken off its our
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normal break in July is our busiest month.
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Being John's busiest month. August will be addictions.
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September will be depression and October is going to be abuse and
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then we'll take the holiday break of November and December
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off as well. So that's our year plan for I
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guess, John will this be considered season?
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Wreath, we did Seasons or so, if it's a way that I structured, it
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was like each time. We took a break.
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We started the new season. This would be like season six or
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something like that. Yes, been doing it for two
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years, a little over two years. Maybe no.
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We're start. We're just maybe starting to
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three running your Irene. Yes, dear three, maybe, I don't
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know, I don't know. I have to go back and look but
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June of twenty. Twenty was when we started and
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where in January of twenty twenty-three as recording this.
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But so, we're going to do marriage this month, and we're
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going to be talking about marriage.
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Ridge. And before we get started, let
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me say this that our approach to this subject today is with the
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attitude of looking at biblical help and biblical understanding
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of marriage. Without we're not going to
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approach it because there's so much Nuance.
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If you have abuse going on, we're going to do a month
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talking about abuse. And in that month, we're going
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to do an episode on domestic abuse.
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So understand that when we are saying, the things that we're
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saying we're saying in the context of a marriage situation,
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this not experiencing abuse. And we just want to couch that
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right now because I think that some people will do well
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objective. Well, what about this Joy?
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What about this situation? Well, we don't want to continue
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to stop and go and stop and go and having to Nuance all this
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stuff and do never, really get anything said if we're trying to
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cover it all. And so we're approaching this
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with the understanding that if this marriage situation.
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There's not abuse present. This is this is the God's
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message because Truth for that. And so we're going to but one of
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the things we want to cover in this episode, we're going to get
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into some interviews later, but we want to start with sort of
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basic Foundation of that. And so we want to sort of talk
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about, you know, the classic marriage.
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Passage. What's the classic marriage
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passage they Everybody goes to in scripture, if he's 15.
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A fission is five. Okay, so we're going to go
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there, so just go ahead and get ready.
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That's where we're going to be. You guessed it?
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We're going to cover fusions five.
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You've probably heard several messages from Ephesians 5.
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I've been I've preached through efficient, I'm finishing up the
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book of Ephesians right now at our church.
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So I've been in Ephesians 5 for a long time.
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And my study and it's so before we do that, though, we're going
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to, we're going to talk about the foundation.
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Marriage in the marriage roles but I want to cover three things
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that we need to understand that we're approaching this with the
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foundation of your marriage. You think about that you have to
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have the foundation to get right.
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You know there was a house that was built here, late a few years
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back and our County and the person built the house and then
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put the thing and put renters in it and then try to get by
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without getting an inspection. Well, somebody that worked for
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the county of by notice the house was there said, I don't
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think we've checked that so looked it up.
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Sure enough. They didn't check it.
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So they came out and checked it and they found that the guys
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Foundation was off. You know, what they made him do
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pair of the whole thing down, he had to move his renters out and
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he had to tear the whole thing down fix the foundation and
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start back and that is important my dad's a builder and he always
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stressed to me the importance of a foundation.
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And he showed me this one time with him, Building and he this
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building was there for about 20 years and he said you see this
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crack going up all the way through the corner of the
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building, reaching to the roof. And I said, yeah.
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And it was concrete and he said that crack is there because the
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foundation was off the foundation, when the foundation
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is off, when the foundation is wrong, it will cause all kinds
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of problems over time through there.
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We're talking about a three-fold foundation, Dave Harvey, and his
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book when Center say I do is talks about this, in his first
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chapter. And he says this.
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That first of all, we have a foundation of the Bible.
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And if you're new to our podcast, then you understand
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that we want to help you, understand, we believe in the
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inerrancy of scripture, the authority of scripture, the
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sufficiency of scripture, we believe, the Bible is God's word
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and handled accurately interpreted rightly.
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Lee and is authoritative for us today.
