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- 0:00We're in the middle of Kuftsadi Vav.
- 0:02However, I apologize, there's a few issues that I think can use
- 0:05some extra clarification. So we're going to go back a
- 0:08little bit to it's very really a Lakhala maisa of DNA Harhakos,
- 0:14which is in Kuftsadi. Hey, so we'll just say over a
- 0:17few interesting ideas. So one of the things that came
- 0:21up, but just I, I suppose at this point it'll just be random
- 0:24order because it doesn't really matter at this point.
- 0:26So one of the things that we discussed was, and Ishad, it's
- 0:31Anita, can she go to Beitakfara? So obviously meetsad halacha,
- 0:35there's no issue whatsoever. No problem for a woman, she's
- 0:39Anita to go to a, to a cemetery. We mentioned, right, I'll pick
- 0:44Kabbalah. There's an Indian for her not to
- 0:46go. So I will just mention that if
- 0:48the family is going right, there's a Hakama Smitseva, the
- 0:52Amshloshi and the yard site and the whole family is going.
- 0:55So then the post game says she should go or is certainly at
- 0:59least permitted to go. Some say maybe it's better to
- 1:02stay Dala Damas away from the cover, but whatever it is,
- 1:05because she's going to have SAR and she's going to be
- 1:07embarrassed. That's going to be a whole.
- 1:09How come she's not going? So that's that's pretty clear.
- 1:13And many are Mahmir by Kirvitz Sadiqim.
- 1:16I guess different opinions on that one.
- 1:19If you're Makil or not to to go or not to go.
- 1:22In other words, in general, we there's an Indian of the
- 1:25Kabbalah for Anidah not to go right, but for Kyrie Siddiquins,
- 1:30you make an exception like maybe it's OK.
- 1:33So Gilman mentioned that many are Mako, but it depends if you
- 1:36ask some yes or no. Again, it's a it's an Indian of
- 1:39Picabala as a Kumra. So some are more anyway this way
- 1:43than that, especially if she is still having her active period.
- 1:46It's even a little bit worse regarding girls women, General
- 1:50Minog is women, right? They don't go to the mikvah
- 1:52until they get married and they do go, but some are Mahmer.
- 1:56So it kind of depends who you ask, but I just wanted to touch
- 1:59upon that one, especially for a family gathering via same same
- 2:04thing, exactly same thing, but OK, what about a call Isha?
- 2:09I don't think that was mentioned.
- 2:10So if you look into the among the Spartak post game, it's
- 2:14clear it's mother. There's no real basic that it's
- 2:16a problem right Dine Harhaka women's.
- 2:19Could she sing in front of her husband?
- 2:21Could she sing to the kids in front of the husband?
- 2:22Can she sing Zamiros? It's all the same thing.
- 2:25So for Spartan it's not an issue.
- 2:28See Tara Sabais for example. But he does mention Hamachmir
- 2:34Tavola Bracha to sing together. So that's OK.
- 2:39But if you look in many of the Ashkenazic sources such as
- 2:42shaved levy and I heard quoted shame Ramosha, they are Mahmir
- 2:46that they are not allowed to. But I would say ask you Rob
- 2:51Lamai said there are many who are Mako maybe not as much
- 2:56written as practically speaking. There are some who are OK.
- 3:03We mentioned about a man sending a wine.
- 3:08Can a man send wine across the table and you had for his wife
- 3:13so that we all learned no right. So any course of of Koschel
- 3:20yine, Lukuli, Alma. What about grape juice?
- 3:24Oh, so that's that's mutter. It's not alcoholic for according
- 3:30to Spartak post scheme, it's only wine, right.
- 3:33That's alcoholic for Ashkenazi and they're Mahmir for liquids.
- 3:38Khashuvim. What again, I'll ask you all
- 3:41what that was referring to. But they do they they are Mahmir
- 3:45for certain liquids. OK, so that's that.
- 3:50But the question is what happens?
