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Season 4 - Episode 18 - Lies are exhausting · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody, welcome to the good morning from the Chicken
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  Coop podcast. My name is Kim Johnson and I am
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  a mastermind, set coach, creative strategist, and also
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  happen to be a farmer. This is my chicken coop and I
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  come out here every day to record a podcast to teach
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  distinctions, possibilities, new ways of thinking, and just bring
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  some joy into the world. So welcome to the coop, and
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  let's start your day off in a fantastic way.
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  Hey, good morning, everybody. OK, today we're in the garage.
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  Just in case you're wondering why is it so quiet?
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  Again, it's just because of these time, the timing.
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  In the mornings, girls aren't even awake yet, and I am out in
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  the garage. So we are talking about the fact
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  that lying to yourself is exhausting.
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  Really, truly exhausting. And one of the things that has
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  really been prevalent in what we do as human beings is how much
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  we sedate ourselves in situations by lying to
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  ourselves. And then we wonder why we're
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  always tired. We get sick so easy, all of
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  these, and we want to attribute a lot of it to stress.
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  And let me let me just say a boatload of it is from stress.
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  However, there is a significant part of it that can be about the
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  fact that we spend so much time lying to ourselves.
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  Now you might be questioning, why would I be lying to myself?
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  Well, a big part of why we lie to ourselves is the fact that we
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  get stuck in just not doing the front load work of knowing
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  ourselves so well. I mean, isn't that crazy that
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  you would think I know myself so well.
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  But the truth is we, we spend so much time trying to fit in.
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  We spend so much time trying to find ways to make ourselves
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  appear for the right job, the right person, all of these
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  things that we morph and we morph into things that cause us
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  to lie to ourselves just to get through the day.
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  Now, I was very guilty of this early on in my life.
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  I, I was the girl that wanted to like grow vegetables, flowers,
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  garden from the time I was little and you know, I did it
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  with my father. I was always out there growing
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  like growing vegetables with my dad and doing stuff like that.
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  But there was a significant part of my time when I was in high
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  school where I was not being true to who I was.
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  I refused to take art classes. And because I didn't want to be,
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  I used to tell my parents I don't want to be told I have to
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  draw at that point in time. But the truth was I wasn't
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  confident in my skills, and I didn't want to go in there and
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  feel crappy about the work I was doing because I was so nervous
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  to do bad work. I just said no, you know what?
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  I don't want to do this because if I go and then they're going
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  to tell me to Draw Something. And if I don't feel like
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  drawing, I don't want to draw. That was such a crock I I can't
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  even begin to explain. And it is one of the decisions
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  that I would love to have rectified in my life.
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  I don't regret it, but I would love to have rectified it
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  because I think it would have helped with my stress overall if
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  I had done it. Now I can sit here and say with
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  100% certainty that I'm grateful, beyond grateful for
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  all the stress and the anxiety that I went through.
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  Now that may sound crazy, but This is why I'm here now, I
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  hadn't done all that and had those experiences.
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  I wouldn't be doing this. And I truly believe that I had
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  to have all that pain to get to this point.
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  So one could say my soul was steering me in the right
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  direction. But it it's always useful to
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  say, hey, you know, what am I lying to myself about this?
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  What are my true feelings about something?
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  Because when you dig in and you figure out what those true
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  feelings are, you, you take it on and you say, OK, how can I be
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  honest with myself about this and still find ways around
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  things to make it work? Now, I'm not saying that drawing
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  classes would have changed my trajectory.
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  I would have still ended up here.
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  I'm I'm certain of that somehow, some way.
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  However, would it have made my journey less painful
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  Potentially, because I know how much when I release my
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  creativity, how much better I feel overall.
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  Anytime I get to do something creative, I feel incredible.
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  So I know that could have helped my anxiety at a point when I
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  didn't understand it at all or how to manage it or anything
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  through it. So the point of all of this is
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  when you start to recognize that you're feeling all of these
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  emotions that lead to angst and you feel like you're stressed
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  constantly. You feel exhausted constantly.
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  You feel like you just want to sit and binge watch a show.
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  You have to pause and say to yourself, is this really true?
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  Is this, is this what I think it is, or is it something else?
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  Am I lying to myself about something else?
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  And often those little teeny weeny lies are not loud, my
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  friends. They're quiet.
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  They're in the back of your head.
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  It's just like, you just don't want to do this.
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  I don't want to go. And it's like this little tiny
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  whisper, little tiny pokes. And guess what?
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  That's what's trying to tell you something.
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  It's just not being heard. It's not being heard, so it's
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  just quiet. And it may have been that way
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  for so, so long. Now.
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  Some people get to the point where it's loud and it screams
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  at you. That's what we're all kind of
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  looking for. But pay attention to the
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  whispers and just recognize that those lies are what's exhausting
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  you. The lies are exhausting you.
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  So figure it out and say I'm not going to do that to myself
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  anymore. All right, my friends, I hope
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  you have a blessed day and I'll see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.