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Season 2 - Episode 87 - Are you contributing to the things you don’t like in your life? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  Do you think that you contribute to the things that you don't
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  like in your life? It's hard question to ask
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  yourself, but do you think you contribute to it?
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  I can stand here resounding and tell you that.
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  I know when I argue with my husband because we all do I
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  don't care how good you are at what you do.
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  My husband and I have just as many challenges as anybody else
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  because we are two very stubborn people and we have just as many
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  challenges but I know I can stand here and I can tell you
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  because I'm not in an emotional state, because we've talked
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  before about when emotions go up, intelligence goes down now.
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  And my emotions are high. I think everything is his fault
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  and that is just the truth. I will sit here and tell you
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  everything is his fault when I'm more reasonable.
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  When I'm level-headed when I have pulled, my bus drivers back
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  in I can say yeah I do contribute to the things that I
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  don't like in that and often we do that, not just in our
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  relationship, but across the board, we contribute to the
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  things that we don't like because we get emotional, we Get
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  into a heightened State, we slip into the patterns.
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  We don't want to make it about what we have to change.
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  We want to make it about what others have to change and then
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  we struggle because we're unhappy.
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  But the truth is, we all contribute to the things we
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  don't like because we put focus on them, we keep putting focus
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  on them, we keep calling attention to it.
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  We keep pointing things out that are not what we ultimately want
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  to have and really desire to have.
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  But we Kiss on it way more than we should.
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  Once we get the information. Now you've heard, if you're a
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  regular listener, you've heard me say before when things show
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  up that aren't great, they're there to give you information
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  and then you make decisions about what to do next at some
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  point in time. It may turn out that, you know,
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  your urine have a situation, whether it's relationship or
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  work or whatever that you just say, you know what, this is just
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  not for me anymore and you walk away, but you do it from a place
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  of Peace, not of angry, you do it in a place of acknowledgement
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  that you have reached the end of your Your rope but not in Anger,
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  just in like resolved, that this isn't going to change the people
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  who are in charge, are not going to change the other person
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  that's in. Your relationship is not working
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  on it as well, and then you make a decision but not from anger
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  and that's the trick to all of this.
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  It's that if you're contributing to something that you don't like
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  by being angry along with it, instead of just looking at it
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  from a neutral, emotional standpoint, you can't resolve
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  it. Can't get clarity and you will
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  drive yourself insane trying to fix something that is
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  essentially you're blinded by it because you're so emotionally
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  tied to it and that emotion while it's such a great
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  delineator in helping us know what we have to focus on.
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  Is not good for helping us figure out the solutions because
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  our emotions will be too high and we will be ask you.
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  We will not be able to see clearly.
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  That's why we have to clear our heads.
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  That's why you have to Step away from it.
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  That's why you need to go for a walk.
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  You need to take a break, you know, think it cool off and then
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  come back to it. So I'm going to challenge you
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  guys to actually ask yourself, you know, what am I contributing
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  to in my life, that I don't like, why?
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  Why, why do you continuously allow yourself to go to that
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  place and pull yourself into it? If you know you don't like it?
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  Well obviously, you're getting something from it, even if it's
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  just The association of the emotion of being irritated,
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  sometimes, we get addicted to being irritated.
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  Sometimes we get addicted to being dysfunctional and it's
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  just the only thing. We remember because of recency
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  bias, but it's not who you really are, and you can pull
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  yourself out of it, but you have to get to that frame of what do
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  I Do myself that contributes to this because if you can answer
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  questions, honestly, about yourself, you have a better
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  chance of Shifting your life. If you cut back and you don't
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  answer questions, you're just going to keep doing the same
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  Loop and you're going to be in the same place and one day turns
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  into two turns into 10, turns into 365, and before, you know,
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  it a whole year has gone by and you're no happier than you were
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  before. So, this radical state of
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  acceptance of yourself and figuring out where you are, Our
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  has to be looked at so you can say, I can shift this.
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  All right, my friends. I hope you have a blessed day.
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  I hope you look at yourself and I hope you see the things that
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  you want to change. Because that's the first step.
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  I hope you have a really, really blessed day and I will see you
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  tomorrow. Bye.