- 3:53What can you do at kiddish? So in general, I believe we're
- 3:57generally Mako. I'll just quote a couple couple
- 4:01approaches. So one is Tara the bite or Vaja.
- 4:05He says it's not a problem. First of all, the whole the
- 4:08whole real issue is when you're giving a cup Miyuka just for
- 4:12your wife. That's the real issue.
- 4:15If it's for everybody, essentially it's not really a
- 4:18problem. But the way it's worded in
- 4:20Arsiman Khutzadihei, OK, so Mahokis in the Rishonian, how to
- 4:25write the issue, how it's written.
- 4:27But the way it's written in the Sholkhanar is you have to 1st
- 4:30give it to other people in the Binet bite and then give it to
- 4:33your wife. I let it continue on to her.
- 4:35So it shows it's not me you had for her.
- 4:38The question is can you give it to your wife first?
- 4:40So in kiddish we normally give it to the wife first before
- 4:43other guests and certainly the kids.
- 4:45So is that a problem? So he points out it's a Mahlokis
- 4:49rishonim and pastas according to the Sholtanar, I think is a
- 4:52problem. However, he says again, it's a
- 4:55Mahlokis Rishonim and there's issues of Bhushan, everyone's
- 4:59going to find out and there's a here it's also a mitzvah, Hebrew
- 5:03mitzvah. So he says it's it's a mutter to
- 5:06send it straight to the white wife.
- 5:09So that's that's one approach why it's permitted.
- 5:14Some point out you just put it on the table, present a couple
- 5:18different quick approaches. You just put it down on the
- 5:20table and then it'll get to the wife.
- 5:22The kids will bring it to her, whatever it is.
- 5:25But that we know you wanted to go to your wife.
- 5:27But one approach is since you're not sending it specifically to
- 5:31your wife, even though your kids were trained, that's not
- 5:33considered sending to the wife and it's not a problem.
- 5:36That's one approach what many recommend brought down hooch,
- 5:41hooch, Shani shave levy, dark guitar and others.
- 5:43You should pour a few cups and whatever.
- 5:47I'm just giving you different ways to solve the issue.
- 5:51They pour it, pour it into a few cups and then all those cups
- 5:55could have gone to anybody. So there's no One Cup that's
- 5:57going Miyuka to the wife and therefore there's for sure no
- 6:00issue whatsoever. So that's that's that issue.
- 6:04We mentioned the issue about sitting on a, the same bench,
- 6:08right? We're not if it's in the you HUD
- 6:11bed for, for the, for them. So that's we spoke about in the
- 6:14Shulkanar. What about sitting on the same
- 6:17bench, right? So if you sit, if one, the
- 6:19husband or wife sits on one end and the one sits on the other
- 6:22end and there's nobody in between and it kind of, you
- 6:24know, it could rock, rock a little bit, make a little
- 6:26vibration. So we saw in the Roma that
- 6:29that's Aser. But just to point out, according
- 6:31to the Sparta post scheme, there's no Iser.
- 6:33It's only it's an it's an Ashkenaz.
- 6:35It's a so the Rama and but the Benishkai says the Minnad is to
- 6:40be Mahamar in Baghdad, but that just so it's not 100% clear cut.
- 6:44But that's the general that's the halacha.
- 6:47I'm assuming we mentioned if you need to sit near each other, if
- 6:50you're traveling, you need to. So it's always better to put
- 6:52something in between a purse or something in between the husband
- 6:55and wife. Fine, the postgame say 1 should
- 6:57not smell the perfume when it's on his wife.
- 7:00Yeah, so we'll just mention that there's, when it comes to wine,
- 7:03when the woman gives, we said woman giving, pouring the wine
- 7:08for the man in front of him is a problem.
- 7:11So it's clearly a problem according to everybody.
