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3 Autistic Kids 2 Autistic Adults ONE EPIC FAMILY How We Do it · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  Flies upstairs with one of them. Having a meltdown right now
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  she's in the room and she's safe all because we asked if they
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  could wash their hands before eating strawberries.
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  So yeah, so we've been watching a little bit of YouTube, but one
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  of the things is like starting a monitoring team if you've got.
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  So today I have the two other kids.
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  So I have two kids from my, you know, previous relationship.
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  And then Olivia has her three. So we have 5 between us.
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  We don't have all 5 all the time, but today we have all 5
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  today. So it's a bit crazy.
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  It's a bit off the wall sometimes because like, as you
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  can tell, look, this is typical stuff was a dog's squishy toy
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  and then somebody's breakfast on the couch.
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  Of course, of course, here's why wouldn't it be?
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  So we have to get things in line.
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  And one of the things, especially for daily life, like
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  if you're dealing with like one of the main things is that you
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  have to have your medication done.
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  So we, we are both on two types of medication, ones S our minds
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  and SMRI and probably you're taking an SSRI and then we're
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  both on Vivint. So if you know what Vivint is,
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  it's a stimulant for ADHD and it's some breakfast here.
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  It's just kind of like a really, it's like a necessary life tool.
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  I think it's probably one of the the most needed meds.
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  However, I need to get flurries Med ready.
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  So we get a Med ready. I charge the flurries
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  headphones, charge my headphones.
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  Wait oh, here's here, let's check dog.
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  The dog keeps peeing there so OK check And I've also got a
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  cheeky. I don't always do this, but
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  like, recently I've been using Monster Energy drink just
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  because, like, it's an extra bit of caffeine, which helps kind of
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  like, keep me calm. But the boys are playing
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  outside. The dog's crazy.
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  So I'm going to get right then. Mala.
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  Yeah, you go down, you go, baby. OK, So if I'm going to get
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  flower migs ready so that she's got her Migs when she comes
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  down, and then what we're going to do is stay Simon.
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  We're going to hang out, play with everyone.
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  Yeah, the donkey is so cute and we thought the dog the same
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  donkey, but he's fully room. What is?
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  That the dish massive donkey. Yeah, Oh yeah.
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  So Sammy has autism level 1. Lucas has also a love one.
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  I have box of love 1. Flammy has autism level 1 and
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  me, Lucas and flower medicated. But Sammy isn't.
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  So this is breakfast. This is awesome.
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  This is like egg cheese toasty. So yeah, it's really
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  interesting, you know, 5 kids, two parents, two of the kids
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  autistic, 2 parents autistic. Like how do we deal with it?
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  I'm actually writing a book right now on this exact thing,
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  you know, like parenting whilst being an autistic parent, you
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  know, how do you deal with those things?
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  And we deal with it in many ways.
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  We've got a lot of different things that we do.
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  We use headphones is kind of like main one or so you're
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  making sure we're medicated. Like that's like #1 so once, if
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  we're not medicated, if we're not medicated, the struggle is
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  harder, right? Oh, guys, salt and pepper is the
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  queen and Corgi is not British. But yeah, if you're unmedicated,
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  it's actually a lot. It's a lot more difficult
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  because, you know, you've got to think about how do you, how do
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  you function on a normal level, but how do you function when you
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  need to function on a higher level?
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  When you need to function when you've got like 5 kids, you need
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  to function higher. So it's kind of like every other
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  day we have 5 kids, but it still doesn't stop it.
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  It doesn't make it any easier. So what we do is make sure we
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  get medicated. That's not some no ones.
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  I make sure you get medicated. Second one is headphones.
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  These guys are amazing. I've had all different types of
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  headphones. I used to swear by the Bose
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  noise constant headphones. But since they they started kind
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  of deteriorating like the sponge on the side of deteriorating.
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  So I have to get a different 1. So I decided that I'd get these
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  Apple ones and they're amazing and a Flavio track and she was
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  like, whoa. So she got a pair.
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  So like we are like Apple headphones.
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  These are the Airpod Max, I think, or iPod pros.
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  No, no iPod Max. That's what I thought.
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  But it's my son's birthday tomorrow and we're doing a
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  surprise birthday party for him to on Wednesday.
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  So today and Monday we've got he's here today with my, my 2
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  youngest. They won't be in the vlog
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  though, because like, you know, his mother and, and my mother,
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  his mother and myself don't want them in the in the vlog because
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  it's just preference, I guess. And of course they don't want to
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  be in the videos anyway. So.
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  But that being said, I'm going to get on and do the dishes
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  because we have dishes to do, dishes to put away, dishes to
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  do. And this house has no
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  dishwasher, which makes things a lot more difficult for executive
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  dysfunction. But one thing that's really
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  interesting is so Flavia is not always here all the time.
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  So sometimes it's just me and my two boys.
