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Focus On YOU Daily: Discover the Secrets to Mastering Your Attention · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: Many.
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  Speaker 2: If you are going under the storms, have you're some
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  Speaker 2: them on your job, stole them in your marriage? So
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  Speaker 2: many your kids show me your parents, so the man
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  Speaker 2: of your physical being stolen your finances. Storms that we
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  Speaker 2: don't invite, Storms that come from people we think of lovers.
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  Speaker 2: Storms that come from seem England know where, but there
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  Speaker 2: they are.
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  Speaker 3: You have no say so what happens to you? But
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  Speaker 3: you have a say so, and what you do about
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  Speaker 3: you have a determining voice into where your life can go. See,
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  Speaker 3: life is tempacent.
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  Speaker 4: What happens to you is not to pursuit.
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  Speaker 5: What you do about?
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  Speaker 3: You get a sent back, you get.
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  Speaker 6: Thrown off court.
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  Speaker 3: You lost your mama.
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  Speaker 7: That's dirt.
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  Speaker 3: But show me something that has grown into something beautiful
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  Speaker 3: that didn't have no dirt over.
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  Speaker 7: Why are you here and where are you going?
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  Speaker 4: You look at your life, You look at what you produce.
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  Speaker 7: If they're giving you what you want? Are you living
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  Speaker 7: on purpose? Are you living your dream?
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  Speaker 8: Are you acting on your ideas?
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  Speaker 7: Are you doing all you can do?
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  Speaker 9: Have you gotten comfortable?
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  Speaker 8: Are you procrastinating?
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  Speaker 4: Are you invading your own greatness?
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  Speaker 8: Are you surrounding yourself with people that can nourish you?
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  Speaker 7: Are you challenging yourself? Are you experimenting?
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  Speaker 8: Are you learning something different?
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  Speaker 9: You will not false, You will progress, You will not expire,
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  Speaker 9: you really false, You will not crumble in the midst
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  Speaker 9: of crisis. You may be next deep in what seems
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  Speaker 9: to be a catastrophic storm of chaos. But I pray
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  Speaker 9: that in this moment you will find the car the peace,
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  Speaker 9: the heart, the faith, the currents, the expectancy. You need
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  Speaker 9: to live and not die, to move up and thus
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  Speaker 9: say where you are, you get what you see.
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  Speaker 10: Let those challenges raise you up, Let them elevate you.
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  Speaker 10: Let their demands and their trials make you stronger.
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  Speaker 11: Let the adversity you face today turn you into a
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  Speaker 11: better person tomorrow.
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  Speaker 12: Make no mistake about it. Like the first noble truth
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  Speaker 12: of Bodhism, life is suffering. This is true, and it's
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  Speaker 12: worse than them because it's suffering contaminated by malevolns. That's
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  Speaker 12: the baseline. But the optimistic part is that it so
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  Speaker 12: damn tough you can actually not only deal with that,
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  Speaker 12: you can improve it.
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  Speaker 7: Sometimes we have to stand up inside ourselves. Sometimes we
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  Speaker 7: have to fight ourselves. Sometimes you have a dream and
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  Speaker 7: goal that you want to achieve, and you say, oh,
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  Speaker 7: I can't do that. You got to tell yourself to
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  Speaker 7: shut up. Don't tell me I can't do that. Sometimes
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  Speaker 7: you've got to talk to yourself. Oh I can do this,
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  Speaker 7: Oh I will do it. I have got to do this.
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  Speaker 7: What you think about your dream? And I want you
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  Speaker 7: to increase your dream. I said, you have something special.
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  Speaker 7: You have greatness in you. You have the ability to
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  Speaker 7: do more than you can ever begin to imagine greatness.
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  Speaker 7: It's a choice.
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  Speaker 8: Show your character, show me what you are paid up,
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  Speaker 8: prevail even when no one believes you can't, even when
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  Speaker 8: you have you don't right to believe things will turn around.
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  Speaker 8: Trust things will turn around.
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  Speaker 2: Ever up, Show your character, show me what you're made of.
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  Speaker 8: What are you made of?
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  Speaker 11: I am weak in all those ways that I listed.
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  Speaker 11: I am weak, But I don't accept that. I don't
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  Speaker 11: accept that I am what I am and that that
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  Speaker 11: is what I'm doomed to be. No, I don't accept
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  Speaker 11: that I'm fighting. I'm always fighting. I'm struggling, and I'm
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  Speaker 11: start rapping and I'm kicking and clawing it those weaknesses
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  Speaker 11: to change them, stop them.