- 7:15If she takes the if she pours the cup in front of him and then
- 7:18puts the cup in front, pours the cup right in front of him, she
- 7:22sees him pouring the cup, the wine into the cup and then
- 7:25passes or puts the cup in front of him.
- 7:27Or if the cup is already in front of him and then she pours
- 7:30the wine right in front of him. That's for sure.
- 7:32OK. What if you're she's only doing
- 7:34one of them in front of the cups in a separate room or whatever
- 7:37there is and she can see whatever it is.
- 7:39So that is that is a Mahocus. Let's see dark guitar and shave
- 7:43it Levy or Machmer. Why do I just bring it up?
- 7:46Just comes up commonly. Lil Pesach is an Indian.
- 7:51Not we pour for each other a cup of wine.
- 7:54So Lil Pesach, can your wife or husband pour for each other?
- 7:58The real, the bigger question I write is for the wife pouring
- 8:01for the man. That's the real issue.
- 8:03So can the wife pour for the man at Leo's Seder?
- 8:06So that's totally in this, this Mahlokit to even do one and
- 8:11leave it on the table. Like she can pour the wine a
- 8:14couple feet away from him and then he can go grab it and bring
- 8:17it next to him. So anyway, so that is a Mahloka
- 8:19and the postscheme and your Mahmir is a Mahlokit.
- 8:23OK, this is interesting. Just two more, two more issues.
- 8:261 is when it comes to eating from Shirei Maha.
- 8:30So we spoke about eating from right leftover food.
- 8:34So it's important. Just interesting if you notice
- 8:36that the whole issue there is an issue of eating at the same
- 8:40table at the same time. That's in the Shah Kanare, right
- 8:43regulsive Carl, What about left O?
- 8:46And there is an issue or is Sir of using the man drinking from
- 8:51the leftovers wine, the cup of wine from the wife, But what
- 8:55about leftover plate to eat from her plate?
- 8:58That's leftover. That's only mentioned in the
- 9:00Rama. So and according to the
- 9:02bassiose, if it's 100% mutter, whatever is leftover from her
- 9:07plate that she ate from the husband is allowed to eat from
- 9:11it. According to the Shalkhanarath,
- 9:13it's ASA according to the Rama. So according to the Spartan,
- 9:17most are Mako Centaurus Abais. But then the Benichai is
- 9:22Makhmur. He's often Makhmur like the
- 9:24Rama. That's just in general Hashita.
- 9:25He's often Makhmur like the Rama.
- 9:29OK, so, but everybody agrees Le Maiser Mina din, whatever it is,
- 9:36if to eat from her leftover ice cream that she's looking from or
- 9:43popsicle that she's looking from or an apple that she bit out of
- 9:47that everybody agrees to be mockman because the saliva is
- 9:51the scent is left there and it's has a a little bit of a a
- 9:54different din. And but if no, and then just as
- 9:59far as the definition of a plate that they share her leftover
- 10:03plate, that's only if it's like really her food, like it's her
- 10:07plate and there's a salad that she dig into.
- 10:11If there's, you know, rice, beans, chillen that she ate from
- 10:16a piece of steak or chicken that she cut out and ate from.
- 10:19So those are when it's Shirimaka.
- 10:22But if it's even if she ate from a bowl of, I don't know,
- 10:26popcorn, pizza, cream, a, a fruit platter, all these things,
- 10:34slices of, of slices of bread, chips, all these things, it's
- 10:39meant for more than one person in its individual pieces.
- 10:43And even according to the Ashkenazim, it's not a problem.
- 10:46Again, to eat from it at the same time is a problem because
- 10:49that's Alshalkhanekhat. But as far as leftover food,
- 10:53once she's stops eating from that basket or bowl or whatever
- 10:56it is. So then everyone says it's
- 10:59mutter garbage. It's the same halakhat either
- 11:01mutter or asser because it's it's her leftovers.
- 11:05You can transfer it from her from one plate to another and
- 11:09then it's mother unless I saw quoted who quotes it.
