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Season 3 - Episode 29 - Giving up · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey, everybody. Good morning from the chicken
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  coop. Let me ask you a question.
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  Why do you think people give up? Or better yet, why do you give
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  up when you're in the middle of something, whether it's a
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  project or an idea or a relationship?
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  Why do you think people give up? What is the main reason that
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  people give up? Well, mostly it's because people
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  have, you know, the tenacity to stick it out has has been
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  drained away. Something has taken away their
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  tenacity to stick it out. Something along the way has
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  kicked in and said, I don't know if I can do this anymore.
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  I just think that I'm at the point of no return and I'm going
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  to walk away. And often we go into things
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  without setting the benchmark of when am I going to throw the
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  towel in. It's not like you start a
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  relationship and say, hey, if this ever happens, I'm going to
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  throw the towel in. Usually it's like when things
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  show up, then we make decisions as we go, but most of the time
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  it's it's it's fly by the seat of our pants and giving up,
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  especially in daily life. Like I I just give up, I'm done
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  with it. I can't do it anymore.
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  Is more about a surrender than a choice.
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  Now I want you to think about that for a second.
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  Because when you just surrender and you're just like you're
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  beaten at that point, as opposed to I choose when you are in the
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  frame of I choose, you have a lot more power, you have a lot
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  more going for you. When you say I choose, I choose
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  to walk away from this. I choose not to engage in this
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  because you're not being victimized by the fact of I have
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  to surrender. I'm, I'm a beaten person and
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  often times that's how it feels when you are in the process of
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  giving up, you just feel like I'm beaten by something.
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  And again that can be relationship driven, that can be
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  project driven, that can be, you know, just about anything that
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  we can talk about. We have points of return where
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  hey, I give up, you know a couple seasons ago I was
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  determined that I was going to be able to grow certain flowers
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  here. And no matter what I did, I
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  couldn't make them grow. And I I planted at different
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  times. I tried different companies from
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  seeds and bulbs and I just could not get these damn things to
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  grow. And I said, you know what, I'm,
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  I'm going to give up on this. I'm going to walk away from
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  this. And that always stuck with me as
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  like, gosh, you don't give up on things.
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  Why are you giving up on this? But the truth is, I wasn't
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  looking at all the parameters when I went into it.
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  I was looking at my desire more than I was looking at what the
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  desire to have that those particular breeds of flowers.
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  But I wasn't looking at their parameters to see where they
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  would thrive. So I screwed up.
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  I didn't look at and say, Oh well, you know what, they're
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  never going to flower over 80°. But where I live there are the
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  growing season is filled with days over 80° and if you can't
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  thrive in bright sun and strong heat, then forget it.
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  It's not going to work. And they couldn't.
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  And I kept trying to force them into something.
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  And they would grow a nice plant, but they would never
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  flower. That is so frustrating for
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  someone who's growing, like, get the plant and sitting right in
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  front of you. It looks beautiful.
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  It should be able to have something.
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  And then all of a sudden, boom, Nope, it doesn't have anything.
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  No flowers, nothing. And you're just devastated by
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  the fact that you don't know what to do.
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  So you keep fertilizing it, You keep trying different things,
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  but nothing seems to work. Well, it's not just about the
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  fact that you're doing all those things.
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  It's looking at it from the other side as well, so giving up
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  was the right maneuver in that case.
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  Now, when I say giving up, this is where it gets tricky.
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  Did I give up growing flowers? No.
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  Did I give up growing the wrong flowers?
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  Yes. I didn't give up growing
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  flowers. I gave up growing the wrong
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  flowers. And that's the point I want to
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  make with you guys today. Understand you don't have to
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  give up in total, but what you need to recognize is that you've
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  got to give up what's not working or not going in the
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  direction that you want to Do you want it to go because you're
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  forcing something that can't happen.
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  You have to look at all the parameters.
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  So round peg, square hole, that kind of thing.
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  It's really discerning, being incredibly discerning about
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  these facts before you go into it.
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  Now, if I had sat down and done the work ahead of time, I would
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  have recognized that that's not the case.
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  Now I did do that work when I picked chickens because I know
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  it's hot, hot, hot here. So I had to look at chickens,
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  breeds that were good in heat, that could withstand heat, that
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  had the ability to be able to cool down.
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  I don't need to worry about them in the cold, cold because we
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  don't have sub zero cold here. But what I do need to worry
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  about is the heat and by making sure I picked them, I've not
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  lost animals through that. I'm not lost chickens to heat.
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  I've not lost them because I was, you know, uninformed about
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  their personalities. We free range.
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  I didn't pick chickens that don't like to free range.
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  I pick chickens that are good free Rangers for the most part,
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  and the ones that are not good free Rangers, I set them up, The
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  coaches, not great free Rangers, but they stick right next to the
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  coop and they're all set up to win.
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  They have everything they need, the protection, the whole thing.
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  So again, it comes down to knowing those parameters and and
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  being aware of them so that you don't cause yourself to quote,
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  UN quote, give up. You put it into a different
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  frame. OK my friends, I hope you have a
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  blessed day and I'll see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.