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If you're not new to our podcast, this is not something
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that we haven't said many times before.
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So, the Bible scripture is where we find that James who created
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marriage, well, the that was created by God, the very
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beginning, it's a not a man-made concept, it's not a government
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ordained concept is a concept that God created between a man
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and a woman. And that God was the it was the
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initiator of marriage. He created us for companionship
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God created it and he gave the instructions to it in his word
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so we go to his word to find out how marriage should look okay?
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So Foundation number one, is that Foundation, number two is
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the gospel, alright, the gospel, the the death burial
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Resurrection, the fact that Jesus Christ came died,
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according to the scriptures was buried and raised, according to
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the scriptures. The idea of the Gospel, the good
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news of Jesus, Christ's sacrifice on the cross, for
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Sinners, atoning for centers. Okay, is a foundation for that
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because when you get into a marriage, what do you have?
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You have two centers coming together and what is the, what
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is the solution for those two centers?
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When ever since starts getting in the way it is, the
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application of the Gospel. Meaning that what reconciles
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Sinners to God? It is God.
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God's grace, his mercy and Christ's sacrifice.
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What can reconcile two centers together within a home?
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It is applying that Grace to each other sacrificing for each
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other. Exhibiting humility, and mercy
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to each other. Okay.
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So Foundation number two, is the gospel and Foundation.
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Number three is the glory of God.
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And this is an issue that I think is very important because
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your marriage is not for your happiness.
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Marriage is not intended for your happiness.
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It's not intended for you to be happy.
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Happiness and joy can be a byproduct of your marriage.
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It's not the ultimate goal, the ultimate goal, not just in life,
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but also in the marriage is God's glory.
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And the Westminster Confession says that / Vestal to this, I
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love it. It's the chief end of man is to
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glorify God and enjoy him forever.
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And so the chief end of those things, those Pursuits that we
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put our life to is the glory of God.
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Whatever you do, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do
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all to the glory of God. Okay?
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And so that's our foundation. So with that Foundation, we take
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that Foundation about marriage and then we move to today, we
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just want to cover. We're going to talk about this
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text and Ephesians chapter 5 and what Paul gives instructions
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here about husbands and wives in the Of marriage.
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James, why don't you read the text for us?
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Okay, you'll read all 22:33. Yes, I've got it here.
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The new King James says, wives submit yourselves unto your own
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husband's as to the Lord, for the husband is the head of the
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wife. As also Christ is the head of
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the church and he is the savior of the body, therefore, just as
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the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own
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husband's in everything. Husbands love your wives.
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Just as Christ, also loved the church and gave himself for her
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Christ, gave himself for her so that he might sanctify and
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cleanse her. With the washing of the word
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that he might present her to himself as a glorious church not
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having spot or wrinkle or any such blemished that you should
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be holy and without blemish. So husband's ought to love their
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own wives as their own bodies. He loves his wife, loves
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himself, Elf for no one ever hated his own flesh, but
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nourishes, and cherishes it just as the Lord does the church.
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Verse 34, we are members of his body of his flesh and his bones.
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For this reason shall a man leave his father and mother be
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joined to his wife and the two shall become one flesh.
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This is a great mystery that I speak concerning Christ in the
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church. Nevertheless, Let each one of
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you in particular. So love his own wife, as himself
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and let the wife see that she respects her husband, Okay, so
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that's a hot fire passage in today's culture.
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That is a passage that does not fly and today's culture has some
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hard truths in it has some hard passages but one thing that we
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want to remember is that we cannot divorce this text from
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its context and I know some people out there screaming.
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Yeah you started 22. You should have started at verse
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21 and I'm going to say, you know what, we should have
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started at the beginning of chapter 4.
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Yeah. Well at the verse 1 of chapter,
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Chapter one, you know? But what you have to understand
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the entire context of the book Paul is writing to this people
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and let me go quick. I can be long-winded on this
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because I've been in this book for entire year, but Paul's
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talking to this sends a letter to this church.