- 11:14But anyway to her I quotes forget who he quotes.
- 11:19But if it's like an apple for example or a glida or ice cream,
- 11:23transferring that from one plate to another doesn't help.
- 11:26And it's not made to be shared. And it has and it has her saliva
- 11:31on it. I'm saying that to be it
- 11:33depends, right, If you're Ashkenazi or Spartak, but that's
- 11:36that's also correct. No, no, no.
- 11:42Well, it depends with Sparty, but Rava Vady is, is Mahmir.
- 11:45So he's generally the the, the last line of defense for being
- 11:49Mako. If he's Mahmir, again, it really
- 11:51depends. In general, we people say if
- 11:54he's if he's if he's Mahmir, then everyone's Mahmir.
- 11:58If he's a Maple, you have to check, but that's that's not
- 12:00true. But that's anyways there's
- 12:04obviously some truth to that. I think everyone agrees share is
- 12:08this only a esser of Shiryamaka only applies to foods.
- 12:13What about sharing a pack of cigarettes?
- 12:16Cigarettes might be us to have all together, but as far as the
- 12:19DNA Hakaka, is that a problem? What about using the same
- 12:23toothpaste bottle or whatever it is tube?
- 12:26So everyone's Makil on that. The the the only is served for
- 12:30Harkakos is by food. Can't touch it together.
- 12:32But yeah, OK, last thing I just want to bring up is we spoke
- 12:36about right now. We learned all about Harkakos by
- 12:39Anita, right during the the period until she goes to the
- 12:43mikvah, right. It all applies until she goes to
- 12:45the mikvah. It doesn't matter if she's
- 12:47actively having her period none so long as she's Anita.
- 12:51So what about just wanted to bring a nice comparison.
- 12:54What about Avellis? So we know a man and woman are
- 12:57allowed to be together at Tasha Mishimoto.
- 12:59That's one of the one of the suryim right for Avellis.
- 13:03But the truth is Kemat all the Harhakas Aramoto, Ben Ashkenazi
- 13:08and Ben Lesfarde. So but what is Aser?
- 13:12So what is Aser is sleeping in the same bed?
- 13:16Obviously Tashmi Shimita is what's asar, but then what about
- 13:19the Harchakos? The extra distances?
- 13:21So it's the only thing that everybody agrees with that is
- 13:24asar is to sleep in the same bed hugging and kissing.
- 13:28The Ashkenazim or Machmer and most Spartium are mikko, but
- 13:34everything else for Avelos is 100% mutter according to
- 13:38Ashkenazim and Spartim. Just some quick examples and
- 13:42something I wrote and where'd it go?
- 13:46Example of things that are they're allowed to touch each
- 13:49other, right? There's a helchus avalis.
- 13:51They are allowed even, right? A husband and wife, if she's not
- 13:55an E the obviously we're talking about, they're allowed to touch.
- 13:57They're allowed to hold hands, hold the items together.
- 13:59They cry on each other's shoulders.
- 14:02That's not included in hugging and kissing, eating and drinking
- 14:06from the same plate and cups, pouring wine, making bed,
- 14:09washing each other. All these things are mutter.
- 14:12I survived them and Ashkenazim. That's all mutter Yom Kippur is
- 14:16different. Fuck us on Yom Kippur.
- 14:20So there the Ashkenazim say everything is the same,
- 14:23Everything is Asur and the Spartans say only touching
- 14:28right, Of course, sleeping on the same bed.
- 14:30That's for sure Asur, but also touching.
- 14:33That's the extra thing by the by Spartan that are more Mahamur by
- 14:36Yom Kippur than Avelles. So I hope that was kind of
- 14:39clear. Let's go to Kuf Saadi Valk where
- 14:43we left off as far Ashkenazi and Yom Kip or Ashkenazim say
- 14:47everything is usser the same, the same as regular and sphardim
- 14:52our mothma by touching and the same bed.
- 14:55Let's go to Zine. That's where we left off.
