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Are "The 48 Laws of Power" a book written for Narcissists? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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What is going on? Beautiful people.
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Today we're talking about the 48 laws of power and how
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narcissistic people is it? The playbook for narcissists
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Talk to people. What is it?
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If you're new here, my name is Lee Hammock.
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I'm a clinically diagnosed narcissist.
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And welcome to another episode of the Narcissist Code.
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So welcome back, welcome back, welcome back, folks.
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Folks, Yes, yes, yes, the 48 laws of power.
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So I've personally, personally read the 48 laws of power like 3
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* 3 times. And is that a red flag?
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I'll let you be. I'll let you determine that
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right there. Some people would view that as a
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red flag. Some people would view that as
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super red flag Y, for lack of a better word, lack of a better
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description and whatnot. Some people would absolutely
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viewed it as a red flag. But The 48 Laws of Power is a
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book that a lot of people give out in business in business
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meetings and suggest you read in business meetings to become a
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Better Business person and things like that.
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I received my first copy when I first started doing network
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marketing back in but twenty? What about working at
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Blockbuster 2005 Back in blockbuster days I've heard
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about the the I got in the network market and the 48 Laws
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of Power was didn't come to too much longer after that.
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Right there. Yeah.
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So the 48 Laws of Power, my first started reading it and
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listening to it and stuff like that.
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It gave me because you know, business people just like, oh,
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it's motivational. You can take over the business
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world like this. And I thought listen to it.
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I'm like, woo, it's motivational, all right.
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It motivates you to do. It motivates you to do something
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you can, but you can see how a lot of people think that The 48
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Laws of Power is a book that you can, a book that somebody can
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use to learn how to manipulate somebody with, you know,
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somebody somebody referred to as a narcissistic Bible or a
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playbook or whatever. I was just like, whoa, whoa,
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whoa, what? So I went back and listened to
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it again as before, as I listened to it before I got
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diagnosed, and I listened to it after I got diagnosed.
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So before I got diagnosed, I thought it was dark, you know?
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But when I after I got diagnosed, I knew it was dark,
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but I also understood the the dynamics of it, the the
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principles of it and whatnot. So the 48 laws of power, it it
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can be a guidebook to manipulate people, and if you try to
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manipulate people for good, that's that's something
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different. But you can use this book to
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take over and manipulate the hell out of people in businesses
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and relationships. Y'all because like look at law
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one and the law one is never, you know, law one always, never
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outshine the master. Like.
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So in the situations like that, you can let people think that
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they are one step ahead of you, but the whole time you're 10
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steps ahead of them, you know they're actually way behind you.
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You can use that people to to lull.
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You can use that to lull people into a false sense of security
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and things like that. You know it just in that space
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right there. It just law two.
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I'm not going to go through all the laws, just certain laws that
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jump off the page to me. Law two says never put too much
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trust in friends. Learn how to use your enemies.
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It's just like you don't. It's like don't really trust
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people you know. Don't trust people.
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The only person you can trust is yourself.
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And sometimes as a narcissist, you can't really trust yourself
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because you know, in that space right there.
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So these laws right here, y'all it, it really can be
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manipulative. Like law 3.
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It's three back-to-back to back, right.
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Conceal your intentions. Always hide your intention
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always. Like, what does that mean?
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What else could that mean right there?
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You know what I mean? In the business world, it could
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be a good thing like I want. I don't want to let people know
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what's going on to the very end to surprise them with some a
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treat or surprise party or something like that.
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But in a toxic relationship dynamic or a toxic person that
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uses this right here, they can always just like they can
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manipulate you from the very beginning.
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They can love bomb you, gaslight you, trick you into falling in
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love with them. And then once you fall in love
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with them, they pull the the wool off.
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Like you know, the tablecloth off him on your table, the wool
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the carpet off him under your feet.
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You trip and fall and whatnot. You know, just in this space
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right here. My favorite law.
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One of my favorite laws though. Law 5 reputation.
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So much depends on your reputation, guarded with your
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life, your reputation and narcissistic people.
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Y'all and seek to protect their reputation.
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A lot of narcissists will give their lives to, not a lot.
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Some of them will give their lives to protect their
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reputation. Because once their reputation is
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shattered, shame comes in, You know, shame comes in and what
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not. It just it just does.
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When shame takes over a narcissistic person, it can
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provoke them to do some horrible things, to try to guard
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themselves and protect themselves from shame and things
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like that, you know? But, yeah, another law.
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Yeah. Make people come to you.
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This is law 8. Use bait if necessary.