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And he sets off, start starting with giving them Doctrine.
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Giving them theology. Chapters 1 through 3 is a
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chapter one, is a starting off introduction of, doxology, of
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praise to God and then he gives them the doctrine of the Gospel.
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Visions to you, Dead in sins. But God who is rich in Mercy by
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faith. You have spent by Grace, you
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have been saved through faith in Chapter 2 and then he begins to
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lay out how that should look in the context of the local church.
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The outworking of the Gospel he says because there's no longer
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Gentile and Jew your now together.
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And then he says, the in chapter 3 says, God gave spiritual gifts
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for the church for you to carry out and he's gifted the church.
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Now with all of that doctrine of the way.
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In chapter 3, he goes to chapter 4 and he says, now, here's how
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you should live. Because of this doctrine of the
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gospel, because the truth of Jesus Christ that's been applied
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to your life. This is how you live walk worthy
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in a matter of where with you've been called, all right?
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So walk worthy in this manner and he walks through chapter
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chapter 4 and he says, things like, put off the old man, put
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on the new man and be renewed in the spirit of your mind and he
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talks about, you know, don't steal anymore but give don't let
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the sun go down upon Your anger don't have any malice or
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bitterness or clamor among you but be kind one to another
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tender-hearted forgiving one another.
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He goes on the chapter 5 be imitators of God, Walk in love,
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these are all things that should be characteristic of Believers
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in the church and he goes through chapter 5 and he's
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working through this and he gets to this part where he says this
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in verse 18 don't get drunk with wine.
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There's your Off. What is the put on?
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Be filled with the spirit? Or we could say it this way,
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don't be controlled by any other man-made substance be controlled
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by God's holy spirit. Now, what does it look like to
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be controlled by the holy spirit of God?
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Well, he explains that the next three, versus three things.
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You sing. You have a spiritual song.
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You have a song of God in your heart, you have Thanksgiving as
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a heart attitude and you are submitting one to another.
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Other now, here's, here's the thing that people scream about
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who our submission is supposed to go both ways.
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I agree, submission goes both ways and I'm, we're going to
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explain how that works. But what you have to understand
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is just not in verse 21 is part of the context.
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You have to connect verse 21 to the context of everything he's
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talking about, the local church, and he's saying that in the
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local church, the attitude that you should have between
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Believers is a submission towards all of each other.
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Was this means that every woman submits to Man in the church.
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No. Does this mean every man's to
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missed? Everybody know, it's talking
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about a, a spiritual heart attitude of humility of love and
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serving one another. And then from verse 21, he says
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that submitting yourselves, that's plural.
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One to another. And then from verse 21 to 22, he
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says, I'm going to get specific in three different areas.
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Let me get super practical. He's already been practical.
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Now he says, let me get super practical and so he gives three
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Relationships and many scholars believe, because he gives these
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three specific relationships. These are the three
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relationships that the Ephesian church was struggling with the
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relationship between husband and wives, the relationship between
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parents and children and the relationship between slaves and
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Masters. Yeah.
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Okay. Now we're not going to get into
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the nitty-gritty, the the Steak Pit which is dealing with
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slavery and the Bible and that kind of thing.
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Okay. We're not getting to that but
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that is what he's saying here in that.
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So we're To cover where you get specific in husbands and wives.
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So there's our context and he comes to verse 22, and he says,
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now, specifically, wives submit to your own husband's as to the
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Lord. Now, even in that part right
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there, he says this is he saying submit to every man No, he's
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saying submit to your own husband's.
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The only man. She should be submitting to is
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her own husband, okay? But we have a Firebrand James we
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have a we have a just like right now we're making people mad.
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What is the word? What is the reason here?
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It's saying their submission. It exists.
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Yeah. Because of the Lord unto the
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Lord. Yeah yeah.
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Yeah they can you continue on. How are you sir?