- 14:58OK, Hopefully I can focus back on this Iman.
- 15:03So kuf Saadi valk right back into the topic of we're doing a
- 15:09hefsik tahara and the clothing and checking and all that.
- 15:13Getting ready to go to the mikva.
- 15:15OK, Sorry, kufzadi vav dalid. We're going to start with Saif
- 15:20dalid. OK, help me out over here.
- 15:22Bikoliom is shivaat yame hasfira.
- 15:25So all seven days, srikaliyat bodegat la khatila pamayim
- 15:30bikoliom shahrit lechadhila, she should check herself twice every
- 15:38right? Every day.
- 15:39This is for the Shiva nakim, right?
- 15:41She did her half sick tahara. She counts 7 more days for those
- 15:44seven days before she goes with the mikvah, she should check
- 15:48morning and before shkia in the morning and before shkia twice a
- 15:54day. That's Lechadhila being low
- 15:56bought Cabacola Shiva. But if she didn't check, I'll 7
- 16:00Ella pamakas lo Shana bhat kabhiyon rishon shala Shiva
- 16:04obioma shvi. OK, as long as she checked at
- 16:09least once, she did her have first of all, she already did
- 16:12her have sektara the day before. So that we got.
- 16:15Now during the seven days itself, she's supposed to check
- 16:19every day. But as long as she checks at
- 16:21least once during those seven days, it's going to work.
- 16:24Let's keep reading. So it's even if it's the first
- 16:27day or the 7th day or any one of the days, it'll work.
- 16:31Yeah, Harsha bhatka biyom shakoda ma Shiva she and she
- 16:35didn't have sick tahara before the seven days started.
- 16:39So she already umat said tahara and she found and she found
- 16:43herself tahara clean alullah. So that counts for her.
- 16:47So she has she's now removing herself from the khazaka of
- 16:52bringing aval IM lo vodka bikola Shiva.
- 16:57But if she didn't check all seven days obayoma for seven
- 17:02full day all the all the seven nakim, she didn't check even
- 17:05once ubayom hashmini bhadka umatsa tahara EI la alla Yom
- 17:11shamini bilva. If she missed all 7 and she only
- 17:16starts, only checks herself on the 8th day, then it's
- 17:20unfortunately she has to start and that only counts as day one
- 17:24Eliyomish because she didn't have any of the seven days and
- 17:28so that whole thing gets thrown out the window.
- 17:30So then Eliyom shimini oblivat umma schlemet Allah and she has
- 17:35to now get another six days to continue the seven counting
- 17:40days. The Yeesh Omrin should Sarishita
- 17:43dog Biyomarisha meshiva obayyoma shivi, the Ain la haka.
- 17:48But then he goes with the Yeesh Omrin.
- 17:51He, he says there is an opinion you have to still you have to
- 17:54check on the 1st and on the 7th and that's Miyakev.
- 17:59You have to for sure check on, on, on the 1st and on the 7th.
- 18:02Those are the two most important and otherwise otherwise it
- 18:05doesn't count. He writes in the end, normally
- 18:07we say Stam, Virginia shamrim halacha ke Stam.
- 18:10But here the shamar says you should not be Mako.
- 18:15But what does that mean? Again, pretty much means me ikar
- 18:18adin. It's the Stam, but he says you
- 18:21should we should definitely follow the strict opinion, and
- 18:26so they're now I'll just point out, if you look in the piece
- 18:28rate you like quotes that if you that some some point out, as
- 18:33long as you count on some of the days, even if it's not the
- 18:36first, then it works here. You'd say that's in a piece
- 18:41Chuva. So then it helps.
- 18:43So then my said there are different opinions.
- 18:45Exactly how far do you take it? And then some will also say be
- 18:48shot attack. One could be somer on the the
- 18:52stom opinion. So I'll just I'm reading from
- 18:56Vav. If you look in Vav.