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Yo. Bait people.
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Lynn, Manipulate people to come to you like in a toxic
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relationship. Think about it.
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From this place. I break.
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I do something bad to you, I lie to you, I cheat on you.
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Right? And then I just cut you off like
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you want an explanation? You want some accountability?
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You want an apology? I just cut you off.
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So guess what happens. You come falling after me, You
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reverse Hoover yourself because you reach out to me and because
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you reached out to me I can say hey look I was done.
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You reached out to me because. So because you reached out to me
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this relationship is now on my terms.
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I don't want to apologize. I don't want to talk about it.
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You know what I mean? I don't want to do something
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like that. It just in that space right
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there. That's how it goes.
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That's what happens, you know, lol laughing.
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Y'all learn to keep people dependent on you.
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Co dependent, Co dependency. Like I give you a little bit, I
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take it away, I give you a little, I take it away, I give a
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little take it away. It's baiting people in like so a
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lot of a lot of the laws kind of work together, You know, you can
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stack them on top of each other. You can use them
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interchangeably. You know it works like that.
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That's what I tell people, just like y'all learn to keep people
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dependent upon you. What is that?
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What else could that mean? The definition says make your
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superior dependent upon you, even the people above you.
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The more she needs you, the more security and freedom you have to
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pursue your goals. That's what it says on there.
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Y'all. It's Law 11, Law 11.
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Law 12 use selective honesty and generosity to disarm your
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victim. This says that use honesty and
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generosity, disarm and distract others from your schemes.
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So look over here. Y'all I'm being nice over here.
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I'm being nice over here. But behind the scenes, I'm being
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manipulative. I'm being toxic.
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I'm trying to steal the business off from under your feet.
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I'm cheating on you. I manipulated other people.
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Go back to what was the law about the reputation.
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I think Law 5. Go back to law five.
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You see how Law 12 and Law 5 go hand in hand.
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And also selective honesty is what a lot of narcissistic
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people use at the beginning of relationships.
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Y'all because some of them will tell you the bad stuff that
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they've done to other people in order to get you to trust them.
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I didn't have to tell you that, right?
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I didn't need to tell you that, but I did, right?
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All right, So you should trust me more.
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This. Yeah, it's a tactic.
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I talk about these tactics all the time, just not in this law
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form and whatnot. Law 14, pose as a friend, work
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as a spy, manipulate people, be nice to people.
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You know, just get into people's lives, mirror people, act like
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them, integrate yourself into their lives so you can spy on
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them. Take what they learn, take what
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they know and just dip out. You know what I mean?
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Law 15, crush your enemies. Totally destroyed them.
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Like when a narcissistic person discards you, they leave you
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destroyed. They need to make sure that you
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they leave you broken so they don't want to come back to you.
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You know what I mean? That's what happens right there.
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Law 16, use absence to increase respect and honor.
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You ever y'all ever hear somebody says they'll miss you
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when they're gone. You never know what you had
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until you lost it. This would this that part of it
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right there. Just think about it from that
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perspective right there. From how you dig in with it
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right there, because that's goes into it as well.
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Y'all. It is a total manipulative mind
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game that a lot of narcissists and toxic people will play with
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you right here, just like this. Y'all it just is, you know, just
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in this space right here. Law 19 know who you're dealing
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with. Law 20 do not commit to anyone.
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You see a lot of narcissistic people cheat, you know, they
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like to do not commit to anyone. It's also example of them
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playing both sides of a situation.
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Triangulation Two Pitting two people against each other.
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You're the you're the middle man or the middle woman, The middle
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person. You know you're the person in
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the middle. You get no harm.
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While everybody else is going to war, everybody else is battling
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and fussing and fighting. You get no harm because you were
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playing both sides. You didn't pick a side, right?
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Well, they say Switzerland. You're you're neutral.
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You know, play Law 21. Play a sucker to catch a sucker.
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Play dumb. Act stupid and dumb.
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People will try to think that, you know, play dumb so that you
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can manipulate people. Y'all this thing right here.
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Like I said, a lot of this stuff right here.
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Y'all can read the 48 laws about.
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If you haven't, but it's just in this space you understand what
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I'm saying. A lot of narcissistic people can
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read this book and learn how to manipulate people better.
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You know, a lot of impasse and codependent people and people
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who are dealing with narcissists.
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Victims of narcissists can read it to learn how to learn the
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mindset and in the workings of narcissists to kind of just like
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understand what they're the narcissistic person is doing.
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You know, I'm not saying that this book is a red flag if you,
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if your partner has this book or has read this book.