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  So I've actually asked the government for help and
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  assistance when the boys are here to help me with executive
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  function, like, you know, just doing things with the kids to
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  make sure I can actually get around.
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  So that's really interesting. It's going to be interesting to
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  see how that gets mapped out. OK, on the other day and I'll
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  let you know how we do different things.
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  Look, my headphones flash headphones and the youngest, OK?
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  So. Flies upstairs with one of them.
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  Having a meltdown right now. She's in the room if she's safe.
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  All because we asked if they could wash their hands before
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  eating strawberries. It's like hard work, right?
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  So we're just lucky that the other four are chilling.
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  Currently watching a bit of the tube.
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  I suppose this is something else nobody thinks about.
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  It's a nice day and I can't decide because the garden's
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  going to be the quietest place to sit because meltdown
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  upstairs. So I have the dog inside with
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  the kids. It's a bit kind of boisterous
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  and kids watching TV. But now there's there's a yeah,
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  honey, come here, babe. There's a lawn mower.
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  Somebody's mowing that lawn outside.
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  You just can't win. Somebody got which is like the
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  most annoying noise. Hey, Sausage.
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  Also we have like 3-3 kids who will have that type of meltdown
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  at least maybe one every two days.
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  So and, and it's hard because like, what do you do when you're
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  the, when you're an autistic as well, But also you're the adult
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  who has to deal with this because then sensory overload
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  for you, right? And this is probably one of the
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  the hardest things to do with headphones.
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  Definitely work. Medication is amazing.
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  And the other one is that you have to practice perseverance.
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  Where is it, sausage little baby?
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  You have to practice perseverance.
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  You have to practice. It's like being calm in chaos,
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  which is difficult because like, who can be calm in chaos, right?
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  Because it's it's the opposite. Mama, Mama, Mama.
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  What can we say about our family?
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  What would you call our family? No, not destructive.
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  What would you say we are? Superpower.
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  Superpower. Unconventional.
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  Super powered. Oh man, yeah, autistic, super
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  happy family. Yeah, we are happy, but we're
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  just. Lucas has a YouTube channel.
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  Lucas, what's it called? Sigma experience.
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  I'm going to link it in the in the description down below and
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  you can check out his What are they just shorts right Just
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  shorts Sammy All good. Okay, so now everyone's calmed
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  down we're actually going to go to my parents house.
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  My parents live just literally around the corner.
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  But what they do have is everything finally got
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  trampolines. They got like swings, they got
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  right on cars, they got a bouncy castle, go swimming pool and all
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  kind of stuff. So we're going to go there, play
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  about with all five kids and my parents got like ice lollies and
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  ice creams and stuff for the kids.
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  So it just helps kind of one of the things that we've learned is
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  that if we can take the kids to get distracted, but in groups
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  like so we take the little ones to do something and then the
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  other big ones to do something, it helps a lot calming them
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  down. But if we can't do it, say it's
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  raining, all my parents can't facilitate US1 of the things we
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  do, is that like Fabio will take like her kids and do something
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  or I'll take my boys and I'll do something just to split them up,
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  you know, to kind of like have some respite.
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  Because I feel like sometimes it's kind of like cabin fever
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  when there's too much fits together.
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  You know, it might have been locked in a room with like 7
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  people, you'd go crazy and you. So I don't blame the kids
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  really. But you know, we can all drive
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  each other a bit mad. So yeah, that's right, isn't it?
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  Let's go then Putz. So I'm wearing these red scented
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  glasses because they give you kind of like a different lens of
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  the world that not too far ahead boys that allow you to kind of
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  like relax. Well, I feel like it helps me
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  anyway. It doesn't, It's not flat
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  doesn't like it, but I do it helps me like feel a bit more
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  kind of like outside of my thoughts, I guess.
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  So it helps me kind of like rationalize and reason things.
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  So I'm trying them anyway whilst dealing with all this nonsense
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  because five kids, wow. But I only got 4 of them because
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  one of them's pending meltdown. So flat stayed home for a little
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  bit to see if you can navigate the meltdown never ending, never
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  ending, but kids issues, you know, like what are you supposed
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  to do? We have to be able to deal with
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  it and like I said, you build resilience to ride along.
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  So anyway, right play time I have to you in a bit do.
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  You know where he throws stuff out the window and the ends up?
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  Here, I need my headphones. OK, guys, so it's the end of the
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  night and I thought if you could see this, but fast sleeping
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  obviously, and I'm I'm going to do some research.
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  This is a great book by Peng Jung about content creation.
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  If you're interested in content creation, this book is the boy
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  and yeah, I want to go through it because I've done a lot on
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  this. We can't see it, but we'll see
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  if we can see it's not there you go.
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  It's weird, you know, all saying anything.
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  But anyway, it's it's a fantastic book and it's one of
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  my content creation Bibles, so definitely check it out.
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  Anyway, there's no rest for the wicked.
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  See you guys tomorrow.