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Supposed to submit as if this guy's a great husband.
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No, because we're not, we're not great husbands, we're all
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sinful. Yeah, exactly, that's what I
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said to beginning. You're bringing two centers
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together, that husband's a sinner, it's not the perfect
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guy. He's not going to treat you the
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right way all the time. Now again, we're not talking
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about abusive situations, that's another conversation for another
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day. We're talking about just
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everyday, just being a bonehead, all right.
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You submit, how? As to the Lord.
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Yeah, because your submission is really to, who is it to your
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husband? No, it's to God and, you know,
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as I was studying through this little bit John, I and you
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alluded to it a little bit but one commentator made this
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statement. He said wives have most most,
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he's given a general statement here, he said but a lot of times
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it's easy for a woman in the sense of the wife's here to be
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submissive to a Boss in a work setting that is a man but it is
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harder for a woman to in the situation here to give this
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submission to her own husband in her own home.
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And he says that the Lord considers it more important at
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the home than anywhere else. To give this submission to give
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this honor to the husband, as unto the Lord, and to make sure
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that we are given the submission to our husband's as unto the
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Lord, for the Holiness that we just spoke about.
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Out. Yeah, so you can't get away from
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the text, the text is clear. If you believe in scripture the
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scripture speaks and the scripture is God's word.
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This is so incredibly clear. Who's the subject who's that
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talking to is talking specifically to wives that
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labels? That what is the action that's
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been asked to do submission to who two husbands, but to your
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own husband, but how as to the Lord now Let's talk before we
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move on over to Nick, we're going to give the husband's a
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good run for their money too. Right.
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All right. But before we move onto their
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let's define submission. A lot of people like to well
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what do you mean by submit? What do you mean by submit?
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Well the words for some it is is HIPAA tasso or Hoopa tasso?
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It's a great term. Now the interesting thing about
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it in verse 22 is it does it is not actually there.
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In the Greek text, the word who protest of for submit is not
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actually there and everybody says wasted.
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Then why is it there? That's a mistranslation is It's
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not a mistranslation. We get the word from the
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previous verse, in verse 21 submitting to one another.
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That is the firm word, upit a so whenever you get to the Greek,
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the Greek construction is sort of saying this just like that
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wives do the same thing to your own husbands to avoid confusion
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the translators put in submit that is not a wrongdoing.
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That is not a mistranslation. That is completely getting ethic
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the The understanding of the text in that.
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So what does it mean? It means to subordinate to obey
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to arrange oneself under the term was used in the Greek, more
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in military settings, Signifying rank.
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All right. It does not mean I'm going to
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read this quote here by Mac Sanders.
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It does not mean inferiority in any way.
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It is not a matter of worth intelligence Talent or anything
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else. It is, simply a structure, God
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has established a structure in which he has also placed
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himself. Jesus is in submission to the
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father, of course. Responding, passage that talks
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about the same subject headship. Biblical headship is First
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Corinthians 11 and how does it rank that?
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It says that God is the head of Christ Christ, the head of man
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and man the head of the wife. Do you think that Jesus Is
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inferior. You think that Jesus is somehow
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treated as less than because he's in submission to the
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father? No.
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And so the Viewpoint from scripture that we see that
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submission is from the wives to the husband's is likened.
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In First Corinthians 11, as the submission of Christ is to the
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father. And what does God do?
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All through scripture? Now we're going at the husband's
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a little bit here. What does God do?
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All through scripture with Christ.
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He exalts Christ. Yeah.
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And and that kind of thing. So so this is is not that, that
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kind of thing. And also we see in Galatians
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that this is not of equal Worth or value because it says that
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there's no Jew nor Greek in Christ, there's no male nor
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female and that's not talking about that, but that's not
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talking about doing away with the structure.
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That's not a contradiction. It's saying that men are not are
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not above women. Women are not less than than
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men. But in this specific area, They
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are, they're equal in God's eyes.