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I'm not saying it's a red flag because a lot of people, you
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know, I know a lot of impacts who've read this book, you know,
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but like Law 25, recreate yourself.
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You have to rebuild your image. If I treat you horribly, yeah.
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One of the main questions I get a lot of times, y'all why they
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treat a new supply different. They seem like a new person with
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the new supply, their new relationship.
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They seem so happy. They're doing a lot of the stuff
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that they swear they will never do.
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And I see them doing it right now.
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And Lee and I just feel horrible.
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I feel like it was my fault. I feel like I wasn't good
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enough. Recreate yourself.
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You build a whole new image to fit your whole new life.
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You know what I'm saying? It's a it's an image.
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It's not real. It's not the it's not the final
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picture. It's the image, The life.
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Look, the narcissistic person's new life is Photoshopped.
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It's Photoshop. It's just right there.
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Loud 27. Play on people's needs to create
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a cult like following Flying Monkey.
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They keep you. Narcissistic people like to like
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to surround themselves with yes men and Yes women and Yes
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people. They like flying monkeys.
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They like blind supporters. They love, love, love, love,
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love. When people play the devil's
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advocate, they love. Yeah, they narcissists love the
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devil's advocates. I hope y'all know that.
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I hope y'all understand that the narcissists love when y'all play
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the devil's advocate. They love it.
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They love it when you play the devil's advocate for something
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that they Oh my goodness, Oh my goodness.
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It's just right there. Y'all Law 31.
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Control the options. Get others to play the cards you
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deal. Get other.
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Get others. Get your flying monkeys, your
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new supply, whoever. Get them to harass your ex.
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Get them to abuse your ex partner.
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Get them to manipulate your your ex partner.
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Get them to spread their lies and spread their rumors.
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Get them to stalk for you. Get them to harass your ex
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online. You see what I'm saying?
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Y'all this. Read the book.
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If you haven't read the book, this book right here, it's just
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wow, it's a powerful book. It's a great book.
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I'm not saying don't read it. Go, please read the book.
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It's a powerful book. I love it.
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But you know, do I love it because I'm a narcissist?
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You know, is it a narcissist playbook for real?
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You know, Law 44, y'all disarm and infuriate with the mirror
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effect. Seduce people by mirroring their
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emotions and interest. That's literally a law.
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That's literally Law 44 about mirroring people.
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Act like them back. Take take on their similar
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interests, make them fall in love with themselves.
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Because essentially when you fall in love with a narcissist,
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you essentially fall in love with yourself because they're
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mirroring you. A lot of times.
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Sometimes y'all do have stuff in common, but sometimes they are.
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A lot of times they are mirroring you because they don't
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actually like to do the stuff that you like to do.
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You know, in that space right there and y'all see it right
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there, y'all see it. You know there's some other
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stuff on here. Never appear too perfect, you
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know? Never appeared too perfect.
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How? They were right there.
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Admit. Oh, yeah, yeah.
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Never admit too. Never appeared to be too
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perfect. That's law 46.
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You know, Admit to a flaw or weakness.
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You know, just tell them your trauma.
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Tell them some trauma that you've been through.
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Sure, your trauma. Get them.
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Get them to feel bad for you. Y'all.
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See how it works right there. Y'all.
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The 48 Laws of Power is a an amazing book.
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But you can see it. You can see how this book can be
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used to manipulate people right there.
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Now 39 is the last time we do. Y'all stir up waters to catch
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fish. Always stay calm and objective.
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When you get angry, you've lost control.
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So you see well how reactive abuse can play into this.
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A lot, right? Y'all, see how reactive abuse
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comes into this dynamic a lot. So if I'm if I'm treating you
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badly, if I'm acting a certain type of way, if I'm behaving a
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certain type of way, you see when you react to my abuse, when
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you react to that narcissistic person's abuse, you look like
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the aggressor. I have to stay calm.
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So All in all, y'all, I love The 48 Laws of Power.
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It's an amazing book, amazingly written.
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Shout out to Robert Greene for writing the book.
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Go out there and buy it. Read it.
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Like I said, if you read it and look at it from a person, a
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different person's perspective, it can help you deal with
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narcissistic people. You know.
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Another book is How to Win Friends and Influence People.
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Great book is Out of the Fog. Fog stands for Fear, Obligation
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and Guilt. That's by Dana Morningstar.
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And then the last but not least, Doctor Romney's book.
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Should I say or should I go? Should you say or should you go?
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Amazing books. Y'all.
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So check those books out for the laws of power.
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