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3 Things You Have to Know if You are Looking for Love! · Secrets They'll Only Tell a Matchmaker with Gina Hendrix

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  I'm going to tell you 3 super important things that you guys
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  don't even think about when it comes to looking for love.
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  So hang on, let's get real, shall we?
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  OK, so #1. If you don't know it yet, once
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  you get past your 20s and you're into your 30s, dating is harder
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  than ever. And it only gets harder.
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  I hate to bring it to you. It only gets harder the older
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  you get. If you're looking for love, it
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  requires effort. Effort, especially the older you
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  get, it requires even more effort in every single way.
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  So don't be naive about that fact.
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  So let's we got that out of the way.
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  Now let's talk about the other two.
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  Hang on #2 you have to be the person that you are looking for.
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  You have to. OK.
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  Which means if you want somebody super fit, you got to be super
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  fit. If you want somebody that looks
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  ridiculously young for their age, or they're successful, or
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  they're smarter, they're interesting, you have to match
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  them. But when it comes to success,
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  you don't have to necessarily be as successful, OK.
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  But if you want somebody who's, let's say, successful at a level
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  10, then what you have to be if you're not, don't have the money
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  and you're not as successful, what you do have to bring to the
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  table at a level 10, Is this a passion that you're pursuing at
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  a level 10? OK, so you do have to match
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  their level 10 success, but in your interests and your
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  passions. So you have to be off the charts
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  interesting. And if you don't know how to be
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  interesting and if you don't have a passion you're pursuing,
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  you better figure it out quick. That is, if you want a partner
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  who is phenomenal or. And the last one I'm going to
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  give you, nobody ever thinks about.
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  So hang on, if you aren't deeply curious about the person you
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  matched with, then why are you even talking to them?
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  People come to me all the time and they're constantly saying,
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  Gina, you know what? What should I say on this first
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  date? What should I say to this
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  person? Men or women both say this to
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  me. OK, But the truth of the matter
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  is, yes, I could rattle off a whole thing of things that you
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  should say. I could do that like this.
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  But the best thing for you is to get genuinely curious about this
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  person. Otherwise, why are you matching
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  with them if you're not honest to goodness curious about them?
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  And the questions aren't just popping into your mind about
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  them ways that you want to know, like their hobbies, their
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  habits, their goals. If you can't genuinely come up
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  with things, then you shouldn't either be dating or you
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  definitely shouldn't be trying to date them.
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  OK, so you have to get curious about people, and if you are
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  interested in someone and you can't come up with things that
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  you could honestly ask them, then ask yourself this question.
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  What's the point of even going down this road if I can't come
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  up with my own ideas and if I'm not like on fire, interested in
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  things about them and trying to uncover things about them?
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  So if you become a person who is genuinely curious about other
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  people, then you're never going to have boring conversations and
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  you're never going to not know what to say.
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  But you have to also be interesting.
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  So if you're interested, if you want somebody interesting, you
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  better be interesting, OK? And you got to match them and
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  you got to be curious and you got to ramp up the effort in
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  every way. All right, I hope it helps.