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[EP6] How Gratitude Can Save You From Pain And Suffering · AWAKEN with Dylan Ayaloo: Inner Work, Healing, Yoga & Meditation

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  What practices and perspectives could help us recognize and honor the subtle layers of our growth, even the ones that are hard to see as we continue to shed past versions of ourselves?
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  I think the first part of it is like, you know, we're all hard on ourselves, right?
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  Like we're all kind of, we're the worst judge on ourselves, like really harsh on ourselves.
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  And we beat ourselves down and we treat ourselves badly and we talk to ourselves horribly.
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  And, you know, most of us don't need help with that.
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  so the first part is actually you know helping rewire that and this is where as kind of um
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  airy-fairy as things like gratitude practices can sound um gratitude practice is really powerful
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  because it switches from let's say complaint in the mind or worry or doubt into what already
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  exists right so your mind says i need proof it's like yeah i have proof right so you start with
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  you want to go into the gratitude practice and like what am I grateful for today and the mind
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  goes nothing I got nothing to be grateful for it's like okay start small then I'm breathing
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  all right that's good so I'm grateful for this breath I'm grateful that I can have this breath
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  the inhale and the exhale that means I'm alive right I'm grateful I've got a body and whatever
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  level of health that I got right now I'm grateful that I've got a roof over my head I've got you
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  my plate so to speak i'm grateful right like and if we want to we can choose to actually shift the
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  focus of the mind on what we already have and to be grateful for it and on an energetic level
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  what you're saying thank you for to the universe the unspoken part the extension of that
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  is thank you universe more please right and the universe goes okay more of that yes sure so you
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  then whatever you are thankful for and grateful for you get more of because there's the unspoken
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  extension to thank you which is more please universe the universe goes oh okay you like that
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  so i'll give you more of that because it doesn't judge right like good or bad it's just that as a
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  human experience we're having this experience where something feels really difficult and hard
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  and horrible and others are like oh this you know this is really good and easy and amazing
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  but you know in the eyes of you could say the universe like all experiences like there is no
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  It is just an experience.
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  This human life is an experience.
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  It's like all of it together.
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  So to begin with, the rewiring of our nervous system, you could say on the level of the
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  brain and the nervous system, the reticular activating system for example, is always looking
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  for what to pay attention.
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  And because there's infinite amount of information coming in, stimulation coming in all the time,
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  we have to kind of tune out of most information and focus on what is important.
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  And if the brain and the nervous system first says,
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  I need to look out for if I'm going to survive this moment,
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  which is what survival is,
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  then it is going to look for things like,
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  okay, what is the threat here in this moment?
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  Or what are the threats?
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  And if you're looking for threats, then you will find threats.
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  If you're looking for what's good in your life,
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  then you will find what's good in your life.
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  amazing in your life, you will find more of what's amazing in your life.
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  And so that simple practice of first acknowledging and giving thanks.
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  So, you know, if you want to add to gratitude, which is acknowledgement, right?
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  Acknowledging your small to big wins, which is the opposite of sitting there and the mind
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  complaining or worrying or beating yourself down
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  or putting yourself down basically, giving yourself a hard
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  time, winding yourself up in the head.
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  It rewires, it gets you out of that instantaneously.
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  And gratitude as well. So straight away it starts to bring you out of that
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  and the myelin sheath, the connections, the synaptic
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  connections that we are training and strengthening
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  right those connections fire up quickly the ones that we have practiced fire up quickly
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  so if you've practiced worrying a lot then that thought that you know we worry about all the time
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  that we have all the time is the one that happens very quickly because we've practiced it but you
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  can actually stop practicing that and start to shift your focus onto something different so if
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  you start to give thanks and look for what's good in your life rather than what's all the things
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  that's bad and horrible, right?
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  Which you could say a lot of victim mindset
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  people tend to have.
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  It's like, oh my God, everything's woe is me
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  and life is horrible and everyone's against me.
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  Life is against me.
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  The government's against me.
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  You know, everyone, right?
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  And therefore you will find more of that, right?
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  Those people are always sitting and complain,
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  witching, whining, moaning.
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  Oh my God, everything's horrible.
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  And it's like, yeah, maybe there are things
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  that are really difficult.