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But in this specific area, there is a structure God has put in
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place. Yeah, well, and even if you look
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down, just two verses John and verse 24, it gives another clear
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illustration of this. And he says, as Christ is as the
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church is subject to Christ, as the church should be doing, what
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Christ wants it to do in the sense of ministering, the gospel
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to unbelievers and developing Disciples of Christ.
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In the same way the wives should be subject to their own husbands
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and everything. There's the church is subject to
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Christ wives would be subject to the church and it uses a
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different term there. You know, it doesn't use to me.
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That just uses the word subject, under in the ability of
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following after what the direction of the church should
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be the same direction of what that house should be as ran by
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the husband in that sense. It's not that relationship in
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that illustration, the Theology of Christ and the church, we're
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going to see how Christ treats the Ouch, when we get to talking
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about the husbands. So this is not something that is
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supposed to be a slave slavery, a ball and chain type of view
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towards marriage. And a lot of the problems we
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have with understanding biblical headship and biblical submission
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and quite honestly don't know. There's terms out there for it.
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Galit arianism complementarianism, there's hard
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complementarianism soft. I don't like any of those terms
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James. I don't like any of those terms
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because they are I end up over time getting so nuanced that you
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don't know what someone is saying.
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Whenever they say, this is where they're at.
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Yeah I just prefer the term biblical headship biblical
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submission but the reason why it's such a mess, a convoluted
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mess. Is we go back to Genesis.
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What happened in Genesis, you have the fall, you have the
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Disobedience of Adam and Eve. And then the curse is given.
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And if you go to that text, what is the curse given to the woman?
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At the curse given to the woman. As this, that her desire shall
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be for her husband and her husband will rule over her so
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much, misunderstanding has come from that text.
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And that is this one. Misunderstanding was, absolutely
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laughable. Is that a misunderstanding of
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that Texas that occurred in college Joan?
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Yeah, that the desire of the woman will be that the woman
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will part of her curse is that she's going to desire to have
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sex with her husband all the time. that's actually been
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perpetrated in and commentaries and stuff and theologians which
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is so insanely hilarious that that can't be the case because I
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mean quite honestly I just does a reality, Amen, brother.
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Sometimes it's some stages maybe, but that's and, is that a
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bad thing? No, no, okay.
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The curse is this on. The woman's part is that her
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desire shall be for husband. Now, here's another
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misunderstanding of how this text has been mishandled.
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It says that the, the woman's desire will be over her towards
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her husband. And the understanding is this,
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that her desire is going to be to rule over her husband.
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That is the proper understanding of the Hebrew, but another
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misunderstanding is cometh the next part of that, but the
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husband will rule over her and that is this That her curse is
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that she's going to want the control.
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She's going to want the authority, but the husband is
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going to rule over her and the whole Authority and that's part
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of her curse. That's not what it's saying is
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saying that part of the woman's curse is that she's going to
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have the desire to rule and have authority over her husband.
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And that part of that curse is that that husband is not going
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to be loving, and he's going to want to rule and control over
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her both aspects. Are aspects of the curse and the
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fall and neither are what God desires and a marriage.
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What God desires is respect and submission from the wife, love
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and care and protection from the husband, the husband doesn't
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rule over. And so a lot of places have
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misunderstood the roles of men and women in marriage by saying
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the woman's going to want to. But no, you need to rule over.
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Her her, that's part of the curse.
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You don't rule over her. You love her.
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How Christ loved the church? Now, again, it's hard for me to
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cover any of this without jumping over into the husband's
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issue all the time. But so we have those things from
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from the wives, and James mentioned, the relationship for
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the church and Christ. And so also wives should submit
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and everything. I think we need to deal with
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this before we leave the wives. So also, at the end of verse,
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T4. So also wives should submit in
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everything to their husband. There's another hard one.
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That's a hard one. Say, wait a second, is that
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saying that I'm supposed to submit and everything?