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  Speaker 4: See there's a book being written about your life, isn't
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  Speaker 4: there some somewhere is take an inventory of your life.
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  Speaker 4: Don't compare your chapter one to someone's chapter ten. You
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  Speaker 4: write your own book, and at any moment in your life,
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  Speaker 4: you can decide that you want to make this the
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  Speaker 4: new chapter you're literally in your life. You can turn
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  Speaker 4: the page and those previous chapters are your old book.
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  Speaker 4: It's like old Testament, new Testament, old story, new story.
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  Speaker 4: They're connected, they're related. But you can flip the page
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  Speaker 4: and you can have a whole new story if you
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  Speaker 4: decide right now I.
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  Speaker 11: Am literally turning.
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  Speaker 4: My breakthrough is I turn the page and in this
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  Speaker 4: second I start to write the best chapters of my life.
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  Speaker 4: You can decide to do that.
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  Speaker 13: You're never ever, ever ever going to feel like doing
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  Speaker 13: the things you need to do in order to have
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  Speaker 13: what you want. You're always going to need to push yourself.
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  Speaker 13: You're always going to need to parent yourself. So what
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  Speaker 13: is the net advice on this? What is the bottom line?
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  Speaker 13: The bottom line is no one's coming, no one. No
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  Speaker 13: one's coming to push you. No one's coming to tell
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  Speaker 13: you to turn the TV off. No one's coming to
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  Speaker 13: tell you to get out the door and exercise. Nobody's
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  Speaker 13: coming to tell you to apply for that job that
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  Speaker 13: you've always dreamt about. Nobody's coming to write the business
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  Speaker 13: plan for you.
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  Speaker 10: It's up to you.
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  Speaker 13: And because you're only ever going to do the things
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  Speaker 13: that you feel like doing right now or that feel
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  Speaker 13: good right now. Unless you understand that you've got to
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  Speaker 13: parent yourself, you've got to push yourself, You're not going
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  Speaker 13: to make your dreams come true. You're just not. We're
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  Speaker 13: not wired that way. You weren't born that way. You
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  Speaker 13: weren't that way when you were going up, and you're
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  Speaker 13: certainly not that way as an adult. And there's a
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  Speaker 13: tremendous amount of liberation that comes when you accept the
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  Speaker 13: fact that you're always going to need to give yourself
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  Speaker 13: a bush.
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  Speaker 1: You know, because when I first started making money, and
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  Speaker 1: it was you know, my salary or my earnings were
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  Speaker 1: published all over the place. I mean the first year,
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  Speaker 1: I was like, really did I make that much money?
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  Speaker 1: Oh my god. It was very difficult for me to
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  Speaker 1: figure out where my boundaries were because I'd grown up
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  Speaker 1: poor and didn't have anything. So it's easy when you
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  Speaker 1: don't have anything and people ask you for money and
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  Speaker 1: they say I need five hundred, you say, I don't
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  Speaker 1: have it because I'm just trying to get my rent paid.
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  Speaker 1: It's harder when your multi billion dollar salary is now
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  Speaker 1: in the paper and you get a lot of friends
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  Speaker 1: and cousins you didn't have before. So how do you
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  Speaker 1: set boundaries for yourself? I was having trouble setting boundaries
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  Speaker 1: myself for myself, for even strangers. People would just show
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  Speaker 1: up at my door in Chicago and say, oh, Brah,
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  Speaker 1: I left my husband.
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  Speaker 12: Please help me.
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  Speaker 1: And I would because she knows I haven't, So don't
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  Speaker 1: try that now, though, okay, don't try that now.
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  Speaker 6: I figured it out.
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  Speaker 1: So what I learned was is that, oh, the reason
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  Speaker 1: why people keep showing up is because my intention is
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  Speaker 1: to make them think that I'm such a nice person
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  Speaker 1: that you can ask me for anything, you can get
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  Speaker 1: me to do anything, I'm going to say yes. I'm
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  Speaker 1: going to say yes. So when Stevie called me this time,
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  Speaker 1: I thought I'd try out my first no on Stevie.
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  Speaker 1: Let's start big. He wanted me to donate some money
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  Speaker 1: to a charity, and I didn't want to donate to
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  Speaker 1: the charity because I have my own charities and I
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  Speaker 1: care about a lot of people. But the problem is
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  Speaker 1: when you have money. Everybody thinks you just want to
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  Speaker 1: give it to everything. So every letter I ever get
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  Speaker 1: starts with we know you love the children. Yes, I
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  Speaker 1: do love the children, but somebody else is going to
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  Speaker 1: have to help the children. So I said to Stevie.
