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Season 2 - Episode 363 - Possibilities and fear · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey, everybody. Good morning from the chicken
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  coop. So today it's my neighbor's
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  rooster going off over there. Today we are talking about
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  possibilities and fear and what happens when you're writing your
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  list of possibilities for next year and all of a sudden fear
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  creeps in or it's never left the room.
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  Let's face it never really leaves the room, but it's there
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  and you're in the face with having to deal with it.
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  So I know one thing that happens for me is when I'm doing this,
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  how always pops up and as you know when I talk about it, how
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  head always wipes us out, it has this way of just swiping us and
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  making us take a step back. But what's interesting is when
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  you know it and you you expect it to be there, you can.
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  You're kind of aware of it. It's kind of like, you know when
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  in that annoying relative is about to come over and you're
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  just like, OK, well put them over there, See them there,
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  don't let them come this way. You know we we have our
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  strategies around it. We have to do that same thing
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  with how. Now let's back up for a second
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  though. Fear doesn't feel like how and
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  it feels different. It just feels like all these
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  things in your head go off like well, what if it's the wrong
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  move? What if I what if I can't make
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  it work? Or what if I get into it and I
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  don't know what to do. And we run this constant list of
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  what ifs, the what ifs, the what ifs.
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  So we're not in a how head necessarily, but we're in the
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  what ifs. So we're in this contemplative
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  state and we are struggling immensely to be able to figure
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  out how to get past that, how to take it to a different space and
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  say, OK, I don't want to be in this headspace.
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  I definitely don't want to stay here.
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  And I have to figure out, you know, why does it keep showing
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  up for me. Well, when you ask a why
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  question, you're just going to find a reason to agree with it.
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  You're just going to be like, well, because I've always had it
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  and therefore it's it's allowed to stay, which is not true.
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  But fear is something that we are hard wired for.
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  So it's very easy to go to it and you have to just accept it.
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  It shows up. Now what do I do when this shows
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  up? Because I have some really big
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  things that I'm putting on my list this year.
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  My ideas. My possibility list is abundant
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  and full and it is. If you look at it and you don't
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  really think much about it, it's scary as hell.
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  When I look at it, I'm just like, oh, wow, OK.
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  But the. But the trick to this and how
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  you get past it in that moment is to just stop.
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  I know I'm going to be afraid when I put this down.
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  And if it has even a twinge of excitement in the back of my
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  mind where I'm like, oh, that would be so amazing, I put it on
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  the list. And then when it's like that,
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  you're sitting there and you're looking at the list and you're
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  saying, OK, you put that down, But that seems ridiculous.
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  You know, judgment is driving in that moment.
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  You feel really strongly. Judgment is driving.
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  You're like, Yup, I I get it. You're judging it.
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  And OK, So what? I'm still putting it on the list
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  because it still has that ping of excitement.
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  There's a spark. There's a there's a clever
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  little hit on it. And that's the part that's so
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  exhilarating. When you can ignore that piece,
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  when you can actually tell yourself, I don't care, I'm
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  still going to do it. I'm still going to put it on the
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  list. Because remember this point of
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  exercise, you're just having fun.
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  And if you're not having fun, then you're way overthinking it.
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  You're supposed to be having fun at this point, what is possible?
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  Not what you think you will get done, not what you think you
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  know how to do any of that. It's like what is possible?
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  So for me, I'll, I'll share one with you, which I am still
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  contemplating all the pieces of this, but I would love to get
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  more acreage. I know that sounds crazy, but I
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  really would love to have more acreage.
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  And I would love to have enough that I could have my daughter
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  have a house on it, my son have a house on it.
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  And then I would have this whole little family compound, if you
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  will, created, this, this little family farm created.
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  And I think that could be a tremendous legacy and a
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  tremendous gift to give to my children.
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  So is it scary to think, oh crap, I'm going to start it all
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  over again? Is it scary to think, well, you
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  know where and how and what? Of course.
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  But I'm not in that phase. I'm just impossibility.
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  So when I start contemplating it, when I start creating it in
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  my imagination, when I start thinking about it, I get the the
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  waves of excitement. And that tells me, wow, that's
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  something that could really compel you, really compel you.
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  And I think it's an important piece of the puzzle.
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  I think it's an important piece of the puzzle to look for those
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  little like, oh, that would be exciting.
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  And put aside the judgment, the fear, the unknown of how put
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  aside all of that and say in spite of the fear, in spite of
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  the of the talk in my head, I'm going to do this anyway.
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  I'm going to put it on this paper.
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  Remember, I'm not, I'm not doing the farm tomorrow, I'm putting
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  it on a piece of paper. I'm actually just putting it on
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  a piece of paper. So allow yourself the freedom to
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  move through the fear and pass the fear and get it all on the
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  paper first. You'll be surprised how
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  relieving, how exhilarating, and just how great it feels overall
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  to say, wow, I actually can look back and say that's pretty,
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  that's pretty cool. So get it done.
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  All right, my friends, I will see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.