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Autism And Sexuality.. Let’s Talk · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  OK, guys, so why is autism and sex a taboo thing to think
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  about, right? And a couple of months ago,
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  actually about a year or so ago, I did a conference.
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  It was autism or neurodiversity and relationships and sex.
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  It was really interesting, but I wanted to talk about it here
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  right now because we're seeing a lot of influx in this type of
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  area to question these types of taboos with shows like Love on
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  the Spectrum and you know, down for love and other types of
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  things. So let's get into it right now.
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  What's going on guys? My name is Dan.
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  I have autism and ADHD and I make weekly videos like this.
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  So if you're new around here and you want to learn more, I'm
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  about to hit the subscribe button by clicking the
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  notification bell down below. OK, so I know that most of you
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  guys watching out there are women, right?
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  And so I just wanted to let you in on something awesome.
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  There's a giveaway that a blesser and I are doing and
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  literally everybody who signs up to my giveaway with Blesser will
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  get a free vibrator. Now the taboo parts are out of
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  the way. Basically, you're not blessed,
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  right? They're the number one sexual
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  toys and all kinds of stuff. Now I'm going to show you why I
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  think this is important for artistic individuals who are
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  wanting to buy some toys, right? OK, so here are the three first
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  products that I'm going to show you guys.
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  There's also something kind of cool over here.
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  I'm going to show you guys, but obviously I don't use these.
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  But now this is the whisper bullet.
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  This one is the whisper rabbit, and this is a whisper vibe.
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  Now why do why is this important?
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  Why is this important for autism?
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  Well, look, we all have needs, wants and desires, and we all
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  also need to keep our sexual health.
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  Well, now this is the world's first silent vibrate alignment.
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  This is why they're called the whisper vibe.
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  This is amazing. OK, so I'm going to get them out
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  of the packet and show you guys and you literally can't hear
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  anything right? So this is the rabbit one,
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  right? So we'll just take this out so
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  you can have a listen. Listen to this.
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  OK, I'll put it next to the microphone so I'll turn it on.
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  And you can barely do that. I don't.
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  You can barely hear that. The thing is on.
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  You can barely hear it. Why is this important for
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  autistic people? Autistic women may actually have
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  sensory aversions, are not able to use toys because the toys
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  make so much noise, which is so interesting.
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  These pack a serious punch by all accounts from people who
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  have tried these out. And they sent me this to give
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  them a giveaway because I know most of my audience are women.
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  So I thought, hey, why don't we give back to the community in a
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  way which is going to be fun and sensory pleasing for you guys
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  now, OK, the toys are luxurious. You know, at the end of the day
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  they've made a really good line of well packaged stimulation
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  toys here. They're waterproof, you know the
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  vibrating waterproof rechargeable with USB which is
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  pretty amazing. They come in the pack with Usbs
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  and also there are like 5 speeds with ones like the bullet 1 is
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  different, like pressure bits to put in.
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  So you can like, you know, change the speed or change what
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  it does a little bit, but no one can hear it.
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  And it's kind of cool because you're going to love it.
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  You can do whatever you want to do in your own time.
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  But what's cool about that is why I'm hooking up.
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  So everyone who signs up wins a free vibe or a free rose suction
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  cup. Now this is the Rose suction.
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  This is really interesting. Now the Rose suction toy is the
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  number one viral TikTok guitar that's taken the world by storm
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  actually. And there's a yeah, there's
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  there's so many videos on it, right?
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  So it's iconic sexual stimulation toy.
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  But you can charge it up on this cute little USB charger port
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  here Now all you need to do is go down to the link in my
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  description and look for the link and then sign up grab your
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  free vibe in the link down below right now your whisper toy will
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  stay silent, but the question is can you?
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  I love this idea. I love promoting sexual health
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  and women deserve to have some fun.
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  So if you're interested, go to the link in my rail right now
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  down below and get your hands on these products.
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  All you need to do is fill a form enter the giveaway and
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  you'll get one of these awesome gadgets.
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  OK guys, let's go on with the video OK guys autism and sex.
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  Why is it such a taboo? Why do people not want to talk
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  about it? I think it comes from the fact
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  that autism is a spectrum, right?