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  Speaker 1: I said to Stevie no, And as a person who
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  Speaker 1: has that disease to please, I was waiting for him
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  Speaker 1: then to say, I will never speak to you a gun,
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  Speaker 1: I will never call you, I will never sing a
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  Speaker 1: song for you. And he didn't. He just said okay, okay, okay,
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  Speaker 1: it's okay. He said, okay, check you later. And what
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  Speaker 1: I learned from that is many times you will have
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  Speaker 1: anngst and worry about things and put yourself in a state,
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  Speaker 1: like someone said this morning because her phone went off.
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  Speaker 1: They were mortified over a phone. I said, really, you
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  Speaker 1: will put yourself in a state when the other person
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  Speaker 1: really isn't even thinking about you. So, learning that I
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  Speaker 1: could specifically determine for myself what the boundaries were for
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  Speaker 1: me what I wanted to do, give my money, give
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  Speaker 1: my time, give of my service to who I wanted
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  Speaker 1: to give it to. When I did that, I get
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  Speaker 1: to make that decision and just because you get one
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  Speaker 1: hundred requests a week doesn't mean you have to try
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  Speaker 1: to fulfill all of that. Just because you have all
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  Speaker 1: of these demands on your time and on you doesn't
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  Speaker 1: mean that you have to say yes. You get to
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  Speaker 1: decide because you're the master of your fate, the captain
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  Speaker 1: of your soul, as William Ernest Hinley said, and invictious
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  Speaker 1: and understanding. That really change the meaning of my life
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  Speaker 1: in that I was not no longer driven by what
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  Speaker 1: other people wanted me to do, but took charge of
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  Speaker 1: my own destiny, making choices based upon what do I
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  Speaker 1: feel is the next right move for me.
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  Speaker 7: Not only is it possible for you to have your dream,
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  Speaker 7: but it's necessary that your.
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  Speaker 11: Goal for what is yours in the universe.
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  Speaker 12: And once you learn by falling on your face, that's
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  Speaker 12: how you learn.
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  Speaker 9: You learn by trying to create a light bulb over
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  Speaker 9: over over again.
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  Speaker 11: Recognize the excuses are not valid, they're conjured up, they're fabricated,
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  Speaker 11: they're lies.
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  Speaker 4: The moment you start feeling cold, you're feeling begins.
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  Speaker 5: And when you love yourself and you love all of.
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  Speaker 10: Life, you'll create an equal Now you're positive, but.
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  Speaker 4: You can see how much time that is available if
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  Speaker 4: you organize your day so you got the real cord.
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  Speaker 9: There was not one single minute that that wastes.
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  Speaker 11: And this is why I'm standing the other day.
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  Speaker 4: If you don't know exactly what you want, or you
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  Speaker 4: let yourself get beyond that in something general, You're not
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  Speaker 4: gonna achieve it.
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  Speaker 5: So confidence is something I've taught myself over the years.
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  Speaker 4: I started becoming okay with who I am.
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  Speaker 5: I became the best version of me.
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  Speaker 10: I can bring yourself got fool I than pringing your
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  Speaker 10: telt got in the native vote.
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  Speaker 8: I than bring your telt you out, get plucked in
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  Speaker 8: a place and they go back.
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  Speaker 6: How many skills can I acquire that have utility? Put
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  Speaker 6: that utility to the test in service of something greater
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  Speaker 6: than myself. That is, for me, the purpose of life.
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  Speaker 6: Now I don't actually want to know kung fu. That
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  Speaker 6: is not the mission that I'm here to live. But
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  Speaker 6: I knew that I had to identify my mission. So
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  Speaker 6: what was going to be my mission?
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  Speaker 8: Successful people fail a lot, They fail a whole lot
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  Speaker 8: more than they succeed.
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  Speaker 12: You need to learn to think because thinking makes you
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  Speaker 12: act effectively in the world. Thinking makes you win the
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  Speaker 12: battles you undertake, and those could be battles for good things.
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  Speaker 5: Failure isn't permanent, Falling isn't permanent. You get right back
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  Speaker 5: up and keep going. And this time you're going to
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  Speaker 5: be stronger, wiser, and you'll be more driven than ever.
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  Speaker 5: And for every ten failures, you'll land wants success. Now.
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  Speaker 11: Self discipline, as the very term implies, comes from it self.
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  Speaker 11: It comes from you, It comes.
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  Speaker 5: From when you make a decision. And he told me this.
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  Speaker 5: These are the exact words he said. He said this.
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  Speaker 5: Solo living means doing what you love to do. And
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  Speaker 5: if I have to fall here and there to do
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  Speaker 5: what I want to do in life, then so be it.