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All right, this is the idea that the text is conveying that in
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every area of Life. The husband is responsible for
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the leadership of the home. Now, he can delegate to that,
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but when the husband makes a decision, all right, that
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submission is supposed to be there, okay?
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So is there ever a time where the wife Does not submit and my
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answer to that is yes, yes. All right, if the husband is
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trying to get the wife to do something, that is unbiblical
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that is against God's order. What it, what is another area
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that we are, told that we're supposed to submit to government
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and you go to acts to the book of Acts and you have Peter John
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And they're telling them that they should be doing this and
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not sharing the gospel. And John says it is better for
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us to obey God rather than man. And so there we get a principle
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that we follow the structures in the authority structures that
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God has given us in our life except for whenever they come in
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contradiction to what God has already said or established
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husbands that try to get their wives to engage in extramarital
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sex or In pornography together, that is that's sinful and she
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should not follow him in that to cheat on taxes, to do these
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types of things husbands that that want to be abusive to their
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wives. They should not stand for that,
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okay? They should not go along with
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that that are not expected to submit into those types of
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situations because they are to follow God rather than okay.
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So, What? I thought it was interesting, as
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well, right before we move. Are we moving on to the
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husband's at this point? Yeah.
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Okay. What I thought was you know, a
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lot of people, you said it. It's a fire topic when we talk
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about the wise submitting, but in this very passage, there's
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only there's three verses specifically talking to the
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women but then we've got nine other verses that talk about the
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what the husbands and I think it shows the the importance there
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yet Paul is writing here to the wives.
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Yes, but he's given three times as much information to the
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husbands of how we should lead, and how we should submit even
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ourselves unto the Lord in that sense.
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And so, as I studied through that, and even thought about
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that this week last week, this week, it was really eye-opening
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to me, as a husband of this thought of how we do love our
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wives, of how our lives in return.
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Get to do that back to us. And so I thought it was very
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interesting. In through this, as we do, talk
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about that word. Everything is a discipline unto,
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the Lord unto the husband. In that sense.
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Let me say something as it concerns the wives role in
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submission to the husbands. So any men that are listening
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this nowhere in scripture, are you ever instructed to make your
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wife submit? Absolutely.
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No, you say, well, my wife's not submitting, she won't cement,
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she refuses to be okay. You do your thing.
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You pray for her. You be the husband.
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God wants you to be? Yeah.
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You don't ever know the words, you're my wife.
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You should submit probably shouldn't come out of your
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mouth. Yeah, if you have to tell your
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wife to submit, you're doing a terrible job as a husband.
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Yeah. Okay.
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Again back at verse 22 as unto the Lord, not unto James and
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John not unto the, it's unto the Lord.
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Is she submitting? Yep, another aspect of this too
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is. There's a different Nuance
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between the way that it's given to.
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So, following the context, we give we have the instructions to
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wives. And husbands, we have the
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instructions to children and parents and we have the
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instruction to slaves. And Masters children are said to
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obey their parents and slaves. And verse 5 through 9 are said
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to obey their masters. There is a different word used
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for children and mass and slaves, that it is for wives.
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You there's a similarity of the structure that you see in those
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those types of situations. But there's a different word
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used for wives than it is for it's the same word for children
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and and slaves obey. But it's not the same word for
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women for wives and that is because the submission is
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understood in the Greek term is a voluntary submission.
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It's about you willingly do this.
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Yeah, because as James has said over and over, it's as to the
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Lord, your responsibility is to God.
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Okay. The last thing it says two wives
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is at the end of verse 33. It says Let each one of you love
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him. What was wife as himself, see
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that the wife that she respects her husband?
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And this is the other aspect so submission and then respect, T'.
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And so God in scripture is asking, you is commanding you to
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respect your husband, okay? So that is the wives, and we're
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going to head to the husbands found that good grace, found
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that healing and the tears fall down my face.
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