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T1.E198| Mc 6, 30-34: Los 3 tipos de soledad y los tres niveles de empatía · Vitamina O: Evangelio dominical comentado

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  Frozen foods to isband the best selection of pre- cooked and ultra- frozen
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  foods, smuris vegetable potatoes and much more supernatural, nutritious and easy to prepare,
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  find them in all supermarkets in the frozen section. Welcome to this space
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  of vitamin or prayer, together with Francisco Ermengold, a brief spiritual Bible reflection
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  capsules that entertain, teach and lift the soul. Good morning. We say
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  the sixth Sunday of Ordinary Time and read the Gospel of Mark. At that
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  time, the apostles reunited with Jesus and told him everything they had done and
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  taught, and he told them to come to a desert place alone to rest
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  a little because there were so many who came and went that they could not
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  find any time to eat. They went by boat alone, to a deserted
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  place. Many saw them leave, and they recognized them from all the villages,
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  and they ran over the land, and came before them when they landed.
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  Jesus saw a crowd and took pity on it because they walked like sheep
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  without a shepherd and began to teach them many things. Jesus Christ invites his
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  apostles to go to a lonely place to rest, and then he has compassion
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  on people because he sees that they are like a flock without a shepherd.
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  Loneliness and empathy. Let' s reflect on this vitamin about the three types
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  of loneliness and the three levels of empathy. There are three types of loneliness
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  in the first place is involuntary physical loneliness. It is the one that we
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  do not seek and do not want, but that suddenly we find ourselves immense.
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  In it it does not suppose a choice of the individual, but obeys
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  undesired impositions or circumstances. We fall into it without wishing, without asking.
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  It comes suddenly from an event that judged as a abandonment, loss, or
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  failure. And usually this loneliness generates fear. This loneliness is given, for
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  example, by a new situation in life. We moved to a new city
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  where we don' t know anyone. We started a new job, entered
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  a new school full of unknown faces, lost a loved one who had accompanied
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  us for a long time. We feel lonely and as abandoned can also be
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  given by the fact that we are different. Maybe we' re in a
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  place that looks familiar to us, but we feel different from the other people
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  who are there. So different by ways of being, of thinking of personality
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  or whatever, that we feel socially isolated from them. Secondly, there is
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  involuntary loneliness, of a more psychological nature and it is what we feel,
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  despite being surrounded by others. There is an emotional disconnect with others. Nor
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  does it imply an individual choice, but it is not only physically like the
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  former solitude, but surrounded by people. We find here the loneliness that appears
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  for lack of love. Even if we have many friends and family, we
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  feel lonely because we don' t have an intimate bond, or maybe we
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  have a partner, but we don' t feel a deep connection with that
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  person. Loneliness for lack of friendship also appears. Today we have many contacts
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  on our social networks and abundant co- workers or colleagues, but we may
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  not find friends with whom to share our life. You can also feel lonely
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  because no one gives me time. Everyone is, as they say colloquially,
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  in their roll or in their ball and, therefore, no one dedicates me
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  in time, and that gives me a psychological sense of loneliness. Scientific studies
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  show that we are all stronger when we feel loved, feel accompanied and accepted.
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  It improves self- esteem, self- confidence and the ability to make
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  decisions properly. On the contrary, the loneliness of the feeling of loneliness deteriorates
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  physically, emotionally and cognitively. Feeling rejected or excluded actually causes physical pain.
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  Loneliness does not make healthy relationships sick. On the contrary, they protect us
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  from being rejected from being humiliated, from being over- demanded by parents or
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  caregivers themselves, from being unable to live up to the expectations of others that
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  people I trust disappoint me from feeling understood, from not feeling listened to.