- 18:58No, that's if you don't go on any of the middle days.
- 19:01OK, It's a discussion, no clear answer.
- 19:03And what happens if you missed the first day start on day
- 19:06three. Ask your Rav.
- 19:07I'll leave it at that. And they usually make what
- 19:11you're saying OK. I'm not I've been reviewed, so I
- 19:14don't want to stay on. OK, Babadika Tiela or Hayom
- 19:19Volola or Haner. And you should check the
- 19:24lighting right. Again, nowadays you have
- 19:26different lights. Don't use a candlelight, but you
- 19:29need to do a you need to check the normal light from the sun or
- 19:33a good light in the room and then you have it.
- 19:37Actually, the candle does work. Yeah.
- 19:41OK, so depends which light you use exactly.
- 19:44OK, hey, let's read another one or two.
- 19:46Bhatka atma byom Shepaska, Meli wrote.
- 19:49She checked herself on the day that she stop seeing right stop
- 19:55seeing the blood umatza tamaya and then she finds herself that
- 19:59she still has blood spots. Ubat kala akar slosha or abaya
- 20:03meme. And then she checks after 3-4
- 20:05days umatza tahara and then she's clean.
- 20:08Harezova has got Tamaya Bitara. I mean, this is a pretty push of
- 20:14Sief that she thought maybe she's finishing seeing, but so
- 20:18she checked, she was clean, then she checked again, she was
- 20:20dirty, there's blood, still sees bleeding, and the next time you
- 20:23check it's 3-4 days later and then she's clean.
- 20:26You can't assume not even one day before until you check and
- 20:31get a half sick to Hara, it's clean and you can't start
- 20:34counting at all. And then that's the half sick to
- 20:37Hara and then you start counting the next day, Harry.
- 20:40So that's it, Shila olam Ena soferet.
- 20:43Again, it's simple. Shila olam Ena soferet adjective
- 20:47doc in pasca vas Mona mahroto. You never start counting the
- 20:52Shiva nakim until you saw the the last checking was clean and
- 20:56she doesn't see any more bleeding afterwards.
- 20:59Valve. Here's the one more called
- 21:01vedico Salo Ben Vedicas have sectaraben Vedicas cola Shiva
- 21:05srika sios with baguette pishton lavan neshan.
- 21:08So again, everything needs to be done with a Vedicas Panini.
- 21:12You have to do it with a baguette that's clean white.
- 21:15Oh, it's summer Geffen cotton or it's summer levan naki varath
- 21:18the soft shiitaknisenu be Otto Malcolm be omecca.
- 21:22Women have their Bedika class. So anyways, you have to be you
- 21:25have to be able to put it all the way inside Ulhorim
- 21:28Moustakim, the crevices ad macom shamash dash and as long as as
- 21:35long as it gets inserted, then the the tira should then she
- 21:39checks EM yesh bashum Mara adamut.
- 21:43If she sees any redness, it's not enough just to insert it to
- 21:50put in a little bit, she has to go as far as she can.
- 21:57And if she can't put it all the way in the fahad bedika Shalom
- 22:01havsek Tara bedika Shalom rishon miya Shiva tiana adma kom
- 22:04shamash dash the least the 1st and 7th day it should be
- 22:09inserted all the way as right as far as the the guy is able to
- 22:14insert his ever haga vim lo asta Cain vidika tiomrishan cassette
- 22:20palmachas Cain rodiga shara yamim.
- 22:23And if you weren't able to check all the way in the first day,
- 22:25check one of the other days meal.
- 22:27Did you have it in Laura stocking claw Rakshabad
- 22:30Katsumayafa before in stocking Oma Ketev Kifi Koha.
- 22:35But as long as she does check as far as you know, her fingers, as
- 22:38long as she can reach inside Alpha P Shelloy, Giella,
- 22:41Malcolm, Shashamash, Dash, Sage LA, as long as you do as far as
- 22:46you can, and that'll work.