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  So it has levels, you know, you've got like somebody who can
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  maybe, you know, can't go to the bathroom on their own, see
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  somebody who can go out, get a job and do grocery shopping on
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  their own. And there's people everywhere in
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  between. Now, why is it that sex is
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  taboo? Well, the first thing is sex is
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  always taboo. And the word taboo guys means
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  something that is typically not spoken about because of a maybe
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  a conservative idea, a conservative being like a, oh,
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  we don't talk about that. It's a bit rude or crude, right?
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  So taboo means that. And sometimes we talk about
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  things being taboo when actually, in fact, they're not
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  taboo. But when we think about autism
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  and sex, we instantly think disability and sex or disabled
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  people and sex. And we don't want to always
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  think about that. Why?
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  I think for a few reasons. One, it makes people really
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  awkward to think about disabled people actually having, you
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  know, loving relationships and making love when we're all
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  human, a binary process. The reason we're here is to
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  procreate, to carry on the lineage of our DNA and our
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  survival of the group, right. So we all have to have sex to
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  create offspring and the offspring we all came from
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  product of sex. And I feel like a lot of people
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  don't want to talk about it because they feel like it's
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  crass or it's crude or it's like, you know, oh, it's it's a
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  bit weird because sex is normalized in every other
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  culture. I mean, we see it on TV, we see
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  it, we hear on the radio, we read it in magazines, you know,
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  the whole industry about this. And that's fine.
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  But when you, you know, encroach on the idea of autistic
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  individuals having sex or wanting to have sex, it becomes
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  an ethical kind of moral, you know, ignorance.
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  And so when we look at shows like Love on the Spectrum, and
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  lots of my friends are on the show, by the way, so big shout
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  out to all my friends on Love on the Spectrum, Australia and USA.
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  What we find is that it's all fun and games.
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  You know, they're dating and I was going to laugh.
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  And then when does it gets more serious?
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  Like these people may want to date longer or they're talking
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  about having children or if they're talking about making
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  love or if they're even just making out.
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  It becomes a thing people will kind of get.
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  You know, the viewership drops and the talk of it is all about
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  that. It's about how that person
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  interacted with the idea of sex or sexual health or sexual
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  relationships. And what's weird about it to me
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  is like, why is that any different?
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  I don't see anybody else talking about, you know, oh, how weird
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  is it? They're talking about sex on any
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  of the show. If you watch any of the reality
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  show, I mean, heck, guys, there's reality shows Make Love
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  Island too hot to handle. You know, these Netflix shows
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  are designed are built specifically to encourage people
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  to get into it and potentially have sex.
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  But when it becomes a reality show that involves people on the
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  autism spectrum, it becomes a bit weird, right?
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  But why is that? And I think a lot of it comes
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  from the fact that we don't talk about it enough.
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  We don't we we're not there yet as a society, as a whole, as a
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  group, We don't talk about it. But why?
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  I don't know. And I think that we should we
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  should encourage the conversation.
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  I think talking about sex is a healthy adult thing to do,
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  obviously. I mean, you know, if you're
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  younger than the legal age of intercourse, then obviously
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  those conversations need to happen, you know, with
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  professionals to understand what would, you know, what is your
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  future like for that type of stuff, You know, like your
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  guidance counsellors or teachers or sexual education classes.
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  But then once you're an adult of legal aid, then it's those
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  explorative times and you'll understand those things.
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  And there's nothing wrong with that, right?
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  As long as it's all legal and everyone's, you know, happy and
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  consensual, it's OK. Now, when we think about it as
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  well, we also think that sometimes people may take
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  advantage of disabled people in terms of sex.
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  And although this can happen and people are disgusting and those
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  things can happen and people can be victims of those things,
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  they're not the most of the idea of sex and autism or idea of sex
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  and disabilities. That's not what happens to
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  those. What happens the most is you
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  have disabled people marrying other people getting together
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  and having a good time. Now I want to know what your
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  thoughts are on it. Do you believe that there's too
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  much taboo around it or do you think that it's OK?
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  Do you think that people understand about autism and sex
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  and think that it's OK? I'd like to not drop in a
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  comment down below. Let's open the discussion and
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  give it to your thumbs up if you'd like to see more videos
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  like this one.