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  All this in the long run has an impact on our health. The human
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  being is a substantial union of soul and body. Therefore the pains of the
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  soul then appear also in the body. A very interesting fact, according to
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  a study of the eleven one in four young people in Spain between sixteen and
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  twenty- nine years old, feels unwanted loneliness. But there is a different
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  loneliness, and it is the third kind of loneliness, which is voluntary loneliness,
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  that which we seek and desire with a purpose. It is what Jesus,
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  in fact, generates in this gospel for the apostles. It works to
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  reflect, to write, to deepen, to inspire, to acquire more class
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  evidence on a subject I confine myself to my world to hear better a voluntary
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  self exile. Well- chosen loneliness can be the starting point for self-
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  knowledge. Cutting with the accumulation of external stimuli helps to stop the cortisol poisoning
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  that we may be suffering from is learning to enjoy the inner world itself without
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  the need for the presence of others. This kind of loneliness does not involve
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  feeling alone, because in fact, we have this social network to be able
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  to go to for activities, share illusions or feel accompanied, but temporarily we
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  move away from them to come into contact with our inner world. And so
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  a person can seek solitude for artistic, creative, intellectual, spiritual reasons or
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  simply to be with himself, to get to know himself more thoroughly or to
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  replenish his strength. Loneliness, when voluntary, is considered health benefit, as
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  people take advantage of it for the cultivation of their personal searches and it is
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  a rewarding and enriching experience in a world full of noise. Loneliness is the
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  most beautiful song, Oscar Wilde said. Loneliness is the empire of conscience,
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  said the poet Gustavo Adolfo Becker. Where there is loneliness, there is also
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  resilience, said the painter Pablo Picasso. Well, we just saw the three
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  types of loneliness. Now let' s see all three types of empathy.
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  We see that Jesus feels empathy for people because they walked like sheep who had
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  no shepherd and began to teach them many things. There are three levels of
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  empathy, from the lowest level to the highest level. We begin with cognitive
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  empathy, which is, so to speak, the minimum level. It means
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  to understand intellectually the emotion of the other person. For example, if I
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  work at an airline, at an airport, being in charge of boarding a
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  flight and I see a passenger arriving late for boarding and losing the flight.
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  I can understand intellectually your anger, your sadness, your frustration, but I
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  care very little about your situation and within me I feel no sadness at all.
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  As I look at the scene, I am a mere spectator at most,
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  I will take a role with the choices that the airline puts at your
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  disposal and nothing more than looking for life. With this level of empathy,
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  which is minimal, my treatment of that person will surely be cold, disconnected
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  and indifferent. But at least there is already some empathy, because I understand
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  the situation intellectually. Worse it wouldn' t even go through my head if
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  that passenger had reason to be angry or frustrated. Then there is a higher
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  level of empathy, which is emotional empathy. Not only do I understand the
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  situation intellectually, but I am also internally affected by my own emotions. I
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  feel the sadness of that passenger, too. Surely my way of welcoming him
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  here will be different. My deal will not be cold and distant, but
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  close and warm, with a lot of education and out of my sadness,
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  I will tell you that the airline can do nothing to help you and I
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  will refer you to an Internet page where you will find the options that you
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  have at your disposal. And finally, we have the third level, compassionate
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  empathy, which is what we see that Jesus practices in this gospel, on
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  this level we intellectually understand the situation of the other person. Level one feels
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  within itself, what the other person may be experiencing neither of the two and
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  besides, you do something effective to improve and solve the situation of the other
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  person, which is level three at the level of compassion. Jesus sees the
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  crowd feel their loneliness as veneers without a shepherd and begins to preach to them
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  in order to solve the situation. Returning to the case of the airport and
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  the passenger who has missed his flight, compassionate empathy would lead me to help
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  him in some way beyond what the company' s policies dictate. We'
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  ve all seen that when people are willing to help you in these situations,
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  they do, they skip airline policy a little bit because they want to help
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  you when this happens. You feel grateful, you feel that the other person
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  cares about you and you do not feel alone that this Gospel leads us to
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  seek the voluntary solitude that benefits us. And perhaps these weeks of vacation are
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  more propitious for that, and that this Gospel also leads us to practice the
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