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  But, you know, if you have problems in your life,
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  you know just to let you know in case you have problems in your life welcome you're alive that
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  means you're alive if you have problems well done stage one tick done you're alive if you don't have
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  problems then enjoy it be grateful but the chances are every solution every problem you have have and
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  you bring a solution to brings you to the next level of problem it's called evolution it's called
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  life and life is filled with that but it's not only that right life is filled with all of it
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  together the good the bad the easy the difficult the horrible the everything together right you
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  can have your worst day and you can have your best moment in the same day right your most
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  connecting moment in the same day as your worst day right where you get some horrible news maybe
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  so being able to actually move through and acknowledge
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  and training your brain to focus
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  because we still have this ancient brain and nervous system
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  that is trying to protect us
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  and in a time where we have created our human life today
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  the modern human life today is unrecognizable
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  to our ancestors
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  but our nervous system still lives in the time of our ancestors still looking for survival and
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  we've created so many things for our brain to actually go oh my goodness that's that that that
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  right there's so much stimulation we're constantly living in fight and flight and not rest and digest
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  so you know we're heightened we're hyper alert right we're worried we're freaked out we're
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  panicked we know our mind winds things up even more so the first thing is to actually calm it
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  And one of the ways to do that is gratitude and acknowledging little to big wins.
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  The more you can do that, it's not ignoring the things that are not working or the problems,
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  but it actually allows you to enter into a more resourceful place within yourself
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  so that the problems when you enter into dealing with the problem, solving them, taking steps,
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  which, by the way, the problems won't go away unless you deal with them.
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  that again is life, this human life and how it works.
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  When you enter into solving the problems, you'll be in a much more resourceful place.
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  And then your question, Viviana, is a bigger question than that.
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  So there's other parts to it, I'm guessing, from what I can understand.
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  Like, you know, around our growth and how do we shed past versions of ourselves?
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  How do we basically, I guess, you know, I'm paraphrasing here.
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  You can say it in the chat if it's not what you're asking.
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  like basically how can I
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  how can I help myself grow
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  right and evolve more like what is it
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  how do I see things
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  and that comes from actually paying attention
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  sometimes
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  life will give you feedback in kind of intense ways
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  right so a lot of times our relationships
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  around us
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  the near to far the close to the less closer
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  ones a lot of times
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  even you don't have to look far the close ones
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  the ones we spend more time with
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  there's feedback there's things that are coming up
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  all the time and
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  are working some things are not working so it's like okay you know stuff for us to look at and
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  this is where training awareness within ourselves um can help and then being willing to look at it
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  and um i'm biased but i'd say you know that's where doing this kind of work is really powerful
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  and most of you know because you are you know in in this body of work um where things like our
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  inner circle check-in sessions where you, you know, you have someone to actually facilitate
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  your process, help you guide through because there are, you know, in the work that we need
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  to do most of the time, there are lots of blind spots.
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  You know, there's things that's very obvious for people outside of us, right?
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  Other people that we're dealing with or having to deal with us, but we can't see it ourselves,
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  right?
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  Because they're on the receiving end of it.
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  so also having you know open communication with the people around us can help but a lot of times
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  you don't want to get into some kind of um therapy type situation with your family members or friends
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  or partner um you know most of the time just observing like you will have things just
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  you know you'll come up against things you'll hit up against the wall so to speak
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  and you know there's two parts you know there's two sides right in any kind of dynamic
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  if you're open to working on it that's where I think bringing into this kind of an environment
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  where we you know I'm facilitating the process and helping guide people and help you seeing the
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  blind spots but not only see it but help you guide through and shift and heal so you know a little bit
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  biased kind of answer perhaps but I'd say this is where inner work is really powerful or having
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  someone kind of support you and facilitate your process you know and community can really help as
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  people that we surround ourselves with that you know because they will also be at the receiving
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  end of our communication and of our way of being and this is where I think our community is amazing
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  because you know there's loving supportive people around us that just have our backs and
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  love you and will call you out in a loving kind way and see your greatness even when you give up
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  self you know so that can really help as well but as far as practices go you can address it on the
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  level of the body because the body is always speaking in sensations and it's always giving
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  feedback it'll come up against things in life and whether you know in any area of our lives you know
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  whether you're running a business you will see because your way of being in the business it's
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  going to show your way of being in relationships right all the different kind of relationships
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  will show um there's feedback everywhere all around us and within us and it calls for us to
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  start to pay attention so some of it you know you will have an awareness of and some of it you might
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  not have have an awareness of and i think that's where the bits that we can't see because it's our
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  own blind spots that's where being in an environment like this can really help you know and support and
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  this kind of work
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  look.